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alex_just_looking

Joined: 2/17/2007

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Question to all Border City POFs Posted: 7/29/2009 5:04:57 AM
You made the correct assumption. It would be fun to meet for the first time on a date in another country. Mind you down in Metro Detroit, another country is only 15 - 30 minutes away. As you can see by my join date, and forum postings, I had found someone but it didn't work out. This time around I'm going to be a little bit more choosy and play it much safer. Also it is not about finding Ms. Right, it is all about find Ms. Right for me. In other words, finding a perfect match is possible. Trying to find the perfect lady is impossible, because there is no such thing as the perfect man or lady. Thanks to those who understood my point.

alex_just_looking

Joined: 2/17/2007

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Question to all Border City POFs Posted: 7/27/2009 10:55:03 PM
Not trying to find a perfect Canadian match. Want to have a first date in Windsor, just across the border from Metro Detroit, with someone from Metro Detroit. If a crazy person had a criminal record and got a pardon, that pardon would show that they are A: Not lazy...perhaps the criminal record was for something stupid like smoking pot when they were in highschool. B: An American pardon allows them to apply for a passport, but that doesn't mean that they can cross into Canada. There is someone I know (thank goodness not a good friend, just someone I know), who can't cross into Canada because of his criminal record. Hopefully that clears things up.

alex_just_looking

Joined: 2/17/2007

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Question to all Border City POFs Posted: 7/27/2009 10:07:26 PM
This post is primarily for people who live in border cities. In my case Metro Detroit. (Pleasant Ridge/Ferndale area to be more precise) A friend of mine suggested a great idea to me to screen out the crazy people. Well perhaps not so much crazy, it does screen out the criminals and lazy people. This also allows me to find more adventurous people. Have your first date in Canada. Windsor is only 15 - 30 minutes away. Now we need a passport to cross. So if you are too lazy to apply for a passport, you are not someone I want to date. If you can't get a passport because of a criminal background...well do I really need to say it? Finally, we are all on POF to find the perfect match. I like someone who is adventurous, so if you are willing to cross into Windsor for a first date, then that's a good start towards an adventure. So fellow POF members, what is your take on this idea?

alex_just_looking

Joined: 2/17/2007

Msg: 69 (view)

When does a guy become an old man? Posted: 7/6/2007 4:21:37 AM
^^^^ To the above poster....thank you oh so much for making me laugh. I needed it this early morning. It woke me up better then coffee.

alex_just_looking

Joined: 2/17/2007

Msg: 51 (view)

When does a guy become an old man? Posted: 6/30/2007 10:51:01 PM
If the guy is old enough to be your father? What if he was only 13 years older than you? That is the age of some teenage fathers.

alex_just_looking

Joined: 2/17/2007

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Yes, I know, he's probably not interested but... Posted: 6/26/2007 5:04:35 AM
To Kit, Loved reading your profile. You must have spent a lot of time putting that "little" questionnaire together. Your point about being married could be quite true. To Diamond, Good point regarding "Hang Out". As a guy if I see hang out, well that's what I expect. To OP, Good idea to update your profile to reflect what you really want in a man.

alex_just_looking

Joined: 2/17/2007

Msg: 12 (view)

Where should a guy search for a real NSA encounter with a female(without getting harrassed by guys)? Posted: 6/5/2007 10:37:26 PM
To message # 9.... Too funny.

alex_just_looking

Joined: 2/17/2007

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As a guy, I find it offensive... Posted: 6/5/2007 9:35:32 PM
To the OP, it depends on how she asks. If she asks once, and doesn't go into 20 questions about my profession, then I'm not concerned she's a gold digger. If she probes too deeply, then I'd be concerned. Otherwise it is just an open conversation starter.

alex_just_looking

Joined: 2/17/2007

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What changes do I need? Posted: 6/3/2007 11:03:34 AM
Thank you for your help. Much appreciated. Changes have been done. I'll write a longer profile this week. A.

alex_just_looking

Joined: 2/17/2007

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What changes do I need? Posted: 6/3/2007 6:21:53 AM
Hello, I want to know if I should delete my June 1st and June 2nd updates. What else should I change to attract the following: 1. a lady who understands that my children are important 2. fun ladies who also know when to be serious 3. avoid drama queens thanks to all who reply.

alex_just_looking

Joined: 2/17/2007

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Widowed father, two little boys... wouldn't mind some advice... Posted: 5/26/2007 11:35:57 PM
Hello Peter, If I may suggest take one year away from dating. Spend that time with your two young sons and focus first on them, then on yourself. You have been one half of a complete circle. Now you should focus first on your family and learn to live by yourself first. I can empathize with your situation, and I'll probably never be in your situation as I'm already single right now. Rushing into dating again may send the message to your sons that you are trying to replace their mother. That would not be right for the new lady in your life to have the potential stepsons resenting a strange woman replacing their mother. Hopefully you have extended family on both sides able to help and assist you in your time of need. Warmest regards.

alex_just_looking

Joined: 2/17/2007

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Too many children? Posted: 5/26/2007 11:23:42 PM
This post was not to bash single moms. It was to ask your opinion. If I had to choose a future mate with children, it would be a whole lot less complicated to not have to deal with three different exes. (not to mention my ex). It is hard enough to try to schedule time alone with two single people, let alone having to co-ordinate times with four different exes, (children's visitation etc). In my opinion there are only TWO types of guys who want to date a woman who has three children by three different men, or more children with more than three men. 1.) Saints 2.) Guys looking for sex. As one guy told me when he was younger, he purposely only dated teenage/young twenty something single moms.....(as first I thought he was a saint), until he finished his sentence. "Dating single moms is great, cause you know they put out". Thank you to everyone for their opinions.

alex_just_looking

Joined: 2/17/2007

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Too many children? Posted: 5/26/2007 2:31:22 PM
Please do not put words in my mouth, even if they are in quotation marks. Thank you for your post, but please do not put words in my mouth.

alex_just_looking

Joined: 2/17/2007

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Too many children? Posted: 5/26/2007 2:13:37 PM
What do you consider to be too many children? Is it based upon your age? Is it based on if it's the same mother and father? or is it an absolute number? The reason I ask is because recently I was approached by a single mom. At first I was flattered as she is quite pretty and seemed quite intelligent. Then I discovered that: 1) She was 25 2) Has three children 3) All from different men. I'm so glad I found out before we met in person. Sorry, but there's something wrong with the picture (in my opinion) when you have three children by the age of 25, and with three different partners. I'm looking forward to other peoples opinions on this topic.

alex_just_looking

Joined: 2/17/2007

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cant talk on phone Posted: 5/26/2007 5:44:56 AM
Complete Message comprises of the following: Content (written or spoken words) = 10% Tone of voice = 40% Facial Expressions/Body Posture = 50% Therefore after a max of two weeks of emailing back and forth, I want to be able to speak to the person on the telephone. Otherwise you are only able to communicate 10% of your complete message. How many times have you tried to writing a funny email, only to have the other person perceive it in a different manner? That is why I think it is important to start talking on the telephone as soon as possible. That way you can determine if it is worth your time to continue. Why waste a lot of time emailing back and forth, takes time away from actual dating and living?

alex_just_looking

Joined: 2/17/2007

Msg: 16 (view)

Craziest sex positions Posted: 5/24/2007 10:59:03 AM
While driving down a country road. Almost lost control a couple of times.

alex_just_looking

Joined: 2/17/2007

Msg: 118 (view)

Your partner gets a lap dance from a stripper, is that cheating? Posted: 5/24/2007 10:57:04 AM
Quoting message # 99 "Why don't you "pay" your partner for a lap dance or vice versa... That could be a lot of fun! Role playing ... is where it's at... why play with others when you've got someone to play with at home." The problem is that sometimes you are with someone who does not think lap dances are fun, or that lap dances are nasty. In some cases they feel why tease, when you can just head straight to bed and have sex. Well sometimes as a guy (perhaps ladies feel this way too), that the tease/foreplay is just as important as the actual act. Had that problem. Hoping whoever I match up with in the future will enjoy giving and receiving erotic full nude dances to each other.

alex_just_looking

Joined: 2/17/2007

Msg: 117 (view)

Your partner gets a lap dance from a stripper, is that cheating? Posted: 5/24/2007 10:42:45 AM
To some of the other ladies: Same goes for you in terms of attractiveness. Mind you the most attractive item is your mind. I've seen some real beautiful ladies, but once I start talking with them it is obvious that all the beauty is on the outside, none on the inside. Oh btw, in Windsor, Ontario the lapdances are not like anywhere else....... The nick name for the full nude dances in Windsor are AIR DANCES. So there is no contact whatsoever.

alex_just_looking

Joined: 2/17/2007

Msg: 116 (view)

Your partner gets a lap dance from a stripper, is that cheating? Posted: 5/24/2007 10:35:43 AM
TO: sassyaquarius If I had a girlfriend looked like you, I'd wouldn't ever go to a strip club. Men usually only go to a strip club for one of three reasons usually. 1. They do not have a girlfriend/wife 2. They have a girlfriend/wife who no longer is attractive (physically) to him 3. Their girlfriend/wife is ignoring him, and not willing to be romantically physical with him.

alex_just_looking

Joined: 2/17/2007

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Sex & The Number Question Posted: 5/22/2007 10:26:00 PM
The number before me doesn't matter. It's the number of partners after me that matter. After she is in a relationship with me, there better be no new partners. What you did before you met your dream partner doesn't matter. What you do (and more importantly who you sleep with) after you meet you dream partner does matter.

alex_just_looking

Joined: 2/17/2007

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Sex Posted: 5/22/2007 8:13:49 PM
How many sex partners before you met does not matter. What does matter is that once you are together, that there are not any new sex partners. I for one could care less if she had slept with 25 guys before me. So long as when we start a serious relationship, that I'm the last guy she sleeps with. What happened before she met me doesn't matter. What happens after she meets me matters.

alex_just_looking

Joined: 2/17/2007

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Recieve email when someone ads you to favorites(3 per day max): Posted: 5/22/2007 8:07:41 PM
Should I create a new post for this? I have been added as a favorite, but the person doesn't email me or reply to my emails. So what exactly is the point of adding me as a favorite?

alex_just_looking

Joined: 2/17/2007

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Female molesters.................. Posted: 5/20/2007 10:14:53 PM
This will forever be a divider. Just like smokers vs. non-smokers rights. Pro-choice vs. Pro-force you to do what we want for you...sorry pro-life. Some will think that it's great...others will always say abuse.

alex_just_looking

Joined: 2/17/2007

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Female molesters.................. Posted: 5/20/2007 8:55:11 AM
Sorry, once the male can have an erection and able to ejaculate, he is no longer a child. I still remember being the lucky "child" who got the most amazing BJ when I was 15 from a 20 something. I was not traumatized. I thoroughly enjoyed it. If there was a condom, I would have had sex with her. To all the ladies out here who think that it is gross, get over it. There are some things that will always be a double standard. This is one of those times.

alex_just_looking

Joined: 2/17/2007

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would u date a former cutter???????????? Posted: 5/17/2007 6:36:59 AM
I for one would never allow a former anything near my children. Former cutter, former druggie, former alcoholic, etc. As an adult I can take care of myself, but children need protection. As a guy, it would not be the fact that you are a former cutter that would turn me off, but rather your profile. For someone who wants others to not care about you being a former cutter, you have a rather narrow view of who you would date. Good luck to you.

alex_just_looking

Joined: 2/17/2007

Msg: 82 (view)

Spousal Support Posted: 5/15/2007 11:29:05 PM
I have a client who is scary. He told me that if his wife ever left him that he'd do the following. Kill her, walk up to the closest police officer and turn himself in. Mandatory sentence is 25 years for 1st degree murder. You receive 1/3 off for mandatory parole. 1/3 off for good behavior. Double to triple time allowance for time served during the trial. All this because our prisons are overcrowded. So by his calculations, a typical murder trial is about 6 - 12 months long. 1/3 of 25 = 8 2/3 years. 12 months = 24 months. He figures he'll be out in six years. So six years of serving time. In the mean time his 401K would continue to grow in value. He wouldn't have to work two jobs to pay the ex while living in a tiny room because that would be all he could afford after paying her the huge alimony payments. Instead he would have the same tiny room also known as a 8 x 10 cell rent free. He's a scary mother F_ _ _ _ _!!! But I can understand his logic. Pay for life. Or be free in six years.

alex_just_looking

Joined: 2/17/2007

Msg: 30 (view)

Do single dads have a chance with girls without kids? Posted: 5/13/2007 10:12:12 AM
In my opinion so far, I've started to focus on finding women with children. Women without children are not interested in a man with children in my experience. I can understand the reasons why. 1. Women without children want to be able to go on a spur of a moment weekend trip. You can't do that with children. 2. Women without child(ren) [WWC from now on], do not want to be the evil step mother...for example Snow White's/Cinderella's step-mother. 3. WWC want to avoid the drama that may be present with the mother of the children. 4. WWC do not want to compete with the children for the attention of the father. 5. WWC want to build a future with the man exclusively. Now here are the benefits for WWC of dating a man with a child(ren). 1. No stretch marks. 2. All the benefits of having children with no labor pains. 3. The joys of having children without changing diapers. 4. When the child(ren) misbehaves, you can tell the father to deal with it and not feel one bit guilty...after all they are his responsibility, not yours. 5. To sum it up, WWC dating a man with children allows you to have all the benefits of having children, without none of the responsibilities. Signed, Single Dad. - Shared Joint Custody.

alex_just_looking

Joined: 2/17/2007

Msg: 119 (view)

dating your step sister Posted: 5/12/2007 8:41:59 AM
Definitions: Step = You have no blood relations with the person. Example: Your mother marries a man. He is your step-father. His children from a previous marriage are your step-brother or step-sister. Half= You share one parent. Example: Your mother marries a man. They have a child together. That child is your half-sibling. Dating a step-sister who you did not grow up with should be fine. I actually know one situation where a guy started to date a girl. They have an engagement party and their parents who are both single end up liking each other. Their parents are now married to each other. So that was the father-in-law marrying the mother-in-law.

alex_just_looking

Joined: 2/17/2007

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Proving legitmacy Posted: 5/11/2007 10:10:43 AM
If she blocked you because simply asked her to call you, then something seems fishy. Myself I hate spending any more then two weeks online typing messages. After two weeks I want to talk to the person, otherwise I lose interest. Studies have shown the following: Complete communication of your message is: 10% content 40% tone 50% body language So emails only give 10% of your overall message to the reader. good luck in your fishing

alex_just_looking

Joined: 2/17/2007

Msg: 41 (view)

Judge Sues Dry Cleaners for $65 Million Posted: 5/5/2007 11:45:51 AM
You make me ashamed to be Canadian. Who cares if it was third degree burns or 1st degree burns. The point is that the ditz put HOT coffee between her legs, and thanks to the stupid american legal system rewards stupidity. So if you want to make a quick million or two, find a situation that you can be hurt, and then sue for it because the company didn't bubble wrap your ass to protect you from stupidity. Half of the americans hate the legal system, the other half love it to make money. How about the stupid RV owner who actually won his court case. He put it on cruise control, then walked into the back to pour a drink. HE WALKED AWAY from the driver's seat while the RV was in motion!!!! He won! So maybe I should clean my extra large oven from the inside, inhale a little bit of toxic fumes and sue the oven manufacturer for not warning me against crawling inside the oven to clean it? Or perhaps I can sue DELL for not putting on a warning label to not use my laptop while sitting in a bathtub and being electrocuted. Actually in that case I guess it would be my children who would sue since I'd be dead from stupidity. Frivolous lawsuits!!!!!

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