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JoseMadre

Joined: 1/9/2012

Msg: 56 (view)

Ex-girlfriend won't give back deceased mothers ring Posted: 11/20/2012 2:50:17 PM
If you get the ring back you might want to keep it in the family. I was willed my maternal grandmother's ring, my mother's ring, and recovered my wife's ring after the accident. My older daughter gets her mom's ring. My younger gets my mom's when she is of age. My grandmother's will go to my first granddaughter, assuming I ever have one. If not, it will go to my oldest niece, the older daughter for my oldest sister.

JoseMadre

Joined: 1/9/2012

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What have you learned from this rollercoaster ride we call life? Posted: 11/20/2012 9:37:16 AM
Funny thing is, after all these years what I learned in a Ray Stevens song when I was a kid is the compelling truth for me. "Everything is beautiful in its own way."

josemadre

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Are you still a big kid at Christmas? Posted: 11/17/2012 11:15:09 PM
I'm a musician. I am a big kid all of the time.

JoseMadre

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Why do married people say this? Posted: 11/12/2012 11:41:37 AM
Probably because they have difficult marriages. Just follow your own path.

JoseMadre

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Vegans Posted: 11/12/2012 10:32:47 AM
To the OP. She went out with the guy knowing that he would not pay for a meal that contains meat. She then ordered a burger? It's on her. She should have declined the date. He was not imposing his ways on her. If anything, she was trying to impose her ways on him by attempting to force him to violate his conscience.

JoseMadre

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Msg: 66 (view)

Friendzone? Why do you men hate it that much? Posted: 11/8/2012 11:45:42 AM
I don't mind being in the friend zone because most of those females have female friends.

JoseMadre

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Why do women get an open license to degrade men? Posted: 11/6/2012 8:01:04 PM
Because women hold all the power. lol If you believe that it's true.

JoseMadre

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living with parents Posted: 11/5/2012 10:10:27 AM
It does not matter to me at all. Multigenerational homes used to be the norm and we might be moving back to that.

JoseMadre

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Great Guitar Players You May Never Heard Of... Posted: 10/20/2012 5:05:59 PM
I know a lot of Deep Purple fans who hate the Blackmore's Night stuff, but I like it a lot. What they did to "Ocean Gyspy" is incredible. Ritchie's playing is still incredible, and he finally seems happy.

JoseMadre

Joined: 1/9/2012

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Great Guitar Players You May Never Heard Of... Posted: 10/20/2012 5:03:01 PM
…not a single mention of Adrian Belew. You people need to get out more. Perhaps no-one thought of Belew as a 'guitarist you may never have heard of'? Yeah, it never would have crossed my mind either that Belew could be considered unknown.

JoseMadre

Joined: 1/9/2012

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Boyfriend says he wants to stay with me forever, RED FLAG?? Posted: 10/20/2012 9:33:32 AM
OP, perhaps he's checking to see if he's wasting his time. Maybe he is looking for something enduring and is unsure you are doing the same.

JoseMadre

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Why do people hate their exes? Posted: 10/17/2012 1:12:24 PM
I have several friends who are exes. One I dated in 1982 and again in 1987. Another I dated for most of 1986. Another I dated from 1988 to 1989 and then again in 1991.

JoseMadre

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Dating is over after you turn 30! Posted: 10/17/2012 9:03:17 AM
You need to move to OC. I'm in my last year before the big 5-0 and I have no problem dating. Finding a LTR is a bit more problematic, but dates are easy.

JoseMadre

Joined: 1/9/2012

Msg: 232 (view)

Online dating working for you? Posted: 10/14/2012 7:46:33 PM
I've encountered some cool people, but my dates have all come from real life.

JoseMadre

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older guys younger women Posted: 10/12/2012 9:51:40 AM
I have no problem with dating women my age and older, but I haven't found one who is interested in spending the next decade raising a child so my recent dates have been in the 31-38 range

JoseMadre

Joined: 1/9/2012

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What do you think Posted: 10/6/2012 12:20:51 PM
Your mother lives with you, not vice versa, so while it will turn off some women it doesn't have the 30 year old loser stigma.

JoseMadre

Joined: 1/9/2012

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how to deal with unpleasant users. tips please. Posted: 10/2/2012 12:37:24 PM
Report it to the police. Unless the user is spoofing or tunneling, he can be located.

JoseMadre

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Stigma?? Posted: 10/1/2012 11:34:03 AM
Stigma? I don't get that vibe at all. To parrot a favorite quote, "You've proven you can commit to a relationship and are single through no fault of your own."

JoseMadre

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Great Guitar Players You May Never Heard Of... Posted: 10/1/2012 9:13:06 AM
A lot of great under the radar guys already named. Here are a copy I like. Micky Moody. Lanny Cordola.

josemadre

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Kids or dating? Posted: 9/28/2012 1:52:06 PM
I think you should date if you want, and if the quality is lacking expand your circle.

josemadre

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Student at 50+ Posted: 9/28/2012 1:49:27 PM
Nope, doesn't bother me. Thinking about pursuing my Ph.D., but either way I have enough income and assets to support myself, my kids, and anyone who ends up as my partner. I'm looking for a partner, that's it.

JoseMadre

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Older Men with Small Children Posted: 9/27/2012 9:46:43 AM
Do men mark "open/undecided" on their profiles so women with small children will know they (men) are open to dating them? Probably. I have an almost 9 year old at home and I skip over everyone who has "Does not want children" assuming they are not interested.

JoseMadre

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Dating Out of Your League Posted: 9/27/2012 9:41:06 AM
My "league" is women to whom I'm attracted. Why would I want to date out of my league?

JoseMadre

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Trying a 2nd or 3rd time again with an ex Posted: 9/26/2012 3:13:42 PM
I dated a girl when I was 18, then again when I was 23. The timing was wrong for us both times, but we've remained friends throughout the years and if she ever decided to move back to California I would be open to it.

josemadre

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Acoustic Guitar Music Posted: 9/25/2012 10:31:49 AM
I noticed someone mentioned Phil Keaggy. I would check out all of his stuff, but beware he does a lot of electric as well. I also noticed some mentioned Segovia. The master. One of my favorite classical players is Chris Parkening.

josemadre

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Creepy teacher? Posted: 9/21/2012 4:30:15 PM
Ten years ago I would have thought the OP was crazy, but after having worked on a large number of molestation cases I would err on the side of caution.

josemadre

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Unable to afford child support, any advice ???? Posted: 9/21/2012 4:27:22 PM
Work on getting employed. In most states that child support continues to grow and will stack up quickly. Look for legal help. A lot of firms offer pro bono (no cost to you) legal help as part of their structure. It is great PR for them, and it allows their associates to get trial experience. Your not being able to make it the court is a big black mark in the eyes of the legal system, so you will need that legal representation in order to get the judge to hear your reasons for missing. If they are as reasonable as presented, you should be able to get a modification and a lot more visitation that you are getting.

JoseMadre

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Meet a girl, inches away from her being my girl....but... Posted: 9/19/2012 8:54:48 AM
If she went out WITH you while having a boyfriend, she will likely go out ON you if you ever become her boyfriend. Move on and count your blessings.

josemadre

Joined: 1/9/2012

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New ID voter law? Posted: 9/17/2012 2:09:15 PM
The popular vote doesn't matter but generally follows how the college votes. It has been upstaged three times: 1876- R.B. Hayes was elected after losing the popular vote. 1888- B. Harrison was elected after losing the popular vote. 2000-G.W. Bush was elected after losing the popular vote. It could be argued that Kennedy in 196o as well, since most of the Democratic votes in Alabama were for uncommitted Electors who were specifically pledged to not vote for JFK. Those votes are normally counted as his, but if they are not (and they should not be) Nixon actually had a plurality. As for Voter ID... I was opposed till I saw the research on the Minnesota Senate Election in 2008. Does not mean I blanket support every voter ID law out there, but I do support the idea in general.

josemadre

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Contacting your first love... Posted: 9/17/2012 9:15:30 AM
It's unresolved for you. I broke it off with my fiancee in 1990 because I had cold feet and I still sometimes think about what might have been.

josemadre

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most Underated band? Posted: 9/16/2012 12:29:51 AM
Savatage - One of the most unique metal bands ever. They had an unmistakable signature sound, rich in atmosphere and musicianship. Definitely. Thankfully the embers flamed the creation of the Trans-Siberian Orchestra and some of the best Christmas music of the past century.

josemadre

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27 widower with three daughters 5,3 and 2 any advice on finding someone? Posted: 9/11/2012 9:59:10 AM
I get approached more when I am out with my daughter than when I am out alone.

JoseMadre

Joined: 1/9/2012

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Not married by 30, will it happen, ever? Posted: 9/10/2012 12:09:30 PM
I got married at 31. My best friend is getting ready to celebrate her first anniversary. She was 30 when she got married. Simple answer is "No."

josemadre

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When dating a man who has a child, will I EVER come first? Posted: 9/9/2012 9:01:21 PM
jose u r a twat! what is the difference between dating and marriage.. and as i said before.. even if 2 people have a child together that child should come first too!! What is the difference between dating and marriage? Is that even a serious question? You should get a dictionary. You might also consider looking up "decorum" while you are at it.

JoseMadre

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When dating a man who has a child, will I EVER come first? Posted: 9/8/2012 2:55:15 PM
Assuming all things are equal, while dating the child should come first. After marriage the spouse should have priority.

JoseMadre

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what makes life fun for you? Posted: 9/7/2012 9:19:01 AM
My daughter and her friends. No better way to stay young than trying to keep up with a bunch of 8 and 9 year old girls.

josemadre

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Black women and white men Posted: 9/5/2012 11:13:02 AM
A lot of people refuse to date outside of their race. For me it doesn't matter. If she and I are compatible I don't care if she's younger, older, black, white, brown, red, yellow, green, or whatever. It the heart not the epidermis that matters.

josemadre

Joined: 1/9/2012

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would this be a dealbreaker? Posted: 9/5/2012 10:54:57 AM
The past is the past. The future is what matters. Your only concern should be if she has incurable infectious diseases.

josemadre

Joined: 1/9/2012

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How young is too young? Posted: 9/5/2012 10:47:28 AM
It depends on the person. My last SO is 31. She was raised by her grandparents who are now in their 80's so she thought nothing of the almost 18 year age difference. Someone the same age whose parents are young would probably consider me off limits. I also dated a 62 year old who looked probably 15 years younger. The age difference didn't bother me, but the fact that I have a minor child at home nixed it.

JoseMadre

Joined: 1/9/2012

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Pictureless profiles Posted: 8/31/2012 7:39:56 PM
I'm male and I get a decent number of responses without a public picture up. I have hidden pictures because I didn't like many of the contacts I was getting from Meet Me.

JoseMadre

Joined: 1/9/2012

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Giving her my number discreetly? Posted: 8/30/2012 9:13:12 AM
Why is Friday your last chance? Anyway, since you are too shy to ask her for hers or give her yours directly give her a little greeting card (thank you, not too out there flirty, whatever) and sign it with your name and number. But don't be too surprised if she doesn't respond. You might be misreading it. A good server will be very friendly because it maximizes tips.

josemadre

Joined: 1/9/2012

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does online dating foster grass is always greener mentality? Posted: 8/28/2012 3:40:29 PM
Some people think they NEED a new car every year or two. Some will drive a car without changing the oil or doing basic maintenance till it falls apart. Others will drive a car, take care of the maintenance, and keep repairing it till it dies completely. Now apply this to relationships, but be aware that there is not a necessary one-to-one translation. My dad needed a new car every year, but was married to my mom for 40 years till she passed. Some people are always looking for a new partner. Some take advantage of a person till the person gets fed up. And some nurture and care for the other person and it lasts a lifetime.

josemadre

Joined: 1/9/2012

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What kind of response rates are other guys seeing here? Posted: 8/28/2012 3:21:22 PM
About 80%. Of course I actually read the entire profile carefully before writing and I don't carpet bomb with a generic letter. I probably write one letter for every 20 profiles I read. The rest are mostly fine, just obviously not a match and I don't want to waste my time or hers.

josemadre

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Why wont a mother see there child? Posted: 8/28/2012 12:40:47 PM
I resurrected this thread because my friend is dealing with this situation. Mom was with the little one every day for the first six years, then one day decided to move out and party. At first she would go by two or three times per month, but now has not come by for almost a year. Sometimes people make their own pleasure the most important pursuit in life and do not care whom they hurt. Sometimes it is neurological. Sometimes it's drugs.

josemadre

Joined: 1/9/2012

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At what age do you Just Give Up? Posted: 8/28/2012 12:21:46 PM
When I take my last breath. And I have standards: 1. She has to be unmarried. 2. She has to make me a priority. and by far the most difficult 3. She has to accept being the mother figure to my munchkin.

josemadre

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3 Strikes - out. No more widowers ! Posted: 8/28/2012 10:28:58 AM
Are they really over the loss? Will they ever be over the loss? You never get over that type of loss. You do learn to live with it. That doesn't make the person incapable of loving another. Just make sure the person isn't still trying to grasp a shadow. Would I just be replacing someone they wish they were still with? This could be asked about almost any relationship. A person could be grieving over a divorce or a breakup from a LTR that he or she did not want and be just as guilty. Who over 40 hasn't been in a rebound relationship? The biggest danger with us widows and widowers is that some might tend to idealize the lost spouse. No living person can compete with a memory that has been stripped of all faults.

josemadre

Joined: 1/9/2012

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Do opposites attract or not? Posted: 8/27/2012 8:29:06 PM
I will echo what others have said. Yes opposites attract, but there have to be some similarities.

josemadre

Joined: 1/9/2012

Msg: 107 (view)

Date a Blunt Woman? Posted: 8/27/2012 12:59:56 PM
I much prefer blunt to the type that wants me to guess everything. I'm male. we are not that intuitive. Blunt is good.

josemadre

Joined: 1/9/2012

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What is a demanding woman? Posted: 8/27/2012 12:46:06 PM
To me a demanding women is one who would want to control my life much as a prison warden does inmates.

josemadre

Joined: 1/9/2012

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When Do You Tell Them Your Real Name Posted: 8/27/2012 12:41:14 PM
At the end of the first date, if all went well and we are planning another.

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