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Joined: 2/18/2007

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Confused and Frustrated Posted: 3/3/2007 7:05:10 AM
ok...here is my dear john letter..hehe CHANGE YOUR PROFILE did we make that clear....sorry but it is pathetic! seriously...you are a nice looking guy...spruce your profile up a bit...make it fun and upbeat. now...back to your thread... you are mistaken...both women and men are in the same boat when we allow ourselves to be vulnerable to another. after a five yr relationship with the man i chose as my life partner...he wanted to be single and do whomever and whatever he wanted...i was blindsided... a whole year of debauchery!...haha....it was hell... but we are supposed to learn from our relationships... learn from our mistakes ...and others and happily move on.. that is the only difference...those of use who CAN live and learn and move on and those of us who CAN'T..

Joined: 2/18/2007

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all men out there tell me this Posted: 3/3/2007 6:44:38 AM
dear wandalee.b. i too will be honest with you....but must let you know that i feel sorry for you... for some reason, you feel that sex IS a relationship....sex is sex...unless it comes after a relationship has started. no matter who it is with...beit your ex's room mate or what have you. "YOU" TEACH PEOPLE HOW TO TREAT YOU! you obviously do not respect yourself...so how could anyone else respect you? i am not saying this to be mean..i am being honest.

Joined: 2/18/2007

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Cross your legs until he cancels his POF account#2! Posted: 3/1/2007 7:08:46 AM
in response to "ames" the whole start of this thread scared the crap out of me and made me almost want to delete my profile ....immediately!!... i am new at this and have wondered how i would feel if i actually were to meet someone i liked on here (though i am sceptical...i need the whole real life chemistry thing)....would either of us want to keep our profile on here...and how would i feel about that...THANK YOU ...this whole thread boils down to what you have said..."he trusts me"....trust....in yourself to make the proper choices in whom you choose to be with...and trust in that person once you have decided to be together. it shouldnt matter if he/she is still on dating sites...as long as everyone is up front and honest. i believe a woman "knows" if her man is truly "into" her...when in doubt...throw him out!

Joined: 2/18/2007

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single dad with 14yr old daughter. help me.... please Posted: 2/27/2007 6:59:59 PM
hi there tonypee well i can say i have some stern advise for you. i have a 15 year old daughter...i have been a single parent for most of her life...i am strict...yet fun...and loving...i did allow my daughter to stay home a couple times when she first got her period ...sort of to get used to it...then that was it!...get up...take an advil or 2...get going!...u arent dying...and if you think you are..we are going to the doctor and he can check you out!...needless to say...she didnt want that visit sooner than she has to! hehe the hicky!...omg...heads would be a rollin! you are the parent...take control...she needs a lifestyle change and you need to figure out what that is going to be...do not for a second think or care if she hates you...she will....for now...but she is your daughter...and she will someday have a daughter and know exactly why you behave the way you do..all will be forgiven...she will know you love her and care. ask her what she might be interested in...i have always had my daughter in sports...so she keeps busy and i attend whenever possible... now i have her in guitar lessons...she tried the dance stuff...not her thing...but ask your daughter if perhaps she might be interested in art..music..sports...anything...maybe make some family time....everyone works out together...walks together something along that line... we used to have game night..sounds corny...but she still talks about it...we would make junk food...invite friends and play board games every thursday..this way...she can invite the hicky giver over...haha...see how he likes hangin with dad and the brothers...u look good inviting him...but he probably wont be back..haha...hes gone and you arent the bad guy... perhaps make it a rule that if she is to see a boy it is at your house with your supervision...another good way to communicate and get less of a fight from a teenager is to ask "her" what she thinks her rules should be...she will say dumb things...then you tell her you are treating her with respect and you value her opinion but she has to be fair and adult like with her answer...you may be surprised with what she comes up with... there were a few times when my daughter was hanging with kids id rather she didnt...instead of saying she cant hang out with them...(the forbidden fruit thing)...i kept her busier..i got my friends and family involved...(which of course she didnt know about).....they then asked her to come over to help them do things...like babysit..clean the yard...clean the house...whatever...it worked...she was too busy and the bad crowd found "other" friends. in the end...all we can do is ...to do the best we can...teach them the best we know...and trust them...and feel good knowing we did all we could do to raise healthy well balanced children with good morals and values. good luck...and if all else fails...lock her up till shes done high school..hehe deb

Joined: 2/18/2007

Msg: 732 (view)

Why are older women not into younger guys??? Posted: 2/25/2007 6:56:32 AM
women DO date younger MEN..i havent read every entry...tho i didnt catch what you concider OLDER...at 19 you likely havent experience too much in your life...like hardship..heartbreak..real love..not lust...the ability to know the difference...i personally could not be with a 19 year old ...the youngest guy i dated was 26...but to a woman..its not the age...its life experiences and maturity levels...do they have a career...are they productive..do they have goals...you have to have something in common...and again...what do you at 19 concider DATING...?...

Joined: 2/18/2007

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Dates from Hell! Posted: 2/24/2007 10:48:41 AM
hi there rob...sooo sorry to hear about your date...hehe...(i mean snort snort).. i am new here so i am just getting onto these parts of the site so i am so late to reply to your post...very interesting..and funny. ive had a couple myself...tho ive never put myself in such a compromising position!... i remember meeting someone who drove 3 hours to meet me...it was awful...he lied about everything...im not a tall girl and he lied about his height..(who does that)..especially when you plan on meeting in person???...he was exactly as tall as me...and tho ive dated men the same height as me....that wasnt the issue...it was the lie...turned out to be a cowboy wannabe...but lived in toronto???...never rode a horse...but talked like he owned a ranch!...and tho we did talk on the phone...meeting in person is totally different...i wasted like 2 months on this guy...getting to know...who he wanted to be...not who he was..live and learn. all i can say is integrity...many of us think we have it...but placed in those types of situations...what do we do???...i wanted to be nice...but geesh...i dont tolerate liars. so in my nicest way possible...feeling bad that he drove 3 hrs and "hoped" i would like him...all 5'3"...cowboy hat...cowboy boots...and dont forget the big belt buckle...and anything else he thought he could offer...i told him to beat it!...no point leading him on!..haha dont get me wrong...i dig a man in the cowboy atire...when it is appropriate. and in your case...the kid!...omg!....i am a single mom and no one meets my kid...unless its very serious...or an accident...she is learning whatever i teach her....would i want her to behave that way..no!... all i have learned through meeting on dating sites...or blind dates set up by your friends...is just be as honest as possible...meet quickly if you are interested...too many misunderstandings and preconceptions in emails and instant messages...for me anyway...ive met men...as friends first...and usually...thats how we both like it to stay..hehe...sooo much in common...but no chemistry.

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