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Alexquality

Joined: 2/20/2007

Msg: 56 (view)

What's the point? Posted: 11/5/2009 5:59:44 AM
The dog thing alone would be a deal breaker for any dog lover. I agree twolf33. if he doesn't even like hot dogs, he definitelly isn't an ideal companion..

Alexquality

Joined: 2/20/2007

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What's the point? Posted: 11/4/2009 4:03:26 AM
Posted By: tracyannk on 11/3/2009 916 PM .... Would you go out with someone you had nothing in common with? What if this person seems to hate everything you like? ..... Usually an "average" man has most in common with another man of similar age. The likes/dislikes are usually more similar and with a woman. Women like shopping -men don't. Men like football - women don't. Soulmate of a man is probably a man, soulmate of a woman is probably another woman. Yet, the trick is, most people are attracted to the opposite sex. Maybe because differences are actually more attractive than the "what do we have in common"? My approach to this: I am looking for a woman that -shares some of my interest (to love travelling is a "must", no exceptions) -but different enough! For example I don't want anyone from same profession. I am economist, and does not appeal to me so interesting to have an accountant or financial professional for the job of the partner -would rather choose someone who has arts backround for example. Or a teacher. We may have less "in common", but as a couple might be better together. So, for many aspect, I prefer actually differences over similarities. I'm aware that dealing with differences might be difficult, but hey, long lasting relationship is hard work anyway, so I don't mind! Just my 2 cents. Good luck everyone in your search/datings!

Alexquality

Joined: 2/20/2007

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How do you trust anyone on dating sites? Posted: 11/4/2009 3:19:04 AM
I believe that best to judge someone based on his/her actions, and trust words of a stranger only to a reasonable level. You need to find the "golden middle" between naive of trusting everyone and the paranoia of not trusting anyone.... Usually best not to trust those who say always "trust me, trust me"

Alexquality

Joined: 2/20/2007

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Jesus was a Socialist Posted: 11/4/2009 3:12:28 AM
Sure. Jesus was a socialist, and he was also good in online dating! Amen.

Alexquality

Joined: 2/20/2007

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why is that an older woman looking for younger men is OK but...older men for younger girls is BAD Posted: 11/4/2009 2:58:34 AM
your life, your choice, your preference... better to care less about what other people think.. Personally I am looking for younger Partner too, not too young though, maybe about 10years younger. I'm 37, so 27 would be about OK. Could be 26 or 28, good to be flexible. good luck with dating, everyone!

alexquality

Joined: 2/20/2007

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Best Place You've Ever Been? Posted: 5/23/2009 10:58:17 AM
1.Santorini (Greece), 2. Koiji Beach (Japan), 3.Wonderland, Fantasyland, Mars, Venus, Andromeda Galaxy...Greece & Japan...

alexquality

Joined: 2/20/2007

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Japanese Music Posted: 5/23/2009 10:29:34 AM
Naichaukamo by Morning Musume

smilinglaughing

Joined: 2/20/2007

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Brunettes more successful than Blondes say survey.... Posted: 3/1/2009 12:39:54 PM
62% of billionaires have married (or are in long-term relationships with) brunettes, while only 22% chose more fair-haired companions. Women with black hair reeled in a measly 16% of the world's wealthiest bachelors, while redheads barely made the list. source: http://www.stylelist.com/blog/2008/04/09/billionaires-marry-brunettes-more-than-blonds/

smilinglaughing

Joined: 2/20/2007

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he'll sleep with you, but won't kiss you Posted: 1/31/2009 1:17:06 AM
she must be eating garlic

smilinglaughing

Joined: 2/20/2007

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How did your parents meet? Posted: 10/21/2008 2:00:41 AM
My parents met through an internet dating site: First my father registered a profile, searched through all ladies' profiles ( it was easier because less a lot less people used internet dating in 1971) , and than suddenly got very interested in 55 women! So, using an efficient method, he sent out copy & paste emails to them: "Hi honey! You are hot! Wanna IM?" He already came to the forums to complain: "why don't nice guys get replies?", when one of the ladies - my mother - decided to reply to him, because actually she preferred copy & paste emails as she was really fed up with other guys' emails that expressed genuine interest. True story

smilinglaughing

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Heidegger's Nazi Politics in the 30's Posted: 10/20/2008 7:15:27 AM
Scorpio: he might have had plain and simple career motives. from career perspective that time it was a wise move to join the party. "Heidegger was elected Rector of the University of Freiburg and he subsequently joined the Nazi party." True, but America did not have a more or less homogenous national population. Germans could make an ideology based on the superiority of the German nation, but Americans as a young nation couldn't do it as it has been (still is) a melting pot.... "Yet I didn't see America become a society ruled by a party of mass-murderers during this time."

smilinglaughing

Joined: 2/20/2007

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If a stranger talks to you, and no one else Posted: 10/20/2008 6:13:46 AM
maybe he talks for no other reason than the conversation itself. some people love to talk, interact with other people, without sexual motives or goals....

smilinglaughing

Joined: 2/20/2007

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Heidegger's Nazi Politics in the 30's Posted: 10/18/2008 3:13:01 PM
Scorpio: you need to put it in historical perspective. Germany was after a lost world war, chaotic political structure of the Weimar Republic, lot of unemployment and and the the financial crisis of the Great Depression. basically many people were searching for a solution for their problems, that western type democracy as a political system and capitalism as an economic system failed to provide.... scary to think in terms of parallel of the current global financial crisis... did it help to understand a bit better? anyways, that's the way I think about it.... "But I have a problem in understanding how a philosopher like Heidegger could join the Nazi party."

smilinglaughing

Joined: 2/20/2007

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What price a broken heart? Posted: 10/15/2008 3:06:59 AM
depends on how big your heart was! current price list for hearts at Heart Replacements Solutions Ltd.: XXL size heart: priceless XL size: 555,555 $ L size: 44,444 $ M size: 3,333 $ S size: 1 $ don't worry, if it's broken, just buy a new one, maybe a more resistant, stronger heart!

smilinglaughing

Joined: 2/20/2007

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should age differance be a deal breaker in a relationship Posted: 10/14/2008 5:55:15 AM
here is how I see it: -society makes rules, -but at the end of the day it's the individual's life! Your life, your choice. Stop worrying and start living...

smilinglaughing

Joined: 2/20/2007

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What do you think about the 20/80 rule? Posted: 10/12/2008 7:50:19 AM
I can confirm that's correct. I belong to the elite 20% that had sex with 80% of women

smilinglaughing

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What is the right war? Posted: 10/7/2008 11:18:10 AM
in other words: when do we accept violence? when it is meant to defend against aggression, if there is no available peaceful solution....

smilinglaughing

Joined: 2/20/2007

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man who doesn't sleep with wife?? Posted: 10/3/2008 1:57:04 AM
possible, but she doesn't show respect to his wife: tell about a stranger in email about their (lack of) sex life shows this guy has low ethical standards, it's a private matter should be only between him and his wife. women often forget: usually if a man treats a woman badly, he does that to all women. with the exception when he really wants something (ie. get into your pants) for himself he is showing a nicer "image". the only exception here if they live in "open marriage", so the woman doesn't mind (less than 1% chance probably....). ask him to give you his wife phone number: 1.if you know her number, you can call her or meet her and ask about their marriage to find out from her, 2. if he doesn't give you - you have no basis to believe that the man isn't just cheating around. why should give yourself all this headache and complications when there are out there many single, divorced etc. unattached men to choose from? actually, if you respect other people's marriages: just tell him you are not dating married men, period

smilinglaughing

Joined: 2/20/2007

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Bailout a very interesting perspective Posted: 10/2/2008 1:33:47 AM
most people do not even realize how important is the bailout, cannot comprehend a number like 700,000,000,000 dollars. It is roughly 2,300 dollars per every US citizen. who is going to pay that? the taxpayer. when the state is "helping out" the private sector, essentially that has consequences 1. on short/medium run: redistributing income. taking cash out of Average Joe's pocket, and through financial institutions at the end of the day giving it to others. to who? Average Joe gets back a part of it, through the benefits of the plan, but mostly the beneficiary of the plan is Mr. Rich. Average Joe should be grateful he gets back 1,000 dollars of his own 2,300 - how wise and caring are his leaders! Note if average Joe would dare to steal 1,300 dollars from the state - for example, cheat on taxes - he is severly punished. However,when Mr Rich does essentially the same, but approved through the House and the Senate....that is legal. 2.on long run: it sends a message to the financial institutions (banks etc.) that they can do business irresponsibly: the state will save them. they can gamble with the average joe's money, -if they win on the gambling bet (officially called: investments) they can keep the profit, -if they bet on he "bad horse", no problem, the state - average joe's taxes - hedges the losses. bottom line, what happens: the powerful and rich people taking resources away from the average and poor people. you can put that in "nice package", but in raw reality that is the core of the Bailout on the positive side, you get more "social peace": 1. Mr Rich is happy with the new resources, 2: Average Joe does nothing, just drinks his beer and complains in his family or among friends "oh these politicians, bankers etc. are really bad". he won't start a revolution

smilinglaughing

Joined: 2/20/2007

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Were women better off 50 years ago? Posted: 10/1/2008 3:48:44 AM
people 50 years ago were more religious, feared of God, that set generally accepted ethical standards. 1.women were much less likely to cheat on their partners, women were caring about children etc. 2. in return they received more respect. back than 50 years ago in general women enjoyed higher respect, however also more women were worthy of respect. today more women behave also in a way, that do not deserve to be respected.... I would assume some of these women that get in your cab, OP, and you feel sorry for them, probably received what they deserved. chances are that you might be assuming that many of them are better than they are in reality... the other side of the coin: men were also better off in the "old days", many came home from work and warm meal and a faithfull wife waited for them....

smilinglaughing

Joined: 2/20/2007

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Women who work in a prison? Posted: 10/1/2008 3:29:35 AM
I would not seek relationship with a woman working in a prison. Many reasons: -concern about her safety, -too tough job. I am looking for a softer woman. Similarly women in military, police etc. are not likely "compatible matches" for me. not 100%ly excluded though, but highly unlikely. "Honestly guys, Would you be intimidated by a woman who works in a prison? "

smilinglaughing

Joined: 2/20/2007

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Advice please! Posted: 9/22/2008 9:09:48 AM
Dee: you are young workforce, without a lot of work experience, without family - usually therefore you are expected to work more than 40 hours per week for a lower than usual wage. employers like to take utilize young workforce, and don't threat them as older colleagues. it's your choice if it worths for you or not. employers usually aren't worried if they loose you as they can easily hire another eager young workforce with the same conditions to replace you... the work will not get better, only you can be more "resistant" to its negative effects. if I understand you correctly you don't have a good relationship with your manager, mainly because of her fault. just speculation - but it is very possible that she is jealous of you - young, pretty, intelligent, multi-sided, kind and social lady - it sounds she is a bit neurotic, maybe her life isn't that good as yours...for whatever reason she seems to enjoy to "terrorize" you - her only satisfaction maybe the power and the position she achieved. (would need to know her more to form an opinion - note it's just my "feeling" basd on what you wrote.) overall advice: 1. unless she isn't moving elsewhere -another position, birth of a child etc. - you are better off with looking for a job with a "normal" manager that doesn't make some of your days hell. 2. the advantage if you stay: you learn to be more resistant for not-so-nice managers. it's also a useful skill, as later during your career you can't always escape when you are unlucky to get a bad supervisor for some time.... best of luck with your decisions!....(and please send me a pizza, let me test how well you bake it:wink:)

smilinglaughing

Joined: 2/20/2007

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What to wear on a First Date? Posted: 9/21/2008 9:52:32 AM
wear exactly the same dress as on your profile pic, so when you meet, you will recognize each other

smilinglaughing

Joined: 2/20/2007

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Would you nurse your cheating partner? Posted: 9/18/2008 4:26:06 AM
that's drama... if it was me, I would not stay with a partner who cheated....not even once. as I am not in this situation it's easier to speak "from the outside". all in all it's the ultimate "dealbreaker". when you marry, you promise to be faithfull. if your partner wasn't faithful, he broke the contract.... however, in this situation the woman should find out really if it was indeed cheating. could be the 21 year old "other woman" wanted to be with him, it was her imagination.... so the wife has to find out first what was between the two. perhaps try to talk to the woman in person.... easier said than done.... very miserable situation for all...

smilinglaughing

Joined: 2/20/2007

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Labels Posted: 9/18/2008 1:33:33 AM
sounds complicated to me. my initial feeling based on reading through on forum posts here, this is a case that cannot be easily answered, without talking through it for quite many evenings...and leave some time to let conclusions settle down on the "bottom of the glass"... usually the best approach at complex situations is to look at it from many viewpoints and than try to arrive to a conclusion....good luck

smilinglaughing

Joined: 2/20/2007

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First experience with online dating...... Posted: 9/16/2008 4:57:09 PM
OP, bad to hear that you got hurt... not pleasant, but it happens, move on....and concentrate on finding your "match" - is the best you can do, and look on the positive side... by the way, it's not "only men", not gender specific I would say.

smilinglaughing

Joined: 2/20/2007

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how many still believe in uncondtional love? Posted: 9/2/2008 1:10:52 PM
women feel unconditional love: ...however, not for men, but towards their children! don't expect the same intensity, it's too "idealistic" to expect.

smilinglaughing

Joined: 2/20/2007

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Any men over 35 seriously looking to get married? Posted: 9/2/2008 4:05:47 AM
yes, me! please just send me all the applications who wants to marry me, 99.99% of applications will get rejected, but 1 woman will be the happy and luckiest one!

smilinglaughing

Joined: 2/20/2007

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When is it TOO late to have children?? Posted: 9/1/2008 5:25:59 AM
hmmm for a woman, at 38, 1.if she wants "biological" children, than it's about time to give brth quite soon...with every year the chances are getting worse and worse. 2. if she is "ok" with adoption, still need some time for the process. 3.being called a "nanny" shouldn't matter. some people are unkind, so what. don't listen to them, or return the unkindness with unkindness. bottom line, it's not late, but perhaps time to pay more attention to the "project" OP, reading your profile you search an "outgoing person". it's great, but for the next few years if you want an outgoing person, might not be the best combination. you stay home with the baby, and he goes out to have fun. is that what you want?

smilinglaughing

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Did you, or can you have a good relationship with a narcissist? Posted: 8/31/2008 1:12:25 AM
I would guess a narcistic can say this: "I was looking for my solmate and I found him! It's ME!!! " how simple partner search would be, just get a mirror lol

smilinglaughing

Joined: 2/20/2007

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All men would cheat given the chance...Do you agree? Posted: 8/30/2008 5:57:15 AM
since when Kate Moss is the oraculum of human knowledge? she said something that gained publicity, perhaps that's all she wanted suppose if she said "quite a lot of men would cheat, but also some would not" - would that be "sensational"? most likely not. so, she has to say something "sensational" - true, or less so, is actually irrelevant - to gain media attention....that's how it works

smilinglaughing

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I'M IN LOVE WITH A LESBIAN Posted: 8/29/2008 2:14:25 AM
you need to convince her that it's good for her if she gives you a chance. thaa's how you do it: maybe take it with humour, LIGHTLY: dress up one day as a woman, and call her over... 1. if she has good sense of humour, she will laugh. 2. if she does not have a sense of humour, no worths pursuing her.... bottom line don't try too hard, the lighter you take the better. no drama. play comedy, not drama, not drama, not drama. comedy, okay, comprende amigo? (is spanish to say, understand) 99.99% chance it won't work.... but if you don't take your 0.01% chance, than you are not in love.

smilinglaughing

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conversation doesn't flow - lack of compatibility? Posted: 8/28/2008 1:48:04 PM
the correct answer: 75% yes, 25% no. not exactly though, the values would depend on many factors, first of all what compatibility definitions you use, what assumptions you use, how you measure it, etc. note that 1. to determine compatibility is a long process. there are shortcuts, but it's still long. 2. if you truly want to determine your compatibility (with a high, like 90-95% etc. probability...), be patient, and don't jump on quick conclusions. 3. compatibility has not a YES/NO answer, not black and white. compatibility is always partial. "how high is your compatibility with person X in what areas/sectors of life" is a good question, "are you compatible with person X" is not really. IMO that's what science says about your question, based on best knowledge available as of today.

smilinglaughing

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Advice about Japan!! Posted: 8/27/2008 1:08:30 PM
congrats! I used to work there as well. advice: 1.learn as much as the language as you can.....get a dictionary with Romanji letters (basically English alphabet) and learn as much as you can before departure! 2.you go there to work first of all, so focus on that as first priority. sure, excitement comes from "travel opportunities", that's fully understandable, but keep in mind japanese work a LOT! 3.prepare for a culture shock. you are a woman, especially a "gaijin" woman . that means not equal to men. 4.learn to eat with chopsticks. if you don't, you stay hungry - should be big motivation! 5.learn to bow your head 15degrees, 30degrees, 45degress and so on. learn which one to use when. no matter how hard you try, you won't learn all essential social rules quickly, take your time... going to japan is like going to another planet! good luck..enjoy!

smilinglaughing

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How Do you break up nicely??? Posted: 8/27/2008 8:48:50 AM
Face to face - the quality choice IMO.

smilinglaughing

Joined: 2/20/2007

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Your worst sexual experience Posted: 8/27/2008 8:43:46 AM
once upon a while, one night I didn't manage to be "man enough", or failed to be a "man enough", so to say

smilinglaughing

Joined: 2/20/2007

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what has been the defining news event in your life? Posted: 8/26/2008 10:42:53 AM
news are usually negative, therefore for me it is not defining. I try to live positive +++ so news are not defining or me.

smilinglaughing

Joined: 2/20/2007

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NEW FEATURE: Plentyoffish Music using IMEEM - How To Use Posted: 8/25/2008 6:16:20 PM
thanks, but no.... I tried to make the video work, but didn't, so uploaded at least an audio song -better than nothing at all... I just went to it and clicked on it and it is playing “Felicita”, it is just music though not a video is that what you wanted?

smilinglaughing

Joined: 2/20/2007

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Could you be a hangman? Posted: 8/25/2008 5:55:43 PM
depends on the salary and benefit package

smilinglaughing

Joined: 2/20/2007

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Are you ready to date yet? Posted: 8/25/2008 3:54:57 AM
it's 2 different questions: 1.your man, the insecure, tried a date with you, and it didn't work. he didn't know why, so he gave a "not so adequate answer". overall, this is not good, but after all most men date different women and see which one works, by basically using a trial-and-error approach. 2.the second is a different story, he simply didn't know that talking about exes on first date is not really a good idea.... bottom line, both dates were unseccessful, result :NO MATCH. key word for both cases: NEXT.

smilinglaughing

Joined: 2/20/2007

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NEW FEATURE: Plentyoffish Music using IMEEM - How To Use Posted: 8/24/2008 2:11:42 AM
....have a problem with IMEEM: 1.I had a song (video) on my PoF profile, seemed to workwell in last few weeks. 2.....later, suddenly disappeared. 3. strange, because the code is there. 4.ok, as it didn't work, I thought to change it. 5.went to imeem site, found anouther code... 6.when I tried to "save music" on the Imeem embed code of PoF....the page does not react. 7.restarted computer, did everyting possible... 8.seems the old, non-working code is there....not possible to change it on PoF...so can't replace it with any music video that works. can somebody help please what to do? reading last few previous posts.....maybe it appears on another computer but not on mine? if I click on my profile it shows a huge empty space...possibly it is there. but than on, it is really strange why it isn't possible to change the song either - click on Save Music does not work on PoF... it looks like a recent new bug on PoF site? update: managed to delete and erase it at least....however it seems PoF does not accept any new code...keep trying:)

smilinglaughing

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Do Democrats and Republicans really hate eachother? Posted: 8/23/2008 12:35:16 AM
we need to accept different people think differently, and not necessarily our point of view is correct, or anyone is really right. it's more or less like this: let's say there is an Issue (1), the solution party R would provide....would most likely give R1 result, the solution party D would provide....would most likely give D1 result, the problems of choice: 1. the exact expected values for R1 and D1 results are uncertain, can be debated, 2. than compare R1 vs. D1 - which do you prefer. than you have not 1 issue but thousands.... so you compare an estimate of R(1.....9999)...with D(1....9999) even that is an over-simplified model as issues are related etc..... enough of politics

smilinglaughing

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Falling in love.... online????? Posted: 8/23/2008 12:14:28 AM
it's possible, many people fall in love online, but the underlying question: is it the real person you are or just the "online profile/avatar". philosophically, if you meet a person face-to-face even than it's fundamentally the same thing: you get to know a small part, fraction of a person before you fall in love.....so based on x% information about the person, and some interaction involved, you fall in love. said it in a complicated way, lol. the short answer is 1. yes, they can love! 2.- compatibility -that person is right for you and you are for for that person, is another thing. risk of online love you fall in love with the "wrong" person, someone you are not compatible with. that risk is probably greater online, than via the traditional face-to-face way. just my 2 cents.

smilinglaughing

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How do women feel about being sexually rejected ? Posted: 8/23/2008 12:05:46 AM
they feel bad, period. I agree with you OP they feel worse due to exactly the same thing you mentioned. some may even think you are gay or something wrong with you if you reject a woman.... at the same time probably they will remember you forever

smilinglaughing

Joined: 2/20/2007

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trust issues or being realistic? Posted: 8/23/2008 12:00:13 AM
wrong qestion, in my opinion. different people think different way and mean different things, calling the same thing. find out about that very person what he or she means... "When a person says you have trust issues, what do they mean?"

smilinglaughing

Joined: 2/20/2007

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Would you date a guy that believed in UFO's Posted: 8/22/2008 1:39:33 PM
UFOs are proven facts. to the OP question: yes. as point of views on UFOs are not relevant in a relationship, not a deal breaker for sure....

smilinglaughing

Joined: 2/20/2007

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Phone calls v. texts Posted: 8/22/2008 7:47:36 AM
he is a guy that prefer sms to phone. it's different than your aproach to the subject. can you accept it or not? I don't think that changing the behaviour of the person is good idea...

smilinglaughing

Joined: 2/20/2007

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a little advice? Posted: 8/21/2008 1:27:34 PM
both of you need to be on the same page about what means faithfullness in the relationship, it is critical that you both have the same views...

smilinglaughing

Joined: 2/20/2007

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2010 bad or good? Posted: 8/21/2008 12:56:33 PM
I'll visit OL in 2010. Sure it will be fun, I didn't have time for Torino 2006 - this time will plan ahead and organize it better Good luck for all preparations, and see you all in 1.5 years!

smilinglaughing

Joined: 2/20/2007

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Can a woman be trusted in a relationship? Posted: 8/21/2008 11:59:36 AM
to be on the safe side, don't trust women and neither trust horses on the other hand, life is about taking risk, so you need to trust someone... put the 2 together: trust the person if you know her enough....this applies for men and women both....

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