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 Author Thread: You need help, don't you?
 ScubaStephen
Joined: 3/20/2007
Msg: 52 (view)
 
You need help, don't you?
Posted: 2/20/2008 4:18:53 PM
Umm Happynature, just some constructive criticism from someone of scientific thought. Saying so many "beliefs" even before a relationship is started, is to a relationship as rat poison is to a mouse. Dead before ya even get to the good part. ANYWAYS, innate psychological responses dictate people who give too much too fast, especially personal information scare off any quality suitors. This is our evolutionary coding called "survival of the fittest".

I do not think you are in any position to give advice.
 ScubaStephen
Joined: 3/20/2007
Msg: 54 (view)
 
People under age thirty should not be allowed marriage.
Posted: 2/20/2008 4:15:05 PM
I TOTALLY AGREE OP, however, people above age 30 should not be allowed marriage either. It is a silly out-dated human invention that NEEDS to be replaced.
 ScubaStephen
Joined: 3/20/2007
Msg: 70 (view)
 
What do you think of a man (or woman) who comes on really strong right away?
Posted: 2/20/2008 4:10:07 PM
the phrase is FnC.. f*** and chuck. That is what I think of them

Really you should tell these people exactly this "I am not interested in you for anything but sex, so after we have sex...I will not be calling you again, if we don't have sex..I will not be calling you again" NO MATTER what choice they make, same consequences... Man life is so much better when the outcome of ALL choices is exactly the same.
 ScubaStephen
Joined: 3/20/2007
Msg: 275 (view)
 
18 year old girl marries a 40 year old man?
Posted: 2/20/2008 4:07:49 PM
NICE...Give me some of that when I am 40 w00t.
 ScubaStephen
Joined: 3/20/2007
Msg: 7 (view)
 
Would you agree on my therapist's thoughts related to relationship?
Posted: 2/20/2008 4:06:51 PM
NO.. and just to clear things up, I didn't read your post OP.. BUT, its a therapist, so I don't agree.
 ScubaStephen
Joined: 3/20/2007
Msg: 43 (view)
 
Letting go when you still want to f***
Posted: 2/20/2008 4:05:58 PM
UGGGH.. try this next time, meet two guys, one whos bomb in bed, and one who suits your emotional/financial needs. Keep both of them on the line and make sure they know about it... there ya go! That way if the emotional relationship sucks, you are still getting laid!
 ScubaStephen
Joined: 3/20/2007
Msg: 28 (view)
 
Our First Relationship is with Ourselves
Posted: 2/20/2008 4:03:29 PM
I have a great relationship with myself.

I talk to myself regularly, I sing love songs to myself, I flirt with myself every time I see me walk by. I make love to myself, feed myself well, I dance with myself(usually only myself since I hate other ppl getting in my way of having fun). I always put myself first, and I enjoy my company over everyone elses...man they gotta hurry up with cloning humans.
 ScubaStephen
Joined: 3/20/2007
Msg: 931 (view)
 
Why men don't date strong women...
Posted: 2/20/2008 3:58:53 PM
I am not gonna bother reading any of the additional posts on this thread, just answer your question. It is because most men aren't strong(low self esteem, bad self image, emotionally and/or physically weak), enough said.
 ScubaStephen
Joined: 3/20/2007
Msg: 40 (view)
 
bi-sexuality - r woman doing this to be more attractive to men?
Posted: 2/20/2008 3:52:54 PM
As a man who enjoys the company of bisexual women, I would DEFINATELY hope that it isnt just to be more attractive to men. I want to enjoy a woman WITH my girlfriend, and have her enjoy it as much as me... if it was just an act I would feel like total shit, same reason why I won't have a 3some with a guy that I am not interested in, it has to be there.
 ScubaStephen
Joined: 3/20/2007
Msg: 14 (view)
 
The first glance at opposite sex
Posted: 2/20/2008 3:37:43 PM
I look at hair, it tells a lot about women. Cleanliness, self image (women with a low self image do not pay much attention to their hair), and it is a major health identifier. After hair it is skin, same reasons.. Quite honestly, I am a very well kept man and I expect the same of any woman I am interested in. The other parts don't matter because, almost anything is attractive with the right head on her shoulders.
 scubastephen
Joined: 3/20/2007
Msg: 5 (view)
 
Sexual acceptability!
Posted: 5/23/2007 9:12:04 PM
A) Giving oral sex - 1 No problems, unless she has health problems downere now thatd be a 10 then lol.

B) Receiving oral sex - 1 too bad 1 is the most acceptable.....

C) Anal sex - tuffy cuz... I can't do this one on a whim, its gonna be planned out, poo can be a real turn off lol - 4

D) A woman swallows - yes please 1!!

E) Fisting - UHmmm... not in my ass! lol really if my fist fits, wtf am I gonna do with my penis? 10

F) First date sex - 10, this usually means this is the last date, or the end of anything emotional, its all sex from here on in.

G) Sex of penis - Well I don't worry about this one, mine is just too tiny to bother.

H) A partners willingness to experiment - 1 - so important, I mean...seriously.

I) Use of pornography - WHEN? pornography is always acceptable between adults - 1

J) Multiple partners - 10, I am a one woman man and I need a one man woman... multiple partners is like something you do with hookers or while drunk and on vacation in the Caribbean.
 scubastephen
Joined: 3/20/2007
Msg: 80 (view)
 
why every man has to be funny
Posted: 4/5/2007 2:56:49 PM

When a poor homeless guy slips on a banana peel, that's not particularly funny.


I would have a hard time not laughing if I saw it though lol.
 scubastephen
Joined: 3/20/2007
Msg: 72 (view)
 
why every man has to be funny
Posted: 4/5/2007 11:57:43 AM
I think regardless of sense of humor, or being funny, dating preference whatever, everyone on earth should laugh at least 3 times a day, if we all did the world would be a much better place.

Laughter isn't just called the best medicine, it literally IS the best medicine.

Everyone is a fool, the biggest fools are those who think they aren't.
 scubastephen
Joined: 3/20/2007
Msg: 184 (view)
 
My 14 yr old dating a 20 yr old and on the pill
Posted: 4/5/2007 11:46:50 AM
I am not advocating violence, it is what instinctually comes to mind as a man though. When it comes to moral issues like this its most common that instinct prevails over clear thought, and FYI slandering a reputation isn't violence, especially if the rep is true. I just personally do not understand how this sort of thing happens aside from lack of parenting, it really isn't a choice. It is something that atleast the ones I have known, have chosen because they have had a lack of parenting througout their lives, they have no moral code yet because one was never enforced. They have no mentor and seek guidance, and thats what they get from an older man.

I do understand too that an older male has his reasons that are sexually related to why he would go after a girl that young, as long as its legal but I think there are inherantly deeper issues on both sides of the fence that need to be dealt with.

So here finally is my real suggestion, group therapy.. all of ya, boyfriend, daughter, both fathers both mothers.. try to figure out what is going on here. Even if the therapy doesn't uncover anything, promising to your child that you won't meddle if your child goes to the therapy will convince them to do so, and the annoyance of the therapy itself will often end the relationship because... as we all CAN agree, it is puppy love.
On the other hand, if the therapy doesn't break them up then it quite possibly is true love and step off that, age does not determine maturity or what the heart wants, only time does, and time still passes in the blink of an eye.
 scubastephen
Joined: 3/20/2007
Msg: 180 (view)
 
My 14 yr old dating a 20 yr old and on the pill
Posted: 4/5/2007 10:36:12 AM
The law is there to protect those who can't protect themselves, this girl has a dad to protect her so ya exactly.. forget due process!
 scubastephen
Joined: 3/20/2007
Msg: 17 (view)
 
Infidelity paranoia
Posted: 4/4/2007 4:47:32 PM

I've known several couples in relationships where one partner is very insecure and gets convinced in their own minds that their partner is cheating or will at some point cheat,and then they make their paranoia a reality or turn their suspicions into a self fullfilling prophecy.


This in itself isn't a prophecy, its the insecure persons ability to sense that their partner will cheat. An insecure person doesn't create a cheater, once a cheater always a cheater and it is not just a saying, it is a state of mind.

Now obviously some relationships end purely because of the paranoia involved, but there is no cheating involved.

My general rule to make things easy is, if you think they are cheating, then they are. You won't be able to learn how to think otherwise, and there will never be anything to prove they aren't. So just end it and move on, or get some serious therapy.
 scubastephen
Joined: 3/20/2007
Msg: 176 (view)
 
My 14 yr old dating a 20 yr old and on the pill
Posted: 4/4/2007 4:41:25 PM
Not true at all, he can pay some big dummy to break the guys legs. He will back off fast.

Also you could post a poster up in his school saying "This man is a pedophile and is having sex with a 14 year old girl" I have a feeling he will get some serious beat down from the right crowds.

Let us be honest, any 20 year old who is proud to be screwing a 14 yr old is MESSED IN THE HEAD in todays society. Even if the law accepts it, doesn't mean his closest family and friends will.

Talk to your daughter, then take initiative as a father, make sure the his parents know about the situation, and go form there... shit if it was my daughter, the boy would be in antarctica by now, and you better believe it would be by choice.
 scubastephen
Joined: 3/20/2007
Msg: 12 (view)
 
why every man has to be funny
Posted: 4/4/2007 4:33:36 PM
Ron... have you ever been in the room while a woman was reading a steamy romance novel? There is your answer.
 scubastephen
Joined: 3/20/2007
Msg: 9 (view)
 
why every man has to be funny
Posted: 4/4/2007 4:16:03 PM
Every man has to be funny because every man is, they just need to take the finger out of their butts.

Eating beans after such removal is usually the quickest way to laughs, although it won't help you with the ladies.
 scubastephen
Joined: 3/20/2007
Msg: 246 (view)
 
IMPORTANT --> Spyware - Popups, Homepage Changing, etc
Posted: 4/4/2007 1:36:13 PM
I dunno why everyone has problems.. I have spy-bot, I don't scan with it, I only use the immunize feature, for AV I have Nod32. I run very thorough scans (not with spybot) that will pickup everything and have yet to find a single virus or piece of spyware in over 2 years. I have IE protected using Google Toolbar with popup blocker enabled, and I never install anything with Yahoo or MSN in it's name unless it is followed by Messenger, as only the messengers seem to have adequate security to combat malicious scripts, the toolbars seem to be targets for attacks.

As for the guy who said just use linux, those days will end, same with the mac arguement about viruses, etc. There is little benefit to people creating these scripts and benefiting off them as they are reaching a much larger audience by targeting PC's. As linux is becoming more user friendly, and Mac's becoming more commonplace you will start to see a flood of attacks pointed towards those two systems. Please put your loyalties aside and give up something constructive.

There is no end in sight all we can do is learn to protect ourselves better each time we fail at it.

1. If a piece of anti virus software doesn't catch a virus, discard it, try something new. Otherwise we have a lot of insane people.

2. If your spy ware protection doesn't work, maybe you need to step it up a notch and not be cheap, pay for something that works. Real-time registry scanners do good jobs, a lot of pop-ups live in the registry and if you catch every change that is made, your life is that much easier in the long run.

3.(VERY IMPORTANT) If the guy who is fixing your computer, if that is the case, can't keep it fixed, or keep you updated with new problems, its time to look elsewhere. Again, the definition of insanity is doing the same thing expecting different results.


Most people who give advice just want to feel important, so listen to what everyone has to say but do not think any answer is the end answer, look for yourself... and don't pick the easiest answer you can find, pick the one that makes the most sense after arduous searching.

It is also good to have a spare PC that you specifically keep off the network to keep backups etc on for hairy situations. I can't afford that but maybe you can.
 scubastephen
Joined: 3/20/2007
Msg: 21 (view)
 
Warning !!!!
Posted: 4/4/2007 1:08:34 PM
Oh and always get a second opinion...about 100 times is sufficient. =)
 scubastephen
Joined: 3/20/2007
Msg: 20 (view)
 
Warning !!!!
Posted: 4/4/2007 1:05:10 PM

Try getting hijackthis! (Freeware)and looking at your browser inserts.
You'll see it and you can remove it.Most pop ups are just hijacks.
But trendmicro works very well.
I usually reformat when that happens though.


This is a BAD idea.. hi-jackthis! has the ease of ability of removing files that novice users won't know are required for internet use, because in many cases on their novice setup there are files that are that hi-jackthis will find.

Also it is bad to mis-educate people and tell them "Most pop ups are just hijacks" All pop-ups ARE scripts that open a window with a particular content. Sometimes these scripts can be harmful but not always, Not a single pop-up in itself is dangerous, it is what it contains and WHAT you do with it that is the problem.

Most commonly these Warning!! You have got to pay for this because you are dumb, is entirely accurate. Most often the most recent software you installed IS the problem, uninstall it. Don't try to get things for free without properly educating yourself on what "free" indeed means. Nobody wants free sex if it is guaranteed to come with a free case of herpes.

In ALL situations, take this from a technical support agent. Do not listen to ANYONE who you are not paying to fix the problem.

You will not learn anything, and you will just dig yourself into a hole. If on the other hand you have no problem with buying new PC parts every few months (common when learning how to troubleshoot on your own) then by all means go ahead and learn how to do it yourself, just be prepared to find out it IS a lot cheaper to pay someone to fix your computer who is trained and knows what they are doing, than the cost of the sheer man hours you are going to be putting in.

Go pay the $40 bux (CDN) or whatever it is where you are, to get a scan and clean. Then learn from your mistakes, and ask the professionals who fix your computer how you can keep this from happening in the future. Most scan and cleans come with an installation of free protection software such as Spy-Bot: Search and Destroy and AVG-free.
 scubastephen
Joined: 3/20/2007
Msg: 168 (view)
 
My 14 yr old dating a 20 yr old and on the pill
Posted: 4/4/2007 12:46:46 PM
http://ageofconsent.com/canada.htm
 scubastephen
Joined: 3/20/2007
Msg: 167 (view)
 
My 14 yr old dating a 20 yr old and on the pill
Posted: 4/4/2007 12:42:13 PM
HELLO ......PEOPLE.... this 14 year old lives in Canada... the age of consent is 14.... period.. As for this thread.. opinions are like rectums .. everybody has one.. but for those from outside Canada.. please familiarize yourself with current Canadian law . That could apply as well to the Canadain posters who are on about it being "statutory rape" and "illegal"........statutory rape is not even on the books as a crime here.. sexual assault of a minor is... but..... it involves non-consentual sex, involvement of a minor(-14) or the violation of a position of trust, ( just a few of the options).


Please read below for the current ammendments

The Criminal Code does not now criminalize consensual sexual activity with or between persons 14 or over, unless it takes place in a relationship of trust or dependency, in which case sexual activity with persons over 14 but under 18 can constitute an offence, notwithstanding their consent. Even consensual activity with those under 14 but over 12 may not be an offence if the accused is under 16 and less than two years older than the complainant. The exception, of course, is anal intercourse, to which unmarried persons under 18 cannot legally consent, although both the Ontario Court of Appeal(3) and the Quebec Court of Appeal(4) have struck down the relevant section of the Criminal Code.


AND you will note, nobody under the age of 18 is allowed by law to have anal intercourse.

This is legit, go read and learn something.
 scubastephen
Joined: 3/20/2007
Msg: 20 (view)
 
POF: What are girls looking for?
Posted: 4/4/2007 11:26:11 AM

Which part don't I understand? Girl you are only seeing what your own mind will
allow your eyes to take in. So you took what I said, digested it and spit it back out
to this? You should try reading your own stuff before you start giving answers
because you seem write one big contradiction after another.
It's called proof reading. It's quite simple really.


Yes this is called female to male, or male to female interaction.... it often ends up that views become like this and messages are misconstrued. As a man you can now walk away from it and let it be done =P

This thread is about an opinion to the original statement, not a place for trolls to come and feed.
 scubastephen
Joined: 3/20/2007
Msg: 19 (view)
 
POF: What are girls looking for?
Posted: 4/4/2007 11:21:39 AM

Every person is different. We have different looks we are attracted to, and personality types we are attracted to. You can't just put a blanket statement on men or women and say, "this is what we want". We are looking for someone who is physically attractive to us, we are looking for someone with similar outlooks and interests....it has to all just click into place.


I'd hope we couldn't put a blanket statement on it, or this topic would be useless. I am interested in the differences in each answer, and I think many other people would be as well. Thank you for yours by the way =)
 scubastephen
Joined: 3/20/2007
Msg: 5 (view)
 
POF: What are girls looking for?
Posted: 4/2/2007 2:38:10 AM
I guess I was misunderstood, I am not asking for advice. I am asking for the answer to the question I asked and I would appreciate you keep your opinion to yourself.

If I were unkind I would say that your post just proves how retarded my fellow males can be.
 scubastephen
Joined: 3/20/2007
Msg: 63 (view)
 
Guys, if you met the right woman would you consider marriage?
Posted: 4/2/2007 1:07:10 AM
Do you mean today?

Well that sort of puts me on the spot, ok ya if I meet the right woman today I will consider marriage lol.
 scubastephen
Joined: 3/20/2007
Msg: 4 (view)
 
POF: What are girls looking for?
Posted: 4/2/2007 1:05:57 AM

many may feel the same as you do, when it really was something else.

Don't misunderstand me I haven't assumed anything and I don't feel that way, it was merely my sense of humor =)

I actually believe every lady has her own reasons, that is why I find the subject interesting, everyone will have their own personal answer.
 scubastephen
Joined: 3/20/2007
Msg: 1 (view)
 
POF: What are girls looking for?
Posted: 4/2/2007 12:36:25 AM
More specifically, when a guy messages you wishing to talk, what is it you look for, what part of his message or profile.

Is it the length of the message, it's eloquence?
How much he likes your booty?
Honestly, I am very curious to see why girls reply to some messages and not others, is it really just superficial looks? I have a hard time believing all girls are just superficial.

Please fill me in on this one, I think there will be quite some interesting answers.
 scubastephen
Joined: 3/20/2007
Msg: 40 (view)
 
hierarchy among males
Posted: 4/1/2007 10:45:28 PM
I have always been the type of guy who has been a leader of many groups, admittedly an Alpha male. The group of friends who I have kept the longest, are most definitely all alpha males. We do enjoy the time we spend together, but we are all dominant and confident men, and we need to split into other groups of what we openly consider in this alpha male group, lesser friends, who I guess are our release of that leader that all of us usually compete for.

Whoever said alphas cannot group together has it wrong, actually alpha males tend to have different ways in which they group together which isn't as common as with other males. They tend to spend large amounts of time, less often, then with other friends. Alpha males will openly admit that their other groups of friends are the lesser friends. Sometimes they will bring one of these lesser friends along, in this situation the lesser friend either feels entirely engulfed by the situation, or doesn't feel he fits in and has an overwhelming urge to leave.

Alpha males tend to group together out of trust, as it is common to find someone who holds trust to be a sacred ideal amongst natural born leaders, and it is more common to be constantly back-stabbed by these "lesser" friends.

A true alpha male knows it, and knows when he has met another one instantly. It isn't something conscious but it is easy to notice. An alpha male will notice another alpha is not happy with his presence, and tries to do whatever possible to break the rival male off from the group. An outsider alpha male will try to overwhelm any groups leader, and take it over for himself, if only temporarily.

Yes it is silly, but it is nature, and we are animals people... deal with it.
 scubastephen
Joined: 3/20/2007
Msg: 27 (view)
 
Do you let friends/others influence your feelings on someone?
Posted: 4/1/2007 6:30:09 PM
I don't listen to my friends advice, I know my friends may have some racial base for their comment or religious base, and that sht just doesn't fly with me.
 scubastephen
Joined: 3/20/2007
Msg: 208 (view)
 
Are people these days 'too picky'...
Posted: 4/1/2007 6:03:35 PM
I agree albertanontherocks same here, that is why I only put up one really crappy picture.
 scubastephen
Joined: 3/20/2007
Msg: 207 (view)
 
Are people these days 'too picky'...
Posted: 4/1/2007 6:02:34 PM
Ya I am way too picky, I only date females.
 scubastephen
Joined: 3/20/2007
Msg: 47 (view)
 
My 14 yr old dating a 20 yr old and on the pill
Posted: 4/1/2007 5:40:47 PM
I read and read through this post and I cannot believe anyone came up with this much...

In Canada, the legal age of consent to sexual activity is 14 YES, but there is a catch. Any persons between the ages of 14 and 16 may only consent to sex with a parter up to and including 2 years their senior, a 14 year old with a 20 year old IS illegal everywhere without parental consent, and still illegal in those cases many places too.

Just to make it clear though, a 16 year old may consent with any persons considered an adult by law in Canada, this is only for 14-16 year olds.

The rest of the law regards the protection of minors below the age of 16. The law has been ammended because quite honestly, the situation has been that a 14 year old and 16 year old had been sexually active, the 14 year olds parents found out and pressed charges, however the couple then still got back together after the 16 year old, now 20+ has served his term for statutory rape. The law makes perfect sense to me, and if you do not want your children fooling around at a young age, do not allow for that sort of situation, talking about sex is a good start.

The problem is that not everyone matures at the same age, and it is possible for a young couple to find true love, and the media associates love and sex as a permanent institution. Yes I myself agree that sex at such a young age is disgusting, and strips you of your childhood, but everyone is who they are and has their own opinions.

Sir, take heart in the fact that your daughter is open enough with her mother to ask her for birth control. The fact that her mother is willing to get her birth control is an issue she should have checked with you as her father if you are taking an active role in her life.

Pull out the law books and put them before your ex, show her that it is illegal for the two to be involved, and deal with it together like two mature adults.
 scubastephen
Joined: 3/20/2007
Msg: 16 (view)
 
I see every girl saying this, I can't understand it!
Posted: 4/1/2007 5:20:20 PM
It means "I want money." don't you guys have your Female to Male dictionaries yet?
 
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