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 kja71
Joined: 12/21/2011
Msg: 4 (view)
 
Observation on women
Posted: 11/11/2012 3:52:25 PM
To do it was tacky, but to post about it is even worse. What types of women did you send the messages to? Every woman is going to give a different response...... Obviously you have nothing better to do. And as of the experiment, I think it's BS.

Edit: Forget most of what i said....... Tell 'em Cowboy!!!!!! FFS!!
 kja71
Joined: 12/21/2011
Msg: 12 (view)
 
always picking the wrong one??
Posted: 11/11/2012 1:15:55 PM
Maybe you could send your "picker" back to the manufacturer for a refund or repair????
 kja71
Joined: 12/21/2011
Msg: 14 (view)
 
Am I ready to date again?
Posted: 11/11/2012 12:38:29 PM
I agree with everything that U make it entertaining said......

No it's not fun to be alone all of the time, but you have to get right with yourself so to speak before you can be right for anyone else. I've been divorced for 2 yrs and just finally feel like I'm ready.
 kja71
Joined: 12/21/2011
Msg: 11 (view)
 
Is looks everything?
Posted: 11/11/2012 12:13:26 PM
Yes, looks are important, but you have to have common interests and the personality to back it up. Beauty always fades but the other stuff hopefully won't.
 kja71
Joined: 12/21/2011
Msg: 6 (view)
 
Does age make a difference
Posted: 11/11/2012 5:59:32 AM
Age does matter to me because I'm older. I have no desire to date a young guy. It would be a waste of my time. I've had kids and don't want anymore. I would rather date someone my age or older because we would be closer to the same point in our lives and have more in common.
 kja71
Joined: 12/21/2011
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Right time for first kiss?
Posted: 11/11/2012 5:56:39 AM
I don't think that there is a certain amount of time that you have to wait to kiss your date. If things are going well and there is chemistry, then just kiss her. If there is a connection and you wait too long she might think that you aren't attracted to her and not go out again.
 kja71
Joined: 12/21/2011
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My ex fiance
Posted: 11/11/2012 5:53:44 AM
She wants to check up on you so to speak. Obviously you meant something to her or she wouldn't bother. There are times in our lives that we meet people that we just can't get out of our heads, and knowing that they're ok and doing well makes us feel better eventhough we know that they aren't with us we still wish them the best. If it still hurts for you to talk to her, explain that you aren't going to be able to talk to her anymore, but don't be rude. People appreciate the truth even if it hurts.
 kja71
Joined: 12/21/2011
Msg: 14 (view)
 
Would you date someone who is struggling financially?
Posted: 11/10/2012 8:35:13 PM
Yes I would date someone struggling financially. Right now I don't know a lot of people that aren't.
 kja71
Joined: 12/21/2011
Msg: 10 (view)
 
Is this a deal breaker for most women?
Posted: 11/10/2012 5:42:36 PM
My husband didn't have an RC car hobby, but he had a sports hobby. He played volleyball in college when we met and played yr round through out our marriage. It was his stress reliever. It cost a lot for leagues and tournaments, but he loved it and it made him happy. I supported him and he supported me in the things that I liked to do. It's all part of a relationship. If someone wants you to give up what you love to be with them then they're not worth it.
 kja71
Joined: 12/21/2011
Msg: 11 (view)
 
What was she thinking.....?
Posted: 11/10/2012 7:27:40 AM
Why do you care? Sounds like you got together and had a good time for a while. So who cares???
 kja71
Joined: 12/21/2011
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Ladies...lend me your ears! Guys too
Posted: 11/10/2012 7:24:48 AM
You should've just called her! Did you want her to jump up and down and say yes please come??? This is why you shouldn't text people you don't know really well because you don't know the feelings and emotions behind the text.

Edit: If you like her call her. SOunds like she tried to follow up with you to see what your plans were...
 kja71
Joined: 12/21/2011
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Blind Dates
Posted: 11/10/2012 6:49:09 AM
well, my friend and her BF planned this get together for last night. My friends BF said this was a great guy and that he would be perfect for me. Uh-huh...... He saw a pic of me, but I didn't see what he looked like. I thought, well I'll go have some adult conversation and just have a good time. WHen I saw this guy, I nearly died! He looked old enough to be my dad. Sense of humor is so important to me and he had the personality of a turtle. Every other word that came out of his mouth was "aint" and he called me by the wrong name...LMAO At that point I wanted to gouge my friends BF in the eyes with a fork. I was home by 9pm. I know my friends love me and that they just don't want to see me alone but.....I've decided that after last night, that I will NEVER let someone set me up again! LOL

SO, unless you can really trust the person setting you up, moral of the funny story is, just don't do it.
 kja71
Joined: 12/21/2011
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Is old-fashioned courtship even desired by you Ladies?
Posted: 11/9/2012 7:25:11 PM
Do yourself a favor and come back and try to play the nice guy card when the ink on your divorce papers is dry...
 kja71
Joined: 12/21/2011
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The power of love
Posted: 11/8/2012 2:23:19 PM
1. Yes I believe in love.
2. It's terribly hard to fall into and out of love.
3. It would depend on the situation. When I was married I tried to preserve it to the point that I forgot what I was even fighting for.
4. I can't speak for society as a whole, but for myself I don't take it lightly, and I never have. I'm not avoiding it, but I'm in no hurry for it to happen again. I know it will someday and when it does it will be wonderful.
 kja71
Joined: 12/21/2011
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I'm here for a review.
Posted: 11/8/2012 11:49:18 AM
I participate in the forums and I give a lot of people the advice that they should come here for a review. Today I was thinking that maybe I should take my own advice. So..............tell me what you think.
 kja71
Joined: 12/21/2011
Msg: 697 (view)
 
Better SEX: Before or After 30?
Posted: 11/8/2012 10:50:44 AM
after 35 for sure......You know what you like and you're not afraid to ask for it. You have a confidence that you didn't have in your 20's.
 kja71
Joined: 12/21/2011
Msg: 5 (view)
 
Age appropriate
Posted: 11/8/2012 10:19:47 AM
I would say 10 yrs younger.
 kja71
Joined: 12/21/2011
Msg: 7 (view)
 
My girlfriend's history is bothering me.. please advise.
Posted: 11/8/2012 10:17:08 AM
Don't ask questions if you don't really want to know the answer . Let's face it, you're mad because her sexual history is more extensive than your own........... I believe that those questions can only be asked if you're willing to take the answer and move on. You can't, and unless you do, you might as well chalk this up as a lesson learned and don't do the same with your next gf.

Even if it was her idea, you didn't have to answer.
 kja71
Joined: 12/21/2011
Msg: 10 (view)
 
How long do I wait?
Posted: 11/7/2012 1:41:15 PM
It takes 2 to tango. You both contributed to the failure of your marriage. Do you feel that you've done all you can to make it work? Tried everything? If so, you cannot put your life on hold waiting for her to change her mind and figure out that you're worth having in her life.
It seems to me that given given her the opportunity to come back and she isn't interested. I can tell you from experience that you can't wait for someone to wake up and realize what they're missing. Go see an attorney and move on....... Don't tell me easier said than done, because this is exactly what I did. I'm in a much better place than I've been in years, because I grew balls I didn't have and let my ex know that I did not need him anymore.
 kja71
Joined: 12/21/2011
Msg: 16 (view)
 
Relationship labels
Posted: 11/5/2012 7:10:54 PM
Labels give false expectations sometimes. I think it's better to just let things happen naturally and leave the labels somewhere else.............

Edit: CD of course you do... :)
 kja71
Joined: 12/21/2011
Msg: 9 (view)
 
Liar, Liar pants on fire!!!
Posted: 11/5/2012 5:43:11 PM
Sounds to me like you like her, she obviously likes you................ Just call

Who knows what she was thinking but her. You need to ask her. Sex is emotional. WOmen have to trust the man they're sleeping with or they won't do it. I guess because you did hit it off she didn't expect you to say no to her about going to the BBQ, so she just acted like a b1tch... We do that sometimes..lol
 kja71
Joined: 12/21/2011
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Liar, Liar pants on fire!!!
Posted: 11/5/2012 5:24:32 PM
Seems to me that you clicked and things got really carried away. It happens. DO you like her? Do you want her to say she's sorry for calling you a liar? SOme people never apologize when they know they're wrong. They don't know how, but they try and make up for it in different ways. You were up front and told her you didn't want anything serious. She knew that. I think that you should've talked to her again. SHe deserved to know how her calling you names made you feel. I know it sounds girly, but even guys have feelings. I guess you should consider this a lesson learned. Keep it in your pants next time until you're sure......lol
 kja71
Joined: 12/21/2011
Msg: 16 (view)
 
Why won't older women take me seriously?
Posted: 11/5/2012 2:38:03 PM
Your question itself shows your immautrity. Why would a grown woman want to be with a guy that only likes her for her body??? You need to stick with girls your own age.
 kja71
Joined: 12/21/2011
Msg: 8 (view)
 
What's wrong?
Posted: 11/4/2012 6:33:32 PM
Listen to the advice that everyone else gave you and go to profile review. They will help you. Your profile needs a do-over and you needs to get some patience. You haven't been on line long enough to complain. Finding someone doesn't happen overnight.
 kja71
Joined: 12/21/2011
Msg: 3 (view)
 
Guitar players?
Posted: 11/4/2012 2:56:24 PM
It depends on what kind of music the guy is playing. I like blues........ Joe Bonamassa.............. The way he moves his fingers and his body as he plays the music. It seems effortless. Like he's making love his guitar. Enough said :)
 kja71
Joined: 12/21/2011
Msg: 41 (view)
 
Should men cover up their gray hair?
Posted: 11/4/2012 2:28:13 PM
Let it go gray. Men look good with gray hair. I think it's pretty obvious when they color it and I don't think it's very attractive.
 kja71
Joined: 12/21/2011
Msg: 47 (view)
 
Sexual...vocalizations
Posted: 11/4/2012 2:14:19 PM
I think that they probably get off on people being able to hear them...... From the parking lot? YIKES!!!!
 kja71
Joined: 12/21/2011
Msg: 83 (view)
 
I always have to beg him to have sex, getting tired of that
Posted: 11/4/2012 1:58:57 PM
Why would you even stay in a position where you have to beg your man for sex? It makes no sense to me. Sounds to me like he is using you to stay at your place. If he says he's not attracted to you then show him the door and make sure it hits him as he leaves.... Life's too short for this kind of crap.
 kja71
Joined: 12/21/2011
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SOS
Posted: 11/3/2012 10:37:18 PM
Someone's messing with you buddy. If you're that curious call the number and ask. Kinda weird I know, but just a thought.
 kja71
Joined: 12/21/2011
Msg: 76 (view)
 
Separated vs Divorced
Posted: 11/3/2012 10:11:43 PM
Absolutely I do and it is a total deal breaker for me. I don't want to be with a person that is just divorced. I know how I felt at the time and I thought that I could jump right into another relationship and be fine. I was so wrong. I met a man that told me that I was going to have to go through a process and it could take a long time. I was so mad at him when he told me that.....It turns out he was right. I've been divorced 2 years and am finally at the point that I'm right with me enough to be able to carry on in a relationship if that's what I choose to do and not have the baggage that I had right after. I think you need to find yourself before you're going to be able to function in a healthy way after divorce.
 kja71
Joined: 12/21/2011
Msg: 56 (view)
 
Final divorce papers...
Posted: 11/3/2012 9:59:44 PM
I had to stand in front of a judge and have her tell me how sorry she was that my marriage failed.....It was terrible and I felt like a failure, but I didn't file until I was absolutely sure that I had tried everything. So when it was all said and done I felt relief that it was over and was glad I had made the decision to go.
I was the one that left.
it took six months all together.
 kja71
Joined: 12/21/2011
Msg: 8 (view)
 
Women does this weird you out?
Posted: 11/3/2012 9:53:34 PM
Probably not, because that's just not my thing. I dont have any thoughts on it because i don't have any experience with it and I just dont understand the point.
 kja71
Joined: 12/21/2011
Msg: 15 (view)
 
have you found someone
Posted: 11/3/2012 9:50:58 PM
I have met a few nice guys.... But, I have to say that I have met more friends on the forums then in person. I'm still fishing.
 kja71
Joined: 12/21/2011
Msg: 10 (view)
 
She wanted me, then shut the door....
Posted: 11/1/2012 4:55:20 PM
You should consider it a blessing that she bolted. Never, ever tell someone how much money you make. Unless you're paying her bills it's none of her business. That should've been a huge red flag to you!!!!!
 kja71
Joined: 12/21/2011
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Good and bad friends/acquiantances
Posted: 11/1/2012 2:45:36 PM
I have a lot of acqiuaintances. They come and go. They're the ones that call when they want. Talk when they want, and when you want something from them, like their time, they're too busy. I only have a few really good friends. They are they people that I trust with my life and that will always be there when I need them, no matter what. If you don't have people in your life like that, then you're missing out.
 kja71
Joined: 12/21/2011
Msg: 33 (view)
 
Is touching a 'woman' thing?
Posted: 11/1/2012 6:33:03 AM
I'm touchy too. No I don't think it's gender related. My ex was like that. That is the only thing that I miss about him. He always knew when I needed it. He would hold my hand in the car, give me a hug or put his hand on the small of my back..... I loved that!
 kja71
Joined: 12/21/2011
Msg: 7 (view)
 
All women are different, but any insight would be helpful...
Posted: 11/1/2012 5:05:56 AM
You obviously have a strong connection if you're still playing around after 4 years. It's time to make some big decisions. You're too old to be playing games. Stay off of fb and twitter. Everyone knows that things are misunderstood through a text message. Pick up the phone, and have an adult conversation. I agree with everything that Silent Steel said. If you truly want her you have some work to do.
 kja71
Joined: 12/21/2011
Msg: 8 (view)
 
why do you prioritize your friend's opinion about him?
Posted: 11/1/2012 5:00:56 AM
Women like the opinions of their gf's, but ultimately we all make our own decisions. So think of it this way, if we bring you around our friends that means that we like you. Stop being paranoid about it. That seems pretty juvenile to me.
 kja71
Joined: 12/21/2011
Msg: 17 (view)
 
What sort of dancing do you enjoy most?
Posted: 10/31/2012 4:18:20 PM
Mundus, that's harsh! Even for you!
 kja71
Joined: 12/21/2011
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Is it possible to be too educated and articulate?
Posted: 10/31/2012 1:44:06 PM
I think the only thing that would turn women off from you is your arrogance not your education............
 kja71
Joined: 12/21/2011
Msg: 14 (view)
 
Fear? Real or an excuse
Posted: 10/31/2012 10:19:13 AM
It sounds like she's had quite a painful history. Sometimes after being in such a bad relationship for so long you forget what it's like to have someone that's actually genuine come into your life. I guess the decision is yours on whether you want to take it slower and be patient with her or to just move on and find someone without the extra baggage.
 kja71
Joined: 12/21/2011
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Cant find anyone! Girls plz help!
Posted: 10/30/2012 6:02:20 PM
Why are you messaging women that you don't even find attractive? Just to get a response? What's the point? Nice guys don't do that..................Guys that are bored and looking desperate for any kind of attention do that. Maybe you need to rethink your definition of a "nice guy."
 kja71
Joined: 12/21/2011
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Why settle?
Posted: 10/30/2012 5:48:53 PM
I think everyone has bent the rules a time or two.....It's called learning a lesson and sometimes it takes more than once to learn it the hard way. But, that's life.
 kja71
Joined: 12/21/2011
Msg: 16 (view)
 
nylons in Florida
Posted: 10/28/2012 12:25:33 PM
SS...................Hahahaha! Can't stop laughing!!!!! Where do you come up with this sh1t???
 kja71
Joined: 12/21/2011
Msg: 9 (view)
 
I Don't Get What Just Happened...Are People Psychotic
Posted: 10/27/2012 10:40:24 PM
Well I wouldn't say she's psychotic, but she obviously didn't like what you had to say so she blocked you. I really don't think you did anything wrong other than talking to. The wrong person. At least you showed herself before you met each other .
 kja71
Joined: 12/21/2011
Msg: 19 (view)
 
clit confusion
Posted: 10/27/2012 3:42:43 PM
communicate during sex. Tell him when you like or don't like what he's doing. Men get off on getting you off. They want to get it right.
 kja71
Joined: 12/21/2011
Msg: 5 (view)
 
is online dating pointless for young people?
Posted: 10/27/2012 3:35:52 PM
If you want to be on here for the forums that's fine. However, you're young and should be out in real life meeting girls. You'll have better luck than you will on here. I agree with what cowboy said. Good luck to you.
 kja71
Joined: 12/21/2011
Msg: 10 (view)
 
ladies me honest
Posted: 10/27/2012 3:24:20 PM
Doesn't have to be too long, but more than a few sentences. I think ultimately what makes someone want to read it is the pics that you have posted. If you're attracted to them you want to read about them to see if there could be more than just physical attraction.
 kja71
Joined: 12/21/2011
Msg: 9 (view)
 
is every guy like this?
Posted: 10/27/2012 10:52:08 AM
I'm confused about why you're trying to date when you're about to bring a child into the world? Obviously this is your first baby. You have no idea how your life is going to change and you need to focus on being the best mom you can be and not about trying to date. You're not going to have time to shower let alone entertain a guy right now. Get your priorities straight little lady.
 kja71
Joined: 12/21/2011
Msg: 5 (view)
 
ignore old toxic flames
Posted: 10/25/2012 10:12:59 AM
@vnufall.................yep agreed, but you have to laugh because they have no idea that they shouldn't unless it's impressive to begin with. lol
 
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