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Joined: 3/10/2007

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Has being online toughened you up emotionally or made you more sensitive? Posted: 8/24/2007 12:16:40 AM
yes!!!! and thats why i am going,men seem to teat it like a candy shop,or pic n mix,oh yes ill have her and her and maybe she isnt bad i try her too,and so on it goes,they dont tell the truth,and thinks they are devilishly irresistable when they are just players,dont get me wrong i know for sure that women do the same.i am going to get out in the real world and see what happens,it makes you too cynical on here and i dont want to become that way

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Im not sure what dating is? Posted: 7/3/2007 5:30:18 AM
ok definiton of dating,it is when you meet someone,maybe first time that is a date.second time another date,if it is casual,then its still dating,if it moves up a step it my girfreind boyfreind,but for me a least if i were to meet someone and until it becomes more serious or if .then its still dating,and i guess yes you still can sleep with somone your dating,if you botyh undrestand the expectations of the other,and multiple dating is an american thing,not really a good thing to do.one date at a time,its respectful.thereyou go easy!!

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What's your arguing style? Posted: 6/30/2007 7:04:18 AM
thats so funny,i clean like a maniac to,you gotta do something with that adreneline rushing round you.,i can clean my house right through when i am mad,.prblem is i dont get mad that often,which is good,it make cleaning that much harder though!!and i thought i was the only one,and i talk to myself the whole time about whatever made me mad too !!! but yes try aand remain rational and calm,if things get heated ,time out,then come back when you are calm.when things get emotive its alot harder to resolcve ,although it depends on the situation,sometimes its right to be angry if you have been treated unfairly,that anger is heathly,the destructive kind isnt .

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what do guys think of girls who take antidepressants? Posted: 6/28/2007 7:02:26 AM
wel i take them as i apparantly have a chemical imbalance and have to,i wish i didt have to,and i am not mad or unstable or imbalanced in anyway,so i guess its best to find out why aperson is oon them before concluding anything,i am also anti tablets,but if i dont take them i feel ill,and i dont want to be that way, so i am with shanmardev on this one

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she has 2 kids 2 dif dads Posted: 6/27/2007 5:00:26 AM
stop being soooo judgmental,it doesnt make her a bad person or a bad mother,

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Did anybody have a bad experience before you even met the person? Posted: 6/18/2007 6:08:16 AM
oh yes i had pretty much the same thing,we agreed to meet but i bailed out,he kept asking if i was ready for a demanding man,i thought it was a joke,!!i just got bad vibes all through from what he sais,he said i was rude,but i hadnt said anything!!!strange,so after alot of odd things being siad to me.is aid,ok i think its best i dont message you agian and best of luck ect,i get a message back saying ,no as if he had decided,i want a real woman not a player,you are this that the other!!! my god thank goodness i didint date him,listen to your instincts every time !!!!

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Manipulators Posted: 6/17/2007 1:28:38 PM
ok,well, people become manipulators because it is a tool they use to get there own waym you cant teach someone it is wrong because they dont ever undrestand that,in order for them not to do it they have to accept they have a problem,it means they have becomr a developed child in phycological terms.the have to win,every argument they will never take the middle ground,you will always be to blame and end up worn out trust me stay away from individualy whom are like that,xx

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Ladies....would you wear a t-shirt, flip-flops, and shorts 1st time meeting someone? Posted: 6/13/2007 12:14:48 AM
no,not unless you were going to the beach,no one in the uk would go out that way,unless it was to go shopping,a little effort at the very least it would show she cares about herself too.

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Your best romantic moves????? Posted: 6/12/2007 2:38:26 PM
my goodness, she is one lucky lady!! if only there were more men like you.,wow,

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How far are you searching for love? Posted: 6/10/2007 5:15:37 AM
no hun i am with you on this,one guy wanted ME to travel miles to see him,i explained i have a very busy life,work family ect,and i couldnt do it and sustain that all the time,he said huh you wont meet anyone then,notice he didnt work or want to travel.,and what happens if things evolve you cant just uproot yourself and family,unless your a millionaire.no there are lots of nice guys within that perimiter.it up to you entirely if you want to go farther or not,you carry on looking kiddo ,good luck

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Broken heart after 4 year relationship Posted: 6/9/2007 12:50:17 PM
i was in a relationship like yours,and it was hard to break up,but there is a reason why it happens ,if it was right,why then arnt you together,i think addiction may be the right word but you have break free of that it isnt healthy to be dependant like that,the pain gets easier,and you wil find yourself once again,and 39 isnt old hun mthat how old i was when i met my ex, in retrospect i now see despite my love for him ,it would never have worked ,and in time you will look at it less emotivly and more subjectivly.dont look back,look ahead x

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fake boobs??? Posted: 6/5/2007 10:48:27 AM
ok,but is it really hurting anyone,each to there own

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HATERS ..... around us ...... Posted: 6/4/2007 4:41:54 AM
i have had odd messages too,they do it because they can ,its very juvenile,just ignore them,they ought to grow up,i had alot and used to get offended i thought,no point,dont waste your energy xx

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How am I suppose to know what the hell YOU want, when YOU don’t even know Posted: 6/1/2007 3:17:41 AM
way to go girl,......now let it go,dont hold on to it x

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Hairdresser secrets Posted: 5/19/2007 12:54:05 AM
as a hairdresser myself,I love doing hair but I love to chat too,peoples problems to me arnt something i gossip about,i dont relish every bit of bad news that i am told,i like to help people and if talking to me helps thats fine the thing is a hairdresser is imidiatly in your personal space when doing your hair,so this means that people let there barriers down, we become freinds,I love to be able to make somene look good but also feel good.and i dont tell everyone my cleints business,but neither do i take it home with me ,i leave it behind me each day,its made me a better person as i am aware that so many people have troubles in there life,it makes you realise that your normal ,its a grat job!!!!!

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How to become more than friends? Posted: 5/2/2007 4:45:51 AM
well without being rude,if you were looking at your profile what would you see,party girl,up for a good time,that my not be the real you but be honest its easy to misinterprit the message you want give out,you are probably a wonderful but give a bit more mystery,cover up a bit less is more,and this is coming from a woman,so i am not being sexist,be more classy thats all,hope i havnt offended

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Would you date someone who is mentally ill?????? Posted: 4/24/2007 3:43:12 AM
well how can you define mental illness.beacuase it can mean variuos things,it if a persom is ill thet may recover with help or they may not,this question is too specific,it has a range of ansewers. if a person you are with has a breadown and needs your support for a while do you walk away,or are we talking physco,so wh defines it as so black and white,when its a very grey area,if for your own safety and sanity you have to walk then yes do so,but empathy in other cases may be needed yes or no?

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Warning Signs? Posted: 4/3/2007 6:04:36 AM
he is trying to be 'so busy' that you will get fed up and dump him,its the cowards way out,rather than just being honest,soory been there had it done to me!!

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GF money skills Posted: 3/24/2007 2:52:15 AM
get her to review her money skills or you will end up more like her dad than boyfreind!!i had the sme thing with my ex,he was terribble and immature.and expected me to be responsible, i ended up deeoly in debt becuase of him and still paying it of13 years later,be warned she wont just spend her money but yours too,you need to have a long talk and make har see that unless she gets a grip,it wont go forward,be warned she isnt mature and has no self control,that tells you alot about her as a person sorry it sounds harsh but its true

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After a 1st date how do you feel when your date asks???? Posted: 3/22/2007 1:22:22 AM
it isa sooooo rude,i take my phone and may take a quick call from home,but keep it short,and say exuse me,and apologise.unless its important you ignore it,and asking you if you found hi attractive,thats just stupid,what happened to asking your date question about herself,we like it when you look interested,i spent 3 hours on a date listening to man talk about hom,yawn yawn,and then kept telling me i was very beautiful,and did i fancy him,show an interest in your date guys! and i told him yo dont seem interested in me as a person,so no i dont fancy you,why dont guys make an effort no phone,good manners,and no dumb questins it makes you sound concieted,sorry letting off steam

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confidence after a aggressive Partner? Posted: 3/21/2007 5:28:58 AM
yes i have been in that situation morethan once,councelling help,but l=do some work on yourself to to repair the damage,no one should accept abuse,they are the one with the problem,but,do ask yoursel waht makes you drawn to such a man,what is it thats in you that makes you think you dont desreve better,you will always be afraid and nervous,but you will learn to deal with it,it can be done,i have done it you are not alone sadly,do trust your insticts,you cant rescue someone and make them a nice person.learn to love youself,the world is your oyster sweetie,take care

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Abusive Relationships Posted: 3/19/2007 1:33:27 AM
i am in agreament with all the ansewers here,i too hve been there,and had councelling for this,but its been hard because i still cared for this man deeply,and when he was nice it was great, thats the hard part.i was with him 6 years,but walked away in the end or i would of ended up having a breakdown,i loved him and so wanted it to stop,i thought i could heal him,but i now know you cant,he begged and pleaded with me,and that was so hard not to go back,they hook youinto theiremotional problems,it was only in the last year he got help,but it was too late,and it broke my heart to walk but i still had some pride,i am trying to get over it but you cant force it,but i try not to wallow and dwell on it either,its ashame he destroyed what we had,sadly he sees that now,i felt like an old rag doll,but therapy has helped me and it could help you,its like those blocks kids play with you just keep building them,but slowly,dont rush to mend yourself,and remember you are abeautiful wonderful woman,who has lots to offer,but first nuture yourself,even if its a new lipstick and you cant afford anything else,you are deserving and worthy.it takes time buit put you first,yhis is all just repeating what they all have said,so i wont follow your instincts,peece love and karma to you sweetie

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