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 Author Thread: would you move next door to your daughters bf?
 lightbrownsuga2luv
Joined: 12/1/2011
Msg: 24 (view)
 
would you move next door to your daughters bf?
Posted: 8/19/2012 6:47:20 AM
I really don't see what the problems is, at you stated in your first question, there's more to this then what you will explain. So, with that being said, and going by your few last comments, I don't see what the problem is other then your other daughters.
It's not like you are living with your daughter who is always over her bf house all the time, you other daughters don't have to walk into your daughters bf door to visit you. WTF live your life and stop answering every damn response on this thread you created......GEEEZZZZZZ
 lightbrownsuga2luv
Joined: 12/1/2011
Msg: 16 (view)
 
would you move next door to your daughters bf?
Posted: 8/18/2012 5:04:26 PM
Ground rules is........"your the mother" respect me. That would be my ground rule, and if they don't want you involved, then don't be. It's that simple, your trying to live your life, they old enought to live theirs.

If they disrespect you buy getting you involved in the middle of the night because of a fight, therefore you have to care to your grandchildren, then let them know your getting involved with getting custody of your grandbaby.

How bout that? Be the mother, not the sibling.
 lightbrownsuga2luv
Joined: 12/1/2011
Msg: 14 (view)
 
would you move next door to your daughters bf?
Posted: 8/18/2012 4:52:03 PM
This is not a tough question because you are doing what you need for yourself. There is a time and place where the cord has to be cut some where. This is your opportunity to live and live as you want to live no matter if it's next door to you daughter's boyfriend, or next door to your ex (if you have one just saying) however, like I said this is about you and your happiness.
If you other daughters don't like the fact that your other daughter is always next door so it might prevent them from visiting you.....OH WEll is what I would be saying to them, because they will come around.

Your adult kids( which presume are) don't have no say so in your life, don't forget who the mother is...and they need to not forget that as well.

Like I said, there is no question to me of what I would do, maybe it's because I don't let my kids rule over my life, I'm the mother, and they know to not go there with me about me and my business.

I say move and do what's best and what will make you happy
 lightbrownsuga2luv
Joined: 12/1/2011
Msg: 4 (view)
 
Dating and Cellphones
Posted: 8/18/2012 9:21:54 AM
Even without a babysiter and younger children, I would still have phone on. Just in case my date decides to do something out of the norm, I'm not going to wait a couple minutes for my phone to charge, and update data. I need to be able to puch a button right away.

However, there is such a thing as "silent ring"
 lightbrownsuga2luv
Joined: 12/1/2011
Msg: 6 (view)
 
she said she liked me .. than never heard from her again (need some advice)
Posted: 8/17/2012 3:23:26 AM
you lost me....what did you do wrong?

did you say that you guys met again for 20mins, but had to go because her friend was getting sick? what happened after that, you never said.
So, what did go wrong? she had to leave because of her friend, I know you said that the last time you met, it wasn't the same, but what wasn't the same?

The woman is in her 20's, and she has a lot of things going on.....right now I think she is experiencing her life and busy doing what she always done before you met her. Take a chill pill, and call her next week, ask her how did things go concerning her job and the reason she was in town, ask how was her friend, and then let her know you had a good time.
Listen to how she responds to you, if she sounds excited, and very thankful that you asked, then move in a little more and let her know that you find that all she does is interesting, and that you like that in her, how she's so motivated.
You both expressed liking each other, so don't scare her away. Be interested in what she's about, let her know this, let this be about her right now and what she's doing, but don't let it be about you.
Keep the conversation somewhat short, and depending on how that conversation goes, wait a couple or few more days and call again.
 lightbrownsuga2luv
Joined: 12/1/2011
Msg: 4 (view)
 
Taking your money and then changing the rules.
Posted: 8/15/2012 8:40:24 PM
I see some issues going on, lmao. Do you really think some woman cares about Dombledore....it's really you? Or maybe it's a man that your really trying to catch, because you sound like a real B-itch
 lightbrownsuga2luv
Joined: 12/1/2011
Msg: 26 (view)
 
Where do broken hearts go?
Posted: 8/15/2012 8:34:40 PM
I think you have some issues that no one can help but a professional.
 lightbrownsuga2luv
Joined: 12/1/2011
Msg: 2 (view)
 
could it be my information?
Posted: 8/11/2012 5:05:47 AM
I'm not seeing much wrong with your profile. I think you should change your profile pic though.
 lightbrownsuga2luv
Joined: 12/1/2011
Msg: 2 (view)
 
I almost had my first kiss but i chicken'd out ?
Posted: 8/11/2012 5:00:59 AM
a friendly guesture
 lightbrownsuga2luv
Joined: 12/1/2011
Msg: 8 (view)
 
Tips and Advise on texting the girl you like?
Posted: 8/11/2012 4:19:09 AM
you may not be twelve, but you act like you are. What if the girl your talking to is shy,you don't know if she is?
Both you you need to grow up if your trying to have some type of friend or a relationship.
 lightbrownsuga2luv
Joined: 12/1/2011
Msg: 2 (view)
 
How do men feel when a woman contacts them first?
Posted: 8/9/2012 8:22:46 PM
I'm 43, and I think the same as you....old school/old fashioned is how you put it. I've contacted a few guys after waiting to see what would happen.
But...I can't answer that question, how do men feel when a woman contact them first? I've been always told, men like to chase....rather that's true or not....don't care. But I will not be the agressor, because that is not in my charater as a fenamine laid back woman.
 lightbrownsuga2luv
Joined: 12/1/2011
Msg: 4 (view)
 
Tips and Advise on texting the girl you like?
Posted: 8/9/2012 7:56:49 PM
What I would like to know is.......how desperate are you that you have to settle for just texting because she prefers you do so?
Really, is that not a red flag for you?
 lightbrownsuga2luv
Joined: 12/1/2011
Msg: 13 (view)
 
how to handle arguments
Posted: 8/9/2012 7:48:28 PM
Here's what I think. PUNK..................this is not just a one thing happening, I'm sure that you probably done something else before this particular evening and it could be that you have walked away in the middle of a discussion.
That's why I call you PUNK. Not saying that she's not inmature and should have let you do you, but you don't act like you have the power to stand for self as a man. Lil whimp is how I see it, that's why she feels like she can nick pick at the way your cutting some stupid vegetales that will not look preety once it hits your stomach...............smh
 lightbrownsuga2luv
Joined: 12/1/2011
Msg: 7 (view)
 
Afraid
Posted: 8/8/2012 6:26:19 PM
TC2u......yes and the person that asked the question needs some muturity.
 lightbrownsuga2luv
Joined: 12/1/2011
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I'd really like some input, please be brutally honest.
Posted: 8/5/2012 8:50:13 PM
Two things stand out with me...One..your divorced and two...you have no children. Now....many many thoughts can transpire from the two things I mentioned, why no kids...especially at age 32. But, 32, is better then 52, still in my mind I wonder why no kids, why the divorce.

Yes, you stressed that you love kids, but the thought of a woman that has kids, versus someone that never had them, some woman may have a second thought.
 lightbrownsuga2luv
Joined: 12/1/2011
Msg: 2 (view)
 
what does this mean???
Posted: 8/5/2012 8:44:18 PM
lol...wow. what it means is.....since you made contact with this person, then try these people because they have the same simularities as the person you contacted.
Yes, I have had this happen to me. Next time this happens, look at the people POF suggested and just see if maybe they have the same simularities as the person you did contact.
However, the same simularites could be hidden, such as, income, or maybe the "needs" quiz or other quizes that is suggested to take to find out what type of person you are and what type of person you are willing to date.

Don't make it such a big deal out of nothing because that pop up....it's not a warning.
 lightbrownsuga2luv
Joined: 12/1/2011
Msg: 4 (view)
 
Frustration!!
Posted: 8/5/2012 8:37:33 PM
If your at the maturity level that nothing matters but the right type of guy to be around your children, then it would not frustrate you.
However, i think that because the "right" guy is not emailing you, would be why your frustrated. It's not an issue to me if someone emails me, and don't consider my children because of the fact my children come first and they mean everything to me.
Its no different then if i had a last piece of bread to feed my children, no doubt, that bread will get split both ways because i will do without with no question or frustration to a make sure my kids eat. Same goes for a man, if a guy is not fit to be around my kids, then I'm moving right along.

why, put yourself in a situation for a man to have a comeback, why not ignore? You'll have less frustration since you can't seem to handle the come back.
 lightbrownsuga2luv
Joined: 12/1/2011
Msg: 9 (view)
 
Was I really being easy and fast?
Posted: 8/4/2012 2:18:19 PM
I will put it this way....no one will kiss me on first or second date, for more then one reason. Diseases, someone might had been sick, but just now getting over it. Plus, if I like this guy, i will not give him the empression that he can just do that, and that it's not easy for a "any" man to put his lips on mine.
Men will test woman, especially the ones that just want a easy lay, if they feel that you will allow a kiss, without knowing him well, then he's already thinking in his mind, "this one" is going to be easy to sleep with.

So, some of ya'll other comments made on here don't look much deeper into it. Why would a man or woman for that matter want to kiss anyone that they just met?

Stop and think about it, example of easy. If you saw a man/woman on the street that you pass everyday, and you decide, I'm going to give this person a dollar. Next day comes around and you see the same person, you give them another dollar. Third day, you don't give them anything, but the person says to you, will you give me a dollar?
What would you think? they're asking because I was, "nice" or "easy" enough to give the first two times, them asking me for anything....now he's exspecting me to give him more.
Same thing with kissing, that leads to sex. You may want only sex from this man, who knows who cares if you do. But I say again, yes your easy.
 lightbrownsuga2luv
Joined: 12/1/2011
Msg: 4 (view)
 
Was I really being easy and fast?
Posted: 8/4/2012 1:56:10 PM
Yes i do think that makes you easy and fast. How long have you known this man? this was your first date right.
 lightbrownsuga2luv
Joined: 12/1/2011
Msg: 7 (view)
 
Should I trust a man who lets his ex-wife live with him...
Posted: 8/4/2012 6:30:43 AM
You know, I understand where you are coming from, however you may be a little too harsh or not understanding enough as far as he's concerned.
Yes, after four years, I would be like why is she still there, however on her side she has rights because it's her house too according to what you said inless she does sighn a quit deed. She knows this, therefore she feels like she's living scott free.....because to some certain exstent she can. She knows what type of man she had "good one" therfore she is taking advantage of him and her rights.
So, this is where you have to make a complete decission and stick to it.

You have to make the decision within self rather or not you still want to be in this mans life, if it's just friends, then do that...but no FWB. If your wanting a relationship, which sounds like you were having one, cause you said you fell for him, then have one. But, he really needs to know and "see" that "you" mean business without be cruel about it.
If you want him as a friend, stay out of his business and be a friend. If you want him as a lover, relationship then let him know, we can't see each other anymore until somthing happens about her being in the house. Let him know you won't see him anymore , let him know there will be no sex, spending time with each other, mean it and do it.
However, if you choose to be "just" friends then still limit to how much time you spend together and don't be always willing and available if he calls or wants to come over, that will lead into "FWB".
What I'm saying is....because you see he's not taking a stand for himself, you need to take a stand for yourself, and he needs to know and see you mean business either way you choose to be, Friends or in a relationship.
He he really wants you, he will see this in time and start handling or doing more about the situation, if he only wants to be friends then he keep being in the same situation.
This way, you will also know how he truly feels about you.
 lightbrownsuga2luv
Joined: 12/1/2011
Msg: 2 (view)
 
Asking him his last name
Posted: 8/1/2012 4:25:02 PM
it kind of sent a red flag?
 lightbrownsuga2luv
Joined: 12/1/2011
Msg: 6 (view)
 
Help!! What does this mean?
Posted: 8/1/2012 4:13:12 PM
The reason i know this is because, I was the first contact with some guy, we talked back n fouth on here just a couple times. Next time I got back on here, which was a few days later, he was gone. He gave me his number, but I never called. So, I called him, he said he hides his profile sometimes because he gets tired of the same ole thing. Not to many people responded or staying connected.

That was a year ago, we never met, he lives 300 miles away, but we talk every now and then.
 lightbrownsuga2luv
Joined: 12/1/2011
Msg: 5 (view)
 
Help!! What does this mean?
Posted: 8/1/2012 4:09:50 PM
they have deleted their profile, or either hid it.
 lightbrownsuga2luv
Joined: 12/1/2011
Msg: 2 (view)
 
Living with Jack Spratt!
Posted: 8/1/2012 3:59:10 PM
Either kick him out or have more will power. Or, you can stop buying these things for him. I guess I really don't know what your issue are.
You don't have self discipline? And no I never dealt with this before, when my ex and i were together, i stayed away from those tempting things, and we had small kids back then, so i surely bought snacks for the kids and him.
 lightbrownsuga2luv
Joined: 12/1/2011
Msg: 3 (view)
 
Massive Views, but No replies!! HELP!!!
Posted: 7/31/2012 9:45:50 PM
You main pic shows things in the background that I would be affraid to know how you keep your place.
Also, you said you love humor, but all of your pics look as though your not sure about anything.

I don't see much in your description that would not suffice.
 lightbrownsuga2luv
Joined: 12/1/2011
Msg: 7 (view)
 
Friendzone..time to move on?(lengthy read)
Posted: 7/31/2012 9:34:50 PM
Ask yourself how many times you going to allow a woman to reject you and you keep going back? She's not the only female out there, and I'm sure there is someone that will love you and not Jerk you around.
When you find her, don't be so clingy, do move to feelings so quickly.
 lightbrownsuga2luv
Joined: 12/1/2011
Msg: 7 (view)
 
Am I attractive?
Posted: 7/31/2012 9:30:15 PM
Yes, you are in the wrong place to be asking this question, surprise you didn't get hit with a pity thing going on, or attention seeker.
However, I'm 5'3 that would be an issued to me if you were my height or even just a tad pit taller. For me, someone has to be at least 5'9 or taller. When I see an nice looking face, I go right to the height before I read anything else.

Sorry, it is what it is.
 lightbrownsuga2luv
Joined: 12/1/2011
Msg: 4 (view)
 
Need advice
Posted: 7/30/2012 6:56:02 AM
Ok, what is your point? So what, move on. Really, you started a thread about some random lady whom you have not known for how long? and you wonder why the no response?

Is you life that boring?
 lightbrownsuga2luv
Joined: 12/1/2011
Msg: 16 (view)
 
found out woman is actually married!!
Posted: 7/30/2012 6:38:44 AM
why would it matter, you been only seeing her? who knows, she could be married but seperated, or just never changed her status.
However, it's you own fault that you didn't do a little more investigation before you started seeing her. Will you keep seeing her? You said that you'll just let it go, what does that really mean?
 lightbrownsuga2luv
Joined: 12/1/2011
Msg: 7 (view)
 
Its been a year since it ended
Posted: 7/29/2012 11:18:22 AM
all of ya'll a trip....one is asking how and why does she get over a guy that left her....people saying they want revenge, but found a girl dating for 11 months and she's so wonderful....then why you got your but on POF?

Wow.....seeing how people think really baffles me.
 lightbrownsuga2luv
Joined: 12/1/2011
Msg: 14 (view)
 
No longer talking me. wth
Posted: 7/29/2012 11:10:25 AM
If you're cancelling your "free" account on here because of one girl....you got some issues. Of course do what you want...but you sound like a little boy that didn't get his way, now he's gonna go hide in a corner with his teddy bear.
 lightbrownsuga2luv
Joined: 12/1/2011
Msg: 6 (view)
 
Its been a year since it ended
Posted: 7/29/2012 11:04:41 AM
Basically, you gave no info on what to go by.....why he left. However, what the hell do you do.......? MOVE THE HELL ON!
 lightbrownsuga2luv
Joined: 12/1/2011
Msg: 2 (view)
 
Nudity In PoF Advertisements?
Posted: 7/29/2012 11:02:39 AM
Yes this is a double standard, just like when someone post a thread that really needs to be brought out, such as dating and beware of....Plenty fish has rules on that among others, but those pictures are not deleted. However, serious issues are.
the thing is POF is enjoying them pics of naked woman.
 lightbrownsuga2luv
Joined: 12/1/2011
Msg: 10 (view)
 
No longer talking me. wth
Posted: 7/29/2012 10:56:07 AM
because you gave her attention for that moment, depending on age group....that sounds typical.
 lightbrownsuga2luv
Joined: 12/1/2011
Msg: 12 (view)
 
Minutes or hours? How long should it last?
Posted: 7/28/2012 6:12:04 PM
I have never heard of any man not knowing when and how to please his woman in the bed. I plus I never had the problem so this sounds kind of silly to me.
If your doing your thang and keeping her going, your thrill would be her getting hers therefor you should be able to know.However, if your just sleeping with folks (one or two night stands) and thats if, I see how that would be a problem for you.
Your not into that person nor she into you, but you didn't say nothing about making love...so that's the issue right there.
 lightbrownsuga2luv
Joined: 12/1/2011
Msg: 7 (view)
 
Women : Hard to figure out :-(
Posted: 7/28/2012 10:30:15 AM
I hate to break this to you, but you need to move out of your parents house. If you have no kids, and your in mangement, you should be making enough to afford your own place if it's nothing but a one bedroom.

I didn't read all your profile, but that is one of the things that stood out and that was at the beginning. Also, you need to look more confident in your pictures instead of looking like your scared because you have a tux on.
 lightbrownsuga2luv
Joined: 12/1/2011
Msg: 9 (view)
 
Not able to provide time for 2nd date = no interest?
Posted: 7/28/2012 1:43:46 AM
My thoughts are, she may not be into you., I think you should have waited a day or two to ask her out again.

You may not have a problem with expressing you interest, but if you just text her and asked for dinner tomorrow, I would think that your interest is to try and woe me a little, then go straight to the bed.
Your bedside manner don't sound good at all. So, I would react the same way if a man just text me and said, "dinner tomorrow"?
 lightbrownsuga2luv
Joined: 12/1/2011
Msg: 5 (view)
 
Why do women favorite me without actually talking to me?
Posted: 7/28/2012 1:36:53 AM
That was annoying to me as well at first, I can see why somoene would do this for a few reasons.

1. Maybe they tried to email you but your email limit them to reach you
2. You profile had something in it they like, but maybe feel they could not have a chance because they're not worthy of a good man such as you.
3. They're wishing you would be the first to contact.
 lightbrownsuga2luv
Joined: 12/1/2011
Msg: 6 (view)
 
What you want?
Posted: 7/28/2012 1:23:22 AM
I agree with you, it's a give and take situation. I state what I have to offer and state what I desire. I don't believe in oders given, I believe in coming to an understanding on both ends what each other desire.
Plus with the first date...I said I pay my own way because it's a mutual thing two people trying to get to know one another, but yet out having fun. Why would anyone expect for the man or woman to only pay the bill for just a mutual meet get together.
I also believe that when a woman/man talks more about what they don't want, what they will not put up with, or how they don't want drama, they're telling everyone they're bitter because they went through it. Therefore, I see those type of people not dating material and probably on some type of "chill pill" and without it, they are crazy.
 lightbrownsuga2luv
Joined: 12/1/2011
Msg: 20 (view)
 
Asthma- Can it develope at any age?
Posted: 7/28/2012 1:14:25 AM
Wow...I never would have thought Dairy products could play a role in Asthama, he does like to eat a lot of cereal which requires lots of milk.
Never known for him to have issues with milk when he was younger, breast fed him a few months. But he did have eczema when he was younger, out grew it though.
Thanks for the input R00ft
 lightbrownsuga2luv
Joined: 12/1/2011
Msg: 8 (view)
 
how to be safe
Posted: 7/25/2012 8:43:56 PM
you have to use your own gut feeling to know that....can't always know for sure when the right time is....however for sure not the first or second date..I would mayb say the third as well.
 lightbrownsuga2luv
Joined: 12/1/2011
Msg: 8 (view)
 
photo caption
Posted: 7/24/2012 5:32:03 PM
with you having this under broken hearts, yes I say you over reacted. She is your ex, get over it.
 lightbrownsuga2luv
Joined: 12/1/2011
Msg: 2 (view)
 
Help me out here! Most messages going on unread??
Posted: 7/24/2012 4:08:23 AM
Yup my idea is stop chasing, stop putting so much into them messages, let off on POF for a while and see what happens.
 lightbrownsuga2luv
Joined: 12/1/2011
Msg: 20 (view)
 
he treated me terribly
Posted: 7/24/2012 4:05:46 AM
Some people will do all they can to flash the type of life they live, what they would go for and what they won't go for. Truth of the matter is, they're lonely.
For the ones that say they never had this problem......are the very ones that probably did but want to make self look good.
I'm not affraid to say that i've been through this after marriage, but I'm also happy to say that I have learned. No, I was not beaten, no I was not verbally abused, but I realized that this person was no longer good for me. I realized sex is not all there is. Of course, being taken out, doing things together was good, traveling, going to concerts, but that is not all I needed....and no I didn't have to ever pay for anything.

Now, as far as being treated terribly....I will agree I have not encountered that and maybe the OP needs to elaborate on what she means by being treated terribly.
 lightbrownsuga2luv
Joined: 12/1/2011
Msg: 4 (view)
 
review my profile please?
Posted: 7/22/2012 7:00:11 AM
yeah stop whining. You said want to date but nothing serious, plus you said you would like to have fun. If that's all you want, then why care rather or not anyone responds? Plus you start another thread asking about does it matter what you say, or questions you ask?

Really, get some better pics, and change your status to looking for something serious, because in your threads, you act like your boutherd by no response.
 lightbrownsuga2luv
Joined: 12/1/2011
Msg: 4 (view)
 
Baffled.
Posted: 7/22/2012 4:17:32 AM
I agree with Bezoa, put some clothes on.

The guy was trying to show you what he could do to get in your paints. Don't know if it went that far, but it appears he made sexual advances and it didn't go all the way.
However, he may have kids, but I'm sure that is not what he was doing all that weekend. When you guys didn't do the nasty, he was probably like, ummmm well she's not an easy lay right now so I'll move on or continue with the other woman I"m seeing.
That's the deal.
 lightbrownsuga2luv
Joined: 12/1/2011
Msg: 2 (view)
 
he treated me terribly
Posted: 7/22/2012 4:10:55 AM
I sure there both woman and men that can relate to you situation, you don't have to feel as though you're the only person that gone through this.
What it means is, you learned and next time you will be more caution.
 lightbrownsuga2luv
Joined: 12/1/2011
Msg: 4 (view)
 
New to the dating seen and I need some input.
Posted: 7/14/2012 8:29:15 PM
I checked out your profile, not cause you never had sex, but wanted to see how old you are.

First I want to say is, Thanks for serving our Country for years....Hats off to you!

Second, I think you really need to profile review, I did not read all of your profile, but the main thing that would be a turn off for me although I'm older would be the video games you play, plus desire for a woman to like to play them as well.
As far as you question, you really need to do some catching up, make sure you know how to please a woman, because there may be some that might be turned off by you never having sex, unless you find a woman of the same.
 lightbrownsuga2luv
Joined: 12/1/2011
Msg: 3 (view)
 
he says he wants more, but doesnt show it?
Posted: 7/14/2012 8:20:38 PM
My idea is to leave this man alone.
If you ask me, sounds like you are playing the slut, hoe, whatever and he's the guy buying your time for sex.

Don't get me wrong, not calling you neither, slut or hoe, but when I read this and read his remarks, this is how I see it.
So, with that being said, why would you being wondering what you should do? The answer is so clear, just because you have likes and dislikes of the same does not mean you belong with him. He's a jerk.
What man would have sex in the car with you, but not feel that you deserve to be at his place, your place or even a nice hotel?
Then to top it off when it's over, say " oh wow look at the time" no way should that be. Then he tells you to suck his $hit that will help get rid of stress, please if you wanted to help you get rid of stress or this moving forward thing off your mind, he should have offered to do you.
However, that is not all that is in a realationship is oral sex....I'm just saying....he's selfish and he wants what he wants when he wants it, when it's over is out.

Move on...do it quickly
 lightbrownsuga2luv
Joined: 12/1/2011
Msg: 3 (view)
 
How Do You Keep an Open Mind and Protect Your Heart?
Posted: 7/14/2012 8:10:17 PM
I viewed your profile very shortly, main point was to see your age. 50+ woman asking question that would seemingly come for woman half your age.
But to answer your questions, yes you need to have better boundaries within your own self, when you get that straight, the bounderies with men will come easy.
Slowing the process would be the next step, because when the bounderies are in order, the process is already at a halt to a certain extent.
You will find that after you have asked the few common questions, you really dont have to much more, because action will start speaking louder then words.
When you get the processed, then you won't be hurt, especially so quickly.
 
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