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Joined: 2/11/2007

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Question for the ladies here... Posted: 2/24/2007 6:02:51 AM
Depends what age she is. When I was 12-14 and before I really started getting to know boys, I had sexual acts with girlfriends of mine. I was not lesbian nor was I bi. I felt safe with them and we agreed to experiment on each other's bodies. It felt good, our parents never caught us and we moved on to boys and all was well. Exactly That !! When I was a young boy 12 or so I did the same things. I didn’t grow up to be bi. My wife experienced the same things with some of her girl friends at the same age. She later discovered ( at 28) that she did enjoy the touch of a woman, and returning the same. This never turned out to be the driving force in her sex life it didn’t make her all of a sudden start wanting women over men. She just enjoyed it as part of her sex life. As for therapy I am a bit jaded on that topic. As with all professions there are good and bad. Just because a carpenter has a paper saying that they passed the exam to give them a license does not mean that they are good at there trade. Your support is what maters most now and for ever! In what ever she does! Pedub

Joined: 2/11/2007

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Open relationship/marriage? Posted: 2/24/2007 5:24:19 AM
Now here is a topic I can comment on! Yes as stated in my profile we have been in the swinging life style for some time. Is it for everyone NO of course not. Some people cant even talk about it with out getting a knot in there stomach. This live style was not the salvation of our marriage only an enhancement. We have seen many couples come and go from the life style and the most that left it were trying it for all the wrong reasons. Most thought that added sex with other partners’ would some how save there marriage. WRONG!! The funniest ones to me were the guy talked his wife into trying it, secretly just wanting a bit extra and this way he wouldn’t get kicked out for cheating. Then when his wife actually found that she enjoyed it as much as he was, well that wasn’t in the plan so he got all off side and jealous. Then they left never to return. How we ended up trying the life style is a story of its own, and why we stayed in it so long is also. Let me just state if we had not BOTH have enjoyed it we would not have stayed. Now that that’s off my chest LOL! The actual question about 2 ladies in one house. We have seen this tried several times, some times it worked vary well and some times it didn’t work out at all. Like all things that did not work some one always gets hurt. My advice would be if you want to try it do so, but go into this with both eyes open VARY open. Is this what you want or need for your life? Are you going to get what you need as a person out of this relation ship? And trust me when I say this, SOME women may share there bed from time to time, but sharing the kitchen now that’s another story! Pedub

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Will her sex drive come back ?? Posted: 2/18/2007 2:39:44 PM
Hi All Thank you for all your replies and advice I will looking into the different treatments for sure. As for changing Dr's I wish we could. We live in an area were 20% of the people living here do not have a family Dr! Huge shortage here do to the growth of the area. Thank you for the praise as well, all though its all part of the better or worse thing for me. My commitment to the woman that has loved me, good and bad. Pedub

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Will her sex drive come back ?? Posted: 2/18/2007 8:04:14 AM
Tree hugger chick Thank you great advice. I am doing what I can in that area, I have even taken up her favorite sport to assure her I want to find other ways to be together. Bowling, I hate bowling but I would never let her know that! Again thank you

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Will her sex drive come back ?? Posted: 2/18/2007 6:54:02 AM
Chataholic Thank you for your post. Yes I was up set at first when our Dr would not give her this as it was what we were told by other women that it was a sure fix for them. After researching it, he was right! Not an option! We do not want to take that chance!

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Will her sex drive come back ?? Posted: 2/18/2007 6:16:31 AM
My Situation is this! As it says in my profile I have been married for 25 years and I LOVE my wife vary much! For over 15 years we have been Swingers almost 20 actually. We BOTH have enjoyed this life style. When my wife hit the 30 something mark her sexual apatite increased dramatically! IT WAS GREAT! She is now 51 and had been in menopause for approximately 2 almost 3 years. She is now into what could be considered full system shut down. She no longer desires sex, that’s not to say she won’t. She has been to our Dr and he has been little help! We will not give her estrogen and from what I have read that’s not a bad thing. Like is reads in my profile I am not ready to slow down yet, I still crave sex no loss of sex drive or performance here. Do to our involvement in the swinging life style my wife is comfortable with me seeking out others for this BUT. I an worried!! Will her sex drive come back as she passes through menopause? And before you reply try being more attentive, more romantic take your time with fore play trust me we have been trying all of that. Our Dr even proscribed Viagra for her she, tried it and yes it worked but she got such strong head aches she cant take it. Pedub

Joined: 2/11/2007

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SEX AND WOMEN OVER 40 OR 50????? Posted: 2/18/2007 6:15:43 AM
After reading all of this I decided to post my own thread. Please take a look and leave a comment Asp you ladies that are convinced men over 40-50 can’t keep up.

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weird fetish Posted: 2/18/2007 12:01:40 AM
Sounds like swingers to me,, LOL that sort of thing is common in the life style,, wish it still worked for us.

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A lost art? Posted: 2/17/2007 11:28:56 PM
Or the long weekend ALL NIGHTER!

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What the Hell man? Posted: 2/17/2007 11:25:10 PM
Reference material: Basic instinct who says that Hollywood can’t be used as educational material.

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A lost art? Posted: 2/17/2007 11:07:40 PM
BobbinAloing,.. Great Post!! I look at what’s going on today with this generation Sex is every were. Pushed in there face in most TV shows music videos Porn is every were. I can’t help but thinking what will they do as a couple to keep each other interested as they get older? Every thing they see promotes going from 0 to finish ASAP. I grew up in the late 60ts and 70ts and sure there were lots of stuff on TV the sexual revolution was born. Yes in LA, NY and defiantly were they were making surfer movies (Remember beach blanket bingo, where the boys are LOL) BUT let me tall you in small town Ontario it wasn’t happening! At the time I would have loved to been in those places checking out the HIP seen. Ya know what I an happy now I didn’t! I do enjoy “An-ti-ci-pa-tion” will this generation realize the pleasure in talking your time to learn all they can about their partner? I vote for bringing back the drive in, making out for hour’s root beer and a burger hanging off your car window LOL.

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WHY R OLDER GUYS SO SEXY???????? Posted: 2/17/2007 10:13:15 PM
WOW lookandlearn. Sounds like you had a vary bad time there. Sorry to hear that. But was it just his age, or the man? I have listened to wives complain about the same things in 20 year old men.

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Is the clitoris really.... Posted: 2/17/2007 9:14:10 PM
Janet4now your RN friend was not wrong our family Dr proscribed Viagra for my wife to help us out. She also ended up with a HUGE head ache. The Viagra did work for her, but she can’t deal with the head ache after. It seems to affect everyone different, men can get head aches from it as well. BTY she gave some of her Viagra to one of her girl friends that wanted to try it, She reported no head ache and it did work for her.

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A lost art? Posted: 2/17/2007 8:36:25 PM
cotter,,,,,YES WE DO !! the end LOL

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A lost art? Posted: 2/17/2007 8:16:28 PM
Unlocking fort Knox WOW it’s been a while since my teen years but YES I sure do remember the excitement of all the exploring. Trying to find just the right key to that lock. MANY years later I have to say it is still vary much part of foreplay for me. I still love to undress a lady slowly, paying attention to all the little details along the way! As for the Bra thing I don’t know maybe it was a personal challenge thing But I have been able to un snap a bra with one hand since my teens, and have witnessed MANY other guys able to do the same . Sorry I just don’t understand that one. Any way the art of undressing a woman is just all part and parcel of love making, for me any way.

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Is oral sex cheating? Posted: 2/16/2007 6:04:13 PM
Is oral cheating. YES it is if your spouse is unaware of the situation my wife and I have been in the swinging life style for over 15 years, The Foundation of the life style is HONASTY with your spouse! We have shard and enjoyed the pleasure of other sex partners but NEVER once with out the others knowledge. Pedub

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