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 Chrisdan57
Joined: 1/31/2012
Msg: 145 (view)
 
What do women think of men who are not into sports AT ALL?
Posted: 7/25/2012 8:53:01 AM
Plus, the pay in golf is directly related to how well you play on any given week.
..Really? Never heard of endorsements, sponsorships or appearance fees? Tiger Woods was handed close to 100 million before he teed up his first ball as a pro. Granted his accomplishments as an amateur paved the way but it was not directly related to how he did each given week.

Back to the topic....agree with Paderic. Not every sports fan is a beer chugging obese slob not moving from his couch on Sundays. I find it funny that some of the people ripping sports fans are the same ones that watch American Idol or Dances with the Stars...the difference is?
 Chrisdan57
Joined: 1/31/2012
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Time and space
Posted: 7/25/2012 6:02:32 AM

It means she doesn't want the drama of breaking up right now, but doesn't want to see you any more.

Phase two will occur soon there after... and you'll be history.


Exactly, people will try to avoid the uncomfortable situation of the break-up. So it is "I need space", "Let's take a break", "I really have a busy schedule the next couple of weeks". Translation...take a hike. I have found better or I am looking for better.
 Chrisdan57
Joined: 1/31/2012
Msg: 44 (view)
 
How late is too late to call?
Posted: 7/24/2012 6:20:22 AM
I dont think the question is really what is too late. I think the real question is how considerate is the person. Everybody's schedule is different. Before calling I would ask what is too late to call. Usually for the first phone contact I would set a time to call. It would accomplish several things including her interests. If it goes to voicemail, I would not make a second call.
 Chrisdan57
Joined: 1/31/2012
Msg: 131 (view)
 
What do women think of men who are not into sports AT ALL?
Posted: 7/12/2012 8:28:31 AM

If I cant partake in an activity why watch it ?
So you dont go to movies or the theater because you cannot act?
 Chrisdan57
Joined: 1/31/2012
Msg: 158 (view)
 
A guy who doesn't read books. Deal breaker?
Posted: 7/6/2012 6:31:47 AM
What I find amazing is that a person makes a statement on here and all of a sudden it becomes a personal attack. Everybody jumps out of the woodwork to defend themselves. Tell us how great they are evethough they dont fit her requirements.. Do people really need an audience that bad? Tell it to your profile. The people who are thinking about contacting you care more about how great you are than the people on the forums.

The OP's preference is that her partner be a reader. She feels that a person who reads will have more in common with her than someone who doesnt. Nothing will change how she feels. I do not agree with her however I understand it. Everyone is going to have a mental image of who their match will be. Some of the requirements are "must haves" and some are "would be nice to have". It is up to you to decide what attributes are deal breakers and which can be compromised. If you need someone who reads and decided it is a must have then you better find someone who reads. If you compromise a "must have" you will always second guess your decision everytime something adverse happens.
 Chrisdan57
Joined: 1/31/2012
Msg: 146 (view)
 
A guy who doesn't read books. Deal breaker?
Posted: 7/5/2012 10:08:21 AM
I read...girlfriend reads, but the only time it really matters if she says "Hey I just read .... and I think you would like it" other than that it really isnt something you do together anyway so why would it matter?
 Chrisdan57
Joined: 1/31/2012
Msg: 118 (view)
 
What do women think of men who are not into sports AT ALL?
Posted: 7/2/2012 6:29:55 AM
some men prefer their eyes to be on a woman over a bunch of men running around a field.
It seems a little backward that you find men whose interest relate to women "girly" over men whose interest are in watching other men in tights throwing around a ball and patting each others behinds...yea, that is real manly.


Sorry, but this is asinine too. I am glad that you found somebody that is everything you are looking for...good for you. However to say that in some way you are choosing to look at sports instead of a woman is just plain stupid. There is no preference involved. I watch sports, I read, I work out, I go to movies, concerts and travel. I prioritize my entertainment. If there is a sporting event I want to watch but there is something I would rather do at that moment. I record the program and watch it later. Some people like sports, some dont. I do not make any assumptions about a person because of what he or she finds entertaining. I will not try to push what I find interesting on my partner. I will find what we like to do together and what we will do apart. The things will like to do together we will do together. The things we like that the other person doesnt we will give each other time to pursue.
 Chrisdan57
Joined: 1/31/2012
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My friend needs help
Posted: 6/29/2012 11:39:07 AM
I think you are illiterate. I real didn't see anything else in the post that needed commenting.
 chrisdan57
Joined: 1/31/2012
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Stockings
Posted: 6/29/2012 9:33:53 AM

some men just have no game no conversation an no real approach when it comes to dealing with real women..
....Is it possible that the game rules change with each match?
 Chrisdan57
Joined: 1/31/2012
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Regret?
Posted: 6/29/2012 8:26:36 AM
I divorced my ex-wife 16 years ago. There is not a day that goes by that I dont feel regret. I regret that I married her in the first place.
 Chrisdan57
Joined: 1/31/2012
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Why do men think it is okay to bother ladies at the gym?
Posted: 6/29/2012 7:06:37 AM
I have decided not to bother women in the gym when they are working out. From now on I am going to hang out at their locking room door and talk to them as they come out.
 Chrisdan57
Joined: 1/31/2012
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What do women think of men who are not into sports AT ALL?
Posted: 6/29/2012 7:02:43 AM

It's well known that sports fans can't have any of these traits. ( Sarcasm )


It's genetic. The part of the brain that lights up when sporting events are on has to feed off the creative part of the brain. Didnt you ever notice that sometimes when the air conditioner kicks on that a light fixture will dim? It is the same principle. The more sports you watch the more it feeds off the creative centers of the brain until they are tapped dry.
 chrisdan57
Joined: 1/31/2012
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What do women think of men who are not into sports AT ALL?
Posted: 6/28/2012 3:50:07 PM

Msg 61, nice pic LMAO. Live your life through others if that's all you have, good luck
That's the best you can do? I am not here to date. I am seeing someone exclusively. I enjoy the forums. Since I am not here looking to date or "hang out" with anybody I feel there is no reason to put my face on display. So your "nice pic LMAO"(is LMAO a harder laugh than lmao..just wondering) comment has no meaning. I am not hiding anything, just not selling. Now if I had a picture where my face was almost pressed up against the camera and I had this grin that made me look like I was waiting for the short bus to pick me up, I might be offended. "Live your life through others"? That makes absolutely no sense. People have multi-interests. For most, watching sports is just one of many.

I enjoy a good exchange. I like reading other peoples perspectives. I have even agreed with people with opinions that differ from mine because they made an intelligent argument. I will continue to spar if I feel it is entertaining, intelligent or at the very least clever. Sir, you offer none of these. Have a great day.
 chrisdan57
Joined: 1/31/2012
Msg: 61 (view)
 
What do women think of men who are not into sports AT ALL?
Posted: 6/28/2012 3:12:56 PM
Wow, that was quite the rant - feel better now ? LOL

Someone obviously hit a nerve .... yikes !
...Not at all. I happen to be a sports fan. I am not as fanatic as some but do enjoy kicking back on a Sunday and watching the Bears. I felt he was attacking and decided to defend. Thats all. Nothing said on these forums can ever hit a nerve.


I couldn't care less if a woman likes sports, only that she loves me enough to let me do what I enjoy. And yes I have male friends that have no interest in sports, it's all good. To each his/her own
...Exactly!
 chrisdan57
Joined: 1/31/2012
Msg: 59 (view)
 
What do women think of men who are not into sports AT ALL?
Posted: 6/28/2012 2:37:47 PM
Whether you are or are not a black belt has absolutely nothing to do with my post. I commented on the close minded judgemental attitude that you seem to have regarding sports fans. I do not have a problem with fans of any entertaiment venue. I realize everybody has different likes and dislikes. I have been to the ballet, I didnt care for it. However, I do not criticize people who do and If they are male I do not question their masculinity because they enjoy it. Being judgemental and crticial based on ones own prejudices is what makes me angry. For example, many would think that a wine drinking single man over 50 who has cats and likes to cook and doesnt like sports would be gay. I dont think that way.
 chrisdan57
Joined: 1/31/2012
Msg: 56 (view)
 
What do women think of men who are not into sports AT ALL?
Posted: 6/28/2012 1:37:58 PM
Makes me sick and to think of people watching semi literate adults playing school yard games makes me want to throw up, lmao. The term "fan" btw is short for "fanatic". Look it up. And get a life.


Everybody knows that the term fan is short for fanatic. Why do you assume that all athletes are semi-literate? Are you attempting to be an intellectual elitist? Or are you just such an athletic failure that your jealousy has carried over to your old age? Touchdown Johnny took the best looking girl to the prom?
Does it also make you sick to see adults playing make believe....Movies, theater. Does it make you sick to see adults screaming at the top of their lungs to music....Opera. Or people jumping around like the floor is hot...ballet. Sports are entertainment. It is watching talented people do something that 99% of the population cannot do. That is why millions of people will pay money to watch them.

What makes me sick are people who will condemn other people for not liking the same things they do.
 Chrisdan57
Joined: 1/31/2012
Msg: 46 (view)
 
What do women think of men who are not into sports AT ALL?
Posted: 6/28/2012 10:08:09 AM
Ok...first off. I have seen this phrase used a couple of times here. It is a pet peeve of mine. The correct phrase is "I COULDNT care less", not "I could care less". If you could care less that means you care. Ok, now that I got that out of the way back to the thread. I am a sports nut. I watch them all. I live near Chicago and it is Bears, Bulls, Hawks and White Sox(hate the Cubs). I couldnt care less if the lady I am seeing knows less or knows more about sports than I do. I enjoy them and if she wants to watch with me, fine. If not that is fine too. I do not expect every woman I am with to like everything I do and like wise she shouldnt expect me to enjoy everything she does. It gives us a chance to have some time away from each other, which I believe to be good.

Regarding men I meet not liking sports...Not a big deal either. Today there are a lot more choices regarding entertainment. When I was young my toy box was a football a basketball a hockey stick and a baseball glove. No xbox, Ps3, Wii or even a computer. It is what we did, we played sports. It is different now. Some still are sports nuts but now some people's interests have moved in different direction.
 Chrisdan57
Joined: 1/31/2012
Msg: 156 (view)
 
Why do men think it is okay to bother ladies at the gym?
Posted: 6/28/2012 8:48:55 AM
Now THIS is a guy that doesn't sit down on a machine chatting away on his cellphone like he's in a conference call while 3 others are waiting. We need more guys like this in gyms
...Ill second that. A real pisser to sit there waiting for a maching and have some clown sitting there poking away at his cell phone. The best part is when you ask him if he is done..."Ah no I got 2 more sets" Then get on it you frikken juiced up piece of shyt!!!................ I feel better now.
 Chrisdan57
Joined: 1/31/2012
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Ex on POF ....
Posted: 6/28/2012 8:37:55 AM

men move on
faster than ladies..


No the dumper moves on faster than the dumpee.
 Chrisdan57
Joined: 1/31/2012
Msg: 34 (view)
 
Why do men think it is okay to bother ladies at the gym?
Posted: 6/27/2012 6:12:43 AM
I understand the responses that say do something else or workout at home. Thats BS. You shouldnt have to change your behavior because of some clowns. I would think ignoring them would work. I am at the gym 4 or 5 times a week. I have my routine. I do what I go there to do, talk to no one. Make eye contact with no one. I have been going to the same gym for over three years and see the same people. Eventhough I see them 4 or 5 times a week I do not even say hello. I am not there to socialize. I am there to workout and get the hell out of there.
 Chrisdan57
Joined: 1/31/2012
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First Date...
Posted: 6/26/2012 6:08:41 AM
You have to understand the difference between the first meet and the first date. Until the first meet you really do not know with whom you are communicating. You hope that he/she is being honest but you really do not know. Many people are going to keep the first meet short, that way you can bail quickly without it be too uncomfortable. I think most of the first date suggestions are keeping that in mind.
 Chrisdan57
Joined: 1/31/2012
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Do dating sites really work?
Posted: 6/20/2012 6:23:32 AM

For a lot of people, dating sites do work. To pay for one is a sucker's deal though.


Really? Ok, my experience with online dating is I have dated quite a few women from online dating, including my current SO of 3 years. None of them I have met from free dating sites. I have found that the people who pay a few dollars put dating at a higher priority than people on free sites, thats my opinion. You do what works for you but if me being a "sucker" means it cost me 40 bucks to find the lady that I have found call me a sucker.
 Chrisdan57
Joined: 1/31/2012
Msg: 108 (view)
 
Anyone else only come here for the forums?
Posted: 6/19/2012 8:06:02 AM
Forums only....picture deleted, profile hidden.
 Chrisdan57
Joined: 1/31/2012
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Gave her a kiss on the cheek. Exited the friend zone?
Posted: 6/8/2012 11:41:55 AM
You are going to have to ask. At this point it is difficult to tell if you are in the friends zone or if she just wants to take it very slow.
 Chrisdan57
Joined: 1/31/2012
Msg: 71 (view)
 
When do finances signal a red flag?
Posted: 6/7/2012 6:10:35 AM

How about giving us a freaking break ? How many peoples credit has been destroyed ? As long as the guy has a job or is trying to get one what is the real issue here ? What happens if you lose yours we shouldn't consider you a worthy mate ? Yeah your a loser because your company went over seas and your fired or laid off ?


Sorry King but this isnt about giving anybody a break. This isnt about finding a worthy charilty it is about finding someobody to spend time with and possibly build a realtionship. If she has financial issues or bad financial habits I am not interested in inheriting them. As far as the Op. If I were her I would make a plan with a time frame. If after that nothing changed my next investment would be an attorney.
 chrisdan57
Joined: 1/31/2012
Msg: 10 (view)
 
I have not displayed a picture but do have pics to share once I feel there is a connection
Posted: 6/6/2012 8:44:07 AM

I have seen plausible reasons for not posting photos, and I have seen implausible ones. That one seems rather implausible
...Agreed. How many of us have corresponded to people without a picture. Finally after several correspondance they agree to send a picture. The picture is received. You double click on the link and think...Oh Shit!! What do you say to the person who is waiting for your response.... Or being on the other end and waiting for her response. Screw that. There are too many uncomfortable situations that occur without my help.
 Chrisdan57
Joined: 1/31/2012
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I have not displayed a picture but do have pics to share once I feel there is a connection
Posted: 6/6/2012 8:03:05 AM
The only reason I could understand is if the job is such that seeing your picture on a dating site may cause problems. Other than that....no picture, no interest. Physical attraction is a must. Unless a picture was attached to the first email I would probably ignore it.
 Chrisdan57
Joined: 1/31/2012
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When do finances signal a red flag?
Posted: 6/5/2012 1:27:00 PM
I agree with import. If are just dating then it really isnt your problem unless everytime the bill comes he is in the bathroom. If you are thinking long term then you should have an idea about his current financial situation along with his overall thoughts and goals. Financial incompatibility can kill a relationship as quick as infidelity. Owing 2500 isnt as important as how he got there. An emergency or college loans or health issues can rack up the bills in a hurry. However, if he continues to buy new stuff without paying for the old....
 Chrisdan57
Joined: 1/31/2012
Msg: 39 (view)
 
Quit looking online when in a relationship.
Posted: 6/4/2012 2:12:45 PM

If I was in a relationship, I would want to spend time with that person, not posting on a site mostly full of single people looking to date. Must be a really exciting relationships then.
...That is dumb. So basically there are only two things, either you are spending time with that person or not? The forums are not a place to troll for dates. It is no different than blogging or posting to your FB page or the many other daily activities people do. I look at it as a real time Anne Landers.
 Chrisdan57
Joined: 1/31/2012
Msg: 19 (view)
 
Best time of day to meet for first meeting
Posted: 6/4/2012 12:49:20 PM
Is a buffet type brunch or a traditional type with a server better for a first meeting?
. I always tried to avoid food on the first meet. I always set it up as coffee or drinks. If it clicks then you can extend. If it is a wash out then it makes for an uncomfortable hour plus. So with that being said, if you have already decided food is involved Id go the buffet. It takes less time to graze then it does to be served. Once again on the theory if everything is going well extending will be easy, cuttting short not so much
 Chrisdan57
Joined: 1/31/2012
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Ex tries to keep contact with me
Posted: 6/4/2012 12:40:20 PM
It could be one of several reasons. To make you jealous is one possibility. Maybe his current relationship isnt working out so he is trying to test the waters with you. The bottom line is you are not interested in him or his life. Just ignore him and eventually he should get the hint and go away.
 chrisdan57
Joined: 1/31/2012
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Quit looking online when in a relationship.
Posted: 6/4/2012 9:22:05 AM
I am in a relationship. I have deleted my pictures and my profile is hidden. I wouldnt have a problem with someone that I am seeing "exclusively" having a profile on here for the purpose of posting to the forums, they tend to be addictive. However, If she fails to change her profile and continues to post suggestive pictures I would doubt her sincerity.
 Chrisdan57
Joined: 1/31/2012
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Ever receive hate mail out of the blue?
Posted: 6/1/2012 6:06:14 AM
Normally I would say ignore them and they will go away but some of these are disturbing. Metalvixxn and providence...these guys need to be reported. They should be able to block their IP addresses.
 Chrisdan57
Joined: 1/31/2012
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did he ever love me at all?
Posted: 5/25/2012 2:20:55 PM
Where's Jerry Springer when you need him?
 Chrisdan57
Joined: 1/31/2012
Msg: 23 (view)
 
cruise gone bad
Posted: 5/21/2012 8:48:04 AM
What I dont understand and maybe it is because I didnt read it closely enough is whose credit card did she use when establishing the account for gambling and drinking? The way it worked when I went was at the beginning of the cruise you hand them a credit card that is tied to the cruise card you use when buying goods and services on the ship? I think paying for the cruise was all you really agreed to. The money she spent while on the boat is her problem. If you let her use your card, well live and learn.
 Chrisdan57
Joined: 1/31/2012
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Ever receive hate mail out of the blue?
Posted: 5/17/2012 1:28:59 PM
I fail to understand how emailing and insulting a stranger makes someone feel good. I am guessing they are the type of person that is completely irrelevant in real life. Maybe in their small minds they believe they are getting revenge for all the times someone dismissed their advances. If was just an attempt to be acknowledge they would say something positive wouldnt they? Or maybe it starts out positive and when they get read/deleted or not read at all it turns hostile...I knew I should have taken a few psychology classes in college.
 Chrisdan57
Joined: 1/31/2012
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Ever receive hate mail out of the blue?
Posted: 5/17/2012 11:46:55 AM
I have received a couple and it either had to do with my profile or what I have written on the forums. The first one I received I tried to respond only to find that I was blocked.....send hate mail and block, ok. Since then I just delete and block.
 Chrisdan57
Joined: 1/31/2012
Msg: 36 (view)
 
Sabotaging yourself , after great date
Posted: 5/16/2012 10:23:49 AM
I am thinking this is the goodbye letter.


Your thinking is accurate. If he wanted to keep his options open he wouldnt have told you it was an ex.
 Chrisdan57
Joined: 1/31/2012
Msg: 41 (view)
 
Is it normal that a man I just met keeps seeing his ex?
Posted: 5/14/2012 9:03:50 AM
Kids involved...reason. No kids involved.....no reason. Well, there is a reason I just dont think you would like it much.
 Chrisdan57
Joined: 1/31/2012
Msg: 10 (view)
 
Women On Pof And Asking For Their Phone Number #'s
Posted: 5/4/2012 6:25:26 AM
People feel more comfortable with somebody they have met. You never know who is sitting behind that keyboard. I would always do the same thing Chances does. I would offer mine.
 Chrisdan57
Joined: 1/31/2012
Msg: 22 (view)
 
Warming things up!
Posted: 5/3/2012 1:49:16 PM

I fill my mouth with Coffee and put my lips on her lips and let her drink from my mouth. She confessed to me it is very romantic
...Wrong lips. Spitting into someone's mouth romantic? I think my definition of romance must be different.
 Chrisdan57
Joined: 1/31/2012
Msg: 50 (view)
 
Can guys be bisexual?
Posted: 4/26/2012 7:13:10 AM

If any man tells you he never had sex with the same gender he is lying to his teeth.
..Really?? If while some guy was bending you over a chair this thought made you feel better about it, well good for you but I would say that most men probably have never had sex with the same gender. btw....the phrase, I believe is lying "through" his teeth.
 Chrisdan57
Joined: 1/31/2012
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claiming to be single yet isn't
Posted: 4/25/2012 7:22:32 AM
Apparently his definition of single isnt the same as yours. In my opinion if you didnt have the "exclusivity" talk you have to assume he is dating others. Unless you both have agreed not to date anybody else, you have nothing to complain about.
 chrisdan57
Joined: 1/31/2012
Msg: 31 (view)
 
So, I went on a date
Posted: 4/23/2012 7:24:18 AM
I think that's only true when you have your keys in the ignition
...No, not really. There was a case in Minnesota (California, where OP lives, may be different) where the person drank and sat out in his car to sleep it off, fighting with the wife. The engine was off, the keys where in the console and the engine was cold. The police arrested him for DUI. They said his intent was to drive the car. Now, there is a good chance he could win in court but that will be about 10,000 dollars later. Dont sleep in the car.
 chrisdan57
Joined: 1/31/2012
Msg: 29 (view)
 
So, I went on a date
Posted: 4/23/2012 7:08:10 AM

In that situation, I would slept in my car if I was drunk and had no other way to get home.
...You do not want to do that. If a cop finds you passed out in your car he can still give you a DUI.
 Chrisdan57
Joined: 1/31/2012
Msg: 9 (view)
 
POF Sensless Sex
Posted: 4/20/2012 9:52:52 AM
Are you sure you are asking for opinions or just advertising?
 Chrisdan57
Joined: 1/31/2012
Msg: 4 (view)
 
Do your own divorce?
Posted: 4/19/2012 7:05:37 AM
dude dont do it! if you do it all by yourself, you could wind up paying far MORE than $1500. i spent a lot of money on a lawyer and STILL lost more than $60,000. there is no way you can come out ahead if you do it on your own. especially if your ex get a lawyer of their own and goes ahead and screws you over. you need a lawyer to think of all the ins and outs of divorce so you can protect yourself from disaster while this is going on.
You are missing the point. If he does all the paper work himself and she signs it then she wouldnt have an attorney would she? A person I work with did it. It turned out fine. The question is whether or not you can agree on any outstanding issues.


Another option is to hire a joint attorney who will work for BOTH of you and you can share the cost.
. No attorney will work for both of you. He can only represent one client in a divorce. In my situation my ex had an attorney. I represented myself (Pro se).

Attorneys are basically used for negotiation. They argue for a living. If you and the ex can agree on dividing what needs dividing and if there are children, working out support and education expenses then you can skip the lawyers. Attorneys are jackals, if there isnt a fight then there arent any scraps for them to feed on.

 Chrisdan57
Joined: 1/31/2012
Msg: 36 (view)
 
Should these be red flags?
Posted: 4/18/2012 7:13:27 AM

Seems to be people think the poor girl doesnt deserve anyone. Jesus. Ok She has issues who the hell doesnt? She has alot most of which can be fixed it seems so. Everyone deserves someone. Maybe im not as jaded and negative as most. I know I wouldnt want someone to tell me that im not worth anyone
This isnt about forgiveness or giving somebody a chance and it is not about telling someobody they are worhtless. The OP is looking for a long term relationship. She doesnt have a full-time job, her own place or a car. Her own family is getting ready to boot her out because she hasnt found a full-time job. She had a child but doesnt live with that child. She is constantly on her cell while on a date. Her facbook page is littered with random guys. This is not about being negative, it is about not ignoring traits that lead you to believe someone is not compatible.
 Chrisdan57
Joined: 1/31/2012
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Should these be red flags?
Posted: 4/17/2012 1:55:43 PM
If you are looking to date, have a good time and someone to do it with she is probably a good person for that. If you are looking for a long term situation that will lead to a serious relationship. it sounds unlikely.
 Chrisdan57
Joined: 1/31/2012
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The person i met on POF passed away.
Posted: 4/11/2012 9:10:18 AM
It is not a question of cynicism. It is a question of knowing a little about the poster before responding. At the very least their age and where they live.
 
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