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I need brutal criticism! Posted: 2/26/2007 11:15:54 AM
Yes, LOSE (not loose) the second photo. Please, folks, can you try using spellcheck instead of posting really lame writing full of errors ? And here is a piece of advice for all you men out there: PLEASE do not post pictures of yourself barechested. It is a big turnoff. And I don't want to see photos of your motorcycle or hot rod car or gun collection. Lose the sunglasses in at least one photo so we can see what you look like. Do not post photos more than a year old. THANK YOU !!

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Changes in our life time Posted: 2/26/2007 10:07:31 AM
Right on ! I am an English teacher, an editor, and a writer, and I, too, find lousy spelling, punctuation and grammar painful. If someone on an internet dating site can't even use their own language correctly, they get automatically eliminated. You can imagine how many people this knocks off ! That is a good book. Grammar Woman

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Changes in our life time Posted: 2/26/2007 10:03:18 AM
I agree about cell phones & I can't stand all the unsafe driving that goes on while people are yakking away. The worst example I have come across was this: I flew in to an airport at 7 AM and went into the ladies' room. A woman came in, went into the next stall, and was loudly talking on her cell phone. "I'M IN THE BATHROOM AT THE AIRPORT. WHERE ARE YOU?" while she was doing her (formerly private) business. Now that is BAD. Why do people have no sense of how offensive they are, and how trivial and obnoxious their conversation is ? I would say that my un-favorite more fundamental change is the sense of entitlement so many young people have. They are unwilling to work hard, to earn their possessions without going into debt, or take responsibility. I know not all of them are like that, but a lot are. I teach college, so I am not making a sweeping generalization based on a few. The general lack of manners and civility bothers me, too, though I know that makes me sound like a geezer.

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Long hair on older women Posted: 2/26/2007 9:49:16 AM
Well, who said that you are the arbiter of this forum ? I thought people could express their opinions, but I guess that's only true if you agree with them. I made it clear in my post that it was just my opinion. I have seen an awful lot of dissing of men on some of these threads. That seems to be acceptable, but expressing opinions about women isn't ? Of course it is no one's business what anyone does with their appearance. Whatever makes you feel good about yourself ! The issue of long vs. short hair on women brings up a lot of interesting nuances, such as male fantasies, female and male assumptions, cultural stereotypes, etc. It is a cliche that men prefer long hair on women, and of course there are exceptions. My point is that many people cling to styles that they liked and looked good in when they were young, out of inertia, or laziness, or perhaps denial about aging. I certainly do not advocate any "rules". I read recently that 80% of American women color their hair. I don't know what the percentage is for men. One of the things I like about being female is the freedom to radically change my appearance by having long hair, short hair, different colors, different styles when I get bored.

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Long hair on older women Posted: 2/25/2007 9:10:22 AM
Now, now, I was not dissing you, texasbaby. You sound and look like a cool woman. There are always exceptions to "rules" and you may be one of them. Of course it is your business what you do with your hair or anything else. (I was saying "rule" in response to another post.) I greatly admire women with grey hair who have the courage to flaunt it. Some of them look stunning. (Men with grey hair usually look good to me, too.) Older Woman, Too

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Long hair on older women Posted: 2/25/2007 8:46:22 AM
Me, too ! I see so many older women clinging to the hairstyle that may have looked good on them in their youth, but no longer does them any favors. ALL women look better and younger and prettier with a good haircut. To me the worst is long, straggly, unstyled hair with split ends, roots growing out, no shape at all, or unflattering grey hair that is too long. Grey hair can be gorgeous, but it has to have some shape, or it works if the woman has a braid or a bun that looks nice. I myself have fine hair that never stays in a bun or arrangement of any kind, so I have to keep mine shoulder length or shorter. I choose to color it, but some day I will try going with the grey to see whether it is attractive. Some women's skin tone and coloring do not look good with grey hair. The other huge mistake is women going too dark with hair color as they age. NEVER do the dead black or one-tone color.

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Long hair on older women Posted: 2/25/2007 8:37:46 AM
The "rule" is there because it DOES make sense. Do you ever watch those makeover shows on TV, such as "What Not To Wear" ? They take frumpy, unfashionable, older women and really transform them, and often it is a good haircut that makes a huge difference. Color helps, too. Long hair ages most women 40+ unless you look like a supermodel. There a feww exceptions, such as Jane Seymour, but here is a news flash: you are not Jane Seymour and most women aren't. I guarantee you that if you had the courage to get a good haircut, it would take years off your age and you would get a LOT of compliments. At a certain point, really long hair makes an older woman look like she should be riding a broom. Just My Opinion

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AARP - what do you think? Posted: 2/25/2007 8:33:26 AM
Give some examples, if you will - what do they lobby for that you don't agree with ? Your comment is not helpful to other people unless you give some specifics. Thanks.

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AARP - what do you think? Posted: 2/25/2007 8:31:20 AM
No desire to travel ??? They also have good deals on insurance and other things. I agree that a lot of their marketing is aimed at affluent people.

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AARP - what do you think? Posted: 2/25/2007 8:29:48 AM
I started getting ads from them the year before I turned 50 and joined when I was 50 (I am now almost 55.) It is only $12 a year and your partner gets a free membership. I like their magazines, which have useful information. The discounts at hotels alone are well worth the dues. Plus I like being part of a lobbying group for middle aged and older people. I have had a positive experience with AARP. My feeling is, you are going to be 50+ anyway, so why not get discounts for it ?

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