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Imagine1947

Joined: 2/21/2007

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Erectile Dysfunction Questions From His Partner Posted: 6/9/2009 1:11:06 AM
danzandsing... You are correct -- this is my own issue re: how to be the best partner to a potential lover with (maybe) E.D. problems. I don't have personal experience with men with E.D. and want things to go as well as possible for us both. I've gathered lots of general info from various online sites, but now want specific "how-to" info, especially since it's a new dilemma for him as well.

Imagine1947

Joined: 2/21/2007

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Erectile Dysfunction Questions From His Partner Posted: 6/9/2009 1:01:19 AM
BigDaddyJinx... As I mentioned, I did a search for all threads for both E.D. and erectile dysfunction and read every single post in all of them before I posted mine. A couple of posters mentioned ideas close to what I'm asking, but their posts are several years old and/or they are no longer active on this site so I can't ask them for more info.

Imagine1947

Joined: 2/21/2007

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Erectile Dysfunction Questions From His Partner Posted: 6/8/2009 1:06:55 PM
I have searched and read every “erectile dysfunction” and “E.D.” thread I could find on POF but haven’t yet found one with the info that I’m wanting. I may become intimate with a man who has expressed to me his concerns about possible problems with E.D., and I understand the importance of communication, patience, reassurance, relaxation, etc. As his partner, how can I best help our lovemaking be as consistently satisfying for both of us as possible? I particularly want to understand specific info about what I can do to be a good lover DURING our intimate times. I’d like to hear the thoughts of men who have or have had E.D. and women who have been their partners. Thanks to all.

imagine1947

Joined: 2/21/2007

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Review my profile! Got something better to do?! Posted: 3/21/2009 6:30:32 PM
I like 2 of your photos, but think you would be better off without the 2 middle ones since they don't show you off well. Keep taking more new ones, especially those that show you with a smile and also a least one full body photo. Not many women your age are looking for talk/email buddies, so if you are really wanting someone to date, change your Looking For to Dating. Your profile is too wordy without giving enough ifno. Leave out the physical description since your height and body type and hair color are already listed. Tell more about the work that you do and/or want to do. Where are you heading in life and what's your plan to get there? What qualities are you looking for in the women that you hope to meet. What sort of relationship are you looking for? Other than gaming (more of a guy thing) and movies, what would you like to do while together? N/A for Smarts isn't good...so if you've had any college courses, change that part. Or at least indicate if you're a high school grad. Good luck!

imagine1947

Joined: 2/21/2007

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Need a PR! Profile Review Posted: 3/7/2009 11:43:55 PM
I think that your is a very good start and that you could still improve on what you have. Your photo is OK, but not as your main photo. Add more, especially showing your smile. Dress up a little in one or two. Do a spelling/grammar/punctuation check to correct your errors...it matters. Single with kids? If you've been married, change it to divorced. Describe your relationship with your kids...joint custody? Rarely/often with them? I think mentioning your vasectomy as you do is fine. However, discuss whether you're OK becoming involved with a woman who has kids too. Good luck!

imagine1947

Joined: 2/21/2007

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Me please Posted: 3/7/2009 11:32:32 PM
Wonderful, memorable profile....and as yet incomplete . Add at least one photo of you with a smile...the others are great, tho the nighttime one isn't as flattering as the rest. Give some info re: your status as "separated"...living apart? how long? divorce undeway? When final? relationship with your ex is friendly or otherwise? Add a few more interests, especially some that you think the men you hope to meet would enjoy too. Describe the men you hope to meet and the relationship that you hope to create. Good luck!

imagine1947

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Intimidating?! Posted: 3/6/2009 11:02:44 PM
I can see why some people might think that your profile seems intimidating since you appear to be an intelligent and talented guy who enjoys challenges. I think it might be good to change your profile's subtitle since the women you want to meet may want to show you the world as well. Your photos are good, but I suggest that you delete the 2nd closeup (out of focus) and substitute the last one as your main photo because of the sunglasses. Use correct punctuation to help your profile easier to read and flow better. "Hi Stranger" and "However I am NOT a Prince:)" I suggest that you delete these parts. "First dates are way overrated but we will go with the cliche of going to a relaxed environment with good food and drinks." Reword this since it sounds negative and a little overbearing....she might have some good ideas to offer too. "The perfect family" could seem intimidating to many young women. Add a few more interests that you think the women you hope to meet would enjoy doing with you. You've described yourself well but give no info about the qualities of the women that you'd like to meet or the relationship that you want. Good luck!

imagine1947

Joined: 2/21/2007

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first time user, long time onlooker :) Review, please? Posted: 3/6/2009 12:05:21 AM
I think that you're off to a good start but do have a few suggestions.... It's unclear to me what you are looking for...are you wanting a pal? A woman to date? Possibly a long term relationship? Most women probably won't be interested in Hanging Out, so if that's not what you really want, change the selection. Also, describe more about the women that you hope to meet and the relationship that you hope to have. I think your photos are good but you could keep working on newer/better ones. Perhaps add a description to some of them. I think you sound like an upbeat and interesting guy, and your list of interests is good, especially because it includes things that many young women might enjoy too. "I could list off everything about myself but where is the fun in that.! It seem so impersonal just typing everything out and hoping someone reads and likes it! " "I'm not a big fan of this online scene, just seeing what happens, " I think that you should delete these 2 sentences since they seem a little negative and aren't necessary. Stay with your upbeat tone. Do a spelling/grammar/punctuation check to correct your errors since it does matter to a lot of people. Good luck!

imagine1947

Joined: 2/21/2007

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I need help with my profile Posted: 3/2/2009 5:38:26 PM
I think that you're off to a good start and describe yourself well but need to fill in a few gaps. You need to add more photos, including one full body photo, and add more of your face with your great smile. You describe yourself as separated, and as a result many women won't even read your profile...but for those who do, it's important to clarify your situation. Are you living apart from your wife? How long? When will your divorce be finalized? Also, if your children aren't over age 18, how old are they, how many, and how involved in their lives are you? Describe more about the type of women that you'd like to meet. Use a spelling/grammar/punctuation check since errors do matter to a lot of people. Good luck!

imagine1947

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Checkout my profile Posted: 2/25/2009 11:13:10 PM
Also do a spell/grammar/punctuation check to correct your errors....those things are likely to matter to the educated women you hope to meet.

imagine1947

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Checkout my profile Posted: 2/25/2009 7:28:48 PM
OK for a start, but you need more....more photos, and more info too. I like your current photo...add a few more, including at least one flattering full body view, especially since you say that you have "a few extra pounds". Read the "how to write a good profile" info at the top of this page for more ideas. You describe your interests, but give no idea about your personality or what qualities you want in the women you'd like to meet or the relationship that you'd like to have. Add a few more interests to your list, especially those that you think most women would like too. Good luck!

imagine1947

Joined: 2/21/2007

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profile review Posted: 2/20/2009 7:18:47 PM
I agree with the first responder about choosing a different photo as your main one, but think you should keep the one with the baby and one (not 2) of your dogs in your lineup if you'd like to. Add more interests, especially those that you think women would enjoy too. And write more about what sort of relationship you hope to have with the women that you meet. Good luck!

imagine1947

Joined: 2/21/2007

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Critique Me Posted: 2/20/2009 12:37:49 AM
I think you have a good start but do have a couple of suggestions for you..... Your main photo is good, except your smile seems strained....how about at least one with a more relaxed, full smile? I like the photos of you singing...how about adding a description to them. Make your profile easier to read by putting some space between paragraphs. Add more interests and be more specific. The ones you list would be on everyone's lists. What type of music do you like? What type do you play? Give a potential date more to work with re: info about the many interests that you have. What are the qualities of the women that you're hoping to meet and what sort of relationship do you hope will develop? Good luck!

imagine1947

Joined: 2/21/2007

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Profile Review Please Posted: 2/18/2009 8:29:59 PM
Your main photo needs to change....take off the sunglasses, put on a smile and a nice shirt. :) Consider including women a little older than you are since someone who is one day over your stated age limit wouldn't be able to contact you. Do a spelling/grammar check and use correct punctuation...it does matter to many people. Add more interests to your list, especially those that you think women might enjoy too. The ones in blue can be searched. Good luck!

imagine1947

Joined: 2/21/2007

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please rate me and help me Posted: 2/17/2009 10:32:09 PM
I think that photos that don't show a closeupof your face as the main photo are often deleted by the website...so keep working on getting a couple of good pics of you.

imagine1947

Joined: 2/21/2007

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please rate me and help me Posted: 2/17/2009 2:59:24 PM
I don't think that your choice of photos are very flattering of you....add some that show your face up close with a smile but without the costumes. The vehicle one is fine. I think you should change "looking for something simple" to something else more interesting. Also read the Profile Writing Tips at the top of the Profile Review page for lots of ideas. Use a spelling and grammar check to fix your errors, and use correct punctuation and paragraphs to make your profile easier to read. At this point, your profile makes it appear that you are only interested in cars & music Add more of your interests, especially some that you think a woman your age would enjoy too. You mention working as a mechanic for now....if you decide to change careers, what would you prefer to do instead? (BTW, the auto mechanics that I know seem to have good lifetime careers and make good $ doing what they love to do -- why do you want to change to something else?) Congrats on your decision to get in better shape...keep it up and think of ways to exercise in your daily life too...take walks, etc. Take dancing lessons, take a class, do some community service....all good for your profile and for your life and to give you a chance meet and talk with young women. Add a paragraph about the women you hope to meet and the relationships you hope to have. Good luck!

imagine1947

Joined: 2/21/2007

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Please review my profile... Posted: 2/16/2009 8:13:05 PM
I think that your photos are fine as they are. Leave out the "loves to laugh and have a good tine" part since... who wouldn't? :) If you haven't already, read the "how to create a good profile" info at the top of this profile page. Give more detail about your interests - what type of music? What concerts? Where would you like to go on a road trip? This info helps potential dates know more about you and gives them more to write about if they contact you. Since many very attractive women may not describe themselves as "beautiful", change "beautiful" to attractive, unless you really only want to date a woman who would describe herself as as that. Leave out the "games and drama" part too...stay positive. Good luck!

imagine1947

Joined: 2/21/2007

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Profile Posted: 2/16/2009 7:56:31 PM
I agree about adding at least one photo of you with a smile, and preferably a close up as your main photo....it does matter to lots of women. Re: your video: it's sensual and sexy, but what's the point of adding it to your profile? It gives the impression that you're on POF looking for a gorgeous young sexy woman, which won't appeal to some of the not so young, not so gorgeous, but very sexy women who might otherwise contact you. No need to explain your nice woodburning photo since the photo already does. Your phrase "someone with class but not in love with themselves: -- not sure if you're describing yourself or the person you hope to meet, or both. Your "About Me" section is very positive and upbeat, but your "First Date" section seems quite negative...so delete everything after "talk on the phone some" unless you want to cancel out your "I love people and have a heart of gold" quality. :)) Good luck!

imagine1947

Joined: 2/21/2007

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Profile review please! Posted: 2/15/2009 8:05:09 PM
I think that you're off to a good start but do have a couple of suggestions for you. I don't think that you're lacking in good looks, but your main photo with you wearing the yellow glasses isn't very flattering...I like the other one of you in the black shirt lots better, especially since it shows off your great smile. Add more interests, especially some that you think most women your age would like too. If you're not just looking for a sports activity partner, what qualities matter to you in someone you'd like to date? What sort of relationship would you like? And I agree with the first responder re: kids....it gives the impression that you never want to be a dad, so if that's not what you mean to say, explain what you mean or change it. Do a spelling/grammar check to correct your errors since they do matter to a lot of people. Good luck!

imagine1947

Joined: 2/21/2007

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Profile Review? Posted: 2/10/2009 12:36:09 AM
I think that you describe your interests and lifestyle well, but don't give any idea of the qualities you are looking for in a woman that you would like to date or the relationship that you'd like to have with her. Do a spelling/grammar/punctuation check to correct your errors, since they do matter to a lot of people. I don't think your main photo is very flattering of you...it looks like you're wearing a costume and doesn't give a good first impression. Add some better photos of you, especially a closeup of you with a smile for your main photo. And if you want to keep the "costume" one, explain it. Good luck!

imagine1947

Joined: 2/21/2007

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Profile Help Posted: 2/9/2009 8:53:48 PM
I think you've got a good start....but do have a few suggestions. A good close up photo of you with a smile would be a good addition, especially for your main photo. Use a spell and grammar check and also have a friend look over your profile to help you correct the errors....they matter to a lot of people. I agree with the first responder...add more interests, especially those that you think most women would enjoy with you. Most of your profile is very positive, and therefore the negative stuff stands out and should be revised. For example, "Jealous types should not apply." should be deleted. Also, "If that is what you want keep going.." Both are negative and unnecessary to get your point across. :You must have a quick wit." Better to say "I enjoy women who have a quick wit." Good luck!

imagine1947

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Profile Review Please Posted: 2/7/2009 12:42:57 AM
I think you're off to a good start but do have a few suggestions for you. Your photos don't show you off as well as they should. I would definitely delete the one that's out of focus and the older group photo, and also have someone help you get newer, better ones. You have a lovely face and a great smile, but your pose in your main photo doesn't flatter you. You mention having goals and should add just a sentence or two describing what they are. You also mention that you love spending a lot of time with your family....do you also have room in your life/schedule for a long term relationship? Do you expect your partner to also want to be with your family much of the time? You might want to expand your desired age range to include men a year or so younger than you are since right now they wouldn't be able to message you. If you find someone interesting, contact them instead of hoping they will find you. Add them to your favorites list. Good luck!

imagine1947

Joined: 2/21/2007

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After 20 years I find myself single again and I need guidance..! Posted: 2/7/2009 12:28:31 AM
Although I'm not in your age group, I do have a couple of suggestions for you. Overall, I think your profile is excellent. As the previous poster suggested, "separated" is a big deal to many women, so....it would be helpful if you would explain your situation clearly in your first sentences. How long separated? Divorce in progress? etc, etc. You mention working long hours and spending lots of time with your young kids....all good. At the same time it doesn't sound as though you have much time left for a woman in your life....perhaps you could indicate how much time you would have available for dating. You seem to be a very intelligent and attractive man with a lot of interests. Add a few more to your Interests section, especially some that you think many women might enjoy (dancing? cooking? hiking? travel?) too since those in blue can be searched. Don't label yourself as a "geek"...I think you're much more than just that one aspect of yourself. Living in a rural area limits the number of available women....are you interested in a long distance relationship? If so, how great a distance? Since even attractive men like you may not get many responses, take the initiative and send personalized emails to women who seem attractive to you. Also, add them to your favorites lists. Hang in there.....I think that you might find that you enjoy meeting people online lots more than the old bar method.

imagine1947

Joined: 2/21/2007

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profile review for (almost)22 year old male Posted: 2/5/2009 12:28:56 PM
MountainMan...you shared lots of good, helpful info! I'll use some of your ideas to improve my own profile. Thanks.

imagine1947

Joined: 2/21/2007

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Time for a review Posted: 2/1/2009 11:01:15 PM
I prefer your fifth photo (color, dark shirt) as your main photo. Do you want your potential partner to enjoy the same types of sports that you do? It might be good to clarify. "Basically someone that compliments myself. I don't really go for weak people...... those who smoke, are depressed, go out like they are 21 still, need a bunch of people around them to feel good about themselves, aren't loyal, trusting, honest, etc. " I think that you should leave out this section and substitute something with a more positive tone about the person you hope to meet. This seems too negative and judgmental. Good luck!

imagine1947

Joined: 2/21/2007

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Is the video a plus or a minus? Posted: 2/1/2009 5:27:53 PM
Hi, I think the video is a minus...no reason to add it. You enjoy a lot of interests and could add a few more to your list (hiking? rafting?) since people can search by them. I think you should delete the part about the employer/exit interview...no point to including it that I can see. I lived in Johnstown for a couple of years during the 70s. and have lots of great memories from there! :) Good luck!

imagine1947

Joined: 2/21/2007

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help a girl out!!! Posted: 2/1/2009 5:16:28 PM
Hi Mandi, Yes, I think that you are definitely telling too much...I suggest that you delete most of your last paragraph. Keep the positive parts, and drop the rest since it sounds as though you've been in several relationships that weren't good for you. Also delete the " I've never had a guy be romantic " parts. Dont share this info by email or during your first few dates with someone....stay positive and expect to be treated well & remember that saying that we decide how other people will treat us. Your main photo is lovely, but the others aren't flattering of you. Have someone help you take better photos, including a full body photo of you in your most flattering (but not sexy) clothes. Be sure at least some of your photos show your smile. Your first paragraph is difficult to read. Divide it into smaller paragraphs, and use a spelling/grammar check since those errors do matter to a lot of people. Tell more about your career plans and future plans. The men that you want to attract are interested in women who are passionate about their own life and are working on making a good future for themselves. Good luck!

imagine1947

Joined: 2/21/2007

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profile review for (almost)22 year old male Posted: 1/31/2009 1:41:19 AM
I think that you're off to a good start, but do have a couple of suggestions. Remove the photo from 3 years ago, and work on finding more to add that are current. A close up of your face with a smile would be best for your main photo. If you're new in SoCal, what's your living situation...live alone? Roommate? Family? You describe yourself pretty well but don't give any info about the sort of woman you are hoping to meet and the sort of relationship that you would like to have. Good luck!

imagine1947

Joined: 2/21/2007

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requesting a profile review Posted: 1/29/2009 1:24:57 AM
Hi Chris, I think that you do a pretty good job of describing your interests and lifestyle, but I do have a couple of suggestions...... Add some better photos of you...OK to keep what you have, but add at least a couple of closeups of you with a smile. The one with your eyes closed is cute, but it sends a "couch potato" message, so it's not great for your main photo. You describe yourself as a nonsmoker but list cigars in your interests? Which is it, and do you want to date a woman who smokes or not? You don't give any idea of what qualities you would like the woman/women that you date to have or what sort of relationship you would like. Are you open to a long distance relationship or wanting a short term ,casual relationship until you move to a different location? Are you willing to move to her hometown? Good luck!

imagine1947

Joined: 2/21/2007

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It's Alright but I know It Can be Better, What you think? Posted: 1/27/2009 11:56:08 PM
I like a lot of what you included, especially your detailed info re: the activities, music, and films that you enjoy. I also have a few suggestions for you..... You may not be getting much response because it sounds as though you aren't interested in any romance or intimacy at this point. If that's really true, and you only want to meet a guy for friends/activities, then your profile fits. But if you are open to having romance/intimacy as well, change your profile to reflect that. Include more interests in your list since people can search the blue ones. Use a spelling and grammar check and then have someone you trust look it over to find errors....your profile has a lot of them and it does matter to many people. At 5'4", I don't think that you are in the BBW category, and from what I can tell of your full body photo, you might describe yourself instead as "a few extra pounds". Good luck!

imagine1947

Joined: 2/21/2007

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Review Request Posted: 1/20/2009 1:22:48 AM
Dave....good start, and I agree with the earlier posters. A couple of suggestions for you.... --do a spell check since proper spelling is important to many people. -sounds like you want a female "activity partner" in your description, but since you selected "dating", add more about the type of relationship/partner you would prefer. Good luck!

imagine1947

Joined: 2/21/2007

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Ladies please review my profile Posted: 1/8/2009 7:08:45 PM
Hi Brian, I like your profile and photos a lot and have just a couple of suggestions for you. You seem to have a wide variety of interests, which is great. However, as the first responder mentioned, many women might be intimidated by your level of skill re: dancing...so you might want to mention how much dancing skill and/or interest you would want your potential romantic partner to have or to achieve. Use a spell/grammar check to find and fix your errors since it matters to a lot of people. How much connection do you have with your family? Do you want children someday? SInce you're looking for a LTR, you might want to touch on these issues too. Good luck!

imagine1947

Joined: 2/21/2007

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Asking for help with profile Posted: 1/5/2009 1:19:19 AM
Hi Matt, I really enjoyed reading your profile and have just a couple of suggestions for you. Your main photo appears out of focus...so use the 2nd one instead and add more as well. Don't put your last name in your profile...which means you would need to create a new profile. But the internet is a strange place, so you need to be a little cautious. Add more interests to your list, especially ones that you think that women would enjoy with you. You did a good job of describing yourself -- now include more info about the qualities of the women that you hope to meet. Good luck!

imagine1947

Joined: 2/21/2007

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New profile Posted: 1/3/2009 10:50:52 PM
Hi Josh, I like your photos and also think you should add at least one closeup of you with a smile since it will make you seem more approachable. Add an Interests section and include at least a few interests that you think most women would enjoy too. People can do a search re: the (blue font) interests which could lead to some good connections. Your About Me section starts off fine but then becomes very negative. Reword your thoughts to be more positive. For example, say "I am very content about not being interested in religion". Your comment re: Team America would probably eliminate 99.9% of potential dates...are you sure that's what you want to project? Very few mature people enjoy sarcasm...consider deleting it from your profile and perhaps from your life as well. Delete the blah-blah-blah comment. Give more info re: positive things about the women you would like to meet. Add the Mail Settings Section if you don't want to hear from women who smoke, do drugs, live 1000 miles away, etc. Good luck!

imagine1947

Joined: 2/21/2007

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Hoping my fellow fisherman/women would help me out with a profile review! Posted: 1/3/2009 10:34:31 PM
Overall, I think that your profile is very good as it is. I do have a couple of small suggestions. --Delete photos 6 & 7 since they distract more than add to your profile. --You say that you have goals, but, other than travel, what are they? --Add travel to your list of interests since people can search on topics from that list. --Don't capitalize Traveling, Guitar, etc. --Delete "I realize that men are not the most emotional creatures, but" and start that sentence with the "I tend to feel" part. Add a little more detail in the Mail Settings area. Do you want to date someone looking for an intimate encounter? Or who smokes or does drugs? If not, say that here. Good luck!

imagine1947

Joined: 2/21/2007

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Any suggestions/comments/criticisms? Posted: 1/1/2009 4:54:08 PM
I agree with WhiteWaterRogue re: your profiles and need to tell more about yourself. Also, add a full body photo. Tell more specifics about what types of music you enjoy. Also, re: sports -- do you play sports or spend all weekend watching games on tv or ? Do you expect the woman in your life to ride motorcycles with you? Since you apparently have never been married or a parent and talk about constantly wanting new experiences, I think that you give the impression that you're unwilling or unable to stay with one activity or woman for very long....if that's not true, find ways to reassure women interested in you that you are sincere about wanting a LTR. Re: your first date at Pub 99....what is a ****ail? If a potential date isn't interested in that specific idea, are you open to others? Good luck!

imagine1947

Joined: 2/21/2007

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desperately need help with my profile Posted: 12/29/2008 8:47:08 PM
I agree with the previous responders about your bizarre photos...what's your reason for including them? One, maybe... but I suggest that you delete them all. You state that "honest is paramount", so be honest about your lifestyle, whatever it may be. Your profile "prefer not to say" leads me to assume that you smoke and do drugs...some potential dates won't mind that sort of lifestyle, but many will. "Hardcore vegans, health-food nuts and workout freaks" are fairly negative terms re: people trying to live a healthy lifestyle...potential dates may identify to some degree with those vegans, nuts & freaks, and therefore not want to deal with your perhaps harsh views. You certainly have a right to your opinion about anything...but if you really wouldn't mind meeting an attractive workout freak or two, then delete this part too. Reword the parts where you mention watching films/travel more/less than others, since that would be true for everyone. Instead, describe where you've traveled and/or where you'd like to visit, etc. One last thing...I think "Grumpee" isn't a good choice for a dating site name...some women wouldn't even bother to look at your profile from that single factor. Consider changing it to something more in tune with you and your profile. Good luck!

imagine1947

Joined: 2/21/2007

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Review my profile please Posted: 12/20/2008 8:55:04 PM
Your photos are OK, but don't show you off as well as they should. Work at getting more, especially some of you smiling. Use a spell and grammar checker to correct your errors...it does matter to a lot of people. Why list the types of films and music that you like if you end up saying "almost everything"? Consider expanding your "must haves" at the bottom re: age....anyone even a day or two outside of the age range that you listed wouldn't be able to contact you. Good luck!

imagine1947

Joined: 2/21/2007

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Please review my profile Posted: 12/20/2008 8:40:07 PM
I think that you're off to a good start but could share more details. For example, you describe yourself as witty, but what exactly does that mean to you? Same with intellectual - how do you demonstrate that in your relationships with women that you date? Your interests are too general to be very informative. Outdoors? In what ways do you like to spend time outdoors with the women you know? Music - do you listen? To what? Do you play music? Sports - do you play sports other than golf? Is it important to you that your date play golf with you? Do you watch football on TV much of the weekend? Details...we want details! :) I suggest that you leave out the "brutally honest" part since that can be a turn off to many women. Also, in your second photo, it looked to me at first as though you're pointing a gun at the camera...another turn off to many people. Either delete this one or add a comment to it. Add more photos and make an ongoing effort to get new ones that you like even more than what you now have. Good luck!

imagine1947

Joined: 2/21/2007

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Pic sugestions Posted: 12/17/2008 1:06:27 AM
I think that you are an attractive guy and that your profile doesn't show you off as well as it should. Don't think of your profile as a negative thing....think of it like your resume -- a way to portray your strengths to others. Your photos are OK, but could be better, as the previous poster stated. Have your friends/family take a few more of you, especially a close up and some of you with a smile. Read and incorporate the suggestions at the top of this profile review page. Use a spell and grammar check and also have a friend look for errors with you. It really does matter to a lot of people, especially for a college grad like you. Again - think resume. Explain more about your work...what exactly do you do and why do you enjoy it? Also, leave out the part about your religious views since it might confuse potential dates about where you stand on it. Instead, save it for emails/phone calls/dates. Add a few more interests of yours, especially those that you think women would enjoy with you. Give potential dates an idea of what sort of woman you're hoping to meet. What would she be like? What would your relationship be like? Good luck!

imagine1947

Joined: 2/21/2007

Msg: 2 (view)

Profile help needed Posted: 12/13/2008 6:41:08 PM
I think that you're off to a good start but could still improve your profile. Your photos are OK but I think you could post some that would show you off better....make your main photo one that you like and with a bigger smile. Add comments about your photos. Add more interests, especially those that you have that you think many women would enjoy too. You mentioned cooking, so add that and more. Your career as a pilot sounds interesting, so talk more about that. Also, do you expect your date to fly with you? Some might be happy to, some not. You mentioned finishing your basement...do you own your own home? Live with family? With friends? Describe the qualities of women that you'd like to date and more about your time together. Good luck!

imagine1947

Joined: 2/21/2007

Msg: 4 (view)

What Do Ya Think? Posted: 12/11/2008 8:53:37 PM
You say that you want a "Friend", but your essay part definitely describes a romantic relationship. Many of the women you might want to meet won't be searching for men in the "Friends" category, so perhaps "Dating" or Long Term is more accurate. Photos....good ones now and add a few more casual snapshot photos too. Interests....good variety. "About Me"....Your paragraph about your "romantic adventures" in various locations are you descriging your hopes and dreams with a new partner or your past experiences? If past, reword this part to make it a part of your hoped for future, not your been-there-done-that past. "First Date" You need to come up with some options here....the ? is a turn-off. "Must haves" So you're interested in dating someone almost young enough to be your grand-daughter? That might be a turn-off to older women who would probably be more compatable with you and your lifestyle. Also, if you limit by age in this section, a woman who is even a day older than that group wouldn't be able to contact you. You could describe your partner's "ideal age" in your essay part instead.

imagine1947

Joined: 2/21/2007

Msg: 3 (view)

I guess I'm up! Posted: 12/11/2008 8:38:38 PM
I like your profile until the "About Me" part. Your list of interests is good especially since many of them are things that a potential date might enjoy with you. But, in your "About Me" section, your tone flips back and forth between engaging and warm and fun to critical and negative, even a bit hostile. If that's how you really want to be in life, then your profile fits you. But if not, then delete and reword the negative stuff. If you need specifics about what I'm referring to, let me know and I'll post more. Your "First Date" part rambles too much....reword it to make it a bit shorter. Also, use a spellcheck and a grammar check to fix your errors...it matters to a lot of people. Good luck!

imagine1947

Joined: 2/21/2007

Msg: 2 (view)

an honest review please Posted: 12/7/2008 10:10:42 PM
From your profile, you seem like a lovely person, and your photos are good too, tough I don't think the 2nd and 4th ones are very flattering. And I'm curious what it is that you're holding in #6? Maybe it would be good if you added commetns to your photos. Remember that everyone reading your profile will also be able to read your forum posts. Use a spelling/grammar check to correct the errors...not many errors, but it matters to many people. If you are 29 and a student with "some college", it might be good to explain more about how/why/what re: your education and career plans. Also, I don't understand your answer of N/A re: car. Good luck!

imagine1947

Joined: 2/21/2007

Msg: 2 (view)

Hoping someone will review ...I thought I followed the Tips Posted: 12/5/2008 1:41:03 AM
I enjoyed reading your profile and your sense of humor. A couple of my suggestions are…. Get some flattering photos of you taken and replace the ones on your profile that don’t show you off as well as they should. The only one of the 4 that I like is the 3rd, but I’m sure you can get better ones, especially of you with a smile. Consider getting a more flattering hairstyle and color…you have a lovely face that isn’t framed well right now. Watch a couple of episodes of TLC’s What Not to Wear for inspiration. You could easily look 10 years younger with a little effort.  Your first paragraph is hard to read, so divide it into smaller paragraphs and use a spell/grammar check to fix the errors. Delete all of the “I don’t look good naked” sentences…not necessary. I think that if you’re hoping to marry or have a long term relationship again that you should change your “looking for” to LTR, partly because I think more older men are looking for a LTR. But if dating is really what you want, keep it as it is. Good luck!

imagine1947

Joined: 2/21/2007

Msg: 48 (view)

Self-Induced G-Spot Orgasm Posted: 12/5/2008 1:20:33 AM
To Dave, msg 47.... All very well said! :)

imagine1947

Joined: 2/21/2007

Msg: 6 (view)

SO (dot)(dot)(dot) Posted: 12/4/2008 11:20:20 PM
Just remembered a couple more little things..... Consider expanding your "must haves" to include women at least a couple of years older than you...otherwise, women just a few months older than you are won't be able to contact you....plus, you might miss out on someone wonderful. Also, if you think that you'll know in the first 10 seconds if you'd like someone, don't plan a day long hike for your first meet! :) Good luck.

imagine1947

Joined: 2/21/2007

Msg: 3 (view)

SO (dot)(dot)(dot) Posted: 12/4/2008 7:43:47 PM
Overall, I enjoyed reading your profile and the photos too. I do agree with 28florida about those 2 sentences...better to leave out. Driving blindfolded on a highway makes you sound like an extreme risktaker or an idiot. Leave it out and tell the story later when you can give enough details for her to figure out which one it is. :) Leave out the sentence re: the "dating game"...no good reason to include it and several to delete it. Good luck!

imagine1947

Joined: 2/21/2007

Msg: 2 (view)

is there anybody out there? Posted: 12/4/2008 7:34:03 PM
I like most of your profile and photos and also have a couple of suggestions for you. Add more photos as you find good ones since you might as well. I think that you should delete the sentences about dating friends of friends and about the bar scene/driving....it sounds as though you believe that people on sites like POF need to give an excuse for being here, which we don't. And lots of people enjoy the barscene but don't risk a DUI, so leave that out since it's not an either/or situation. I also think that you would be better off not describing your employer as "lame"...after all, your potential date may be a person with similar views. Same with describing women who are shy as "chicken"...delete that as well. Good luck!

imagine1947

Joined: 2/21/2007

Msg: 6 (view)

to the women on here Posted: 12/4/2008 12:24:22 AM
Hi again, Yep, your new photo is better -- and add more as you find/take them. If you want help with the spelling/grammar part, ask a friend that you trust to help or use a spell/grammar check. You might want to tell a little more about your work too. Good luck.

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