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Elegabalus

Joined: 3/2/2007

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Need guys helps. He wants to wait. Posted: 8/30/2009 5:31:09 PM
Wow... the only result I can come up with is that he is confused about which team to play for. Either that or something shadier is happening. You may need to get this story from the horse's mouth!

Elegabalus

Joined: 3/2/2007

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Tell me Do Men in general really care if a woman..... Posted: 8/8/2009 9:32:06 AM
The first response pretty much covers it. I might not notice if you have a quarter of an inch snipped off but if you let your hair go ragged and start developing dreds I might notice.

Elegabalus

Joined: 3/2/2007

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When he politely truns you down. Posted: 8/6/2009 3:55:01 PM
I can only guess but I would not think he is trying to keep his options open. Most likely he considered that door closed when he sent the message about being friends. Some disappear without follow up for the same reasons some women do.

Elegabalus

Joined: 3/2/2007

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is it easier for guys to get into relationships? Posted: 8/3/2009 5:09:52 PM
Women can pick and choose who the talk to as well. In fact, women have even been known to approach! I also do not agree that guys are less picky than girls. Most men do not have a "placeholder" attitude toward women.

Elegabalus

Joined: 3/2/2007

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Why do some guys write in text speak?? Posted: 8/3/2009 5:01:59 PM
Yes, it has been said but both sexes do it. Did anyone ever see Californication? It has the best quote ever: [People] seem to be getting dumber and dumber. I mean we have all this amazing technology and yet computers have turned into basically four figure wank machines. The Internet was supposed to set us free, democratize us, but all it’s really given us is Howard Dean’s aborted candidacy and 24-hour a day access to kiddie porn, you know. And people don’t write anymore, they blog; instead of talking, they text; no punctuation, no grammar. LOL this and LMFAO that. You know it just seems to me that it’s just a bunch of stupid people psuedo-communicating with a bunch of other stupid people in a proto-language that resembles more what cavemen used to speak than the king’s English.

Elegabalus

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Merkin Posted: 8/3/2009 9:39:23 AM
google image search for merkin is hilarious Donkey punch is rude but I get a kick out of the bronco!

Elegabalus

Joined: 3/2/2007

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SUP: Stand Up Paddleboarding Posted: 8/3/2009 9:29:33 AM
I tried this for the first time on Friday and it was awesome! I fell off the thing at least a half a dozen times before I could go anywhere but soon I was cruising all over the lake. It's a good workout as well because the balance game keeps your muscles engaged.

Elegabalus

Joined: 3/2/2007

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Losing weight - has anyone tryed weight tablets? Posted: 8/3/2009 9:25:22 AM
I believe weight loss has to be about sustainability. Taking a pill to lose weight equates to taking pills to get a larger bust line or penis in my opinion. It is better to concentrate on a regimented system of healthy eating and exercise. I lost a lot of weight using Weight Watchers and exercise (mostly walking). With their program you can lose weight and keep it off. I tailored it a bit to suit me and it was great. A lot of times pills can cause unhealthy side effects like messing with the heart rate. It can have long lasting or permanent effects (and I don't mean a smaller waist line).

Elegabalus

Joined: 3/2/2007

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Your thoughts... Posted: 7/29/2009 7:29:03 PM
This is a very common question. Yes, some of us do get to know someone before sleeping with her. We are biologically driven to do the opposite but some of us have the ability to overpower the ID.

Elegabalus

Joined: 3/2/2007

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okay guys, here is another one Posted: 7/29/2009 7:26:27 PM
no guilt needed!

Elegabalus

Joined: 3/2/2007

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Who's melting? Posted: 7/29/2009 7:23:02 PM
I'm sitting on the sixth floor of an apartment building without air conditioning. I feel like I'm wrapped in a heavy blanket. I have been charging my laptop and running to the air conditioned office area all day. An hour home, an hour or so there, an hour home, etc.

Elegabalus

Joined: 3/2/2007

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HOW CAN YOU DIFFERENCIATE? Posted: 7/29/2009 9:05:27 AM
The ones you have spoken with may actually want more than sex (I see that "all they're looking for is sex" thing a lot around here). Men are biologically sexually driven. They should reserve some common sense and willpower but men are driven and expected to move in that direction. Men do not get the same feeling of connection from conversation that women do (according to material I have read), however, they do get that same feeling from physical connection. You are the best judge of a person's compatibility. I would not feel disheartened but just move on to someone who has better control of their baser instincts.

Elegabalus

Joined: 3/2/2007

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Women Peeing In The Men's Room Posted: 7/29/2009 8:56:37 AM
I like to go into the ladies room, enter every stall and leave every seat up.

Elegabalus

Joined: 3/2/2007

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Alcohol and sex Posted: 7/29/2009 8:51:26 AM
You say "a drink or two". I would consider that "just taking the edge off" but then again I suppose I don't NEED it. Alcohol is a depressant, not a stimulant so I wouldn't ever expect it to assist in much other than lowering inhibitions and standards.

Elegabalus

Joined: 3/2/2007

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Self-Conscious about Lips down there~ Posted: 7/29/2009 8:44:18 AM
I don't understand issues with the vagina. They contain beauty in uniqueness.

Elegabalus

Joined: 3/2/2007

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first date sex Posted: 7/28/2009 4:04:59 PM
OP I like your attitude. There are a lot of "rules" people stick to (male and female). Sometimes these "rules" are labeled "games" and sometimes "respect". It kind of takes the adventure away but sometimes may be necessary for self preservation... I suppose.

Elegabalus

Joined: 3/2/2007

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Walking, Long walks Posted: 7/28/2009 3:56:32 PM
I walk for an hour or two per day at a pace of 3.5 - 4 miles per hour. When it's nasty outside I go to the gym and hit the treadmill... it's boring but it gets the job done.

Elegabalus

Joined: 3/2/2007

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Big and Beautiful Posted: 7/28/2009 3:54:59 PM
Even though I'm not a fan of BMI it is the most effective tool for determining weight that I know of. I don't believe "big" is an arbitrary label that we place on people based on the status quo but a label based on what is a healthy weight range for any given person. If you fall in above that level you are big.

Elegabalus

Joined: 3/2/2007

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Some advice please! Posted: 7/28/2009 3:52:54 PM
I would suggest avoiding restricting your diet too much. You want to restrict it by little bits to bring your weight down slowly (1-2 pounds a week). The theory is that if you restrict it too much your body will store fat because it believes you are starving (this is what I have heard. Make sure you drink plenty of water, get a couple servings of dairy and 5 fruit and veggie servings. You could also try eating more frequently but smaller portions. I've heard some people claim success with that.

Elegabalus

Joined: 3/2/2007

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men using any excuse when they start to like you Posted: 7/28/2009 10:26:14 AM
Some clarification: So, he said he couldn't get mixed up with a baby and all the family stuff meaning he didn't want to be mixed up with your family/kids and his ex's baby (was it his?). You thought that was an ending to the relationship but then he called again. I would think that he's into you but not so much so that he wants to deal with the potential drama of AA meetings and a gay son (assuming he's a homophobe) along with the drama that comes with his ex. However, he's not so solidly against being with you that he couldn't treat you like a friend with benefits.

Elegabalus

Joined: 3/2/2007

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what up with the games Posted: 7/28/2009 10:11:23 AM
"playing games" seems to be one of those cliche terms that will not die. My guess would be any of the following: a) he's keeping you simmering on the back burner. b) something or someone is getting in the way of his action. c) (as someone mentioned) he could be gay and "likes" you as a friend. d) all of the above (he's one confused SOB)

Elegabalus

Joined: 3/2/2007

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How do guys show they really care about a woman? Posted: 7/28/2009 10:05:50 AM
I think it was Cher who said: If you wanna know If he loves you so Its in his kiss! That aside, men tend to be more physical and let actions speak louder than words.

Elegabalus

Joined: 3/2/2007

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What Does This Mean? Posted: 7/28/2009 10:01:22 AM
I agree... he likes you immensely, as a friend.

Elegabalus

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What is the best food or drink for your sex drive? Posted: 7/28/2009 9:49:05 AM
rumor has it that protein rich foods boost levels of testosterone which then creates a greater dive. I don't think you want to start stocking up at the butcher though... what's with the emoticons? My niece does the same thing but she's eleven.

Elegabalus

Joined: 3/2/2007

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Your personal opinion Posted: 7/24/2009 3:12:19 PM
Personality is very important for long term concerns, physical for more immediate concerns. To answer the first question: Physical Attraction + Great Personality = Love Potential.

Elegabalus

Joined: 3/2/2007

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women's pictures in men's profile. Posted: 7/24/2009 12:06:39 AM
I can see where you are coming from, original poster, but it happens both ways. Making assumptions at the "browsing" stage is a little premature. Have a little faith.

Elegabalus

Joined: 3/2/2007

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Is a woman's relationship with her father a significant factor Posted: 7/23/2009 5:40:07 PM
Useful information could come from such a discussion but it wouldn't be a yay or ney card.

Elegabalus

Joined: 3/2/2007

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Where Are The Good Guys?? Posted: 7/23/2009 4:36:19 PM
wow... I thought this was going to be a thread devoted to making fun of all the women that come in here to say "where are the good guys?"

Elegabalus

Joined: 3/2/2007

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do guys like it when...... Posted: 7/23/2009 4:28:44 PM
I've found height to be more of a concern of females but I suppose we, as a species go for the taller man, shorter woman paradigm. Personally, I wouldn't mind... heels do wonderful things.

Elegabalus

Joined: 3/2/2007

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what does it mean really for a guy to try to have sex with you on the first date? Posted: 7/22/2009 6:14:02 PM
shit happens... good shit, bad shit, it still happens. I wouldn't consider someone who "puts out" on a first date a slut. Laugh about it when you're catching your next good buzz!

Elegabalus

Joined: 3/2/2007

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surprise inside... Posted: 7/22/2009 8:45:25 AM
I don't know if I could stare at that so at least one position is out!

Elegabalus

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Definition of Dating? Posted: 7/22/2009 8:44:21 AM
that's the definition of dating isn't it? I assume dating is just that. Eventually it may or may not move elsewhere. I once read that you should put your ultimate goal in that section but who knows?

Elegabalus

Joined: 3/2/2007

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a Weird ending to a drum and bass night Posted: 7/21/2009 12:56:15 PM
I feel like a Mongolian. The wall has been built but there's no way I am going to attack it or check to see what it is made of! Seriously, this is "ask a guy" and we're simplistic beings. Posts like this make us think of Kathy Griffin going off on a rant.

Elegabalus

Joined: 3/2/2007

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Are people to judgemental of other's? Posted: 7/21/2009 11:21:25 AM
Sometimes these shallow judgments lead to less shallow clues about another person. For example: don't make enough money - the person might have no ambition and enjoy the smell of his or her mother's basement. too fat - does this person take care of himself or herself? I enjoy hiking and going for long walks (and I mean long). When it's on a smaller scale then, yes, the shallowness may be excluding some great potential matches. For example: My sister married a guy who was a "copy boy" (obviously not rich) but is now pulling in six figures.

Elegabalus

Joined: 3/2/2007

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Men help me with Fellatio?? tips??? Posted: 7/21/2009 11:15:54 AM
Probably the best advice I have seen comes from God is a Woman by Ian Coburn. Page 159 reads: How important is the blowjob to a guy? Very. next to sex, it is the biggest thrill a woman can give a man. It not only feels great but it creates an instant feeling of gratitude toward the woman. Guys feel a stronger emotional connection to women who give us head than to women who don't. We know many women don't like to give head. We appreciate them doing it and that appreciation takes the form of emotion. The emotion is augmented when a woman lets us ejaculate onto her breasts. It is augmented even more when she swallows. (It's a comedy book). Page 160 reads: Don't go to town right away... Make a guy cry out for it. It's a lot less work and yet far more satisfying for the guy. I have heard other tips including teasing with the hair, etc which to me goes farther than the "golf ball through a rubber hose" method. By the way, the book I reference is hilarious. I have become addicted to books like this (I'm currently reading Live Nude Elf by Reverend Jen).

Elegabalus

Joined: 3/2/2007

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Quick Question Posted: 7/20/2009 12:36:22 PM
Exit only! Male submission seems to be getting more popular. The same can be said for guys who get other guys to have sex with their wife or girlfriend. It seems very odd to me

Elegabalus

Joined: 3/2/2007

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Whats an instant turn on for you Posted: 7/19/2009 3:07:55 PM
turn on: something fun, random, or adventurous. turn off: something mundane, repetitive, or naggy this applies to actions as well as words. As to "almost perfect" or "all over" maybe not so much. Few single things can be said or done to make one perfect or get the boot.

Elegabalus

Joined: 3/2/2007

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how to prevent getting hard in bed with a woman? Posted: 7/19/2009 8:38:13 AM
roll with it. She should be happy to inspire such a reaction.

Elegabalus

Joined: 3/2/2007

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Going down on her Posted: 7/18/2009 7:39:11 PM
Work your way down, don't pull on the diving hat and jump. By the time you hit the navel you will know if it's a welcome move or not.

Elegabalus

Joined: 3/2/2007

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What's girls thoughts on a single 30-year-old male virgin? Posted: 7/18/2009 7:05:20 PM
Chances are... she'll know fairly quickly.

Elegabalus

Joined: 3/2/2007

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Male orgasm issues Posted: 7/18/2009 3:36:09 PM
It's likely more mental than physical (I know... that's not saying much but it's true).

Elegabalus

Joined: 3/2/2007

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role play Posted: 7/18/2009 3:33:35 PM
Temporary tattoos, wash out dyes, etc. Check out pictures online or find out some good examples of what he likes and replicate it for the lucky **stard

Elegabalus

Joined: 3/2/2007

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If they call us women Cougars, what do they call the Men? Posted: 7/18/2009 3:31:43 PM
huh... I thought the term was "pigs"... or is that a general fallback term for any guy?

Elegabalus

Joined: 3/2/2007

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Teased for liking bbw's Posted: 7/18/2009 3:30:05 PM
Don't assume other men's desires are driven by social pressure. I like what I like because I like it. As far as BBW is concerned, the term is often used by women who want to lose weight but cannot (close family members included) who are putting confident foot forward. That's fine, but don't then turn it around on people who are of "normal" weight to assume they are slaves to the media.

Elegabalus

Joined: 3/2/2007

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Wich is better? Classey or sexy? Posted: 7/18/2009 3:25:01 PM
Both. There's nothing wrong with changing up the seasoning!

Elegabalus

Joined: 3/2/2007

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Would you date a girl who lived non romantically with male friend? Posted: 7/18/2009 3:22:21 PM
I think it'd only be a problem with insecure types. It helps if the roomate is a gay dude but I don't see it being too harmful on your chances.

Elegabalus

Joined: 3/2/2007

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Is it possible for a drinker to date a non drinker! Posted: 7/18/2009 3:19:47 PM
Assuming you don't mind the gent getting tipsy from time to time and it wouldn't change from "I don't mind" to "I'm going to call you an alcoholic because I'm tired of you drinking when I don't" I think it can work just fine. Everyone needs a designated driver!

Elegabalus

Joined: 3/2/2007

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Tramp Stamps are passe Posted: 7/18/2009 9:36:16 AM
I've seen attractive "tramp stamps" on women who seemed to be intelligent and interesting. The location of the tattoo doesn't make the woman. The tattoo itself might.

Elegabalus

Joined: 3/2/2007

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Are you ever upset with your gf but say nothing ? Posted: 7/18/2009 9:31:30 AM
Usually when a guy says nothing it means NOTHING. We can actually think about nothing. We can be blank faced and not be fighting a huge internal battle. There's a chance that the guy could be going over something in his mind but if he said nothing was wrong you have to assume it's true. Harassing him about it will only result in him really being upset with you.

Elegabalus

Joined: 3/2/2007

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Baby pictures.. Posted: 7/17/2009 11:14:01 PM
Odd forum for this

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