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Just 4 You

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Victoria - Your worst dating nightmare event - THIS Saturday! Oct 17 7:30 pm Posted: 10/15/2009 10:45:20 PM
Trounce Alley is located in between Yates and View St. It runs from Broad down to Government. Easy to find... Go where the old A+B Sound used to be on Yates, then turn onto Broad St. There's a few good places to hang out on Broad St like Serious Coffee which has a big sitting area, unlike Starbucks which only has a few seats. Sorry I can't come. But been on the tour before, but trust me... it's worth it!

Just 4 You

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Events in Victoria? Posted: 7/9/2009 6:55:52 PM
Here's another way to find out what's happening in town... Go on the internet and do a search for "Events BC". It should take you to a site called EventsBC.com. Select a city and a time frame (ex. June 1st - Sept 30th). Then you'll get a color coded calendar showing what's going on in town. I think Red items are Art Shows, Blue are sports events like Boat Shows, etc. Much better than seeing it on the news, showing what you missed!

Just 4 You

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Any events planned for Victoria this summer? Posted: 7/9/2009 6:49:03 PM
Go on the internet and do a search for Events BC. Then select a city and a time frame (ex. June 1st - Sept 30th) You'll get a color coded schedule of what's going on in town. Much better than seeing it on the news, showing what you missed!

Just 4 You

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Any events planned for Victoria this summer? Posted: 7/9/2009 6:44:20 PM
Here's a website showing what's happening in Victoria this summer. It shows everything from Art Shows + Entertainers, to Community Events. http://www.tourismvictoria.com/EventCalendar.aspx#Results

Just 4 You

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relationships and being widowed Posted: 6/5/2009 2:35:28 PM
I tried dating a woman who lost both her Husband and her Dad in a boating accident 1 + 1/2 years ago where they figured men don't have to wear lifejackets (boys will be boys) and were having such a good time on auto-pilot that they didn't watch where they were going. They hit a floating log, the boat sank, and they were later found by someone else. It's been a year and a half since the loss, but her place is filled with Pictures of their wedding, their daughter's wedding, etc. making it hard to be seen for who I am. Rather she wants us to go camping to a place she and her husband always went. I told her I'd had enough.

Just 4 You

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What Do You Look For In a New Partner? Posted: 6/5/2009 2:16:34 PM
I look for someone with an open heart and non-judgmental towards the less fortunate. Particularly people with disabilities who are trying to be accepted, but most people just turn away or warn others there's a wheelchair coming. I also hate watching violent sports like Football, Rugby, and Hockey where people get hurt and the audience seems to love it. Not my idea of entertainment! I'd rather go play a round of golf with someone, helping each other out along the way, then hang out for a drink afterwards. It's the personality that I look for. Not their equipment as you guys call it.

Just 4 You

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Friendship First Posted: 6/5/2009 2:05:52 PM
In my opinion a friendship is where you meet up to talk, hang out somewhere, get to know each other, and forget about sex! If chemistry is there, just getting out and doing things together is more enjoyable than messing up someone's bed!

Just 4 You

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Dating someone slightly developmentally disabled Posted: 4/6/2009 6:05:16 AM
Back when I was 42, I dated a 40 year old woman with a very slight mental disability that I met through the Special Olympics. I have Epilepsy and we saw each other as equals. We know we each have limitations, but we enjoyed going out together. Many times, we'd be sitting in a coffee shop and she'd complain there's no love seats, so she'd come sit on my lap instead. In the Swimming Pool, she started making the moves onto me, feeling my body then the front of my swimsuit, then putting my hands on hers where she wanted to be touched. Eventually it lead to the bedroom at my place. When her parents found out, they called the Police. The Legal System claimed that she was tested and the results gave her a Grade 8 Intelligence Level, giving her the mind of a 13 year old, and children can't give consent. Therefore I'm guilty for having sex with a minor (even though she's 40). But due to my disability giving me a Grade 10 intelligence level (Age 15), I was also declaired under age, so no charges. Instead I got sent to a 12 week Sex Offenders Program to learn why it's wrong for people with disabilities to have sex. Doesn't matter how unfair you think it sounds. In Canada, it's illegal (if you get caught)!

Just 4 You

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State-funded sex for the disabled Posted: 4/6/2009 4:57:10 AM
CrashingChloe... You said "We here in Canada have been working hard for many years to ensure individuals with disabilities are treated with respect and dignity." If that's true, then where are all the people with disabilities who have jobs? Go into any large shopping mall and see if you can find ONE store with a person in a wheelchair who WORKS there! I have Epilepsy and after being diagnosed, I was classed Unemployable for Public Safety. Our government explained it to me.... "The safety of thousands is more important than the satisfaction of just one." I was also sexually "fixed" as a teen, for the system decided people with disabilities are incapable of raising a child. There's a lady in Nanaimo BC who had her kids taken away from her, as a result of an accident which paralyzed her. She's been fighting to get her kids back, but the system says that when the kids turn legal age, they can decide for themselves whether or not to return to their true mother or just get on with life. How is this treating us with respect and dignity???

Just 4 You

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Anyone here have epilepsy & single??? Posted: 4/6/2009 1:58:28 AM
I was diagnosed with Epilepsy in the 70's when I was in Grade 5 and got removed from the Public School System for the safety of the other kids. In my teens I got classed Unemployable for Public Safety and sexually fixed so I can't have kids. Since I was under legal age, they didn't need my consent. Just a signature from my parents to let the doctors do whatever they feel is necessary. When I turned legal age, I got put in a Home for the Handicapped where I was kept out of society's way all through the 80's and 90's until age 41 (2003) when I'd had Brain Surgery done to control the seizures. During an MRI, they did something that made me have a seizure, and saw where it was coming from, then removed it. It's like taking the spark plug out of a lawn mower so it never starts again. I'm 46 now and still trying to get a life, but women expect men in their 40's to have great jobs, a nice car, and loads of money to take them on vacations. As I have none of that, I'm a joke to many women on POF. I'll ask someone out and hear "You're kidding, right?" then they go tell their friends and they all have a good laugh. Like who in their right mind would date a guy like me? When the movie "The 40 Year Old Virgin" hit the theatres, I didn't think it was funny as I'm 46 and still a virgin. Anybody who says "Money doesn't buy Love", doesn't know what it's like when you can't afford to take someone out for dinner, and you get judged on that.

Just 4 You

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Victoria - frosty city? Posted: 4/6/2009 1:19:11 AM
Here in Victoria, you can go throw a frisbee with friends in a neighborhood park, but in Vancouver... anything that resembles a park is probably private property or the future location of more condos.

Just 4 You

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Need some tips about how to make friends on POF Posted: 4/6/2009 1:03:00 AM
Find a sport you'd love to try, and invite people to join you! Ex Skiing at Mt Washington, but you haven't gone for a long time. Chances are, you'll find others who want to try, but don't want to go alone. And who knows, it might turn into a regular thing? Ex. That was Cool! Want to try it again next weekend?

Just 4 You

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Idea: Bridge from Vancouver to Victoria Posted: 4/6/2009 12:53:36 AM
I'd like to see a Bridge over the Saanich Inlet going from North Saanich over to Mill Bay/Arbutus Ridge area. That would reduce the Ferry traffic from having to come down the Pat Bay Highway and back up the accident prone Malahat. Saltspring doesn't want to be connected by a bridge as it would decrease the tranquility. There's no McDonalds, Tim Hortons, Best Western Hotels, or anything commercial over there, but a bridge would allow big company trucks to come over and purchase land for another Walmart!

Just 4 You

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MARCH 21, 2009 VICTORIA POF DANCING WITH FLATLINE 7:00PM AT TUDOR HOUSE PUB Posted: 3/11/2009 2:31:44 AM
Last time I went, I saw POF signs all around the dance floor and on tables beyond that. Must have had a lot of people sign up, as it looked like the whole place was reserved for just us! Hopefully some others managed to squeeze in!

Just 4 You

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FEBRUARY 28, 2009 VICTORIA POF DANCING WITH SHORTY PARKER BAND 7:00PM AT TUDOR HOUSE PUB Posted: 2/26/2009 11:23:48 PM
Tell you what... I'll dance with him and you can call us the Spice Boys! LOL ... JUST KIDDING!!!!

Just 4 You

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FEBRUARY 28, 2009 VICTORIA POF DANCING WITH SHORTY PARKER BAND 7:00PM AT TUDOR HOUSE PUB Posted: 2/17/2009 12:30:49 PM
Hey guys! Please don't laugh when I try dancing! Angelwings talked me into it! LOL (Just Kidding Angel!)

Just 4 You

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Friends with Benefits..good or bad Posted: 1/27/2009 12:07:33 AM
I say BAD. They don't really care about being friends. They just want Sex!

Just 4 You

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Anyone a cyclist on here? Posted: 1/26/2009 11:38:40 PM
I got battery powered White and Red Christmas Lights and put them on my bike wheels! Used Zap Straps to lock the bulbs to the spokes, and the battery pack to the axle. Now when I go riding in downtown Victoria, it sure turns a lot of heads especially from tourists, and other bikers keep asking where I got them!

Just 4 You

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Birth Orders - Oldest, Youngest or Middle Child? Posted: 1/26/2009 11:27:12 PM
I'm the middle child, which as you said it the most vocal, dramatic and troubled. My older brother's girlfriend thought my younger brother was so cute, so the two always hung out together. When my Older brother got Married, my Younger brother was his Best Man, and vice versa when my Younger brother got married, while I was told to just stay out of the way. As for me and relationships.... I'm on POF looking and hoping.

Just 4 You

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Are there some things just to dangerous when you have children? Posted: 1/26/2009 11:14:12 PM
When they learn Practical Jokes for April Fools Day (Buttered toilet seat, Nair in shampoo, Contact cement in your KY Jelly)

Just 4 You

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Finding Love Through Deception Posted: 1/26/2009 10:59:52 PM
I know a few people with Disabilities who don't mention it intheir profile. Is that wrong? Should people be judged on their illness rather their personality?

Just 4 You

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Why Women Are Crabby......Hehehehe Posted: 1/26/2009 9:02:08 PM
When a Man says FINE, everything's fine. When a woman says FINE, it's NOT, and it's HIS job to figure out how to fix it!

Just 4 You

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What do YOU want to do for Christmas? Posted: 12/30/2008 12:12:17 AM
Singing: "Oh the Weather outside is whitening, til my Dog did something frightening... He's got no other place to go... Yellow Snow,Yellow Snow, Yellow Snow! And he doesn't show signs of stopping, While he sniffs around his droppings... You'll see them everywhere you go... Yellow Snow, Yellow Snow, Yellow Snow! When he finally goes outside. He'll be frolicking round in the storm. He'll be marking our yard with Pride. You can tell by the steam that it's warm! When the Snow begins it's thawing, It reveals those Puppy Drawings... He's a frisky little Pooch Van Goghe... Yellow Snow, Yellow Snow, Yellow Snow!"

Just 4 You

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It's Only Money Posted: 12/29/2008 11:07:38 PM
When looking for the right guy, what's more important... money or personality? Many women have said complimented me, saying I'm so sweet and caring, and that if they weren't already married, they'd gladly go out with me! But too many women who are looking, focus on how much he makes, otherwise you're not worth their time!

Just 4 You

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What do YOU want to do for Christmas? Posted: 12/29/2008 10:47:02 PM
Sing to the Public: "The Restroom Door said Gentlemen, it must have been a Gag... As soon as I walked in there I ran into some old Hag... She sprayed me with a can of Mace, then whacked me with her bag... I could tell this just couldn't be my day, What can I say... It just wasn't turning out to be my day." "The Restroom Door said Gentlemen, and I would like to find... The crummy little creep who had the nerve to switch the signs... Cuz I've got two Black Eyes and one High Heel up my Behind... Now I CAN'T sit with Comfort and Joy, Boy oh Boy!!!... No I'll NEVER sit with Comfort and Joy!"

Just 4 You

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How long must you abstain before having sex with another? Posted: 11/24/2008 6:10:13 PM
Until she proves she's able to give consent! There's a 40 year old lady in my building who has a disability and wants a boyfriend, but everytime she meets one, her parents call the police. In school, she only getting up to a Grade 9 level in Math. Since Grade 9 students are about age 14, she "legally" has the mind of a child. Her last boyfriend was a friend of mine, who now has to attend a Sex Offender Program, learning that children cannot give consent.

Just 4 You

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Pay more attention to profiles without photos? Posted: 11/14/2008 6:29:39 AM
What's wrong with going on a Blind Date? Meeting for the first time is part of the enjoyment! Unless of course, you somehow "forgot" to tell him/her that you're in a wheelchair.

Just 4 You

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Favorites List????? Posted: 11/14/2008 6:19:15 AM
Compare: If there's lots of numbers in your cell phone, does that mean you're a player? I have a few people in my Fav. list that I chat with on Forums over similar issues. It doesn't mean I'm dating them!

Just 4 You

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Multiple dates.....do you tell the other dates? Posted: 11/14/2008 6:06:24 AM
You tell me... would you like it if a guy said you remind him of the woman he was with last week? Keep your past to yourself, taking it as a learning experience. When you find the right partner, let the past be the past, and move on! I know it's hard for women NOT to share gossip about the guys they've been with, but some guys don't like being compared.

Just 4 You

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Halloween Costumes Posted: 10/28/2008 8:44:31 AM
My costume is a box of Corn Flakes with a spike stuck through it... A Cereal Killer!!!

Just 4 You

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oral sex and swallowing cum and why they wont do it Posted: 10/27/2008 12:41:41 AM
Tell you what... next time you're jerking off, grab a handful of cum and YOU eat it! What's the matter? Sound disgusting? What do you think Women think???

Just 4 You

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Shyness holding people back! Posted: 10/20/2008 4:39:12 PM
Held me back too, until I got into singing! First time on stage was a challenge, but the pride got me through it! I have Epilepsy and a photo of my group got used in a Magazine recently, asking if anyone could tell which one has a Disability. If you can't, then why treat us like we can't do anything?

Just 4 You

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Should a disability be in a persons profile? Posted: 10/20/2008 4:06:26 PM
That would be helpful to people seeking someone who can relate. Someone who's going in for an operation and wants to talk to others who've had it done. Doctors may say they've done it to many people, but they can't give names and let you talk to any of them, as that's confidential. But of course they'll tell you to look on the bright side... if your doctor has 10 patients with the same condition as you, then multiply ten by the number of doctors in the phone book and there's thousands of people out there! So they think it should be easy for you to find someone! They just can't tell you.

Just 4 You

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How do you get people past the disability? Posted: 10/20/2008 3:53:14 PM
There'll always be people who warn others there's a wheelchair coming. But then there's people like me who see you as a person. Of course, that got me in trouble recently for dating someone with a disability, and it went to court. Now I have to take a program to understand why people with disabilities are incapable of being anything more than friends. No wonder its so hard to find friends when that's how Society, and even the Legal System thinks.

Just 4 You

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Over 45...Is it ok to ask a guy out?? Posted: 10/20/2008 3:39:22 PM
The guy next door could be the right one for you, but would you dare ask him, or wait for him to ask you? Too many women suffer in silence, sitting at home waiting for a guy with psychic powers to know which building to go to, and which door to knock on. Dream on Ladies! Sleeping Beauty and Cinderella were just Fairy Tales!

Just 4 You

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Worst fashion error of your life. Posted: 10/14/2008 10:28:52 AM
Worst was my Mom buying Hair Clippers resulting in Crew Cuts for my Dad and 2 Brothers. Of course, she wouldn't let my Dad use them on her! Do you blame her?

Just 4 You

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Can Disabled guys date non disabled girls Posted: 9/17/2008 7:28:11 AM
Glenmorangie, If people with disabilities are not defined by them, then why do so many people in the world call us "The Handicapped"? Or just look at the Title of this Forum, calling us Disabled guys, rather than MEN with a disability. When I go downtown, I hear a lot of people warning everyone "Look out! There's a Wheelchair Coming!" Excuse me? There's a person in that wheelchair! Grrr!!!

Just 4 You

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Can Disabled guys date non disabled girls Posted: 9/17/2008 7:18:39 AM
Greg.... Here's how I read your statement.... You don't think a disabled man can't have a relationship with an able bodied woman, as long as he wasn't disabled in the beginning, or she would have found someone better.

Just 4 You

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Can Disabled guys date non disabled girls Posted: 9/17/2008 7:15:40 AM
I'm disabled and I find that when women find out I can't drive but use the bus instead, it's an immediate turn-off. All through school, I tried to find a girlfriend, and every woman I asked out, just laughed at the idea, saying things like "You're Kidding, Right?" only to go tell their friends and have a good laugh. Amazing how it's not a problem the other way round, where guys are willing to date women with disabilities. But women without disabilities seem to be looking for their Knight in Shining Armour with a nice car, great job, new house, and able to buy her anything she wants. And yet people say Money doesn't buy Love? Just 4 You Victoria, BC

Just 4 You

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Learning How To Be Single ... Posted: 8/27/2008 1:59:25 AM
Think Positive! The Bedroom Closet is All Yours!!! Nobody opens your mail! No need to call and say you won't be home for dinner! If you win a trip for two, YOU get to choose who to take! You can date someone new, and it's not cheating! You have the final say on what movie to go see! All messages on the telephone answering machine are for You! No Crazy In-Laws to deal with! You can go on a vacation where You want to go! Taken from a book called "The Joy of NOT Being Married"

Just 4 You

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Over 40 and no children? Posted: 8/27/2008 1:55:17 AM
Let your brother or sister have the kids and you're the great Uncle or Aunt spoiling them rotten, loading them with sweets and then sending them home hyperactive!

Just 4 You

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Is it okay to date many men or does that make me promiscuous? Posted: 8/27/2008 1:44:10 AM
If you're okay being on the Maury Show looking for the real Dad! John, you are NOT the father! Patrick, you are NOT the father! Richard, you are NOT the father!

Just 4 You

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Who Still Likes to Play Like a Kid? Posted: 8/27/2008 1:34:50 AM
I have to admit... You're only as old as you Act, and I NEVER Act my Age!

Just 4 You

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Hot Tub and the First Date - would you? Posted: 8/27/2008 1:31:24 AM
I'd rather we go to a Public Pool together and enjoy each other's company as we re-live our youth and go for the water-slide! Then go sit in the Hot Tub with others and meet some new friends. Or isn't that what you meant when you said Hot Tub???

Just 4 You

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What give a person a right to call after they ended the relationship? Posted: 7/20/2008 2:25:11 AM
Careful...might want to give back stuff like the shampoo you left at their place, but loaded with Liquid Hair Remover! Something to remember them by!

Just 4 You

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GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage? Posted: 7/12/2008 1:14:40 AM
Nowhere in the Bible does it say "No Sex Before Marriage", yet we teach it to our kids. It does say "Thou shalt not commit adultery" which means you can't have sex with someone who is already married to someone else. But if you're single and your partner is single... go for it!!! I know a few kids in my church who asked their parents if they waited til after they were married. Many admitted they didn't and don't want their kids to make the same mistake! Bad choice of words though, as kids then think their birth was a mistake.

Just 4 You

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Why am I jealous? Posted: 7/11/2008 10:42:22 PM
Here's how women think.... If you're seeing another woman, it's down-right cheating!!! But if you catch her with another guy, she'll say it's nothing serious, and is probably telling him the same thing about you!

Just 4 You

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Women,would you ever date and have a relationship with a virgin? Posted: 7/11/2008 12:48:02 PM
Excuse me ladies, but wasn't it You that said a Real guy would wait until After marriage?

Just 4 You

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What makes guys jealous? Posted: 7/11/2008 12:35:08 PM
Women get to use other Dating Sites for free... but Men have to pay $25 a month.

Just 4 You

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GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage? Posted: 7/11/2008 11:57:42 AM
GALS!!! If you find the right Shoes, could you wait til you Paid for them before trying them on? Of course not!!! You have to see how they feel, right? It's the same thing with guys and sex, to make sure she's the right one! Look at the movie "Sex and the City" where the women are doing it with lots of guys, looking for Mr Right. If it's okay for women, why should it not be allowed for men? Oh... I see... It's a woman-thing, right?

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