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Joined: 3/13/2007

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Any other young widows/widowers with advice to share? Posted: 3/25/2007 12:37:14 PM
hi im 36,i lost my husband 3yrs ago,been together since i was 17,it is hard,i started on the dating scene about 3mts ago and i was looking 4 some one to compare with my husband,it made me worse,i now no i will never find any man who will come close to what me and my husband had,i think everyone goes threw that stage,most things have changed in my life,except the one thing we did love and share motorbikes,so from now on im not going to look,if its meant to be then love will find me,and what will be will be,just dont make the same mistake i made of trying to find a man who compares to your husband,as there will never be one,love will find you one day,im sure of that it just takes time.god bless you.jeanette,

Joined: 3/13/2007

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Losing a loved one to death Posted: 3/24/2007 5:38:39 PM
I JUST WANT TO SAY MY THOUGHTS ARE WITH YOU,I LOST THREE LOVED ONES,BUT IN SUCH A SHORT TIME,IT JUST SHOWS THAT YOUR NOT ALONE,AND READING YOURS,MY HEART GOES OUT TO YOU,I LOST MINE IN MAY,NOT THE SAME YEAR,BUT THE SAME MONTH,WHEN MY SON DANIEL DIED AGE 13MTS,MY WORLD FELL APART,I,LL ADMIT I WANTED MY LIFE TO END,AS I FELT GUILTY FOR NOT SAVING HIM,THO I DID TRY,IT WAS A TRAGIC HOUSE FIRE,I SAVED MY OTHER TWO SONS,BUT WAS BADLY BURNT AND COULDNT FIGHT THE SMOKE,I FEEL SO GUILTY,BUT IM GRATEFUL I GOT MY OTHER TWO SONS OUT,THAT IS WHAT KEPT ME GOING,IN TIME I DID MOVE ON SLOWLY,EVERY TIME MAY CAME I JUST LOCKED MYSELF AWAY,THEN MY BROTHER AGE 31 WAS KILLED IN MAY,IN A WAY I FEEL COMFTY THINKING HE IS WITH MY SON LOOKING AFTER HIM AND THAT IN TIME HELPED ME TO COME TO TERMS WITH MY BROTHERS DEATH,MY LIFE WAS GETTING BETTER,AND THINGS WERE LOOKING GOOD IN LIFE,EVERY TIME MAY CAME I ALWAYS FELT SCARED THAT I WOULD LOSE SOME ONE,MY HUSBAND WAS SO UNDERSTANDING AND HELPED ME TO STOP THINKING LIKE THAT,THO IT WAS STILL THERE DEEP DOWN,IN MAY 2004 ME AND MY HUSBANS MARK BOTH WENT OUT ON OUR BIKES,WE WERE 50YARDS FROM OUR HOUSE WEN HE WAS KILLED.I FELL APART WHY ALL IN MAY AND IN THE SAME AREA,I GOT A LETTER OF A FRIEND,IT READS SOME OF US ARE ONLY MEANT TO TO BE ON THIS EARTH FOR A SHORT TIME,THERE HERE FOR A REASON,AND THEN THEY HAVE TO LEAVE US,I READ THAT ALL THE TIME AND IT DOES MAKE ME THINK,YOU HAVE SOMEONE FOR A SHORT TIME,BUT THE LOVE YOU HAVE AND SHARE WITH THEM WILL NEVER DIE,I TRULEY THINK THAT WERE ALL HER FOR A REASON,SOME LONGER THAN OTHERES,SO I LIVE FOR TODAY BEST I CAN,AS IT IS A TRUE SAYING,YOU DONT NO WHAT IS AROUND THE CORNER,AND CARRY ON BEST YOU CAN,I HOPE THIS HAS HELPED A LITTLE,MY THOUGHTS GO OUT TO YOU,ONE THING THAT WILL NEVER LEAVE YOU IS THE LOVE AND TIME YOU HAD WITH YOUR LOVED ONES THAT WILL ALWAYS BE WITH YOU.TAKE CARE. JEANETTE.X

Joined: 3/13/2007

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Losing a loved one to death Posted: 3/24/2007 9:21:42 AM
dont stop the tears,i lost my son age 13mts,in may 1991,my brother age 31 in may 1997,my husband age 34 in may 2004,the pain is always there,the love is always there,time is a healer,i truley no that,they would want us to move on,you think how will i cope,your still here so that proves that each day your getting stonger,and in time you learn to live with that,you never get over it,you never forget,the love you will always have for them will always be with you,how do you move on and start a new life,your life will ajust in time,and you will learn to live with how youe life will be,i truley believe in that,time is a great healer,i hope im living proof of that.

Joined: 3/13/2007

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suggestions on how to move on? Posted: 3/24/2007 9:06:23 AM
dont forget,learn from the past,in time you will move on,you will no when your ready for this,its ok for others to say move on,you are hurting so its hard,in time you will see and no when you are ready,listen to your own heart not what others want you to hear.

Joined: 3/13/2007

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Looks really are everything.... Posted: 3/24/2007 9:00:27 AM
looks are not everything,its the innerself of the person,i look at people and see them as a shell on the outside,its the inner soul of them what truley counts.

Joined: 3/13/2007

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Do I hurt him back and how Posted: 3/24/2007 8:55:51 AM
i always say what comes around goes around,i no you feel angry,but the best thing to do is show him you have got a life and show him you will get on with it,thats always the best revenge when they see you getting on in life,

Joined: 3/13/2007

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I miss her so much! Posted: 3/24/2007 8:48:41 AM
they say you only have one true love and its true,i met my MARK when i was 19 fell inlove,got married at 20,he was my soul mate best friend and lover,we were like glue,sadly he was killed in 2004,5 days before his birthday,my world fell apart,i had to go on for my sons,and he always told me to be strong and dont ever give up,boy its tough but i find that the love we had keeps me going,even though he,s not here i feel him around me,i will always love him,you never get over it,but time is a healer,he always said live your life to the full,live for today as tommorow never comes,so that is what i do,as the love we had and the life we shared will never be taken away,some dont ever have that,im proud to say i did have that.MARK will always be in my heart till the day i join him.i love him and always will,be stong time is a healer,she will always be with you,for the love you have for her.that you will always have.

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