But... what's the point of friends that you can't and/or don't do things with? Friends aren't just people you sit at home and chat with, or looks and interests wouldn't matter too much. We seek people out who like to do the things we do (and are capable of doing them).

I'm under the impression that if a woman just stops talking to me then she doesn't think that we'll make a match and that's when I move on. One thing a guy should never do is ask why when a woman doesn't want to be with you anymore. all it's going to do to get you more pissed off and spiteful because you feel hurt. I did that before and it turned out so bad and things were said that were nice very nice to say on both ends. Just take it for what it is and move on because I got news for you a lot of men (and women) don't take rejection very well. It's just part of our human nature I learned that if you dwell on it you'll not only be hurting other potential dates but yourself in the long run.

I hope I'm not right. Just trying to figure out why she is so afraid of telling him it's not working for her.

I do take your point. But is there any evidence for that? I can't see he's done anything wrong yet, apart from being a bit too needy and not paying attention.

A truly honest answer. It's one thing to say your partner needs to be cool with all your female friends, but when the shoe is on the other foot, people tend to be fairly hypocritical, especially when they are really serious and have deep feelings for someone. There are very few women or men who are going to be cool with the type of situation the OP describes as far as her boyfriends female friends.

Sometimes, they don't make any comment, they just come back later and ask again, i.e. "Will you go to dinner with me?" "No, sorry." A week later, "Will you go to dinner with me?"

Last week a man approached me and asked if he could "get to know me," I said, "No, I have a boyfriend." He said, "Oh, please, just get me a chance."

Can I turn this question around, and ask why it's important to say no?
It would be different if you were married, say. But if you've just been chatting for a bit on here and the other person goes quiet? Well, they don't really owe you anything. As the name of the site reminds us, there's plenty of fish.
In fact, if you're having a lot of people flake out on you, perhaps it's good feedback and there's something you need to change.

In this scenario, it's clear the OP is asking HOW TO SAY NO without causing strife to HIM as well as prevent any future issues.

How does a woman “forget” a man she never knew?

Gawd! The melodrama! All you need now is some cheese and a violin.

im_a_rockstar….if you take the briefest look at his posting history, his intent should be obvious to you.

This is a really good idea. Catching flies with honey and all that..

Maybe Op.....it is because so many men are just boys, and think with their small brains, and are willing to keep trying to get what they want by thinking......"if I hit on 100, maybe one or two will say yes".......so, keep hitting and trying!

Eventually, most of these men, actually grow up, and stop those games and seek the women that are their equals, and know how to say no as it should be, and that means by being kind enough to let the other person know what you are thinking and why, in such a way that you need not be offended, or have your fragile ego hurt. It is called being sophisticated, and more should try it, and think with their large brain first!!

So, no means no, and I have no problems with hearing it, saying it and understanding it, because I would not spend my time being set up for something that will bother me that much in the first place and or accomplish nothing more than a no.

LukeH, the pity party is wholely unattractive.
It seems like you might shoot yourself in the foot quite a bit here in the Pond...

Why is it that they have suddenly terminated "your friendship" without your approval?? Isn't it HYPOCRITICAL?? OH it must be because of the jealous boyfriend... and she afraid what are the other people are going to say, if she has a BF, but is out with another "guy friend".... right, BUT they will readily still go out with their other "girlfriends" for drinks without the BF!!! Have you thought about the meaning of that?? Any Double standards here??

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I had a few situations like this before, and I learned that the best way is do slowly back off. Next time he calls, don't answer his call, wait until he calls the second time, pick up the phone and lie or have plans, and tell him you have plans with your parents, or family, etc. Make it a good one.

The next time he calls don't answer it, and do that for the next 3 times.

For a man to be friends with a woman, he has to be 1- Gay, or 2- a Wuss, accepting to being a friend, while HOPING to jump in when she becomes available, or dumps her BF of for some hidden ulterior motive. Cuz frankly, what kind of man would want to go out with the same woman regularly, and talk about shoes, shopping sprees, the Kardashian, dancing with the stars, and what Paris Hilton is wearing on the Red carpet?? Just a wuss

Why would anyone think they didn't have competition? It's personal until you're talking a few times - and no answer is fine, telling them you're not going to answer it is fine and "no one special" is also sufficient. I always assume there are other women someone's talking to especially in a first or second conversation; it's common sense there would be - why even ask?

and when I come back she won't reply to any of my texts or calls. I don't understand but don't get too hurt about it. I see her on pof again figure I message her. I say why you ignore me she says she doesn't know what I mean

Yeah, when I first joined and was talking to several guys at the same time, trying to narrow my search down. I was asked that question too. And I answered that no that he wasn't the only person I was talking to. This one guy still managed to continue to talk to me and now we're good friends and hoping to meet one day.

I'm looking for a amature man/or woman to get to know me no matter the situation, granted it would take an extremely mature one,c but not completely impossible

I mean, I talk to men ALL the time. I dont keep count and it is none of anyone else's business. I know many think its a good ice breaker but after the millionth time being asked, it gets pretty stupid.

I am talking to 1 other man. Strictly platonic and we havent even met. I just don't understand why people ask me this question. Honestly I don't care to know how many dates you went on last week if you are not my boyfriend. I'm just so annoyed right now :(

They only appear arrogant because they have the confidence to approach the women and you don't.

I think the moment you reach maturity and are of legal age then you should be out, even if it means living with room mates. I think it's really pathetic when people are still living with their parents.