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treehousegirl

Joined: 3/12/2007

Msg: 33 (view)

Deceptive Dates...Want feedback.. Posted: 8/27/2008 9:33:24 AM
Nordic, well said. The only reason I'm in an exclusive relationship is because I had to play that scenario out in my mind and know that the outcome could be just as you described. The "am I settling" question nagged at me. I finally realized that sure, the grass may be greener, but I may be looking up at it from my grave if I didn't stop always searching for someone "better". To the OP. It was much easier to take the cowardly way out and ignore phone calls and emails than it was to be honest and tell the person I wasn't interested in seeing them again. I thought it was saving them from me hurting their feelings. Looking back it was really just a way for me to deal with my guilt of having had a fun date, agreeing to go out with them again, and then changing my mind.

treehousegirl

Joined: 3/12/2007

Msg: 59 (view)

Playing Like Puppies... Do YOU know how to play? Posted: 8/25/2008 10:56:23 AM
Being playful is an absolute requirement! Toys in the store? Oh yeah, especially if they make noise. They need to "talk" to each other at once, even if they all say the same thing. How fast can we start them all before the first one stops? The bouncy balls begging to be picked up and dribbled through the store or quickly tossed to your significant other. The "try me" toys that insist upon being wound up or started with the on button so they can take a walk down the isle to visit the other toys. Indoor water fights that start with the flick of wet fingers that turn into full blown glasses of water tossed at each other. Tickling, pillow fights, snow ball fights, an ice cube sneakily slid down the back of a shirt, jumping out from behind a corner, holding the door closed from the other side when someone is trying to open it. The list goes on and it all equals laughter which equals a fun enjoyable relationship.

treehousegirl

Joined: 3/12/2007

Msg: 9 (view)

New Relationships....harder in the winter? Posted: 1/7/2008 5:34:00 AM
While I agree that there are many more things to do when the weather is nice, there are things to do indoors during the winter. Art museums, bowling, pool, live music, window shopping at the mall, a play, darts. Another option is to just relax at a place like Caribou or Starbucks and play cards or a board game. Some zoos are open year round for indoor viewing. A water park or indoor rock climbing can be fun as well.

TREEHOUSEGIRL

Joined: 3/12/2007

Msg: 16 (view)

The next level - what's out there? Posted: 9/9/2007 12:34:41 PM
Even though the original post is quite old, I read it and feel it's a good place for me to share my hopefully helpful idea. I'm not photogenic. I know it and my friends and family agree I look much better in person than in a pic. Part of the reason for that is my personality often times aides a F2F (face to face) meeting. I think that may be the case for others here as well. In the past year I have met MANY men. How? By using a phone chat line. Yes it takes time, patientce, and to be honest a strong stomache to sort through some of the what I consider to be perverts. Has it been worth my time and effort? Absoluetly! One never knows how they will interact with someone until they meet them. I, like most here, have spent countless hours exchanging emails, IM's, and phone calls with someone whose on-line pic we are attracted to, only to find that meeting them in person can be a huge let down because there is no spark. When I use the phone chat line it's free (sorry to say men have to pay....fair? nope, but there must be a reason just not sure what). Anyway, I record my profile describing myself and what I'm looking for and not looking for and wait to be contacted. Sight unseen I guess I sound decent because I get contacted by many. So I'll sort through and listen to their messages and decide who I'd like to chat with. If the chat goes well, we will chat off-line and if that goes well we plan to meet that day or in the very near future. No expections, hell I can only go by their own physical description of themselves and they by mine, the sound of their voice... which is important to me, and of course a quick judgement on their personality. It's fun meeting someone that you've never seen a picture of. Sort of forces you to go into it a little more open minded. I'll only meet in a public place and only for a short amount of time. A****ail or java. If it goes well, sure we can hang out longer, and if not "hey it was nice meeting you" NEXT! A little cold? Maybe. But I've made some awesome friends, have had a lot fun, have dated some of the guys I've met for extended periods of time, and have learned so much about others and about myself. Just wanted to throw that option out there to others who are looking for other possible ways to meet who they are looking for. ~tree

treehousegirl

Joined: 3/12/2007

Msg: 3 (view)

PoF is a viable tool Posted: 7/12/2007 12:01:51 PM
Ms. Prime it sounds as though you have met someone you deserved to meet. Good people's paths should cross as yours have. Enjoy the adventure and may it last as long as you are both happy.

treehousegirl

Joined: 3/12/2007

Msg: 215 (view)

Images not showing up issues here...[Read the OP] Posted: 4/9/2007 6:12:53 AM
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treehousegirl

Joined: 3/12/2007

Msg: 9 (view)

Do you ever just get tired of dating? Posted: 3/27/2007 10:14:25 AM
There have been times where I've grown tired of it. I found that if I just take a break for awhile it really helps.

treehousegirl

Joined: 3/12/2007

Msg: 8 (view)

RE: WOM/MEN willing to date outside of their comfort range? Posted: 3/27/2007 9:14:17 AM
lol, believe me Renaissance, rich folks perfume/cologne can stink also. To the OP, it's taken me awhile but I have opened my mind to dating men that may have not been in my minds view of comfort zone. Once I started just having fun when I went out with someone and stopped wondering if they could be a potential long term, it was much easier to broaden my horizons and enjoy a variety of interesting peoples company.

treehousegirl

Joined: 3/12/2007

Msg: 680 (view)

Ladies, do you want brutal honesty on your profile?? Posted: 3/22/2007 7:17:48 PM
Eddie, will you please come visit my treehouse again? Hopefully I've advanced to the next grade level ;-)

treehousegirl

Joined: 3/12/2007

Msg: 650 (view)

Ladies, do you want brutal honesty on your profile?? Posted: 3/17/2007 5:52:33 AM
Hi Eddie, Thanks in advance for taking the time to do this for so many of us. Please critique my profile at your convenience. treehousegirl

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