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muskokakate

Joined: 2/21/2007

Msg: 72 (view)

This ain't my first rodeo!!! Posted: 2/16/2009 4:44:43 AM
I just love the expression and I am adding it to my favourites along with "Cowboy up". I am already thinking of situations that I can use it...when others are giving me direction and advice I don't want. This thread though - I think it is just a don't push the red button scenario.

muskokakate

Joined: 2/21/2007

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General Tips Posted: 11/5/2007 6:04:16 PM
An old favourite kitchen tip for me is to put paper towel into travel coffee cups, thermos, etc.when storing them in the cupboard... Keeps them from acquiring funky tastes.....hmmm maybe other people don't forget their coffee cups half full in their car for days....but for those who do, this works. The other one is to fill the thermos with hot water for a few minutes then dump and fill with hot beverage.

muskokakate

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What to do if person you are starting a relationship with still frequents POF Posted: 11/5/2007 2:54:07 AM
I am ABSOLUTELY looking for someone compatible that wants to be exclusive in an enduring, mutually inspiring, sustainable relationship... I am just NOT gonna smack that kind of LABEL of EXCLUSIVITY on a connection within the first couple of months of getting to know someone! Sare...thank you for saying clearly what I have been trying to sort out

muskokakate

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what is your strongest quality as well as your biggest weakness? Posted: 10/22/2007 4:16:35 AM
Greatest strength....humour greatest weakness humour (joke to protect myself from feelings). The great thing about me is that I am sensitive....the problem with me is I am sensitive. This site being about dating and relationships....in that vein....I am a really passionate person which is usually well received in relationship.....but then again when I am arguing...I am a really passionate person. Get the drift?

muskokakate

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Why Is it you do everything for a woman and then you get thrown to the curb like a piece of trash? Posted: 9/29/2007 5:33:49 AM
One of the great things about there being plenty of fish in the sea, is that it can be about who you really are, not how you behave. It is not about playing a role, it is about who your are and being truly yourself. I did this for her, I did that for her, ....who cares? That is behavior. Doing things for me (while appreciated), doesn't make me love someone . What works for me is when someone really "gets" me, sees me, and likes who I am. I would never feel loved in a real sense if I just behaved to ingratiate myself into someone's life. Conversely, I don't love someone who just behaves in ways that will ingratiate themselves into my life. The real kicker for me is that I have found those guys who want do things for you, always say they are doing things for you because they want to, then when you don't love them they get pissed at you and accuse you of using them. I am not bringing men into my life because I need them to do things for me, I bring them closer to me, because I like who they are.

muskokakate

Joined: 2/21/2007

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The words you should never say when a conversation is going well........ Posted: 9/17/2007 4:25:41 AM
I am with Batgirl on this one. And I loved the profile. I didn't read arrogance in it at all. I heard all the things I look for...a man who knows who is is and not only accepts it, but is happy with himself. I don't know what Watergate Salad is, but the rest I got, and I liked it. there are many things about online dating that suck, and just as many that are great. I am grateful for the opportunity to meet people. Not being a party girl, it is truly an opportunity to meet people that never would have come into my line of vision otherwise. And in reference to the post topic...the operative word there is "meet". Type, talk, meet. Who knows why your contacts bolted...who cares...they were not the ones for you.

muskokakate

Joined: 2/21/2007

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sabatoging relationships Posted: 9/14/2007 5:34:28 AM
I sabotage. It usually happens when I start to feel my heart connecting deeply. I just get scared of how much it could hurt. I am working on it and trying to be brave, and maintain the philosophy of " a ship is safest in the harbour, but that is not the purpose for which the ship was built".

muskokakate

Joined: 2/21/2007

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Smothering, personal time, and am I being unreasonable? Posted: 9/14/2007 5:26:49 AM
I don't think you need advice on how to communicate your needs to her. You have communicated them. It is simply that she does not accept it. The best advice I ever received on POF was "be yourself". For me I don't explain, justify or apologize - I just be who I am. And alone time is essential for me, or like you, I feel drained. Introverts, get recharged with solitude, extroverts get recharged with company. So it is just the nature of the beast....A rabbit cannot be a squirrel, a lion cannot be a fox, a horse cannot be a cat...You get my drift I am sure.

muskokakate

Joined: 2/21/2007

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Has being online toughened you up emotionally or made you more sensitive? Posted: 8/27/2007 4:41:19 AM
It has given me a wonderfully balanced perspective on how alike men and women are in that we are all looking for the same thing, I think. I have learned alot. I love the opportunity to meet people that online gives me, and I know I have become more savvy. When I first started a very wise man told me to "be myself", and that was the best advice anyone could have given me. Online gives everyone the opportunity to be themselves, because there really are plenty of fish. And that can only be a good thing.

muskokakate

Joined: 2/21/2007

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Any good soup recipes? Posted: 8/20/2007 7:08:13 PM
Chicken Soup 3 T butter 2 leaks 1 onion 2 medium potatoes 2 carrots 1 1/2 t salt 1/4 t pepper 6 cups water 4 chicken cubes 1/2 c rice 1 lb spinace 2 c scalded milk 1/2 cream 2 cups chopped chicken Heat butter, onions, leaks, cook 5 minutes add potatoe, carrots, salt and pepper water rice and chicken cubes - bring to a boil and simmer 15 minutes add chicken add milk scalded, and cream Heat do not boil - turn off heat and add broken up spinach.

muskokakate

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Has anyone ever started out just as friends and then later become a couple? Posted: 8/20/2007 5:48:05 AM
My cousin married her long time friend. She did not suspect anything but friendship for four years, while he all the while was waiting to make his move. When he did, she instantly said yes. Married for seven years now, extremely happy, three kids, and a lifelong friendship inside their passion. Yes YEs Yes

muskokakate

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When a man loves a woman Posted: 8/20/2007 5:44:05 AM
A long time ago...long long long...I saw an interview with Princess Grace. Her words still speak to me " I have found that when a man is in love he operates exactly the same as does a woman in love". I still expect to get what I give, and can be called a beotch when I accept nothing less than respect, honesty, vulnerability, and yes...love. Not the kind of beotch that says mean things, and complains all the time.... Being a beotch usually means being self sufficient, independent,and holding yourself in high esteem and expecting a man to do the same with you, and with himself.

muskokakate

Joined: 2/21/2007

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I was raped and now I'm worthless...advice? Posted: 8/17/2007 6:36:05 PM
I have to admit I haven't read all the posts on this forum, but I am so encouraged by all the support offered on the pages I have read. OP - I think the problem that I carry from being raped as a little girl, is almost opposite of what you were saying about your looks. It is because you are beautiful that boys (who think they are men) think that because they are attracted to you they have a right to you. I get uneasy when a man wants me, a hangover from the past. In a really perverse way I almost always go to men who don't want me. I am 53 and just getting over many of the hangups that came from abuse. Do the therapy in whatever form is comfortable and effective for you. God bless you for putting your honest words in a post. You have helped many of us, and in a sad way it is comforting to know that it has happened to many, and you are not alone.

muskokakate

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Whats with women that invite their dogs into the bedroom to sleep? Posted: 8/10/2007 5:26:23 AM
My dog, likes to watch and get pointers for her own sex life apparently. And the man, well he laughs, and I love that he rolls with whatever happens. He has been head bonked by one of the cats, who loves him too much. He has been bit on the a$$ by one of the cats during....made jokes about thinking it was me and getting all turned on....All his interactions with my animals makes me appreciate him more. And what more can I say....I so love a man who can laugh in bed and not miss a stride....now that's a focused man.

muskokakate

Joined: 2/21/2007

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What constitutes sex? Posted: 8/3/2007 3:33:14 AM
Anything you wouldn't do with someone who is "just a friend" is sex. Anything you do that you wouldn't tell your partner about is "cheating". It is not rocket science.

muskokakate

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how does one overcome the fear of getting hurt again Posted: 8/3/2007 3:30:36 AM
He is married. And because I can't post anything that short I have to add. He is married. He is married. He is married. He is married. He gave you the opportunity to pay attention to that inner voice of yours. I don't think it was the fear of intimacy, fear of commitment stuff. I think you know something is not right.

muskokakate

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Ugh... I messed up big time. Posted: 8/3/2007 3:26:01 AM
I wish I could say I am above all the retribution phone call stuff. ....but instead I will say that breaking up is not hard to do......staying broken up is the hard thing to do. Maybe next break up I will be strong enough to stay on the high road, once I have taken it. And damn wish I didn't expect there to be a next time...have to work on my optimism. Watch those late night thoughts - they can be destructive.....hit the forums instead, lots of like company here. I am writing a poem about breaking up......what rhymes with vindictive?

muskokakate

Joined: 2/21/2007

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looking the gift horse in the mouth when something seems too good to be true... Posted: 7/30/2007 7:12:42 AM
I get this one " What is a beautiful woman like you doing with a guy like me?" I am ordinary in looks with some major flaws as well, so it seems people see beyond the physical appearance, quite often and like me for who I am. I guess. But the statement says to me that they don't see their own beauty, and that is not all that appealing to me, especially when it is all I can see. I don't want the job of convincing someone they are great. I prefer it when they know that, all by themselves. Don't like the I am above you, or you are above me stuff. "Put no head above your own." And one more "comparison is the first sign of dysfunction." It really doesn't have a lot to do with looks, because everyone finds different things attractive. For example I am not into the kind of good looks that you see in the first two seconds -Barbie and Ken dolls leave me cold but that is just me.

muskokakate

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Could someone be in love with two people at the same time? Posted: 7/29/2007 5:02:08 AM
Great comments on this post. I think the capacity for love is enormous. But the situation you are describing, requires a decision to be made. Sometimes it is easier to wait until the drama has built up, to make a decision, then the drama seems to make the decision for you. But it is really a chicken's way out of a hard decision. I think he has to choose, before someone loses an eye.

muskokakate

Joined: 2/21/2007

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Cheaters aren't necessarily evil? Posted: 7/27/2007 7:26:46 PM
Oh I am so hesitating to jump into this one, but I can't resist. As a teacher, and a parent I often chuckled at those people with no children, or their first baby, who sanctimoniously declared "my child will never (bite) (talk to me like that) (do drugs) etc etc. This thread strikes me like that. Never say never.

muskokakate

Joined: 2/21/2007

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I want what i want, so why do i feel guilty? Posted: 7/27/2007 5:16:19 AM
Mary 12465- we should be friends. You said everything I feel. Things happen for a reason. OP-As a teacher my students taught me much more than I ever could teach them. One of my best lessons was - Sometimes when you go to the cranberry marsh to learn about cranberries, you learn more about frogs. I met a man who has ended up totally in my heart. He doesn't fit my criteria on paper (POF list and statements) so I thought it was just chat friends. I have also met a man who fits my criteria to the letter (spooky so matched) but it doesn't resonate in any way with me. So go figure. "Let the soft animal of your body, want what it wants"

muskokakate

Joined: 2/21/2007

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Is he not into me or what? Posted: 7/25/2007 2:06:17 PM
Relax. It really shouldn't be this difficult. Think of him like a friend, and then ask yourself - if this was just a new friend, how would I behave? I tend to dislike the hunt and chase thing, but guys seem to like it. Like to be the hunter, yada yada...

muskokakate

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So what does YOUR book state as the definition of dating Posted: 7/24/2007 4:12:37 AM
And for the dictionary definition of dating....this is Miss Manners version ( I use it in my profile) Miss Manners Guide to Excruciatingly Correct Behaviour: "There are three possible parts to a date, of which at least two must be offered: entertainment, food, and affection. It is customary to begin a series of dates with a great deal of entertainment, a moderate amount of food, and the merest suggestion of affection. As the amount of affection increases, the entertainment can be reduced proportionately. When the affection IS the entertainment, we no longer call it dating. Under no circumstances can the food be omitted.

muskokakate

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So what does YOUR book state as the definition of dating Posted: 7/23/2007 9:06:47 PM
I consider dating as going out with someone and getting to know them. Once you get intimate, then I consider it a relationship and I believe in monogamous relationships. I don't know how to do the quote thing so I just copied and pasted. This is what I think too. However, I have found out the hard way (no pun intended) that I need to check that my definition of the difference between dating and relationship...is the same. That's all. To each, their own, but remember to check and be clear that the other person is working with the same definition.

muskokakate

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Men aren't from Mars. Women aren't from Venus... Posted: 7/23/2007 8:51:42 PM
Love the rant. Right on. And what a bonus - you can take the heat for saying it - now I don't have to- win win for me. Have to go....looking for "should I let my girlfriend bang my friend".....

muskokakate

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my heart is broken Posted: 7/19/2007 8:01:35 PM
This is a poem by W.H Audin that helped me feel the pain of my grief. My prayers are with you. Stop all the clocks, cut off the telephone Prevent the dog from barking with a juicy bone Silence the pianos and with muffled drum Bring out the coffin, let the mourners come Let aeroplanes circle moaning overhead Scribbling on the sky the message He is Dead Put crepe bows round the white necks of the public doves Let the traffic policemen wear black cotton gloves He was my North, my South, my East and West My working week and my Sunday rest My noon, my midnight, my talk, my song I thought that love would last forever: I was wrong The stars are not wanted now: put out every one Pack up the moon and dismantle the sun Pour away the ocean and sweep up the wood For nothing now can ever come to any good

muskokakate

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So they want me to post here before I delete this account Posted: 7/15/2007 3:11:13 AM
Ren83 is dead on. I am not a social retard, in fact I was very well trained to be the opposite. That hasn't helped me on POF in any way. It is a learning experience. The trick is to know that, and take advantage of it by focusing on what each contact teaches you about who you are in relationships. If you see/learn something about who you are that you would choose to change (grow) then go for it. Don't compromise your integrity, be yourself, read the forums to see how other people think and feel and behave, and it is a great way to learn to be social in an authentic way, within your own life. Oh, I just read all these words I have typed and they sound like self help book drivel.....so ...see I just learned something about myself. I can be full of it! From the heart I can say...this is all about you, keep it that way. But try be open to seeing who you relate to and what you think and feel and how you relate -productive and unproductive. It helps us all in our struggle to grow up.

muskokakate

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Finding The One!! Posted: 7/12/2007 7:21:36 PM
I love your words rune3. Thanks for resonating for/with me.

muskokakate

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A new way of being sneaky Posted: 7/12/2007 3:33:20 AM
I have wanted to say this for a long time, and it seems this forum is the place and time. I agree with many of the men and women on here who say this is distasteful and insulting. So here is my opinion (let opinion not be confused with fact) .... Trust is never about trusting the other person, it is about how much you can trust yourself. Can you trust yourself to know when you are being played. Yes he played you, which means you couldn't trust your intuition, experience, your judgment of the situation to keep yourself safe. AND I am not saying, therefore you deserved to be played.... I am saying take responsibility, chalk it up to learning and learn from it. Eventually, you will come to recognize the circumstances that sparks up your inner knowing...and you will be in a place where you DO trust yourself to make good decisions. And you will then, only go forward with men that you feel safe, comfortable, and real with. Having sex to "keep" him is such a betrayal of yourself, and none of that can be put onto the guy. I am not sure I have articulated how I feel about this whole thing, but it feels better to have said this. Another learning/teaching for me, anyway.

muskokakate

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Another Kissing Question Posted: 7/8/2007 10:56:46 AM
Love the options moondog. Don't know who that masked man was, but he was a great kisser. I like the ask and then wait. Clear.

muskokakate

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Questions to ask... Posted: 7/8/2007 10:50:25 AM
I avoided asking an important question after I started seeing someone....really my denial..not his. It's just dating, casual, no commitment so I didn't ask. I assumed, because I wanted to assume. That ostrich thing can be powerful. "Are you dating someone else" is one, then "Are you having sex with anyone currently"... I asked, I got the truth, then I had to deal with it. Would have been easier to ask directly at the start. Ahh hindsight, you are so clear... Also, that new questionnaire list lots of really great questions to help to understand what page you are both on.

muskokakate

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Is it wrong? Posted: 7/4/2007 5:43:26 AM
I think that if you have strong feelings very early into a "relationship" it is more about you than the other person. About your need to be in love, instead of the reality. Not to say it won't work into a wonderful relationship eventually. Nothing wrong with having your head in the clouds, but keep your feet on the ground too. And it goes without saying that you should never operate with your head up your a$$ Good luck!

muskokakate

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Is it me, or do some ppl here get really sensitive about these posts? Posted: 7/4/2007 5:00:19 AM
I don't think it is a matter of sensitivity...in fact the opposite. When I first started in the forums, I thought they were witty, intelligent, responsible and mature for the most part. Many of the regular posters from back then (a year and a half ago) must have felt the same because they no longer post. I used to search my favourite post-ers and was rarely disappointed in the exchange on the thread. Since last February until just a few days ago, I just couldn't find anything worth reading. If there were good constructive comments, they were lost to me because I couldn't wade through the whining and the nastiness. Again I say, it is absolutely not a matter of being too sensitive, it is being insensitive. A huge lack of self awareness, coupled with a massive dose of blaming others. Yawn......

muskokakate

Joined: 2/21/2007

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Dating a Smoker Posted: 7/3/2007 5:22:58 AM
17 again - Thank you for your words. And congratulations for reading all the posts, I could only do page one and page 7, ...short attention span I think.... I love smoking and I hate cigarettes... I am aware I am self sabotaging because there is really nothing positive about smoking, but there you go,that is who I am today. I have quit for eleven years, then started last year again. I think it was the stress of how vulnerable I feel back in this dating game. To the original post: If it is a deal breaker for you then it is. For me, I would give someone I am very attracted to a chance. I have a friend who is so well mated now, and when she met her husband he drank and smoked, two deal breakers for her. As they became closer and their love grew strong, he quit both smoking and drinking. I know how glad she is she didn't draw hard lines in the sand that would have eliminated him when she first met him. Enough said.

muskokakate

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I'm done!!! Posted: 7/2/2007 4:36:30 AM
No one can make you feel inferior (even not good enough) without your permission. Don't give anyone permission.

muskokakate

Joined: 2/21/2007

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For those of you who enjoy rough sex: Posted: 7/2/2007 3:44:03 AM
twist, bite, pull......the best.

muskokakate

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When you start to fall for someone Posted: 7/2/2007 3:24:25 AM
Verygreeneyez- Right on! I hope you don't think this trite, but I just lost my horse after many years of devotion to each other. I am aware that I have no desire for another horse to enter my heart and I am deliberately preserving that space for her. And I am aware that as long as she holds my heart, it is not fully available for anyone else. Thanks for the well put reminder, to live and love. To the original post: I wrote this twenty years ago, or more, and I am offering it now as a sort of question to think about.....Yes I think I see, and I think it's true, I'm more in love with the idea of "us", than I am in love with you. Many of us are on POF to find love, but it is important not to lose ourselves in the process.

muskokakate

Joined: 2/21/2007

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Forum addicts and non-posters.. Posted: 6/30/2007 9:38:56 PM
well I just posted on a very funny forum and then remembered the first few words will show up on my profile....and out of context....in the cold light of my profile....well, I am blushing now...so yes you expose yourself more by contributing. I so totally agree with the opinion that forum contributions really help to show how you relate to others and present yourself. I agree that it is interesting then, to check out profiles and see if there is consistency between both. Doesn't matter to me who posts or doesn't......I love the witty ones....

muskokakate

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What do you put on potatoes??? Posted: 6/5/2007 5:26:19 AM
Boil potatoes. Drain. Leave the potatoes in the pot and chop them slightly, just breaking them open, and add raw garlic and dill and butter. Put the lid back on the pot and wait two or three minutes to serve. Oral orgasm.

muskokakate

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Height/Size Contridiction? Posted: 5/21/2007 3:27:37 PM
I list tall as a preference but it is by no means a requirement.

muskokakate

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Would you date yourself? Posted: 5/8/2007 6:03:53 PM
A while ago I wrote in my journal, that being alone now only means that there is no one here to enjoy me, with me. So I guess that answers the question - Yes, for sure.

muskokakate

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Silly Pet Names Posted: 4/30/2007 2:48:44 PM
Doughnut for my friend Doug. Mighty Murphin the Muffin Scrounger for a cat. EVOO for a cat (Evie) (Extra Virgin Olive Oil-Rachel Ray saying). Erika Miss America for my daughter.

muskokakate

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pof first date. what do you do if you dont like the girl when you meet? Posted: 4/28/2007 3:59:45 AM
Hey I have been off the forums for a while because I met someone great. He has taught me some very practical things about this relationship stuff. First thing was "How many friends do you really need?" For me this translates into, if I am looking for dating and relationships then I should let go of the men I meet that I like, but not LIKE LIKE. A couple have become very good friends, like brothers almost, and we coach and encourage each other through this dating on line stuff. The second part of that was " Be honest," Do I have time to add lots of new friends into my life (because I honestly have met so many great people on here) and give them time and attention that a friend deserves, or am I just being reluctant to hurt anyones feelings. Then the first date thing - we have carried that into the second third fourth etc dates. His perspective on that is "It is just lunch". Or "It is just couch time" This lesson was really helpful to me because I tend to project into the potential......which is okay and fun and I suspect very typical... but then back to earth with - in the end the reality is "It is just lunch". Other replies on this thread have said the same thing, so this is redundant in many ways. The last piece of advice, more in response to your long long date....(we did the same- also a distance factor) was to agree before the date - first coffee - if that goes well - then lunch - if that goes well - etc. We joked about the fake pager beep, and other back door exits, but we were also prepared to end the "date" at each stage. This made us both more comfortable and ultimately more honest.

muskokakate

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Answers vs Opinions Posted: 4/11/2007 2:36:39 PM
One of my favourite sayings is "Is that fact or opinion". Often the two are confused. I agree that the personal slights and side arguments abound, and it didn't seem to be this way when I was first becoming a forum junkie. Somewhere in bleak February it seemed to get tres whiny and trivial with people saying the same old same old over and over, on here. My method is now to do a search for post-ers who I admire and read the forums they have posted in. There are still some good threads and I always maintain hope for even better.

muskokakate

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Reporting And deleting Main images Posted: 4/8/2007 5:48:09 PM
And I always wondered how all those cute dogs got their paws up high enough to email me.

muskokakate

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Would You Disown Members of Your Family?? Posted: 4/7/2007 8:46:55 PM
Yes. Brother consumed with alcoholic drama and skewed perceptions. I am more in agreement with the "disconnect, vs. disown" but as I don't hold out a lot of hope for connection again, it is just semantics really. I still feel the loss Lots of good constructive comments on this thread that are comforting to hear.

muskokakate

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this is love Posted: 4/7/2007 2:40:59 PM
Thank you. Thank you. I believe. And to okalake - the memories that propel intimacy into devotion. Thank you too. This reminds me of something that has stuck with me from Ann Landers years ago: treat your family like strangers, and strangers like family. It is meant to be a guidance for polite consideration. I like it too.

muskokakate

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Do you believe that there are some Good Men left ? Posted: 4/7/2007 10:43:10 AM
Yes. And now thanks to POF and an open mind about distance and circumstances - I have proof. Very good men out there. Very.

muskokakate

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Good-bye: Maybe in my next lifetime. Posted: 4/5/2007 2:11:34 AM
Hey I was in agreement with the majority of the post-ers here on this thread until the last few posts. Your attitude has changed during this thread IMO and you are more interesting when you speak with passion about your beliefs. Carry on. Now you sound like you have some spunk, and are presenting the things about you that you like, not the poor me stuff you started with. I also have to say that I was touched by the sadness you still carry about Mom not being there for you, and wanting to create the opposite for your (potential) children. But the bottom line is you still embody the sadness of that neglected little boy, and it might be time to heal with that child inside you not bring one into the world to fix what ails in you. Trite new age inner child stuff, but true IMO.

muskokakate

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why every man has to be funny Posted: 4/5/2007 1:30:42 AM
I agree with Nipoleon. Well, I agree with this part anyway "Not so much being funny but rather having a sense of humour. " I believe humour is the ability to take something out of it's usual context and apply it in another. And I love a sense of the ridiculous as well, when life piles up, and there is nothing left but to laugh at it. There are multiple intelligences, and humour for me is an intelligence in and of itself. I like smart. Once I told my ex that farts were not funny - he (and our kids) looked at me like I was brain dead and the looks were soooo funny. I stand corrected.

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