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sweetgirltech

Joined: 2/14/2007

Msg: 311 (view)

Proper ladies don`t go out alone! Posted: 12/25/2008 5:13:37 PM
I go out alone all the time...and have met many interesting people...and had fun...and if along the way i meet a gentleman I may be interested in...so what?? We are not talking bar pickups here, but instead, conversation and just relaxing. Where I live, this is the culture...to sit somewhere and talk and be social. SOO, Ladies...WHY NOT

sweetgirltech

Joined: 2/14/2007

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I always get hurt in the end... Posted: 12/25/2008 5:04:01 PM
So you are who? Dr. Phil? There are many many answers to the question...and God knows...

sweetgirltech

Joined: 2/14/2007

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Advice: What is the healthy thing for me to do? Posted: 12/25/2008 4:54:58 PM
Get out...get away

sweetgirltech

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Can you be too independent for a relationship? Posted: 12/25/2008 4:50:26 PM
I guess maybe I am a little too independent, but gee I wanna be with someone. It frightens me, however, to give up that side of me. How to deal with this?

sweetgirltech

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define a friend Posted: 12/25/2008 4:48:08 PM
A "friend:" is someone who stands beside you...not lays beside you. What a timely topic. We are just "friends' is another excuse for "yeah, I 'm doin her too but you dont need to know that:" Sorry, I don't sleep with my friends or spend holidays with them in lieu of spending it with someone I care about. And...if you are JUST FRIENDS..how come I can;t come along too????? I have friends..and then...there are "friends:" Know the damn difference.

sweetgirltech

Joined: 2/14/2007

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What is your biggest obstacle to committing to a relationship? Posted: 12/25/2008 4:44:58 PM
My biggest obstacle is never knowing where I stand. I have been introduced by my first name when someone asked the question "and this is your..."? I need to be hit over the head with it, I guess, but it is still nice to know. I need to know that i am the one and only because otherwise....I tend to wander off. At what point is this discussed? I don't get the whole thing.

sweetgirltech

Joined: 2/14/2007

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Why do women say they seek Long Term Relationship Posted: 12/25/2008 4:41:12 PM
Not picky...but we have to know too. We want the same thing...a long term relationship...but I find that it is back and forth here. They run hot and cold...one day you are adorable and the next...well... That is NOT a criteria for long term/ I am here to find the one...the only one...but like they say... Ya gotta kiss a lot of frogs to find a prince.

sweetgirltech

Joined: 2/14/2007

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How to tell if he's in to you ... Posted: 12/25/2008 4:38:31 PM
2 days since then? Seriously reconsider I have a busy schedule, too...but I will make time.. Geez

sweetgirltech

Joined: 2/14/2007

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Are you willing to relocate for LOVE? How far would you go for LOVE? Posted: 12/21/2008 3:30:09 PM
YEs I would, but I would have to be sure beyond a reasonable doubt that it would all work out. I have friends who have done this without thinking of the consequences and it was HORRIBLE.... But to think it through and then do it? Sure

sweetgirltech

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very confused!!!! Posted: 12/21/2008 3:08:53 PM
Can you say"buh-bye??

sweetgirltech

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Are you willing to relocate for LOVE? How far would you go for LOVE? Posted: 12/20/2008 2:51:51 AM
I would go to the ends of the earth if it were right. There is no time and distance if you truly love someone.

sweetgirltech

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My Ex Girlfriend invited me out to dinner, how do I approach this? What can I expect? Posted: 12/20/2008 2:50:57 AM
The same thing you had before.....history repeats itself...I never ever go back unless it was my fault it went South.

sweetgirltech

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Who really wants a long term? Posted: 12/20/2008 2:49:24 AM
Good question.... Overcome the obstacles? Work at it Leave the past in the past? So far.....they all say this is what they want, but no one i s showing the colors yet.

sweetgirltech

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I'm Scared to Start a New Relationship!! Posted: 12/20/2008 2:47:31 AM
been there, too.... New relationships are a scary place. You get all excited thinking about it...they treat you really well, and make you feel so special...but will it last? Or just another beginning's end? This is the chance we all take. I will never again be with anyone who puts me down or calls me names or who can't accept who I am with all my flaws and my dysfunction at times. That is where it ends...it all ends. Insecurities we all have from past relationships, but we have to be good to us and realize what is important in life. Look past the past ...that is when really good things happen.

sweetgirltech

Joined: 2/14/2007

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Should you give up your male friends?? Posted: 12/20/2008 2:43:55 AM
You knew those people before...and should continue your friendship. If someone objects to someone you hang out with, just don't expose them to that one person. We are shaped by the past and who we know. I see no reason to get rid of a friend...unless that friend is interfering with a relationship.

sweetgirltech

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hey guys a friend of mine is looking to win back her ex Posted: 12/20/2008 2:42:27 AM
Dump her..dump her NOW....she is looking for the cake if ya know what I mean. It can;t be both ways. Get rid of her and move on.

sweetgirltech

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yes or no? Friends with benefits! Posted: 12/20/2008 2:39:24 AM
Been there, done that...got the t-shirt. Yeah, it can be comforting...no, its not what I want. Friends are friends, relationships are relationships. Know the difference.

sweetgirltech

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I love you but I'm not in love with you........... Posted: 12/20/2008 2:37:43 AM
I love you but I 'm Not in LOVE WITH YOU? OMG...I usually get "I have to end this because I love you too much..." Isn;t that the POINT???? I am NOT in LOVE WITH YOU ...I love my cat, but I am not IN LOVE WITH HIM. Move on...and find someone who is IN LOVE WITH YOU.

sweetgirltech

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Body Issues? Posted: 12/20/2008 2:29:58 AM
Another timely topic.... I at one time weighed 400 lbs and lost it through bypass surgery. Over the years, I have had major reconstruction done....very expensive....but the one thing I can't afford is having my thighs done and the stomach pulled one more time...sorry, TMI. I look hot in clothes, am tiny and petite...except for this one issue. It seems to be an ever increasing issue sometimes and bothers me. I am pretty self confident and outgoing, but to not look your best for someone is disheartening. But in the long run, you just be the best YOU you can be. If it is not appreciated... gonna suck to be him, I guess...

sweetgirltech

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In hindsight,what was the VERY first sign that the relationship wasnt going to work? Posted: 12/20/2008 2:26:18 AM
Baggage..not letting go of the past...not being able to just relax and get on with it. Last years boy had 2 ex-wives who verbally battered him, so everything i said or did was a "red flag". We all have bad days...and sometimes, hideous days when we just wanna hide. That does not mean we are psycho...ya know?

sweetgirltech

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Girlfriend/boyfriend sleeping with someone else and telling you the next day...What would you do??? Posted: 12/20/2008 2:24:09 AM
Smack the living hell outta him...lol Unless you have "that kind" of relationship, that is not tolerable.

sweetgirltech

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spending the holidays single.. Posted: 12/20/2008 2:17:40 AM
Well, now, what a TIMELY topic. I attended our annual Christmas party last night and heard ALL the very sad sad stories. First year alone, lalala. LAST YEAR, I spent New Years Eve alone and Christmas Eve due to a guy I was seeing who just couldnt"handle" the holidays. I went to my work Christmas party alone, too. BUT I had a GREAT time. Sometimes, people say one thing but mean another. If you can't entertain yourself, I have no words for you. I will NOT feel sorry for myself or spend another New Years Eve alone EVER AGAIN. I am pretty strong and independent...and YES GIRLS JUST WANNA HAVE FUN. I am who I am, take it, leave it, like it ,don't I don't prey on anyone and don't use people for my own amusement. Dates? Sure...but not for the wrong reasons. I am not pathetic or lost, nor am I needy and dependent. Yes i would LOVE to have someone take care of me and coddle me and cuddle me and all that....but I want to be able to give something back. Till I find that...well...its just another New Years Eve.

sweetgirltech

Joined: 2/14/2007

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how long do Rebound girlfriends last? Posted: 12/16/2008 10:55:32 PM
Depends on what you are looking for and hoping to get out of it. If the original relationship is a really bad one, then yes, there is the "looking for affection" factor. On the other hand, there is the "looking for something better" factor. Hard to say. I did the rebound thing for the wrong reasons and it didn't work out. I can't jump in and out of relationships that easily. There has to be a period of, I guess, mourning...the sadness and all...before I can become interested in someone else. I never understood how someone just goes from one to the other so easily. Individual choice, I guess.

sweetgirltech

Joined: 2/14/2007

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Am I being led on? Posted: 12/16/2008 10:50:51 PM
Rides for DINNER? How about DINNER because she enjoys your company???? Sounds easy to me. Catch one who wants a relationship, not a backup.

sweetgirltech

Joined: 2/14/2007

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Abusive past, should I reveal? Posted: 12/16/2008 10:47:23 PM
Personally, I think you should consider NOT having a relationship till you settle this conflict within yourself. History tends to repeat itself and it sounds as though there are bigger issues here. Having been a victim (or should I say a complete idiot for staying with him), I know the syndrome. He is in another relationship now and exhibiting the same behavior.

sweetgirltech

Joined: 2/14/2007

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If Your BF Joked To You About Raping A Woman, What Would You Do? Posted: 12/16/2008 10:44:07 PM
WHY would he even JOKE about it?

sweetgirltech

Joined: 2/14/2007

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Ladies, If A Guy Called You The C Word, Would Continue Your Relationship With Him? Posted: 12/16/2008 10:35:16 PM
No, no, and NO!!!! That is along the lines of calling you a lot of other things. My name is Cheryl, not Moron, not Stupid, and certainly NOT that! And no matter WHAT the relationship they may have, that is certainly NOT appropriate! Would he like it if she referred to him as "Prick"?

sweetgirltech

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AmI just too stupid??? Posted: 12/16/2008 10:30:55 PM
Ok...even if this jerk isn't married, not inherently gay, or anything, you are being played big time. How many more women are dealing with him???? He sounds like a major, inconsiderate, selfish, uncaring, unfeeling heel who is out for an FWB...and you are the benefit. Move on, run, don't look back. Find someone who deserves YOU. You have already wasted the better part of a year on this stuff... Red flags???? This guy is poppin fireworks!!

sweetgirltech

Joined: 2/14/2007

Msg: 230 (view)

We all Have baggage at our age? No Baggage thing...I don't get it Posted: 11/18/2008 4:59:17 PM
If you blame ME for what someone did to you in the past...THAT is baggage. If you can't commit because someone else dragged you thru the mud...THAT is baggage and you really should not be dating anyway. IF you answer your cell phone on a date because your ex is calling for some reason besides the kids, the house, or something important...THAT is baggage....and heavy baggage if you run out the door at her beck and call. If you constantly draw comparisons between me and the one you used to see/be married to....THAT is baggage. We are all unique individuals and deserve to be treated that way. Taking something I said out of context because it sounds like something SHE used to say is baggage. I could go on and on. Geesh, we all have a little baggage, but it is time to pull up your big girl britches and just move on.

sweetgirltech

Joined: 2/14/2007

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We all Have baggage at our age? No Baggage thing...I don't get it Posted: 11/18/2008 4:53:30 PM
We have all had life experiences that do not count as baggage...merely the things that made us what we are today. Now baggage, however....hmmmm That would be the emotionally challenged individuals who latch on merely to have someone to commiserate with, people who just won't let go. I agree that some life experiences should not just be dropped and forgotten because there is someone new. Many are widowed, divorced at our age, and that part of life is precious still. I understand some would be jealous over that in a new relationship and that is JUST WRONG. But, if you are still in agony over an ex-love and using me as the rebound...hey, time to move on. THAT is baggage.

sweetgirltech

Joined: 2/14/2007

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I have a friend who says people on dating sites have something to hide... Posted: 11/18/2008 4:45:57 PM
Hey, we're here. I have a lot of stories to tell from online dating and yes, some cannot exist when they come out from behind the screen, but I have had some good experiences as well.

sweetgirltech

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Who really wants a long term? Posted: 11/18/2008 4:42:55 PM
Pick me! Pick me!

sweetgirltech

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What is your biggest obstacle to committing to a relationship? Posted: 11/18/2008 4:36:50 PM
The howling at the moon thing gets a little distressing...

sweetgirltech

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Scared stiff Posted: 11/16/2008 9:35:06 PM
GOD FORBID I should screw up his roommates living arrangements just so we can be alone and build a RELATIONSHIP! Run, Forrest, RUN!!!!!

sweetgirltech

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What is the point of sending an old or fake picture of yourself??? Posted: 11/11/2008 12:41:15 AM
Reminds me...need a new pic. that was last year and I am sure I have detoriated... Here's my story: Met a guy online who sent me a really CUTE pic of him. The tie he had on should have given it away....but hey some people don't follow fashion. Long story short, we met.....25 year old pic, not even close. If you lie about your appearance that you can't hide...what else will you lie about???? Had a friend once who posted my pic on her profle...she weighs 250 lbs and has red hair. I tried to explain to her that some men like big girls, some like small girls, some don't care, but you can't present yourself as a size 6 blonde when you are not. Her theory was that if you chat long enough, the bond is enough....AHH NO! I actually met one of her "dates" who kept staring at me...this is how I found out what she was doing. He was amused...when I asked him if we had met before he just smiled and said, "the face is vaguely familiar"...and she does not understand why she gets dumped...hmmmm Bottom line...DONT LIE. Iam 54 and look damn good for my age...but I am STILL 54. I have had men tell me I am too scrawny, too bony, too thin. So be it, but don't say I didnt tell ya. Lying is smarmy and makes me like ya a whole lot less. I am not into the whole "looks" thing...but just dont LIE

sweetgirltech

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Misunderstood Lyrics Posted: 11/11/2008 12:33:57 AM
Thats sooo funny! and it was ...hell, cant remember..but I'd really love to see you tonight. John fogarty?

sweetgirltech

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Misunderstood Lyrics Posted: 11/11/2008 12:32:01 AM
A "deuce" is a classic car...I always thought it was "wrapped up like a douche"...lol

sweetgirltech

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Are there a lot of singles who havent married over 30 ? Posted: 11/11/2008 12:30:02 AM
And your thinking is screwed up seriously. SO WHAT????? I am not looking for your delectable self to wrap myself around at night and be your devoted puppy, dude! You have to have something to offer ME too. I am not trying to be a hardass here, but men like you are far down the list...and ummm...how come YOU are here, not married, looking???? Sometimes, we follow our own path. And it makes us better for it. Why do something BEFORE you are ready for it and destroy two lives? I know a girl who has destroyed every life she touched, every guy she dated, her kids....her first husband is now an alcoholic, and God help the second. WHY do that??? Just so you can say you are "married"? IF I meet someone I want to share my life with, FINE. If not? SEE YA IN THE CAYMANS!!!

sweetgirltech

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Are there a lot of singles who havent married over 30 ? Posted: 11/11/2008 12:21:17 AM
I am 54 yrs old and never married...and NO it is not because I am gay or never found the right one. I lived my life, I did things that I would never have done had I been married, I experienced things that you cannot imagine. I ran a biker bar, I am a professional, I skydive, I own a classic convertible, I have met with interesting people...some whose names you would know from the news, I lived in Boca, I am a small town girl. At this stage of the game, yes it would be nice to have someone on my couch at night...but NOT JUST ANYONE. I won't settle. I have a son, had a long term relationship, been there, done that. Had an abusive one, had good ones but the subject did not come up. Several times it did, but it wasn't right, wasn't wrong but wasn't right. I could not be the washer woman, the stay at home wife. My life has been, to say the least, an interesting one. Yes, now I am perhaps more serious about looking, but life is meant to be lived. There are men here...and women...who might look down on me as though I failed at something....but I have had fun....and am a better partner for it. There is nothing wrong with never having been married. I grew up in a very small town where women were not sent to college because they were expected to get married. If you went to college, you became a teacher or a nurse....end of the road. I have friends now who are trapped in loveless marriages..kids grown and gone. Their husbands are nice to them, yes, but nothing more....just a place to be. I do not shun the idea, but I never settled.

sweetgirltech

Joined: 2/14/2007

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Is it just me, or are testimonials a turn off ? Posted: 11/11/2008 12:13:48 AM
Yes they are a turn off. I don't need advertising, I will figure it out myself. Had a guy once ask me to give him a testimonial. First off, that was a baaad sign And second, I personally don't need praise from a now ex-lover or need to advertise the fact that I was with someone else. I stand on my own, thanks

sweetgirltech

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Warning signs:Physical abuse in a relationship rarely starts out as severe violence. Posted: 11/11/2008 12:07:12 AM
I was trapped in that hell for awhile. It starts with jealousy, almost FLATTERING jealousy...and ends in absolute hell. You are not in a relationship. You are merely another possession. It took 12 yrs of running to get away from this ass. I hear now he is in another "relationship" and she is going thru the same thing. Why do women stay? Sometimes, we can't get away (small town) and sometimes...well... PFA's, restraining orders...to these guys it is just a piece of paper. They destroy and take from you not only your things but your self respect, your SELF. RUN at the first sign...and that first sign? JEALOUSY

sweetgirltech

Joined: 2/14/2007

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you remove your profile but he does not remove his Posted: 10/18/2008 1:24:52 AM
CAN YOU SAY...BUH BUH????? I had one of those...he was active every day but friends told me he was just checking to see if I was online....WRONG!!! At the point I removed myself, I thought I had FOUND IT.... Oh, I FOUND IT all right....6 mos of heartache. Is it worth it to be with a DOG???? Oh hell no. Then I found someone in real time....who wanted younger women. AS IF.... I havent given up on it..not yet. I have a long distance that shows promise but I still have to maintain my own life. We shall see....we shall see...

sweetgirltech

Joined: 2/14/2007

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How do men turn love off overnightt Posted: 10/18/2008 1:19:14 AM
Men? HMM? I tend to get attached heavily to the EMOTIONALLY UNAVAILABLE....thinking it will change. I feel the "magic", the connection...but only because they are unavailable. They and I profess undying love, feel it all...but it isnt for real, not really... They dont turn off love overnight....they just never feel it.

sweetgirltech

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Have You Ever Been Mentally or Physically Abused by a Partner Posted: 10/11/2008 4:44:55 PM
12 years of hiding and living like an animal...gun to my head when i was sleeping, breaking in, totalterror I m free now....

sweetgirltech

Joined: 2/14/2007

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How to forget someone? How to let go? Posted: 10/11/2008 4:34:54 PM
If I follow my heart, I know where it leads.... God I know,..but he does not want a real relationship and I can't change that....I can't change anyone..it is his decision....and his alone. He is missing out on so much love, so much caring But ... it is HIS decision

sweetgirltech

Joined: 2/14/2007

Msg: 118 (view)

How to forget someone? How to let go? Posted: 10/11/2008 4:32:52 PM
stay busy...let go..move on...get what you DESERVE

sweetgirltech

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Are there a lot of singles who havent married over 30 ? Posted: 10/11/2008 4:28:21 PM
i am 54,,never married...nothing weird but just refused to settle

sweetgirltech

Joined: 2/14/2007

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Really Weird Experience Posted: 10/11/2008 4:09:21 PM
BAby DOLL Text messages dont get it...I got dumped with one....this is someone who cant confront life on its own terms...dont worry about it and move on

sweetgirltech

Joined: 2/14/2007

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Is it just me, or are testimonials a turn off ? Posted: 10/11/2008 4:07:43 PM
God, I HATE TESTIMONIaLS...and was actually asked to GIVE ONE. This is insecurity to the MAX......I know who I am and what I am worth..I dont need someone to validate me.

sweetgirltech

Joined: 2/14/2007

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Why are most men looking for Friends with Benefits? Posted: 10/11/2008 4:05:45 PM
been there....done that...lol They cant connect, they cant feel....and then when ya wanna move on its some big ordeal for them....go figure....and move on...just move on

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