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ktlnow

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Msg: 180 (view)

My therory on big guys(no not talking about his*****) Posted: 12/16/2008 6:03:19 PM
if a person can't take care of their body, did they take care of anything else? It is a sign they are usually taking care of too much. Many people don't have the energy or the time to make a workout. Working 40 plus hrs a week, chasing after the children, cooking meals, and looking after the needs of aging parents and still can't make ends meet. So they cut the grocery budget and end up eating cheaper less nourishing calories. It is a known fact that stress is related to weight gain especially in the abdomenal area. It is not always a case of lazy.

ktlnow

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don't push it Posted: 12/16/2008 5:48:47 PM
being a single mother for a few years I can understand where she is coming from. I think she obviously enjoys you conversations and your company. Being a single with kids is tough. Very few of the men I dated ever got near my kids when they were young. It was just something I had to be very careful about. Talk to her. She is the only one who can answer your questions.

ktlnow

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Would you leave the dating sites if you got in a serious relationship? Posted: 9/18/2008 10:16:58 PM
No, I would not. I would definitly change my status and what I am looking for. The forums are interesting. If the someone I found had a problem with that then there are trust issues and I don't believe it is a worthwhile relationship if there is mistrust before you start.

ktlnow

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Courting a Man??? Posted: 9/11/2008 8:59:15 PM
courting is just doing something nice and special for someone. Yup... it can beer and heels cooking your specialty with wine and candles... cooking his favorite in heels.... massage oil in both pockets.... flowers work too.... Being playful and thoughtful is what courting is all about!

ktlnow

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How to loose a guy in 10 days ? Posted: 8/16/2008 4:17:09 PM
MMMMMMM.... I think we are all passionate about some things.... We all have a sensual nature.... We are all moody... And really who doesn't want to have fun??? Some people just can't accept that all relationships change and evolve over time. They really do believe it is suppose to be all fire forever. Some people are afraid of that comfort zone that happens over time. They go "Is this it?" and forget to see the wonder and appreciate what that kind of relationship really is. Moody... I can handle as long as it isn't for days and on and off like a lightbulb. If the romance fades... then you let it happen. Romance is a two sided.

ktlnow

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Msg: 43 (view)

Does No Car Mean No Action? Posted: 8/12/2008 8:02:30 PM
I think most people have it. If you have good city transit a car is a pain living in the city. If I lived and worked in the city... it would be much more economical for me to use city transit and just rent a car for weekend excursions. As it is I live rural and work in a small town with no transit. No car in the city to me is a smart move.

ktlnow

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What adds flavor to Chicken & Rice? Posted: 8/9/2008 7:08:32 PM
my favorites are onion, celery or parsely with chicken. When i really want to mix it up I will try any dip mix. One of my most recent experiments was with sundried tomatoe seasoning. Love it! Cut up a few fresh grape tomatoes and it will give it texture and colour.

ktlnow

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why does the cheater always seem to come out on top? Posted: 8/8/2008 10:09:43 PM
my situation is very similar but my x was not and is not a deadbeat. He looked after his kids and himself without the courts very well. I had full custody but.. it still pissed me off too. That is ok though. I wouldn't trade my kids for anything material and it is nice now. They call me... and keep me in their lives. They respect me too and there isn't anyone that can or will take that from me. Chin up! Your kids will always be your best investment.

ktlnow

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no sex..how long? Posted: 7/27/2008 11:38:37 AM
I agree. You let it happen. However we all accept different things and believe it is because we love someone. It is right if you feel right about it. When it doesn't feel right it probably isn't. Doesn't matter what anyone else thinks. Staying together for the sake of the kids is just foolish. My x and I never argued and only a little in the last few months of the marriage. But it was not healthy me accepting his behavior. I was not happy and therefor the children were not. Life was good after the split. We laughed again. I have 2 wonderful adult children because I took control of what was acceptable to me.

ktlnow

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Can you date a political opposite? Posted: 7/26/2008 11:49:47 PM
Absolutely you can date and marry an opposite. As long as your open to discuss the issues and not the party. The only real argument we ever had about politics was when I refused to tell him how I voted. My adult children never suffered from this. They learned healthy debate is a good thing.

ktlnow

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How do you turn it off Posted: 7/23/2008 5:43:33 PM
I agree, I don't believe it is codependant either. I think it is the intamacy of a relationship and everything it entails. And it won't make you happy just more complete because a partner can always be a pain as well.

ktlnow

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Msg: 247 (view)

wat if she lied about age....... do you continue anyway? Posted: 5/9/2008 9:11:50 PM
The time in stage you are in your life is a big factor here. I had a very close relative in the same situation. She was about 69 when she met her companion of 60. She didn't know weather to tell him or not. She even hid her drivers liscense from him. She is one of those lucky young seniors. I can't remember how long it was before she told him but......... he is now 67 and retired. They now spend every summer doing what they love. They travel to BC, Alaska, and this year it is the east coast. Go for it! I don't think you will regret it.

ktlnow

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Preserving garden harvest... Posted: 5/9/2008 9:05:05 PM
I too would like to try the sundried tomatoe and pepper thing. One of my fav. tricks to prolong my harvest, mainly peas and beats was .... part of my garden was shaded so i made sure 1/2 my rows were in the shade. When the hot dry summer hit I was still able to harvest fresh vegetables a little longer. I could extend these 2 crops almost 2 weeks. I have also heard that putting your root vegetables, mainly carrots in sand you can leave them in the ground longer.

ktlnow

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Will I ever stop? Posted: 3/28/2008 9:35:07 PM
Don't ever give up! A broken heart is proof you can still feel. Everyone deserves trust as they haven't given you a real reason not to trust. You will find that guy that values what you have to offer. Keep fishin!

ktlnow

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Conflicting statements/requirements Posted: 3/28/2008 9:12:18 PM
I don't believe it is all lies... Sometimes people do have an unreal vision of themselves. Sometimes I believe they describe themselves as someone they want to be and don't really see it isn't who they are.

ktlnow

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do you get over a cheater? Posted: 3/18/2008 7:36:13 PM
Yes, you do. Sometimes it takes a little while but you do. When you do you will find it much easier to trust again.

ktlnow

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Black-only schools Posted: 2/21/2008 7:44:02 PM
I have to agree with Nate. All this will do is foster racism. I really don't believe it starts with the children. It starts with adults. When you say anything negative about a paticular race your children will mistrust that race. The believe every word you say at a young age. As parents we have to recognize the differences and teach our children to accept them, welcome all races and treat them as equal. The more you can introduce your children to young and throw a positive spin on the better adapted they will become to any situation in life. Segregation is not the answer.

ktlnow

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My dog is dying Posted: 2/19/2008 7:33:01 PM
2 yrs ago I had to call the vet in the middle of the night. My friend of 16 yrs had always had seizures but I was able to control them for the most part. They were usually short when they did occur. Surgically they couldnt' do much for him because of a whole in his heart. He took 2 seizures this night each lasting what seemed an eternity. I am not 100% sure if he was taking seizures when I was at work but...I knew I could no longer take that chance. They really terrified him. I miss him terribly now but I know I made the right choice. It is definitly the toughest decision I have ever had to make. I have to tell you also he was probably the ugliest little mutt you would ever see but he taught me a great deal about what really mattered. He had heart and did some pretty funny tricks. I cried lots that night and for a couple nights after. When I picked up his remains at the vets I cried again. Now he sits on the mantle and from time to time I remember his legacy to me.

ktlnow

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cheated on...second chance's? Posted: 2/11/2008 4:53:39 PM
almost the same situation. I trusted him heart and soul. He swore it was only once. I believed and forgave him. It never stopped. I know exactly how torn you are. When I finally found myself again, I learned she was not the only one and relized it would never stop. I hate being single but I also hate someone who cannot value the trust you give. It really is a personal choice on what you can deal with. You will deal with it in your own time. What is right for me is not necessarily the choice you will make. Good luck to you.

ktlnow

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Hug or a Hand Shake? Posted: 2/11/2008 4:44:29 PM
definitely a hand shake. A hug puts you in my space.

ktlnow

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Friends with Exes - Is It Really Such A Bad Thing? Posted: 2/9/2008 7:39:14 PM
This is something I have never totally understood either. If.... you cared and enjoyed someones company for any length of time how can you suddenly hate them. Why would you? Sometimes things just don't work. Why not be friends.

ktlnow

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Parental financial support--he is against it.... Posted: 2/9/2008 7:34:20 PM
casandra you are right. It looks like one of those things they are just going to have to work through. I have been dating a man who sends every spare nickel he gets home to his mother and brothers. It is a cultural difference. I respect him for that. I often wonder why we as Canadians don't think that way. I could not consciously go make a major purchase(luxury) knowing one of my family were struggling.

ktlnow

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One last smile Posted: 12/24/2007 2:22:42 PM
I understand where you are coming from. Mother had some serious complications after her surgery last year. She has some other health issues that require more surgeries however she has choosen not too. Slowly after the surgery, she has developed memory loss. I know it is only a matter of time and so does she. We can still talk but it is more about things 5 or 10 yrs ago. She doesn't adapt to change at all. She went into a nursing home early this fall and now feels like that is home. I could not even convince her to come stay with me tonight. She wants to be home. This is comforting to me that she enjoys herself there and now feels like they are a part of her family. I am just waiting for the diner hour to finish so I can spend some time with her tonight. I have a stocking ready for her to open in the morning. A small gesture for all the wonderful Christmas seasons she gave us. Tomorrow I will go for tea in the afternoon and cherish that smile and kiss like it could be my last. All enjoy your parents while you can. They now depend on us for so little.

ktlnow

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Should I tell his wife? Posted: 12/9/2007 7:14:54 PM
although your first thought is to make him suffer you would also make his wife suffer large. My theory is and we tell our kids this all the time. If you don't have something nice to say. Don't say anything at all. It just causes more hurt.

ktlnow

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Situation needing advice.... Please. Posted: 11/13/2007 10:40:55 PM
omg... give the woman a break. Why do we always look at the evil stepmommy. She is asian. I believe in most asian cultures don't they consider the female less valuable than male children? Many women also have a hard time accepting another womans children. It is also common for most cultures to offer/sponser help other people in their country to prosper as they have done in ours. I agree. The parents need to do some mediation. Keep the childs interest at heart but don't make either parent look like the bad guy. You will just confuse her. She will learn to play each of you. This can be very distructive to her development. Parents must always show a united front to their kids...

ktlnow

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I don't do separated... Posted: 11/12/2007 9:37:03 PM
Every situation is very unique for sure. I have probably been seperated more years than most people have been divorced. My thought on this all personally is...I looked after the seperation, the division of assets, the custody. I always made it too easy for him. The kids are grown, we have nothing joint but I will be damned if i finalize the papers. I figure if the guy is worth it I will get his signature. Otherwise what is the point. I moved on 12 yrs ago. I am single. I am seperated. I don't know if there is someone out there I really want to marry. It is just a peice of paper.

ktlnow

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Msg: 318 (view)

The one thing you miss most when you are single Posted: 11/2/2007 9:04:52 PM
knowing your best friend is always there.

ktlnow

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Alone Posted: 9/14/2007 9:31:34 PM
My x traveled a lot and I tended to go to many functions alone. I hated it then and I hate it now. I hate eating in a restaurant alone the most! On the rare occasion I travel for work I prefer room service to eating alone. I will rent a movie at home before I go out alone. I will never enter a bar alone. I will go to the ladies room alone. That I can do.

ktlnow

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Whats worse? Breaking up completely or suddenly being just friends? Posted: 9/14/2007 8:47:56 PM
I am of a different mind set. The break up is always hard but... how can you hate someone(never speak again) that you felt strongly enough to develop an intimate relationship with? It always seemed more logical to be friends. You can never have enough good friends. Maybe I am just fortunate to have had good men in relationships also. ie able to let it go.

ktlnow

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Msg: 27 (view)

What do you have to do to get dirty pics of girls Posted: 9/13/2007 8:25:57 PM
I say let her change your oil and do a brake job. She should be pretty dirty for pictures by then.

ktlnow

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Have you ever done this? Fess up! Posted: 9/13/2007 8:16:24 PM
No... never! But I do have a couple no one will ever get from me too. My grandmothers fruit cake. My mother Chili sauce. I could market these. I have no problem say no to anyone except my kids.

ktlnow

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Msg: 446 (view)

Must have job, car, house...are they after my cash? Posted: 9/8/2007 9:00:40 PM
you make some good choices johne! If I lived in the city and didn't need to travel for work I would use city transit too. Cars are a very expensive luxury. I understand where guys come from but women are in the same boat. I have a problem with anyone who selects you for material things. They really don't matter!!!! They are things and won't make you happy. We just think they will sometimes. As far as the job thing....I like a guy to have a job too...They just dominate too much of your time if they don't. I don't care if he is a janitor. I once dated a fella who lived with his parents(on a disability) just an amazing man but........i was on the road all the time and I could not keep him in the lifestyle his parents could. I guess we are all different. That is what makes life interesting.

ktlnow

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Waiting and Waitng Posted: 9/8/2007 8:44:02 PM
Don't ever give up! The best things are worth waiting for. I used to worry about my son. He is 26 this year too. He isn't ready to settle down yet. He knows he has a few more years before that is necessary and he may never. It is ok to be single. Don't ever "will" a relationship. I promise someone will come along and know you are the one. Just relax. Enjoy!

ktlnow

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curiosity has killed my cat! Posted: 9/2/2007 8:15:24 PM
I understand where your coming from. It is still tough for me on a weekend to connect with friends that are not hitched or tied down with kids. Sometimes you just want to live the single life. I know coming from a small town is tougher too everyone still looks at you as your ex's significant other. Here is the cat story everyone is looking for. My little cat has been gone a week. I miss her very much. I think her curiosity has got her in trouble. I just hoping she will show up at the Humane society or some little kid has claimed her as their own.

ktlnow

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Is money really that important ladies? Posted: 8/31/2007 10:55:59 PM
I have to agree with Cdn. Guy... Most are not interested in money, there are some I am sure of it. Just as there are some men that are looking for a sugar momma. Perhaps your using the wrong kind of bait? Money makes life a little easier and you don't have financial worries but that is not what is truly important.

ktlnow

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And what if it happened to you? Posted: 8/25/2007 8:22:37 PM
Willow, I can't believe you are that cold of a person. The OP is obviously torn with that type of decision. A foster parent for 5 whole years? You think that makes you an expert. The OP is talking life. It is a personal choice and one she is looking for an objective opinion on. And your right it isn't the money but i don't see a compasionate work in anything you said. How could it have been for anything but for you. OP do what you feel is right for you. Either way your grandkids will always love you.

ktlnow

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You have your life ,, would you give it up ? Posted: 8/25/2007 8:04:45 PM
It has taken me a good many years to finally find the peace I have found. I often feel the same way you do. However, this is the deal. If he is Mr. Right and we determine to join this would have to be the deal. I personally would not feel comfortable him merging into my space nor would I be comfortable merging into his. We start fresh. We would both have to give up our homes and begin new. House/Apt shopping for our place. And then we make it ours. It could only then be ours no ghosts, no kids stories. They would be exclusivly our achievements. Sound reasonable?

ktlnow

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Question for all you mom's out there. Posted: 8/25/2007 7:40:02 PM
most definitly. And she did. She was and still is a smart girl. It really isn't the age but the rate at which you allow them to grow up. She still makes good choices and doesn't let anyone talk her into something she doesn't want.

ktlnow

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Do women prefer a male Ginger? Posted: 8/25/2007 7:29:48 PM
I have to agree, the professor! A male Ginger??? There is something wrong when the guy you are with takes more time fussing with his looks than you do.. No thank you!

ktlnow

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He Says Lose 30 lbs and He Will Give you an Engagement Ring.....Would Ya???? Posted: 8/16/2007 8:03:52 PM
Sure I would!!! Then I would leave him at the alter while I was at the pawn shop holding my ticket for the honey moon. Anybody care to join me? Reap what you sow.

ktlnow

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Whats with women that invite their dogs into the bedroom to sleep? Posted: 8/11/2007 11:12:01 PM
My dog slept with me from the time he was a puppy until he passed when he was 16. It got so I even had to lift him to the bed sometimes. If there was any excess movement on the bed he would jump to the floor. I would never kicked the dog out for anyone. That is his home and anyone else is a guest. You need to respect that. My dog is an extention of my loving nature and to ask me to abandon someone very important to me in my family??? I don't need you in my life. I now watch my daughters dogs from time to time and if they are overnight they too sleep with me on the bed. A bull mastif and a boxer. Not small dogs but they love their granny.

ktlnow

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Msg: 97 (view)

Outsourcing of Jobs Overseas Posted: 8/4/2007 8:53:37 PM
mmmmmmmm I have heard some very interesting comments in this post. Placing surtaxes on products is a violation of free trade agreements? Is that correct? The US/Canadian lumber dispute? I worked for an American manufacturing corp years ago in Canada. When the free trade agreement was signed our little plant closed. Know what they did? Opened a warehouse to put some silly little part on to insure the products met CSA approval and labeled them assembled in Canada. I now work for an American Corp again but this time in the service industry. Life is much better, I don't work a mundane job. We are growing and profits are there. Life is good in Canada. Our economy is strong . My concern is the strong dollar, when the dollar is strong investment usually drops and industry suffers. I am sure we will suffer a simlar recesion as we did in the 80's but when you hold out and weather the storm we always will bounce back. A global economy opens markets to your countries goods. That is a good thing especially when those markets are growing at a faster rate than your own. I now from time to time see help wanted posted in retail businesses windows. 20 yrs ago I never would have. I like many people here helped in the fall of the Government who brought Free Trade to Canada. Listen close, I don't say this often "I was wrong"

ktlnow

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Fear and Self-loathing? Posted: 8/2/2007 9:20:15 PM
Your thinking is very outdated. Never worry about what other people think it is none of your business. How does it matter how you socialize? Just enjoy the journey. My mother voices her opinion all the time but only because it is something she doesn't understand. Keep fishin.... and why would you ever hate yourself?

ktlnow

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Is an act of violence ok against a cheater? Posted: 8/2/2007 9:13:12 PM
Nope violence is never ok. I once wanted to soooooooooo bad rub my x's girlfriends bikini in a patch of poison ivy oh so bad....then just tell her yup! he gave me the same thing. We all think evil thoughts but acting on them is just wrong.

ktlnow

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so confused! Help! Posted: 8/2/2007 9:07:40 PM
Chelsea, been there and done that. Pretty close to the same story. It isn't until you tell him that you want out that he wants you. It never stops. You don't want to put your baby through that. You deserve someone who worships you.

ktlnow

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Should I feel bad? Posted: 8/1/2007 10:13:03 PM
no, you shouldn't feel bad. You should be as happy as you are today. Congratualtions! you took the risk and allowed yourself to fall in love. Obviously, there are a few here too afraid to do so. Enjoy the journey. It all comes with good and bad and both are important. To be in love like this is a gift remember to cheerish it.

ktlnow

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Msg: 43 (view)

Prisoner in one's own home Posted: 7/26/2007 7:56:07 PM
Did these people not get killed in their home? The odds are higher getting hit by a car. Don't let fear and speculation rule your life. I live in an area full of correctional institutions. They escape but it isn't you they are angry at. As a child I remember 14 escaped. One caught just below the hill where we lived. We made some safety rules... ie no one to the barn alone, in the yard by 10 but otherwise life as usual.

ktlnow

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I thought I'd heard it all...scam! Posted: 7/19/2007 8:07:42 PM
ha! ha! too funny but how does this woman live with herself and think is is cool to do this to another human being. Sorry, personal/financial success is not to be had by nickle and diming anyone. Her loss.. she probably has had some very good prospects. She does this often enough and she will be tagged. The well will run dry.

ktlnow

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Live Earth Concerts Posted: 7/9/2007 8:27:40 PM
It was great entertainment. There were fabulous methods how to concerve and save engergy throughout the day. Yes, I agree there was a great deal of energy to get the performers to the cities and running the equipment however......If we all take a couple of the ideas on conservation we can make it back. It is like spending energy to save energy. It is too bad someone couldn't figure the stats how long it would take to recoup the energy lost on the performances. There were also a couple of performers who traveled via bi0 diesal. If it wasn't recycleable they were not allowed to bring it into the stage area. Although I am not a big fan of Al he did bring some valid points to the forfront. We need to lobby our MPP's to invest in alternative energy sources vs fossil fuels. Set the temperature down a degree in winter and up a degree in summer. The list goes on the little things we can each do that will when colaborated will make big savings. Did anyone else see the message????

ktlnow

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Msg: 129 (view)

Would You Disown Members of Your Family?? Posted: 7/1/2007 12:38:44 PM
Absolutely not! If one of my family didn't invite another member to a function I would not go either. Family is family. As different as we are and as wrong as "I think" they might be they are still family. Through all the crap they have always been there if not all of them most of them. No way would I ever disown any of them. BTW.... we are pretty diverse and some people(who are judgemental) might call us disfunctional but I love them all.

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