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ABKRDyslectic

Joined: 3/22/2007

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Can a city man be attracted to a country girl? Posted: 1/13/2009 11:56:57 AM
I see these questions: 1. - "...just curious about a country/cowgirl and I am a novelty to them? 2. - "... are genuinely attracted to a down to earth woman who can be both soft but hard at the same time?" 3. - "Do some men actually like women that are more fit than curvacious?" ----*- 1 - Different men, different answers. Depends upon the guy. For me? Yes. It seems there are few women who don't want to live in the big city, so that is something of a novelty. 2 - Again, depends upon the guy. For me? A definite yes. This is certainly my preference.... if I actually understand what you are asking. 3 - Depends upon the guy. Seeing a pattern here? For me? "Fit" is always a very good thing, and more important than the classic hour-glass figure or being rail-thin. Models walking on the runway may look good with makeup, expensive fashions and professional lighting, though they don't look so good in real life.

ABKRDyslectic

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should i change??? Posted: 1/13/2009 11:38:57 AM
Everyone changes over time, at least a little. I think it would help to ask different questions. May I suggest: - "What do I want?" Very few of us (if any!) meet our own goals of perfection; I bet there are things you know about yourself that you would like to improve upon. Pick one goal that is doable within a week, then get it done. Repeat. These small successes are contagious! May I also suggest: Look around you and identify people you admire. Spend as much time with them as possible, and emulate the behavior you find admirable. Repeat as necessary. Have fun!

ABKRDyslectic

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WHY DO PEOPLE USE RATHER NOT SAY ON PROFILE Posted: 1/5/2009 4:06:17 PM
Because it's the default answer? Just guessing here....

ABKRDyslectic

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Why do women always want sex? Posted: 1/1/2009 12:25:59 PM
Wake up darlin...you're dreaming...!! You mean it was just a dream?

ABKRDyslectic

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my date told me they were kinky but it was too much Posted: 1/1/2009 12:02:39 PM
I bet she was testing the waters.... She presented an outrageous situation to see your reaction, and she saw it. BTW - I don't think I would have been flustered so easily. However, I would likely not have been spending much time with her. A cheese grater down there?!! I don't think so! Besides, I'm not so well endowed that I'm willing to sit still for a trim

ABKRDyslectic

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Anyone else believe experienced women are a bonus? Posted: 12/30/2008 1:17:37 PM
No, I do not believe that a woman's experience is a bonus. This is something that I know

ABKRDyslectic

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Do you girls find it rude when guys check out cleavages while you are bending ? Posted: 12/30/2008 1:07:30 PM
I do try to be at least a little discreet..... like I'll try to roll the tongue in, wipe my chin, and un-ogle my eyes before she sees that I'm looking ... if I was truly suave and debonair I suppose I'd be able to sneak a look without the open appreciation. I'm not sure if that's "suave and debonair" or "dead and approaching room temp." Appreciation of an attractive woman is one of the many things I enjoy in life.

ABKRDyslectic

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The ex moved on way to fast!! Posted: 12/30/2008 11:14:44 AM
You broke up with him - partially because he wants kids and you don't. You are upset that he is now expecting a child. My bet is that you want him to be all torn up and mopey because you broke up with him and are mostly upset that he's not following your script. Bummer.

ABKRDyslectic

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smoking Posted: 12/30/2008 11:07:37 AM
... really it just for show for some men and they don't inhale ... Uh, not quite. Inhaling while smoking a cigar will get you sick - I have seen long-time cigarette smokers get woozy & sick while smoking a cigar and inhaling. There is plenty of effect while smoking a cigar and NOT inhaling.

ABKRDyslectic

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sex after marriage Posted: 12/30/2008 11:01:40 AM
[hijack] Is it just me, or does Ontario have a plethora of hot looking women? ^ and ^^ [/hijack]

ABKRDyslectic

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sex after marriage Posted: 12/30/2008 9:03:21 AM
... Is it wrong of me to want to have alot of sex right now with no strings attached. ... That was pretty much my plan after filing for divorce. Life doesn't always go as planned. I met a woman who I'm still seeing after more than a year and a half, and life is pretty good

ABKRDyslectic

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First times Posted: 12/30/2008 8:57:20 AM
My first guy couldn't seem to get it up. So I ended up watching the soccer game while he went at it. Poor guy, he was a huffing and puffing.... Pretty much every guy would have a hard time maintaining interest in that situation If that were me, you'd have been left watching the game and I'd be out looking for someone who was interested and actively involved. I'd also have a horror story about a girl who just laid there trying to watch TV

ABKRDyslectic

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Women and GAMES!!!!! yes they play too EXAMPLE! Posted: 12/30/2008 8:39:42 AM
Sounds like you are asking our permission to break up with a woman after you have been intimate with her. Recommendation #1 - check your double-standard index.... If she threw herself at you and you ended up in bed, then you are just as "guilty" for catching her. Recommendation #2 - Get better at judging if a woman is relationship material. The first step in this is to decide that you want a relationship, and to decide that "just sex" is not something you want. All-too-often, these "just sex" episodes happen with someone who is bat-shit crazy.

ABKRDyslectic

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Scars, do they scare you (guys) Posted: 12/30/2008 8:30:02 AM
Depends upon the guy, of course. If I were looking for a wife and family, serious medical problems are not a good sign for this kind of future. I'd have to know more to make a decision about something like this.

ABKRDyslectic

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smoking Posted: 12/30/2008 8:20:04 AM
I don't smoke, though I'll occasionally enjoy a cigar. Cigars are an occasional thing.... "Smoking" is something you do a few times a week or more often. edit to add: Inhaling a cigar would be like smoking a whole pack of cigarettes in an hour; a BAD idea!

ABKRDyslectic

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Drunk dialed boyfriend, now he's my ex Posted: 10/3/2008 9:50:11 AM
A classic case of "Play stupid games and win stupid prizes". "Oops"

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Performing oral on circumcised penis Posted: 9/14/2008 9:08:07 PM
The answer will be specific to that particular guy, so you'll have to ask him and talk about it. ...almost as if Ms. laughinglibra knew what she was talking about :-)

ABKRDyslectic

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I Feel A Bit Unreasonable - What Do You Think? Posted: 9/10/2008 9:32:31 AM
My name is often mis-spelled, and it does bother me a bit. However, this annoyance is very low on the list. If a person would continue to get it wrong after meeting a few times, and after pointing out that my name is spelled differently than what they have been using, then it would be more of a concern. Until then? Not so much.

ABKRDyslectic

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Coming up for a cup of tea? Posted: 9/9/2008 2:32:57 PM
That usually means you are interested in getting physical. It does not have to mean that, though that is the most common perception.

ABKRDyslectic

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advice on pulling Posted: 9/9/2008 2:30:41 PM
"...how to pull..." I do not understand what you are asking. What does that mean? It almost sounds like you are asking about doing something (naughty) with your hands. ...two countries separated by a common language....

ABKRDyslectic

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Guys - which would you prefer? Posted: 9/7/2008 7:42:35 PM
Door number 2, please. I lived scenario #1 for way too long, and had no interest in continuing. ...now if "my" stuff is scattered & messed up, we'd have to talk. And at least one side of the sink has to be open. Stacking dirty dishes in the sink so it's completely unusable won't fly where I live. I get a bit cranky if that happens.

ABKRDyslectic

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Orgasm Denial Posted: 9/4/2008 1:49:12 PM
I am denying you the right to have an orgasm! ... is that better? Did that do it for you? Glad I could help! OK, that's funny right there!

ABKRDyslectic

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Orgasm Denial Posted: 9/4/2008 1:48:05 PM
"Denial" would go over like a lead balloon. Building up is one thing.... denial is another. I have issues with controlling and being controlled - I don't like either. I'd rather put those efforts into paying enough attention to please the woman I'm with.

ABKRDyslectic

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Women with big dogs? Posted: 9/4/2008 1:38:06 PM
If I'm going to have a dog, it will be a real dog. ...not something you can stick a broomstick into and mop the floor with. On the other hand: If that dog is the Alpha in her household and it (or they) expects me to honor that arrangement if I get involved, there is a serious problem. For example - Many years ago I got involved with a woman who had a dog.... Nice dog, except that it took exception to my sleeping with her and absolutely ruined a couch the first night I spent in her apt. That dog shredded one arm on that couch and spread stuffing all over in just a few hours.

ABKRDyslectic

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Do you really have to fix it? Posted: 9/4/2008 1:29:46 PM
psssst said: Seriously guys… is it so bad to not take some kind of action and just listen when someone is commiserating about something? You are not going to like it, though it has to be said: You have a poor understanding of men. I recommend FIXING this lack of understanding rather than b!tching... uh, "commiserating" about it. There - problem solved.

ABKRDyslectic

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waking up to sex... Posted: 9/4/2008 10:37:26 AM
Thats right- I like him to TAKE IT like he OWNS it Alllllll of it! I wonder how common this is. Past experience with my ex indicates that there are women who don't like to be awakened in any manner, or for any reason. ...current experience tells me that this is a factor in why she's my ex.

ABKRDyslectic

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Am I being sensible or weird? Posted: 9/4/2008 6:38:01 AM
DO BOTH Get yourself a "disposable" e-mail account and keep the one you've had for other purposes. Once you are comfortable with the guy, then you can give your main e-mail address.

ABKRDyslectic

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Has anyone ever had an Ex-spouse with bennies? Posted: 9/2/2008 2:35:43 PM
With the crap my ex is pulling? ...or rather trying to pull NO! ...and not just "no", but "H*LL NO!"

ABKRDyslectic

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Can you men please decode a popular male phrase? Posted: 8/29/2008 9:17:01 PM
trailgirl said: This is interesting - three very different views on this. So perhaps it really does come down to the person who's using the phrase? Nope - couldn't be! All men would have exactly the same reason for doing that.

ABKRDyslectic

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Guys Help Me Understand The I Just Want to be Friends, But... Posted: 8/27/2008 8:38:28 AM
It was a BOOB grab?! In public?! Jeez - some guys have NO class.... Uh, my take on it that he wants to check that you are still available just in case he does not find someone that attracts him more while he's out playing the field. From what little I know about this situation, my advice is to keep this a-hole at (more than) arm's distance.

ABKRDyslectic

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Firearms and Dating Posted: 8/26/2008 11:24:06 AM
American, eh? I'll pass. So, is that a gun in your pocket or were you just thinkin' of me? With that attitude, it does not matter.

ABKRDyslectic

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Troops support Obama by 6 to 1 Posted: 8/18/2008 1:54:14 PM
People in the military support Obama six to one??!! Pure BS.

ABKRDyslectic

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honest answers please no offence will be taken!! Posted: 8/18/2008 8:08:02 AM
Couple points - 1. A woman in a battle for custody of her kids had best be fully committed to that rather than trying to meet guys. 2. A 20-year-old single woman with three kids has been way too "busy", and will be VERY busy for a number of years. You have made significant choices; attend to them. 3. You want to have your "head screwed on". I do not think anyone in your position could possibly have it screwed on; your life is WAY too complicated. Adding another guy into your life is "not recommended". I have learned that there is NO WAY I can 'save' a woman, no matter how much I'd like to. Yes, guys can be a d@mn fool that way, me included. You really don't want this kind of guy in your life - you'll always be the broken one in that relationship. Does the past matter? Absolutely! Do arising problems at present matter? Absolutely! Would I contact you to see if you'd be interested in a date? Absolutely not. Any man who would be is either looking for a quick roll in the hay, or is on a crusade. A couple general points about your post: 1. Capitalization, punctuation and spelling are essential to written communication. 2. ...so is clear sentence structure. Your post is quite difficult to understand.

ABKRDyslectic

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Older? on the scrap heap! Posted: 8/13/2008 10:09:36 AM
Men is this true? Well, yes and no. Women do have "expiration dates" as far as having children goes. It's simple biology. If the guy is looking for a woman to raise a family with, then age is certainly a factor - he won't be looking for a woman in her mid-40's or older. 30 is not too old; 40 is getting there. If the guy does NOT want to start a family, then the whole expiration date thing does not matter. Sounds like you were talking to a real jerk.

ABKRDyslectic

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Global Warming Real? Posted: 8/13/2008 9:59:53 AM
...the current runaway global warming... The most recent information points the other way: http://wattsupwiththat.wordpress.com/2008/02/19/january-2008-4-sources-say-globally-cooler-in-the-past-12-months/ Only an idiot... could deny that it IS happening. Right... name calling is a great argument. ...ocean levels are rising. Sea levels have been very stable over the last 8,000 years. Prior to that there was an ~8,000 year period of significant sea level increase, and you are blaming people http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sea_level_rise They are simply undeniable facts. The one undeniable fact that you are ignoring is that things have always changed, and changed without human intervention. Things are continuing to change, and all the sudden it MUST be due to the EEVIILL influence of people. Get a grip!

ABKRDyslectic

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Global Warming Real? Posted: 8/8/2008 2:23:23 PM
The earth has warmed up in the past, and it has cooled down in the past.... all without human help. I remember in the '70s people were all worried about the impending ice age. The "Global Warming" scare is now becoming "Climate Change" because the data is changing, or was faulty. The most significant greenhouse gas, by far, is WATER VAPOR. Anyone who gets their underwear in a bunch over this simply has too little in their life to worry about, so they manufacture something. Life is so much more livable when you don't worry so much about things you have no control over, so get a grip.

ABKRDyslectic

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I need advice or opinions please. Posted: 8/7/2008 7:56:38 PM
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Is getting along with your ex a turn off to a new guy ? Posted: 8/7/2008 7:44:55 PM
Not to me. What that tells me is that you prefer less stress & drama in your life.

ABKRDyslectic

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Not sure how you feel? Posted: 8/7/2008 11:42:15 AM
Are guys ever torn both ways Yes, very often. ...do they always know what is going on for sure in their heads? No, not often enough. It is quite a dilemma wanting the freedom to play the field while at the same time wanting the company of a good woman. My SO is always telling me "You're such a whore", and she's right (to a point) I like looking and I like flirting, though I'm sure I'd be at a loss on how handle more than one fish, so to speak.

ABKRDyslectic

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What makes women physically horny - Mental or physical stimulation? Posted: 8/6/2008 1:43:11 PM
Try it out... the analogy of the mean cat What you say makes a lot of sense. However, I have no desire to bed a woman who brings to mind the image of a mean cat!

ABKRDyslectic

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Obamas civilian national security force Posted: 8/6/2008 1:29:08 PM
Can we really trust this guy? He's a politician... so not just no, but Hell NO!

ABKRDyslectic

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Foolish Hearts... Posted: 8/6/2008 10:00:14 AM
First, take care of yourself. Be selfish about this. It also helps to look for things to be grateful for... things to be happy about. If you're not used to this, it will take some practice. Ask for good things to a part of your life. Figure out what you want, then ASK FOR IT. This is not trivial... knowing what you want, seeing it in your mind, is not an easy thing. This, too, takes practice.

ABKRDyslectic

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do you like to test drive a girl? Posted: 8/5/2008 9:29:36 AM
I think he wants to have sex with you. Yea... What this guy said! on edit: imnotyourstar - I just looked at your profile, and the picture of you showing off your tongue piercing is a fairly clear message that you like performing oral sex. I recommend that you take that image down..... unless that's the message you want to send.

ABKRDyslectic

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Your sexual detail Posted: 8/5/2008 9:26:56 AM
but my question was how much in detail do YOU go into Simple answer: If you were not there to know first hand, then you don't get any details from me.

ABKRDyslectic

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We just can't handle any security measure :( Posted: 8/5/2008 8:58:29 AM
The more we act like sheep, the more active wolves will become. Sometimes it is a good thing to state the obvious.... much like the kid who asked why the king had no clothes on.

ABKRDyslectic

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Is this fair Posted: 8/5/2008 8:47:53 AM
is it fair that she starts treating me like shit after all i have done to help her out "Fair" has nothing to do with your situation. Even when you get married, "fair" is not anywhere in the vows. Some more useful questions might be: - What do you think of anyone who treats you like shit? - Will you be nice to someone who treats you like shit? - Will you help someone who treats you like shit? My advice is to kick her to the curb with extreme prejudice. Do not wait on anything that CFS is doing. Get yourself out of this shitty situation, or become one with the shit.

ABKRDyslectic

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I think this could get ugly Posted: 8/4/2008 2:43:17 PM
My spidy sense says I should run away... Listen to yourself, as this is good advice. ....unless she's totally HOT, then SIIHPAPP

ABKRDyslectic

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Are you an INTJ or INFJ Personality? Posted: 8/1/2008 8:17:28 PM
~Kyn~ said: Im an INTJ female... Wow, unusual indeed! I have wondered if I would get along with a woman similar to me - either personally or professionally. At times I am sure the answer is NO, because I suspect that I can be a real PITA from time to time. At times I am sure the answer is YES, because there are times when other people can be completely insufferable. Since there are so terribly few INTJ women I suspect this will be a moot point as I will not meet many, and have a much lower possibility of becoming involved with one. ~Kyn~, good luck - I wish you well!

ABKRDyslectic

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Are you an INTJ or INFJ Personality? Posted: 8/1/2008 2:21:44 PM
INTJ here - rarest (and finest) of the rare. I was first introduced to the MBTI in the mid-80's. The woman I was dating was a corporate instructor, and she used this type indicator. Every time I have taken the indicator I have come up INTJ. I've been in technical fields almost all of my adult life, and find a lot of techie things easy. I didn't know that was strange for a long time. Over the years I have seen the value of (and developed) non-introverted & social skills. Most people are skeptical when I tell them I'm an introvert.

ABKRDyslectic

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His body language Posted: 8/1/2008 12:20:56 PM
I'm his client. If he is a provider of any kind of health care (your doctor, therapist, chiropractor, etc...), then there are some very strict limits on what is permissible. If a doctor dates (or even marries) a woman who is a client, or was a client, then that doctor will likely lose his license. Careful!

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