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spumoni spinoza

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Whats it like being single over 30? Posted: 11/14/2009 9:09:34 AM
MCALGARY- enjoy your "extra kids" while you have em. You have the rest of your life to date, once they're gone. I'm 53, and have an active dating pool. I plan to have a pool till I croak. Unless some cream floats to the top, then I'll consider a committed relationship. And, girls, a man isn't wired for emotional support. That's what your girlfriends are for. Don't expect that from a man. They're good for other stuff...lol

spumoni spinoza

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Fishing for you to call him- looking for honest opinions Posted: 10/16/2009 9:52:15 AM
Yes, but there is a filtering process that is supposed to happen to ensure the best man wins. You don't just go, Hi Baby, let's get it on...What happened to R.E.S.P.E.C.T.? You're supposed to get to know a person's charactor before you let em in. Is there no spirituality here?

spumoni spinoza

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Fishing for you to call him- looking for honest opinions Posted: 10/14/2009 7:24:08 AM
Guys don't seem to mind being used for sex, but women do. No wonder there are so many gays. All the men in my dating pool have started out respectful, and know I don't do the phone wank thing, with rare exception, only if I have a trac record with the man for a fairly long term. Somehow they all hung in there to get to see the real me. But this,"Hi Baby, let's wank" crap is soooo disrespectful. Holy Crap Batman, no one wants to block a man who hasn't done anything yet. You want to give a person a chance. But that's how serial playas get in the door. Then it's time to get the Iceman!

spumoni spinoza

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Fishing for you to call him- looking for honest opinions Posted: 10/13/2009 2:33:29 PM
It seems to me, the men are saying, "Why play games about it? Bottom line is, we're just here to sow those wild oats" and women are good for nothing else, till "THE ONE" comes along. That makes all women faceless recepticles. Oh joy. I can't wait till a woman you men care about just uses you for a plaything. Or maybe they have. And how did that feel? So would you be happy with "THE ONE" having text sex or phone wank w/ all the men who call her, until she meets you?

spumoni spinoza

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Fishing for you to call him- looking for honest opinions Posted: 10/12/2009 9:25:48 PM
So. I took a chance & called a guy, and guess what he wanted? Wasted an hour talking before he got around to it. They try to pretend they're interested in you as a human being, then...wham! Yeah, it gets abusive. I'm not callin anymore.

spumoni spinoza

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Fishing for you to call him- looking for honest opinions Posted: 10/12/2009 3:53:29 PM
I find it very frustrating when a man wants to "git off" here right away. A rapor needs to be established first. I hate wasting time w/ phone calls where the parade always ends at the same place. Phone wank. Just be upfront about it, guys. There must be women who do that sort of thing, otherwise there wouldn't be so many men trying it. Instead of "chat" why don't you just say what you really want. I always feel violated when I get a wanker. It's really a form of abuse, to "trick" a woman into that. It's like when you go to the movies, and you reach in the popcorn box, and your date cut a hole in the bottom to put in his schlong. And what's with these men who want to send pix of their lil soldier? That's what I get when I go to email. No thanx! I'll stay right here.

spumoni spinoza

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Compliments Posted: 8/5/2009 8:43:40 AM
Of course, the more original, the more heartfelt. How's that"nice rack" thing workin 4 ya? Yeeeeaaaahhhh....iI didn't think so.

spumoni spinoza

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Compliments Posted: 8/4/2009 9:33:05 AM
I feel if someone takes the time to give a compliment, then in some way, there is genuineness somewhere I'll take em all.

spumoni spinoza

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He who hesitates is lost.......... Posted: 7/28/2009 8:29:32 AM
My personal observationss indicate about one ina thousand is a true gem. So keep on keeping on & never settle.

spumoni spinoza

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He who hesitates is lost.......... Posted: 7/25/2009 8:12:52 AM
Hello Izarith. Maybe it's the way you've been asking. There is a right way & wrong way, AND it differs from person to person. So basically there are no hard & fast rules to go by. Think about all the times ur face wouldn't have been slapped, and now you can cry for those missed opportunities. Isn't several face slappings worth one good jumping on the bandwagon? Everything has a price. Sometimes you pay for nothing, and sometimes you get the deal of the century!. You can't win if you don't play. But please play nice.

spumoni spinoza

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He who hesitates is lost.......... Posted: 7/22/2009 8:14:03 AM
Is there a punch line? I hesitate to get the joke. My particular theory is, if you don't ask, you don't get.

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Kinda Stings A Little Posted: 7/18/2009 6:32:18 PM
Shower frequently, pluck & trim, then learn to peel a grape with just your mouth. Dude, if you think you're not good enough, then you won't be. It's all about attitude. So buck up & take it like a man. And wipe the sh1t from your shoe.

spumoni spinoza

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He who hesitates is lost.......... Posted: 7/18/2009 6:22:21 PM
Tis better to have tried, than to always wonder. At least you know how it turns out.

spumoni spinoza

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Why do so few women seek only sex?? Posted: 7/17/2009 7:24:20 AM
I'll have an order of sex w/ a side of emotion. Here's the conundrum in a nutshell. The men do the "emotion" thing to get the sex, and women do the sex thing to get the emotional connection. And yes, as we get older, men seem to enjoy a connection, while women are by then all jaded & just want a warm body. Tee he!

spumoni spinoza

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Why do so few women seek only sex?? Posted: 7/16/2009 2:04:30 PM
Women are not wired to be in emotionally devoid relationships, unless you were raise in a household where that sort of thing was normal. Also, women can re-wire their brains not to get all gooey on a man. I know women who date several fellas & they keep detached. Does that make them Cad-etts?

spumoni spinoza

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Why do so few women seek only sex?? Posted: 7/15/2009 8:44:11 AM
When you get treated like a quick piece of a$$, isn't that just like masterbation? Only alot more bullcrap as well as unsafe?

spumoni spinoza

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Why do so few women seek only sex?? Posted: 7/11/2009 11:28:30 PM
kthyg, what's wrong w/ people going home to wank it? Isn't that safer? They get great foreplay, & just go home to finish off. Chemical exchange complete. And then there are some women who feel, why buy the Bull, when you can get the sperm for free?

spumoni spinoza

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Settling for somebody your own age? Posted: 7/10/2009 10:21:39 AM
Content to just be....that's a jewel, Zephyr! And back to the OP, once a person settles, they eliminate the possibility of the soul mate. I think I'll hang for the Brass Ring, but if I never ride the ride, I'll never get it. If I miss it, oh well, it still was a fun ride!

spumoni spinoza

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Settling for somebody your own age? Posted: 7/8/2009 8:22:13 AM
I se 2 references in the posted question. Marriage material & just dating. Why does everyone assume you will grow old with a person, and have that goal in mind, when largely, people don't stay together regardless of age. People come & go in our lives, everything is transitory. The only thing constant is change. Yet, people are under this dellusion that there has to be THE ONE person you stay with forever. It's a nice thought, but not grounded in reality. People die or leave, there never is that assurance that person will be here tomorrow. So live for now. No, I am not embarrassed, intimidated or anything by an age differenge. And it's not all about looks. It's about the connection. I have to have some mental stimulation, and smart people come in all ages. God just put us here at different times. We all come from the same source.

spumoni spinoza

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She said What? Posted: 7/8/2009 7:57:48 AM
Why on Earth would someone announce they have chlamydia to a whole room of people? That's a sign of high wierdness. Run away. Find a new pub. Wear protection.

spumoni spinoza

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Wow this is a good ? Posted: 7/5/2009 5:53:52 PM
Chill peeps. She just made a silly joke...but now I wonder why it pushed such a big button??? Wasn't deserving of such a lashing. Who's the angry ****, here? Ur just miffed cuz no wimmens bit on ur "sea men" bait. No one's interested.

spumoni spinoza

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Wow this is a good ? Posted: 7/3/2009 9:01:17 AM
Sack o taters we used to call em. I once heard there are no "fridgid" women, just inept men. If U was ringin her bell by paying attention to how she likes it, you'd be gettin a genuinely positive response. Girls can't help it. If you tickled her feet, shed be jumpin like frog legs frying.

spumoni spinoza

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Celebrity one-nighter Posted: 7/2/2009 7:24:13 PM
Well, If we're goin back in the day, then Steve McQueen, Jimmy Stewart & David Cassidy. Elvis when he was about 18, before he was the King..

spumoni spinoza

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Why do women scratch your back and bite your lip during sex? Posted: 7/2/2009 11:04:50 AM
Well, we see youse guys scratching your balls, so we think you must like it.

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Sex and Candy Posted: 7/2/2009 11:03:13 AM
Fabulous! Tis better to try & see, than always wonder. And damn the torpedos! If it ends up taking a bite out of your heart, well, the Good Lord gave us the ability to regenerate, as long as the bite isn't too big. Good for you for picking yourself & dusting off. You can't win if you don't play.

spumoni spinoza

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Sex and Candy Posted: 6/30/2009 7:33:09 AM
I understand that every person you open ur heart up 2 takes a lil piece with them (a bite?) and after a while, you don't have much left. At least that's how it feels. Sounds like you both have some issues...but never be afraid to love. Just cut the cards, and don't up the ante too fast. Of course a relationship will take a toll on people. That's the price of love. But the payback can be tenfold!!!

spumoni spinoza

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Sex and Candy Posted: 6/30/2009 7:27:15 AM
Yup. I'm with Austgirl. And I have read the thread. Just sayin maybe he really isn't that into you, but his emotional issues makes him think he wants what he can't have, that's why there's no big sex drive towards you. Just sayin... don't B hatin.

spumoni spinoza

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Why do women scratch your back and bite your lip during sex? Posted: 6/30/2009 7:19:17 AM
Outmind-ur absolutely wrong. Some women like it slow like a tease. I never liked the sledgehammer. ow!

spumoni spinoza

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Why do women scratch your back and bite your lip during sex? Posted: 6/29/2009 9:14:53 AM
Good Lord, choking! This leads to death when a person decides they like it & try it at home alone. NEVER do the auto-erotic asphixiation. When you read a person died suddenly in their home, or hotel...that's what it is alot of the time. Kicks aren't worth your life, and the backwash it leaves behind. If anyone is thinking about doing this, DON'T DON'T DON'T do it!

spumoni spinoza

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Sex and Candy Posted: 6/29/2009 9:07:27 AM
"before one of us got hurt" is manspeak for "You're not the one" But I'll hang out w/ you till the right girl comes along.

spumoni spinoza

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going down on a guy Posted: 6/29/2009 9:00:42 AM
Anyone ever heard of teabagging? The guy is standing up, but on his knees, & ur lying down w/ ur head on a pillow looking up at those huevos rancheros. You can lick & tale them in your mouth & gently suck. The butterfly flick can be extacy on them ot the taint-or the hed. You have total access. My ex said I could make his balls dance. But then another fella didn't like it atall. He couldn't sit still long enough to get into the groove. More of a sledgehammer type. I guess you just have to read a person. Everyone's different. And Guys...dont shove our heads down so we gag. That's not fun. Let us have the control for a lil bit.

spumoni spinoza

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Celebrity one-nighter Posted: 6/29/2009 8:48:42 AM
I'm strait, but Uma Thurman is so hot even I want her. I think Rob Thomas would be fun.

spumoni spinoza

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The fish smell down there? Posted: 6/29/2009 8:42:20 AM
Hellgremlin needs a plastic dolly. If I knew a guy was just "being a trooper" I would never let him parachute into my DMZ again.

spumoni spinoza

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Please help!!! Posted: 5/18/2009 7:08:54 AM
Where's your mojo in ur pix? I still see the same 2 shotz that are similar. SHOW SOMETHING sexy, and you'll get mail guar-on-teed! Not untasteful...but fun & maybe a bit of a tease. Guys are very visual.

spumoni spinoza

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With the Picture Thing Out of the Way... Posted: 5/18/2009 7:05:55 AM
Better! Now take out the dork pic...UGH!!! You still didn't define what kind of bad girl to the potential bad girls. How bout "stylish, dangerous & mysterious"? Kinda like a Bond movie...maybe you want a Bond girl? Or maybe Confident Edge.Someone who flirts w/ the line, but doesn't cross it. So, I take it you've never been arrested? Ur missing out on some great fun!

spumoni spinoza

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With the Picture Thing Out of the Way... Posted: 5/17/2009 6:32:22 AM
Describe the bad girl you have in mind. I wanted to know more & you just left it hangin...Much better read btw/ Ur doing good!

spumoni spinoza

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With the Picture Thing Out of the Way... Posted: 5/16/2009 7:55:29 PM
Take out the fat, dirty & manipulated parts.

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Please help!!! Posted: 5/16/2009 7:53:10 PM
I notice you only have a 15 year spread in your age requirement. Loosen your self-imposed restrictions a bit. I always thought the does not want kids meant not having any yourself, but it could mean doesn't want a person w/ kids...a bit unclear.

spumoni spinoza

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So what's wrong with my profile? Posted: 5/16/2009 7:47:23 PM
The profile is great, and yes, more about what U want ina woman. If someone puts me on the fave list, & doesn't mail me, I just figure they like lookin. If I put a guy on my fave list, I never mail first. I wait like a lady & let him be the man. If he's not man enough to mail me, & say hi, then he doesn't want me that bad. Love the pic. Would like to see a few more. Both of you! And "lookin4the1 " You are very pretty, show some" imagination" in your photos.

spumoni spinoza

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Do me next :) Posted: 5/16/2009 7:33:36 PM
Compatable personality doesn't tell me a thing, since I don't really know you. Who is looking for an uncompatable companion? Take that out. And no picture? I wouldn't give you the time of day. Who wants to take the trouble to email you for a pic, just to see what U look like? Then there's the thing where you email men & 90% of the time they send a wank pic. I'm just assuming that's what I'll get if I email you, so no thanx, won't even risk that.

spumoni spinoza

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My Profile Posted: 5/16/2009 7:27:04 PM
I would say you act like a church boy, but you don't have any religion. I think the church gals would love you! Your profile is honest, descriptive & sweet. Don't change a thing. Just become a Lutheran.

spumoni spinoza

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profile review, need creative ideas etc Posted: 5/16/2009 7:20:38 PM
I would assume Eastern Europe was the travelling part. Am I right? So everything reads well, nothing wrong there. My only suggestion is to not have the camera even w/ the top of your noggin.

spumoni spinoza

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Everyone Wants a Cougar Posted: 5/16/2009 7:53:50 AM
C deacon...you don't have to be either arm candy or a cougar, you can be both!

spumoni spinoza

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Everyone Wants a Cougar Posted: 5/11/2009 7:33:04 PM
Men in their 20's can be sophistocated and most certainly don't kiss & tell. It's the ones who aren't gettin any that have to make up stories. And what's with these no photo people? How much mail could y'all possibly be getting? What r u hiding? Fat? Ugliness? Skin conditions? Wheelchairs? Just feel free to show yourselves. There's someone for everyone.

spumoni spinoza

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g/day from australia Posted: 5/11/2009 7:36:42 AM
Sup from Cali. Send me a Didgerie-Do, a Joey & a shrimp on a barbie, and I'll take you to the redwoods & wine tasting. Tie me kangaroo down, sport.

spumoni spinoza

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Everyone Wants a Cougar Posted: 5/11/2009 7:23:06 AM
Maybe YOUR case is closed...

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Everyone Wants a Cougar Posted: 5/10/2009 6:51:43 AM
A Cougar is not always a sugar-mama. You can still let them be the man & pay for stuff. Just do things he can afford. And Drew Barrymore is not married(serial dater) Reese just got divorced. I don't think you understood the question. So what rich guy that we know of has a beautiful AND smart young wife? Misthula-Your pink Mardi-Gras outfit is the bomb!!!

spumoni spinoza

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Everyone Wants a Cougar Posted: 5/8/2009 6:55:42 AM
Hmmm, interesting comment about the guys w/ money going for young women. John Corbett & Ashton Kutcher come to mind. Young, rich & with older women long term. I do believe it's the exception, though. A good question for the cougar prey would be, "If you were rich, would you still be after me?" Money changes everything. In some cases, there is the woman you want to show to the world, and the women that gets you hot in private. Hugh Grant had Elizabeth Hurley, but really wanted a skanky ho. Charlie Sheen is fameous for that. The guys I know that like cougars, have young, hot women after them. It's a personal preference. Not a last resort. I'd like to know which movie/pop star has picked a hot young girl who is smart? Can anyone think of any smart ones?

spumoni spinoza

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Everyone Wants a Cougar Posted: 5/6/2009 7:51:06 AM
"i can have a 20 yr old with a tight ass and likes to party or...... i can chase after a 35 yr old who is starting to sag and has 2 kids??" Lifeis2good, you have the nerve to say that directly after that lovely mature woman posting before you. Starting to sag? My a$$ is so tight, I could cracka walnut & blow smoke rings. I've seen some of my friends saggin in their 20's, too. Just depends on ur bodytype, what the good Lord gave ya & how u take care of it. Oh, and I've seen young men w/ balls saggin down 2 their knees. Does this somehow discount them from being hot elsewhere? You're lookin 4 physical perfection, are ya? Good luck! And I hope you print out this post & read it 30 years from now Buck-a-roo. Maybe show it to ur future wife & mother of ur children.Nyuck nyuck! Or are you gonna trade her in every few years like a car?

spumoni spinoza

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How many of you have actually had a great experience with online dating? Posted: 5/6/2009 7:23:58 AM
Ya, that's what I thought.

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