I need advice chat & forums.

Posted In Forum:

Home

MyForums

Show ALL Forums

Author

Thread: I need advice

helinda

Joined: 3/3/2007

Msg: 3 (view)

I need advice Posted: 10/2/2008 2:59:26 AM
Hi Tazmin, Relationships should be based on fidelity,trust and openess. I don't think you have any of these qualities in your relationship. If someone is acting like this,it is almost certain that he has something to hide,but how you handle it is up to you.

helinda

Joined: 3/3/2007

Msg: 11 (view)

I'm a nice guy who feels i wont finish the race at all let alone last Posted: 10/2/2008 2:50:20 AM
Hi, My advice would be to not think of every woman as a possible partner and get to know them as a friend first,and take your time. Whatever you do don't change who you are.

helinda

Joined: 3/3/2007

Msg: 87 (view)

Great girl but not much action! Posted: 9/30/2008 8:15:16 AM
Hi everyone is different and what doesn't bother some women,bothers others a lot. If you are into her as much as you claim,you will respect her wishes,and there's always masturbation.(and No,you don't need to tell her!)

helinda

Joined: 3/3/2007

Msg: 83 (view)

Odd dating requests... Posted: 9/30/2008 8:05:31 AM
Hi Brian, Like any woman,I would tell you that you should never do something that your not completely happy with. She's probably bragging to all her pals that she has another man and she's got his knickers to prove it. Do you really want to be just another notch on her bedpost. If you do,continue with the lady,but if you don't dump her!

helinda

Joined: 3/3/2007

Msg: 295 (view)

all guys wants from me is sex.. but not a relationship... why is that? Posted: 9/30/2008 7:59:36 AM
Hi Brandy, Whatever you do don't give in to their requests. How dare they! If I was you I'd break off any contact with any of them,except for your childs father,and I would only have contact with him for the childs sake. You must believe that you are good enough to have a man all to yourself. Move on and keep away from these men.Perhaps what you really need is to be romanced,before hopping into bed with anyone. Anyone who cares about you enough will be willing to wait a wee while till you get to know one another. My morals are perhaps old fashioned,but I've been exceptionally happy all my life and don't know any man who has been happy flitting from one woman to the other.

helinda

Joined: 3/3/2007

Msg: 19 (view)

Love vs. Obsession Posted: 9/27/2008 4:01:20 AM
Hi Your friend thinks he isn't in the class of his girlfriend,and that's where the obsession comes from,his low self esteem. He has to realise that if his girlfriend wants to be with him then it is her choice not his. If I was her ,I would be thinking seriously about this relationship and would never consider marrying this guy while he acts like this.

helinda

Joined: 3/3/2007

Msg: 16 (view)

to love and find rejection Posted: 9/27/2008 3:45:41 AM
Hi Lemire, Unfortunately all the people we are attracted to,aren't attracted to us. The first feeling is almost always lust,although we see it as love. I don't think you can fall in LOVE with someone until you get to know them,so although you feel really bad now,it is probably the testosteron that it causing it. If someone you didn't fancy told you that they loved you,you wouldn't try to fall into love with them because they have the feeling for you. It is the same with the person you want to love you. They can't love you because you NEED them to love you. Move on,and sooner or later you will meet someone who feels the same about you as you do for them. Life is like that,we can't always get what we want,and the sooner everyone realises this,the sooner they move on to the next phase of their life.

helinda

Joined: 3/3/2007

Msg: 16 (view)

Too sexual for marriage Posted: 9/23/2008 8:15:17 AM
Hi Cristophe, You tell him that you have enough of your own problems and you don't think a lot of him as he is discussing all his and his girlfriends deepest moments with you. Get your own life.

helinda

Joined: 3/3/2007

Msg: 143 (view)

Men who are NOT players! What is your modus operandi for romancing a woman? Posted: 9/23/2008 8:08:42 AM
Hi , There is always good and bad in every aspect of our lives and some men are just as bad as the women you describe,but the prize is always worth all the effort.

helinda

Joined: 3/3/2007

Msg: 64 (view)

Broken Love ''Broken Spirit 'Just Broke Posted: 9/23/2008 8:04:54 AM
Hi , Most of us always leave something with a person who has been our one true love,but we always remember the really good times and tend to gloss over the bad times when we think back. The reason people say you should move on is because ,if it happened once and you were part of it,then it can happen again.Every relationship is different,and we should get something different from each relationship.The reason you Must move on is because feelings and emotions continue to evolve throughout our lives and although we are basically the same we do change in small ways because of life experiences,and that's what you can bring to a new relationship. Yourself with your life experience. If it was really good before,you were at least half of the equation and you take that into any other relationship. We all have to move on,because we wither and die if we don't. Be confident,be yourself,and it will work for you when you eventually find a relationship that suit's you. It won't be the same as before,but that's what makes it so exciting!!

helinda

Joined: 3/3/2007

Msg: 13 (view)

had better luck in the bar... Posted: 9/15/2008 5:11:32 AM
Hi gurl toy, You obviuosly don't think you're as good looking as you yourself says you are or you would be posting a photograph. The problem for you on here is that there aren't enough people under the influence to think you are attractive.

helinda

Joined: 3/3/2007

Msg: 41 (view)

Should I let her beat me? Posted: 9/15/2008 4:59:37 AM
Hi Dmdmdm, If you let her beat you ,you are starting a relationship with a lie. In any relationship,it only works if you can be yourself. She'll probably give you a good game ,if it was her that wanted to play in the first place ,and ,if she is half decent then she will know if you are letting her win. Don't do it. If you are competative,be competative and think how good she will feel, if she gives you a good game,even if you beat her.

helinda

Joined: 3/3/2007

Msg: 57 (view)

Am I a door mat? Posted: 9/15/2008 4:52:34 AM
Hi anqelfire, I'm sorry this has happened to you,but you probably did too much for him and although he needed help ,he probably thought that you had taken over his whole life,sorted all his problems and now he doesn't need you anymore. Although not the same, this kind of experience has happened to me,and , to be truthful,I think that I'm probably the kind of person that needs to be needed in a relationship,and when you're not needed the relationship eventually fails. If you can look at it as you helping someone through a particularly rough time in their life,perhaps you can recover sooner. Whatever you do don't go back and don't blame yourself for what has happened. As in most relationships,you don't always get back what you put in. Try and move on ,and although things are pretty raw at the moment,it will get better through time. Concentrate on the fact that you are a really nice person,and will definitely get someone else soon ,if you want to. Not all life experiences are wonderful ,and ,if you can consider that you put as much into the relationship as you could,you have nothing to reproach yourself about. You seem to be a very nice lady,and you should concentrate on that. Don't change. You will get a person that will appreciate you,as much as you appreciate them. Good luck.

helinda

Joined: 3/3/2007

Msg: 490 (view)

Why do married men masturbate? Posted: 9/8/2008 6:17:18 AM
To get an orgasm,the same way most married women do too.

helinda

Joined: 3/3/2007

Msg: 34 (view)

Met, hit it off, she crushed me.... Posted: 9/8/2008 6:11:52 AM
Hi bossc, I'm so sorry about what happened to you,but believe it or not,this kind of experience happens to nearly everybody. You meet someone and instantly fall in lust with them,and because of how you feel,you tend to ignore other small signs that are telling you she doesn't feel exactly the same as you. I think she was looking for someones shoulder to cry on,because of the way she had been treated,but she still has feelings for her ex.We all think that when you seperate from a partner the feelings instantly go away,but they don't,sometimes for a long time. During the time you're supposed to be falling out of love with your partner,you meet someone who is exactly what you are looking for,but you can't go there because the other relationship isn't really over yet. This is the one of the reason people cheat,because they like all the new attention,but don't want to finish the relationship they're in,just in case the new partnership doesn't turn out as well as we think it will. It is always better to wait until at least the divorce is through,because that should draw a line in the sand. I think this lady really has feelings for you despite what has happpened,but ,I'm afraid,she just isn't ready to settle down yet,and probably doesn't have any idea of what she wants,and that's why she goes out with other men. She doesn't want to commit now.

helinda

Joined: 3/3/2007

Msg: 41 (view)

Dating 4 months after you have been seperated Posted: 9/4/2008 5:36:34 AM
You have to play this by ear and time so that she can see you are really serious.What-ever you do don't date anyone else,and jeapordize the relationship you have with her.I wonder if you are as serious as you claim to be,because if this is the one,I don't think you would be even considering dating elsewhere.

helinda

Joined: 3/3/2007

Msg: 794 (view)

Dinner Date - Who Pays? Posted: 9/4/2008 5:31:55 AM
I think both should pay until, you both agree that you are a couple,and then the bill can be paid by whoever you both decide can pay.

helinda

Joined: 3/3/2007

Msg: 26 (view)

The nonsense about being positive at all cost. Posted: 9/4/2008 5:23:53 AM
Hi, I think all people, deal with pain in different ways. Occasionally you can work it out yourself,sometimes you need help,even if it is just someone to hear what is bothering you. Sometimes you need help from a therapist. It's often said, but time does help. Distance from the problem usually makes you see it from a less involved point,and enables you to handle it differently.

helinda

Joined: 3/3/2007

Msg: 39 (view)

Severe depression over a broken heart Posted: 8/28/2008 2:33:29 AM
Hi Fanimate, I'm truly sorry for what has happened to you through no fault of your own. I know that it hurts like hell at the moment,but it will get better through time.If you can try and look at it in the way that it could have been a lot worse if you had been married or were staying with one another. She sounds as if it has taken her a while to make up her mind what she wanted,and I do believe that in some ways she really loves you,but not strong enough to take her away from where the money is. She is willing to go with this man for his money,but ,if it's any consolation to you,I can assure you that most people who have a lot of money,have it because they don't give it to anyone else no matter how they feel about them. I wish you a lot of luck in the future,and ,I'm sure you'll look back on this in later years and put it down to life experience.

helinda

Joined: 3/3/2007

Msg: 28 (view)

What to do? Posted: 8/5/2008 9:06:46 AM
Hi seekanddestroy, Walk away,don't look back,and put it down to experience. Never EVER give her the chance to do it again.

helinda

Joined: 3/3/2007

Msg: 12 (view)

Hooked up with friend....now what? Posted: 8/5/2008 9:01:46 AM
Hi jjbbmm, There are some people and some relationships that are just no no's,and you went pretty near to breaking that rule,and preying on someone who was very vunerable as well. It doesn't matter how much a woman in this situation throws herself at you,you should have the sense and decency not to go there!!!!

helinda

Joined: 3/3/2007

Msg: 31 (view)

Death of a 24 yr Marriage Posted: 8/5/2008 8:53:10 AM
Hi smiling gem, The first thing to do is to get to know who YOU are,and you can only do this by being on your own. Give yourself at least six months and preferably a year on your own before you attempt another relationship. The worst thing you can do is to be so desperate to be in a relationship that you'll accept anything. If there is anything that YOU wanted to do when you were married and couldn't ,now is the time to do it. By all means look for friends on this site,but just keep them as friends,for a while anyway. Concentrate on what makes you happy and what makes you tick. Sometimes we find out that we have a talent that we never realised we had. Nurture the good aspects of your personality and try and become a person you would like yourself to be. Distance yourself from your ex,and don't go back at all in any way,and that includes wondering what he is doing. Concentrate on what you want to do. After being twice married and twice divorced,I've been on my own for over six years and I love it. For the first time in my life I only have responsibility for myself,and that in itself,is a wonderful feeling. Don't think that you won't still love him,because you always will a little bit,but after a few months you'll realise that YOU are no longer IN love with him. Clubs,nightschool and other things are all available to you now,go out and do them. Good luck!!

helinda

Joined: 3/3/2007

Msg: 31 (view)

deleting for the second time... Posted: 8/3/2008 8:22:26 AM
Hi miss estella, You seem to judge people who don't live up to your religious beliefs.I am a very moral person,and basically a nice person,but it has absolutely nothing to do with religion,as I am agnostic. Perhaps you should spread your net wider and date someone who is nice to know whatever their religious beliefs,or non beliefs.

helinda

Joined: 3/3/2007

Msg: 20 (view)

Dating your father Posted: 8/3/2008 8:16:29 AM
Hi reaching, I think at times ,we all display learned behavior whether it be from parents or friends,but ,if you are aware of it,it probably doesn't affect your behavior very much.

helinda

Joined: 3/3/2007

Msg: 63 (view)

Please just say 'no' ... Posted: 8/3/2008 8:12:25 AM
Hi solarpanel, I agree with a lot you say,but not all people are the same,and would find your question disrespectful,and because someone isn't attracted to you,it doesn't mean that they can't be friends with you. Other people would find it hard to say no to your question ,just because they have no idea of how you would react.

helinda

Joined: 3/3/2007

Msg: 126 (view)

Do you trust your pet's judgement on your dates? Posted: 8/3/2008 8:05:59 AM
Hi, I have no idea how you can possibly percieve how a CAT would be able to choose your partner for you. Animals usually like me,but I'm not looking for a date with a cat. Why not wait until the postman comes and ask him. He probably knows very little about you,but would still be better than the cat. At least he's human,and knows how humans feel. P.S.Just in case you didn't realise it,I'm kidding about the postman,but everything else is true.

helinda

Joined: 3/3/2007

Msg: 9 (view)

Married friends and their view of dating/romance Posted: 8/3/2008 7:58:40 AM
Hi Maryanne, Unfortunately there is no secret to dating etc.,mainly because everyone is different and every relationship is different too. What you can do is to lower your standards,and increase the number of partners that are available to you,but ,in the long run,that's a bad idea. I'm sorry I can't give you the magic formula,but one piece of advice I would give to you is don't take advice from people who have already at least one marriage behind them. If they knew the answer they wouldn't both be on there second marriages,would they?

helinda

Joined: 3/3/2007

Msg: 7 (view)

HANG IN THERE Posted: 8/1/2008 5:42:20 AM
Hi, Another happy ending,good luck!

helinda

Joined: 3/3/2007

Msg: 8 (view)

What is worse: Marrying the wrong person or not marrying the right person? Posted: 8/1/2008 5:40:48 AM
Hi , I'm sorry,but I think both statements,lead to the same conclusion. I just don't see the difference.

helinda

Joined: 3/3/2007

Msg: 564 (view)

David Deangelo Double Your Dating - Any feedback? Posted: 8/1/2008 5:37:56 AM
Hi mrx, I haven't read the book,because I know it won't make any difference to the way I think,and that is that there are NO rules in dating. It is differen't for everyone,and can even be different for the same person with a different partner,and you only, prove my point with quotes like,"why many(not all,and how many is many anyway)women" and yourself"there are MANY(again,same argument)women that this doesn't apply to" The vast majority(Many) of authors write books for one thing ,and that's because MANY idiots buy them and they make a lot of money. MANY statements in these type of books should be filed under "Stating the obvious"

helinda

Joined: 3/3/2007

Msg: 109 (view)

Why do people waste time chatting online and email, before meeting? Posted: 8/1/2008 5:28:55 AM
Hi tinkerbell, I think it is best to e-mail for a while,as you are more likely to find out who the person is over a few months,because the liers will eventually slip up. Telephoning is only a precurser to meeting,and going by your logic,why should we even telephone,because you should get a much better idea who a person is if you are talking to them over the table. Some people like to go fast,some like taking it easier and longer.

helinda

Joined: 3/3/2007

Msg: 22 (view)

Oh now, she looses the weight Posted: 8/1/2008 5:23:33 AM
Hi Mel, And your point is???

helinda

Joined: 3/3/2007

Msg: 142 (view)

i dont understand women sometimes Posted: 7/29/2008 8:29:08 AM
Hi aeroforce, I'm sorry ,but the behavior you have been experiencing is human ,not just women do these things. Often ,when we meet someone for the first time they aren't the least bit like what we thought they would be. Sometimes they have painted a picture that wasn't who they were,but sometimes we have made them something they weren't. It is very hurtful to say anything to a person to encourage them more when they haven't been who you thought they were,and the nicest thing you can do is just to leave it there and then,because some people CAN'T be let down gently. They just see it as more encouragement. If you can't take being disappointed,then you shouldn't really be trying to date anyone!!

helinda

Joined: 3/3/2007

Msg: 177 (view)

They wanted to hold my hand at the first meeting? Posted: 7/29/2008 8:19:00 AM
Hi shirley, Be brave enough to refuse any kind of physical contact if you don't want it.It's your body and only people you want to, have the right to touch you.

helinda

Joined: 3/3/2007

Msg: 22 (view)

Played again... Posted: 7/29/2008 8:15:04 AM
Hi Minx, Try to make friends with a person first and don't run headlong from one relationship to the next. Give yourself a wee while on your own before even contacting a prospective date. Becuase you are the heart on the sleeve type of person,I'm afraid many players just see that as ripe for plucking. When you do meet someone,take your time to get to know them for a while before you commit to anything more serious. It is much easier to realise who a person is when you haven't fallen for them right away. Friends first,dating next,and then,after a while,relationship. Always be on your guard,for the sudden cancelling of a date;certain times you can't call them;you not being invited to his place;he stays with his sister(this is one I don't know why women believe,I mean how many people do you know that stay with their sister?) Although you don't believe it,the signs are always there. Sometimes ,I think ,you just don't WANT to believe the signs,and that's why you get played. All men are not like the ones you have met lately. Good luck.

helinda

Joined: 3/3/2007

Msg: 183 (view)

What PlentyOfish has done to me? Posted: 7/24/2008 5:03:55 AM
Hi ilove, I couldn't agree with you more. When a marriage is going wrong both parties have to talk to one another,and decide whether it is worth saving or both of you moving on. Unfortunately,many people want their bit on the side to enjoy themselves with,and their partner still to be there for them if the affair doesn't work out. It is ultimate selfishness.

helinda

Joined: 3/3/2007

Msg: 37 (view)

What do yo do when man is busted by his wife? Posted: 7/24/2008 4:43:55 AM
Hi Fight naked, What you should do is not contact him again. Don't send him any e-mails,and don't answer any either. And if it drives him nuts not knowing why you won't speak to him anymore,then all the better. It was him who was lying.

helinda

Joined: 3/3/2007

Msg: 5 (view)

Goodbye POF Posted: 7/23/2008 4:22:43 AM
Hi sammi, You got it exactly right,make loads of friends,and if it turns into something more,then that is a bonus. Good Luck!!!

helinda

Joined: 3/3/2007

Msg: 110 (view)

gals....what does take things slow really mean? Posted: 7/23/2008 4:19:17 AM
Hi fuzznuts, What she means is that she doesn't want another baby and another failed relationship. Some relationships don't always start with the "Can't keep our hands off of one another. Spent all week-end in bed." Some smoulder for a long time before flourishing,and a lot of the time these are the kind that last. How can you force someone you say you have real feelings for to go faster than they want. Date her,enjoy her company,learn who she really is. If she is as interested in you as you say she is,your relationship will grow,probably slowly at first,but the result will be worth waiting for. Sex is a big part of any relationship,but it not everything,and ,if that is all you want the girl for,she probably feels that. Relationships can be just like sex,take it slowly,see to her needs,and enjoy the explosion when it happens.

helinda

Joined: 3/3/2007

Msg: 49 (view)

Wow!! Can you believe this one? What should I do? Posted: 7/23/2008 3:52:14 AM
Hi nursemommy, Although it is very tempting to let the world know what an arsehole this one is,I wouldn't do it. Leave it for other ladies to find out on their own,and distance yourself from him in every way. He's a player and will always be the same. If it's any compensation to you,you have to admit that he thinks so little of himself that he has to create a persona that a complete lie. In other words he doesn't like who he is,and never will,because he is such a small person and will never be anything or anyone. One bit of advice I would give to anyone in your situation ,is to always be suspicious if any man has certain times he can't meet you or talk to you. If he is truly single,he should be available ALL the time. You can't ignore signs like this,unless you don't want to believe the truth. It still amazes me what some women will put up with and how many lies they believe,because a boyfriend says so. There are always ways to check up on someone. Talk to their friends,or workmates,and ,if he doesn't want you to meet them ,then that is another sign something is wrong.

helinda

Joined: 3/3/2007

Msg: 6 (view)

Text Messaging and Break Ups Posted: 7/23/2008 3:38:30 AM
Hi unqirl, You did the right thing,he was obviously a very fickle person,and who wants that. I wouldn't answer any tex's from now on ,and get on with your life which you seem to be enjoying. The best way to hold up two fingers to this guy is to get on with your life and forget about him altogether. Good luck!!

helinda

Joined: 3/3/2007

Msg: 11 (view)

How do you let go? Posted: 7/22/2008 8:39:40 AM
Hi DEFLEPJEN, Anyone with feeling will grieve over a relationship ending.Unfortunately your condition might even make it worse. I know you won't believe it at the moment,but you will get over it. It may, and probably will,take a long time,but I can assure you that you will get over it. Losing a relationship can feel as bad as losing someone close to you at times,you're not alone,many of us have been through it,and are still here to fight and love another day. Try and spend some time on your own,find out who you are. Concentrate on what makes you a good catch,don't be afraid to love who you are,warts and all.There will come a time when you realise that although you still love him,you're not IN love with him anymore,and you deserve someone who will love and cherish you forever. Don't be afraid to weep and let your feelings out,swear about him,think how dare he do this to me,be angry,get it all out. You probably won't believe this,but a few years down the line,you will have found the right one,and this one will be just another experience of love,life,and the highs and lows that they both bring. Personally speaking,I always find that music makes me feel better,even if it is an emotional song,I always find music makes me feel better,as if it touches my soul,and makes things smoother.But perhaps it could be something else that YOU do that makes you feel better,indulge yourself,treat yourself,look after no. 1 for a while. You can't make yourself move on,but soon,you will all of a sudden realise that you have moved on. Good luck!!!

helinda

Joined: 3/3/2007

Msg: 3 (view)

For those in a relationship...other than sex, what makes your current partner irreplaceable? Posted: 7/21/2008 10:29:00 AM
Hi , If I or anyone knew the answer to this one we'd make millions. Sex is only part of it,and I really don't know what the whole thing is,but suspect it is different for everyone. I do know it feels bloody great!!!!

helinda

Joined: 3/3/2007

Msg: 21 (view)

Proceed with....? Posted: 7/21/2008 10:24:37 AM
Hi, I would call him first to see how he reacts. If he reciprocates ,then you are O.K. If he is very cautious,I'm sorry but he isn't into you as much as you are into him,and only you can deal with that.

helinda

Joined: 3/3/2007

Msg: 71 (view)

I'm glad I'm not a man! Posted: 7/21/2008 10:20:13 AM
Hi gentleman jack, I think that although most times it's still the men that make the first move,actual rejection works out about even.

helinda

Joined: 3/3/2007

Msg: 61 (view)

HEARS A MESSED UP STORY ABOUT WHAT HAPPENED TO ME.... Posted: 7/21/2008 10:18:08 AM
Hi degostyle, You have to admit she should go far in acting.

helinda

Joined: 3/3/2007

Msg: 118 (view)

Do you believe God sends signs? Posted: 7/21/2008 8:12:11 AM
Hi hionlymoi, I believe that there are always signs in a bad relationship that can't be ignored,and sometimes are. Whether it is god giving these signs would be down to what your religious beliefs are. I can't give any advice on that because I don't have any. I would however,speculate that the reason you can't get back together is simply because you had your time together and it is over now. It is done,and you should never go back. Move on. Give yourself a little time on your own,get to know who YOU are,and then look for another relationship. Good luck!!

helinda

Joined: 3/3/2007

Msg: 4 (view)

im outta here boys and gals!!!! Posted: 7/20/2008 7:24:30 AM
Hi stephib, I still love happy endings because I am such an old HOPEFUL romantic. Good luck with the rest of your life with each other.

helinda

Joined: 3/3/2007

Msg: 907 (view)

Is Intelligence A Curse In Relationships? Posted: 7/20/2008 7:20:35 AM
Hi metaphisicalman, First of all intelligent people aren't always intelectuals.Second of all,it's not intelligence that makes people manipulative and controlling,in fact,I think it is the exact opposite I.E. people who have low self esteem,and the only way they can make themselves feel better is to make others unhappy to show to themselves they have some kind of power. I think you have problems seperating intelligence from emotion. I do agree that you probably do get a more intelligent person on the forums regularly,but that's more to do with being able to respond to more subjects than someone who has had a lesser education. Finally, it is impossible to judge someone on their I.Q. because just like looks,it's only a very small part of who they are. I know a man who is one of the kindest men I know,who has a great empathy with and for other people,and would help anyone in trouble. He is also unemployed,has no money,and has an I.Q. of 151(on the cattel scale,average is 100),and very few people in his life know just how intelligent he is,because he has never put that intelligence to ANY use.

helinda

Joined: 3/3/2007

Msg: 49 (view)

Domestic violence and the legal system...How has it treated you? Posted: 7/20/2008 6:49:26 AM
Hi silken fire, I have never had any experience of this accept through stories told to me by many women,but,as usual will get my tuppence worth in. First of all,I don't see why any charge that is laid for domestic violence,should not be accompanied by a restraining order against the person charged,which should be invoked immediately. I think that most people involved in domestic violence have a learned experience from their mother or father,and continue the behavior without realisng that they can be the king or queen who reigns over the generation that stops it.

Show ALL Forums