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slideforlife

Joined: 3/6/2007

Msg: 19 (view)

Polygamy Posted: 4/16/2008 8:50:32 AM
re: message 15 Well here's to a gal who's not afraid to say how she likes her little red wagon pulled. Not fair!

slideforlife

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Msg: 5 (view)

Polygamy Posted: 4/15/2008 9:26:33 PM
Given a certain set of circumstances, i wouldn't mind either having more than one wife or my wife having more than one husband. Guess those circumstances revolve around love, honesty and trust between consenting adults.

slideforlife

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Msg: 38 (view)

Looking for a mans point of view Posted: 4/15/2008 8:39:46 AM
why are you dating if you are in therapy? and to make this post longer, here's something to read: When they're leaking in their pants because after everything and everywhere is telling them getting laid is where it's at even when they know deep down that having sexual relations is a total mind/body experience rather than genital-to-genital-compartmentalized- closed- eyed- masturbating-against- someone-else-who-happens-to-be-there, guys aren't demeaning you when they think of you as a sexual playtoy. It's a nice appraisal to have as part of your persona. Here's the big clue: unless there's violence present, the odds are that a guy who's done you in bed right off the bat also thinks of you in an infinite number of other ways. If you want to know, just ask. By the way, the statement is just as true when the genders are reversed.

slideforlife

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Msg: 973 (view)

/////\\\\\ 6 Lines or Less //////\\\\\\ Posted: 3/24/2008 4:32:41 AM
Always before I've had a scorched-earth breakup policy but clearly with you I didn't salt the ground evenly and a few ragged shoots survived the blaze. I gave the weeds a little time to grow contemplating, reconsidering? No, definitely time to buy a flamethrower. It's a different world than the one we'd promised each other. I thought you knew that from the beginning. I thought you were just seriously playing around with me. So now when the time comes to go from better to worse, see if you can enjoy our rock garden without imposition. What's past isn't disposable. It's just gone.

slideforlife

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Msg: 99 (view)

Why do men get a pat on the back but women get labelled? Posted: 3/17/2008 12:59:17 PM
"just because something is short doesn't mean it can't be beautiful" not too short .

slideforlife

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Msg: 131 (view)

Ash's awesome thread Posted: 3/16/2008 9:32:19 PM
Not quite a fist folds fried eggs more delicately than your labia's. "Go on, make a pouty face," I say as they wriggle in the hot slathered butter and puff up. The wind blew down wet snow this morning. I'll ride on it later.

slideforlife

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Msg: 406 (view)

it taint all soft... Posted: 3/10/2008 1:25:32 AM
I jerked off last night to artaud again. not too his corpse (which I'm sure is too decayed for even the most necrophiliac fantasy), but to his tormenting. i'd love to be penetrated as was his mind, by rapist strangers who could only hoist themselves enraged on lilac stains left sacred. my destruction should be half as profound. but instead, the handholds I provide fit only poking fun. Apparently, I'm supposed to smile for eternity.

slideforlife

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Msg: 936 (view)

/////\\\\\ 6 Lines or Less //////\\\\\\ Posted: 3/10/2008 1:06:46 AM
mirror, mirror, the inch you have exposed is delightful. perhaps you'll allow and unfasten another. have a crack at my ice, accost my granite crevice. when all the world comes safely without spilling a drop, i've throttled sunshine and made it my slave.

slideforlife

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Msg: 1 (view)

Ending Correspondence with a Poem Posted: 3/8/2008 2:24:58 AM
blind spots collide in an orgy of disorder. jealousy? hah! smearing memories shitfaced and obscene, each darkness exquisitely gulps them down again and again. quickly numb with antidote, the future disfigures intensity. go play idol, i'll take a 100 year death any day.

slideforlife

Joined: 3/6/2007

Msg: 4511 (view)

Old Souls/Dead Souls Posted: 2/26/2008 12:02:44 AM
A wide old sidewalk calls time in frozen cracks clawing up and reaching for my heels. From thousands of miles stretching out and pressing down, it goes on like always, forgetting everything else for a particular place to rest. Then it comes on again, tattered and ragged and marking perimeters, twisting around and fingering hospitality. What better place than with those eternally at rest? I hang my bed high off the ground. It swings over white tombstones and cobble stoned grave markers glowing through the darkness. I pull on bad flowers and try a lame little dance. Clouds stir a fine drizzle down with the noise of jet planes and stray cats. Weeks go by as I get along with my new dead friends famously.

slideforlife

Joined: 3/6/2007

Msg: 340 (view)

Black and Blue Posted: 2/25/2008 7:32:28 PM
Lickerish pleiades, slaternous deities, Finger fucked by the most impotent desires, The earth’s ground out! Scorched and hungry, always thirsting for more. A Sadie Mae Glutz, shamelessly stabbing the embryo of stardom With a wicked half-deed pronounced to the tilt of another’s incantation. Orphaned and left to rot.

slideforlife

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Msg: 126 (view)

Can a Vegretarian or Vegan perform oral Posted: 2/13/2008 2:46:50 AM
duh, of course not. animals do not consent to be exploited and tortured- an important principle for many vegans. Breastfeeding, however, is most often done out of love (highest form of consent).

slideforlife

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Msg: 103 (view)

What’s the most important thing that men don’t understand about women that they should Posted: 1/28/2008 5:36:27 AM
that women are more comfortable being afraid of being injured while men are more comfortable being injured for being afraid. Just another guy that's dying to try, Slide

slideforlife

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Msg: 646 (view)

Sex with minors Posted: 1/26/2008 5:46:53 PM
As a teenager, I lost my virginity to someone 15 years older than me. thank god i chose someone who had been around for a while. we should all be so lucky.

slideforlife

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Msg: 118 (view)

does it matter if he is bisexual? Posted: 1/23/2008 9:43:01 PM
comment 1: fascinating how into dating bisexual women men are. the reverse? apparently not so. comment 2: bisexuality might have nothing to do with a predilection for a particular shape of genitalia or an affinity for a particular sex act. some people are simply capable of establishing an intimate emotional bond with another regardless of their appendages. Probably has something to do with their minds.

slideforlife

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Msg: 441 (view)

Men face jail for rape if women are 'too drunk' to consent in bed to boost convictions Posted: 1/18/2008 1:50:17 PM
So if you're drunk, you lose the right to screw? Hello, big brother. I've had sex plenty of times with my beer goggles on. Sometimes I regeted it, sometimes i didn't. I've also had plenty of sex with women who've had their booze goggles on. I'm betting that sometimes they regretted afterward and sometimes they didn't. You want to call me a rapist? You do a disservice to the violence of the crime.

slideforlife

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Msg: 431 (view)

Men face jail for rape if women are 'too drunk' to consent in bed to boost convictions Posted: 1/16/2008 5:42:05 PM
maybe i missed a few posts that stated the obvious, but does no one else see the hypocrisy here? A man and a woman meet in a bar while imbibing in the traditional spirits and end-up in bed (in my small experience, not the most far-fetched scenario). The woman can claim rape because of her choice to enjoy the dionysian uninhibitedness that alcohol can provide while at the same time the man must be held accountable for her actions? This is a putridity of upside down logic.

slideforlife

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Msg: 369 (view)

Men face jail for rape if women are 'too drunk' to consent in bed to boost convictions Posted: 1/13/2008 9:35:01 AM
thanks again to whomever keeps deleting my posts. no surprise that only certain opinions are welcome on this not so open discussion again, holding women responsible for their actions to any equal degree as the law would men is the lynchpin of my argument. funny how the opposite is perpetuated by the title of this thread. Actually it's not so funny. nor is heavy handed control on internet. bye all.

slideforlife

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Msg: 146 (view)

Men face jail for rape if women are 'too drunk' to consent in bed to boost convictions Posted: 1/10/2008 3:32:26 AM
this law has been too long in coming. the next conundrum is enforcement. what's obviously needed is that we, as a society, mandate the installation of breathalyzers in every home and and make their use a requirement at least three times/day. By golly, that insidious alchohol has a mind of its own and our government should be always there to step in to prevent any of its pernicious effects on the delicate female psyche and ever more valuable female body. we must protect them. for a vareity of reasons, men can't be abused. they're too strong and tough. so let's make sure the poor women are protected from their own actions before they do something that they'll regret later.

slideforlife

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Msg: 63 (view)

Repulsed By Age .... Posted: 12/11/2007 4:02:43 AM
unless you're in the entertainment industry and have sold your soul for the superficial, why anyone would go to the trouble of surgically "enhancing" themselves is beyond me. Lines are character. 'course, lot's of people can't read beyond the first page.

slideforlife

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Msg: 65 (view)

why do girls get more mesages than guys? Posted: 12/6/2007 12:40:13 AM
Probably because most women are still insecure about their sexual desires. Many men's sense of emotional courtesy, on the other hand, have been distorted by social demands. Neither of these allow for the pursuit of individual fulfillment and personal expression. What does result is a truncated set of personality types falling into two self-perpetuated steriotypes: women who validate and commodify their sexuality to offset their fears and men who desensitize themselves with a shotgun approach to forming relationships. Just IMO, you understand :)

slideforlife

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Msg: 25 (view)

Any Industrial music fans? Posted: 12/2/2007 12:46:36 PM
Definition? one of the best conerts: einsturzende neubaten at the bowery ballroom. i can't remember the date but I think it was before 2000.

slideforlife

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Msg: 43 (view)

Spanked by your dad Posted: 12/2/2007 10:44:19 AM
But, I sure hated sitting in that rocking chair for half an hour at a time when I was naughty, especially because I couldn't have any of my toys with me to keep me company. Exactly 123carrie, but that form of discipline takes more than a few seconds and requires an attentive and concerned parent. It takes much less time to yell kids into submission or if that fails, show them some pain. Of course, they don't learn anything from it, but you sure showed them who's boss.

slideforlife

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Msg: 158 (view)

Abused Men Posted: 11/30/2007 7:33:07 AM
I want to write about historical context to try to illustrate what are likely the various processes acting on a male victim of domestic violence to improve on the ability to emerge from this crisis without a) injury; and, b) resorting to the danger of self-defense. What often is put forward by various individuals and groups seeking to negate and marginalize the detrimental effects of males being abused by their female partners is a viewpoint that attempts to take into account a social construct of patriarchy in historical terms. Constructs are interesting. They are supported by fact, but they are not documented as a certifiable framework of orchestration. So because they are an effect rather than an intention, constructs are contentious and deserve debate by their very nature. Nevertheless, I am not interested in examining whether it is most effective to view any particular socio-cultural phenomena through the lense of patriarchy (or any other construct for that matter). Instead, I’d like to shift the view of historical context to the immediacy of the event and the reality for both those perpetuating abuse and violence and those victimized by it. The palpable reality that the actors in any domestic violence conflict experience strictly consists of a history of mutual physical interactions, its emotional effects, and the emotional effects of prior physical interactions in other relationships. For the victim, the forces brought to bear by these machinations wholly impinge on their ability to exist. To bring forth mental instability and physical weakening, it need not and does not include contextualizing all events from all places into a framework of fear and oppression. That framework already exists and is made real by the time spent with the abuser leading up to the volatile moment of abuse. In fact, relationships themselves are often begun and built as a bulwark against the struggle and difficulty of injustice perpetuated by a society that IS sometimes fairly epitomized as patriarchal (i.e. The song: “you and me against the world”). But domestic violence events act in isolation without regard to overriding social processes. Instead, they yield a snapshot of a world within the world in which each event can be explored with the proper and appropriate tools of investigation. One of the most significant problems that exist for male victims of domestic violence is that difficulties attempting to emerge from an isolated process of victimization are compounded by external factors unrelated to the abuse they experience. When a male victim of DV reports to his friends, family or community officials, oftentimes he faces a set of preconceptions and second-guessing about his motives, character, and the very injury or injuries that he sustained. This collision between the private world of the victim and the public sphere makes reporting dangerous and difficult. It is dangerous because if the victim is not believed, the abuser is encouraged to then make counter-reports of their own. It is difficult because domestic physical attacks on men work to undercut a man’s ability to reason with others because they effect a nearly complete reduction in social status. Undoubtedly and unfortunately, the processes that male victims of domestic violence undergo have not been studied adequately. But it can be assumed that they follow a similar trajectory mentioned in message 117, in that the “physical comes into play insidiously after the partner has first undergone verbal, mental, emotional, economical, social, parental, sexual, and other types of attacks. Often a person naively is unaware that these are all happening and it is only later, when found in the thick of the matter, that they're eyes are opened to its reality.” This process also increases the difficulty to report abuse to those who in many cases when observing the clouded mind set of the male victim cite the frayed emotional state as reason enough to write off the abuse as inconsequential. It should be stated that sometimes several of these processes run simultaneously. There is no fixed stop and start of their functioning. It is very possible that event cycles run at the same time and play off each other. However, the overarching result of abuse occurs as the male victim of domestic violence is stranded with only his own resources to draw upon. And even here another aspect of a vicious cycle occurs. Since the tenor of self-reliance runs forcefully through social expectations of how men should behave, it is logical that male victims of DV will be afforded less guidance even when their reports of abuse are believed. So at this point, the male victim makes one of three choices 1) continue with the status quo; 2) flee; or, 3) attempt a physical defense. All are poor choices. The best choice is to gain help if any is available. However, I would assert that for the reasons outlined above. It too often is not.

slideforlife

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Msg: 217 (view)

How to dumb myself down? Posted: 11/30/2007 4:12:47 AM
god, you are stupid, OP. Intelligence lies in the ability to communicate. If only half of what you're conveying is understood, it's you that needs to hit the books - not the bleached blondes swinging on the poles.

slideforlife

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Msg: 156 (view)

Abused Men Posted: 11/29/2007 7:38:20 AM
you may have thought i was just complaining for the sake of complaining when I posted that the moderator deleted the other thread, "the myth of male violence" that deals with the abuse men encounter at the hands of their intimate partners. But I wasn't. And to tell you the truth all the arguments for the sanctity of private property, how this site is for free, and the rest don't add up to a hill of beans against the fact that IT WAS MORALLY IRRESPONSIBLE TO DELETE A THREAD THAT PROVIDED INFORMATION TO PEOPLE WHO WERE BEING ASSAULTED AND DIDN'T KNOW WHERE TO GO. There were plenty of options available. Specific posts could be deleted or the entire thread could have been moved like POF has done with other threads. But by erasing the entire thread, POF left male victims of DV without the important help information that the thread provided before it got derailed. Shame on you, POF.

slideforlife

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Msg: 153 (view)

Abused Men Posted: 11/28/2007 11:33:23 PM
check out the thread "myth of male violence" in the dating experiences forum don't bother anymore,the bubble headed moderators just deleted it.

slideforlife

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Msg: 16 (view)

what would u do - pouting doesn't seem to work? Posted: 11/28/2007 4:46:25 PM
dude, i am the guy you would hate. these jokers that tell you that school is all about staying academically focused are whacked. I had two kinds of girlfriends at school: the mon-thur kind that I partied and slept with occasionally (most of them had serious boyfriends from where they lived at home on the weekends and i had to let them have their 15 minutes each night to talk to them on the phone) The other kind was my steady weekend girlfriend who would occassionally show up at my dorm and then all my friends had to lie to her about how I wasn't doing anything but studying. college is for learning about EVERYTHING. If she hasn't given you the key to her dorm room, then she's probably got her eye somewhere else. i'm only telling you this so you don't waste your time waiting around trying to find out what she's up to. Just drop by her dorm if you're really curious and can stand a little possible heartbreak.

slideforlife

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Msg: 142 (view)

Abused Men Posted: 11/27/2007 8:41:18 PM
check out the thread "myth of male violence" in the dating experiences forum.

slideforlife

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Msg: 139 (view)

Abused Men Posted: 11/26/2007 8:17:32 PM
do volunteer work at 2 abuse shelters. One is for women & children. The other is for abused men. Needless to say, there are very few men who go there.... that's because if they do, they'd in all likelihood lose contact with their children (if they have any). So the women who are abused take themselves and their children to safety. As far as I know, there's not a shelter on the planet for men and children. What about the dads that are being abused? If there's no place for my kids, I can guarantee you that I'd stay with them in spite of the abuse until I was dead, dead, dead.

slideforlife

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Msg: 115 (view)

why do you think the love of your life will be within 75 miles? Posted: 11/26/2007 8:11:00 PM
you know what they say: where there's a will, there's a way. it's amazing how love can open one's mind

slideforlife

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Msg: 31 (view)

Spanked by your dad Posted: 11/26/2007 8:07:46 PM
I really hope you are being serious, op. I can't figure out why you just threw in the unnecessary details. Hitting children is brutality, simple as that. Try and teach them that way and they'll grow up to be brutal too. If you can't find a way to manage your children or teach appropriate behavior without hitting them, maybe you should find someone else to do so.

slideforlife

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Msg: 27 (view)

Spanked by your dad Posted: 11/26/2007 4:48:57 AM
Edit note: I went back and read some of your subsequent postings, OP. RD Laing, I believe, wrote a seminal work entitled "Sanity, Madness and the Family". The work encompasses many issues, but what's most important is that it's utterly common for mothers and fathers to subject their offspring to horrendous physical and psychological abuse unaware and unconsciously. But that doesn't mean that their offspring are responsible for making them aware of it. Your father and your mother (who facilitated and enabled him) did wrong. Does it make more sense for you to make an effort to forgive them or for them to make an effort to ask for your forgiveness? edit end -------------------------------- Typical salacious replies to a serious question. Sorry OP. With all the arguments for and against spanking, it is undisputable that the physical act of spanking entails hitting another human being. Maybe what you should do is write a letter or an email and include everything you'd want to say to him. Don't hold anything back. Pretend you're writing it so that he'd have to just listen without responding. Then after it's done, have a hard look at it. I know Christmas is an important time of the year, but the message will get through loud and clear that you hold him responsible for hitting you if you let your parents know that you don't feel comfortable around him just right now. It sickens me that people justify their violent ideas of child rearing with excuses that it was what they themselves had to go through. If they aren't adult enough to be responsible for their own children's care, they don't deserve to care for them. I have two very high strung, very high voltage boys and I take care of them myself. I would feel utterly weak, lazy and ashamed were I ever to resort to hitting them to discipline them. I know it may sound absurd to some, but even yelling at children has the opposite effect it intends to have. It only brings them fear, frustration and an inability to think things through for themselves. What else can they do besides act out after being yelled at? Patience, understanding and a calm attitude toward correction go the longest way in allowing children to grow and gain understanding. Good Luck with your holidays.

slideforlife

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Msg: 43 (view)

How do women feel about being involved with single Dads? Posted: 11/25/2007 3:51:41 PM
I will tell you that I do see a concerted effort in our legislation and the courts to remove gender-specific rights and obligations from their agendas. It can't come fast enough to suit those of us who think that the entire system needs to be fair-minded... I hope your right, wind. what also needs to be done in address what goes on to circumvent those removals by the proverbial wink and a nod. There's plenty of talk of which group is more wronged than another, but the present is going to remain a hodgepodge of narrow interests and a melange of superimposed tunnel visions until conflict resolution (especially of civil conflicts) becomes mediated, facilitated and cooperative rather than adversarial. There are plenty of people who could be happy with a lemon-aide stand at the side of the road so long as they had an adequate roof over their heads and their family was given every reasonable opportunity to exercise their potentials. But the motivation behind many organizations seeking justice is self-serving rather than in itself just. Thus the power struggles go on ad infinitum. Maybe change needs to come from the grass roots level.

slideforlife

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Msg: 37 (view)

How do women feel about being involved with single Dads? Posted: 11/25/2007 8:36:45 AM
Wind Dancer queried to my assertion that women have special rights: Please expand on this perception. I would like to know exactly which rights and in which areas women are given special rights? ok winddancer, here's an example, albeit a stupid example. I take my two boys (5, 6) and a girl(6) for whom I provide childcare to the YMCA's climbing gym around 3x per week. The kids are serious about their climbing. I have a certification to belay them on the wall, so I needn't a staff member to assist us. Last time we went there it was overly crowded. There were tons of men, women and children there so there was no space available. we waited for about an hour . Finally, a couple a people left and we got started. The kids had a few climbs and were just getting warmed up. I didn’t get in any climbs at all. All of sudden, a YMCA staff member announced, “WOMEN’S CLIMB,” all men have to clear out. I was dumbfounded. Why was it necessary for women to have a special time climbing on the wall? I asked them if we could stay - surely three children and myself wouldn’t make much of a difference, right? Unfortunately they saw it differently. I thought well, it's probably going to be pretty crowded. So as I was leaving I looked over at the wall (the climbing gym is connected to the rest of the YMCA and is open to view). It was completely empty except for TWO (2) climbers! Granted they happened to be women. So everyone had to cram themselves into the gym during the time period for (equal rights) coed climb. Then when it was over, no one could climb so a couple of women could have their own private space. Now mind you, there is no extra fee attached to this, it’s only what the YMCA scheduled to give women special rights in the climbing gym. This just happened last week and is only the most recent time example of the crap that goes on all the time that causes men (and children) undue hardship and indignity. Can you guess what would happen if the YMCA kicked women out of the climbing gym because of their gender? You know, LAWSUIT. That's because there's a strong acceptance in this society for giving women special rights. Now what that causes is up to the sociologists to figure out, but I guarantee you this, it ain’t pretty.

slideforlife

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Msg: 20 (view)

Why ask detailed questions while getting to know someone? Posted: 11/25/2007 8:14:47 AM
of course, it can be in utterly bad taste to discuss intimate sexual preferences and practices with a new acquaintance depending on the tone of the conversation leading up to it. but it's even in greater and more complete utter bad taste to piss, moan and gossip about a third party having done so. a nice "SHUT UP!" back whether on the phone or via email should do the trick.

slideforlife

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Msg: 37 (view)

don't get weird on me after..... Posted: 11/24/2007 7:40:22 AM
I think that this broad is a flake and messing around with her is just going to cause you trouble. can't kiss and then want's it all? sounds whacked to me. goodluck

slideforlife

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Msg: 153 (view)

rape or just stupidity? Posted: 11/24/2007 6:14:18 AM
defense: "your honor, it was a three thrust fumble" plaintiff: "no, your honor, it was a longer ramrodding of the dame drain" regarding the other: of course if she had injured me I would have been much more upset.

slideforlife

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Msg: 151 (view)

rape or just stupidity? Posted: 11/24/2007 5:26:13 AM
the rest of us can, if clearly expressed enough get the "stop" thing at pretty much any point with maybe the exclusion of being just about to or already committed to popping our loads and therein lies the rub, where do you draw the line of being just about to or already committed to popping our loads? sometimes (as i wrote above) in cases of first time sex, it's almost immediately upon penetration. and regarding the 10 second wonders, even women have been known (at least a few that i've known) to start orgasming immediately upon penetration. For men, it's called premature ejaculation. regarding the other: So at best your protestations were pathetic and it continued BECAUSE your protestations were pathetic and werent probably even interpretted as anything more than playacting roleplay vocalisations of feigned displeasure unless you were bound and shackled no, there was no bondage. actually it was more to do with the positioning and the natural leverage she was enjoying over me that allowed her to make the choice to continue in spite of my momentary desires. i don't think i said stop, but i did say "wait" and "slow down" while trying to get away. but i couldn't crawl up the wall and that's the way it went. I don't think that there was anything pathetic at all about my expressions during that encounter. but it is my view that agreeing to a sexual encounter entails agreeing to a variety of experiences. some are simply better than others and I'd be hard pressed to accept that a crime has been committed unless the intent to injure and/or the injury is present. personal disrespect just doesn't make it my book.

slideforlife

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Msg: 147 (view)

rape or just stupidity? Posted: 11/24/2007 3:58:24 AM
The mid and even just starting orgasm bit is sort of true as its hardly a time when someone will be oarticularly aware of anything happening outside of their head, and women will be equally "lost" in their orgasm during sex too But unless someone is a 10 second wonder thats not "most" of penetrative sex either is it? There is (we would hope) a hell of a lot of a percentage of the time where someone WOULD if clearly asked to stop, be able to, and where we would also hope, that IF asked a man not only WOULD stop, but also SHOULD stop It makes it rather subjective then, doesn’t it? There are times when I’m so turned on that my orgasm starts to ramp up almost immediately upon penetration (and even beforehand when I’m easily redirectable). This usually happens when I’m with someone for the first time. It reminds me of that passage in Benchley’s Jaws when Hooper and Brody’s wife are talking about how it would be if they had sex. Hooper says something like that “the first time would probably be an out of control wham bam type of deal. I’d be so turned on that…” I wrote a much longer and thought out reply to this, but unfortunately my computer crashed and it evaporated. Of course, I don’t think that agreeing to penetration gives guys carte blanche to injure women during sex, but maybe it takes a little more than continuing on with what has/had been agreed to make it a crime. I'd like to offer an anecdote if I can be spared the crass tone that posters sometime take. It's always difficult to discuss one's sex life without being accused of trying to titillate. However, I offer this in seriousness. I remember one time an old girl friend was penetrating me. I was having trouble accepting it and asked her to slow down. Instead of acquiescing to my requests, she said, “sorry. you’re just going to have to take it” and went ahead with what she was doing. It caused some pain, but I recovered quickly. Was she being inconsiderate? Maybe. Did she rape me? I doubt it.

slideforlife

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Msg: 24 (view)

How do women feel about being involved with single Dads? Posted: 11/23/2007 2:13:15 PM
yeah, hopefully the courts will start to more strictly adhere to gender neutrality laws in family court. i suppose i'm in the minority. funny, there's a huge number of women out there villifying men for not dating single mothers. but on the same token, there's a huge number of women out there trying to rationalize not dating single dads. what i hate are the comments that try to base behavioral traits on gender. never the less, behavior seemingly more prevelant in one gender than another has to come from somewhere. I think it's a cultural thing. special rights are afforded to women in almost every area of society. i think it creates a me-first mentality. men have to deal with the social roles carved out for them as well and i'm sure the effects of society's expectations screws men up too. but what is most apparent to me is that it's difficult to find a woman that can be independent and gracious about it at the same time.

slideforlife

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Msg: 35 (view)

Do Men Really Bring Up Sex? Posted: 11/23/2007 1:26:25 PM
Yup, and do women really have no sense of humor?

slideforlife

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Msg: 141 (view)

rape or just stupidity? Posted: 11/23/2007 12:41:16 AM
this jerk and that jerk blah, blah blah. how about if i tap your knee with a hammer and tell you if you kick it's rape. if you say to a guy to stop when he's in mid-orgasm, there is little you can do except wait until the convulsions are over. that's reality regardless of whatever laws that get passed. telling someone to stop after they're already inside you is about the worst time to say so.

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Joined: 3/6/2007

Msg: 60 (view)

On Turning 40 (For ladies.) Posted: 11/20/2007 2:59:47 AM
hey, if Nina Hartley can do it, so you can you. keep it up, ya old geezers!

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Msg: 68 (view)

pornstars!! Posted: 11/19/2007 3:28:49 AM
No way. Well, except for Madison. Annie Sprinkle says she's "an orgasm on two legs."

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Msg: 5 (view)

cuckold? Posted: 11/18/2007 1:44:50 PM
perverted? maybe. silly? hardly. actually, by it's very nature, it's quite consensual. here's to fluffing, cockholding, and all the other assorted titillation fantasies that you bunch of red-blooded perverts can come up with.

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Msg: 2 (view)

cuckold? Posted: 11/18/2007 1:34:40 PM
yeah, so? and you know what else would be cool? if i had a permament female fluffer. maybe you should google that.

slideforlife

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Msg: 26 (view)

Conjoined Twins .... Posted: 11/18/2007 12:43:56 PM
oh, you're right, i always have sex for biology. in fact that's what i yell out just when i'm about to come. "Oh, Biology! I love You!" and that's every time except when i'm pounding her pudding to bust out a brat. oh yeah, good thing there's no such thing as contraceptives. Otherwise, I'd have a big problem. btw love and kisses to you too. ps. i can also assure you that if it were only for the survival of this f'd up species that insists on heeping pain and suferring on each other at every opportunity, only the most evil and repelent would be knocking themselves up. hey, wait a minute.....?

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Msg: 50 (view)

Real Women vs. Fake women Posted: 11/18/2007 12:35:50 PM
so now you're back to entombing yourself in your self-made mausoleum? last time i checked, no one was putting a gun to anyone's head forcing them to do anything to get dates. we all like what we like. take it or leave it.

slideforlife

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Msg: 24 (view)

Conjoined Twins .... Posted: 11/18/2007 12:12:40 PM
god forbid anyone speaks up and confesses to the fact that humans screw simply because it feels good. grown up children playing sandbox politics don't even deserve the space of a breath.

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