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 Dr__Matt
Joined: 2/19/2012
Msg: 44 (view)
 
The accidental boob graze
Posted: 8/26/2012 2:40:38 AM
I think the problem here is not the groping of boobs but the sweeping generalisation about men which, to be quite blunt, most of us are sick and tired of.
 Dr__Matt
Joined: 2/19/2012
Msg: 44 (view)
 
The best I have ever had
Posted: 8/22/2012 8:13:52 AM

To clarify my question I want to continue to progress into a relationship and he says he wants the same. I'm bad at relationships and I am worried that he will only want sex from me.


If you're concerned about it, then next time keep your legs crossed until you're sure that YOU ARE in a relationship. This post is a classic prelude to a future post where the woman comes back and whines about being played or used.
 Dr__Matt
Joined: 2/19/2012
Msg: 91 (view)
 
starting a family after 40
Posted: 8/16/2012 1:12:23 PM
Not everybody is fortunate enough to have met the person they want children with at a young age. I still haven't given up hope of having a family.
 Dr__Matt
Joined: 2/19/2012
Msg: 17 (view)
 
Running / (actually i jog but call it running) tips
Posted: 8/15/2012 5:07:44 PM
Make sure you set the treadmill to 1 to 2 % slope. The pull of the belt helps you a bit and when totally flat is the equivalent of running slightly downhill. That's why you might be lasting longer on the treadmill.
 Dr__Matt
Joined: 2/19/2012
Msg: 19 (view)
 
White lies
Posted: 8/14/2012 8:57:14 AM
Best one I ever heard was a girl I went on a date with saying what an a$$hole her ex boyfriend was. A few days later when I tried to set another date up the ex boyfriend (who she said had been out of her life two years and had no contact) mysteriously appeared and she wanted to "try again" with him. Clearly this was complete bullsh1t.
I was fine with the fact that she was clearly not interested in another date. It was her treating me as if I was stupid that got me. I'd have perfectly have accepted a text or email saying she was not interested.
 Dr__Matt
Joined: 2/19/2012
Msg: 15 (view)
 
What is the Chemistry?
Posted: 8/14/2012 8:52:52 AM
It's something I studied for 7 years at university so I'm something of an expert on.....chemistry :-)
 Dr__Matt
Joined: 2/19/2012
Msg: 162 (view)
 
women hate short men
Posted: 8/14/2012 8:49:25 AM
I agree with the above post to a large extent. Darwinism favours traits essential for survival and height is not necessarily one of them. In times when men were hunters how would a few inches extra height give you much of an advantage against a wild animal ? If you want to use the survival argument then I'd have said the ability to run fast and for long distances would be more advantageous. No surprise then that Haile Gebrsalassie, the greatest marathon runner of all time is only 5'5".

There are spurious reports about taller people being more successful, clever etc but some people will go out of their way to prove a relationship between anything, in the same sinister way people have tried to prove women less able than men, whites more intelligent that blacks or Jews inferior to gentiles.

Furthermore, if natural selection favours height, then surely shortness would have died out by now ?
It is largely cultural and social engineering. Nobody can deny the power and influence of the media, especially on young impressionable people. Why else would 13 year old girls be asking for breast enhancements ?
The reason that many taller people seem to fair better in careers etc is nothing to do with their height but to do with the social perception of them, positive discrimination of sorts.
The happy side for shorter men is that many women have been able to cast off these sociologican and Darwinistic shackles and make their own minds up.

Genetics, survival and Darwinism is an erroneous argument used by women to justify their preference when they don't need to justify it at all. It's their call if they want to limit themselves. There is not a scrap of rigorous, testable and reproducible evidence to suggest that shorter men are inferior in any way as fathers or husbands. If it were then someone needs to be more quantitative. If shorter men are Darwinistically less desirable, then when do they become more desirable, 5'8" ? 6'2" ?
It's all nonsense.
 Dr__Matt
Joined: 2/19/2012
Msg: 9 (view)
 
Is he on line??
Posted: 8/13/2012 3:41:08 PM

But to be honest, hes probably being deceitful.......he is a man after all!!


* he's
 Dr__Matt
Joined: 2/19/2012
Msg: 4 (view)
 
Is he on line??
Posted: 8/13/2012 2:04:12 PM
Translate: is there a way for me to spy on him.
 Dr__Matt
Joined: 2/19/2012
Msg: 5 (view)
 
WTF??
Posted: 8/12/2012 7:15:02 AM
Someone accidentally blocked me once because she hit the wrong button on the small screen of a smartphone (using the PoF app). It does happen and could be a genuine mistake.
 Dr__Matt
Joined: 2/19/2012
Msg: 33 (view)
 
Bad spelling
Posted: 8/12/2012 7:00:15 AM
OP, are you having a laugh ?

Your profile indicates you have no idea about how to use capital letters, no concept of ajectival endings, don't know the difference between a common noun and a proper noun and you seem to have an aversion to the use of apostrophes.

But I suspect this post is all just a pi$$ take.
 Dr__Matt
Joined: 2/19/2012
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Have you ever respected a woman too much that you wouldn't date her?
Posted: 8/12/2012 5:58:14 AM

Have you ever respected a woman too much that you wouldn't date her?


No.
 Dr__Matt
Joined: 2/19/2012
Msg: 5 (view)
 
Tell me why guys......go easy...lol
Posted: 8/11/2012 5:23:46 PM
Full of meaningless clichés. That's my honest take on it. Sorry to be blunt.

You know exactly what you want. Worth bearing in mind, we don't always get what we want. Don't rule out making compromises. We live in an imperfect world.
Personally I wouldn't message you because your profile is like hundreds of others I have read. I have absolutely no idea what your interests are, what your travel aspirations are or what you do outside of work.
You also smoke which for many is the ultimate dealbreaker.
 Dr__Matt
Joined: 2/19/2012
Msg: 188 (view)
 
Sex with Tall women
Posted: 8/10/2012 7:57:07 AM
I have been with one girl who was at least 3" taller than me bare foot. She had great legs and it was a massive turn on.
 DrMatt.
Joined: 2/19/2012
Msg: 2 (view)
 
Should public figures never be allowed a private life?
Posted: 8/9/2012 9:59:16 AM
As long as it doesn't involve kids, animals or non-consensual activity I don't care what people do behind closed doors.

It's about time people stopped being so self-righteous about what other people choose to do. Public figure, celebrity or private citizen, they are all humans like the res of us with the same desires, lusts and fantasies.
If you've got the mental energy and time to worry about someone else's sex life then you need to sort out your own life.
I couldn't care less if the prime minister has homosexual gang bangs every night.
 DrMatt.
Joined: 2/19/2012
Msg: 151 (view)
 
women hate short men
Posted: 8/9/2012 8:20:09 AM
Same as above ^^^

In fact when I've been out with a girl taller than me I find it quite a turn on.....I don't feel any less masculine at all....especially if I know what I'm going to do to her later on :-)) (and she can leave the heels on for that !)
 DrMatt.
Joined: 2/19/2012
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I would like some men fishies to give me some feed back on my profile?
Posted: 8/8/2012 3:59:48 PM
This is not the right place for a profile review. Go to the profile review section. This thread will likely be deleted.
 DrMatt.
Joined: 2/19/2012
Msg: 23 (view)
 
Can I buy you a drink?
Posted: 8/8/2012 8:38:49 AM
The very reason many guys have given up talking to women in bars. She sounds retarded and mercenary.
 DrMatt.
Joined: 2/19/2012
Msg: 137 (view)
 
women hate short men
Posted: 8/5/2012 4:09:14 PM
I have been out with a few women who were taller than me in heels (met in real life). They didn't give a toss.
Many women will never get over the social expectations of gender i.e. man must be taller, man must make the first move. That's why there's never been true equality and there never will be.
However, as with most rules, there are the exceptions and some women will do the pursuing and some will not give a fu*k if the bloke is shorter. It's usually the exceptions to the rule that are most interesting and the ones who tow the line most mundane.
 DrMatt.
Joined: 2/19/2012
Msg: 15 (view)
 
Sloppiness - lack of motivation
Posted: 8/5/2012 3:55:40 PM
This is a question for a Doctor. Seriously.
 DrMatt.
Joined: 2/19/2012
Msg: 49 (view)
 
Is this normal?
Posted: 8/5/2012 3:51:20 PM

Would a guy speak to a woman with a guy in her main picture?


Yes. It could be her brother and it might indicate she's close to her family which is positive and attractive.

When Jesus said thou shalt not judge, that included YOU.
 DrMatt.
Joined: 2/19/2012
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Is this normal?
Posted: 8/5/2012 3:40:18 PM
People hardly ever reply to me either. I've rewritten my profile umteen times, tried different photos but zilch.
No point doing a profile review because people will tell me to change my profile to something I've probably already tried.

Here's my philosophy about what to write in a first email: it doesn't matter (unless it's clearly sordid and sleazy).

If you write "hi" they will reply if you're gorgeous and they fancy you.
If you write an interesting email they won't reply if they don't fancy you.

 DrMatt.
Joined: 2/19/2012
Msg: 8 (view)
 
Not sure I understand...
Posted: 8/5/2012 3:31:57 PM
Email me instead :D
Don't know why he passed you by, your profile is a refreshing change, full of positivity instead of man hating cynicism. I'm moving to London haha !
 DrMatt.
Joined: 2/19/2012
Msg: 10 (view)
 
Independant
Posted: 8/5/2012 8:28:43 AM
It wouldn't be so bad if women spelled it propely i.e. independent not independant


I am comfortable in my own skin.


Now that's a new one ;-)
 DrMatt.
Joined: 2/19/2012
Msg: 67 (view)
 
How rare is it to find someone you feel strongly about?
Posted: 8/5/2012 8:25:38 AM
It's happened to me twice in 38 years
 DrMatt.
Joined: 2/19/2012
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Doomed Due to Current Job?
Posted: 8/5/2012 6:25:27 AM

A truck driver often has a rap of being unfaithful on the road, having women in 'different ports', etc. That alone will hinder you.


Being a truck driver won't hinder him, but women sterotyping him in this way will.
 DrMatt.
Joined: 2/19/2012
Msg: 112 (view)
 
Wanting Christian Grey.....
Posted: 8/5/2012 5:35:21 AM
Who's Christian Grey ?
 DrMatt.
Joined: 2/19/2012
Msg: 122 (view)
 
women hate short men
Posted: 8/5/2012 4:05:25 AM
Short man syndrome, anyonean under 5'7 has it, they are just not real men, simples


Emmanuel Mutai did the London Marathon this year in 2 hr 8 mins a month after suffering from typhoid.
What have you done that makes you a real man ?

Oh, Mutai is 5'4" by the way. But we all know you're just being provocative ;-)
 DrMatt.
Joined: 2/19/2012
Msg: 8 (view)
 
Why do guys look (and maybe like what they see) but don't contact?
Posted: 8/4/2012 11:32:30 AM
Do you buy everything you look at in a shop window or on the shelves of the supermarket ?
 DrMatt.
Joined: 2/19/2012
Msg: 132 (view)
 
Are conditions like ADHD an excuse for parents who have naughty kids?
Posted: 8/2/2012 1:17:12 PM

Out of all my daughter's friends covering the Cardiff, Newport, Bridgend and surrounding village areas, I know of only two students (one whose dad was made redundant and one whose dad started his own business in the financial year included for EMA purposes) who were allowed to keep their partial awards that they received for one academic year for pocket money.


Good, perhaps they've sorted out the mess then. When I was in Education, there were at least half a dozen in the one establishment I worked at alone.


Just because you wrote a paper on it, doesn't mean that paper was unbiased and your opinion is certainly not representative of all students, even if the example you cite is anecdotally representative of one particular student.


True, many papers are biased but why would I be biased towards or against the EMA ? The paper was a review of sociological and governmental work published on the EMA's effects on retention and achievement. I presented the evidence, the reader can make up their own mind. At the time it wasn't anectodtal, cases like that were one of the main reasond why many opposed the way the EMA was implemented in Wales.



Is there a copy of your paper online? I'm interested in your research methodology.


Yes but I'm not posting a link to something which identifies me or where I worked. It wasn't based on personal opinion it was based on educational and governmental research on the benefits of the EMA (or lack thereof). Some of the references I used which might interest you are below:

EMA Fraud:

http://www.publications.parliament.uk/pa/cm200607/cmhansrd/cm070509/text/70509w0020.htm

Why it was introduced:

Dealing with Disaffection: Young People, Mentoring and Social Inclusion by T. Newburn (you need to go to page 40)

Evaluation of pilot EMA schemes:

Evaluation of Education Maintenance Allowance Pilots: Young People Aged 16-19 Years Final Report of the Quantitative Evaluation by Erich Battistin (Research Report RR678).

I have a hard copy of this but it's on the web as a PDF if you Google it. It's well worth reading.
 DrMatt.
Joined: 2/19/2012
Msg: 125 (view)
 
Are conditions like ADHD an excuse for parents who have naughty kids?
Posted: 8/1/2012 4:53:02 PM

Given that only kids on very low income get EMA, like my daughter, yeah, threatening them with hunger is a sobering thought even for those who have difficulty concentrating and sitting still. I bet you have to repeat the threat, though.


Uhm, no. I don't know what the current status is on the EMA in Wales now but it was an absolute disgrace in the way it was managed and implemented.
I wrote a paper on this in 2008.
Classic scenario was a pupil whose parents were divorced. He lived with his mother who was low income so he got EMA. His father's income was not taken into consideration because they were divorced and his father is a GP. As a result he got EMA, holidays to Barbados in the summer and skiing in the winter. In the same class was a girl whose parental income was just above the threshold and she got no EMA. This is a true case.

Fair ? I don't think so. I also saw very little of it spent on education and most of it spent on i-pods, CDs, makeup and mobile phones.
 DrMatt.
Joined: 2/19/2012
Msg: 122 (view)
 
Are conditions like ADHD an excuse for parents who have naughty kids?
Posted: 8/1/2012 4:07:43 PM
It's amazing how the ADHD vanishes mysteriously when they misbehave and you threaten not to sign the form for their EMA allowance.
 DrMatt.
Joined: 2/19/2012
Msg: 103 (view)
 
women hate short men
Posted: 8/1/2012 2:19:02 PM

Because if women are rejecting you for not being tall enough, or because they value shoes more than you, do you really think that somehow their personality is going to undergo a miraculous, or surgical process just because you're a couple of inches taller?


I never thought I'd hear that coming from a woman. High five.
 DrMatt.
Joined: 2/19/2012
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Half-marathon training
Posted: 8/1/2012 11:40:02 AM
If this is your first one then I would just experience it.....try to have a long run on the weekends up to 11 - 12 miles.
When I did my first half in 2002 I never covered more than 11 miles in training in a single session.

As for speed training and intervals, I wouldn't bother at this stage, just concentrate on finishing.
I'm an experienced runner and speed training is physically and mentally demanding, trust me. I wouldn't suggest speed training unless you are trying to improve.

Also, yes do hydrate properly but don't get sucked into the sports drinks industry which just wants your money. There are so many rules about drinking such and such a volume of water per mile per body weight. I ignore most of it.
Listen to your own body, everyone is physiologically different.

If you want a good book, read Bob Glover's The Runner's Handbook. It is one of the best books I have ever bought. I first got it in 2001 and still refer to it now.

Just enjoy reward of finishing your first half and good luck !
 DrMatt.
Joined: 2/19/2012
Msg: 98 (view)
 
women hate short men
Posted: 8/1/2012 11:25:48 AM

don't dare start slagging off taller men on this thread when I'm about.


No need to get your granny pants in a twist. We're not all as consumed with hatred for tall men as you are for shorter ones.


And another thing about tall men is that most women want them to be the father of their children because they like the idea of having physically perfect children for some strange reason


This is the most bizarre thing I have ever read. I guess this argument only applies to male children, or do you also believe that small and petite female offspring are also imperfect ?
 DrMatt.
Joined: 2/19/2012
Msg: 88 (view)
 
women hate short men
Posted: 7/31/2012 3:35:57 PM
Kyuzo Mifune was one of the greatest Judo technicians of all time.

He was 5'3"
 DrMatt.
Joined: 2/19/2012
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Extroverts vs Introverts
Posted: 7/31/2012 3:13:19 PM
I work on the philosophy that empty vessels make most noise and still waters run deep. This is a generalisation but one to which I have not seem many exceptions.
 DrMatt.
Joined: 2/19/2012
Msg: 78 (view)
 
women hate short men
Posted: 7/30/2012 4:18:43 PM

I saw a woman's profile today that stated 'nobody under 6ft' even if you are 5,11 and half.................SERIOUSLY? She would turn down a great guy, because of half an inch. How can you even tell the difference between 6ft and 5,11 and half anyway???


As I said earlier, someone women go out of their way to confirm their stupidity in public. She probably carries a measuring tape in her handbag. Bless !
 DrMatt.
Joined: 2/19/2012
Msg: 21 (view)
 
Is 10 years a big difference?
Posted: 7/30/2012 4:06:15 PM

Hate to break it to you, but at 29, you are an "old man" to a 19-year-old girl.

Hate to break it to you but you're quite wrong.

I dated a girl last year who was 18 years younger than me and it worked very well except that is was long distance which we eventually could not overcome. Her parents were quite approving and said they'd prefer to see her with someone older who would look after her and treat her properly (which I did) than some hormonal clueless 20 year old who would just f*ck her and chuck her. Bottom line is what anyone else things is irrelevant. As long as you're not breaking the law then it's none of anyone's business.
 DrMatt.
Joined: 2/19/2012
Msg: 151 (view)
 
2/3d's US overweight or obese????
Posted: 7/28/2012 6:58:58 AM
Same in the UK. 20 years ago when I was a student I'd walk around with my eyes on stalks because there were so many cute slim girls around. Now when I walk round, they stand out even more because there are so few of them. Same goes for men. Fat people everywhere. But you need to remember in the UK it's not their fault. It's SOMEONE ELSE'S FAULT. Blame culture. Good food is too expensive, gym membership is too expensive blah blah.
 DrMatt.
Joined: 2/19/2012
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Going to the gym
Posted: 7/28/2012 6:53:58 AM

I'm very intimidated by the guys at the gym in the weight area. I feel as if they look at me like "why are you here"?


Fuuck 'em ! Sod what they think. I find most of the guys in the gyms I've been to are there to pose not to work out.
 DrMatt.
Joined: 2/19/2012
Msg: 9 (view)
 
Why do women favorite me without actually talking to me?
Posted: 7/28/2012 6:28:46 AM

(Some) women like a man who is confident and takes the lead. It's an important attractor.


That is true. That's why most CEO's are still men and why men still dominate the boardroom.
 DrMatt.
Joined: 2/19/2012
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Why do women favorite me without actually talking to me?
Posted: 7/28/2012 1:49:04 AM
I get that as well. I never respond anymore to favourites, meet-me or flirts.
If a woman hasn't got the confidence to email then I'm probably not really interested. This is a dating site and it's 2012 not 1955.
 DrMatt.
Joined: 2/19/2012
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Do you see these photos the same as women do?
Posted: 7/28/2012 1:42:54 AM
It's the sort of photo I'd expect a 14 year old girl to put on facebook. Stupid, trite and unattractive.
A lovely normal smile does it for me.
 DrMatt.
Joined: 2/19/2012
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Not able to provide time for 2nd date = no interest?
Posted: 7/28/2012 12:06:28 AM
If something's important you'll find a way. If it's not important you'll find an excuse.
That rule of thumb has pretty much worked for me in dating and life generally.
 DrMatt.
Joined: 2/19/2012
Msg: 34 (view)
 
Shallow Jerk or Honest and Decent?
Posted: 7/27/2012 11:39:44 AM

Which doesnt mean I couldnt be entirely wrong,


Yes you could. He might have actually been totally genuine.


I feel its the one that makes the most sense


On what basis ?


But another lifetime ago, I swear, I couldhit ANYTHING lol. Married women, girls with boyfriends, sad, happy, lonely, desperate, whatever, you name it. Anything goes, as long as you get that cookie


Not everyone is as desperate, disrespectful or morally elastic as you were.
 DrMatt.
Joined: 2/19/2012
Msg: 4 (view)
 
Contact a POF user about another friend in their photos
Posted: 7/27/2012 9:31:38 AM
Don't know what to think really but I saw a funny thing recently.
Saw a profile on here with two women in the photo (profile was the one on the left but the one on the right was cute).....then purely by chance I later saw another profile of the OTHER woman using the same photo so they were both on here. How odd is that :)
 DrMatt.
Joined: 2/19/2012
Msg: 61 (view)
 
The more people I date
Posted: 7/27/2012 8:55:38 AM

come on let's get real. Most men think his having employment and some of his hair makes him a great catch.


In the same way that some women think possession of a vagina makes them God's gift to men.
 DrMatt.
Joined: 2/19/2012
Msg: 18 (view)
 
Shallow Jerk or Honest and Decent?
Posted: 7/27/2012 8:50:27 AM
Girls will always take the side of their friends in my experience.
I thought his response was honest, dignified and well articulated. He left it open to you to decide if you wanted to pursue friendship. I think your friend is immature who has decided that any guy who rejects a woman no matter what the reason, is a complete jerk.
Perhaps ask her what she would have done in his position.
 DrMatt.
Joined: 2/19/2012
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Why do i not get any replies? HELP ME PLEASE!
Posted: 7/26/2012 2:34:10 PM
Don't worry, at 5'7" you are at least 6 inches shorter than she would be in heels.

She has a Master's degree and most likely wouldn't even cross paths with you.

don't get your knickers in a twist. Some guys have it ... Some don't!


I have a PhD so I guess you're right she wouldn't cross paths with me, unless I was supervising her Masters thesis.

Beethoven had it and he was 5'5"

Personal insults are the last resort of those who've run out of anything worthwile to say.

The reality being ? That I probably wouldn't look twice at her. You're right there.
 
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