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 Author Thread: Help me grow up from the Nice Guy please?
 iamasiam
Joined: 2/16/2007
Msg: 27 (view)
 
Help me grow up from the Nice Guy please?
Posted: 4/21/2009 4:07:32 PM
Think carefully and ask yourself why do you want to have a girlfriend?

This nice guy bs concept is a self-defence thing. Is it really about YOU?

HINT, how do you make a woman feel about herself?

Do you go towards life with gusto, or just accept what is given and what is supposed to be?

I have not given a direct response, but rather something to nudge your thinking thus your actions.
 iamasiam
Joined: 2/16/2007
Msg: 19 (view)
 
Why do we men have this incessant urge to check women out?
Posted: 6/9/2008 3:47:32 PM
I guess some guys know how to look and some don't. Some guys look to appreciate female beauty and some guys look out of some "desperation". It is the latter that freaks out women



I've recently felt really uncomfortable travelling on the London Underground..men staring, gawping, puffing out their chests, standing as close as possible, alomost dancing aronnd me..it doesn't happen anywhere quite like on the tube.
And it's really quite imtimidating when you are on your own.


That explains why the guys who know how to look rarely get a smile of acknowledgement back these days. If is always the few who spoil the fun.
 iamasiam
Joined: 2/16/2007
Msg: 67 (view)
 
Feeling Lonely?
Posted: 6/9/2008 3:31:15 PM
Whats your destiny?

Relationships come and go, but what is that one quest that fuels your life more than anything else?

There is no such thing as a average 9-5 life. With all those people you are not lonely but rather bored. I'm not talking about a career but something where you leave you mark on this world.
 iamasiam
Joined: 2/16/2007
Msg: 264 (view)
 
What is a Real Man?
Posted: 5/26/2008 3:28:03 PM
Wow, how come this thread is attracting so much energy?
 iamasiam
Joined: 2/16/2007
Msg: 234 (view)
 
Caucasian Women + Indian Guys
Posted: 5/1/2008 5:21:53 PM
kickstartmyheart,

I am hoping that you are making some kind of satrical comment and not serious. BTW did you know that North Indians used to be termed Aryans?
Race is the human evolution to deal with the worlds different climates and environments. At the DNA level large parts of the world are already mixed up.
Though it seems that some peoples minds do not seem to evolve.

Luckly the world is not "I".
 iamasiam
Joined: 2/16/2007
Msg: 154 (view)
 
Will a very attractive woman really fall for an average guy?
Posted: 4/26/2008 2:59:55 PM
The original title of the post is rather a misleading title. It is assuming that an attractive woman has never ever in the history of mankind fell for an average guy.

It seems that the notion of attraction has been attracted to the ego these days, turning simple tasks into rediculous missions. There are far to many rules and regulations regarding the most basic human instincts created out of the ego.

As long as you have a honest intention and respect for her you need go forward with some animal instinct. You will become aware of this once you stop using your ego and fear.
 iamasiam
Joined: 2/16/2007
Msg: 55 (view)
 
Males rating pictures.
Posted: 10/14/2007 1:36:01 PM
Rating is over rated.
 iamasiam
Joined: 2/16/2007
Msg: 105 (view)
 
y do woman say looks dont count its whats in side that dose
Posted: 10/13/2007 3:31:53 PM
yaba daba do

In and out are not mutually exclusive. I've seen so called average looking people become highly attractive as soon as the began to speak and move in a certain way.

So do what you can about the outside, however spend more time becoming all that you can be. Attraction is a form of radiation.
 iamasiam
Joined: 2/16/2007
Msg: 62 (view)
 
What are men really looking for on these sites
Posted: 9/16/2007 2:22:36 PM
Some people do not know what they want and sometimes they do not know what they have.
 iamasiam
Joined: 2/16/2007
Msg: 512 (view)
 
Why men don't date strong women...
Posted: 9/8/2007 5:50:22 PM
Why insecure men don't date secure women?

 iamasiam
Joined: 2/16/2007
Msg: 311 (view)
 
Dating Someone With A High IQ
Posted: 9/8/2007 5:43:35 PM
IQ is a load of BS.

As long as the communication between two people are in sync, intelligence scores do not matter.

I came across a few guys who's only reason for joining mensa was so that they can impress to get a date.
 iamasiam
Joined: 2/16/2007
Msg: 753 (view)
 
Why do hot girls never give a chance to an average looking guy?
Posted: 9/8/2007 5:33:29 PM

Hot girls want hot guys
Not very ying yang, would it not be better to say hot girls want cool guys?
 iamasiam
Joined: 2/16/2007
Msg: 439 (view)
 
David Deangelo Double Your Dating - Any feedback?
Posted: 9/8/2007 5:31:40 PM
I would like to point out that if any person that has a full proof system on anything will never sell the entire system. Regardless of how much people a willing to pay.

lol swspice, did you have to slow down for the guy and say something like are "you on step 12 yet or should I wait until you get there?" lol

In this world of quick ad-libs, keeping scores and what the other person thinks driven attitudes, people seem to forget that this thing of dating is a very natural instinctive process.

First thing is to start living your life to the max, making decisions where you have no regrets, becoming all that you can be. Once you start realising such simple life goals your "communication" gets better because it is cleaner.

This is not difficult. Sure you may have go against what the media and society say you must be. But life is an adventure.
 iamasiam
Joined: 2/16/2007
Msg: 747 (view)
 
Why do hot girls never give a chance to an average looking guy?
Posted: 8/14/2007 2:54:12 PM
umm, I mean what I said. That is what some guys mentally seem to be when they start to bs themselves in what is possible in life.

It probably why the hot girls stay away from them, the smell you know...lol
 iamasiam
Joined: 2/16/2007
Msg: 742 (view)
 
Why do hot girls never give a chance to an average looking guy?
Posted: 8/14/2007 9:09:20 AM
Why do hot girls never give a chance to a self-defecating, poor spirited, "why me" guys?

 iamasiam
Joined: 2/16/2007
Msg: 43 (view)
 
Best way to break up with a guy - advice needed!
Posted: 8/14/2007 3:14:39 AM

It's obvious he paid for European trip, all expenses. Also, you have failed to play new numbers on his head, for further all expenses pay vacations. And he has stopped you from having a free ride on his bank accounts. Gravy train is gone and now you want out to find another sucker. In a nutshell...he's on to you and dislikes you with a passion. He is mad for being blinded, all for the sake of some crappy tang.

For someone to come to that conclusion a person would have to collate all the experiences of the relationship and know the persons in an external context to a relationship.

From the little information, it appears that the guy thinks he is the victim, so going to accusing route will only create "drama". A way would be to unsell yourself from the relationship. Come to a mutal understanding that you both would be better not in a relationship.
 iamasiam
Joined: 2/16/2007
Msg: 270 (view)
 
Attractiveness scale.....(what do you think??)
Posted: 8/14/2007 2:47:08 AM

I must be really ugly then in real life since no girls are interested in me at all, not even 0 out of 10 ones on the attractiveness scale.


Smash your face a few times in to the wall, makea few cuts here and there. Ross stop giving a damn what girls think you are, things can be a whole lot worse. Enjoy the time now because you never know what may happen tomorrow. Have you tried women as a opposed to girls?

I've had girls go eeewww when they walk past me, and a bunch of other strange comments. So I would not worry about it.
 iamasiam
Joined: 2/16/2007
Msg: 625 (view)
 
Internet dating: sucks for guys, good for women.
Posted: 7/23/2007 2:12:08 PM
"Dating sucks for guys, good for women" - circa, before the Internet.
 iamasiam
Joined: 2/16/2007
Msg: 242 (view)
 
People who just write how are you
Posted: 7/23/2007 2:07:08 PM
Ring, ring, ring.....are you going to pick up?
 iamasiam
Joined: 2/16/2007
Msg: 82 (view)
 
Race: The Power of An Illusion
Posted: 7/21/2007 3:50:18 PM
If it helps everyone should remove their skins, this should solve a lot of the problems, or will their still be problems because of how people behave?

Lucky nobody lives forever. Now that is fairness.
 iamasiam
Joined: 2/16/2007
Msg: 162 (view)
 
Is being Physically Ugly a Curse ?
Posted: 7/21/2007 3:33:19 PM
Anytime anyone says you are ugle just reply with "ok so now what?".
This breaks their circuit of thought. Because at the end of the day your looks(valued by others) do not stop you from doing and changing the world.

People seem to get stuck in a rut of what does not really matter in the bigger picture. This wastes valuable time and energy.

One more point IF you want to stop traffic you do not have to be gorgeous, just pull your pants down or something. That was the original intention, the need for attention was it not?
 iamasiam
Joined: 2/16/2007
Msg: 30 (view)
 
self-esteem (could questions)
Posted: 7/17/2007 4:08:10 PM

Well me being me with my warped sense of humour would probably say.... oooh thankyou for the compliment lol


Bravo
 iamasiam
Joined: 2/16/2007
Msg: 1710 (view)
 
Why Do I See More Caucasian Men Dating Asian Women?
Posted: 7/17/2007 4:05:38 PM
Lets try a more challenging question. lol

Why Do I see More Men Dating Women?
 iamasiam
Joined: 2/16/2007
Msg: 41 (view)
 
Racial Discrimination
Posted: 7/17/2007 3:54:03 PM
Let me see if you mix some red/orange and black you get brown.

Maybe you took his comment to seriously, he could of been talking about his teletubby friends, or his friends were called Mr Black, Mr Pink, Mr Yellow, Mr White.
Don't waste so much energy on such things. You know there are other people to converse with.
 iamasiam
Joined: 2/16/2007
Msg: 28 (view)
 
self-esteem (could questions)
Posted: 7/17/2007 3:40:16 PM
Self-esteem is not really an issue once people realise that this is it. This is the only life you going to get to live. A person's value is here and now, not yesterday or tomorrow. Cruel people tend to be more cruel to themselves in their heads, it's nothing personal. They are just bored and don't know what to do.
 iamasiam
Joined: 2/16/2007
Msg: 102 (view)
 
Is being Physically Ugly a Curse ?
Posted: 7/17/2007 3:26:51 PM
It takes balls, confidence, courage, sincerety, class, a rather unique view of the world, not take anything for granted to live in a world where others treat a person in a negative way based upon the way they look.

I saw a one armed midget once walk with more grace, confidence and self-respect than most people I see in the average street. You could see people when they looked at that guy with a certain respect towards the midget, no funny faces or anything.

Nothing is really a curse, because nothing really lasts forever.

 iamasiam
Joined: 2/16/2007
Msg: 222 (view)
 
Interracial Dating....
Posted: 7/12/2007 4:06:09 AM

Thats right Miss England go date the race that causes more crime ,AIDS cases, and trouble in this country than any other race and as for your comment saying I have differant blood than white blood i know my full ancestry and its 100 percent white pal.
If you wish to keep that belief then what ever you do never take a DNA test. You may end up getting yourself commited.
You come of as a very fearful person hiding behind angry poor beliefs. If feel sorry for you because your beliefs create the world that you live in. What a waste.
 iamasiam
Joined: 2/16/2007
Msg: 381 (view)
 
How do you tell if your a victim of Racism?
Posted: 7/12/2007 3:58:19 AM
You are a victim when you accept and decide to become a vicitm.
 iamasiam
Joined: 2/16/2007
Msg: 80 (view)
 
40 year old virgins
Posted: 7/10/2007 2:46:12 PM
Frankly this is a stupid thread with people showing their not so good judgemental natures. It begins to show how worthwhile a person is or not.
 iamasiam
Joined: 2/16/2007
Msg: 27 (view)
 
Are you where you thought you would be?
Posted: 7/10/2007 2:31:59 PM

Sadly, no....To this day I STILL dont have 30 half naked, anorexic, completely shallow, and sex crazed women fighting for my affections in the middle of the frozen food section in a supermarket. But one day....one day I tell you, it shall be mine!

Let me tell you anything is possible.
 iamasiam
Joined: 2/16/2007
Msg: 26 (view)
 
Are you where you thought you would be?
Posted: 7/10/2007 2:30:25 PM

I always had men following me around.
Sounds a bit creepy, is that all they did, follow you around?

I guess you were trying to find someone to baile la noche ausente.
 iamasiam
Joined: 2/16/2007
Msg: 25 (view)
 
Are you where you thought you would be?
Posted: 7/10/2007 2:15:41 PM

OMFG! A POSITIVE THINKING EXCERSISE! Do I smell "The Secret" hiding around the corner? You go ahead and think and feel all you want, I'll act and do. Even if I do not attain my goals, I bet I acheive more!
It could because what you think is all that you have control in life. Regardless of what happens you can either waste time feeling bad or spend time feeling good.
There is so much noise in this world, that you kind of have to tune and focus to certain markers so you know what to do.
 iamasiam
Joined: 2/16/2007
Msg: 46 (view)
 
How old are you when you can officially call yourself a spinster?
Posted: 7/8/2007 12:04:25 PM
Okay, I am ready to rid myself of the Spinster lable!
I am unmarried and tired of being considered a Spinster. Is there any really, really ridiculously rich man here on POF that would like to marry me? Just for like three years and/or until the life insurance policy is intact and I can kill you with some killer sex (pun intended). No prenuptials!
I don't mind if you leave a large chunk to your children, so long as I am well taken care of!
Any billionaires here that want to help me shed my Spinster title? Oh, yeah, there is still a clause that you have to be willing to put up with my dog.


Getting desperate are we?
Actually I saw a banner advert for a certain site for millionairematch somewhere. Maybe you could get luck and have your dreams come true?
 iamasiam
Joined: 2/16/2007
Msg: 10 (view)
 
Are you where you thought you would be?
Posted: 7/8/2007 11:56:57 AM
Guys try this, get a piece of paper and list the traits that you are looking for in a person, not just the pyhsical descriptions.
Imagine being with that person right now. This gets you psychologically tuned in.

Do this exercise ever week, you may end up updating a few of the details.

See what your results are end of the week.
 iamasiam
Joined: 2/16/2007
Msg: 92 (view)
 
Are there ANY social graces left in our society?
Posted: 7/8/2007 10:52:46 AM
Being socially gracefully apt is not that difficult, if a cold blooded killer like James Bond can do it so can anyone.

The chances are that people who do not demonstrate such graceful attitudes lack any experience in the value of such traits. They need people to open their minds not people looking disgust at them.
 iamasiam
Joined: 2/16/2007
Msg: 6 (view)
 
Are you where you thought you would be?
Posted: 7/8/2007 10:48:13 AM
Thank you guys for you replys.
The point was not having inflexible goals, but rather tuning our senses to specific traits. I know people who have been successful when they actually spent time deciding on the type of person they were after. Though the lenght of the relationship varies between a few months to a few years. But none are bitter about it as they know that they could easily move on and find the next one.
 iamasiam
Joined: 2/16/2007
Msg: 72 (view)
 
Doesn't anyone REALLY want to meet?
Posted: 7/8/2007 9:48:49 AM
One of the disadvanteages with free sites maybe that more people are more likely to piss around and less wanting to get things done. Where as on a paying site, time costs money, less time for messing people around.

Also one of the biggest factors that appears in a few posts is around the condition of FEAR of some sort.
 iamasiam
Joined: 2/16/2007
Msg: 40 (view)
 
How old are you when you can officially call yourself a spinster?
Posted: 7/8/2007 9:37:20 AM
As long as you are married to living a great life til death do you apart, who you are legally attached to is of little relevance. If some people cannot get that through their heads, well let them do the worrying then. As for all you beautiful ladies, remember life is about living. Not a compition to be married or not.
 iamasiam
Joined: 2/16/2007
Msg: 1 (view)
 
Are you where you thought you would be?
Posted: 7/8/2007 9:20:35 AM
Let say 10 years ago you had an idea, a goal of what type of relationship you would be in the future. Have you arrived at the intention today?
What about the idea you had 5 years, 2, years and a year ago?

A lot of where we are today is based upon the intentions we had when taking the actions that lead to the current outcome.

Ask yourself could you really be in a better relationship, if so what would you do about it today?

For example did you ever meet your dream person that you visioned years ago?
If not would you you have needed to do? Be cautious, there is a difference between improving yourself for the better and changing yourself for another person because the need to prove to them. It's a very thin line.

PS if this post gets deleted because it was no "can person of color/height/religion/species date person x" type question...well there you go.
 iamasiam
Joined: 2/16/2007
Msg: 87 (view)
 
Proud to be British
Posted: 7/7/2007 3:47:51 AM

i am proud to be English and proud to be British and yet i am not proud to be European at all. i am proud to be a citizen of the world, but i am not sure it is a reason to be proud.
iamasian i am not sure of the relevance of the bird in this arguement, i mean i do understand the point that you are making, but birds are not really comparable to human beings. they do not come and queue at the welfare offices, they do not carry weapons, they are not normally terrorists. much as i would love to agree with you in your idea of utopia and a world without borders it will never happen. man has never been capable of uniting in such a manner even in times of world war some countries side with each party and some remain neutral.


lol, utopian? I've not mentioned that. All I have said that concepts such as countries are irrevlent in the grand scheme of things. A natural disaster, a astroid is not going to give a damn which country it targets.
And the thing about the bird, well I was in the train and two pigeons decided to hope a ride in the carriage for the next stop. Lazy birds. lol

Also no one has yet told me what it means to be proud of nation x. As such some people lack a clear definition they get it confused with ideas such as nationalism.

Are not countries just big football teams in the end?
 iamasiam
Joined: 2/16/2007
Msg: 50 (view)
 
Proud to be British
Posted: 7/6/2007 4:31:20 AM
Can someone define what is means to be proud of nation X?
I hope people realise that in the end countries are just made up. Does a bird give a damn which country it is flying over, does it need a passport?
 iamasiam
Joined: 2/16/2007
Msg: 29 (view)
 
Are recovering alcys or addicts a turn off?
Posted: 7/4/2007 2:43:28 AM
Why do you want to become a recovering alcy?
Do you mean that you USED to be an alcy?
The way we use langauge is deep within our belief systems, which in turn determines how we act.
 iamasiam
Joined: 2/16/2007
Msg: 13 (view)
 
Is the romance novel female pornography ?
Posted: 6/30/2007 2:50:16 PM
umm, reading is a visual thing. You have to reference the words to created and remebered images. Then put those images into sequence which can be conciously understood.

Would a romance novel work if it was written in a more manual/step by step way?
For example
1. Man enters the room
2. Woman sees the man
3. Woman then access the internal memory.
3. Woman then searchs the memory to locate memories that define her emotional reactio.....

It is more to do with the style and flow in creating the reactions in the visual part of the brain. It is this natural flow in the memory that gets women going, I think.

Anyway this is all my opinion as I am just a guy.
 iamasiam
Joined: 2/16/2007
Msg: 157 (view)
 
Unrealistic Expectations
Posted: 6/30/2007 2:38:48 PM
This nice guy finishing last is a load of bs.

The nice guy thinks he finishs last because that is the only description that he is labeling and becoming.

Thats nice. That sounds, well boring on its own.

Those guys need to add more details to the description, i.e person x is intriguing, mysterious, confident...and also a nice person.

People who are more do not try. They do.

Also most women are not a ridged in their expectations, that is more for security. Nothing lasts forever, things always change. A person needs to change and continue to become more.
 iamasiam
Joined: 2/16/2007
Msg: 86 (view)
 
since when does no reply equal racist?
Posted: 6/30/2007 2:30:16 PM

Remember in grade school when we played the “telephone” game? All the children would sit in a circle and the first one would say a phrase. Each student would pass on what they heard from the previous person. The last person would then say out loud what they heard. Of course in the end, what was originally said "resembled nothing" around the final outcome of what was heard.

Sound familiar???

This thread started out as an idiot response and quickly turned into a race issue where th OP is accused of being a racist….

Called Chinese whispers.

Humans have a habit of going of topic,
damn it's raining hard here....
 iamasiam
Joined: 2/16/2007
Msg: 18 (view)
 
Do you want to be seduced?
Posted: 6/30/2007 7:57:23 AM

Do you want to be seduced?


So what have you got in mind?


Why is it never that simple in real life?
 iamasiam
Joined: 2/16/2007
Msg: 47 (view)
 
40 year old virgins
Posted: 6/30/2007 7:46:14 AM
Self respect is more important than the desperation of losing it.
Any person who judges a person in a dis-respectful way because lack of experience is not worth the time.
It could be that some guys comes across too many bad attituded women, so never get the chance. Frankly considering some of the attiudes of posts in these forums I am not supprised that they are still virgins.
 iamasiam
Joined: 2/16/2007
Msg: 71 (view)
 
Would you date someone who believes in evolution? creation?
Posted: 6/24/2007 3:28:03 PM
I think I will start a new religion.

And in regard to this issue my decree will be "WHO gives a damn how we got here, what matters is what we do here now"
I think if we stopped wasting time arguing who is right or wrong and spent more time living and doing we could get a lot more done in our short life's.
 iamasiam
Joined: 2/16/2007
Msg: 51 (view)
 
Is Chivalry Dead
Posted: 6/24/2007 3:17:07 PM
This equality thing is a load of bs. It is no where written in stone that everyone is equal. However it is in our way we respect ourselves and others is where real equality lies.
So things like kindness, sincererty, being polite and helpful, opening doors etc shows that we treat others with respect and EQUALITY. It cannot be a sign that the other person is weaker.
People can easily get sucked into the social retarded mob mentality thinking. But if people stopped and actually thoughts about things....
 iamasiam
Joined: 2/16/2007
Msg: 17 (view)
 
Why are women so mean....
Posted: 6/24/2007 5:00:38 AM
Here is little trick to deal with such women.

Relax. Look into her eyes, but not in a psycho way. Imagine that you are turning her on making her feel good. Imagine there are only the two of you there. Don't aim to make long winded conversations. Notice that she is human and appreciate that fact. Then begin saying something in a few words as possible, like "I imagine that you could be a great person to spend some time with.".

It is not difficult, just try not to over think things.
 
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