GhostJaguar
Then you're a fool.

You didn't mention her age, but I'm guessing she's 18-26. Her prime. At this stage, all she's interested in are bad boy thugs.

In a couple years (age 30 at the latest), when she hits The Wall, she'll start looking for the decent guys she ignored all through her 20's so she can find a nice thick wallet to attach herself to. She needs numerous pairs of shoes and someone to help raise her illegitimate thugspawn, after all.

peaceful_garden
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I grew up in the south where it is considered the height of romantic disrespect to maintain OS relationships while in relationship. Clearly this tradition is based on intelligence, wisdom and inherent human needs, allowing couples to maintain relationships without the added stresses of moving the line back and forth.

So I tell an older neighbor how dumb and jealous my bf is acting. Neighbor tells me I was the dumb one. He said no guy wants to visit his gf and find her hanging out with another guy.

GrandmaBooBoo
I will be 60 yrs old tomorrow....and as I said, I've been single for 15 yrs...so I really don't see what YOUR problem is with that??? Single is GOOD......married is just.....a whole lot of sacrifices that NOBODY should have to make.

mjinict
Abhorrent is such a strong word, sounds like some deep seated issue. An occasional slow dance in a romantic relationship should not bring on such a negative emotion.

searcher3013
I don't care if a man won't fast dance,but if we are at a wedding and he can't find within himself to please me by holding me in his arms and attempting to move to the music, there's gonna be some trouble.

lightningman1
My passion is music but it seems not to many ladies really go for that weather fulltime/part time muso life it has always had a negative stereotype along with it e.g Broke,Can't pay the rent blah blah and so it goes!!!

islandbird
Like you, I post my real age and I am proud of it. I am just looking for a guy within a year or so of my age, so I set my contact age parameters at 10 -15 years younger than myself.................................... I figure these are the guys who ACTUALLY are my age anyways...................................... seems to be working out OK so far :-) (A lot of the guys claiming to be my age look older than dirt..................... my Dad & some of his buddies look better than they do.................. just sayin'.................)

dr,mike
Now, that IS telling. Anyone, who does not enjoy the things you like, is boring. That's a corollary to "everybody who is not me sucks". How small. Did you ever consider that , maybe, I am IN the band ?

BLoNde__ANgeL

I'm very vocal too & a few lucky men know just how vocal I can be under the right circumstances ;0P
Some vegetarians will eat meat under certain circumstances...

Does that make ME unsuitable as a partner? Really???

tnt144
Being separated is a major deal breaker for at least two reasons:
1) They are still married, and if you date them, it's adultery.
Don't you know who Charlton Heston is?!
2) They are most likely on the rebound. They don't even begin to heal until the divorce papers are signed.
Rebound people need time to heal from the divorce, and it can often take years before they are ready to love another again deeply. This means you have a high chance of being dumped at anytime. Sounds like fun, does it not?

Paderic
That sort of venue is the type of venue I avoid. I don't like to drink excessively, and I don't like loud music much anymore. There must be a thousand other things I'd rather do than go to a dancing/drinking club.

dr,mike
Which is why those women get "written off" as far as long term by guys who don't dance. It just saves on aggravation.

mjinict
Personally, I think going out every once in a while keeps me young in spirit. A lot of women still like to get 'gussied up' for a night on the town occasionally. No, I don't like to as often as I used to and prefer not so loud clubs, and I don't drink as much as when I was younger. You don't need to drink excessively to have fun. And the venue where I was was a reception hall, where there were all ages. If you bring a date to a wedding reception and not dance at least once, I think is rude.

Technoartisan
I think your instructor was correct. Dancing *is* a form of physical intimacy, ergo one of the problems for me. I'm a very private person and I have no desire to showcase my intimacy in a crowd. If I were sucking face or bumping uglies in public, most people would be at least annoyed by it. The way I have experienced some women's "dancing", it's just dry humping to music. Not really my thing.

charleneftmyers
but they r like kissing a cactis plant n sandpaper allful! One guy just of sanded a layer of skin off what a painfull turn off

DameWrite
I guess the dinks who use name calling got tired of saying... you must be frigid?

JasonAlexis
Okay Im going for it tomorrow thanks for the advice.... but I told her to change the meeting place, its kinda of retarded to date in a bowling area... I like movie theaters better because its dark and hands move a lot in the darkness hehehe the bowling alley will be a waste of time... lets see what happens.

chrisknew
I would love that animal attraction, where I just want to rip his clothes off, but I also find that as I get older than need is not there as much. But in reality that kind of attraction doesn't last that long. Sure it could last a year or two, but then fizzles out. That whats called "Lust"

fleuron
Most grown women (should) know that a grown man is going to get aroused from “making out.” If a woman thinks a man should respect her arbitrary boundaries, she should recognize and respect his feelings…..despite his agreement to her conditions. What’s he supposed to say, “NO….I refuse to make out with you”?? Come on! That’s just cruel and selfish. IMO.

~Arianna~
As little as 10 years ago, it never bothered me if a man had children or not. Now at this point in my life, I do not wish to date someone with dependent children. I had thought adult children would be ok until recently realizing that some adult children are also dependent and the parent doesn't mind.

I don't understand why a man/woman would allow adult children to depend on them when they should be self sufficient at their age. Helping them out from time to time is definitely ok as long as it wasn't due to them consistently putting themselves in need from making bad life choices or from being frivolous with money leaving nothing for necessities. Teaching independence is far more beneficial to all involved. An adult child should be given a hand up and not always a hand out!

This should be 'our' time as eventually (hopefully) there will be no dependents. If a partner cant't put themself and their life goals/relationship as a priority at our age, then they will end up alone in the end. Family IS important but a person needs to take care of their own self first. Mature adult children will completely understand that fact.

independant_thinker72
but to get laid on the first date is almost a sure sign of it being the last date unless you're only hooking up for sex to begin with.

ZombiezRock
non smokers that are sensitive to the smell, and its a complete and 100 % turn off really has no business dating a smoker.... because it will become an issue every single time.

sorry, seems you might have something here but smoking isnt just a "thing" its a life style and addiction so the more pressure put on someone to quit, or the guilt of the smell really actually does the opposite makes smokers smoke more. its a stress thing.

wish you luck, but i dont think this is going to work out for you. or sadly for him.

hey babbling do me next!! wooot

Odin737
It think it is a moral imperative to wait until at lease the second or third date.

christope1949
WHAT HAPPENS IF YOU LOOK YEARS YOUNGER THAN YOUR AGE ,BUT WHEN YOU PUT YOUR REAL AGE WOMEN JUST PASS BY BECAUSE THEY THINK YOUR LIEING

_islandbird
Unreasonable/Delusional Expectations - large percentages of both genders are totally delusional about "looking younger" than their real age. The reality........................ lots of folks look GOOD for their age, whatever that may be,................... and kudos to them for taking care of themselves, BUT it is an EXTREMELY RARE individual who REALY looks significantly younger than their age. AND, looking good for your age doesn't excuse predatory trolling in age groups two to three DECADES your junior! Seriously folks, this kind of predatory trolling is like cruising a kiddies park .......... practically paedophilia................. ick!!!!

Aura1shine
Nothing but the real him exposed here......manipulated his profile to have a contact for a date, and hope she will stick around after the truth came out. A trace of an passive aggressive be behavior to get what he wants. I see the same as the guy I dated once. At first seeing each other, everything in his house is cleaned without any objects of woman around which lead me to believe I was the only one he was dating. Time passed to be months, then sudden something begins to appeared as a hair tie with some woman hairs stick with it (he is bald). I fled!