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sis4sweet

Joined: 2/19/2007

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For the women.... Male UK Profile up for review! Posted: 7/9/2009 4:59:11 PM
No No. Pic, profile pic at that, with antoher women, even if it is your sister. Lose it. You say nothing of who you are looking for and also some of your comments seem like you may have issues with flexability, like saying your sorry. Good Luck.

sis4sweet

Joined: 2/19/2007

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Please review Posted: 7/9/2009 4:47:33 PM
Well honestly you smoke and you are listed as BBW, you won't even show up in like 90% (my guess) of profile searches. I too smoke and it's a big damn deal to most guys. So that will explain part of it. I would put a full body shot. You are 30 but have musical tastes and lifestyle of someone much younger, might not attract 30ish men. You are cute and seem energetic let that show thru. I would cut all negative comments out. You are not going to attract "mainstream" men and that is ok that is not who you are looking for I don't think. Tweak it and keep at it. Hope this helps. Good luck fishing.

sis4sweet

Joined: 2/19/2007

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Ok this is a bit scary, but let's have... Posted: 7/9/2009 9:50:06 AM
Do you mean this Photo? I think I look kind of hawkish in it lol.

sis4sweet

Joined: 2/19/2007

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Review request Posted: 7/8/2009 10:45:55 PM
I liked your profile so much I am plagerizing it, with minor alterations. I agree with above poster lose the self depreciation. You are attractive and you will be beautiful to the man that loves you.

sis4sweet

Joined: 2/19/2007

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Any help would be appreciated ! ! ! Posted: 7/8/2009 10:21:43 PM
Hi Jeff, First off use paragraphs. At least 3 and skip lines between them. I wouldn't want to read that all bunched up. We are love our kids and of course we are package deals, so consider not stating the obvious. I notice some repeat wording on the first date section. Good Luck.

sis4sweet

Joined: 2/19/2007

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here you go, have at' er Posted: 7/8/2009 10:12:40 PM
I thought maybe you should add..or are currently receiving shock treatment.

sis4sweet

Joined: 2/19/2007

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Ok this is a bit scary, but let's have... Posted: 7/8/2009 10:00:41 PM
I was trying to be brief and let my personality come through, so tell me... And so the parrot tells the bartender .....is it enough yet???????? Nope gotta type more. Review me and please tell me if other pics are better than profile pic... surely this is 200

sis4sweet

Joined: 2/19/2007

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Profile review: Take two! Posted: 7/8/2009 9:56:50 PM
I didn't see original, but I think this is pretty good. I could be bias because I love adult swim also. I think you covered all the basis, clever, clear, and gives an idea who you are. Good luck.

sis4sweet

Joined: 2/19/2007

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Profile Review Posted: 7/8/2009 9:25:04 PM
You got the right one.

sis4sweet

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So I am new to this and may need a bit of help... lol Posted: 7/8/2009 9:10:06 PM
Much, much better, great paragraph about who you are looking for. I still don't like that old profile pic, you look kind of like a tard, lol. Take some pics outside maybe.

sis4sweet

Joined: 2/19/2007

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Profile Review Posted: 7/8/2009 8:51:27 PM
Clap!Clap! Good job. I would only suggest now that you put pic #5 as your profile pic, it is more flattering. Go get 'em.

sis4sweet

Joined: 2/19/2007

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Can someone be my first.. Posted: 7/8/2009 8:45:26 PM
Again I suggest change the friends to dating.

sis4sweet

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So I am new to this and may need a bit of help... lol Posted: 7/8/2009 7:29:48 PM
Make the 3rd pic your profile pic. Lose some of the details about cars. Write a little paragraph about the kind of woman you are looking for. Think of a great date and write about it (please not playing WofW).

sis4sweet

Joined: 2/19/2007

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I'd dig some perspective here. Posted: 7/8/2009 7:19:11 PM
Ok, lose about half the self description. Add a description of several sentences about what kind of woman you want. You might as well be looking a dude to hang with. There is no appeal, maybe mention that at least you can get free pizza and watch the sun set or something. Offer up something that you can provide for them as a man, not as a bud. I mean you do want to have sex at some point right? It is ok to allude gently to this. Girls are gonna think you just want a video game partner.

sis4sweet

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Profile Review Posted: 7/8/2009 7:10:39 PM
Ok Mr. Spock, let's show some humaness here. You are nice looking, but your pics are boring. Your an engineer therefore you probably have some financial success, play it up a little. You need to play to your assets. You state your a vegan, but do not say whether or not you are looking for other vegans. Be a bit playful and lose all that business about lasix. Good luck.

sis4sweet

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Lookin' for some Brutal Honesty! Posted: 7/8/2009 6:55:50 PM
The thumbnail of your pic looks like half your face is missing maybe use another. Ditch the full body pic and do a better one without all that mess behind you. You are looking for and ambitious musician with tattoos, REALLY? Hope this helps, good luck.

sis4sweet

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Can someone be my first.. Posted: 7/8/2009 6:44:42 PM
One word-FRIENDS. That means no chance of sex to men, and you might as well know that. Lose the whole last paragragh, very negative. Put up a full body pic. Please for the love of God put some other interests in there. "You" might sound concise and flattering, but really it's just kind of lame. Good luck, your gorgeous and with a little tweaking I am sure you will catch better fish.

sis4sweet

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review and help please Posted: 7/8/2009 6:34:51 PM
You really need a smiling pic and full body pic. That sullen tough guy look is overdone. Your profile pic looks messy with all those cushions or whatever. Your text is full of errors. Copy and paste to Word and use punctuation. My first impression is your not a lot of fun. Please put what your looking for in a date. Don't be so vague, get into some details. Hope this is helpful.

sis4sweet

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Need help with my profile!!!!! What's wrong with me???!!!!! Posted: 7/8/2009 6:27:50 PM
Try "bare with me" instead of "bear with me". Found it a little rambling, tighten it up, you don't have to give your custody arrangements. I like your pic (use it but not as main), but I would lose the kid pic and use a direct facial shot for profile pic. You have nice eyes so show them.

sis4sweet

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Deceptive profile text Posted: 7/3/2009 11:15:12 PM
Looking for a good-hearted woman. Translation: I am ass and need to forgiven often. Looking for a special princess to spoil. Translation: I cannot in anyway relate to a real adult female. I give great massages, love cuddling. Translation: I am a lousy lay.

sis4sweet

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What's your deal breaker? (re profiles first glance) Posted: 6/30/2009 2:15:59 PM
Deal Breakers: 1. Nascar, WWF, and the like 2. Atheist 3. Repulican/very conservative 4. little eyes or very thin lips 5. Younger than 35 (get a lot of emails from younger, not a cougar, lol) 6. "loves walks on the beach" ok just overdone especially when they live in Iowa 7. too many extreme sports or no interests outside sports 8. Incomplete profile and no pics available 9. SEPERATED 10. MARRIED lol

Sis4Sweet

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Love Curriculum Posted: 1/30/2009 11:13:12 PM
Love is more than a feeling of fondness or bonding, it a verb. It is an action. We don't just feel it we express it with what others do for us and what we do for them. We love others by giving, listening, caring, and not judging. When we are loved we feel safe, wanted, and accepted. I encourage my children to use the word sparingly, because saying " I love this or that" dimishishes it's specialness. Saying I love pizza somehow weakens the impact of the word "love". Oh back to the topic, how to explain love to young children. I would tell them love is best is part of who we are. I would also tell them that love is what make us take care of and be kind to each other. This was a harder to write about than I thought, hmm. Good luck.

Sis4Sweet

Joined: 2/19/2007

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Best thing about being a single mom/dad? Posted: 1/29/2009 5:16:13 PM
Making Banana Splits for dinner when it is 90 degrees and not having to explain this to a SO. My kids love it, and I think most men even their father would have disapproved. I have been widowed with my 15 and 10 year old over 9 years, and as much as I would I would welcome companionship, another's advice at times, I am sometimes happy that we get to be more freewheeling without a man around to tell me that something fun we do is "bad" for my kids.

Sis4Sweet

Joined: 2/19/2007

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Deal Breakers? Posted: 1/25/2009 4:54:43 PM
Ok I read this a lot and for some women it must say this guy is active and adventurerous, to me it says this guy doesn't not have time for dating much less a relationship:" I enjoy skiing, bungee jumping, deep sea fishing, avid scuba diver, tennis, golf, workaholic, got season tickets to xyz and abc, go to the gym 47 times a week, travels internationally for job, and goes to desert every weekend to ride ATVs and motorcycles with 78 of my closest friends" No thanks I have a cat to ignore me.

Sis4Sweet

Joined: 2/19/2007

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Something About Stereotyping when Dating Posted: 1/25/2009 4:36:58 PM
Stereotypes of professions in profiles. For example: Retired-wants to take me to Denny's so he can use his ARRP card for discount Student-as poor as me Teacher-almost as poor as me, but good has good dental plan Prefer not to answer- either CIA or unemployed Self employed-Drug dealer Dentist-sadist Construction-usually unemployed for long streches, drinks a lot Ok enough of my sarcasism, really I don't care much what a man does as long as he is happy doing it. Men are usually miserable if they hate there job and it spills over into all areas of their life.

Sis4Sweet

Joined: 2/19/2007

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Is it weird to compliment the guy on his size while you're having sex? Posted: 1/25/2009 4:21:53 PM
Well as long as you don't say something like "oh my God your C*ck is almost as big as my last boyfriends!!!" I don't think that would play well.... I think we gals say it in sincerity because we truly are impressed

Sis4Sweet

Joined: 2/19/2007

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Opposites attract? Posted: 1/25/2009 4:09:20 PM
When people refer to opposites they usually mean in temperament and habits. Like the odd couple, Felix and Oscar. In my experience if the differences are mostly superficial, messy vs. neat, mechanically inclined vs. can't screw in a light bulb, responsible with money vs. free wheeling, expressive vs. non expressive, then I think it can work very well if there is acceptance and appreciation of each others strong points. It can actual balance things out. It depends if you want it your way all the time. A more anal retentive person can learn from a messy one. He can see that the sky isn't going to fall if dishes are left in the sink over night. He might learn an occasional slurge isn't going to cause financial ruin if he learns to let go a little. She might open up more if she is around man who feels free to express himself. Of course all these situations are fotter for fights and misery if the love and acceptance. I am decidely unatheletic, but every serious relationship I've been in including my husband were with super jocks (that never miss a game on TV, that are active on teams, played sports most of their lives, know all the stats etc.) So you'd think that would make me miserable, but it didn't, because I respected that was their thing and never complained about it. I guess I believe that the people we love are here to teach us and help us grow and vice versa. I know I don't want a carbon copy of me, that would be terribly dull.

Sis4Sweet

Joined: 2/19/2007

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Help a man be more romantic Posted: 1/23/2009 10:07:10 PM
Here are some of the best romantic gestures I have received: a boyfriend wrote a song about me and sang it to me, it was corny, a little raunchy and he sang it badly but still it was terribly romantic and touching. Also writing a real love letter or poem is a great idea. Ok I think the modern equivolent is burning her a CD with songs that tell her how you feel about her, still very cool. umm a guy saying he wasn't going to wash his mustache cause he want to smell my umm scent on him all day and remember the lovemaking...I prefer that to flowers anyday. We like flowers sent to our place of employment btw so all our coworkers can be jealous/think your a great guy. We all want to hear that line from Brigette Jones diary and Billy Joel "I love you just the way you are" I like the idea of reading a book together aloud to each other, a little here and there, ok I know this might be wierd but I think it could be very intimate.

Sis4Sweet

Joined: 2/19/2007

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What profound, life-changing things have you learned? Posted: 1/23/2009 9:25:15 PM
1. When a man says he's not looking for anything serious...believe him. Amen and again I say Amen. For me I would add that I've learned: 1. To ask for what I want/need (hopefully they are the same) 2. Not to take it personal (even if it is I ignore it, lol) 3. That happiness in measured in moments 4. My opinion of me matters more than your opinion of me 5. That perfection is for people who can't handle criticism 6. Most people are doing the best they can 7. Life isn't fair, but so what? 8. Big feet only means big shoes 9. Prayer works 10. too love deeply and openly (a rather be a fool than be jaded)

Sis4Sweet

Joined: 2/19/2007

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Why do girls love make-up Posted: 1/23/2009 8:17:52 PM
It's my only artistic outlet these days.

Sis4Sweet

Joined: 2/19/2007

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Your date knew YOU weren't the one when... Posted: 1/23/2009 7:35:30 PM
He knew I wasn't the one when my date looked across the table at me and sighed and said "it's so nice to meet an old fashioned girl, I bet your a good cook and housekeeper, I miss having someone to take care of me", I choked on my tea and it came out my nose. Then I laughed so hard and told him he had me confused with someone else and he said something about having to get up early in the morning and that was that.

Sis4Sweet

Joined: 2/19/2007

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Does sex get better after you hit 40? Posted: 1/23/2009 6:29:20 PM
I think for me it is because I am focused on the pleasure, his and mine and not worried so much about my imperfections real or imagined or other b.s. like "will he respect me in the morning" that lets me feel free and uninhibited. I have a more "it is what it is"approach.. I think part of this ,for me anyway, is that I am much more of an intergrated person now-even an even one time encounter ( that is not what I am looking for on here btw, so settle down) can be spiritual, emotional and of course sexual for me...I guess I mean just because it isn't "going" anywhere I can still appreciated it for being wonderful and fulfilling. I also know what makes me tick and I am not shy about sharing that. I think I am a much better lover than I was in my 20 's and 30's and hope to get to prove that a few more times before I get put out to pasture, lol.

Sis4Sweet

Joined: 2/19/2007

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Sex Scenes... Posted: 1/23/2009 5:49:33 PM
Ok to me the sexiest scenes are the ones that leave something to the imagination...In "Gone with the Wind" the scene where Rhett carries Scarlett upstairs against her "will", the look of bliss she has the next morning...I always wonder how what went on that night... had to be hotter than hell. I also thought the scene in an "Officer and a Gentleman" when Debra Winger is riding Richard Gere is incredible sexy in a gritty real world way.

Sis4Sweet

Joined: 2/19/2007

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Do you think it is rude Posted: 1/22/2009 7:49:15 PM
I never leave home without my Silver Bullet if I think I am going to get lucky lol, rare as that is. It isn't a backup in case I don't orgasam. It is part of my game and these little vibes are great stimulation to your button while he is inside you and you can both climax at about the same time. It is not penis shaped so the more sensative fellows shouldn't be intiminated.

Sis4Sweet

Joined: 2/19/2007

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Do you guys think this is fair? Posted: 1/22/2009 6:52:46 PM
Ok, here is my take on this...I am going to go and assume he blames you for not being able to orgasam, because he claims he is doing every thing right, like he should be able to put his****in you and if you don't get off it isn't it his fault. Run don't walk, your young, pretty and there are plenty of men who would be willing to oblidge you. He is scared of the vibrator, bottom line, it is a threat to his manhood. I would get away from him, buy a vibrator , hang out with healthier people and get reevaluated for the bipolar thing when you are in better circumstances. Just because "have been thru a lot" does not obligate you to stay in a sick relationship.

Sis4Sweet

Joined: 2/19/2007

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Men givers vs. Women givers Posted: 1/17/2009 2:58:17 PM
Yes the old tally sheet kinda negates the doing it from the heart. I had a LTR with someone who seemed like a giver (which I thought was lovely, I to believe men show love thru action if it is real), problem was I was would ask him directly what do you need or what can I do for you?, and he'd always assure me that my love was enough lol. Until we got into an arguement and he would list all the wonderful things he had done for me (he had a great memory) and so that somehow made him right about whatever situation we disagreed over. WTF If I cooked a special meal for us it was still selfish because I would be eating it too, if I bought him a nice shirt it was because I was trying to control the way he dressed, it goes on and on. I was called selfish constantly because he wanted to be the martyr. Just be careful of some of those "givers" it can come back to bite you on the azz. I think I am pretty healthy at giving and recieving. I would love to have a man around to fix stuff, make sure my car was in good shape, pay my bill lol, but I can kill the spiders myself. I can and do all the others but I am just saying it would be nice to have someone to depend on. Independence is overrated and tiring.

Sis4Sweet

Joined: 2/19/2007

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Why prefer the face to face rejection? Posted: 1/16/2009 1:09:59 PM
I agree especially if you had great connection and you are waiting around to see if is going to lead to more. I like to move on if he isn't going to pursue anything more. I also have found myself trying to keep a certain night open in case someone I have gone out with "might" want to do something. That makes me feel like a silly 14 year old waiting by the phone, can't stand it. It isn't that I don't make other plans, it is just that hoping in the back of my mind. I think in the online dating we sometimes get strung along, a few follow up calls, but they are always looking for "greener grass". I like the term FADE, it means they just slowly disappear, the calls diminish and poof they fall off the earth. Yes a short note saying they are no longer interested would be terrific.

Sis4Sweet

Joined: 2/19/2007

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Can Physical Attraction Grow? Posted: 1/16/2009 12:48:42 PM
You've got an excellant point here. I was never initially attracted to my ex, but he grew on me or rather pestered the hell out of me and I fell for his charm. We run in the same circles to this day and have a daughter together so it is great not to have any sexual tension there since he is not attractive to me. It is also great that he isn't "all that" because I never get accused of not being over my ex when new boyfriends have met him, lol. They don't feel threatened.

Sis4Sweet

Joined: 2/19/2007

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Do men realy think that blonds are more attractive? Posted: 1/16/2009 12:31:20 PM
Ok I pondered taking the plung and going from my natural auburn to blonde for over a year. I finally gradually did it over a year ago and this is my experience. I get noticed more by men, maybe not approached by, but I find more men looking at me when I walk in to room or when I driving. I think it's akin to driving a red car it is more noticeable. I love being blonde. My favorite reason is that I don't have to dye those few grays I have and because "people put lower expectations on blondes" which is just a relief lol. The only issue I have is keeping it up. I ususally have the darker roots and let them go as long as possible because of the cost involved. I also think I look slightly younger with blonde hair. I know I am not "fooling" anyone cause I have brown eyes.

Sis4Sweet

Joined: 2/19/2007

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why will some women accept a chat read the profile then close out the chat? Posted: 1/16/2009 12:18:02 PM
Ok I am guilty of what you are talking about. If I decide to open it up see there profile that is : A married man A 22 year old guy (get these young ones a lot, not a cougar lol) A guy too old for me, or no pic A guy that lives in Alaska etc. I will just say quickly "not interested and good luck". I believe this is more honest and doesn't waste anyone's time. If I were looking for friends only I would be open to more types.

sis4sweet

Joined: 2/19/2007

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Men with no car or license??? Posted: 2/27/2007 7:24:49 PM
Well epilepsy or legal blindness would be acceptable reasons, other than that for a man over say 30 it is a big red flag. Of course I got enough going on in my life without taking on a man with more problems examples of deal breakers if a guy hascurrent dui, no job, ex wife got car in settlement, had to sell car to pay rent or dealer)

sis4sweet

Joined: 2/19/2007

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Any other young widows/widowers with advice to share? Posted: 2/23/2007 10:33:42 AM
So sorry for your loss. I became very suddenly widowed at 32. I had a 5 yr old and a 5 month old at the time. My husband was as about as good as a man could be. Great looking, responsible, and he thought I hung the moon. He was the only person in my life that I ever felt loved and accepted me unconditionally. We had the real thing. I was in total hell after he died. I was lonely and isolated (all our married friends disappeared shortly after the funeral, it happens and it sucks) and his family somehow blamed me for his death (yes I am all powerful and can cause a sudden cardiac arrest caused by a congential birth defect as shown in the autopsy) I was nuttier than hell but didn't realize it at the time, I moved me and my kids to my home town in another state just a few months after his death.It was a huge mistake, because you can't outrun, or out spend, or out eat that pain. I was really pissed off at God. About 3 years after his death I got real ANGRY and let me tell you men don't stick around long when you are pissed off at the world. I got over that and dated off and on. The problem was all these men weren't Jack and I was looking for someone like him. I guess I am saying that it was really unfair to compare, because you can't compete with a dead man. It will be eight years in June. It gets easier, but a sweet memory can surface now and again and I still shed a few tears, but find myself smiling at the same time. I see him in my kids faces and personalities. I have made a decision (KEY WORD HERE) to move on and love again, instead of trying to hold on and find a carbon copy of him. I have had a few ugly relationships and one of them produced my sweet little beautiful daughter. I am still hopeful and try to be happy each day. It is gonna take one hell of a man to take on me and mine. lol

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