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camarogurl

Joined: 3/18/2007

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Dating more than one, and having sex with more than one. Posted: 8/19/2007 8:47:53 AM
Ok here goes, one more foray into my personal life lol. When I date, I can date several people, but it is just dating, no sex. When I have sex with someone then I date only them. This is the way I thought it was suppose to be and that everyone knew this rule. Yes, I was that naive. I still go by this rule for myself. Others have other morals and rules. I cannot say what is right or wrong for anyone other than myself. Is this what you wanted to know?

camarogurl

Joined: 3/18/2007

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Horrible kisser = deal breaker???? Posted: 8/9/2007 9:58:00 AM
If, as you say, everything else was great, no it would not be a deal breaker. I would not let one fault stand in the way of an amazing person. If you are selfish and only looking for perfection then that is the deal breaker. I love kissing, but I could give it up if I cared for someone. Or I would teach them a new way to kiss or find other pleasureable ways to excite each other. The best way to teach a man to kiss, you will have his full attention. Is to go down on him and pretend his member is his tongue. Tell him this is how I want you to kiss me, then SHOW him. I garuantee he wont ever forget again.

camarogurl

Joined: 3/18/2007

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Why is it soo hard to find a girl if u have a different backround? Posted: 8/9/2007 8:30:45 AM
Hey Sweetie, it will happen. It is hard finding the one no matter what your ethniticity. I had to look for 2 yrs to find the right one. Meet as many people as you can. I decided that maybe I did not know what I wanted and met every man who wanted to meet me. I was right, the one I needed wasn't the one I thought I wanted. Good luck she is out there! keep fishing

camarogurl

Joined: 3/18/2007

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what do women really want. Posted: 8/9/2007 8:17:41 AM
Mine is easy. I just wanted someone to make me feel special. I cant stand bad oral hygeine though, or bad hygeine of any sort. I want a man to act like a man and put his hand on the small of my back and opening the door. I am a sucker for that. I want a man to touch me. Hold my hand, stroke my cheek. It is hokey, but if the right man does it, like he just cant help himself, it is perfect. sigh lol I am a sap

camarogurl

Joined: 3/18/2007

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what do you think of meeting right away? Posted: 8/8/2007 12:28:32 PM
You all can b**ch and moan about wanting to chat and email for weeks and months until you "know someone"but the truth is, you will only know as much about that person as they want you to know. I have gone out with literally dozens of men of this site and others. Lots of meetings or first dates if you will. Not one of the people was anything like what I expected form chatting or emailing them. And boy am I glad! I met one guy from here that I got no sense of the wonderful person he is from our emails and chats but decided to meet him anyway. He is nothing like what I thought I wanted I could ever want. Wish me luck. And maybe a few of you will move your butts ouyt from in front of the computer and go meet people!!!!!!

camarogurl

Joined: 3/18/2007

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Looking for a get together Posted: 8/8/2007 12:17:59 PM
Hi Yes it is every thursday night and it is fun. I can't always go because I have to work sometimes lol But I do try to go when I can. Susan

camarogurl

Joined: 3/18/2007

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Fish gatherings in Seattle area Posted: 8/1/2007 2:09:03 PM
Ok, lets all meet at Marco's on thursday at 7pm and the people who want can stay and watch the band and dance? I will only go at that time if I hear from a few that they are coming, otherwise I am going at 9pm to watch the band. myspace.com/seattleponygurl":)

camarogurl

Joined: 3/18/2007

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So I'm dating this girl.... Posted: 7/31/2007 5:29:23 PM
No matter the age, if she isnt affectionate, and you are, move on. I just had to end a relationship because I am a more affectionate person than he and it drove me crazy. Good luck

camarogurl

Joined: 3/18/2007

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How do you ask for sex? Posted: 7/31/2007 1:53:11 PM
Try some hot and heavy petting and kissing and let nature take its course. If they want it too, you will know soon enough Asking makes it feel a bit set up and uncomfortable. Just kiss her and then let if go from there, or if you must use words, tell the girl you find her attractive and cant wait to see more of her or while kissing her tell her you want her. She will get the idea. All woman like to hear they are wanted. They they will say they dont. Good luck

camarogurl

Joined: 3/18/2007

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OK...someone clear this up Posted: 7/31/2007 1:48:09 PM
go out have fun. It can be fun going out alone and you get a different outlook when out alone, good luck

camarogurl

Joined: 3/18/2007

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Sleeping naked Posted: 7/31/2007 12:49:38 PM
SNAP ouch that has to hurt. BTW I sleep naked, I just like to be naked lol

camarogurl

Joined: 3/18/2007

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Looking for a get together Posted: 7/31/2007 10:05:13 AM
Too bad you are so far away, I am trying to get a singles thing going here in lynnwood on thursday nights. If you want to come down let me know. Or pop into Marco's on Thursday nights at 9pm Lynnwod WA hwy 99 and 176th. Live band, no cover and it is fun!!

camarogurl

Joined: 3/18/2007

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Dating Versus Long-Term Posted: 7/31/2007 10:01:48 AM
You have to understand to that most men put LTR on there but want to date. Most fussy women wont even date, they are looking for a LTR right out of the box so if the guys profile doesnt say LTR they wont give him the time of day. EVERYONE is looking to date. I dont care what they say, because you cant have a LTR with out dating a few fishys to find the one. Just go out, have fun and you set the pace anyway. Dont worry about rules and labels. Come on down my way and we will find some guys to date lol. There are some good ones.

camarogurl

Joined: 3/18/2007

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Fish gatherings in Seattle area Posted: 7/31/2007 9:50:33 AM
I put up a post a few month ago about meeting on thursdays at Marcos in Lynnwood on hwy 99 at 9pm. They have live music there every thursday with no cover charge. I got one response lol. People around here need to get out and DO something. Comeon people, I will cheer you on!

camarogurl

Joined: 3/18/2007

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what do you think of meeting right away? Posted: 7/30/2007 6:10:02 PM
Thanks ProfileKat. I agree with much of what you say.

camarogurl

Joined: 3/18/2007

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what do you think of meeting right away? Posted: 7/30/2007 8:53:30 AM
Ok People, lets be clear. I don't mean I send out an email, Hi, I am Susan, lets go out. Geez people the emails I have gotten. I mean after a few emails and a phone call or 2. But not this emailing away daily for a month or more. One guy sent what amounted to surveys on a daily basis. I get an email or two, talk on IM, then the phone, he seems ok, then I meet. If they dont seem ok, I talk longer or move on. I don't want to email all the time, would rather chat on the phone a time or 2, then meet. I have a very busy life and to me, email is a waste of time, phone is slightly better, but meeting face to face for a cup of coffee is cool. Or I will just say hey I will be at Marco's on thursday night with my friends, drop in ask me for a dance. I guess I don't worry about the small stuff. If I get hit on at the club, Í know how to get the losers to lose interest and leave me alone, same with if I meet someone and they get to be a pain. But honestly I have had fun on every date, even when there was no chemistry. I had agood time and still talk to most of the men. There was only one bad date, and that was not terrible. besides it is a great story lol.

camarogurl

Joined: 3/18/2007

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Do you ignore messages from single fathers? Posted: 7/29/2007 8:53:24 AM
No not at all. I prefer men who have kids, but will go out with men who havent any. I am an equal opportunity dater lol. Keep trying. Your question should be, Do you really want to go out with a woman who doesnt want to be involved with a man with children or who doesn't want to be around kids? Dont worry about those who do not respond and concentrate on talking to those who do.

camarogurl

Joined: 3/18/2007

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what do you think of meeting right away? Posted: 7/28/2007 11:07:58 PM
There were no red flags, I have no regrets meeting/dating the man I dated. I would not change a thing. I am glad for the experience of knowing him. We had a blast! That is what dating is all about, you date someone for a while to see if there is the basis for a relationship. You can talk to someone all you want online and never know how spending time with them will be. Or how that one little annoying habit will drive you out of your mind lol. They dont tell you that online on the phone what ever. Just kidding he is a great guy, we just dont feel we are 'the one' for each other, and there is nothing wrong with that.

camarogurl

Joined: 3/18/2007

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How many dates are people actually going on from this site? Posted: 7/28/2007 7:25:06 PM
I get lots of "meetings" from here, 2-3 a week a few times. I have made a lot of new friends and though I only kept dating one guy for a few weeks, I would recomend this site. It is fun meeting new people and I have had fun with all the men I have met except one. There is always that one bad apple. Darrel helped me work on my Harley and he is a great guy, Ricker took me to dinner and we had a great conversation and had much in common, Gordon was very funny in a low key way and made me laugh, David was too shy to ask me out again, Jerry is kind and writes great emails, Mike helped me out once and seemed to be a very nice guy and smelled great! I would write glowing endorsements for all of these men and others I have met, but sadly I am too ignorant to figure it out lol. Any of the ones I mentioned I would go out with again with pleasure. Maybe you just need to ask them? I have asked several men to meet and we have had a great time. Good luck and have fun. Remember, meeting someone is fun, not a job interview!

camarogurl

Joined: 3/18/2007

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what do you think of meeting right away? Posted: 7/28/2007 7:11:51 PM
Well, we dated for a few weeks and it didnt work so I am back. Have a great new friend, but no love connection. Oh well. I had fun and that is what counts right?

camarogurl

Joined: 3/18/2007

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what do you think of meeting right away? Posted: 7/9/2007 8:30:53 AM
Well, surprise! Meeting right away worked for me! YAY! The one I met the other night (tuesday) Is a great guy and we even had the same days off this last week. I had from wednesday until today off and so did he. It is going really well and I am going to put my profile on hold. Wish me luck

camarogurl

Joined: 3/18/2007

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what do you think of meeting right away? Posted: 7/3/2007 5:49:17 PM
Well here I go again meeting another new fish. Wish me luck. lol

camarogurl

Joined: 3/18/2007

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dating pregnant women Posted: 6/25/2007 6:50:03 PM
Yes michelle date if you want to, but please be careful. There are some real weirdos who actually are looking to hook up with pregnant women for sex. They have a fetish for pregnant women. I had one of my SO friends always trying to get me in bed because of his fetish. It was creepy.

camarogurl

Joined: 3/18/2007

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boobs Posted: 6/25/2007 8:12:51 AM
Hey girl, I know you are going to do what you want, but listen for a minute. I have worked in a plastic surgeons office. We recomend women under 25 wait for the surgery. Most womens breast do not finish developing until they are that age. I know I was a 32 B (a small b at that) when I graduated high school. I became a 36 DD by the time I graduated college. I hate it. Men talk to my breasts, I cant find cute bras, most cute tops dont fit, forget about dresses. Most guys figure women with a large chest are easy, or that they dont really have feelings. I also know all about the problems that come with getting a boob job. The scarring, the infections, the mono boob, there are so many. 52% will have some sort of complication. Besides did you know you have to go in every several years to get an overhaul? It is not get it done and forget about it. It is a lifetime of surgeries. It does ruin nipple sesitivity and men can tell the difference, they dont feel real. Please wait a few years, see what developes. You may feel differently, or maybe they will come up with a different option of surgery. Try those enhancement creams, I have heard they work for 40% of people who have tried them.

camarogurl

Joined: 3/18/2007

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Having Sex With Someone From Your Past Posted: 6/23/2007 10:34:12 PM
Yes, it happens. I had a friend from high school back pop into my life. We had never been intimate before. But we were both single when we came back into contact. We went out to re-connect, found we still liked each other and had a lot of things in common. Then found out we also had an amazing amount of chemistry we didnt have in high school. I didn't last long, but it was a lot of fun. If you have the urge, ask, you never know........................

camarogurl

Joined: 3/18/2007

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Can anyone make sense of this? Posted: 6/23/2007 7:38:02 AM
Sorry Hon, there is no making sense of this. She is rude and inconsiderate, and seems to have issues. If she had no intention of meeting you, she should not have made plans to meet you. Period. No worries, you are a good looking guy, you will find someone who has class. The one who dogged you definately did not! So keep fishing!

camarogurl

Joined: 3/18/2007

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what do you think of meeting right away? Posted: 6/22/2007 1:58:30 AM
You know I really appreciate all the input and different view points. It is great to hear all your varied stories and ancedotes. I like meeting right away, but I know it is not for all. I hope that you all keep writing and let me know how it goes meeting quickly or meeting slow. Have you met the one? How did you meet them? Good luck to all!

camarogurl

Joined: 3/18/2007

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Favorite Shirts with Words Posted: 6/21/2007 12:59:56 PM
My favorite tee's All men are animals, some just make better pets ;) Doesn't matter where you get your appetite as long as you eat at home. I dont care how old you are, just how well it works. I hear voices, they dont like you. Liquour and wine, gets my attention everytime. (lick her and whine) Yes these boobs are real, why would you ask unless your johnson isn't?

camarogurl

Joined: 3/18/2007

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'Something' in a background check,,,, Posted: 6/21/2007 11:22:28 AM
To fishkeepercop and NMkeith, cop you are wrong, keith it can happen. My good friend went to jail for causing major bodily injury to a man who was attacking me in a club parking lot. (He was charged by the man he had attacked.) So did the man who attacked me. My friend was told to accept a plea deal and spent 60 days in jail. He had done enough injury that the man who attacked me spent 12 days in the hospital. (they said he went to far and was playing vigelante) Sorry for the spelling. The man who attacked me got a year on work release!

camarogurl

Joined: 3/18/2007

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Horrible dating experiences. Posted: 6/19/2007 5:04:35 PM
It could be his computer is online but he is not. Or he is another one who wants to play the 3 day game. They go out with a girl and then they think they have to wait 3 days to call them or they will look like they are desperate. Maybe he just needed to hear you say you liked him and so he got all he needed out of the date? I have never been able to figure men out. I had a date where he acted like he was very interested, called me as soon as I got home, then everyday for a week, finally asked me if I would go out with him again, and I said yes, and I never heard from him again lol. I would like to find a man that does what he says he is going to do, then does it, I am 42 and still looking for him.

camarogurl

Joined: 3/18/2007

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20,000 more single men then women Posted: 6/18/2007 10:42:11 PM
If this is true, I should be having a lot more fun than I have now lol. I am definately not moving to the east coast now though!

camarogurl

Joined: 3/18/2007

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How Long To Chat Before First Date? Posted: 6/18/2007 7:23:14 AM
LOL I have basically the same thread on here. I want to DATE, that is why I signed on here. I dont want to email for weeks. I want to meet people and have met some great people. A few not so great, but you meet them in the "real world" too. Go for it and do what you feel right about. I want to find that click, that person that I feel an attraction to. I wish all of you luck and go for it!!!

camarogurl

Joined: 3/18/2007

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weight Posted: 6/16/2007 11:54:02 PM
You all crack me up. Diva you are just like a friend of mine who past away this last year she had your same fire and fight. (hit by a drunk driver) I find it more interesting that so many of us are here reading these forums and even the sucsess stories. Just for the curious, I am not thin, I am happy and I date every dam day I have time off! I have not met mr right, but a few have been a lot of fun. I have no preference in body type except I like men who are tall enough I can wear heels. I will be in those sucsess stories soon, I go out when asked and dont email someone for months.

camarogurl

Joined: 3/18/2007

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Changed Smiley Posted: 6/16/2007 12:18:54 PM
I know, I sent one the other day and it ended up being the winking one. Not what I wanted to imply lol < I like this guy

camarogurl

Joined: 3/18/2007

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Is it wrong to check the profile before accepting the IM? Posted: 6/16/2007 12:10:18 PM
I am not sure if it wouldn't hurt to just say hi and look at the profile then. I never hurts to be friendly and cordial. You can always chat a minute and if you are not interested say something like, "glad you stopped by, thanks for the chat." No big deal, I like to chat with all kinds of people and make a lot of friends that way. It doesn't always have to be about if there is a connection or not. Maybe you will make a friend?

camarogurl

Joined: 3/18/2007

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are we here for dating or what?? Posted: 6/15/2007 2:08:54 PM
JWA I always try to respond to every email, I sent a response last night to a man who lived in another state. Here is the response I gave and his response, Hello *** Thank you for your nice note. i see you are in ***, I think that is rather far from here and I would be more comfortable dating someone local. You have a nice smile and I am sure you will be able to find someone closer, have a good day, good fishing :) Susan The response: your never gonna get anyone with that attitude U need to loosen up frigid btch Yes, I blocked him. I did not see anything wrong with the email I sent. I felt bad though to think it had hurt his feeling or whatever.

camarogurl

Joined: 3/18/2007

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confused helpppp Posted: 6/14/2007 12:14:15 AM
Maybe you could try this, Say "Have you ever considered you and I as more than friends?" That is giving her an out and you an answer. I have actually had this line used on me, and we lived together for 10 years after that lol. So it worked. Susan

camarogurl

Joined: 3/18/2007

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No Nookie for Me Posted: 6/13/2007 10:37:08 AM
Hmmmmm, he stood by you and waited for you to be ready, but you are not willing to do the same? Sounds pretty selfish. Lots of people cannot perform the first time with someone new. Try not to make it all about intercourse and about exploring each others bodies and about what turns you both on. I assure you that you will both enjoy it.

camarogurl

Joined: 3/18/2007

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are we here for dating or what?? Posted: 6/13/2007 9:38:11 AM
surutu, A lot of us dont send replies to emails if we are not interested because some men get very nasty even if you say, no thank you, you are too far away or whatever. They respond to the nicest emails with venom and insults. I have had this happen myself. I used to respond to every email. But I got tired of having to defend myself and felt bad having to block people for being nasty. Susan

camarogurl

Joined: 3/18/2007

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Do people actually enjoy dating? Posted: 6/13/2007 9:32:09 AM
I love dating. I work hard to make the date fun though, someone has to. You cant go out and expect the other person to carry the load. They are not out there to entertain you. If you cannot have fun on a date maybe you need to look at the reason you are not having fun. Are you trying to be fun? Are you relaxed and ready to enjoy the persons company even if there is no click? Are you treating this as a job interview and have your list of questions? Relax, dating is just meeting someone new, and talking about fun exciting things you may have never done. Everyone has funny stories and acedotes they would love to share if you only ask. I have made so many friends from dating on this site. I have only had one really bad date. I may not have found the connection I hope for, but I have had a really good time meeting everyone of the men I have met. BTW Thanks guys, you are all wonderful!!!

camarogurl

Joined: 3/18/2007

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are we here for dating or what?? Posted: 6/12/2007 7:53:56 PM
Thank you Dev that is sweet. I am not concerned if he is "the one" I am happy dating and if the date goes well and we have a nice chat that is all good. I like meeting new people. I hope you meet someone nice, you are very good looking and should not have to use a site like this. Of course most of the people on here are more attractive than I had imagined. Lastride, funny funny. I am meeting at a coffee house, always a public place.

camarogurl

Joined: 3/18/2007

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Clues that he's an online player .. Posted: 6/12/2007 7:40:08 PM
Well, thats why I dont play the game and talk to them forever, I meet them. I can read people pretty well in person. If they dont want to meet, oh well. Meet in a public coffee house and see what kind of person they are. Good luck.

camarogurl

Joined: 3/18/2007

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are we here for dating or what?? Posted: 6/12/2007 6:46:47 PM
Well, wish me luck! I am going to go meet one tonight for a drink. If he has an axe, I am running for it lol

camarogurl

Joined: 3/18/2007

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New Kind of Relationship Posted: 6/11/2007 2:34:36 PM
Personally I could live with this kind of relationship. I have kids and dont wish to force on them another person. If it worked out ok, but I see nothing wrong with having an exclusive relationship and not being under the same roof. I would of course want to spend several nights with them as I like sleeping with a man, waking up can be good too ;) No relationship is all good or all bad and the only judge of the relationship is if it is working or not.

camarogurl

Joined: 3/18/2007

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Does this happen to you, too? Posted: 6/11/2007 2:21:56 PM
This used to happen to me a lot. Then I got some great advice from a friend, ask questions. People love to talk about themselves. They love to think you are interested in what they have to say. It makes things so much easier, just think up a few random questions befoer the date and then start asking. It helps a lot and really gets you both talking. Good luck

camarogurl

Joined: 3/18/2007

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ADD UP YOUR FINE!! Posted: 6/11/2007 8:24:42 AM
I thought I was a good girl but if I am honest I am going to be paying over $300 I gave up counting then.

camarogurl

Joined: 3/18/2007

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Looking at another man or woman! Posted: 6/11/2007 7:50:45 AM
Hey, you know what they say; It doesn't matter where you get your appetite, as long as you eat at home! Maybe you just need to work on showing her your appetite is for her alone by being more attentive? Just a thought, I haven't ever been the jealous type so never had this issue. Good luck

camarogurl

Joined: 3/18/2007

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are we here for dating or what?? Posted: 6/10/2007 10:27:22 PM
Thanks frolic, I am glad I am not alone and you put it very well. Much better than I.

camarogurl

Joined: 3/18/2007

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are we here for dating or what?? Posted: 6/10/2007 9:25:31 PM
Thank all of you for your responses. I figure after about 5 emails or a phone call or 2 I should try to meet and see if I am wasting my time or theirs. Isn't that what dating is about? I have met some amazing people, always in a public place. I haven't found "the one" but I have made some great friends and I know that the men on here I have talked to have mostly been great guys. I do not think I need to email someone for months as one poster suggested. I did that once and got very fond of the person, then we met and knew right away we were not interested in each other in a romantic way.

camarogurl

Joined: 3/18/2007

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are we here for dating or what?? Posted: 6/10/2007 6:57:02 PM
When I said "I dont know what these guys mean" I was refering to the little jumping icons. I am speaking of after talking or emailing for a week or more , how long is too long? How long is not long enough? Has anyone got a manual I can borrow?

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