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mutabilis

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Why Are Over 45 Men In Love With Motorcycles? Posted: 5/19/2009 9:04:42 PM
LoveWordsAndMusic ^^^^ agree with what you wrote completely.

mutabilis

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My theory on why people call other people sluts Posted: 5/19/2009 9:02:13 PM
"Of course, the target is always women, since it's already obvious that men are sluts." Most men are sluts or a/k/a whoredogs but it's not all their fault, it's a part of their nature.

mutabilis

Joined: 2/18/2007

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Why do some younger men want to have sex with an older woman? Posted: 5/19/2009 8:52:23 PM
Have not read all 24 pages ....but this one is easy, it's all about confidence. Younger men are not secure with their sexuality and seem to think that an older woman will guide them with her knowledge. Just wish younger men would understand that not all older women desire to be a cougar.

mutabilis

Joined: 2/18/2007

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Joke of the day !! Posted: 2/20/2008 7:36:28 PM
My night began as any other normal weeknight. Come home, fix dinner, play with the kids. I then had the thought that would ring painfully in my mind for the next few hours: "Maybe I should pull the waxing kit out of the medicine cabinet." So I headed to the site of my demise: the bathroom. It was one of those "cold wax" kits. No melting a clump of hot wax, you just rub the strips together in your hand, they get warm and you peel them apart and press them to your leg (or wherever else) and you pull the hair right off. No muss, no fuss. How hard can it be? I mean, I'm not a genius, but I am mechanically inclined enough to figure this out. (YA THINK!?!) So I pull one of the thin strips out. Its two strips facing each other stuck together. Instead of rubbing them together, my genius kicks in so I get out the hair dryer and heat it to 1000 degrees. ("Cold wax, yeah...right!" I lay the strip across my thigh. Hold the skin around it tight and pull. It works! OK, so it wasn't the best feeling, but it wasn't too bad. I can do this! Hair removal no longer eludes me! I am She-rah, fighter of all wayward body hair and maker of smooth skin extraordinaire. With my next wax strip I move north. After checking on the kids, I sneak back into the bathroom, for the ultimate hair fighting championship. I drop my panties and place one foot on the toilet. Using the same procedure, I apply the wax strip across the right side of my bikini line, covering the right half of my hoo-ha and stretching down to the inside of my butt cheek (it was a long strip) I inhale deeply and brace myself....RRRRIIIPPP!!!! I'm blind!!! Blinded from pain!!!!.....OH MY GAWD!!!!!!!!! Vision returning, I notice that I've only managed to pull off half the strip. CRAP! Another deep breath and RIPP! Everything is spinning and spotted. I think I may pass out...must stay conscious...must stay conscious. Do I hear crashing drums??? Breathe, breathe...OK, back to normal. I want to see my trophy - a wax covered strip, the one that has caused me so much pain, with my hairy pelt sticking to it. I want to revel in the glory that is my triumph over body hair. I hold up the strip! There's no hair on it. Where is the hair??? WHERE IS THE WAX??? Slowly I ease my head down, foot still perched on the toilet. I see the hair. The hair that should be on the strip...it's not! I touch. I am touching wax. I run my fingers over the most sensitive part of my body, which is now covered in cold wax and matted hair. Then I make the next BIG mistake...remember my foot is still propped up on the toilet? I know I need to do something. So I put my foot down. SEALED SHUT!!!! MY BUTT IS SEALED SHUT! SEALED SHUT!!!! I penguin walk around the bathroom trying to figure out what to do and think to myself "Please don't let me get the urge to poop. My head may pop off!" What can I do to melt the wax? Hot water!! Hot water melts wax!! I'll run the hottest water I can stand into the bathtub, get in, immerse the wax-covered bits and the wax should melt and I can gently wipe it off, right??? WRONG!!!!!!!****** I get in the tub - the water is slightly hotter than that used to torture prisoners of war or sterilize surgical equipment - I sit. Now, the only thing worse than having your nether regions glued together, is having them glued together and then glued to the bottom of the tub...in scalding hot water. Which, by the way, doesn't melt cold wax. So, now I'm stuck to the bottom of the tub as though I had cemented myself to the porcelain!! God bless the man who had convinced me a few months ago to have a phone put in the bathroom!!!!! I call my friend, thinking surely she has waxed before and has some secret of how to get me undone. It's a very good conversation starter...... "So, my butt and hoo-ha are glued together to the bottom of the tub!" There is a slight pause. She doesn't know any secret tricks for removal but she does try to hide her laughter from me. She wants to know exactly where the wax is located, "Are we talking cheeks or hole or hoo-ha?" She's laughing out loud by now...I can hear her. I give her the rundown and she suggests I call the number on the side of the box. YEAH!!!!! Right!! I should be the joke of someone else's night. While we go through various solutions. I resort to trying to scrape the wax off with a razor Nothing feels better than to have your girlie goodies covered in hot wax, glued shut, stuck to the tub in super hot water and then dry-shaving the sticky wax off!! By now the brain is not working, dignity has taken a major hike and I'm pretty sure I'm going to need Post-Traumatic Stress counseling for this event. My friend is still talking with me when I finally see my saving grace....the lotion they give you to remove the excess wax. What do I really have to lose at this point? I rub some on and. OH MY GOD!!!!!!! The scream probably woke the kids and scared the dickens out of my friend. Its sooo painful, but I really don't care. "IT WORKS!! It works!!" I get a hearty congratulation from my friend and she hangs up. I successfully remove the remainder of the wax and then notice to my grief and despair.... THE HAIR IS STILL THERE.......ALL OF IT! So I recklessly shave it off. Heck, I'm numb by now. Nothing hurts. I could have amputated my own leg at this point. Next week I'm going to try hair color......

Mutabilis

Joined: 2/18/2007

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To go grey or not? Posted: 2/9/2008 9:22:29 AM
I am wanting to let my hair go grey...see what it looks like... If you don’t like it you can always color it again. Why not see what it looks like? Several of my friends have some gray hair and it actually looks highlighted.

Mutabilis

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active men and very inactive women over 50 Posted: 2/9/2008 8:57:53 AM
In my neck of the woods there are many men who won't/can't be active. Your sister should be a welcomed relief to a lot of men. ^^^ What she said...and she's only looking for ONE man right?

Mutabilis

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people who pretend to be something they're not Posted: 2/9/2008 8:50:49 AM
I feel so decieved after talking in ims with him for a half hour Thirty minutes doesn’t seem like much of an investment in time, at least not to me. Am I wrong in being angry at him for lying That’s for you to determine; however, I would certainly not be angry.

Mutabilis

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awkward question about smallness Posted: 2/7/2008 6:59:04 PM
I can't imagine my mother and her friends talking about penis size in 1972, but today, I can't imagine people not talking about it. Oh yes, you must be right.... women in general didn't share nearly as much as they do today. Today, men should probably have their penis size tattooed to their forehead as well as women the size and shape of their vagina since according to your statement you can't imagine people not talking about it. Well I think not, there are many young females, middle age and elderly that do NOT discuss penis size nor anything that goes on behind closed doors most especially about a S/O. It might be due respect for their partner and themselves. I noticed that most of the people offended by my question are considerably older than myself It seems to me that older individuals just might be a little more candid expressing their opinions in an effort to provide you some guidance. Younger ones tend to ask what is or what is not appropriate since they still are in the developmental stage. These older individuals could possibly have a daughter or two, plus their friends and know that even today, such topics are not discussed. I'm glad we've got you here to show us how classy we can all aspire to be. Anytime. You’re very young OP and I truly do not mean to offend you personally but rather am trying to provide you some adult knowledge. As time passes you will come to learn that those special in your life, such as your boyfriend, are to be respected.

Mutabilis

Joined: 2/18/2007

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awkward question about smallness Posted: 2/6/2008 9:16:35 PM
If he is itsy bitsy like the OP's man, we tell our friends. And the we all laugh. LMAO I wonder if young men compare vagina sizes / shapes and all laugh. Once was told about one woman in town being a wide receiver and he laughed.... guess it takes all types to discuss such personal and private matters. But of course, I'd never consider him a REAL man such as I wouldn't ever consider a female a REAL woman that would discuss same, irregardless of age. I've noticed that only children or those that lack class will discuss such matters.... but who knows.. different strokes for different folks, but certainly not my type; I prefer classy individuals.

Mutabilis

Joined: 2/18/2007

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awkward question about smallness Posted: 2/6/2008 8:37:59 PM
I did a search for this thread assuming that many other people have talked about this topic, but none and that is due that some things are better left unsaid... Probably 3 1/2 inches. Like I said, somethings are better left unsaid or strictly between the couple...such as penis size. Part of the reason it's a problem is that both of us could stand to lose a few pounds So maybe drop a couple of pounds, doesn't seem that the size of his penis is all the problem. It's logistically hard to have sex with a small penis Nope... I'm much older than you OP, been with a few ~ different sizes~ and the best times have been with what might be termed as small. It's those super sizes that I would think are a problem. My friends and I don't discuss our past or present men's penis sizes, never have and never would... it sort of bothers me that you would bring attention to your boyfriend's size and I most certainly hope he never reads this thread. Dated a guy briefly, way back when and the big turn off was he telling me about different women's vaginas ~ shapes / depth / width ~ was a huge turn off... Somethings are just private, this being one... As to positions, read a good book or just become creative, naturally.... it's all in the mind.

Mutabilis

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How do you get over someone Posted: 2/6/2008 8:09:23 PM
What were somethings that you did in your healing stage that helped you the most. Burn bridges completely ~ make it final... No communication and look in the mirror every morning and say I don't love/care for so and so ~ Condition yourself...

Mutabilis

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How can you tell on a first date if there are sparks? Posted: 2/6/2008 7:57:16 PM
What is a spark and how do you determine this spark? It's just something you feel, it's either there or not there. Although, a spark does not guarantee a connection which can take time, atleast for me.

Mutabilis

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WHY DID HE STOP CALLING? Posted: 1/23/2008 7:01:34 PM
after blowing up my cell phone, home phone and email here @ POF for a month....POOF He has disappeared. One month, ONLY? I thought the first six months to a year or so was still getting to know one another. After only one month I would think that he doesn’t owe you anything as far as an explanation as to “why” he has decided to disappear. Now if it were two, three or five years, I might have a different opinion, but only one month… No, doesn’t owe you anything nor you him. But that’s just my opinion. Good luck OP.

Mutabilis

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Do I contact him or wait? Posted: 1/23/2008 6:04:45 PM
But if its divorce and that means total separation of each other Yes, I agree providing that there were no children born due to the result of their marriage. the OP picked her ex over some one she had been seeing for 7 years thattells me she didnt care that much for that person or she would have considered his feelings all so. I consider her a self center b===h Taking care of a person while they die, watching their body shut down is no easy task and being self centered does not even enter the situation, it’s not about “self” it’s about the dying / other person and the child or children that the couple brought into this world. now if i meet some one new hell no i would not be thier for her Nice….and I would think that the flip side, her not being there for you, would also be acceptable behavior. (?) the guy would be a fool to take her back as she showed that she is out for just her self with no consideration for any one else. Her consideration was to take care of a dying ex spouse that was ALSO the father of her child; there was no thought of her SELF. If any one was thinking only “self” it would appear that it was the boyfriend. OP did was she HAD to do, if not for her ex spouse but for her / their child. IMO

Mutabilis

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Can we really believe the Bible? Posted: 1/23/2008 5:24:12 PM
Get pratical with the message ~ everyone not vised ~ with your topic ~ and all the different forms of Chritianity Exactly and This is a opporitunity to make a difference. Too late but nice try. This was an interesting thread; however, now I would rather read the Bible in its entirety AGAIN. Now what was the OP question? Oh yeah, “Can We Really Believe the Bible?”

Mutabilis

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Break up Etiquette Posted: 1/23/2008 7:07:41 AM
should at least be up front and have enough guts to say "we should talk" and say what we feel and move on. doesn't necessarily make it easier on the other person but does give them some kind of closure which they might need. ^^^ What he said.

Mutabilis

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Do I contact him or wait? Posted: 1/23/2008 6:53:22 AM
OP – You did nothing wrong by taking care of you ex husband. Did the same myself but not only for my ex husband but for our children. It would have been very difficult to try to console grieving children if I had not done all that I could for their father while he was dying. They would not have understood had I not. It seems to me that the question should be whether or not you forgive him. He said he needed time to think and when he was ready he would call. Perhaps you both need time to think. Good Luck!

Mutabilis

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texting an ex after a break up. Posted: 1/22/2008 10:03:37 PM
She left you without closure; of course it is going to be difficult to forget. The good news is that it’s probably very unusual for an individual to end a relationship without closure, so chances are that it may never happen again. Why would you allow yourself to be hurt again by a woman that was so self centered to not even provide you closure? You might want to think long and hard before you re-open communications. Good luck to you.

mutabilis

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Romance.....a thing of the past ??? Posted: 1/19/2008 10:41:53 AM
Romance has nothing to do with flowers or any type of material gifts. IMO It’s that special moment that happens with some effort / thought to create a lasting memory. However there must first be a connection or there will be no lasting romantic moment. Problem I’ve noticed is that many men lack the knowledge to be romantic or they simply don’t try but rather take the easy route, one of which they think is romantic. How? Buying flowers of course.

mutabilis

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What do you do now?? Posted: 1/3/2008 8:47:03 PM
I'll probably try a different direction. As to which direction, I'm not sure. Who knows, maybe some one special will find me. I don't know.

mutabilis

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Name one good thing Posted: 1/3/2008 8:20:45 PM
This topic, together with so many great posts, has been very enjoyable to read. There really isn’t anything to add that has not been written here, except for maybe a long term life experience that took many years to understand. After having my senior pictures taken, the photographer looked me in the eyes and basically said that I was a pretty young woman and to enjoy it for now as from this moment on it would be all down hill, I’m sure he said the same to all the young girls. His words troubled me and did so for many years. Fast forwarding to my younger years while maybe I still had that youthful somewhat attractive appearance, I would often spend time out and about with a close relative. She was a beautiful older woman, about twenty years my senior, in all ways and never concerned herself with aging; perhaps due she was living her life with her true love. Often she and I would go different places together, all types of places from grocery stores to even pubs and it always amazed me how I was often ignored and she was always the center of attention. Eventually, I began observing her while interacting with others (in person, not on line with words) and finally realized that it was her caring and loving nature towards people in general, that drew the attention somewhat like a magnet. Anyways, she taught me without knowing that it’s the beauty within that is important. Which was a good thing. Someday soon, I’ll begin preparing my daughters so they too can accept growing old gracefully.

mutabilis

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Middle Aged Cheap Skates.... Posted: 1/2/2008 11:43:22 PM
ok, this is not really about $$$, but...if a man has reached 45+ & has not much to show for it w/o a good reason, would you date him? No There is way too much concern over who pays for the initial dates on POF, had to mention POF since I’ve never experienced this type of behavior from men in I've met via real life situations. However, just to be clear as to how I usually handle first dates is to simply order something inexpensive and as far as paying the bill, as follows: 1) usually pay the tip; 2) sometimes PERMIT him to pay the bill and tip (translation, I liked him); or 3) I pay the entire bill and tip, and no I don’t ask permission (translation, last time I’ll ever see him again). So as you can see above, if I PERMIT the man to pay the bill it means that all went well and I would probably consider a second date. See msg 183 for what many of today’s women do for an enjoyable evening, which I totally agree. Even my male friends knowing that our relationship would never be more than friends, insist upon paying the bill which is not always inexpensive and tip although, I often refuse. What gives here about this redundant topic of petty nonsense?

mutabilis

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Have you ever loved someone enough to let them go? Posted: 1/2/2008 8:38:15 PM
Many years ago I let a man go that I loved. He wanted children and I had reason to believe that I might not be able to have children. So it wasn’t worth the risk of him being unhappy later in life. It didn’t take long for me to realize that I could have given him what he wanted; however, at that point in time, it was too late as we were both married to different people. Odd though in retrospect, unlike him and his wife, I didn’t have any problems having children with my second husband. Life sure can throw curve balls…

mutabilis

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Another year has come and gone... NOW are you desperate? Posted: 1/2/2008 12:28:48 PM
Of course a wedding band indicates who is NOT available. Although, it may not be the norm single women will for various reasons, wear a wedding band. Friendly women and/or those that must interact with men due business are often thought to be flirting when indeed they are not. It can be quite frustrating and lead to mixed emotions that are not productive in a business situation or simply a chat with another. A wedding band can eliminate those types of misunderstandings. One of my friends keeps a little sign up, at her place of business that reads, “I wasn’t flirting with you but merely being friendly” and so it goes… What is more important here? Keeping or maintaining some Image? Or finding a suitable mate? It would be nice if it were so easy, but it’s not. Message #55 ~ I can relate ~ good job.

mutabilis

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Dating vs. Long Term? Posted: 12/30/2007 9:07:45 PM
Many years ago while busy building a career, school and raising a child solo, anything more than casual dating was out of the question and the very last thing I was interested in was a long term relationship. Fast forwarding to today, my circumstances have changed, so my profile reads long term rather than dating because I interpret a vast difference.

mutabilis

Joined: 2/18/2007

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First contact... how many times do you attempt contact before giving up? Posted: 12/29/2007 11:24:00 PM
^^^ Usually I do not delete messages regardless if I have responded to them or not. The very few times that I have was due that there were many or that the other person deleted mine. Housekeeping or keeping a clean email folder is not a priority. So, in your situation above, maybe it is just a matter of time before whomever responds to your message.

mutabilis

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First contact... how many times do you attempt contact before giving up? Posted: 12/29/2007 9:05:00 PM
state that guys like to approached by a woman first... Lots of them think it is sexy and feels real good to them... Yes, of course it feels good to them, it can be a source of ego stoking. Personally, I don’t usually make initial contact but have made a couple of exceptions; however, I would never do so more than once. Any more than once, I believe would be strictly ego stoking or being a pain in the rear.

mutabilis

Joined: 2/18/2007

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Would you go out with someone in the 45 plus group that has never been married? Posted: 12/29/2007 3:39:09 PM
Children, even after becoming adults are still their parent(s) children. It does seem, given my past dating experiences that those that have not experienced first hand being a parent are not readily able to relate to all it entails. Arguments and misunderstandings tend to develop quickly over parenting issues. Therefore, men without children (most have not been married) I tend to avoid. after a certain number of failed marriage attempts (maybe 2-3) then you should question if you are marriage material. So, then I guess if one party enters into a Contract with another party, which has contingencies and the other party breaks or does not keep those contingencies, then one should never enter into another contract with another party? How could it be questioned that an individual is not marriage or commitment material if he/she were not the one to break the original contract? Marriage and commitments both have certain contingencies for their continued existence and certain promises if broken do break that original contract/marriage/commitment. Certainly, there could be an option to renegotiate for some people, but not all. imo

mutabilis

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Would You Date Someone that used fake uglier pictures than themselves? Posted: 12/28/2007 12:31:07 AM
But how do we predict the life span of a deception at the starting gate? We don't. Also, for those that don't have any issue with it, please I would ask, to prevent a double standard and unfairness, if a person who you 'think' is "less attractive" ends up posting a false pic....just make sure (for fairness sake) make sure you are ok with that too then!!... That could change the motives and personality type. The true motives would be my concern, not the issue of being “wrong” in the act of placing fake pictures on line. If an individual were uncomfortable placing his picture on line for whatever reason(s), only a very confident man would use a photo that was of someone less attractive. On the flip side, to place a fake pic of someone more attractive could be an entirely different type of personality, one of whom that probably lacks confidence. IMO However, the original question was “would you be okay with meeting” of which I probably would still meet this individual due my curious nature. Further, simply meeting someone is not agreeing to anything more than sharing some conversation face to face. What could possibly be the harm?

mutabilis

Joined: 2/18/2007

Msg: 65 (view)

Is there a patter here - Only the goodlooking & financially secure get to be favorites? Posted: 12/27/2007 10:54:02 PM
Naturally who wouldn't want a man that is financially secure and good looking (or able to pass). However what lies under that exterior of these men that they have to come on line to a dating site? AND if those two criteria seem to be what attracts the women, what does that say about them Financially secure and/or successful men will more often tend to have a different type of personality than those whom are not. They often project leadership qualities such as an alpha male and not only with their potential mate but with others when interacting in public. imo It is those alpha male personality types that I and probably many other women find attractive. Although, a few alpha males whom are also wealthy have told me that women often pursue them due to their money, which of course, they do not appreciate. Which would explain why some of those men do partake in internet dating. In real life, not cyber / fantasyland, it is easy to spot an alpha male due his actions not his appearance. In cyber / fantasyland it could possibly take time to explore an individual and/or the other explore you. So perhaps, the favorites list is sometimes among other various reasons, used as a type of holding tank in place of real life situations such as a stack of business cards. Not sure why there is so much fuss over the favorites list. lols IMO

mutabilis

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Would You Date Someone that used fake uglier pictures than themselves? Posted: 12/26/2007 10:53:46 AM
So, would you be okay with meeting someone who was much better looking than the photo on their profile or just pissed off because you actually wanted the ugly guy in the photo. Personality, all other details of the person are real. Actually, I would be fine with meeting this person, providing the motives were genuinely pure and the deception of short duration.

mutabilis

Joined: 2/18/2007

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POF Female experience vs. Male experience. What wins you over. Posted: 12/25/2007 5:23:43 PM
Men and women seem to require different strategies for success. Having tried a few I would like to hear of some of the more creative ones that have won over the women. Honestly, I’ve not experienced much luck on POF except with one. So, I’d have to say, to capture my attention would be a total different type of approach from the norm of what I usually receive, such as a silly question, of sorts that would necessitate a reply. Guess you are asking for examples, but I can’t reveal the particulars of a special first email. Just use your imagination and always keep it respectful! On the flip side, mundane interrogations are not productive.

mutabilis

Joined: 2/18/2007

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Do you see 30 years of fidelity as an indication of a low libido? Posted: 11/20/2007 8:19:57 PM
Does fidelity indicate a low libido? No, it would indicate a person that adhered to their vows if married or promises if in a LT relationship. On the other hand, infidelity seems to be the major cause of divorce or break ups in LTR; at least has been for me. Furthermore, I don't see the relevancy with libido and keeping your promise.

mutabilis

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Is money really that important ladies? Posted: 11/20/2007 7:37:09 PM
I learned the hard way years ago to avoid men dating who are newly divorced, especially if the divorce has been nasty Newly divorced men are immediately given a RED FLAG; but not so much due to experiences with newly divorced men but rather how I treated a few men when I was newly divorced and after a LT relationship. Ouch! I might be wrong but I believe most MEN and WOMEN might need a little bit of time alone, with the exception of friends, after a divorce or long term relationship.

mutabilis

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Is money really that important ladies? Posted: 11/19/2007 1:39:49 PM
It never ceases to amaze me the men in my age group that are overly concerned about WOMEN only seeking to get into their pockets. Should not women also be concerned about MEN doing the same? Gold diggers can be either gender, their easily red flagged, but not what I believe is the real problem. Indifference regarding the topic or inquiry as to ones past or present occupation, retirement, etc. is a problem with those that are overly sensitive. When we were younger, most YOUNG couples, with some exceptions, began their lives together with very little financial security or net worth; but we were basically on the same page. Now that we are not YOUNG, and not just starting out, is it really too much to ask that we at least be close to the same page? A few times, not often, have experienced personally just how indifferent some men can be about their money. For those men, …I’ve made a deal with them…I’ll stay out of your pockets and you stay out of mine.

mutabilis

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When to exchange phone numbers Posted: 11/17/2007 5:59:27 PM
so don't give out your number until you've actualy met In the past, I've been careful about providing my phone number, last name, etc., and preferred to communicate via email, and depending upon how the email communications proceeded would dictate as to when or if I would give out my phone number. However, now I believe it wiser to at least have voice recognition when communicating via email with several men on a dating site. Profiles can be fictitious; multiple profile identities could possibly be one person hitting on the same woman from different angles, to obtain personal information quickly. Perhaps, even being done with pure motives, but still deceitful. I know I will be using more telephone communications now sooner rather than later vs. email.

mutabilis

Joined: 2/18/2007

Msg: 49 (view)

Taking yourself out of the dating pool. Posted: 11/15/2007 12:29:28 PM
At this age, I will probably continue to DATE a few men if or until that right one comes along. Too old to put all my eggs in one basket.

mutabilis

Joined: 2/18/2007

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Been divorced 2 years but still feel so guilty about dating..Why? Posted: 11/11/2007 7:24:23 PM
I would like to thank all of you for your advice in my situation..Its so hard to have someone to talk to that isnt judgemental I've not read all of the responses to this thread so just ignore if I'm being redundant. It might be helpful if you joined an on line Divorce Support Group in order to vent, learn some behavior patterns to speed the healing process as well as contribute some support to others whom are also having a difficult time after a divorce. I would suggest lurking on a few groups until you find one that might be most beneficial. As far as feeling guilty about dating, perhaps consider dating as more a social outing with someone whom you might enjoy their company and he yours. Time does heal all, with a little extra work...imo....

mutabilis

Joined: 2/18/2007

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In need of some feedback Posted: 11/8/2007 5:34:13 PM
Well, it might be a good ideal to work on your "About Me" section of your profile, such as a little effort on the sentence structure. I'm sort of odd about profiles, pick them apart and if I notice a lot of errors will not respond. My thoughts are that if a man will not take the time and effort to compose a well written profile then he probably would not place much effort in a relationship. Just my two cents.

mutabilis

Joined: 2/18/2007

Msg: 47 (view)

Breaking up over email..right or wrong Posted: 11/8/2007 5:19:52 PM
Okay so is breaking up via email bad? Not my way, but not necessarily a bad way. It was definately better than nothing at all and I wouldn't worry about it.

mutabilis

Joined: 2/18/2007

Msg: 41 (view)

Photos with your Ex cropped out Posted: 11/8/2007 5:11:21 PM
If you don't like a photo, ingnore it. If you don't like the profile it's attached to ignore that also. Seems like a simple concept to me?!?! Works for me.

mutabilis

Joined: 2/18/2007

Msg: 13 (view)

So Called Friends Posted: 11/8/2007 5:03:06 PM
If you were in the situation of someone close to you going through times of celebrations, even if your somewhat jealous..would you not take the high road and offer congradulations to that person ? I'm wondering why you would call this person a friend. True friends don't get jealous.

mutabilis

Joined: 2/18/2007

Msg: 148 (view)

Signs of middle Age Posted: 11/8/2007 4:54:06 PM
Have noticed that I am constantly losing my cell phone whereas a year ago I kept it clipped to my waist. What's even worse is I don't care if I can't find it....

mutabilis

Joined: 2/18/2007

Msg: 82 (view)

Is there too much age difference? Posted: 11/8/2007 4:49:08 PM
*" have been dating men form 12 to 18 years older. Most are really settled, "been there done that" want to stay home"* "I get so bored around"* "I think they are too old for me"* I believe what you think might be correct; although, I know of men via work peers in this age group that are quite active, so might be just the men that you are meeting. Sometimes, I think it is best to date those that are in your age decade, younger or older, and seek those that have the same activity level as yourself. imo

mutabilis

Joined: 2/18/2007

Msg: 55 (view)

What about women my age with a child? Posted: 11/6/2007 7:24:53 PM
I've only dated one man that didn't have children, either teens or grown. He was the only one that was a problem in that department.

mutabilis

Joined: 2/18/2007

Msg: 37 (view)

over 45 dating and health issues... Posted: 11/5/2007 6:47:14 PM
If this is the early stages of dating, no friendship before and I assume the way your question is worded no chemistry either, there really would not be anything to break off; however, I would not walk away from someone that could use some help. If however, I were somewhat attached to this person such as a lot of sparks, etc., and there were a friendship type of relationship that could be broken, I most certainly would not break up due to a serious health condition. Having been there and done that I sort of believe that a serious health situation can cause one to place romance on the back burner and place living life to the fullest up front while helping with the illness and all that it entailed.

mutabilis

Joined: 2/18/2007

Msg: 60 (view)

Women over 45 please help Posted: 11/5/2007 6:20:48 PM
My three best female friends are all married but we still do things together, with or without their spouse although not very often. As far as girl friends that will ocassionally hang out, schedules permitting, those I've met at various places, such as work related businesses, business functions, grocery store, beauty shop, mall or even the park/gym while exercising. Most people like to talk so just start up conversations, wherever you might be and you might find some common ground with potential friends in your area and if not, hey you atleast maybe had a nice conversation with another adult. Also men of whom you have no chemistry nor they you; however, you might have work or other things in common can be excellent friends. I most certainly would not limit yourself to strictly girl friends even tho sisters are great, men can also be good friends. Good luck and feel welcomed to email me should you want to chat with a Florida Lady, but one that does know how difficult it can be when first newly separated or divorced.

mutabilis

Joined: 2/18/2007

Msg: 415 (view)

Why are older men so SEX oriented??????? Posted: 11/5/2007 10:28:14 AM
For whatever reason(s) I've only experienced two first time email contacts containing sexual comments; however, received a lot of first time emails that only make comment about appearance...those I do not write back. I think there may be lots of men who, as they get older, are getting a lot less in the way of sex... and that may move them to be more... um... direct On the other hand, I have noticed that older men that I know thru association can sometimes be very crued. As far as realizing how disgusting some of the remarks are ....I really don't think some of the older men truly understand.

mutabilis

Joined: 2/18/2007

Msg: 3 (view)

Easy super meal for those when they are strapped for cash and looking in the cupboards Posted: 11/3/2007 4:05:44 PM
I'm big on nutrition which doesn't have to be costly. Lentiles are very inexpensive and according to some studies can cause bad cholesterol levels to drop more than double in individuals already on a low fat diet, and when seasoned well their actually quite tasty. Here is one of my favorite Lentile recipes. Ingredients 1 cup dried lentils 1 onion (diced) several garlic cloves 2 slices of bacon (1' pieces) 3-6 tablespoon extra virgin olive oil 1 apple (diced) Put the lentils in about 6 cups water, bring to a boil then simmer for about an hour until tender. In the meantime, brown the bacon pieces, add the diced onion and apple and saute until soft. When the lentils are tender, drain and add them to the pan with the bacon, onions and apple and cook together. Should it be dry add the extra virgin olive oil as needed. Serve and season with sea salt and pepper. or chil and serve as a cold lentil salad.

mutabilis

Joined: 2/18/2007

Msg: 78 (view)

Marriage over 40 and up Posted: 11/3/2007 12:21:10 PM
I feel that marriage, OR a committed relationship is more sacred than that True as it should be; however, no one has control over another. So how the partner in a committed relationship decides to end that involvement is up to him, which could simply be to disappear without ever saying goodbye or a word as to why. In a failed marriage there are legalities to confront and entanglements to settle which can be nasty; however, on the flip side atleast there is usually some communication such as a goodbye or reasons given as to why. I guess both situations (marriage or commitment) have their good and bad points.

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