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Dolly Hooligan

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How does being a nice person lead some women on? Posted: 5/11/2007 10:58:13 AM
OP I think you should remain as you are. I have the same problem in that I feel it wrong not to answer messages from anybody who takes the trouble unless they've been blatantly offensive. It doesn't feel 'right' to be dismissive or ignore people to me though from what I hear, this is common. I don't lie or lead people on and it doesn't sound like you do either. I have other male and female friends who are the same and I find them much more attractive and likeable because of the way they are. I'm not superstitious but I do think... what goes around comes around... (eventually, most of the time).

Dolly Hooligan

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Words And Phrases That I Despise !! Posted: 5/11/2007 10:15:42 AM
Words and phrases that I despise: Not tonight I'm tired!

Dolly Hooligan

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Why bite a man's ass? Posted: 5/11/2007 10:01:51 AM
Noooo Never had the urge to bite one (kicked a few!) but they say life begins at 40 and almost there! Who knows, maybe I'll suddenly develop this ass biting urge!

Dolly Hooligan

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do women equate cockyness to confidence Posted: 5/11/2007 10:00:01 AM
I don't find****ness appealing in the slightest. Give me good old fashioned humility, humour and thoughtfulness any day. Much sexier!

Dolly Hooligan

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CROCS! What do you think? Posted: 5/11/2007 9:54:44 AM
Shame on you verismo76... Crocs, IMO are for nurses and fishing trips. I'm a nurse who owns 19 pairs of boots in an array of lengths, colours and heels. Probably half as many pairs again of sexy shoes and because I can be sensible.... running shoes and some less distracting shoes for work. I don't and never have owned a pair of crocs, are you saying I should??? Mind you, I could be tempted by crocs in a sparkly pink! Surely they're not all bad? I'm sure you could grow plants in the holes while you wear them which could be useful, mustard and cress en route as it were!

Dolly Hooligan

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Uncircumcised Issues... help? Posted: 5/9/2007 10:25:11 AM
Yay Vindicator... ! I have slept (and enjoyed doing so) with both circumcised and un-circumcised partners - no difference in sensation for me, them or any noticeable difference in the time it takes to orgasm (of course every time may be different!) due to being one way or another though of course technique, size and position will alter things. I'm not saying I've never had bad sex, just that it has never ever been about a guy's foreskin or lack of. Maybe I (and my lovers hehe!) have just been incredibly, unusually lucky? PS. Before anyone makes the comments... Yes, I've had more than 2 lovers. For chrissakes I'm almost 40 yrs old and loving every minute!!!

Dolly Hooligan

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why do men send bolshy emails Posted: 5/9/2007 10:03:31 AM
outdoorguy4u - Thanks and though you raise a good point, I have found in the past that sometimes men only write a short message because they are shy. I reply to all inoffensive messages because I am a polite sort of person and some of those initial 'hi's' have resulted in some interesting conversations. I suppose my point was that... I could understand him being abusive to me if I'd sent a first message and led him to believe I was interested in him in some way. I didn't, he messaged me and I know he read my profile because he asked me what not single/not looking meant. Clearly (hopefully) he's in a minority of people (imagine there are women the same) who have nothing better to do!

Dolly Hooligan

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Hairstylist? Posted: 5/9/2007 9:54:40 AM
Finally, an honest answer rickshaw8 - my answer was honest, sorry it wasn't the one you were looking for though! I do not asssume hairstylists are gay in fact, I know more straight than gay. However, my point was, if someone is ignorant enough to think you are gay simply because of your profession, are they worth knowing? The first point you raised.... only you can answer I think, whether you leave your occupation on or not depends how much heat you can take. Luck, like I said previously, I think you have an interesting profession

Dolly Hooligan

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Hairstylist? Posted: 5/9/2007 3:39:08 AM
Funny, it just shows women read profiles more than men! I'm a nurse and initially was worried that I would have lots of inuendo type comments but hardly anyone ever reads that far! It depends how much of a problem it is for you....Do lot's of women ask you for advice? Do you think some of them are just expressing an interest in what you do or are they really just thoughtless? Anyone that assumes you're gay because of your profession is not worth talking to anyway! I think hairstylist is interesting and would never dream of asking for advice (strangely enough I've had 2 hairstylists contact me and ask if they can cut my hair!! Not sure it that's good or bad though). If it's a problem then either add a comment asking people to please not expect a consultation with you on here or change it - maybe..... Taupiary??

Dolly Hooligan

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Uncircumcised Issues... help? Posted: 5/9/2007 2:03:56 AM
Well said Diamond Stunna There are clean and dirty tools with or without the skin, that's down to personal hygiene not aesthetics. My guy has a very nice clean one thank you, skin included and I should know, seen it close up enough times

Dolly Hooligan

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why do men send bolshy emails Posted: 5/8/2007 11:01:16 AM
It happened to me for the 2nd time yesterday - some miserable twat who e-mailed me first. The message was a one word message but being polite I still replied. He asked me what not single/not looking was for on my profile (durr!). I politely told him anyway that though I was single when I first joined, no longer am (hence being honest on my profile) but that I continue to enjoy chatting on the forums and to the friends that I've made. Despite the fact he was beginning to get rude I still wished him luck (I actually was thinking.... I hope you meet a bunny boiler very soon after the abusive messages I got in return) As you say winniewitch07, the option is there for not single/not looking. Why should someone think it's ok to e-mail you and abuse you when you've bothered to be honest? It's not like I go around having a dig at someone because they're only looking for intimate encounter or hang out on a dating site! Get a life you sad losers, you only do that because you know we don't want you! PS - Update for DONINVICTORIA - A lot of my 'friends' are males and females who are looking for long term, short term, dating, friends and intimate encounter so why would I want to limit myself by blocking out 90% of them from contacting me in the first place. It's the other way around, people who are not looking for someone who is not looking for a relationship should not send 'bolshy' (rude and aggressive) messages to us not single/not looking talk/email types if they do not have any interest other than 'slating' (means having a go) at us.

Dolly Hooligan

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Uncircumcised Issues... help? Posted: 5/8/2007 10:42:23 AM
Damn... just have to reply to some of those above posts. I mean what the hell do I know just being a medical professional but to my knowledge, there is actually a higher (MUCH MUCH MUCH) higher chance of dying through lack of surgery for breast cancer then of not being circumcised. Circumcision is not routinely performed or recommended in England except for religious reasons. We do not have thousands of males with health problems as a result of not having the procedure yet 15 thousand women die of breast cancer every year in the UK! Me, love em one way or the other as long as they're clean and have a good sense of direction! PS - I've never heard any of the partners I've had, circumcised or not, tell me that sex is better or worse because of having or not having a foreskin either and as so many males have this done as babies or infants, how would they ever have known?

Dolly Hooligan

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A question for the ladies (quick survey) Posted: 5/8/2007 10:31:27 AM
Anyone can see if I viewed their profile and why not? If I looked at someone in the street it wouldn't mean I want a date.

Dolly Hooligan

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Guy with wheels , important to you ? Posted: 5/8/2007 9:35:54 AM
After 24 years of dating, this last year is the first time I have a guy with a car so was never an issue for me! I have one too now but the best bit is.... We prefer to leave the cars at home, walk and concentrate on each other instead of the road!

Dolly Hooligan

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Question for non-american girls Posted: 5/8/2007 5:19:44 AM
I love all sorts of accents, foreign or not (mine is a non specific English). What makes them sexy or non sexy is the content and the tone for me. No offence to anyone with a high voice but I wouldn't find a man who spoke like Mickey mouse sexy (to talk to at least)

Dolly Hooligan

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What makes a man a man? Posted: 5/8/2007 5:10:51 AM
So tempting to write 'A penis' but I guess that would exclude some men! Physical aside - Not sure if your questions relate.... What makes a man a man is subjective and every man and woman will have their own ideas on that. Does he need to be strong emotionally all the time? Also subjective How should he treat his wife? How does she want to be treated? Is this acceptable for him? The last question....Hmmm, does she know he's interested in a reunion? probably! Nothing much he can do but concentrate on keeping himself together and accepting things gradually if he wants to remain on good terms anyway. If she doesn't know, tell her but be prepared for rejection

Dolly Hooligan

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favourites? Posted: 5/7/2007 12:12:36 PM
c deacon above.... A very good ethos to work by I think and might I say you look very young for 86!!

Dolly Hooligan

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Are women intimidated by intelligent men? Posted: 5/7/2007 12:06:07 PM
Mecheng001 - yes, the women provide the children, the men do everything else! Historically, females were denied formal education and forced to help at home with families. Despite that, the likes of Marie Curie and Dorothy Crowfoot made huge advances in the science of radiography, physics and chemistry. It's taking time for women to catch up here but the reason there are less female engineers or rocket scientists etc out there is not because women are less intelligent, rather, there has been less opportunity and a tougher fight to get there. I think men sometimes are more threatened of intelligent women because there are more and more women now becoming renowned for their contributions to society, this is still a new idea to some people, men and women. Not all of course though! Praise be!

Dolly Hooligan

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favourites? Posted: 5/7/2007 11:32:49 AM
A third of my favourites are women, many met on the forums initially, a third are men I've had good conversations with - I've added some of these and sometimes I'm added first - The reason is, it's much easier to find them again when I want to contact them next and vice versa. The remaining third are strangers who have never messaged me but a male friend once told me he adds people to his favourites with the intention of contacting them at some point in the future! I leave them on and wonder if they ever will. I never look at other peoples favourites or lack of them in a biased way though. Some people (men and women) I talk to have hundreds, they've normally been on here a long time or just talk to lots of people. When I see someone with no favourites I don't assume they're unpopular either. Maybe they don't like keeping favourites etc. Not really important to me.

Dolly Hooligan

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Replies? Posted: 5/7/2007 11:14:56 AM
Leeanne - that's why we all love you, helping to spread the good manners sensibly around x

Dolly Hooligan

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Are women intimidated by intelligent men? Posted: 5/7/2007 11:00:20 AM
gonzofanmel... phew! T.F. for that hehe! Couldn't agree more OP above - Come on, there are intelligent men and intelligent women surely? Leaving the toilet seat up or down is not a measure of intelligence me thinks and not every intelligent man knows how to design an aircraft or calculate equations in gravity I suspect any more than intelligent women only remember un-important or emotional issues. I also think you'll find it requires men and women to build civilization after civilization. I did not get my masters in trivia or emotional warfare and am not intimidated by intelligent men or women!

Dolly Hooligan

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Replies? Posted: 5/7/2007 10:46:41 AM
On you with this one OP. I reply to people saying thanks but no thanks. If they become persistent after that I know I can always block them. I'm not sure about being recorded as messaging others looking for sex. I thought that was only if you messaged someone who is looking for intimate encounter first which I wouldn't do anyway but I have replied to people who have intimate encounter on their profile and often have a nice conversation with no pressure. As someone who is in a happy monogomous relationship myself and not interested in meeting men this is not a problem for me as long as it's just a friendly chat. I think one of your poster's above had the right idea, blocking people with intimate encounter from messaging her. Seems sensible if you know you're never going to reply to someone for that reason.

Dolly Hooligan

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Are women intimidated by intelligent men? Posted: 5/7/2007 10:20:00 AM
gonzofanmel above (message 25) - great you like stupid men and sure you have loads to choose from but why would that mean you're intimidated by intelligent men if you don't mind me asking?

Dolly Hooligan

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Are women intimidated by intelligent men? Posted: 5/7/2007 9:23:47 AM
NO..............

Dolly Hooligan

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Baldness - Fix it or leave it? Posted: 5/7/2007 9:20:39 AM
I and many of my friends find bald and shaved heads very sexy. You'll have as much attention either way if that's what you were wondering? If not then please just do whatever you're comfortable with. Nothing more attractive than someone who is comfortable in their skin, bald, hairy, thinning whatever...

Dolly Hooligan

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Replies? Posted: 5/7/2007 9:15:45 AM
Because some people are just plain ignorant! I reply to anyone except someone who sends me a blatantly offensive message but I know from my friends (especially male friends) that they commonly do not get a reply to their messages no matter how polite or friendly. What to do.... be glad you find out these people have no manners sooner rather than later.

Dolly Hooligan

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does anyone still believe in love? Posted: 5/7/2007 8:26:28 AM
I have never seen if or ever felt it So it has no proof to me...... I believe that somepeople have tried to create something that does not exist I'm sorry you've never seen or felt love. Just because you haven't experienced it it doesn't mean it does not exist though. If someone believes it then it's real for them inarguably. I'm not sure if love has to be taught, I don't suppose as babies we immediately love our parents but I can't personally remember. Hate is often taught so maybe you have a point. If so then I hope you are taught love one day. If you do not love other people then I guess it's harder for them to love you though!

Dolly Hooligan

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comedy names.... Posted: 5/6/2007 12:09:14 PM
Shouldn't laugh about my patients but it was hard to suppress a giggle when one rang in to ask if she could see someone for depression... a Miss Moody as it turned out! Have also had the happy job of calling out the names of patients waiting to see me... there seem to be legions of babies called Hercules and Adonis lately, 2 patients with the unfortunate surname fu kadu and wait for it, a Mrs Sillifat Olaide (not sure if it's worse for me or them!) I went to school with 1 girl called tittilola and another called s.hital My name is Jayne Elizabeth Lee - Yep on paper - JELEE

Dolly Hooligan

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I'm supposed to lie? Posted: 5/6/2007 11:28:29 AM
What can I say Sirphobos except.... Sounds like you had a lucky escape from a silly girl so be glad and carry on enjoying your games. You may or may not meet someone who enjoys them too but whoever you do meet or talk to should like you for you and that's that! Personally I'd far rather know a person who indulges in harmless games than someone who parades around the countryside shooting animals for fun but personal taste and all.... I collect Lord of the Rings memorabilia! I also enjoy reading, running and dirty dancing to kitch music but wouldn't waste a minute on someone that would even think they have the right to criticize me for any of those things (except my friends who are absolutely allowed to laugh with me) May the force be with you Snowwhite22!

Dolly Hooligan

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does anyone still believe in love? Posted: 5/6/2007 10:39:11 AM
OP, the answer is HELL YES! Would mean far less to me if I hadn't experienced some real downs as well though. I'm much happier at 39 than I was at 27 if that's any consolation! I think you should consider thinking of yourself as youngmanmally instead of oldmanmally though.... optimism seems to yield more Luck

Dolly Hooligan

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Funniest thing ever happened to you during sex? Posted: 4/19/2007 4:45:35 AM
My friend got drunk and hijacked my double bed for her and her guy. I woke on the sofa in the early hours to hear banging and buzzing.... I'd left my 'rabbit' under my pillow and it got switched on whilst they were having fun in my bed. They couldn't turn it off and were banging it on the floor.... They killed it

Dolly Hooligan

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question about interracial dating ... Posted: 4/14/2007 8:08:24 AM
Wafta - there is no difference though I did see a male poster getting a hard time recently because he said he's not attracted to overweight women so doesn't apply just to race. Live and let live...my motto (and most posters here which is good). Not so with all!

Dolly Hooligan

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question about interracial dating ... Posted: 4/13/2007 6:11:53 AM
Thankfully my Mum (who's white English) and my Dad (who's black Caribbean) both dated outside of their races or I would be non-existent! OP, i like your philosophy very much! However, dating somebody of only one particular race is not necessarily racist (it can be of course). Some people like yourself may be attracted to a whole kaleidoscope of people whereas for others, physical attraction may veer only toward dark, fair etc etc. I hear a lot of talk about 'it's what's inside that counts' and I agree but we cannot force ourselves to be physically attracted to someone we're not. What I don't agree with is people criticising (or worse) their friends and family for dating outside of their races. This is racist and this is wrong!

Dolly Hooligan

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Do older men stay away from women in their 30's? Posted: 4/13/2007 3:54:50 AM
Some older guys, or perhaps guys in your age group as well, may find you an unrealistic proposition Us old farts hate to get turned down, our egos are too fragile. OP, I have the same pridicament! lots of attention from younger guys from late teens up to late 20's - then less from men in my age group. However, I often get propositioned by older men too. Maybe there's an age when old farts' ego's become less fragile??

Dolly Hooligan

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Teasing Girls Posted: 4/12/2007 2:36:43 AM
OP..I'd be more likely to respond if you told me 'you' felt you needed a bit more make up, that might make me laugh. It's true that nice guys finish last... If that's true then how come there seem to be so many more as.sholes than nice guys on this site then?

Dolly Hooligan

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womens profile pics and conveying a message Posted: 4/11/2007 9:37:06 AM
Well said tawnysummer it would be ironic for said women to then complain about being objectified by men. However, if the women don't mind the response such pictures inevitably incur, then there's no problem Couldn't have said it better myelf. Two way street... Absolutely, every person on here has the option of showing how much or how little they can or want to get away with for their own reasons but like I said in a previous post: Ladies, we all know that 99% of men do NOT read our profiles. YOU control what first impression you want to give. I think OP you almost answered your own question by inferring that a woman is not posting a picture of her assets to show she is not fat!!! I agree

Dolly Hooligan

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Man's Voice Posted: 4/11/2007 7:10:30 AM
I do voices too - tone can be very attractive (or NOT). I once had a date with a man who sounded like Prince Charles! I deliberated speaking in my best Princess Di accent and asking for another date... then thought sod off you posh git (in rather nicer words of course!!)

Dolly Hooligan

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I'm not into overweight women, am I a jerk? Posted: 4/11/2007 6:49:19 AM
you have to say that there are people in this world you are not attracted to based solely on looks Agree poster above... I saw some of the replies on a post last week asking why women prefer tall, dark and handsome. Most of them just wrote... because we do. It wasn't considered offensive on the whole either. We like what we like. If you like somebody that doesn't find you attractive because of your colouring or your height, you're pretty much stuffed. If it's a weight issue purely then at least most (not all) people can do something about that, may not be easy but it is possible. I imagine most larger ladies wouldn't be interested in somebody who's not interested in them anyway so don't really have to make that choice!

Dolly Hooligan

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Have you ever felt 'pressured' to meet someone? Posted: 4/11/2007 6:43:24 AM
It happens to me all the time and I'm only here to talk/e-mail. I suppose some people feel they want to get to know someone better by meeting them in person. Then the others who just want a shag!

Dolly Hooligan

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does getting older scare u? Posted: 4/11/2007 4:23:13 AM
No, getting older doesn't scare me.... The big 40 this year and if I'm lucky maybe will reach the big 50, 60 and beyond. I just smile and feel lucky to be here (most of the time)

Dolly Hooligan

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Nice guy my a$$! Say it the way it is!! Posted: 4/11/2007 2:05:22 AM
Whilst I agree with a poster above that people can put whatever they like on their profiles. I have several, very 'nice' male friends who have very early on in a conversation with women on here been asked: 'so how much exactly do you earn?' My friends have successful careers and show their jobs on their profiles. I would be miffed and downright annoyed if somebody e-mailed and asked me how much I earned. If earnings are so high up on the agenda then I don't think it's unreasonable for women (and men) to clarify this in their profiles. It would save all the 'losers' who earn less then 200 billion a week from daring to send that first message. On the other hand, if someone really is looking for nice as opposed to horrible then fine!

Dolly Hooligan

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Do you consider oral sex 'sex'? Posted: 4/11/2007 1:40:32 AM
Eric48 I think wherever someone is talking about sex or when it may become necessary to discuss a particular sexual experience or act, I think it needs to be clarified if the sexual act or type of sex your referring to is something other than intercourse. Kind of highlights one of my points which is 'sex' has different connotations for different people. For many, including myself, the term sex encompasses many different sexual acts including intercourse and oral sex. Jet........Thank you very much, what a nice thing to say

Dolly Hooligan

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Sexual morals ... Do you have them ?? Posted: 4/10/2007 11:12:40 AM
I honestly don't know but I have taken some recent abuse so agree they're out there..... Waiting for the verbal bashing as I write

Dolly Hooligan

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Sexual morals ... Do you have them ?? Posted: 4/10/2007 10:52:11 AM
What can I add to the 4 posts above? Big fat O - Spot on!! Everyone has sexual morals - we just have different ones from each other.

Dolly Hooligan

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I'm not into overweight women, am I a jerk? Posted: 4/10/2007 10:33:58 AM
Variance analysis.. You should have more respect for big women. Fat women are cool with you as long as you don't call them fat or fatty. You're supposed to call them BBWs Hmm. Are you suggesting that all as you called them fat women think alike? Is this not sizeist? First you assume that all big women would be cool with the OP! Then you infer that all big women should be called BBW. Why? not all big women are BBW anymore than all slim women are SBW!

Dolly Hooligan

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I'm not into overweight women, am I a jerk? Posted: 4/10/2007 10:11:55 AM
Interesting point tukaburdy - How would someone feel if their partner became overweight after being in a long-term relationship though I do know of some relationships which have broken off because of this! OP - No you're not a jerk for making your preferences known, you'd be a jerk if you lied about what you liked I think. Tact is good though!

Dolly Hooligan

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The three essential components of a relationship Posted: 4/10/2007 9:33:31 AM
Reply to nofrillsfun Your question mentions what qualities would make and 'Keep' a woman happy. I didn't put my preferences in any particular order either but loyalty would have to be big on my list for a happy relationship definitely. The 3 things you described (though nice) could be found in most relationships (short term or long term). Many people make love, say they love each other and hug but are not communicative in other ways - the reason many relationships fail. I couldn't help but notice you wrote what sort of woman would allow such undertakings should there prevail a lack of communication What sort of man then?? I believe very much in equality you see. As such, I am also very loyal, loving and communicative with someone I care about.

Dolly Hooligan

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Why are people so judgemental? Life is to short. Posted: 4/10/2007 9:19:32 AM
Yes - a lot of people want to put other's down to feel good about themselves and not just on this site. I agree with the above poster's though... Who says you need to keep up? The only high standards you have to match up to are yours. Sometimes it isn't easy being the lone voice when you feel everybody seems against you but sticking to what you believe to be right should give you self respect. Treat others how you would like to be treated is a good motto and you'll find there are more nice people out there on the whole. Some people will always be plain nasty, ignore them, swear and make faces behind their backs (one of my favourites) but be content you're a nicer person (if you are) and let it pass.

Dolly Hooligan

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The three essential components of a relationship Posted: 4/10/2007 8:57:45 AM
Those things are very nice but maybe not my top priorities Loyalty Share love (could encompass any of those above in your post) Communication (in my case this includes lots of humour)

Dolly Hooligan

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they say they want to talk/e-mail but... Posted: 4/10/2007 8:37:30 AM
I have talk/e-mail on my profile. I come on here mostly for the forums but I do also exchange e-mails with males and females of all ages. On my profile it clearly says 'Not looking' not dating or meeting anybody just chat. I get some very abusive messages from men nevertheless and no I have never ever led anybody on to think I want anything more than conversation. Although I think 'friends' can be misconstrued - I would not expect any more than a chat from someone who has talk/e-mail on their profile and I agree. Those who are expecting to meet at some point should change their profiles accordingly. Of course, talk/e-mail may unexpectedly lead to a nice meeting and what a bonus

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