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 Author Thread: When you wish the ground would swallow you up
 punkadiddle
Joined: 12/8/2011
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When you wish the ground would swallow you up
Posted: 2/22/2013 8:39:35 AM
I recall (despite trying to block the memory) going swimming with my husband. Afterwards we collected our clothes and proceeded to our cubicles in the mixed changing area. I assumed that the person who had taken the cubicle next to mine was my husband.........

Jokingly and without uttering a word, I bent down, reached under the cubicle partition and started fondling the man's leg................unfortunately it took about a full minute before the horror dawned upon me that this was not, in fact, my husband's leg.

Within record time I'd thrown some clothes on, gathered my things, located my husband and dragged him somewhat bewildered, half dressed and dripping wet out to the car before the man was able to emerge from his cubicle.

:o(
 punkadiddle
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Profiles with children in them
Posted: 1/31/2013 2:51:34 AM
I'm assuming by "dodgy" you mean paedophile. Personally I never have, still don't and never will fall for all the over reaction that occurs at the mere suggestion of the "p" word. How, exactly, does this danger manifest itself anyway? It's always rather vague.

*****

Children are part of life - a very important - possibly the most important part. Therefore, I'm always a little dubious of those who want children hidden away as though they're not meant to exist. Aso far as I'm concerned I'd be more "worried" about someone who was offended by the sight of a child than someone who had a photo of their kids on their profile. Also if having a child in a photo attracts paedophiles then surely a female having a photo of herself on a profile attracts rapists - same nonsense.

*****

Yes it is an adult dating site. But by applying that rule there should be no motorbikes, cars or dead fish in profile pictures - after all it's a dating site not "Autotrader" or "Trout and Salmon".

:o)
 punkadiddle
Joined: 12/8/2011
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What is a homemaker ?
Posted: 1/27/2013 11:30:53 AM
Wow! There's a lot of bitterness, vitriol and issues displayed at the mere suggestion that some women don't immediately postpartum strap their children to their backs and do 18 hour shifts a day. Those attitudes are far more worrying than the woman described in the op who may or may not be financially independent.

"Spit"/"drop" out kids (?) - well I've never looked at it like that before but there seem to be a lot of people quite adept at spitting venom on this thread so I suppose they are likely to also be adept at spitting out their kids - the rest of us gave birth to our children.

Re. the mattress bearing Jeremy Kyle watchers. Am I the only person that doesn't have one of these dubious characters in my circle of friends? I'm assuming they're in their circle of friends if they have knowledge of the tidiness or otherwise of their house, tv habits and day timetable. In fact I cannot even think of a single person that lives like that. Either way I'm glad I know none as, apparently, you can tell a lot about someone by their friends (real or imaginary).

Back to the op - the question is really - Is she of independent means? If so then it's none of anyone's business. If not then as far as I'm aware if you're able to work but neither working or looking then you're quite rightly not entitled to any financial help - so I don't really know how on earth she'd be able to live and would therefore conclude that she had a pension or some other means that enabled her to take early retirement - if that's the case then good for her.
 punkadiddle
Joined: 12/8/2011
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Anal spelling and grammar Nazis
Posted: 1/27/2013 8:22:49 AM
Nobody has perfect spelling or grammar - I most certainly don't - and that's fine.

There is, however, a difference between someone that makes an effort to communicate (albeit with mistakes) and some recent posts that have been quite simply incoherent gibberish. Dyslexia notwithstanding obviously - but some posts are such that they simply highlight the ignorance of the author and their arrogance that they expect other people to make all the effort to decipher their post.

Their obvious lack of care serves as another tool to filter out those that are unsuitable. For instance if someone never brushed their teeth or washed themselves then I wouldn't want to date them - it doesn't make me a hygiene nazi. However personally I wouldn't offer unsolicited advice as often the worse the spelling the more indignant and abusive they become when any valid criticism is levied.

So as far as I'm concerned if they cannot put any effort into communicating then I don't bother investing any effort into attempting to decipher their incoherent ramblings.

:o)
 punkadiddle
Joined: 12/8/2011
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How is the weather affecting you?
Posted: 1/25/2013 4:25:36 AM
I'm 30 miles north of Aberdeen - snow is perfectly manageable here for the moment and where the snow is thick then people mostly carry on without the need for any drama.

Heavy snow can sometimes bring out the worst in some people - those indignant that the council haven't furnished them with a dedicated snow plough to drive directly in front of their car on demand.

However mostly the heavy snow brings out the best in people - there's a community spirit - neighbours I barely ever see are out digging through snow, chatting away happily and enjoying it (digging snow is very therapeutic). Despite hearing reports last week about panic buying in some parts of the country (I know, pathetic) I find it has the opposite effect - people are helpful and tend to look out for each other - as though just waiting for the opportunity to be neighbourly - an opportunity not as easy to take advantage of otherwise maybe.

:o)
 punkadiddle
Joined: 12/8/2011
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Life s 'big' questions....
Posted: 1/22/2013 8:22:32 AM
Hippopotomonstrosesquipedaliophobio is the name given to the fear of long words - what were they thinking?

And Kags - yes it's all in the wording - it's designed to trick by making them count the £2 twice.

:o)
 punkadiddle
Joined: 12/8/2011
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Advantages Of The Opposite Sex
Posted: 1/11/2013 1:44:18 PM
Good topic - and to answer the question (before it was turned into a gender war by the usual culprit) - advantages of being a guy:-

1) how cool to be able to eat about 4,000 kcal daily without putting on weight,

2) men are excused from 2am christmas morning wrapping duties by citing their "unwieldy/sausage fingers" get out clause,

3) another advantage guys have is that their female partners aren't as capable as them at converting perfectly normal food into noxious gas. I've always thought that guys should have catalytic converters fitted for their deadly fumes. In fact I believe the gas they generate should be investigated and tested as it appears to possess mind altering qualities which render their victims unable to protest against any unorthodox rendition of Tchaikovsky's 1812 overture.

(I, of course, never, ever indulge in any botty burping activities - it's always the kids (unless they're at school in which case it was the cat - right!!)).
 punkadiddle
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Life s 'big' questions....
Posted: 1/11/2013 12:59:16 AM
Question:- Why does the law of averages (which would suggest a 50% success rate) not extend to toddlers putting their wellies on the correct feet?
 punkadiddle
Joined: 12/8/2011
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Life s 'big' questions....
Posted: 1/10/2013 1:59:35 PM
When in flight, if in danger, a daddy long legs can jettison it's legs. I've always wondered - what does it do then - with no legs?
 punkadiddle
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why dont the glass half full type post on the forums?
Posted: 11/7/2012 7:04:52 AM
I occupy a very secure position at the positive end of the mental health spectrum – however I concede that bad news is far more entertaining than good news.

I am continually bemused at the negativity often displayed on these threads. My favourites are the ranting misogynists. Ahhh..... nothing warms the heart better on a cold evening that watching their agonising death throes.
 punkadiddle
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kids say and do the funniest things....
Posted: 10/13/2012 2:45:19 AM
My 4 year old says “c**klick” instead of chocolate.

While I’m a proponent of the “let them figure things out for themselves” method of parenting – it can be rather embarrassing in Morrison’s confectionary aisle.
 punkadiddle
Joined: 12/8/2011
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UK chat / fun thread
Posted: 8/6/2012 11:33:55 AM
I know there are various spin-off forums and spin-off fb chat groups which are easy enough to set up and can be more laid back with virtually no rules. But it’s worth noting that sometimes it’s wise to be careful what you wish for as when people there kick-off it’s not pleasant and you begin to realise why there are rules in the first place. Furthermore they’re a monumental nightmare to moderate.
 punkadiddle
Joined: 12/8/2011
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Private pictures
Posted: 8/5/2012 6:32:23 PM
^^^^

Well I wouldn’t worry about it too much – I’m sure lots of things make no sense to you.

But I would say that since about the age of.....oh I don’t know.....say 15...it kind of slowly dawned upon me that there is more to a person than a layer of skin. In fact, funnily enough, the most obvious part is the least important ultimately.

As far as I'm concerned once you become familiar with someone they fail to be either ugly or attractive just....well.....them. Now don’t get me wrong – looks can be important but simply as a initial lure and nothing more. Useless, unless there's something else there to back it up. I just assumed everyone knew this – seems sort of basic common sense to me.
 punkadiddle
Joined: 12/8/2011
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Private pictures
Posted: 8/4/2012 8:50:58 AM
I understand why some people have no photo. It ensures that any messages are based solely on their personality and nothing else. I admit to having “fallen” for people on the basis of their written word alone after which the grand unveiling of their countenance is almost immaterial.
 punkadiddle
Joined: 12/8/2011
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Fifty Shades of Bleh!
Posted: 8/4/2012 7:07:49 AM
I’m always of the mind that all reading is good – always. The material is secondary. Poor quality writing is not nearly as annoying as literature snobs who declare which books they deem acceptable for others to read.

Therefore, although I haven’t read the book and it’s unlikely that I ever will I still feel qualified to give an opinion.

As far as I’m aware – practices that ‘prima facie’ appear sinister often have a logical reason behind them that is actually quite far removed from the fantasy. The book, therefore, in my opinion is simple escapism that can be compartmentalised in a book/behind bedroom doors guilt free.

(Note:- escapism as opposed to escapology which, if I’m correct in my limited knowledge of the subject matter, would be more useful.)
 punkadiddle
Joined: 12/8/2011
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Busy lives and dating
Posted: 8/2/2012 4:14:20 PM

Is that not would you do? You find a way to include someone, somehow?

I don’t think you should have to “find a way” to include somebody. Just wait until you meet someone that is suitable. Unless you’re desperate for a relationship then just take your time.


If I don’t have time then I just dont see how it is logically possible to maintain your life the way it is, when its super busy but still expect to date?

Well you don’t have to “expect” to date though – I’m happy to wait however long and perhaps one day someone will come along that will be suitable.


If, like you say, if someone doesnt have that time, then should they be dating at all? Is that fair on the other person?

Everyone is entitled to use the dating site and some people are busier than others. If you have entered into a relationship knowing how busy your partner is – then, surely, you’re being unfair by expecting them to change to fit around you.
 punkadiddle
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Busy lives and dating
Posted: 8/2/2012 3:39:17 PM
Your girlfriend didn’t seem to have a problem with being busy - it seems that you had the problem with her being busy. Did she suddenly become busy when dating you or was she already busy when you met and you expected her to drop things and find time for you that she didn’t have?

If you have evenings off and time for a hobby then I consider you quite lucky.

Busy people are as entitled as you to join dating sites. Where I live many, many guys work offshore and are, therefore, unavailable for weeks at a time – that’s just the way it is. I wouldn’t date someone that worked offshore then have a strop because they disappeared for 3 weeks.

Why not just bide your time and find somebody more suitable to your lifestyle?
 punkadiddle
Joined: 12/8/2011
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"Shallow" preferences.
Posted: 8/2/2012 10:32:01 AM
There seem to be discrepancies around which physical preferences are deemed acceptable and which are deemed "shallow".

Are all physical preferences an indication of shallowness? If not, which are and why?

:o)
 punkadiddle
Joined: 12/8/2011
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What is fashion?
Posted: 7/16/2012 5:36:08 AM
Msn news today “Actress (?) wears denim skirt to Channel show and manages to pull it off” (their pun not mine).

But why is wearing a skirt news? I’m I totally out the loop? Is fashion a form of artistic self expression that I’m simply not privvy to or is it just idiots wearing horrible clothes?

Discuss please.







(It is pertinent to point out that I am Scottish and, apparently therefore, absolved of any guilt therein and comment merely as a spectator).
 punkadiddle
Joined: 12/8/2011
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Too old for clubbing?
Posted: 7/16/2012 4:44:08 AM
It depends upon your definition of a “club” I suppose.

If you mean a nightclub (I’m thinking fake tans and hair extensions here) where the idea is to “pick up” (I believe the term is) then I definitely would feel rather old. However, if you mean a club that is part of the rave scene (showing my age – I know) then anything goes as far as I'm concerned.
 punkadiddle
Joined: 12/8/2011
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Circumcision. Is this a barbaric practice.>?
Posted: 7/15/2012 9:44:48 AM
I've always wondered why this seems an acceptable practice (in the US anyway - not here) and is never questioned. Although it's a relatively minor procedure it isn’t exactly necessary surely.

Having said that my husband was circumcised after being diagnosed with type 1 Diabetes as this is an area that it affects and in this case it’s better off than on. (I did feel rather sorry for him and his discomfort (not enough sympathy to prevent me from dragging him around Ikea lifting furniture though)).

I am not in possession of the body part in question - however it seems rather drastic to have babies operated on simply to avoid possible future discomfort. If it is performed for the reason that ‘apparently’ sometimes uncircumcised males are seen as unclean then it's totally unacceptable.
 punkadiddle
Joined: 12/8/2011
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Musical guilty pleasures
Posted: 7/13/2012 1:53:15 PM
day-trader - msg 57.

They aren't guilty pleasures though - but the techno trance remixes of Toccata & Fugue and Canon in d are. I should apologise to Messrs Bach & Pachelbel who are, I suspect, turning in their graves.
 punkadiddle
Joined: 12/8/2011
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Friday the 13th
Posted: 7/13/2012 12:35:09 PM
Well yesterday my car overheated and my car and I had to be relayed 106 miles home by the AA at the cost of £250. My local mechanic is on holiday at the moment so I will be spared the shock of the cost of a new head gasket for a few days. Nevertheless an expensive weekend.
 punkadiddle
Joined: 12/8/2011
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Greed
Posted: 7/1/2012 1:34:33 PM
It's strangely liberating, I found, just to leave everything behind and start afresh with nothing.  I've still managed, in 2 years, to accumulate a house full of stuff that just seems to appear from nowhere though.  

It's a modern Western preoccupation with accumulating as much pointless stuff and gadgets as possible.  Even though unsatieted want and true happiness seem to be inversely proportional.
 punkadiddle
Joined: 12/8/2011
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Do women actually WANT a nice guy, or do they just say they do?
Posted: 6/18/2012 12:12:11 PM
I do find it funny when men make grandiose declarations about the psychology of women (not one women mind, but all 3.5 billion of them) - while I, and no doubt others, sit back with mouth agape at how wrong it is possible to be despite stating it with such absolute conviction.

Of course, sometimes a little and sometimes a lot, physical attraction plays a part - that seems to come as a shock to some men.  But for me and, I would imagine, most other women - what lies between the ears is far, far more important than most men will ever realise.  Those that choose to deny that and look for blame outwith rather than within get what they deserve.

Oh and to those men who know what I'm thinking more than I do (apparently) - thanks!  I was getting a wee bit carried away there - having independent thoughts and whatnot.  By the way - guess what I'm thinking now?........go on have a guess.








vvvvvvvvvv
Clever boy - and in the right order aswell!
 punkadiddle
Joined: 12/8/2011
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Dodgy Tattoos
Posted: 6/16/2012 10:51:58 AM
I am and will probably remain unadorned - same goes for piercings (too scared to even have my ears done).  However it's their body and up to them what they want to do with it. I know a few people heavily tattoed and pierced that are quite passionate about their "body art".  

Having said that - I recall shopping in Edinburgh where I encountered, what I later found out to be, Britain's most pierced woman (Elaine Davidson - 7,000 piercings - wikipedia) and I can't deny that it made me feel a little bit sick.
 punkadiddle
Joined: 12/8/2011
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Time Travel...
Posted: 6/13/2012 3:51:53 AM
You can also time travel by getting sucked headfirst into a black hole - where your head would accelerate away from your feet faster than the speed of light (this method would also help with those who have issues about their lack of height).
 punkadiddle
Joined: 12/8/2011
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Time Travel...
Posted: 6/13/2012 1:29:35 AM
How do we know that our future selves haven't already gone back in time to prevent something awful happening
(or screwed something up) that we (our present selves) are, as yet, unaware of.

:o)
 punkadiddle
Joined: 12/8/2011
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Revenge is sweet but is it necessary?
Posted: 6/9/2012 7:25:47 AM

.......You have to ask yourself why you attract such negativity in the first place ? My bet is that's the relationship wavelength you are on.


I haven't a negative bone in my body and as for attracting negativity - that's just a roundabout way of removing culpability from the perpetrator and I don't have low enough "self-esteem" to fall for all that tripe.
 punkadiddle
Joined: 12/8/2011
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Revenge is sweet but is it necessary?
Posted: 6/9/2012 4:21:06 AM
I understand that you never quite know how you're going to react (re. Cinders and Graffiti) however I am not the sort of person that would wait for some elusive "karma" that may or may not decide to intervene.  To me "karma" just means doing nothing and allowing them to get away with it again and again and again until someone takes the initiative. Revenge needn't be a bad word, needn't be physical, illegal or immoral.  

Also if I was too scared of revenge from someone that had "skunk induced paranoia" then my kids and I would still be living with one. As far as I'm concerned, in most cases, you're only a victim if you let them get away with it.
 punkadiddle
Joined: 12/8/2011
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What are you up to this evening ?
Posted: 6/8/2012 3:05:12 PM
Message 53

Oh howay man - yor lass canna jist leave yor bairns an' gan doon the toon for bingo wi a canny bag o' tudor an' a stottie bread!
 punkadiddle
Joined: 12/8/2011
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What are you up to this evening ?
Posted: 6/7/2012 6:07:50 AM
I thought I could take advantage of Peppa Pig's toddler hypnotising abilities and sneak away for a relaxing bath.  Alas my 3 year old had other ideas and proceeded to join me in said relaxing bath.  

Now - it's not him I object to, nor his subsequent addition of sufficient cold water rendering my bath just a few degrees above freezing, nor even the accompanying sharks, octopus, speedboat, submarines armed with torpedoes and scuba diving action men (one of whose oxygen tanks appears to have sprung a leak and was releasing copious amounts of bubbles - that is the only explanation I'm prepared to contemplate).  What I DO object to is being used reluctantly as a human archipelago - upon which is driven and crashed, tanks, pontoons and helicopters.

Tomorrow I'm having a shower.
 punkadiddle
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What are you up to this evening ?
Posted: 6/7/2012 5:39:42 AM
Today I have been fashioning a rudimentary pirate ship utilising a toy box, a kitchen roll tube as a telescope, a sweeping brush for a mast and a tea towel for a flag (these are the tetley tea pirates - the most feared that ever sailed the seas).  

I should tidy it away now though as my toddler's due home from nursery soon.
 punkadiddle
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Do ya wanna be in my gang?
Posted: 6/7/2012 1:30:37 AM
I am the mum that's always on her own at the school gate.............normally crouched down, rocking back and forth, drooling and mumbling in tongues.  The other mums are all in groups laughing and chatting but I know they really want to be in my gang.
 punkadiddle
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Do ya wanna be in my gang?
Posted: 6/7/2012 1:14:30 AM
I wouldn't want to be in the sort of gang that would have the likes of me as a member.
 punkadiddle
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Retrospective advice.
Posted: 6/6/2012 5:21:55 PM
If I had just one minute left I would say:-

"Now listen very carefully to me child.  What I'm about to tell you is the most important piece of information that you will receive in your life.  Whatever you do - never ever...........................
 punkadiddle
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Retrospective advice.
Posted: 6/6/2012 4:42:01 PM
When buying a DVD as a Christmas present for your best mate's children, do NOT confuse The Human Centipede for The Very Hungry Caterpillar!


What!.........do you mean to say that's NOT the sequel!............Oh bu**er.
 punkadiddle
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Do women actually WANT a nice guy, or do they just say they do?
Posted: 6/5/2012 5:02:59 AM
This'll be the same Charles Manson (I read the Helter Skelter book) who's followers he'd so indoctrinated that they murdered Sharon Tate by stabbing her repeatedly in her heavily pregnant stomach while she begged for them to cut out the baby to let it live.

Yes - you can tell a lot about a person by their choice of friends.
 punkadiddle
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Do women actually WANT a nice guy, or do they just say they do?
Posted: 6/4/2012 12:26:33 PM
Most people are "nice" - that's the minimum requirement - not a bonus.  "Nice" is only the foundation block upon which you build the rest of your preferences.

Surely you must have met ONE woman that was "nice" - yet you didn't whisk her away - why? - because there is more needed than "nice" and women have (as do you) a choice and preferences and choose to exercise same.

"Bring to the table that which you seek" (quote stolen from a poster on another thread).
 punkadiddle
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What are you up to this evening ?
Posted: 6/4/2012 3:34:37 AM
^^^^^^

You may be right there y'know. Buying shoes guilt free. However astro-turf football boots don't really do it for me.
 punkadiddle
Joined: 12/8/2011
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What are you up to this evening ?
Posted: 6/4/2012 3:03:57 AM
^^^^^^

Well I'm glad it wasn't just me that didnt "get" the Time Traveller's Wife - abandoned it 9/10ths of the way through.

Last night I spent in recovery after dragging 4 kids around every shoe shop in Aberdeen - managed to buy 7 pairs - I even impressed myself.

So I'm afraid to say that last night I was cuddled up on the sofa watching a DVD (although I barely drink so didn't have the mandatory glass of red).
 punkadiddle
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How do I deal with this?
Posted: 6/2/2012 12:23:55 PM
My husband lost his wife and 4 children through his preference to drugs and drink and his resulting behaviour.  He will, no doubt, in due course lose his business, our house and ultimately, I believe, his life.  I (the kids and I) bailed out when it became apparent that I couldn't help him - nobody can but him.  

He may help himself in time to save something but realistically everything that was really worth having has already gone forever.

My experience is that NOTHING else matters to them other than their drugs/drink.

It's probably not what you want to hear but - walk away - safe in the knowledge that you've done everything you can - the rest is up to her and whether she is willing or able to help herself.

Good luck!
 punkadiddle
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Sounds fussy?
Posted: 5/29/2012 2:17:22 AM
The little t**t next door who, although only 9, was left on his own on Sunday and proceeded to immediately parade around with an air horn for about an hour.

However the most annoying noise for me has to be snoring.  My ex was a snorer - as far as I'm concerned it should an acceptable Plea in Mitigation for bludgeoning him to death in his bed.  Anyone that is a normal sleeper and lives in the same house as a snorer is sentenced to a life of lack of sleep, irritability and exhaustion. Pof should have a filter for it.

Also mouth breathers that cannot breathe through their nose and cannot seem to breathe without everyone in the house having to hear every rasping breath (ex again - if I'd taped up his mouth he would have actually suffocated (not that it ever crossed my mind or anything - ahem)).
 punkadiddle
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Claim to fame.......
Posted: 5/25/2012 3:33:51 PM
My great great uncle was Lewis Grassick Gibbon (Scottish Author).
 punkadiddle
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My son/daughter will always come first.
Posted: 5/23/2012 7:40:41 AM
I would imagine that the addition of the caveat "my kids come first" is for the purpose of discouraging certain people from contacting them.  It's not really their job to pander to the sensitivities of others - that wording is fine to me - some people wouldn't get the message if it was any less blunt.  

To be a good parent (that obviously puts their children first) requires a lot of selflessness - so really you should be grateful that those women have saved you and them the time by letting you know that you probably won't be compatible.
 punkadiddle
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Badge of Honour - my mobile phone is 18 years old
Posted: 5/23/2012 4:15:18 AM
I'm proud to say that my phone cost £7.49 from Argos - much to my kids' embarrassment every time i fish the thing out my handbag.  Even my boys have better phones than me and apparently absolutely everyone in my daughter's class has an iPhone 4s (or whatever it is) apart from her. (I like to point out that they probably also all have superdry japan coats, g-star hoodies and all-star baseball boots and that label/gadget junkies enable one to see at a glance those that are easy to lead and manipulate).  I don't think she's convinced though but it's bought me some time during which the fad will no doubt change anyway.  If the time came where I would find a flashy phone really useful then I'd just go straight out and buy one - no problem.  It's not so much that I'm proud of having something that is deemed old fashioned it's more that I'm proud that I don't feel the need for unnecessary gadgets.

Re. the car thing - my car (petrol engine) has over 150,000 miles on the clock (10 year old Renault Espace) and sailed through it's mot at the beginning of May for the third year in a row.
 punkadiddle
Joined: 12/8/2011
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Men and women living apart.
Posted: 5/16/2012 4:05:54 PM
I would prefer that set up aswell I think.  It's great when you're young and not so set in your ways and routines. Now I'd just find an extra adult more hassle really (unless, of course we had a large house where we weren't under each others feet). I do think I'd prefer separate bedrooms (especially having been married to a snorer for 15 years). Oh and definitely separate bathrooms.

In fact maybe a husband (or two) kept in the cupboard and released periodically depending on the chore that needed done.........................what?
 punkadiddle
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Professional Golddiggers as seen on tv...
Posted: 5/16/2012 2:17:33 AM
Although I didn't see the programme as far as I'm concerned there are some people that are good with figures and, therefore, earn a living from that.  There are people that can sing and earn a living from that, good at selling then earn your living from that.  These women are simply earning a living from doing what they're good at.  I fail to see why they are doing anything immoral - if they are - then so are salesmen surely.  These womens' clients are seeking out this service and aren't being coerced.  The personalities or personal morals aren't really relevant any more than a nurse's moral code - as long as they're providing the service that they're being paid for.  

Similarly I've often wondered why prostitution is seen as such an immoral profession.  Really if you think about it and ignore 2,000 years of brainwashing - if someone is putting their dignity and respect up for sale so they can provide for their children (if that is the purpose and not because they're crack addicts obviously) then really it is an honourable profession in that case but I'm sure I'll be in a minority of one with this view.  But it's always struck me as somewhat unfair.
 punkadiddle
Joined: 12/8/2011
Msg: 31 (view)
 
How wealthy do you feel?
Posted: 5/11/2012 4:46:59 AM
^^^^^^^
same here - (with 4 healthy kids I consider myself one of the luckiest people on earth as billions are living in poverty).

Financially only - despite my ex-husband living in OUR rather nice 4 bedroom detached house whilst the kids and I live in a council house (which is perfectly nice though), my husband has a very healthy income yet doesn't pay for his own 4 children (despite csa taking him to court) - strangely I am far more financially secure than I've ever been - simply because I (the kids and I) have nowhere to fall.  My daughter commented the other day about the unfairness of our circumstances - so I reminded her that we are, in fact, very lucky as we are protected from everything and shielded from the effects of the recession really.  No mortgage worries, bills are all paid, always a little left over etc - if there are such things as guardian angels then I think we have one.

I think everyone's perception of their own wealth depends upon who you compare it to.  If you compare it to the rest of the world there is so much absolute poverty that EVERYONE in the uk is actually one of the richest people in the world.  If you compare yourself only to the super-rich then you'll always consider yourself poor no matter how much money you have.
 punkadiddle
Joined: 12/8/2011
Msg: 6 (view)
 
Possibly a good business opportunity?
Posted: 5/11/2012 3:17:01 AM
A good business idea - yes - apart from the possibility (which I suspect is the case) that most of them are fibbing about the gym thing.  There also seems to be a suspicious amount of snowboarders on pof.

I have often wondered about dispensing with my pof profile and just taking myself down to the beach where (according to the amount of profiles that list it as an interest) there must be thousands of single men (and women) just walking up and down all day.
 
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