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Joined: 2/5/2005

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Ladies, what am I doing wrong?... Posted: 7/14/2005 8:15:58 PM
I'm with you guy. I don't know what a person is supposed to do to get any ladies attention. I've been on here for quite awhile now myself and in the beggining i sent some e-mails to some women who according to their profiles i thought had similar interest and types of things we enjoy and what we are looking for. And to this day i havn't had any that have done much other than give me a polite rejection(and i'd rather get a rejection than not hear anything back as i took the time to write them). So i've resigned myself to just check into the forums now and then and give up on attempting to strike up the first conversation with any women from my area on here. My profile is an honest outline of myself but it seems most women are not sincere about what they say they are looking for so i wonder why they are even on here . Seems to me some women are just out to see how many men find them (judging by their profiles) attractive or remotely interesting.

Joined: 2/5/2005

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Lets began with why women CHEAT lol this will never end on my part!! Posted: 6/4/2005 8:52:33 PM
ppl cheat becouse they either are cheaters to begin with(and will always be)or they are weak and don't understand the concept of being respectfull to their partner. It is so easy to just walk away from things these days instead of understanding that there is a problem in the relationship they're in and working together with their partner to solve it. If a person doesn't feel wanted or desired or equal for that matter by the person they are with they will try to find it in some one else. It's basic human instincts to want to feel needed and wanted and respected by the one your with. And most ppl who cheat i think put out lots of red flags before they cheat so i think one can only blame themselves for their partner straying.

Joined: 2/5/2005

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Is it me, or is it the women? Posted: 2/27/2005 9:22:21 PM
Well for the first thing i have to say is it sounds like your keeping scores or something. You shouldn't be running a taly on a women your taking out for a date. Kind of sounds like you think if you spend that kind of money your entitled to something and that's not the way to be thinking. And like someone else stated two weeks is by no means anywhere close to even thinking your in love with someone let alone saying you'd have married her i mean c'mon. The other thing is consider where you me her(i believe you said it was a gay/bisexual bar). What did you expect from a person you might meet in a place like that. She obviously likes variety and isn't looking for anything exclusive at this time in her life so it is up to you to show her you might be someone worth starting a relationship with. I think you should let go of all your expectations and just go have fun with her if you choose to date her again. And if you date her again i'd let things be known that if you take her out you consider it to be a exclusive date with you from the start and ending with you when the evening is over or who knows she might ditch you at the bar for someone else who catches her eye and unless you let your intentions of the date be known you can't be upset if that happens. I'd just go forward with strong reservations and don't let yourself get to involved at this time and just remember to have fun yourself if you go out with her again. Never know if you show people you can enjoy yourself in any situation someone else might see that in you and want to get to know you better becouse of it too. At this point though she did nothing wrong and i think your wrong to count the dollars spent.

Joined: 2/5/2005

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my daughter is 22, gorgeous, epileptic.......and addicted to cocaine.............. Posted: 2/25/2005 4:02:51 PM
Speaking from personal experience i would have to say that a person addicted will not do anything and no one can do anything to help them until they choose to do it themselves. It's a long hard road out of hell and an addict knows that and thinks it is easier to just stay in hell. Tough love is the best . Don't be an enabler at all. You have to cut them out completely and tell them you are there when they make a choice but you can't be there to watch them destroy themselves any more. I know it will be hard for you to do but you must. It will be as hard for you to go through it as it will be for her and you might not get your daughter back. Sorry just the truth. And institutionalizing her against her will only makes and addict more determined to use drugs usualy(not always i remind you)as it breeds strong resentment and anger and an addict is not of right mind so anger comes easy for them. Wish you the best and your daughter too but one thing you have to tell yourself is that "it's not your fault".

Joined: 2/5/2005

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IS THIS LAME?? Posted: 2/21/2005 8:52:59 PM
One other thing to consider Chels. Did you know that over 70 percent of people end up married or involved with someone within fifty miles of where they live. Seems odd huh when the world is full of people. Don't limit yourself to just the local people and broaden your horizons and be open to people outside your area. And what better place to meet some than a site like this. Rock on.

Joined: 2/5/2005

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IS THIS LAME?? Posted: 2/21/2005 8:47:01 PM
Not so much lame as a shame Chels. In your quest for a career you forgot to make time for you, yourself, and what you need to make yourself happy in your life outside of the work place. And your way to young and pretty to be thinking so much about a career anyway. Think about it. You can start focusing on a career in your thirties and be fine in the career goal thing. Most your age change careers a few times before they find what it is they truly want to do with their life. So i'd say ease up on the career thing and stop and enjoy life some. Trust me, before you know it your forty and you don't want to look back and say "I wish i would have taken the time to do those things when i was younger". Do them now as youth is gone before you know it.

Joined: 2/5/2005

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Im official done searching for girls on this site Posted: 2/21/2005 8:29:58 PM
You're giving up to easily my friend. Who cares if you don't get any replies it doesn't mean that the ones you wrote arn't going to write you. I have had replies from women i wrote to as much as a month or better before i got a reply from them. This site is greatly advantaged to the ladies but who cares. They do get lots of mail and they just can't get to everyone immediatly so hang in there. And i myself have had a woman block me also for what was deemed and insensitive remark after having realy nice conversations with her a few times before but it didn't make me want to give up. I figure if she knew at all by that point in our talks she would know that i didn't mean things the way she took them so in essence it wasn't my fault and i carried on. And you live in Canada also,huh. From what i can tell percentage wise there are more ladies from the North on here than anywhere else and Northern women are quite attractive too from what i can tell. Quit pouting and pick yourself up and brush yourself off and get back in here and do what the site is for. Have fun!!! Don't take things so serious and relax and enjoy yourself. Like other's have said the forums here is a good place to maybe strike up a conversation with someone too. Good luck to ya.

Joined: 2/5/2005

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depressed and lonely..... Posted: 2/10/2005 3:10:10 PM
It's all part of living it seems. I moved to Iowa with my wife and step-son and she divorced me soon after leaving me stuck in the middle of corn cobb county knowing no-one hardly at all . I have been by myself ever since but i never stopped smiling. You have to become ok with yourself and not afraid to be alone i think.With children like you have i would think every day you woke up and seen their faces would bring a huge smile to your face and proof that life is good. And as for dating men,a guy who is willing to date you should be a real man who knows you come as a package deal and is willing to accept you and all that comes with you. I myself raised my step-son as my own and when my ex and i split up he remained with me till he graduated high school and got out on his own. He will always be my son in my eyes and and you should only date guys you feel are going to be that way with your kids too. Kids realy do grow up too fast and before you know it they're leaving you to go out in the world on their own so don't waste the time you have with them by being with some guy who isn't going to be a real man and take the responsability of caring for you and your kids. Best wishes.

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