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Sam R.

Joined: 3/6/2007

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all guys wants from me is sex.. but not a relationship... why is that? Posted: 9/20/2008 9:37:22 AM
Dear Brandy, You have three totally normal men in your life, in that they want to have sex with you. Men were designed this way, so it is a good sign that they all find you so attractive that they want to have sex with you. You are a very nice looking woman, so this is normal. I wish you luck in finding a man that will commit to you, and lusts to have sex with you too, since that is the ideal. Regards, Sam

Sam R.

Joined: 3/6/2007

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How old is too old to still be living with your parents? Would you date someone that still did? Posted: 6/13/2008 11:38:47 PM
What bothers me is when somebody can't take a differing point of view. No kidding......how dare a parent let their child run up 35K a year in loans, (which is BS) while attending a private day university, unemployed and mooching off them.....those parents need interdiction! LMAO!

Sam R.

Joined: 3/6/2007

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wat if she lied about age....... do you continue anyway? Posted: 6/13/2008 5:08:48 PM
"LIES" Performed and written by The Knickebockers 1965 Lies, lies, you're tellin' me that you'll be true Lies, lies That's all I ever hear from you Tears, tears I shed a million tears for you Tears, tears And now you're lovin' someone new Someday I'm gonna be happy But I don't know when just now Lies, lie-ies A-breakin' my heart You think that you're such a smart girl And I'll believe what you say But who do you think you are, girl To lead me on this way hey Lies, lies I can't believe a word you say Lies, lies Are gonna make you sad someday Some day you're gonna be lonely But you won't find me around Lies, lie-ies A-breakin' my heart Someday I'm gonna be happy But I don't know when just now Lies, lie-ies A-breakin' my heart You think that you're such a smart girl And I'll believe what you say But who do you think you are, girl To lead me on this way hey Lies (ah!), lies (yeah baby) I can't believe a word you say Lies, lies Are gonna make you sad someday Some day you're gonna be lonely But you won't find me around Lies, lie-ies A-breakin' my heart I said, baby, now (breakin' my heart) Oh, yeah, you're still breakin' my heart (breakin' my heart

Sam R.

Joined: 3/6/2007

Msg: 356 (view)

How old is too old to still be living with your parents? Would you date someone that still did? Posted: 6/12/2008 8:57:22 PM
I just don't understand why kids (in particular) use this "saving money" line of bullshit as a reason to be at home. It's an excuse, in most cases. Easy......they've managed to bullsh*t their parents, so now it's easy to troll and propagate the same propaganda here in the forums. ......"saving money" LMAO!

Sam R.

Joined: 3/6/2007

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Am I wrong, you make the call... Posted: 6/12/2008 12:59:31 AM
MikeMurray wrote: Am I wrong, you make the call.... No, dude, you're not wrong. You're just like me and 100% of the guys out here. No matter what you do as a guy, you're wrong. Women have rigged the game that way....... "Yes, you can date me, just bring plenty of money." You can tell the world wasn't set-up by guys, because we wouldn't let it work this way, but it does. Women have figured out that men want approval/action/affection, more often than they do, so they have decided to make the rules. This is in spite of the fact that most of them earn decent money for themselves. Once we men realize this, then we get along fine with them on their terms. The sooner we give in to them, (paying the freight bills to rent their time) the more approval/action/affection they may give us. Just my thoughts on it.

Sam R.

Joined: 3/6/2007

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How old is too old to still be living with your parents? Would you date someone that still did? Posted: 6/11/2008 2:07:34 PM
breisme wrote:..finally moved out of his parents home at age 43. YES, 43. We now own a home of our own and have had nothing but problems. So, I guess when they do get out of the nest, they never really leave....their parents just send cookies and make sure you are taking care of their "challenged" child... BINGO! All my Brother did was "change bedrooms" after getting married......nothing else changed, still unemployed 20 years later at 51 yr. old. Unreal! His wife puts up with it all, so who's really at fault? Best of luck to you!

Sam R.

Joined: 3/6/2007

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Lack of information in profession slot Posted: 6/10/2008 6:12:21 PM
From the looks of things, some people at the very least seem to be hiding out......from what or who? Who knows? I've never encountered a bit of trouble from anyone on earth knowing my profession. Many people have a delinquent present or past, that can catch up to them if they disclose any information about themselves.......yeah, that's my kinda date. LOL!

Sam R.

Joined: 3/6/2007

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Lack of information in profession slot Posted: 6/8/2008 4:35:00 PM
Consealing one's job or profession if any, will likely be the beginning of an end game they're playing. If someone is defensive about, or unwilling to provide information as mundane as that, it may indicate an overall deceptive way of life for some......it's unlikely to be explained any other way that could make sense. One could likely expect a "lot of insecurities and gotcha" surfacing from them in the future. That's been my take and experience with people manipulating facts about themselves I've met over the years. By in large, they're not trustworthy of getting to know a forthcoming and genuine person.......especially when dating.

Sam R.

Joined: 3/6/2007

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How old is too old to still be living with your parents? Would you date someone that still did? Posted: 6/7/2008 12:57:26 AM
I left home for a private military school several hundred miles from home my Junior year of high school. I was 17 yrs. old. Two years after graduating from military school, and summarily after flunking-out of an away-from-home college, at 22 yrs. of age I left to begin as a sales trainee 500 miles from home, then 1,000 miles away, then 1,500 miles away. Other than visit, I never came home to live. I saved up and paid cash for my first new car to travel and work out of as a self-employed sales rep. at 23 yrs. Read that as totally self-sufficient by then. Never looked back, gainfully employed ever since. Something worked right for me. One of my Brothers didn't leave home until his mid-30s. Mom and Dad supported him in their home and provided a car for transportation, and 100% of his tuition, books, clothes, etc. to a local college as a day student. It took him almost 15 years to graduate with a 4-year degree in Business Administration in his mid-30s, and got married right after graduation day. He never did get a job, and to this day his wife supports him. I would classify him as a loser. Since he's always been a lazy bstrd. He had a heart attack two years ago while in his 40s. He's fat, drinks heavily, (a drunk) sedentary, uses tobacco, and is still unemployed at 51 yrs. What's the right number to leave home? I don't know, I just know what worked for me, and what didn't work for another family member. Would I date someone that still does live at home? Not a chance.

Sam R.

Joined: 3/6/2007

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Internet dating Posted: 6/6/2008 11:17:18 AM
I think it's hope that keeps us all here. That, and the allure of entertainment and the the suspense value to the human mind, of by chance finding that right one.

Sam R.

Joined: 3/6/2007

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When you are in the wrong market, what todo Posted: 6/4/2008 10:33:45 AM
Every market's the wrong market inside your four walls. Heck I live in a metro area with five million people, and there's nobody but me in this house. You're already in the largest market on earth, POF. Just start expanding the on-line marketing area outward with the SEARCH feature on POF.

Sam R.

Joined: 3/6/2007

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Lack of information in profession slot Posted: 6/3/2008 3:33:30 PM
OK, Doctor, I've read what you believe about the educated or trained, fit mind. I find positive value from your perspective. My older Brother is and has been a gainfully employed staff doctor working at a hospital for many years. He has earned multiple college degrees, teaching certificates, an MS and a Doctorate. He even attained the rank of Major in a branch of the U.S. Armed Forces, retiring his duty in the Medical Corps. several years ago. He was confined to a mental institution for the better part of a year in 1979. One pharma. he was medicated with was Thorazine. He and his first wife declared bankruptcy in 1995. His natural children are changing their last names when they're turning 18. He has now married multiple women with advanced degrees. That's some of what he's done so far with his education-based fit mind, in seeking other education-based fit minded partners. Many of us didn't learn how to learn, or are not as capable to learn as others. I know I don't learn education too well, for whatever reasons. I don't believe that my mind is an unfit or unlearned mind, it just isn't educated. Some uneducated fit minds do well in many areas of their life, and some don't. Some uneducated/untrained minds have accrued large tangible assets over a lifetime, and some haven't. If a fit mind through education led the way to insuring a sizable income, healthy personal relationships and finances, happiness and contentment in life, I think I would have bought into it by now. I believe I know different. At this stage of my life as a never been married bachelor, I would not like to be hustled into marriage for only my ability to earn, or earned tangible assets. I think many of us are in the same boat there, and do what we can to guard against becoming a victim. I am open to dating a woman whether she's a homemaker, hairstylist, airline pilot, flight attendant, doctor, attorney, fitness instructor, athlete.......etc.

Sam R.

Joined: 3/6/2007

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Lack of information in profession slot Posted: 6/2/2008 5:04:10 PM
Jim, Since I'm not a college graduate, I figured that I'd start posting in the Forums, in hopes of a good woman being attracted to my mind, if not my income. Hope you don't mind me piggy-backing on your cogent points. I'm not as prose-articulate, as I regard some here to be. Regards,

Sam R.

Joined: 3/6/2007

Msg: 214 (view)

Lack of information in profession slot Posted: 6/2/2008 12:09:06 PM
Jim33903 wrote:....Say a guy is a blue collar construction worker, a maintenance man, or other lower income job. He writes to a woman that posts her income of say $75,000 PLUS. Chances are this woman would not even respond. He has to earn as much or more then she does. But a man that posts the same income would not be as likely to turn down the hair dresser, store clerk, bank teller or file clerk. Us men don't really care if there is a chance for a relationship. But many woman, not all would shun even a great looking guy if he has lower income. I think as Jim33903 does in this vein..... I'd be as interested to go out with an attractive hairstylist, as an attractive woman of any other mode of employment. Just my perspective.

Sam R.

Joined: 3/6/2007

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Lack of information in profession slot Posted: 6/1/2008 10:25:06 PM
I'm just not interested in dating the unemployed. Well.....were he available, that weeds out Bill Gates, the soon to be unemployed high school graduate, worth $50,000,000,000 billion dollars.

Sam R.

Joined: 3/6/2007

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Lack of information in profession slot Posted: 6/1/2008 3:21:04 PM
It's so fascinating to me how oft times there is this desire among professional well-educated women to only date well-educated, professional men. It seems the motivation is that the women want intellectual equals in the very least, but status that degrees confer and opportunities for higher household income also play a role in this choice. This is absolutely true, in my experience.

Sam R.

Joined: 3/6/2007

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Do you care about finances when dating? Posted: 5/31/2008 2:26:01 AM
Yes, I care. In fact I request in my Profile; "no damsels in leveraged debt." If they're owing everybody, it matters not to me how much they earn. If a potential mate doesn't have their financial act together by mid-life, they're broken in that department, and I don't want any projects at this stage of my life. I'm definitely looking for a near equal, in that vein.

Sam R.

Joined: 3/6/2007

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Queen of the universe Posted: 5/31/2008 1:58:20 AM
I am proud to state what I do for a living. I consider myself very fortunate to have fallen into a wonderful 'n worthwhile way to make a living that I started at the age of 22, thirty four years ago. My work has afforded and blessed me with fortune, health, a positive attitude, zest, and a massive amount of free time as I've aged. Certainly well beyond my simple dreams as a teen. Never would I have believed as a young man, that I was capable of all this. Having said that, the 'cutsie' and 'flippant' remark filled-in space some leave, is a 100% turn-off to me. I can't change the page fast enough, having wasted the time spent reading that far on their bio. To me, it's a sure sign of further deception to come from that person. Best regards

Sam R.

Joined: 3/6/2007

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Queen of the universe Posted: 5/27/2008 6:16:20 PM
There is no justice in type casting anyone by sex,or income level.....it's sad, but it happens. Especially since many Americans believe that money buys happiness. That said, socially I often reference that my older Brother is a doctor, to let people know that someone in my family has "smarts," since I have no such title or similar accomplishment in life to hang my hat on. Sometimes I wonder how I'm able to get out of bed in the morning, what with only a high school diploma.

Sam R.

Joined: 3/6/2007

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Ok, I just need to tell my story ... Posted: 4/20/2008 9:21:28 PM
Count your blessings Dude, that you got out quick. Two men couldn't please her...... Get a good divorce attorney is my best advice. Take care.

Sam R.

Joined: 3/6/2007

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Why do men request Financially Secure women???? Posted: 12/23/2007 5:52:25 PM
The only reason you would "get awfully sick of running into profiles by men who include in their wish lists of the perfect woman," with statements such as: "You--- are financially secure"........is because you are not, financially secure. I have every right to request that in a woman, as does she.......... Get financially secure, or forget it.

Sam R.

Joined: 3/6/2007

Msg: 62 (view)

Is There Guys Out There For Nerdy, Librarian Type Girls? Posted: 7/11/2007 9:32:05 PM
Yes..........need picture.

Sam R.

Joined: 3/6/2007

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Never met......... Posted: 5/5/2007 11:48:13 PM
What's up with all the testimonials, where the writer has never met the person? Huh!? "I've never met this person, but, you'd better hurry!!" Flattering.........but so phoney. Are some people really that desperate for doting and stroking from a perfect stranger!? Seems odd and specious to me. LOL!

Sam R.

Joined: 3/6/2007

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he moved on so suddenly!!! ;( Posted: 4/29/2007 12:38:58 AM
passion99, wrote:i have been working with a younger man that went out of his way to make me feel like i was special to him, quoting romantic lyrics etc, he payed so much attention to me! now a new young girl has started and he has taken all of his attention to her overnite, and left me with a torn heart! my question is, how can someone fall out of like with someone and move on to someone new so fast? was his attention to me not sincere? it felt like it, people would even comment. hope someone can help me understand so i can start healing. I have to see the both of them everyday and im hurt and angry thanks in advance :) I musta missed the commitment part of your story.........guess you two never got around to actually talking about that part...........?

Sam R.

Joined: 3/6/2007

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Women who go back for sex after a breakup Posted: 4/28/2007 11:01:13 PM
Women who go back for sex after a breakup For the sex?

Sam R.

Joined: 3/6/2007

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Never married... Posted: 4/9/2007 12:20:28 PM
KarltheHermit wrote: You said it brother! Most of my friends I've known since high school or college have already met the woman of their dreams... and divorced them. And it's very likely a few of them may get married a second time before I'm married the first time. Give that man a Right on brother! Make that an ice cold 22 oz Miller-Lite! Assuming guilt is blatant prejudice.

Sam R.

Joined: 3/6/2007

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Never married... Posted: 4/8/2007 10:35:55 PM
I would be more worried about someone who was never married than someone who is divorced. ......oh brother.........that makes sense? "Since you've not been married, that's a red flag to me." --Talk about another stupid, dorky statement........ Maybe some single-never-marrieds should adopt this attitude: "Since your life IS a train wreck, that's a red flag to me." lol!

Sam R.

Joined: 3/6/2007

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Whats with the I need time alone deal? Posted: 4/7/2007 4:02:39 PM
Good man, KOOLFUNDAD! lesson learned==experience.

Sam R.

Joined: 3/6/2007

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When you don't get replies Posted: 4/6/2007 9:34:51 PM
elanmars wrote: as in, you send a message saying hey, light and short but you don't get a reply, is that a way of them telling you to frak off? In a word........?? Yes. Happens to me every day dude........some chicks even punch DELETE , when it is UNREAD........how freakin' weird is that! LOL!

Sam R.

Joined: 3/6/2007

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How does someone say they love you and miss you, three weeks later starts seeing someone else? Posted: 4/6/2007 2:53:41 PM
Insincerity Immaturity A.D.D. Bi-Polar Liar Jerk ALL THE ABOVE........ Take yer pick. Jist, move on......!*

Sam R.

Joined: 3/6/2007

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I have a completely clean slate Posted: 4/6/2007 12:52:37 PM
Start asking more chicks out. It's all in the numbers, my boy..........ASK more, GET more Target and ask ones in your classes out. When class is dismissed, walk alongside of one and say something like; "Hi, my name's "Joe" I was wondering if you'd like to grab a coffee or Coke with me down at the student union after classes today?" Or at the college cafeteria.......target a girl leaving the cafeteria walking back to her dorm, and do the same routine....chicks love it when a guy walks alongside them and says "hi, my name's Joe, I'm from Dallas," or whatever.........ask them where they're from, what they are doing on the weekend, and just make conversation.. There's got to be tons of chicks at Baylor in Waco. --And they're wondering the same exact thing......."why can't I meet a nice guy??" Because the GUY hasn't asked them out is why. If I weren't so shy as a 19 year old, I'd have done it where I attended college........but I wasn't able to overcome my shyness and actually DO it. Nowadays, I'm not shy at all, I just can't find the right chick to date steady...........so you just date around. ..........Good luck guy!

Sam R.

Joined: 3/6/2007

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Whats with the I need time alone deal? Posted: 4/5/2007 5:59:14 PM
This past weekend she says her girlfriends invited her out so I said sure go out and have fun, 3 hours later she is telling me she needs to be alone to figure out what she wants. You've been ditched......consider yourself lucky she didn't make this call after the marriage vows, dude. You sound like a great guy, just look out for the phonies.

Sam R.

Joined: 3/6/2007

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I have a completely clean slate Posted: 4/5/2007 5:13:57 PM
My GPA was 4.0, but I ran out of funding before I could finish. / on scholarhip , on dean' s list. Awesome guys! And here I thought college was for chasin' girls 'n drinkin'...... With a GPA in college of 1.8 I didn't have to worry about funding either.

Sam R.

Joined: 3/6/2007

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Where are all the good guys??? Posted: 4/5/2007 1:32:35 PM
I am 47 and sex is not what I am lookin for.... This is what every man lives to hear......... lol!

Sam R.

Joined: 3/6/2007

Msg: 196 (view)

Where are all the good guys??? Posted: 4/5/2007 1:27:58 PM
ok, call me strange, but out of all the dates I have been on... And believe me many of them have been a doosey, why do they all want sex. Don't men realize that there is more to a woman than what is between her legs? I was always taught that a man will respect you if you don't "put out". I have not "put out" and I still don't get respect. Someone, please answer me. Newsflash:......men want sex.......

Sam R.

Joined: 3/6/2007

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I have a completely clean slate Posted: 4/5/2007 11:23:22 AM
am i the only person that sees the great irony of saving yourself from meaningless relationships for a meaningful one once high school is over, only to find out that you are discriminated against as being immature for not making poor choices early on regarding relationships? Nope. I get the same thing, friend. Chicks (many) have said; "Since you've not been married, that's a red flag to me." --Talk about a stupid, dorky statement........ Maybe we single-never-married should adopt this attitude: "Since your life IS a train wreck, that's a red flag to me." lol!

Sam R.

Joined: 3/6/2007

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Good-bye: Maybe in my next lifetime. Posted: 4/4/2007 11:54:19 PM
I just wanted to wish everyone good luck on here. It has worked for lots of people, but I have to face reality and relize that after 4 dating sites, contacting over 1700 women and spending $5000...... Good by and take care, dude!

Sam R.

Joined: 3/6/2007

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St. Patties Day Party in Garland!!! Posted: 3/17/2007 2:12:04 PM
8 P.M., tonite, Huh? Might stop in for a .......it's 4 miles from me. -Sam

Sam R.

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funny things to do to annoying customers Posted: 3/16/2007 10:14:13 PM
lotacus wrote: ...to the OP, I would hope you have been since fired from your job. you are the reason why other people have to deal with unruly customers. Maybe even the fact that you refer to them as customers and NOT guests. Always treat your guests as you would if you were to welcome them in your home. You obviously do not make a good employee and probably limited to fast food resturants. .. oh yea, just noticed your profile name.. shortordercook, that says it all. BINGO!

Sam R.

Joined: 3/6/2007

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Never make someone a priority if they consider you an option Posted: 3/12/2007 10:35:30 PM
Maybe she/he's "just not that into you?" Use your head when dating someone.....not just your heart. I know, easy to say.........

Sam R.

Joined: 3/6/2007

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Never make someone a priority if they consider you an option Posted: 3/12/2007 10:33:35 PM
Maybe she/he's just not that into you?" Use your head when dating someone.....[u]not[/u] just your heart. I know, easy to say.........

Sam R.

Joined: 3/6/2007

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Giving up!!! Posted: 3/11/2007 10:56:57 PM
roflma! kbcd. you da man!

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