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Girlflower

Joined: 3/12/2007

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Check me out, tell me what you think..... Posted: 4/20/2009 8:54:42 AM
I like the picture without the hat wearing the black t-shirt. Sound like a very smart, bright intelligent young man.. I love to sail too only there aren't too many old fogies around to participate in that activity here in Central Florida.... Anyway Soldier you sound like you have a great base to meet the ladies in your home town.. I suggest you spend time checking out the locals and limit the Internet stuff.. it can be addictive. God Bless the U.S.A. and our Armed Forces. Girlflower

Girlflower

Joined: 3/12/2007

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Single for longer than you expected? Posted: 12/24/2008 10:31:26 AM
Yes single longer than I expected to be! When first "singled" (divourced) 1988 I decided not to become serious again until I could wake up in the A.M. and find that happy girl who was wed for 16 years.. time flew by.. dated some great candidates and now it's 20 years post divource. Now when I meet someone there are whole new set of things I'm looking for in a relationship... the men have achieved thier goals in life now.. so no longer in the helpmate catagory or the requirement of motherhood (didn't do that anyway.. nanananananer) but no it is more common interests and common lifestyles that are important.. Still I meet great guys on Plenty of Fish.. love their desire to also meet thier future partners in a very unconventional manner.. and as long as I keep meeting them I'll keep coming back to the site.. haven't given up on finding Mister Right.. Happy Holidays! Girlflower

Girlflower

Joined: 3/12/2007

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Is owning a home a positive or negative? Posted: 12/12/2008 12:17:07 PM
I'm with Girldiver on the dudes wanting thier cake and eat it too. Had a really great relationhip that went phooey because I own my home.. (he has a mortgage.. yada yada) and wanted me to relocate to him... when the logistics started to come up..it went south because he wanted his cake and to eat it too.. Heck I'd be doing all the sacrificing for what? A loss on my property? I just don't meet guys who are willing to do anything more in a relationship than take you out for a drink.. fix or buy a meal.. and want sex.. there has to more than that..to make me give up my debt free home. As for a man having stability in a home... not important.. he just has to be a stable mentally sound man first and foremost. Girlflower

Girlflower

Joined: 3/12/2007

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Use it or lose it, what's your opinion? Posted: 8/28/2008 11:21:00 AM
lost it.. it's a little pink baggie thing, if you see it please send it home.....lol Over a certain age if a woman stops having sex, enjoying sex , etc it is a hormonal thing.. as for men loosing interest? Never heard of such a thing..unless they are in a coma. Even then not too sure! An old wives tale I remember is that if a woman stops having sex the vagina will fuse closed.. so it is a vital health issue for women to have some regular sex options..they Can Loose It if they Don't use it. Out here in the world... Girlflower

Girlflower

Joined: 3/12/2007

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Proper ladies don`t go out alone! Posted: 3/31/2008 1:14:44 PM
Men are different in different places.. men in Florida tend to be more self involved.. because there are sooooo many women to each man... maybe Texas wouldn't be such a bad idea except I love my beaches too much to leave Florida! Girlfower PS.. when out if you are approachable and friendly you'll meet someone.. it's all in the attitude.

Girlflower

Joined: 3/12/2007

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Proper ladies don`t go out alone! Posted: 3/30/2008 6:16:13 AM
On Point with Merry.. I used to frequent an establishment in Miami until the "Good Ol Boys" started annoying all the really nice women who did drop in for a bite and a drink after work.. pretty soon the place looked like a gay bar! Even the last time I took my Mother out for a drink (she was 80) some jerk decided to come over and start with the inference talk. If more men realized they were chasing away the objects of potential relationships with this crude behavior maybe they would see more nice women out alone. The point is it is hard for the old fashioned girl to overcome that upbringing in the first place.. they feel threatened by some man not taking the hint either be nice or leave me alone.. I've learned after 20 years of singlehood , and 16 years of being married that when I find a place to enjoy a drink.. the first thing I do is befriend the Bartenders and if possible get to know the owners.. then I feel "safe" in an establishment. When I leave if I have been bothered nothing wrong with telling them if you hear my police whistle come running.. better yet get an escort to your car! Most small business establishments want our business! They will try to make you feel comfortable and safe to keep you coming back... but if in the end you are feeling exposed and uncomfortable it is better to stay home and stand in front of a mirror and insult your own intelligence.." Hey Baby where you been all my life" works wonders in front of my mirror...lol.. never go out when you are feeling even the slightest insecurities.. men smell that and come on like a pack of wolves. Men take a hint.. women are more than sexual objects. Maybe take the time to chat them up about something else other than how horney you are and you just might get a girlfriend.... Same goes for sending notes to women online... most of the emails I receive I could classify as another form of Indecent Phone Call.. same goes for most men's approach to women they see out alone.. Keep that talk till later when you finally are alone in a compromising situation.. but until then show some respect... otherwise even at this age I might Sic My Big Brothers on you! I take a lot of flack for my attitudes but truthfully do the men really want a longterm relationship with any woman who's allowed men to treat her that way? I still believe they want a woman who respects herself.. and has the morals to go along with being a "nice woman". Fire away.. Girlflower Alone and still looking for my Prince..and know a frog when I meet one!

Girlflower

Joined: 3/12/2007

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battling mid life bulge! Posted: 3/15/2008 9:33:58 PM
Found a way to beat mid life bulge.. do chair crunches... hands behind your head in a sitting position and crunch your tummy... twists also help reduce the waist line... if you don't believe me.. try it.. next day you're going to feel the results. Your waist line in inches reflects your heart attack factor.. so if anything work on it ladies and gentle men... it could mean a healthier life not so much for feeling more attactive.. and lastly stay away from the booze... if you want to see some real results. jmho Girlflower 58 and still wear the same size I did in high school.

Girlflower

Joined: 3/12/2007

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Giving or Asking for soneone's phone number... Posted: 2/6/2008 5:53:54 AM
I've found that giving out your number helps weed out the "crazies"... If in the first few minutes of telephone conversation you find the person hard to talk to... well it's not going to get any better in person.. might be even more difficult ... I dislike people who shout their opinions over your thoughts.. try to control a conversation with religion, politics.. yada yada.. and if they can't get a laugh out of me on the phone.. don't think the personality will change in the near future... I'm of the era when giving your number out was no big deal... ! A date for coffee or a drink is a date.. when did it become a life commitment? I have yet to meet someone from online without an exchange of phone numbers.. have you? Even if it is for safety purposes.. get their number.. I have yet had a man say.. Wow she sent me her number to call.. what a (blank) most are relieved that this hurtle is over with!!! Yes I've had a stalker.. it was a pain in the butt for a few days, a price you sometimes have to pay. But in the long run I've talked to many nice guys... some I met and some just were not for me.. and some I've just said thanks for calling we are not meant to be... better than wasting gasoline and the time and effort put into meeting them.... Girlflower

Girlflower

Joined: 3/12/2007

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Why are you staring? Posted: 1/30/2008 5:18:14 AM
Google the old song.. "I can't take my eyes off of you" ... then you will understand staring by a man... It can be very disconcerting when a man does this to a woman.. especially if he is very insistant and does not allow her to "check him out" too. So guys give her a break to sneak a look back... she just may like you too! Like the song from Gypsy... Some people got it.. and make it pay and some people can't even give it away, some people... if your one of the lucky one's who's got It then you've experienced the "stare" since puberty... enjoy it girls... it's when the guys become Locker room boys and act like total idiots that makes a woman.. run the other direction... Most women hate the mob mentality of a group of post adolescents acting like a bunch of babboons.... Girlflower

Girlflower

Joined: 3/12/2007

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Marriage vs. Living Together - your views and why? Posted: 1/30/2008 4:53:00 AM
Easygoing that is one one my most favorite quotes from a friend in Miami.. he was on his third divorce and it starts with every 7 years find a woman you hate and buy her a house instead. Our greeting was Me: Do you hate me yet? lol!!! I think living together takes the bloom off the rose... was discussing this with a male friend last night over dinner... guess what he didn't like my attitude ? lol... I'm not about ready to do a mans laundry.. clean up after him day after day without that little ring through his nose... there is such a thing as voluntary servitude... Men have a way of taking a woman for granted after the bloom has gone... that is why so many live together then marrieds don't work.... it is a fact that most fail because all the excitement of finally being together is gone.. Men and women want that little bit of mystery... Sure date for as long as it takes ladies... spend a lot of time together but have your own place.. where he knows he can be told "not tonight".... I might even be a proponent fo not living together after marriage..... !!! As long as a comitment to being faithful has been established it is a matter of trust we all bring to a relationship.. Different strokes for different folks... Girlflower

Girlflower

Joined: 3/12/2007

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Marriage vs. Living Together - your views and why? Posted: 1/29/2008 6:48:33 AM
handsm5... spoken like a true man... all men want to live together... maybe if it were set out on a time limit... because a woman always looses in the process of living together... we all know that woman have a shorter period to find an available mate and if she stops looking and puts herself off the market by living with a man.. she is limiting her ability to meet an appropriate mate... men win in the living together thing... a wise woman knows this... just like a wise woman knows that dating at her job.. she looses in the end... her reputation etc.... Girl's if you are living together seeking marriage.... put your foot down, put a time limit on how long this dude is going to get a free trial!!!! Even better make it clear that if it doesn't work out towards the goal of marriage in three months it's time to move on! My father told me one time that if a man doesn't propose in the first three to five months he will never marry you!!!!! Men still think in terms of why buy the cow when the milk is so cheap! ... My come back is.. why buy the pig when all you want is the sausage... lol!!!! Personally I believe at this stage of the game.. your place or mine... and how about Thursday Night ...lol!!!! Very French.... no "free" drawers in my house!!! Girlflower

Girlflower

Joined: 3/12/2007

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Enough Harley Crap!!!!!!!!!!!! Posted: 1/24/2008 5:42:09 AM
Raiderfan18.. at least those dudes want to have a life after 40! I was thinking about the subject of Harley's and somehow the name Gig Young came to mind.. when I was 18 he played the batchelor about town in movies.. he always had a bevy of young pretty ladies around and he had some fantasic apartment he lived in.. a real man about town...lol! So maybe the guys in my age group are having a sense memory of those youthful movies play in their heads.. As for the sporty car... yep guys are into the convertibles too.. only they look more "snaky" these days, kind of like too many disco chains and Neru Jackets from the 70's hold over days.. when they gave up their freedom to become breadwinners... lol! There is nothing wrong about trying to capture some our youth.. at least some folks haven't forgotten how to "feel" young.. and for the wannabes... in a few years they will be bragging about their longest ride.. the trails they have followed.. and the dreams they have achieved.. while the guy who's a stick in the mud.. will be still stuck in the mud.. Not every lady is seeking a Harley Rider.. but you must admit there may be a few things you desire in a mate that puts him in a class of his own... if you aren't I feel so sorry for you... a non-conformist male.. out of the box type is so much more fun than a knife and fork man who's only desire is to eat, sleep, work, read a newspaper, watch sports on the teevee... and drag life down to the most boring level... Our opinion poser seems to have taken a powder on his gripe.. oh and become a griper,lol! Girlflower

Girlflower

Joined: 3/12/2007

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Mature Woman Posted: 1/23/2008 12:52:35 PM
Mature Women know with their Mature Hearts.. if they want sex.. then by golly they can have it anytime.(no problem).. it is a sign of self-worth for a woman not to just hump anything that comes along.. and just because she turns it down doesn't mean she doesn't enjoy it! Now for Broward... When did sex die in your relationship? I bet it was a nanosecond after the first time you took your lady for granted... any woman who's been ignored as being an intergral important partner.. will turn off a man with a blink of an eye! So be careful in how you treat your ladies or you'll find yourself without one! Sexual attraction stops when the parties stop treating each other well... why would anyone.. man or woman want to have sex with a partner who is demanding... instead of wooing a partner... sex is not an "act" .... it must mean more than just a performance.. or guys.. if that's all it is to you.. go stick it in a light socket.. I've had my heart torn out by inconsiderate men who thought the "had" me.. and I go poof... I disappear into the vapors because I refuse to be taken for Granted!!! Talk about killjoys...! No amount of talking about it will repair the harm done by an absent hearted man!!! A mature woman.. knows when to keep her jeans on.. and that she choose.. not him!!!! So the guys who dislike or hate mature women so much... stop advertising and leave the bandwidth open for the men who do understand women.. If I sleep with you doesn't mean I LUV you...lol!!! Girlflower

Girlflower

Joined: 3/12/2007

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Time To Date? How do we get it???? Posted: 1/23/2008 12:05:31 PM
kitkat47 you should be only looking for dates that will devote time to YOUR lifestyle not the other way around! I find so many men out there who are selfish and want a woman to kowtow to them and are not willing to give an inch to joining a womans world... Be picky.. pick men who know how hard you work and understand your time constraints.. if the one's you meet online don't understand that them pass on them.. Good Luck your Man About the House is Out there!!! Girlflower

Girlflower

Joined: 3/12/2007

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Single and just date or committed and living together? OVER 40 please Posted: 1/22/2008 4:41:16 AM
revisiting some threads I missed... I recently had a chat online with a fellow from another state and we discussed living together... it made me wonder about the subject since I've only lived under two men's roofs.. My fathers and my ex-husbands... it's strange when so many people accept "living together" as the norm these days because when Iwas growing up it was unacceptable to live together until you were married... I still believe that a woman looses in the "living together" situation because she is taking herself off the market to meet new people who are willing to commit to marriage... not so much the moral issue anymore it's a matter of giving up your autonomy and basing your life on a lie... that you are somehow in a committed relationship just because you are so called "living together" better off just dating.. his place or mine until a man shows his colors... then if he isn't interested in marriage at least his moving out of your life.. is simpler and less complicated.. JMHO.. Girlflower

Girlflower

Joined: 3/12/2007

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Enough Harley Crap!!!!!!!!!!!! Posted: 1/22/2008 4:23:55 AM
Miss BellaLinda.. you have a point on seeking the non-Harley interested girls... but the man lives in an area of Florida that has a huge population bike riders! And the ladies here are used to a man who has some toy.. bike, boat, kayak..etc. If he is a poo poo on this subject imagine how he must be in daily life... anyway We're just south of Daytona Beach.. and on the route the riders take every year to have a scenic ride... He's missing out on some great socializing by taking a negative stance on riding. Maybe if he spent a Friday Night at the Harley Davidson Dealership he'd change his mind... great food, music and cheritable events.. not just another bike sale.. but a community activity... I don't own a bike but.. if a man has one and is experienced in riding I don't turn down the opportunity to gently swing my leg over the back.. place my hands high and ride the wind... at 55 I took my first ride..lol... and the neighbors saw me and my date taking off to meet a group for breakfast then a nice daytrip on the river.. and I got the nickname broombroom...lol now at 58 .. have learned never say never.. the OP should try it... I know recently I had a "date" and I drove him around my town after lunch to show him around.. we drove passed a place that has outdoor music on Sundays.. just happens to be a place the riders stop and mingle.. well his remark was he had nothing in common with biker drunks yada yada.. well knowing that the majority of riders would never drink and ride..and as for not having anything in common.. they all seem to be normal people to me.. My view is just because you go in a bar.. doen't mean you HAVE TO drink.. there is always a soda! I told the guy I'd pass... he wasn't the type I was seeking... no sense of adventure.. or openness (sic spelling police,lol) to life... This guy has issues he really needs to deal with... before they plant him...it's not the biker issue... it's a life issue! Girlflower

Girlflower

Joined: 3/12/2007

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Speed Dating for Seniors Posted: 1/21/2008 12:35:11 PM
As for trying a "live" service I joined a singles group after my divorce.. the group was called re-entering the singles world after a long relationship. It was run by a Matchmaker in Coral Gables, Fl. Great group of people and I truly felt I had met my match.. even though his first name was the same as ol what's his face.. I gave him a nickname because I couldn't say his name without a snarl in my voice....lol.. but the sad fact was the matchmaker didn't inform me that the man was seperated...... and during his courting me.. I got a hinky feeling and asked straight out.. are you living at home again..(this was after three months of dating).. he said he was occasionally sleeping on the sofa because they had small children (I was a bit heartbroken).. I told him his estranged bride deserved better and dumped him...needless to say I left the singles group to re-group... she did eventually hire me to assist her with the socials but I never have or would trust someone else to "arrange my heart" again.. Sometime after that I worked for Great Expectations in PR.. chatting up people in Malls for the group... great entre' to meeting new people.... Guess I've been single longer than internet dating...lol...how did all my dating really start???? Well my mom unbeknownst to me was writing guys in the personal ads to fix me up!!! I came home on a Friday Night and she told some guy was going to call me.. she had given out my number!!!! The guy called and was so crude... I laid down the law that Mom was to stay out of my love life from then on... It doesn't mean that speed dating or a match maker is not going to work for someone else.. but for me I'll pass on the meat market approach and only allow my very trusted friends "set me up" again. Lived and learned.. and seen it all as single woman... somethings work for some folks and somethings just kind of got to happen I guess.. I'm the it better be there first.. like I spy him and feel the lust first...lol!!!!! Then chase him until he's caught me! Girlflower

Girlflower

Joined: 3/12/2007

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Enough Harley Crap!!!!!!!!!!!! Posted: 1/20/2008 6:57:16 AM
a little more.. Harley's are okay but I'm more the Goldwing type at this age.. and the Goldwing Clubs are more geared to our age group! Harrah Sunday meet at Earl's.. Rotf!! Girlflower

Girlflower

Joined: 3/12/2007

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Enough Harley Crap!!!!!!!!!!!! Posted: 1/20/2008 6:49:01 AM
seekerinwonder.. just buck up and buy yourself a Harley lol!!!.. afterall I live in this area and know it is Motorbiker's heaven...... for once join the crowd! You may just love what you learn from stepping out of your comfort zone....! Maybe you're chicken and afraid to ride the wind... try renting a bike... I know a potential convert when I hear one... Me thinks thou doest protest too much.. Girlflower

Girlflower

Joined: 3/12/2007

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Speed Dating for Seniors Posted: 1/20/2008 6:09:20 AM
Speed Dating for Seniors.. is that an oxymoron ? LOL.. I'd never attend a wholesale auction of people... personally would rather go bar hopping and senior center diving...rotf! ..... OMG.... I find the whole speed dating idea repulsive. Musical Chairs went out of fashion a long time ago... Try being yourself for 3 minutes at a time with some new face jumping in front of you... It is as close to a brothel situation any decent woman may ever come to.. lining up and being checked out and selected... yikes and they are paying the man instead... It is a demeaning way for people to meet.. better like the POF functions I've attended.. you go mingle, meet new people..both sexes in a Social Atmosphere... Personally a tooth pulling ranks higher on my list of great ideas than speed dating. Save your money for the next POF singles cruise gang.. Girlflower

Girlflower

Joined: 3/12/2007

Msg: 103 (view)

why do men get so bent out of shape when a woman says no thanks? Posted: 1/20/2008 5:05:07 AM
older and wiser woman here.... if a man takes it badly that you have siad/sent a polite thanks but no thanks.. and proceeds to berate you.. Well Honey..Tell Him to Go Get Bent! LOL.. men in my generation know that means go to blue blazes... as for them wanting to talk dirty sex with you .. sweetheart that is called verbal rape... never feel you must justify talking or not talking about sex just because a man wants too.... he's getting off on the discussion just by your protest on where the conversation is going.. without your consent to open the subject... and if a man keeps harping on you this and you that... count your lucky stars he's not a permanenet fixture in your life... he's a potentially dangerous man who is always pointing his finger out and blaming the victim... being the victim to verbal assault.. a harangue... insults is not why we and any decent person has joined this site.... and the best defense is to report an abuser to the moderators... then put the SOB on BLOCK! No matter a persons..anything description we all have the right to be treated with respect.... and I applaud you for telling a man he's not right for you.. and yes some people don't have that courtesy.. but it's not in the manner we are rejected it is how we take the rejection... Take it like a man... or a woman... but accept that not all of us are someone's elses cup of tea. Girlflower

Girlflower

Joined: 3/12/2007

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Maybe It's A Smoking/Distance, Etc. Thing Posted: 1/19/2008 8:27:41 AM
hey.. does size matter? lol.. maybe we should have a preference choice on that! Rotf.. I've had too many dates with fishes who sat there and were judge and jury... so weeding out by preference is a good idea... last time.. was a guy who was non-religious on his profile and the first phone call was all about G-D... and it was his G-D..only.!!. to the point he was practically yelling over any conversation lecturing me.. needless to say.. I said thank you for calling.. but one of my criteria is no.. argueing.. especially about something as personal as a religious choice... I'm back from dating hiatus... and have rethought the whole thing... if it bothers me right from the beginning.. I know it will only bother me more and more as time goes on.. What ever happened to men who were trying to make a good first impression... lately I think men over 45 think well if she will stand for this rude behavior, maybe she's the one for me... so maybe rude or considerate might be a good preference choice...lol! Added to smokers vs non-smokers, distance.. height, weight.. Girlflower getting cranky with all this BS!!

Girlflower

Joined: 3/12/2007

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Maybe It's A Smoking/Distance, Etc. Thing Posted: 1/19/2008 6:23:03 AM
I read the guys profile before responding to any emails... if he is not a smoker.. I restate that I am.. if he doesn't drink.. I ask him, Why? As for distance been there done that! Traveled a couple of time across the state to functions with the purpose of meeting people I had met online... pretty safe way to meet someone who doesn't live close by... long distance is not for me... As for the men.. I would never kowtow to a man regarding my life style choices.. I learned a long time ago that if someone is trying to change me... it means only one thing.. they didn't like me in the first place....! So as far as the men being picky... guess I am too... why should I waste my time and energy on someone who is not looking for who I am and what I offer.... I smoke in my home and if a non-smoker doesn't like it... Well they can go Outside...lol! A funny thing this morning... I saw a man's profile on another site and he states he doesn't drink but smokes.. then I see him here on POF stating he drinks and doesn't smoke.. Which is it???? Aaah men they are hard to figure out... right? Just knowing who I am and what I won't change for love is half the battle... Girlflower

Girlflower

Joined: 3/12/2007

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Is this a normal lifestyle for a 65 year old? Posted: 1/17/2008 10:22:37 AM
I'm with Jana60 on this.. I still want to have fun.. at 58 my dating range in this general area.. 58-99 lol! I read... and watch "teevee" online.. but not into sports as a fanatic.. especially laying on the sofa watching them.. I would rather go out and be part of a crowd or scene that is watching... (pub or staduim) . We could go bowling or play darts or anything other than being vegetables... got a long time ahead to be one of those and don't want to waste my time.. sitting at home... all the time. Now I can't say much about 65 year olds and sex.. haven't tried one yet..lol... but I think if they are still interested.. it wouldn't be a morning only thing...lol! At least with me around.... I do know that men at this stage of life are "into" their thing if they are single and less inclined to adjust their lives to accomodate a woman... they from my experience seem to think we women need to just drop our lives at a moments notice to accomodate them.. or they POUT!!!! And, Pouting is not on my list of desired traits in a mate.... Girlflower

Girlflower

Joined: 3/12/2007

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Weird First Date gifts Posted: 1/16/2008 4:10:24 PM
Well in America most men do not bring a gift or flowers to a lady on a first date.. and usually they send flowers only when they've declared themselves... but in other countries it is common to bring the lady a small token gift and if she is still living at home a gift for her mother as well.. I still have a callibri lighter given as a gift way back when .. those momentos bring back memories of when I was young and beautiful... alas now old and not so bad...lol.. As a southern lady I never say take back a gift... especially if the man has brought me a card... a card is a nice way to tell someone on a first date that you are happy to have met them... and the lady can put it in her purse... can't do that with flowers... The Emily Post of Old Fashioned Dating...lol! Girlflower

Girlflower

Joined: 3/12/2007

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Weird First Date gifts Posted: 1/16/2008 11:47:29 AM
All I can say is.. he was listneing to you!How rare that he made a note of your lipstick brand and color.... maybe he only wanted to watch you apply it for him... heh heh heh....lol! Weird first date gifts.... perfume.. and a box of chocolates... The perfume was Diorissimo , Godiva Chocolates.. the man had Class!!!! So does your lipstick man... Girlflower

Girlflower

Joined: 3/12/2007

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My Joke Thread. Posted: 1/16/2008 9:04:38 AM
My Living Will! Last night my friend and I were sitting in the den and I said to her, 'I never want to live in a vegetative state, dependent on some machine and fluids from a bottle to keep me alive. That would be no quality of life at all, If that ever happens, just pull the plug.' So she got up, unplugged the computer, and threw out my wine. She's such a ****.

Girlflower

Joined: 3/12/2007

Msg: 38 (view)

Is this a normal lifestyle for a 65 year old? Posted: 1/16/2008 6:39:13 AM
I won't use the word "Normal" but maybe he is the norm.... the last so many dates I've had have been with BORING Guys like this... they haven't even read the newspaper in years... and are adamant in not wanting to know what's up in the world... I like structure in a relationship but I also want a partner who is willing to step out of his comfort zone and let his hair (hahaha if he still has any) down, too.... We all don't have to be activity junkies... but it is great when you can say let's run over to blah blah and have a drink and people watch... Your guy is only missing one thing... the dirt they are going to pile on him sooner than later! You are too young and vital to waste your time.. sitting on the sofa every night.. with a bag of fritos and a dip next to you.... I'd tell him to get with your program a little.. tell him your doing something.. tell him you want his company.. and if he keeps this attitude.. dump his lazy boring arz...... 58 here.. not ready for a boring guy.. looking for a "normal" Active... Happy, energetic 58 - 99 year old.....lol! Let's scare the locals is my motto in life! Girlflower on dating Hiatus... can you tell why????

Girlflower

Joined: 3/12/2007

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was i being childish? Posted: 1/16/2008 4:26:47 AM
CJ.. said it all! As for getting on with your life.. I wouldn't hide out from the friends we had together or stop going to the places he may be at... grow up!! Like he really cares? Had something akin to what happened to you happen to me years ago.. he was in the reserves and told me he had to do his weekend warrior stuff.. , me being the good little girlfriend I never went out on the town without my man.. but when some girlfriends said let's have a girls night out.. well we walked into the local pub we all played at.. and wow he was sitting there with another women... I quietly walked up to her and introduced myself and remarked how amazing he was for being able to be in two places at the same time... you know what.. she said.. oh you are so in so..... I've known about you for years!.... Well I calmly walked back to my friends.. and stayed and spent some more time (no didn't have fun) just to show him he couldn't hurt me!!! Needless to say he would still come around to see my mom.. thinking she was going to make it right between us... but I told her he'd better not be around when I drove up cuz wasn't going to guarantee he wouldn't be road kill... lol! Anyway.. get on with your life, stop allowing him to control you... he doesn't even think about you anymore.. and your revenge is to do the same...live and learn..isn't that what we are for? Girlflower

Girlflower

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Msg: 76 (view)

Do you enjoy DANCING for a 1st Date? Posted: 1/16/2008 3:57:13 AM
I enjoy dancing anytime... one of my questions I as my potential male friends is .. do you like to dance? and then I try to get them somewhere.. and I ask them to dance.. if they say not now.. no, maybe later well baby I know the guys is not for me... and he is history! In my family my folks took the time to teach us how to dance.. chacha, samba, waltz.. lindy, and my personal all time favorite.. lol holding onto the doorknob doing rock n roll!!! anyone else remember dancing with the door????? rotf! I love a man who can relax in public.. and just dance.. even if it is swaying to the music... dancing has and also will be a social skill I look for in a mate... as for the first date.. where is he? let's go shake it up baby... we can always "talk" later. Girlflower on dating hiatus PS.. I have a great belly dancing cd.... the finger drum solo is sooooo hot!

Girlflower

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Msg: 457 (view)

Do you think there should be laws against people who trick you into sexual encounters! Posted: 1/15/2008 4:51:10 AM
LOL...ROTF... We have Pre-marital Agreements these days.. draft up a Pre-Sexual Agreement.. for all those airheads who leap into bed with the smooth talkers... that will weed the Dogs.. and Barracudas out fast... Didn't Meatloaf sing a song about sex... Will you love me forever? Yada yada.. Or Maybe an agreement not to tell the other partner they were really bad in the sack! If broken and retold to someone else.. penalty ... no sex for X amount of time for you!!! LOL!!! So if you have doubts about someones sincerity.. make them aware of it and be open.. before I do this, you must sign this.. or else no nookie and if you aren't good to me, well baby it's gonna cost you!!!!! ROTF>>> OMG! Girlflower

Girlflower

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Msg: 124 (view)

Am I to conservative? Posted: 1/14/2008 4:14:59 PM
Picky picky picky... YES.. you are way to critical and picky... .. not on the points your require in a good mate they are all very good qualities to look for in your match.. BUT... sound so bitter and angry at women in general.... Now that is a quality I put on my Do Not Disturb My List!!! Lighten Up Man... lol! She's out there bit you've got to give her a chance... Girlflower on Dating Hiatus

Girlflower

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Msg: 19 (view)

Dating and caring for a parent. Posted: 1/14/2008 2:27:15 PM
abby156... I can symphasize completely with you having been through the same thing with my own Mother. First of all.. don't put your life on hold... call her doctor and ask for help! You need relief to be able to function... I know it sounds selfish but it is not... after spending 10 years doing and going through what you are going through.. you'll only waste the little YOUTHFUL time you have to meet someone to move on your life with! I wasted 10 years from 45-55 working full time.. taking care of her home and my own alone... and in the end I was left totally alone... abandoned by her sons who never even bothered to call her twice a year... Don't put yourself in my shoes... get on with your life.. I helped a neighbor girlfriend after I moved to this town.. her Mom has alzheimers and she was struggling alone.. no help also from siblings.. she got her mother the care she needed and in 5 months was remarried... I believe if she had stayed in the situation she'd still be trapped in her mothers old house bemoaning her plight.. but she has moved on to a happier life... As for myself.. I now struggle financially because I was constantly using my wages to support my mother.. at 59.. still have a problem opening up my life to someone new... Please Don't Wait!!!! Don't feel Guilty! You're doing and have done your best! Sometimes it takes a stranger to tell you.. You are Worth More in this Life than what you are being PUT Upon to do.. Go and enjoy your life... Girlflower

Girlflower

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Are Women Intimidated By Attractive Men? Posted: 1/13/2008 7:09:31 AM
"But seriously, i am sure plenty of great looking guys are just as interested in less than knock out women as they are in supermodel types....as a matter of fact, who wants to deal with all the other guys chasing her and her prissy attitude?" Wow that wasn't nice....lol! What about the guys who think they are G-ds gift to women too!!!! Telling you how lucky you are to be going out with them!!!???? Girl's never go out with a guy who is prettier than you are... that's my motto....! Girlflower No one's chasing me.. because I'm not chase-able.... On dating histus..

Girlflower

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Msg: 124 (view)

Central Florida! Where are you? (Orlando, Lakeland,Daytona) Posted: 1/13/2008 5:57:29 AM
gonna get in trouble chatting in a formum.. lol ... Yes I've tried to get the locals involved a few times but they all seem to be hiding under their beds..lol! Went to Lakeland last June.. what a bash that was.... I'm the classof hippy on hoo site..lol... Girlflower

Girlflower

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Msg: 122 (view)

Central Florida! Where are you? (Orlando, Lakeland,Daytona) Posted: 1/12/2008 2:06:35 AM
Hey Jude.... lol... Anytime you want to come on over and visit Earl's Hideaway... great biker bar... You're more than welcome.. would love to have a GF to go catting around with.. Girlflower

Girlflower

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Income tells me noting....how much DEBT do you have? Posted: 1/11/2008 10:10:24 AM
Not only are men concerned about a woman's spending habits ... women are also concerned about a mans.... Not high maintenance here.. do my own hair and nails yada yada.. prefer maybe a night out for a drink every so often to hear music and see people.. but not into fancy schmacy too much....did that as a youngin... lol! Dated a fellow a few years ago, divorced three times.. he was a nice guy but finally it got on my nerves he had I want-ta-itus all the time.. boat not big enough, motorcycle too old... need this need that ... I finally told him why he was divorced... none of his professional former wives could afford him! (He was still pining over the Doctor who got away)... anyway there are a lot of men looking for a roost with a lady too! Goes both ways! Girlflower

Girlflower

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Income tells me noting....how much DEBT do you have? Posted: 1/11/2008 8:26:15 AM
I know if my finances are not in a row... I just do not try to involve anyone in my life until they are back in line... Being self-employed is a strain.. but not owing anyone anything of a personal nature is more important to me... My Ex.. what's his name... was in business for himself and lost a few of them but ultimately finances were never the cause of our breakup.... it was religion.. his fervent rabid conversion to Buddhism.. that did us in! lol! I truly believe if you have financial troubles before you meet someone it will effect the relationship eventually... maybe I'm just too independent to allow anyone into that realm of my life at this stage.... so finances are in the "none of your business" catagory... just to say.. I'm conservative on the spending is enough. Girlflower

Girlflower

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In Memorial to SouthFloridaDude Posted: 1/11/2008 7:46:03 AM
Dove didn't have the fortune to have met him but from his profile he was a sweet wonderful guy... do you know if his skydiving photos were taken here in Sebastian? If so you may like to take the time to send a note to Skydive Sebastian.. they can make a memorial jump in his name... sooooo sad... Girlflower

Girlflower

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Msg: 120 (view)

Central Florida! Where are you? (Orlando, Lakeland,Daytona) Posted: 1/11/2008 7:37:38 AM
Sebastian (Deadbastian) here... that's just north of Vero Beach (Zero Beach) and south of Melbourne (Mebored!) Next you all get together in Olando or close by let me know!!! Girlflower PS: or better yet why not make a happening at Captain Hiram's here in Sebastian.. Terrific Place... and we even have a skydiving center that knows how to partay!!!!

Girlflower

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Msg: 164 (view)

When should the woman start paying?? Posted: 1/11/2008 7:02:05 AM
Once again into the fray! Older and wiser woman here... don't make a date with a man you cannot afford to walk away from with your head held high! Your dignity is priceless! As for the men who have responded.. jarl-in-pcola is a true Gentleman in every sense of the word.. he is the exact type on man you would want to spend your future with... sigh too young for moi'.... (I know your kids are the most important "thing" in your life.. but in a profile it kind of is telling a woman she's going to be second place... maybe change that to I love my kids with all my heart! and there are soo cool!, lol!) I still advocate small inexpensive dates.. after all it means you can go out more often! One big night versus... Pizza versus Tacos.. nevermind it is the person you are getting to know.. even a day at the fleamarket or a walk through an art gallery.. a coffee at a book store.. or meet me at the beach.. with the sodas is still a date! If a man wanted me to re-imburse him for a soda... it would be the last time I'd see him! I think the worse "cheap" date I ever had was the one who was asked if he wanted a drink at an free outdoor concert, said no.. and proceeded never to consider it again.. and sat there and enjoyed the music and dancing for a few HOURS and didn't spend a dime... an establishment is open for business... not freeloaders... so at least break out and buy a soda...lol! Ladies if ever in that position.. go up buy yourself a drink.. flirt with every dude around.. and take your time returning to the table... better yet.. find another way home... cheap cheap cheap... creep creep creep... is for the birds on a date! A different generation here! Girlflower on dating hiatus!

Girlflower

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Msg: 75 (view)

It's the cell phone or me !!! Posted: 1/9/2008 4:55:39 AM
Mo not all 20 year olds have bad phone manners... Cellphone date nightmares.. 1st date.. daughter calls talks our first 20 minutes.. 3 minutes later son calls.. this one seems endless... no apologies.. nada.. Note to self no dates anymore with guys with late teen and younger 20 something kids... Second.. really was liking this guy but on the third date two different women called... 1st just a friend.. I can accept a man had a female friend.. but the second one was a psycho stalker type he had to gossip and tell me all about her.. Says he forgot something in his vehicle... (I take his phone away and say go...) well needless to say I said Adios when he came back! And handed him his plastic girlfriend... Cellphones.. unless life and death on a date are RUDE!!!!! If a cellphone call is that important.. more important than being "with" the person who has taken time to meet you.. then I suggest stop dating people cause you're already in love with the Phone!!! Not Romancing the Phone! Girlflowe on dating hiatus

Girlflower

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Does Family Matter? Posted: 1/9/2008 3:53:21 AM
So many wonderful answers. I now know a group of people I'd love to meet and mingle with. Dang ladies why are you not taken are all men fools? No, they are our sweet, endearing Tommys who speaks for all men... the truth for us I believe we women are meeting a future of long conversations and men are thinking of a future of intoxicating bedroom acrobatics.. and neither has to do with how we were raised. They are just the differences between the sexes.... Dating has become a listening and learning experience for me. People watching was always a sport I played in airports. Next time a man asks me to explain why my father was in Viet Nam, my mother was in Beirut, my oldest brother was in Korea, my middle brother was in Berlin and I was in Madrid... I'll tenderly stroke his hand in my most diplomatic voice say... Please pass the sweet and sour pork.. (old joke) and allow the question to pass over my head... lol! Then look deeply into his eyes and lick my lips... aaah the moment of danger has passed...lol! We ladies have learned from this converation that for men it's not the upbringing at all.. it is the sex appeal that matters most.. very important information to be filed away for any future male to Girlflower encounters... lol! But I do believe listening is another sex organ.. for males it is to be heard.. for women it is to hear... Now do we always want to hear...and listen.. what another is telling us about their lives. I know quite a few marriages that broke up because families got in the way.. a woman who was not willing to move away from family... a man who is still overly attached to his mother and others.. children launched successfully or they have come home to roost again... so many variables in this thing we call The Mating Game. I guess for me the questions should be.. 1. Did you have a happy childhood? 2. Did you play sports in school? 3. Why did you choose your career? and the winner of them all.. 4. How many times have you been married? I still believe the first question leads on and answers of them all.... let's begin the bequine.. Thank you Girlflower I'll be back after I practice my eyelash fluttering... rotf... must remember the eye drops for that wide open eye look....! Please pass me that push up bra.. anyone seen my fishnet stockings....rotf.... laughing to the coffee pot...

Girlflower

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Does Family Matter? Posted: 1/8/2008 2:50:06 PM
celebrtlife.. thanks I was almost at a loss at what to talk about in a meeting... No Politics, No Religion, Never Money, and read in forums men get bugged if asked what they do. Was afraid the typical question in Florida is... how long have you lived here.. and where did you move from. was now taboo. I know that men and most people tell me the strangest things.. guess I have one of those faces. But when they reciprocate and ask me.. well.. I guess that's for me to know and you to find out later.. if I'm hearing correctly...lol! A very funny opener has been a man telling me he has two cars, two motorcycles.. has two of everything except women... well.. what else was I supposed to say.. Is that What Your Looking For? I'll pass.. and laughed... Even though some people have expressed that they are adults now.. or that it was way back then I believe that the basics we were brought up with stay with us as long as we live.... Maybe the next date I'll open and ask if they have any famous criminals in their family line... now that would leave their mouth hanging open... Right after the man asks me why I do not have children.. and give a forum type response.. None of Your Business.. If I'm interested in a person I want to know about them.. lol... might even want to see their baby pictures... Girlflower

Girlflower

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Does Family Matter? Posted: 1/8/2008 12:09:34 PM
Now didn't want to sound snooty... ouch... just did not live in the States for many years as a kid (7-22 yrs old) .. we were just kids too.. only in different languages. I myself have a sort of envy of people who know their extended families.. mine was a small family of five.. Dad would get an assignment a poof we were off to another country for a few years..having to rebuild friends and school relationships all over again. We called It living straddle culture.. one foot in America and one foot wherever we were stationed. Just the last two dates.. the first fellow announced in the first two minutes he was adopted.. and the next guy I met made a big (and rightly so) deal about where he attended college. And practically screamed.. "Where did you go to college!" when we were just discussing some technology I used to do as a corporate trainer... I felt like ducking under the table on that one... I love meeting new people.. I look for the inner person... my goal in life is to be the old lady in the hut that my neighbors walk by and say good day to... It is just that I see so many people.. seeking outward signs of beauty and was wondering if they also looked at the compatability of their lives too.... and if it mattered... Afterall what does it have to do with the price of Fish if you speak several languages badly...lol! I'm 58.. Girlflower in dating hiatus. Rethinking this whole thing...lol!

Girlflower

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Does Family Matter? Posted: 1/8/2008 11:15:43 AM
I've met a few terrific guys online... but I know nothing of their upbringing and family life.. I am a product of my family... I was wondering for men as well as the ladies when you go out on a date do you ask about how they grew up? I grew overseas and it takes a pretty sophisticated person to understand.. yes I have the values of the girl next door.. but I also played in the Trevi Fountain the day after I graduated High School... lol! Still I meet so many nice people online.. I don't make a big deal of my traveling family life.. but I see my date having a hard time connecting to throwing water balloons out of a Turkish Hotel Room and splashing a cop! lol... or the years in boarding school in Spain.... So when you meet someone.. are you interested in their whole life or just that moment..? Is it just attraction or maybe it is upbringing that brings people together? Food for thought and discussion... Girlflower on Dating Hiatus

Girlflower

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deep interest or stalker? Posted: 1/8/2008 10:26:04 AM
I think this guy is trolling for responses ladies... his "profile" or non profile.. no pic .. no info nada.... If he is for real... I recall a book about a lady who killed her Hawaiian Airlines Pilot husband a few years ago. (she married him for the cheap airfare tickets) . you state you enjoy the outdoors and are into Aviation.. you just may have that girl contacting you.. it is time she was out again! Gorlflower on dating hiatus..

Girlflower

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Msg: 139 (view)

When should the woman start paying?? Posted: 1/8/2008 3:56:30 AM
Well you've been out on three .. albeit expensive dates.. up to a hundred bucks and state she drinks quite a bit of the money... has she offered a home cooked meal or anything in return (concert tickets.. sports tickets, etc.) ? The two of you should know something about each others jobs and lifestyles by now.. and if she is still totally unaware of your circumstances it shows a total lack of maturity on her part...and a basic selfishness on her part. At this stage in your budding relationship the "going out" the boogie part should start slowing down to a more about getting to know you than partying....! I think she is a very young 20 something.. not ready to make a commitment to anything but a Friday Night out for fun... I'd put it on the line to her.. before I get into another "date" with her drinking away your paycheck. Time to stay home for a while and invite friends over for group dinners and a little charades or dancing in the livingroom! If the finances are short.. everyone brings their own bottle.. a covered dish.. you supply the mixers.. sodas etc... time to get out of the restuarant and bars and find out if you do have some things in common.... this way you overcome the who pays stuff and find out if she really is into you or just out for fun and games.. because the next time you're out she may just take off with another guy who will continue her play... leaving you with a hundred dollar tab! YMHO Girlflower

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Broken heart for a different reason..... Posted: 1/8/2008 2:18:55 AM
I'm waiting to see some of the single parents jump on this thread. The kids you describe grow up and become the workplace clique that will be bullying this current working generation as OF's in the workplace in a few years. As a mature adult in the working world I have been the recipient of their mean spirit. It was not fun.. and my chant became.. Outwit, Outlast and Outplay (love Survivor for that) everyday I left work without a knife in my back I was glad to still be alive. Eventually the Youth Culture had a part in my moving away from Miami to a small town in East Central Florida. The younger adults from this Generation feel they are entitled and produce so little in the workplace... it will eventually effect the entire nation! Until recently we've had no youth crime here and the kids have been old fashioned and polite.. But over the Thanksgiving Holiday my neighbor (a single mother of two teenage boys) went out of town with (yes) a boyfriend. Her sons immediately had their ATV all over my yard.. and a large group to boys in camophlage and air rifles in the backyard.. it being winter in Florida my house is open, and my dog was kind of yapping at something so I went to see what was up. While standing in my screen room I looked over at her house and one of the boys raised his rifle to his shoulder and sighted on me... I stood stock still.. then her son "noticed" what his friend was doing and slowly pushed the rifle down. When she returned home.. I found her to tell her about the incident.. her remark was why didn't I yell at them! Yell at someone holding a rifle pointed at you.. no way that might have set it off. Then she said it was "only" an air rifle! I said It looked like a "real" rifle to me.. and how was I to know from 125-150 feet with screening blocking a full view? All I wanted was to know why this kid holding a rifle could site on a human being..... that was my point... and how this kid thought he could even think to do that! I didn't want to rat her kids out but... when I mentioned they had a lot of friends show up.. I think she was more concerned with that than the rifle incident... I did point out that it wasn't her son holding the rifle but a shorter young man.. I was afraid of retaliation at that point.. if her sons decided they were entitled to get away with this behavior..! That in a nutshell is the problem today.. kids feel they are entitled to be mean! to be angry.. to show no respect for life.. when the liberals (1960's) decided to allow kids entitledment I do not believe this is what they were thinking of.. and it has evolved and now pandoras box is open! Our town has a youth center.. and it is packed! We have some fantastic facilities for kids here.. skateboard park and huge pool! We have the beach.. we have a virtual paradise.. and most of the kids are well behaved and polite! It is only when they are left alone that they fall into peer pressure... and it just seems that the overabundance of that pressure is negative.. I'd herd them all together, weed out the negative leaders.. and concentrate on them... at least it would give the kids who still have some kid in them a chance to enjoy it just a little longer! Like sending kids into remedial reading.. which was a total social downfall in my day.. we'd send them to bully rehab classes....lol maybe make them do humiliating things all day for a few weeks and then they'd learn how to respect others too. Sorry to be so long winded.. I have no kids.. but I pay huge amount of Property Taxes to see schools and kids fail! It does make me mad... I'm paying for other peoples kids to become Gangsters????? Girlflower

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Broken heart for a different reason..... Posted: 1/7/2008 3:34:43 PM
solewolf, I have seen this happening to our nations kids for a long time and I'm glad you are bringing up your heartache... other than not allowing your children access to internet, television, movies or other kids today what is a parent to do? I've seen single mothers raise outstanding people and I've seen single mom's who's only goal in life was finding an escape from her life in multiple partners. I've seen great guys raise their kids alone.. and I've seen the guys who don't even know where their kids are! Kids are growing up too fast! They are having sex earlier and earlier these days and society is accepting the babies that are coming out of these children, instead of creating a society where it is not all right to have sex as a child.. the liberals just turn their eyes away from this corruption of youth. I was a kid too... and my moral values and attitudes came from my home life... Sex was a forbidden subject because you were not supposed to be having sex... in my day it was until you fell in love and made a commitment to your partner before having it. Then birth control pills were introduced and sex became a pastime... not a gift. Todays kids can get birth control at school..!!! Therefore they read this to mean it's okay to venture into the world of sex. Only thing is they are not equipped to face all the emotional ramifications that sex means in a relationship... We can not turn back the hands of time to era I was brought up in but we can make parents accountable for their children! In Florida we had a horrific crime happen in a neighborhood where ten young adults (under 18) raped a mother and forced her son to have sex with her also... The parents of these young men are being charged with neglecting thier parental duties in controlling their children! The laws were change in the city forcing teenagers off the streets at 10pm.. or the parents will be fined! In many ways my state is taking back the "rights" given to kids who have not respected the freedom society gave them (and never should have in the first place.) Florida is making the Parents Accountable.. it's about time! Yes we do have some very damaged goods in our kids today... but it is never too late to help kids get on the right track.. it will take the effort and cooperation of the whole nation to reverse the damage already done... but I believe if we as a nation get on this bandwagon as heartily as 'going green'.... we can take our kids from mean street kids... to Kid Clean! A little love goes a long way.. when it is a young person! Find a starting place in your town and donate some time being a visible adult who will listen to the kids... in a non-judgemental way.. and you will be the start of a revolution in your own way!

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