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 aussieblues
Joined: 11/22/2011
Msg: 57 (view)
 
met someone on here with hiv
Posted: 4/2/2013 7:30:22 PM
If you have had sex with this person, please get to a doctor PRONTO!
When you leave the doctors office, report him to the Police.
I seriously hope that "YOU" are okay and your health status has not been affected by this man's criminal and unethical behaviour.
This man has admitted to criminally and wilfully negligent behaviours. PLEASE save other women from the potentially life-threatening consequences of his behaviours.
 aussieblues
Joined: 11/22/2011
Msg: 22 (view)
 
CRADLE SNATCHING
Posted: 4/2/2013 7:19:34 PM
I'm 45 & he's 36. We met through mutual friends some 3 years ago. We established a supportive, caring, friendship; unbeknown to out mutual friendship group.
A few months ago, we together chose to act on the "ZING" factor we've each felt for each other, all this time. We're happily plodding along, enjoying getting to spend time together as a romantic pair of consenting adults now.
Our friends discovered that our relationship had changed, whilst we all spent time together at Easter. We're each very entertained by our 'friends' reactions to our choice. Gossip and unsolicited advice abounds.
We're each responding with "How you feel about my life's choices is not my business; unless I ask you otherwise."
Our friends now feel constrained. I hope they get over themselves ;-)
My life, my choices!
 aussieblues
Joined: 11/22/2011
Msg: 12 (view)
 
How are you dealing with young adults living at home?
Posted: 4/2/2013 6:08:01 PM
My 22 year old has returned home a couple of times, for short periods. The rules were simple...this is a co-operative living situation where all people are required to equal and fair input;eg chores, rent, food. In our situation, he was raised to do his own washing, participate in meal prep and contribute financially when employed.
He never stayed long as he actually prefers to live independently.
Would you put up with being a doormat if you were renting your room to a non-relative? Impose the same rules on him as you would with someone who is just renting a room from you.
Good luck!
 aussieblues
Joined: 11/22/2011
Msg: 26 (view)
 
The 'talks'
Posted: 3/24/2013 4:11:26 PM
@Jackals38..says it all and gave me the giggles ;-)
 aussieblues
Joined: 11/22/2011
Msg: 63 (view)
 
Disability and disclosure of such, for dating purposes.
Posted: 3/24/2013 4:05:49 PM
Try taking 'aussieblues' out of the question..Please for a moment consider that you have a child with disabilities. Your child should be considered as a 'person'.
One who perhaps has different physical capacities; yet the same capabilities and range of human emotion and feelings as any 'person.' Personally I would do as my parents did; encourage me to be a 'person' and not be defined by the limiting criteria of that which some people in society would describe as a 'disabled person.'
My question is clearly confrontational to some, judging by some replies. It isn't my intent to anger people; simply to perhaps suggest that people look at things from another perspective. Encourage empathy, not sympathy.
I'm surprised at the replies which suggest that people with disabilities, are defective in some way and should come with a 'warning'. (back to having children with disabilities; would you encourage them to feel and believe they are defective?)
Angry responses regarding my character are equally as surprising. I don't conform to some people's norms physically, nor does my opinion of myself conform. [ by holding onto your belief, you are only hurting yourself] My beliefs are not hurting me at all. They're my personal values and keep me strong.
All people require affirmation. From within and externally.
We are none of us right or wrong, on this topic. We simply have differences of opinion.
 aussieblues
Joined: 11/22/2011
Msg: 19 (view)
 
Do you find many over 45 people drink too much?
Posted: 3/24/2013 3:06:16 PM
@ phoenix_55.....Heavens to Betsy Murgatroid! You have just called a stranger an alcoholic, because she states she is able to consume large quantities of alcohol and sometimes chooses to do so. The poster also says she also chooses to abstain when she likes.
You're happy with the way you live your life, good on you. How's the view from that pedestal? Thankfully, people are all different ;-) Blessedly unique...
It's my experience that as my friends and myself age, our drinking has become more moderate, due to obligations to keep a driving licence, maintain a clear head for good relationships and ability to maintain employment, raise kids by example...Just a few idea's ;-)
 aussieblues
Joined: 11/22/2011
Msg: 28 (view)
 
WTH happened ( a hit and run!)
Posted: 3/24/2013 2:56:47 PM
I agree with 'flaneur001'. Where is your personal insight? If a man freaked out on me, (the whole 'deleting' nonsense after a few rolls in the hay) as you did to this guy; I'd be like.."Thank heavens he showed himself as a nutter sooner rather than later."
Stop projecting and look within..."before someone gets hurt", to me, in this circumstance is code for.."before I dump your crazy, presumptive, unrealistic ass."
 aussieblues
Joined: 11/22/2011
Msg: 3 (view)
 
single parents thoughts and affirmative action
Posted: 3/24/2013 2:31:07 PM
Affirmative action, to me, is another way to describe reverse discrimination. Hidden in positive sounding language..it still is biased.
 aussieblues
Joined: 11/22/2011
Msg: 10 (view)
 
Interview questions
Posted: 3/24/2013 2:27:20 PM
Communicate with your body language. Ensure that your feet are facing the interviewer and your palms are facing upwards. Lean slightly forward to show that you're engaged in the conversation.
I find that when i'm hiring, these cues tell me much about a persons level of interest.
Further, ask some questions yourself. Research the company and ask relevant questions.
Good luck..let us know how it goes ;-)
 aussieblues
Joined: 11/22/2011
Msg: 12 (view)
 
Hunting pics
Posted: 3/24/2013 2:22:39 PM
Try posting this in 'ask a guy'..Personally, profiles which have pics of kids is more of a turn off to me...
 aussieblues
Joined: 11/22/2011
Msg: 12 (view)
 
Is my profile alright, or do I come across as a freak?
Posted: 3/24/2013 1:50:04 PM
[Please feel free to look at my profile and let me know what you feel.]
You are asking for a profile review, or at the very least, attention...
Once I saw a picture of your child, I didn't bother to read anything about you. I wouldn't even contact one who posts pics of kids. It's exploitive, in my opinion.
 aussieblues
Joined: 11/22/2011
Msg: 4 (view)
 
Being straight forward?
Posted: 3/24/2013 1:41:36 PM
It's subjective. You don't share an example. But if it's working; more power to you...
 aussieblues
Joined: 11/22/2011
Msg: 62 (view)
 
Disability and disclosure of such, for dating purposes.
Posted: 3/23/2013 5:55:39 PM
@ TeaInTheSaharaWithYou
"Do people honestly believe that people with different bodies should disclose such, before a POF meet?"
This isn't an a question requesting advice. It was asking for opinions.
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"Anyway, even though you are rude as f**k, I'm still going to try to help you"
I don't see that i've asked for your advice. Still waiting for the helpful bit..I got caught up in the name calling ;-)
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"And the worst part is, by holding onto your belief that you do not have to disclose this, you are only hurting yourself. You could just save some time, and go for people who would go for you!

Let me summarize: If I were in your position, I would want to go on dates with people that would want to date me. I have no idea why you are stubbornly taking a path that leads to going on dates with people who would find something about you to be a deal breaker."
I do just fine on the dating front. Thanks ;-)
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Conversely, I've never actually been confronted with 'rejection' due to disability.
It really is just a 'pot-boiler' topic to which I can personally relate. Sorry for you, that you let a complete stranger get under your skin enough to be so blindingly offensive. Lucky the old 'sticks and stones' actually is relevant and offence is so subjective anyhow.
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It is interesting what posters have pre-supposed about me.
Take care of yourselves peeps ;-) Happy Fishing
 aussieblues
Joined: 11/22/2011
Msg: 19 (view)
 
How much contact is too needy
Posted: 3/23/2013 5:15:22 PM
Do what everyone is suggesting. Ask the woman concerned if she's happy with the status quo.
 aussieblues
Joined: 11/22/2011
Msg: 18 (view)
 
So why is she staying quiet and taking a rather long time to reply?
Posted: 3/19/2013 7:15:09 PM
Please tell me you didn't txt her asking for a date? Cell phones have a call function. I suggest that you use it.
 aussieblues
Joined: 11/22/2011
Msg: 26 (view)
 
Does He like me?
Posted: 3/9/2013 4:36:56 PM
He said, he did....WTF do you really think of this tosser? Surely you can do better?
 aussieblues
Joined: 11/22/2011
Msg: 19 (view)
 
Approaching with caution
Posted: 3/9/2013 4:25:33 PM
You're calling it quits. You've never even called her. What 'fantasy have you built in your head that this woman is so important to you..Pick up the phone...wuss..
 aussieblues
Joined: 11/22/2011
Msg: 4 (view)
 
How to keep the conversation going
Posted: 3/9/2013 4:20:23 PM
http://reports.toastmasters.org/findaclub/searchresults.cfm?district=63
 aussieblues
Joined: 11/22/2011
Msg: 27 (view)
 
A Surprise Wedding?
Posted: 3/8/2013 3:22:55 PM
I attended an engagement party once. The couple decided to suprise their guests by marrying each other as a surprise.
What has been proposed in 'your' couples lives is going to be interesting. I'd attend. The outcome may be terrific and you may miss it.
 aussieblues
Joined: 11/22/2011
Msg: 53 (view)
 
Disability and disclosure of such, for dating purposes.
Posted: 3/8/2013 3:09:46 PM
@nubeginnings64
"I don't have that self belief. I state that I'm 'digitally under-enhanced', when asked about those physical features.
My pics don't hide these physical features. My access to life and all it has to offer isn't restricted: if it were, I'm certain I'd find a way around it."
You're entitled to your opinion Sir. I wish you'd re-read what I stated about my self belief.
I'm uncomfortable with others posts; in regards to their feelings of entitlement.
I began this thread to gauge 'other people's' views. I have them now, for better or worse. No-one can shake my 'self belief.'
For heavens sake I sing for a living..If someone is uncomfortable in a body such as mine, I don't believe they could do that which I can.
I pose you this question..If you were in a 'special needs seat' on public transport and didn't have a 'need' for it and I requested you relinquish the seat to me; would you question me as to why I require the seat, in a public space? (I actually sat on a chaps lap to quietly explain how awful his demands for an explaination were. Some disabilities are invisable;ie, spinal injuries, epilepsy, heart conditions.
Others people's attitudes are very callous and demeaning at times.
I used correct medical terminology by way of explanation and I used alternate words, which represent my own attitude.
I shall ask the forums what I please, but thanks for your particular brand of assistance..(bias)
 aussieblues
Joined: 11/22/2011
Msg: 3 (view)
 
A quick glance and second opinion?
Posted: 3/8/2013 2:43:40 PM
You seem to spend a lot of time in pursuit of solo interests. Your profile gives off the idea that a potential mate will spend lots of time 'gaming and watching comics on tv. Your pics are ok.
Perhaps write a little about how a woman would compliment your life.
 aussieblues
Joined: 11/22/2011
Msg: 3 (view)
 
Nobody seems to want to care much?!?!
Posted: 3/8/2013 2:38:27 PM
Keep on trying..You've got a decent, realistic attitude and someone is going to find spending time with you amazing ;-)
 aussieblues
Joined: 11/22/2011
Msg: 49 (view)
 
Disability and disclosure of such, for dating purposes.
Posted: 3/7/2013 9:57:59 PM
You think you've helped me understand it after 45 years? By insinuating that i'm obliged to strangers. My moral obligations are stated in the ten Commandments.
You're insinuating that being in a different body is a moral issue. You speak for which 90% of which population? How the heck can you seriously support that argument?
Interesting way to get you bigotry across.
I'm in control on dating issues. This has rarely been an issue for anyone in my past. It was a general question, to discover others opinions. Yours just made it into my latest Uni Essay. Thanks for the contribution.
Stay healthy and well or you may be morally obliged to explain to somebody able bodied why you're asking for the special needs chair.
 aussieblues
Joined: 11/22/2011
Msg: 53 (view)
 
PTSD
Posted: 3/7/2013 9:44:38 PM
I'm 18 months into the trauma which lead to a diagnosis of P.T.S.D. Im staying single for a while longer. The nightmares are horrific. The crying jags which come at will and the anxiety disorder which accompanies it-sux the biggun..staying single for a while yet. Concentrating on family and study.
This guy is too 'needy' for a young woman such as you. Find someone with less baggage.
 aussieblues
Joined: 11/22/2011
Msg: 18 (view)
 
Reply to every message
Posted: 3/7/2013 9:36:38 PM
I do try answer all messages..."sorry my reply was so late but..no thanks or tell me more?"
 aussieblues
Joined: 11/22/2011
Msg: 13 (view)
 
How do I let a messager down?
Posted: 3/7/2013 9:33:28 PM
Thanks for the e-mail. It's a thanks but no thanks. Take Care & happy fishing...That's my exit...
 aussieblues
Joined: 11/22/2011
Msg: 14 (view)
 
Do you ever mistake behavior?
Posted: 3/6/2013 8:59:41 PM
Methinks the OP has multiple profiles...He seems to use the same writing style and errors of punctuation as another on these forums; who is a "flaming pest"... It's like he's arguing with himself... Weird..but its just a creepy feeling I get....
 aussieblues
Joined: 11/22/2011
Msg: 22 (view)
 
Race preference...
Posted: 3/6/2013 8:55:09 PM
Have you actually read "everyone's" profiles?
 aussieblues
Joined: 11/22/2011
Msg: 106 (view)
 
don't blame the guy who makes this a numbers game
Posted: 3/6/2013 8:47:13 PM
I am not of the opinion that I owe a complete stranger any kind of response on a dating site.
I will simply not reply to those whom I have no interest in, if it's a crap message. If it's not crap I will reply with a thanks but no thanks, happy fishing reply. Since 'crap' is subjective, I guess it's my business and you can infer whatever you like from it. But it's just an inference and it has sweet F.A to do with science.
You are not a mind reader. You are making sweeping generalisations about strangers. You are "Flaming", and it's annoying. You're arguing about that which is unquantifiable and not doing a good job at it.
Further, I am busy. I am actively engaged with my life; which includes family, employment, singing at nights and attaining a Uni degree. If I choose to reply to somebody, it is often prefaced with the above; I am a busy woman.
Your post has alerted all it's women readers and responder's with a warning of who to avoid. You. A self-pitying troll who likes to incite and flame.
Get a life and step away from the computer
 aussieblues
Joined: 11/22/2011
Msg: 14 (view)
 
Why would you say something like this & not do it?
Posted: 2/28/2013 2:57:56 PM
@ grantfl80..Wow...a reply I can agree with..
 aussieblues
Joined: 11/22/2011
Msg: 10 (view)
 
Revenge Porn! Your thoughts?
Posted: 2/28/2013 2:53:45 PM
Igor's parable linking the rape victim, rings true to me.
Anyone who would seek revenge on another to the extent of breaking the law, really needs some help with their 'self-control' issues.
What happened to the days when people just trash-talked their ex's, in the vain hope of swaying others opinions?
 aussieblues
Joined: 11/22/2011
Msg: 69 (view)
 
Why do women think sarcasm is a desirable trait?
Posted: 2/28/2013 2:32:25 PM
Sarcasm=the use of irony to mock or convey contempt:
(http://oxforddictionaries.com/definition/english/sarcasm)
Irony =the expression of one’s meaning by using language that normally signifies the opposite, typically for humorous or emphatic effect:
(http://oxforddictionaries.com/definition/english/irony?q=irony)

I feel that people sometimes fail to realise that humour is subjective. One persons sarcasm may be interpreted as hurtful by some and elicit great belly laughs from another.
 aussieblues
Joined: 11/22/2011
Msg: 36 (view)
 
Disability and disclosure of such, for dating purposes.
Posted: 2/28/2013 2:08:37 PM
@ThereIsSomethingAboutDebiBut.. [I would forgive someone who showed up on a first meet with a disability. I mean.. a meet is just a meet.. its not like a date.. or a lifetime of expectations...]
Exactly my point ;-)
It must be really hard to become your partners carer. Good luck in your searching..
 aussieblues
Joined: 11/22/2011
Msg: 12 (view)
 
How many replies you ladies dealing with?
Posted: 2/26/2013 11:30:52 PM
@brinaalina..I like the way you think. You do have both as an option, the site simply doesn't have the functionality to cater to people like us...Yet ;-)
 aussieblues
Joined: 11/22/2011
Msg: 31 (view)
 
Disability and disclosure of such, for dating purposes.
Posted: 2/26/2013 11:26:25 PM
Thanks for your reply. It's great to know that not all people think the same. We share a commonality of experience, but different opinions on my topic.
I have a joke for you..Wouldn't you like to sue Second Hand Shops for false advertising..lols...
At the end of the day, if someone isn't attracted to me due to my differences, I don't want to know them anyway. I do not believe people are 'entitled' to an explanation. It's an irrelevance to me and I seek same in others. I'd still prefer my way. It may be passive confrontational and make someone else feel uncomfortable; but I wasn't put on this earth to make others feel ok about my differences..My life is to be lived to the fullest and to do my best to build my on potential. They're missing out on getting to know me ;-)
 aussieblues
Joined: 11/22/2011
Msg: 40 (view)
 
Lower Back Pain Lumbar Epidural.
Posted: 2/26/2013 11:12:09 PM
In a motorbike stack I broke my spine..Had a spinal fusion at L4,L5,S1 after trying the epidurals which had no effect for me.My surgery was a complete success. I have some residual nerve damage which causes pain if I wear heels, climb stairs or hills. But as a woman who has one arm longer than the other it beats the hell out of turning circles in a wheelchair.
The core muscle strengthening exercises are really very important. Your body will strengthen and protect the region which gives you pain. The rest of your body will adjust in sympatico.
Good luck with it.
 aussieblues
Joined: 11/22/2011
Msg: 33 (view)
 
ultimate dinner party guests
Posted: 2/26/2013 11:05:53 PM
@import_from_uk..thanks for todays biggest giggles ;-)
 aussieblues
Joined: 11/22/2011
Msg: 36 (view)
 
What is it about a woman?!
Posted: 2/26/2013 11:03:02 PM
Being a person with integrity and personal dignity is really attractive to me; regardless of phsical features.
 aussieblues
Joined: 11/22/2011
Msg: 15 (view)
 
the shirtless picture, what is the deal?
Posted: 2/26/2013 10:39:54 PM
Calling people 'spastic' and attacking them is ill advised and extremely unbecoming.
 aussieblues
Joined: 11/22/2011
Msg: 72 (view)
 
Why is it so wrong to not want to date a person with kids in your 30's?
Posted: 2/26/2013 10:31:43 PM
Are you the same person who posted about 'sluts and numbers'? You really want it all don't you?
I don't date single Dad's out of respect for the kids. I have nothing to offer the children.
Neither have I bought a relationship into my childrens lives. That's just how I roll. It's not for others to judge. It's the way I am.
 aussieblues
Joined: 11/22/2011
Msg: 21 (view)
 
Wearing Panties For Sex
Posted: 2/26/2013 10:23:25 PM
One word..Chaffing...
My labia does not want a sore rash, which will impede me having sex comfortably.
 aussieblues
Joined: 11/22/2011
Msg: 16 (view)
 
The dinner/flower/gift cop out
Posted: 2/26/2013 10:17:41 PM
Another great reply from "daynadaze".
 aussieblues
Joined: 11/22/2011
Msg: 9 (view)
 
I miss him so much it hurts.....
Posted: 2/26/2013 10:15:45 PM
You're idealizing someone who no longer exists. My ex partner was killed last year and I was crushed for some time...until I realised my 1st sentence here.
I have no advice, just best wishes...
 aussieblues
Joined: 11/22/2011
Msg: 9 (view)
 
What's up with girls who can't share the spotlight? Low self esteem?
Posted: 2/26/2013 9:58:12 PM
I'll share the spotlight as long as the bugger can play his instrument properly.
Jealousy is boring and not worth the self doubt.
I deal with it by avoidance.
"They are really limiting themselves on meeting some awesome people because of their low self esteem!"
You can't back up your conclusion.
Perhaps you simply haven't rung any bells, or at the very least, any bells.
How is your self-esteem, as you point the finger, do you feel superior?
 aussieblues
Joined: 11/22/2011
Msg: 26 (view)
 
Why would a man juggle 2 girls at the same time?
Posted: 2/26/2013 9:15:47 PM
He's juggling?Are you both in a circus?
Sorry if you were hurt by him.
 aussieblues
Joined: 11/22/2011
Msg: 20 (view)
 
Do numbers matter?
Posted: 2/26/2013 9:11:14 PM
I triple dare you to post this in ask a girl.
[a woman that is on this site for months and years is not here because she is selective she is here because she is intolerable to be around.]
Either that or there are a plethora of people just like you we have to avoid.
You have some very odd feelings about women.
Ever hear the saying "why buy a cow when you can have the milk for free'? Here's an update for you. Nowdays many women are against marriage. Why? Because women realise it's not worth buying the entire pig, just to get a little sausage.
Just saying...oink!
 aussieblues
Joined: 11/22/2011
Msg: 18 (view)
 
Talk and talk then nothing
Posted: 2/26/2013 9:01:50 PM
Are you for real? A total stranger ceases a pen-pal relationship and this means that they're a Bad Person...You don't know them, yet you judge them.
Post us a topic when you've actually had a date!
 aussieblues
Joined: 11/22/2011
Msg: 10 (view)
 
Why do women feel the need to list on their profile that their children come first?
Posted: 2/26/2013 8:57:00 PM
I have seen many people putting with nonsense from their partners, to the detriment of their children. Perhaps the people who post that message are reminding themselves not to make the same mistake. Further that the inference may be that if you are a demanding whiny person, I already have kids, so bugger off.
Personally, I believe that mentioning children on dating websites makes it easier for rock-spiders to find kids.
 aussieblues
Joined: 11/22/2011
Msg: 9 (view)
 
How long should I wait to propose?
Posted: 2/18/2013 7:39:40 PM
http://seeingredinchina.com/2011/03/31/guest-post-i-hate-the-chinese-ideas-about-marriage/
 aussieblues
Joined: 11/22/2011
Msg: 17 (view)
 
ultimate dinner party guests
Posted: 2/17/2013 4:52:31 PM
I'd invite Gordon Ramsey to cook and my family and friends to dine.
Keep the **** in the kitchen where he belongs.
 
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