I think a good woman lover is the same as a good man lover. She is really attracted to the man, is as reciprocating and as aggressive as him. They are both so into it that it becomes so natural that they don`t even have to think about "working" at it. She is willing to take a lot of different positions, try different things, communicate with her man, and ask him what he likes,tells him what she would like, or just innately knows from his response, if she is turning him on or not. She also needs to let him know how much she enjoys him, is able to let go and really really enjoy--------multiple orgasms, is able to get him to multiple orgasm, knows when he has had enough, lets him rest up a bit then on to round two. A good lover is going to leave a smile on her man`s face, he`s going to know she is satisfied with him, and all he is going to do all day at work is think about how she rocked his world and can`t wait until the next time. She isn`t going to talk his ear off, lets him go to sleep afterward without whining about it, isn`t emotionally needy, and understands that the sex itself will draw out the emotion from the man, without having to be validated and told all of the time.