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Msg: 193 (view)

Problems Logging In? Posted: 8/26/2008 8:14:48 PM
The past two days I've been having trouble logging in, with the exception of the forums. Tried several times tonight....!

Joined: 2/17/2007

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Relationships as investments? Posted: 6/1/2008 7:52:50 PM
Love is NOT an investment in my opinion. Spending time with someone may or may not turn into a long term thing; this is why we (some) of us fail in our relationships early on; we simply expect too much. Investing, to me concerns money, stock, etc. One day at a time, whatever happens, happens. I had to learn that the hard way, as usual. This is just my take on it.

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Msg: 814 (view)

Ever feel like your going to be alone forever? Posted: 2/23/2008 10:17:05 PM
response to Mr. Ivan msg 790: I agree that we shouldn't let a good chance at a relationship slip away yet none of us knows that we'll be alone for the rest of our lives.........if it's meant to happen it will; we just have to 'let someone special IN', which is what we're not doing in the real world....sad.

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Msg: 700 (view)

Ever feel like your going to be alone forever? Posted: 1/19/2008 9:18:58 PM
Amazing we're replying to SweetKristine who posted the 'alone forever' in 2005, God love 'er, hope she's still not alone. I was married 16 years, yeah feeling alone in my marriage; not to put him down but he wasn't a cuddler and I like cuddling, that exchange of energy and love! Tonight I made dinner for a female friend who's been living away, realizing I don't do enough of contacting other female friends or platonic male friends to do this sort of thing more often. So many couples I've seen over the years are staying together for various reasons mainly to live a life to which they've because accustomed, ie., wealth or to avoid being alone. People need to enjoy living in their 'own skin' before choosing to settle on just anyone. I value my time alone but lately I really miss that special guy who I haven't met (yet) to go to sleep with, mostly to feel comfortable with. We all know that certain feeling.

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Msg: 29 (view)

Advice on what a girl should do when a guy wants his space Posted: 1/15/2008 3:26:43 PM
I'm a person who totally needs her space, I'd welcome a guy wanting his own space. It depends on a couple of things, ie., were you together all the time and he wasn't getting his own 'stuff' done? Or do you have too much time on your hands? Everyone needs their space to have alone time such as doing paperwork, taking a walk through the park by him(her)self, sorting stuff out, figuring out "is this the person for me"? Give him space, however not before asking a question re "are we ok"? or "are you thinking about our relationship"?.......better have a straight answer before gallavanting off to meet someone else to date. Ya know, we just KNOW when the time to continue a relationship or to begin severing (it) is happening. Just make yourself busy with work, walks, the gym, take a course; there's nothing like making ourselves happy first, we can contribute more to a friendship, or whatever when we don't expect MORE than the other person involved can give. Just something t o think about none of us know the exact circumstances in your message.

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Msg: 49 (view)

women scared of a relationship Posted: 1/15/2008 8:18:35 AM
Well, it's good to read this post; I've been doing the same thing......! The "come here, go away" thing is 1) wanting a partner and 2) fear of giving up what I have. It's not a materialistic thing, it's a fear of being 'taken over' by 'him'....I tend to draw jealous, obsessive types for whatever reason. Go figure!

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Msg: 107 (view)

how do i prove myself? Posted: 1/9/2008 8:01:04 PM
READ again messages 41 written by Tinky 2 and the msg 42. (great responses). Best thing to do is to stop judging this young woman.....and the ones who are......go look in the mirror and think about your own lives. For God's sake stop the judging!

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Msg: 2653 (view)

GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage? Posted: 1/1/2008 5:37:28 PM
Re Msg 8: Tictactoe: Thank you, thank you for your response as it shows your calibre as a respectful human being. Your last sentence is what grabbed my attention! Someone, somewhere will be very happy to have you as her partner. Enough said, the hurt I experienced was overwhelming.

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Msg: 2652 (view)

GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage? Posted: 1/1/2008 5:35:59 PM
Re Msg 8: Tictactoe: Thank you, thank you for your response as it shows your calibre as a respectful human being. Your last sentence is what grabbed my attention! Someone, somewhere will be very happy to have you as her partner. Enough said, the hurt I experienced was overwhelming.

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Msg: 893 (view)

Must have job, car, house...are they after my cash? Posted: 12/17/2007 8:04:28 PM
Msg 18 (newfiebabe) You have made excellent choices and remarks, the best I've read so far. It shouldn't matter what a guy has as long as he's on the right track, ie., becoming educated to earn the money one needs to purchase a car and a house. We work hard and smart to gain these commodities, we women simply would like to meet someone comparable. Men and women seem to want the same things in life; nothing comes easy. There will always be people out to marry into money, that's life, there'll always be golddiggers, men and women alike. As for me, I'll take quality over quantity, anyday, anytime......that's just me...I just have to make my own money on my own, not looking for anything shallow.

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Msg: 1234 (view)

older women younger men Posted: 12/14/2007 8:15:18 PM
You know this is 2007, therefore why are we even debating age differences? If I, you, we, are attracted to someone there shouldn't be any reason possible NOT to 'go for it'.....whether it's a sexual relationship or friendship which can lead into a LTR. The term "robbing the cradle" is assinine and outdated! There are 40, 50, 60+ women who think, look and ARE great in their intelligence, appearance and demeanors. If there's an attraction and the guy isn't too young, why not, men have been doing this for years, and years and it's rarely questioned. There's a definite attitude which has prevailed for too damn long re older women going out with younger men. I can't stand the double standard; it's not always for sex, it's enjoying each other's company, doing things together. There has to be an attraction. Period....it's time we stopped debating the older women, younger men thing. If the possibilities are there between two people, just simply GO FOR IT, FOR WHATEVER REASON.

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feelin lonely Posted: 12/3/2007 3:27:58 PM
Vinny1234 has posted a fabulous suggestion, "step back and find out how to be happy by yourself or you won't make anyone else happy". I agree as it seems so many people who I know have never been without a partner since around 18yoa. Learn how to live in your own skin and then seek out who YOU WANT not someone to fill your needs. I on the other hand have taken the above advice to the nth degree! With me it's the other way around in that I'm so comfortable doing things on my own it would be hard to trade this way of living. Conclusion, nothin's easy!

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Msg: 128 (view)

What book changed your world? Posted: 10/29/2007 5:28:46 PM
The Power of Positive Thinking by Napolean Hill - Quote by Truman: " Adversity has within it the power of the equivalent or even greater benefit". I've brought that quotation with me for 20+ years. (pat the prob on the head, a good thing WILL follow. Really works for me. The Artists' Way......clears the way to allow freedom of the 'right side' to think without the crap of the analytical left hemisphere; allows a 'flow' or moment of the 'shift' to begin creating your sketch or poem. Thinking On the Right Side of the Brain....author uses Sperry's (1963) theory to teach drawing.

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Msg: 58 (view)

What is wrong with you people..There's not one thread on Liver and onions Posted: 9/23/2007 11:04:30 AM
Fry floured, seasoned (salt, pepper, paprika) liver in olive oil, loads of sliced onions - medium heat, when browned turn it over;.....fry bacon separately; lay the bacon slices on top, simmer a bit (5 mins); spoon your favourite spaghetti sauce over each slice, then grated cheese all over the top; simmer a little bit (covered) Voila! Fabulous!

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Is POF too good to be true? Posted: 9/21/2007 5:54:11 PM
I'm sorry I am probably just cracking up laughing after a very hard working day; maybe this is a joke, again I apologize, I cannot stop laughing. What does it matter if someone is a doctor or a lawyer? These people are so busy they can hardly find time to go for a coffee for 10 minutes. We women can make our own money and it's wonderful to find someone to spend time with; men don't have to have that 'ultimate' career to be sweet, kind and understanding. Those are the most important things in life; as long as they are doing something in their lives, retired or working. The main advantage of POF from my standpoint is to find a fabulous soulmate, out here in the real world or the virtual world. I guess it depends upon what each of us is looking for. Having said that I guess it's not so funny afterall.

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Msg: 47 (view)

Porridge that's not yukky! Posted: 8/28/2007 7:57:18 PM
Breakfast for one: Quaker Quik Oats 3/4 Cup Handful of frozen blueberries & an apple Cinnamon 1 c. of water Throw a chopped apple in the water, boil for 30 sec. Throw in the oats, turn heat to medium & stir to a real nice consistency (add little more water if it's too thick) Add the blueberries & cinnamon Place into a bowl, put a dollop of yogurt on top, sprinkle more cinnamon on top Add some milk. You're going to love this; you can add a banana or whatever as well.

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Msg: 112 (view)

If a guy went to jail for beating up his girlfriend... Posted: 8/15/2007 9:34:00 PM
EastSideEddie: I agree with you, totally, no one should slap or punch his or her partner. It begins with a tight squeeze on another's arm, then a kick, then a hard push until the partner's self esteem begins to fall bit by bit. And that's why one stays; after years of abuse he or she leaves not thinking they'll have anything to give to another.....they stay until they have nothing left. TechChick, get a life, open your eyes, begin to read and read some more. Obviously you're looking at life through rose tinted glasses. Maybe you are one of those who hear stories of abuse and ask "now what did she do to make him do that to her".

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Msg: 59 (view)

How is a man supposed to have confidence... Posted: 5/20/2007 9:52:35 PM
Without a picture posted I've spoken with a few men and actually met with two. They were great, sweet, confident, most of all, nice guys. They still send messages and phone calls which I return. Yes, I'll see them again. You know, here's a little tidbit about life; the more respect you give to people, young, old, good looking, and not so,..........you've won already. People who throw others away, and we have all done it, really lose out in the end. I have met jerks in my life, and I've thrown the sweetest people away to end up miserably, thinking what the hell did I do with my life.......................point is begin early, treat people with the best of care, if you don't get it back, walk away gracefully. Good night.........

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Msg: 247 (view)

What Are You Absolutely Snobbbish About? Posted: 5/16/2007 6:43:22 PM
To rk: There's a restaurant in Toronto that has absolutely fabulous Chinese food; we heard about it, located in where else but Chinatown; we hopped on the subway, found the restaurant, ordered even though the place was far from clean. What the heck, our food was served, we began to enjoy the purest of delicacies, my God it was thee best.....then we notice two****oaches having a fight in the middle of the floor - we looked at each other, looked at the roaches, looked at the people looking at the roaches, looked at the food and just ate til the cows came home. Were we snobby?....Nah, God only knows what we were eating but it was fantastic. We didn't get sick, we were snobs though, snobbed the little critters on the floor right through the meal............it was that or...throw up. That's my little bit for ya. PS......sneakers have to be worn.........if your excercising, walking, running....everything else looking great but the sneakers, yeah they look great worn a bit.

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Msg: 399 (view)

Looks really are everything.... Posted: 4/22/2007 9:49:18 PM
sdliebchen: I read your post, been thinking the same thing for years about the 'marriage material' thing or 'just humpable' - amazing! I could never understand the marriage material bit until you explained it, never really thought of it in that sense before. Thanks

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Msg: 184 (view)

It can happen to men too - no photo should mean no date !! Posted: 4/21/2007 9:18:55 PM
debwearsch: I agree that when a pic is posted and the person appears unattractive he or she isn't exhibiting the way they carry themselves and behave aka 'personality' which can only be seen and 'felt' when two people get together on their first meeting. And yes, I agree some very attractive people can become ugly with a bad personality. There are many, many sides to all of us given certain situations. And I'm sorry but the least attractive looking people should be given a chance, at least not be rude to them. I absolutely cannot understand how some men who don't take care of themselves want an absolute knock down gorgeous woman. Of course the same can be said for women. All of us are attracted at first to the person, but life is short so take the time to get to know the person, we then can find the attraction in his or her personality. We don't have to marry them or have a second date but learn something, just one thing, and be kind! Maybe the day will come that we'll need that from someone else. Just learn and run with it, not run away from it. I haven't posted a pic, I'm new at all of this; however my friends are saying, "do it", get your pic on there. I'm uncomfortable with it right now. In my job I always get asked, "by the way, do you mind if I ask you your age". Hate that question. Anyway, men my age are either dead or married. I'm so busy in my life I don't know what happened to the last 15 years. Just doing so much, running away from myself probably. Just joking. I've always dated men much younger so posting a picture taken yesterday will look alot younger than I am. I writing all of this realizing no one's going to read it because I don't have a pic posted. So to all of you good luck, happy fishing!

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Msg: 49 (view)

How is a man supposed to have confidence... Posted: 3/31/2007 9:57:58 PM
Shieldvulf, thank you; I have to comment here re "showing your genuine apprec for other people can keep a body happy and confident", brings me to BobBill's comment above about when he was in his hometown women liked him then joining POF or other dating services he didn't get that response: the problem with attempting to meet a partner online is that no one gets to "see" another's demeanor, the way they smile at others, the way one "is", their personality, kindness, sensuality in the moment, the way they carry themselves. All we see is a picture, sometimes without a smile, prob taken at Sears, their "everyday" expressions are not seen, their inner beauty isn't discovered, their all round "selves" can't be explored. what I like about Sparda7 is that this man is sensitive, he just wants to "know". If anyone blocked him because he asked a question, then there are alot of people who just haven't learned yet that life is so very important and each one in it has something to say. Maybe a little sensitivity within all of us could possibly land us our soulmate, isn't that what we are really looking for? I certainly had to learn that the hard way.........it took years, much hardship, learning, learning, and learning some more. Ya just can't put an old head on a young body (otherwise we'd keep doors open that we'd once closed). That's why so many are still single, we just don't give anyone a chance, not out there, nor 'in here'. It's just my opinion, what do you think? Anyone???

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Msg: 40 (view)

What Guys like and dislike in womens profiles Posted: 3/31/2007 8:50:53 PM
Not all women are alike; I thought those days were over when men were expected to the head over the household, feed the wife and kids. Today women work and are the head of their own house, even if they live only with their cat, dog, snake, whatever. The only high maintenance most women today need is some attention and lovin' and they give the equivalent, or am I just talking about myself. I don't watch soaps and if I did, it would be for the 15 min I have at home before I run back to work at my fabulous job that I gave to myself after busting my butt getting an education. I would not ever expect a white horse with a knight to come along and pay my way; just get off the damn horse and go to a movie with me. So women today are the same level with men; we work, pay our own way, create their own drama and conflict then apologize to the cat for taking it out on them, have their own sense of humor, are funny, serious, have bills, pay their own bills, have equity, do their own thing.....so I'm off my soapbox now and am going to bed.....g'nite.....PS I have no idea how to write a profile, I'm pretty new at this.

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Msg: 44 (view)

How is a man supposed to have confidence... Posted: 3/30/2007 7:52:10 PM
I was actually referring to Shieldvulf's reply.....(in my comment above). I go through days when my confidence level is zilch and other days I'm on top of the world. And yes, as a newcomer to POF it CAN really hurt when someone seems interested and then....nothing.....pooh...gone. I'd rather get "I'm not interested" than nothing at all. It is bloody rude. Good night. ps All I do is work, so this is actually a change in climate for me, finding out exactly what happens within the confines of a computer. I like it.

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Msg: 40 (view)

How is a man supposed to have confidence... Posted: 3/30/2007 7:36:40 PM
"Who's smarter than a sack of hammers"....I'm definitely going to use that one! I loved everything you had to say.......getting 'out there' definitely beats sitting here in a chair on Friday night. Fabulous advice! Cheers!

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Msg: 40 (view)

anyone know what to do for low back pain?? Posted: 3/24/2007 5:23:16 PM
See a registered massage therapist who uses swedish massage techniques to increase the parasympathetic nervous system responses (this decreases pain). Thumb kneading is excellent around the vertebrae; at home use a contrast hydrotherapy consisting of a cold jel pack for 10 minutes, then heat for 3-4 minutes, repeat twice and do this at least 3 times a day. This works! Also go swimming, alternate the cold pool water (10 min.), then whirlpool for 5-6 min. (do this 3 or 4 times). I learned well from my MT. It works, good luck and do not give up.

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