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curlyboop

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please share your blueberry recipes! Posted: 7/11/2009 4:32:38 AM
The blueberries are awesome this season. All that rain paid off. Thanks for the recipes.

curlyboop

Joined: 2/11/2007

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Don't Come Here Cos People Know Me?????????? Posted: 7/11/2009 4:30:44 AM
I had a guy tell me that he didn't want to go out in public because wherever he goes he causes a scene and people always stare at him. No, his name wasn't Brad Pitt.

curlyboop

Joined: 2/11/2007

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The same excuse time and time again Posted: 7/11/2009 4:25:39 AM
It's happened to everyone. For some reason, I get the "last minute business trip" excuse a lot. The good thing is, now that I've figured out the drill, I don't wonder when I will hear from them again b/c I know I won't. You can't put too much stock in things like this. People get nervous or maybe they were seeing other people and one got serious. It is ok!

curlyboop

Joined: 2/11/2007

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Ever have a good date....To never hear from them again....? Posted: 5/30/2009 6:46:18 AM
I don't put much stock in the first meet and greet cos I know it can be awkward to end things without saying you want to see the other person again. But if you've been out a few times and especially if you've been intimate, you should be a decent human being and tell the other person you don't want to see them anymore. I don't know why it is so hard to do - if you are so chicken, send an email or leave a voice mail. But seriously, I feel to see how a guy can be scared of little old me. What really baffles me is when the vanishing wonder doesn't respond to emails asking what the hell happened. It may not seem a big deal to them but sometimes people need closure. Is it really too much to ask for people to be civil to one another?

curlyboop

Joined: 2/11/2007

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Just plain UGLY Posted: 3/23/2009 2:51:16 AM
I got a response like that too - some guy told me I had scary eyes. But you know, you have to be grateful that she revealed herself as an ass right off the bat and you dodged that bullet. Feel sorry for the guy who winds up with her.

curlyboop

Joined: 2/11/2007

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Is it ok to hate muslims when it comes to dating? Posted: 3/19/2009 5:37:13 AM
I've dated two Muslim men. One was an Alabanian Muslim and the second was from Turkey. The first I met in real life. I was young and had gone to a Catholic college so all I really knew about people who practiced Islam was what I read about - and honestly it was all negative. At this point in my life, I didn't even know Allah was the Arabic word for God! Anyway, this gentleman and I had a wonderful, romantic, fulfilling relationship and because of him, I was opened up to a whole new world. Alas, the timing was off for us and it didn't work out but I am eternatlly grateful for meeting him and for all that I learned. I met the Turkish gentleman on here and we had a short-lived relationship. What I did find interesting is he described himself as non-religious in his profile when in fact, he was pretty devout. It's sad that people feel the need to hide who they truly are. It wouldn't have made a difference to me but obviously it would have to others. I believe many problems in the world could be solved if we broke down the barriers and got to know people who are "different" than we are. People are afraid of what they do not understand.

curlyboop

Joined: 2/11/2007

Msg: 72 (view)

What is the definition of a 'cougar'? Posted: 3/13/2009 2:59:41 AM
I've dated guys who were 10 years or so younger before it became trendy. To me, their age didn't mean anything - we had a lot in common and an attraction existed. What we are talking about here are women who go after men just because they are younger and they want to show off their boy toy. It is a power trip.

curlyboop

Joined: 2/11/2007

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Insecurities during and after Sex -is this typical or am I extreme? Posted: 3/12/2009 2:56:06 AM
People have to realize clothes aren't armor. A person can get a general idea of your body before you take your clothes off. So if a guy wants to have sex with me, I natural assume he is attracted to me and isn't going to scream at the site of me naked. I love to let a guy look at my body and appreciate it (and vice versa). This may sound silly but you know what realy helps? Walking around naked. When you get home from work, take off your clothes and prance around. You need to start feeling comfortable with your body and all it can do. ETA: I dated a male underwear model years ago and before me he dated models, dancers etc. I was the first one he dated with a "boring" job. I was insecure about it, any more than he was insecure b/c the guys I dated before him all had college degrees. There is so much more to attraction than that!

curlyboop

Joined: 2/11/2007

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Jack Hammer Sex and checking the merchandise out Posted: 3/10/2009 3:39:28 PM
My dear lady, enjoyable sex is all about what happens between your ears not between your legs. If you were as sexual as you say you are, you'd know that. As for the jackhammer, he can throw it into the mix but it can be the only move he has.

curlyboop

Joined: 2/11/2007

Msg: 301 (view)

Do you wish the worst for your ex? Posted: 3/10/2009 10:34:30 AM
If someone makes you that angry, then you really haven't gotten over him/her and obviously still have feelings of love. So sure, if somone broke my heart and I have all these feelings with no place to go, I might wish that a part of him gets caught in a meatgrinder. But in time that changes to indifference and that is a sign that I've truly moved on.

curlyboop

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Dropped like a hot potato Posted: 3/10/2009 2:54:39 AM
I can't tell tell you how many dates I set up only to have the guy have suddenly go on a business trip or get stuck with a bout of the flu. I know I will never hear from him agan and I never do. Maybe they got cold feet ... who knows?

curlyboop

Joined: 2/11/2007

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Have you been CONTACTED by the SPOUSE of someone you've 'met'? Posted: 3/10/2009 2:51:26 AM
Me too! The wife in question went on to tell me the guy I was chatting with was 65 not 45, had posted a fake picture and was a grandfather. The weird thing is, the kept emailing me after I told her I was done with him and even sent me a link to her profile. I think something was up with them. I also was contacted by the girlfriend of a guy I was chatting with. I felt really sorry for her and told her she could do much better than him. I hope she followed my advice!

curlyboop

Joined: 2/11/2007

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Slept with 83 people Posted: 3/7/2009 2:41:31 AM
I haven't met 20 people I wanted to sleep with, never mind 83 so I can't really relate. But to me it all comes down to how you view sex. I need to have some degree of emotional attachment before I have sex with someone - I do not take lightly the idea of letting someone into my body. Not everyone feels that way. One way isn't better than the other, you just have to know yourself. I'd be concerned if someone had a lot of sex partners because they had low self esteem and needed to have their ego boosted. But you can't assume it is that way with this woman.

curlyboop

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If you can't afford STD tests and your parner wants it? Posted: 3/6/2009 3:33:19 PM
Planned Parenthood charges on a sliding scale. GMHC also does AIDS testing.

curlyboop

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do any girls actually want nice guys? Posted: 3/6/2009 11:54:45 AM
Why does a "nice" guy assume that just because a woman doesn't want HIM that she doesn't want a nice guy? How do you know she went on to date after you? Are you just assuming it is a bad boy? I consider myself a good woman and I've been left by guys. They may have left me for a **** on wheels but how would I know? And if they did, well, that is their hell to live in. Be confident in yourself and what you have to offer.

curlyboop

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Girlfriend ended the relationship with a TXT message. How low Posted: 3/6/2009 11:47:16 AM
I LOVE this: did she get the best of you, really? LMAO...not hardly, you GOT THE BEST OF HER! Sadly her worth was only worth 8 months before she ventured back into her immature ways! Words to live by and remember! I always used to wonder why certain people were sent into my life, only to leave me hurt and confused. Then one day I realized maybe I was sent to them but they couldn't appreciate what I had to offer them.

curlyboop

Joined: 2/11/2007

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The Type We Attract (not who we're attracted to) Posted: 3/6/2009 10:09:21 AM
Mine have a pattern, absolutely. I attract very sexual Non-American younger men (American men are rarely interested in me). It's always the same: I'm hesitant and guarded at first and they come on with both guns blazing. As soon as my walls come down, theirs go up - they always see me as a challenge or something to be conquered. I guess you can say I attract emotional unavailable men who play a good game.

curlyboop

Joined: 2/11/2007

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What's Your Greatest Dating Strength(s) Posted: 3/5/2009 7:13:21 AM
I found new strenghts! I am very calm and I make the guy feel appreciated.

curlyboop

Joined: 2/11/2007

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Treat them mean,keep them keen or be a gentleman?? Posted: 3/5/2009 5:11:52 AM
comanche1969: YEA! Nice does not equal gentleman. Women, if you have ever dated a man who was a gentleman and treated you like a lady, you will never expect or tolerate anything less.

curlyboop

Joined: 2/11/2007

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What do you bring to the table!! Posted: 3/5/2009 3:01:23 AM
I always chuckle when women judge a man by his monetary value. These guys are always in high demand and are VERY picky about who they date. And if you do land one, don't get upset if they expect you to live up to your end of the bargain, which is usually you can't age. As Mick Jagger said, marrying money is a full time job. I don't assess what a man has to offer me. It is about whether we can build a relationship together. It is hard to find that one special person but if you give up, you never will!

curlyboop

Joined: 2/11/2007

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What happened? Posted: 3/4/2009 12:22:31 PM
Add me to the list of people who think she was very lucky that you didn't assualt her. That is very risky to do with a guy you just met. We can all say "no means no" until we are blue in the face but if you are with a guy who doesn't believe that, well, you are the one who is going to be sorry. More often than not, a guy can overpower a woman. That is just a fact of life. BUT ... that doesn't mean that she didn't have the right not to have sex with you. I would have said so upfront and I certainly would have found something to sleep in.

curlyboop

Joined: 2/11/2007

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Testimonies do they help or not? Posted: 3/4/2009 2:53:30 AM
You learn more from testimonials they've left for others. So if I see a testimonial on a guy's page, I click on the woman's profile to see if he left one for her.

curlyboop

Joined: 2/11/2007

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If you came across married people on this site, how did you find out Posted: 3/4/2009 2:51:01 AM
I got an email from his wife. She also sent me a photo of him holding his grandchild. I also was contacted by the girlfriend of a guy I was writing to. I really feel sorry for these women!

curlyboop

Joined: 2/11/2007

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Online Dating Vs Offline Dating? Posted: 3/3/2009 12:06:35 PM
Although I've had some luck online, meeting someone offline is "better" because you can feel that click. Sometimes you start to like someone from their online personality but when you meet, there is no spark.

curlyboop

Joined: 2/11/2007

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why do people stay on POF after meeting someone? Posted: 3/3/2009 7:33:58 AM
^^ They do! I was chatting with a guy and it turned out that not only had he posted a fake picture and lied about everything, he was in fact married with children and grandchildren (she sent me a picture of him with his grandchild). Things like that can make you cynical if you let it ... you just have to keep your eyes WIDE open.

curlyboop

Joined: 2/11/2007

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Would You Need to Know Why? Posted: 3/3/2009 4:55:47 AM
If someone broke up with me, I would assume the reason was that they didn't want to be with me anymore. People have a tendency to blame themselves when a relationship ends, but the truth is, it usually was nothing you did. When you get an answer to why, you feel like you could have stopped it from happening or could make the person come back. Most times you can't.

curlyboop

Joined: 2/11/2007

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WHO PAYS? Posted: 3/3/2009 2:35:38 AM
Honestly, I get a little uncomfortable letting someone I just met spend a lot of money on me. I always genuinely offer to pay but no one has ever taken me up on it - in fact, quite a few told me not to embarrass them. I reciprocate with a home cooked meal after the second or third date. Once the relationship is established, I think you should take turns spoiling each other.

curlyboop

Joined: 2/11/2007

Msg: 72 (view)

How much does a persons looks affect your decision to date them ? Posted: 3/2/2009 3:55:57 PM
I agree with azureorb. There is nothing wrong with wanting to be attracted to the person you are dating. It becomes a problem if you only date certain people because you want others to be jealous of you. People are not accessories! I know people who think they are all evolved because they do not care about looks. Personally, I'd be offended if the person I was with didn't think I was attractive.

curlyboop

Joined: 2/11/2007

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why do people stay on POF after meeting someone? Posted: 3/2/2009 8:03:50 AM
You can tell someone's intentions pretty easily - if they are just here for the forum their profile will be hidden and they will have some sort of message to that affect. My problem is with people who are in relationships and bored, so they toy with people who are looking and available.

curlyboop

Joined: 2/11/2007

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He is still active on POF Posted: 2/27/2009 9:14:53 AM
I had a similar thing happpen to me. I was dating a guy from here pretty regularly so I "hid" my profile, changed my status and added a message that I wasn't looking. If he was checking on me, he would have known where I stood. However ... even though he kept assuring me that he liked me, etc. something felt off and I had to follow my gut - in this day and age, there are too many scary diseases around to not be sure. Sure enough, the day after our date he was on POF and even updated his picture (you can tell all this if someone is on your favorite list). I kicked him to the curb and rated his new picture a 2.

curlyboop

Joined: 2/11/2007

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Do you believe that there are some Good Men left ? Posted: 2/26/2009 2:55:26 AM
Curly' I don't see how any guy could ignore you. If you were anywhere close to me ignored would never happen. But now that's just me. Eddie, you are too kind. I won't get into it here but there was more going on with this guy than I originally knew. I'm lucky that I didn't invest too much time in him. I feel sorry for the next woman he meets because he will be her problem. The point I wanted to make is that while I know there are good men out there, it isn't always easy to tell right away if a guy is really one or if he is putting on an act. That's why I think men are under the impression women like "bad men." You have to understand they made us believe they were good and then they changed. I'm a tusting person so I get tricked from time to time but I try not to let it disillusion me. BTW, my "not a good guy pretending to be one" was rated a five on POF (he had one 10 and that was from a guy ) lest you all think I was blinded by his beauty.

curlyboop

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Why do guys leave without saying goodbye Posted: 2/25/2009 5:29:19 AM
^^^ Beautiful! Everyone needs to read this .... I always chuckle when I read how scared people are of the confrontation. Either a) you have a raging ego and believe the other person will be devastated at the thought of life without you or b) you are attracted to drama kings/queens and eventually get tired of it. Next time why don't you shop more carefully?

curlyboop

Joined: 2/11/2007

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Was all into me then nothing Posted: 2/25/2009 5:20:44 AM
Be grateful that he had the decency to tell you. I was recently the recipient of the disappearing act and I would have much preferred if the guy came out and told me. You have to expect that things may not work out with every guy you date - it is a chance you take.

curlyboop

Joined: 2/11/2007

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Do you believe that there are some Good Men left ? Posted: 2/25/2009 2:51:48 AM
So far the biggest two excuses i have read here on these forums for reason women ignore messages is because' "I read his profile and looked at his pictures and i just didn't think we were a match" Sorry' But this is about the dumbest statement i have seen so far. How anyone can go by a picture and a few words in a profile and decide from that there not interested is beyond me. Hee. I wrote to a guy and pointed out all the things we had in common and he wrote back and said we aren't a good match. I think it is a polite way of telling someone they don't find you attractive. It's no better or worse than being ignored and it sends the same message. You can't force someone to want to get to know you. I am actually back here after a break. I met a guy from here and I thought things were going well until he did that old disappearing act. He was going through a rough patch and cut him some slack. Come to find out that while he was "too busy/upset/whatever" to respond to me (how heartless to you have to be to not tell a person who is concerned about you that you are ok?) he still had the energy to update his profile.

curlyboop

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Do you believe that there are some Good Men left ? Posted: 2/23/2009 3:38:34 PM
There are and I've met them. We just weren't right for each other. But I'm hopeful I'll find the good man for me.

curlyboop

Joined: 2/11/2007

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indian food Posted: 12/21/2008 6:29:22 AM
^^^ Thank you for clearing up the fennel question. Your recipe sounds awesome. BTW - and please excuse my ignorance - I've made Indian food with pure chili and yours is the first I've seen specify Kashmiri. Is pure chili a reasonablr sub? I've never seem the one you mentioned at the places I order spices.

curlyboop

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indian food Posted: 12/17/2008 8:27:28 AM
Thanks procolharem! This looks very yummy. Do youknow of a sub for coconut powder? That's the only thing I can't find.

curlyboop

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indian food Posted: 12/17/2008 5:28:27 AM
It is so great of you to share your expertise with us! I have access to all of the spices you mentioned but I'm not horribly fond of fennel. All the rest are good - corriander, garam masala, tumeric, cumin, ginger. I like my food mild to moderately spicy. Do you have any good recipes for a lentil curry and one with mixed vegetables/potatoes that isn't too hard to make? I like garbanzo beans too. Thanks again!

curlyboop

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Why Do Women Care when a Man dates a Younger Woman. Posted: 8/17/2008 3:35:58 PM
ibscrooge: I appreciate your nice response. Regardless of the motivation behind the women who say those things, it is pretty damn rude. Word on Melania and Donald Trump, and Hugh and his Bunnies. I don't know any woman who is jealous of the ladies but plenty of guys who are envious that these toads can pull such beauties.

curlyboop

Joined: 2/11/2007

Msg: 258 (view)

Why Do Women Care when a Man dates a Younger Woman. Posted: 8/17/2008 7:34:49 AM
Not to pick on you ibscrooge but I hat to know: what exactly do these women say to you? I am fascinated by the idea of strangers coming up to you and being rude. I've never had the inclination to do so nor has anyone ever done this to me. Maybe I should be concerned that no one envies me? As for staring, people could be looking for a variety of reasons. You are ASSUMING it is b/c you are with a younger woman. I used to date a guy who was quite a dish and people looked at him all the time. What the heck did I care?

curlyboop

Joined: 2/11/2007

Msg: 254 (view)

Why Do Women Care when a Man dates a Younger Woman. Posted: 8/17/2008 5:54:21 AM
It is interesting to hear from men who say that "older" women are rude and nasty to the younger woman they are with. What you are really saying is, these women are upset b/c the younger woman is dating YOU, which means they can't have YOU. I've never passed strangers on the street and become upset b/c they guy wasn't with me. You must be something else! I think it is human to be upset if someone you are interested in rejects you based on your age alone. I had a guy tell a friend of mine he's date me if I wasn't "so old." I wasn't interested in him anyway so I thought it was funny, but if I liked him, it would have hurt.

curlyboop

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Met a person on craigslist(I know its wrong LOL) Posted: 8/6/2008 10:55:48 AM
I dated a guy for two years that I met on CL - he was really nice and quite a looker too. But the site has gone down hill since then in terms of the normal people to crazy ratio. I also agree that your she is probably a he and pretty soon will ask for more revealing pictures. He's trying to get your guard down.

curlyboop

Joined: 2/11/2007

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I'm told I look XX years younger than my age ... Posted: 8/6/2008 10:52:19 AM
My personal favorite is when people say things like: "I'm 30 but everyone said I don't look a day over 27." Do people really age that hard in three years? It's kinda sad in a way that being told you look younger than you are is considered such a great compliment. Personally, I've seen plenty of 20something messes so just b/c you are young doesn't mean you are hot.

curlyboop

Joined: 2/11/2007

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attracting older women vs younger women Posted: 7/30/2008 3:35:14 PM
OP, the thing is, youth doesn't guarantee fertility. And in your prfile (damn, I looked again!) it says: Don't think that having "Does not want children" in your profile is gonna rule you out or anything. Now you are just messing with me!

curlyboop

Joined: 2/11/2007

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Can you date a political opposite? Posted: 7/27/2008 4:27:37 AM
Besides, what guy in their right mind would date a Nancy Pelosi over Ann Coulter????? Ann Coulter looks like she'd castrate you while you are sleeping.

curlyboop

Joined: 2/11/2007

Msg: 52 (view)

How big is it? Posted: 7/23/2008 5:14:58 PM
Curlyboop, sweetheart, I am sorry, I wasn't sure what you were trying to say. I even misunderstood you, I thought that one should assume that members are proportional in size to forearms or feet. My mistake, you said something very smart. I think you were saying she should take a mental note of from what point to what point the guy extends when put up against her feet or forearm. This is a very good idea No worries! This thread is just good clean fun.

curlyboop

Joined: 2/11/2007

Msg: 19 (view)

How many testimonials have actually stopped you from messaging? Posted: 7/23/2008 1:02:25 PM
The ones from friends are kinda sweet and don't bother me. The ones from people marking their territory are a turn off and I don't know why someone would leave them up if they are looking. But honestly, I'm more interested in the testimonials they wrote in response. They can let you know real fast if someone is a player. I hate the "gorgeous" or "hottie" ones - they are so stupid.

curlyboop

Joined: 2/11/2007

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High Maintenance Woman Posted: 7/23/2008 10:32:40 AM
I don't think this is limited to men. Some people like the idea that they are able to drive another human being crazy with jealousy, etc.

curlyboop

Joined: 2/11/2007

Msg: 46 (view)

How big is it? Posted: 7/23/2008 10:28:11 AM
^^ It is wrist to elbow. If you buy your shoes to big, you really need to put your foot against your forearm for an accurate measure. I think you can do this discreetly, unless the man in question came across this thread. By the way, your arm span = your height.

curlyboop

Joined: 2/11/2007

Msg: 43 (view)

How big is it? Posted: 7/23/2008 6:54:01 AM
^^^ No it is true for adults. Try it. I'm sure it would be easy for her to have her forearm nearby and use it as a measuring tool. I'm just trying to help the woman out. It's less obvious than a ruler, don't you think?

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