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keng71

Joined: 3/27/2007

Msg: 14 (view)

help!! I'm really confused Posted: 6/18/2009 9:39:01 AM
He might dig ya but the age difference and the family connection make it uncomfotable. Honestly at any age I would not date a friend of the family, I couldn't have my family that involved in my personal life.

keng71

Joined: 3/27/2007

Msg: 19 (view)

How do I not screw this up? Posted: 6/17/2009 9:45:21 AM
I say track him down like the dog he is and get him to give you a ring!

keng71

Joined: 3/27/2007

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Guys, Would You Date a Female Professional Gambler? Posted: 6/17/2009 9:42:33 AM
A woman's job has little bearing on it for me...well there are exceptions.

keng71

Joined: 3/27/2007

Msg: 12 (view)

male mid life crisis(59) vs workaholic are we done?? Posted: 6/17/2009 9:37:08 AM
I say embrace it! Invite he and his lady over for dinner serve them both and bring them some candy from your drawer after they are done getting down and dirty on your bed..maybe bring them in some drinks while they are having fun...it sounds like this fella likes to drink. He says he does not feel comfortable well I'm sure if you were more accomadating he would feel much more comfortable and come home more often so you could serve him. Or you could have a little bit of respect for yourself and move on.

keng71

Joined: 3/27/2007

Msg: 17 (view)

Time of day he texts Posted: 6/17/2009 9:26:56 AM
It really depends on the guy right? Some people are more into texting than others. I think you know the answer to how into you he is and you're just looking for an answer you like better.

keng71

Joined: 3/27/2007

Msg: 415 (view)

Who likes coffee for a frist date?? Posted: 9/27/2008 8:17:54 AM
NEXT! Coffee or drinks is a fine first date, I have had amazing emails and phone conversations only to find there is zero chemistry when we meet, It happens..if you demand more that's great perhaps you deserve it but in my book coffee is all you gettin woman!

keng71

Joined: 3/27/2007

Msg: 72 (view)

is is all my fault? Posted: 9/25/2008 5:48:48 AM
Women tend to be critical of the guy they are with when they feel they want to move on, typically petty stuff but it's often to be honest abusive, most guys won't say anything because guys don't b1tch and are accustomed to this behavior from some women. It sounds like you did this and more, you were very abusive, honestly he probably took it for as long as he could then said he hasd enough when you started to attack his manhood. I'm not perfect but if a woman starts to become critical I will walk if it goes on for too long, it sounds like he did the same. There are some things you can't take back and abuse over a long period of time is one of them.

keng71

Joined: 3/27/2007

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i love you on first date Posted: 9/16/2008 3:42:10 AM
Run! I believe in love at first sight...I think most would wait to say anything until they got to know the person. Either looking for sex or will stalk you.

keng71

Joined: 3/27/2007

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Can love dissapear? Posted: 9/13/2008 3:58:12 AM
The short answer is yes. The long answer....It depends. How deep was the connection?...not just for you. Did anything happen that would put that person off, in other words was there anything in the relationship that was bad either all at once or over time that would wear away that connection. I have found that if I have lingering feelings for someone, I can stop communication for a while and those feeling diminish considerably.

keng71

Joined: 3/27/2007

Msg: 56 (view)

Is this a commonly shared opinion? - but men were not in awe of women on the whole. Posted: 9/10/2008 3:54:05 PM
Honeslty does anyone think guys really think like this? This can't be a real question. click

keng71

Joined: 3/27/2007

Msg: 320 (view)

Why do men use me?? Posted: 9/6/2008 6:18:21 PM
the answer is you let him. Funny a guy says this and a woman corrects him telling him he's wrong lol...typical :) He's busy starting a business and probably feels like he does not have time and he will continue until you branch out, if he does not miss you then he's just not that into you otherwis he will try and make time for you.

keng71

Joined: 3/27/2007

Msg: 337 (view)

Red heads... Posted: 9/4/2008 11:16:54 AM
and Amandasanurse is a good example of a red head that could just be dangerous for me...Just saying

keng71

Joined: 3/27/2007

Msg: 336 (view)

Red heads... Posted: 9/4/2008 9:29:12 AM
It's not just the hair color, so the bottle or red won't do it. It has to do with fair skin, freckles, and how it all works together. Not all redheads will do it for me, but the right redhead could own me...kinda scary.

keng71

Joined: 3/27/2007

Msg: 23 (view)

What Are Some Special Things You Want Your Girlfriend to Do? Posted: 9/4/2008 9:23:31 AM
One of the nicest things any woman ever did for me was out of the blue and for no real reason she took me to her place and made me an amazing meal with wine and we watched a great movie (comedy) followed by amazing sex and talking until we fell asleep. Simple but I do remember it, she should have given lessons because in general she was great to be with.

keng71

Joined: 3/27/2007

Msg: 36 (view)

Is this a commonly shared opinion? - but men were not in awe of women on the whole. Posted: 9/4/2008 6:33:57 AM
LOL yes we all feel this way it's a big secret that we only talk about at our secret meetings were we worship the an idol of a small petite woman and cry over our lumpy bodies and pray we will find a woman that we can trick into sleeping with us....and we watch Chick Flicks! Yes guys I let out the secret!...Sorry! I need to write a book. I need cash.

keng71

Joined: 3/27/2007

Msg: 55 (view)

Why do woman do this Posted: 8/30/2008 8:15:50 AM
My advice is to leave her. This is usually a symptom of her having an affair. Well you are on a dating site so perhaps you are too :)

keng71

Joined: 3/27/2007

Msg: 302 (view)

made a terrible mistake by f&&king these other guys ... Posted: 7/30/2008 12:59:08 PM
It's over. Walk away.

keng71

Joined: 3/27/2007

Msg: 40 (view)

i can't move on, please help Posted: 7/30/2008 12:35:44 PM
You will get past this, I know it feels like it will go on forever and you will never get past it but you will. If you love him, really love him you need to let go and take care of yourself. Love isn't about holding on for dear life and never letting go, it's about loving even if that means that you need to let it go. Selfish love only destroys you and everything around you. If you love him as much as you say you do walking away and getting distance is the best thing you can do for you both. I'm sure you want him to be happy and he wants you to be happy, unfortunately sometimes things don't work out. I had to let go of someone recently and it wasn't easy. I still think about her often, I hope she's happy and it hurts a little now and then but over time it has gotten better. I may never forget how i felt but accepting it's over and seeing that I learned something in having felt something so strong is not a bad thing if you think about it.

keng71

Joined: 3/27/2007

Msg: 54 (view)

I like someone.. this is not supposed to happen to me! Posted: 5/30/2008 6:28:41 PM
Wow... you can stop yourself from doing anything you want, feeling anything you want and you can keep yourself hidden away safe like good china your whole life. I would consider taking a chance and getting hurt I've learned a lot from the more painful experiences of my life. I just recently had a relationship end that meant very much to me, it was sad and painful but I have no regrets and feel better for having taken the chance.

keng71

Joined: 3/27/2007

Msg: 150 (view)

how do i prove myself? Posted: 5/1/2008 6:48:44 AM
LOL were you having a "having a good ol' time ;)"

keng71

Joined: 3/27/2007

Msg: 473 (view)

Kids packed her bags!! Posted: 5/1/2008 6:46:26 AM
Dude being lied to sucks and it's healthy to get a liar out of your life but the kids should not be involved. You will get past this but you should be a bigger man and not involve the kids.

keng71

Joined: 3/27/2007

Msg: 27 (view)

Why can't I get over this guy? Posted: 4/17/2008 8:53:01 AM
OP I don't know the whole story here but from what I hear you don't really love him you are in love with a fantasy. He was not honest with you from the start and he was grooming someone who was vulnerable so that he could have a bit on the side. I'm sorry if this is harsh and it might not be what you want to hear but once you accept that this was not what you thought it was you will be able to get past it.

keng71

Joined: 3/27/2007

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Losing hope... Posted: 4/7/2008 11:00:50 AM
If you really think this way perhaps you should give up. The reality is everyone reacts to a person on a physical level first, this is true of both men and women. But I will make a deal with you ... I will find 5 guys for you to take out (you pay) and get to know in your area based on what the write in their profile not their photos. Up for the challenge? You will meet someone that you work for and he works for you on every level, don't let a few bumps in the road discourage you.

keng71

Joined: 3/27/2007

Msg: 93 (view)

Men Who've Passed Their Expiration Date Posted: 4/7/2008 8:26:13 AM
There is indeed a shoe for every foot. Why does this concern you though?

keng71

Joined: 3/27/2007

Msg: 76 (view)

Is it okay to have my ex's picture of us up for my children? Posted: 4/3/2008 10:43:07 AM
I think you have the right idea. I have photos of my childrens mother in their room, she is a part of their lives and always will be, I divorced her not them. If someone does not understand it they are probably not the right guy for you...and might I say you look AMAZING for a 50 year old! ;) Reading your profile most guys would be ok if you had pictures of all of the guys you ever dated up in your place and never complain.

keng71

Joined: 3/27/2007

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The Aussie girls guide for you to make it write (wordplay ppl!) Posted: 3/31/2008 12:08:31 PM
Thanks ~footprints~! I will read through more carefully and see what I can do. I agree the distance I live from Oz is a problem for me too Have a great day!

keng71

Joined: 3/27/2007

Msg: 96 (view)

I'm done with the whole mess Posted: 3/27/2008 10:14:45 AM
Hey sbnt You are a smart guy and well spoken but to be honest it feels like perhaps you lack relationship experience. For the record, I'm single, and happy that way. When people come to the point where they put this kind of this out there they are not interested in opposing opinions. They are looking for validation. They want out of the relationship for this or any number of other reasons. They may color the story to sway you to the answer they want to hear but in the end the choice has already been made. I do have the capacity to forgive when I have been wronged. A second chance (reconciliation) can be given to those who are sincere, and repent for their actions. I feel the same way and I'm sure we all forgive and reconcile in our own time...that said someone being "sincere, and repent for their actions" should not be the only criteria for reconciliation. It also has to do with how you feel about the situation. Sometimes things end not out of hate or being jealous or any heated emotion but because the heat is gone and one bad act is more an excuse to get out of a "walking dead" relationship than anything else. I don't know the back story here but I am sure there are other issues and places where both parties have done wrong but when things get to the point where both parties are going to bars and "chatting up" other people and fighting over it...they have been over for a while.

keng71

Joined: 3/27/2007

Msg: 91 (view)

I'm done with the whole mess Posted: 3/26/2008 3:42:56 AM
11. With the attitude of alot of people, regarding #10, it's no wonder that half of all marriages end in divorce. Baseball is a little more forgiving. You get atleast 3 strikes before you're out. Now the umpire can throw you out even if the first pitch was a "ball". Hey sbnt I like what you wrote mostly and I agree with some of it but relationships are nothing like baseball. They are not a game, although it is a team effort. In order for it to work there needs to be trust. No matter what the "truth" of this situation is he went home with another person. She can choose to trust that and work on their relationship but she would not be posting here if she did not have doubts. There are times you should trust your instincts and most people know them we sometimes choose not to see it. Although if I were to use your baseball idea for future relationships how would it work? Is it a strike if I am caught cheating or just if I cheat...if I cheat and don't get caught if that a foul or a stolen base? Maybe I can play with the next woman you meet and see how many points we can score before we get our first strike Just kidding bro...I know what you are saying but in every case I have had this conversation with someone they knew what they wanted to do and just wanted validation. I think the OP knew what people would say here and just needed to hear that. But really shoot me your girlfriends number!

keng71

Joined: 3/27/2007

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I'm Dyin Here... Posted: 3/24/2008 9:52:00 AM
OK OK I LOVE THIS POST! Here is my read on this... He was in the bar chatting up a lovely lady, he was making progress and they took it to her place, they get more comfortable and either he sobers up and figures it out or she tells him thinking perhaps he will still go for it at this point. He thinks OMG everyone at the bar knows I left with a tranny! He goes home and goes to sleep the next day he admits it to you for spin control. He is not gay ... he may be Bi but you have been with him and probably know this or not. He is willing to go home with someone else from the bar and that is what you really need to think about. .... SOrry for your pain but this kind of thing cracks me up! I wonder how far things got before he had a clue?

keng71

Joined: 3/27/2007

Msg: 90 (view)

What PlentyOfish has done to me? Posted: 3/21/2008 2:09:30 PM
People do this all the time without POF. You screwed up accept it and move on. You have nobody to blame but yourself and that's ok. Accepting your role in your own life mistakes is a part of being an adult and is healthy for yourself and others. Finding excuses and scapegoats is childish and selfish and is your real problem.

keng71

Joined: 3/27/2007

Msg: 25 (view)

Do men liked to be kissed all over? Posted: 3/10/2008 10:28:27 AM
If I am with the right person yes.

keng71

Joined: 3/27/2007

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When do you ask him to delet his profile? Posted: 3/10/2008 10:24:43 AM
I never ask they either do it or they don't it's up to them isn't it?

keng71

Joined: 3/27/2007

Msg: 116 (view)

do men in their 20's and 30's prefer 17 year old girls better than older women? Posted: 3/10/2008 10:19:48 AM
I was not pointing to you my dear. I took a look at one post by a woman upset at men going after younger women and noticed she was 39 and her age range was 21-30 ....yes I do think it is nice that they give me a chuckle.

keng71

Joined: 3/27/2007

Msg: 32 (view)

should i give up? Posted: 3/10/2008 9:40:54 AM
I agree with Walts you are a very attractive girl and he is probably very attracted to you and you having interest in him probably has him very conflicted. An age difference like that will cause problems both socially and in your interests. He probably can't help being attracted but wishes you weren't because that kind of temptation is not an easy thing to deal with.

keng71

Joined: 3/27/2007

Msg: 114 (view)

do men in their 20's and 30's prefer 17 year old girls better than older women? Posted: 3/10/2008 9:19:53 AM
Love all the cougars posting in this thread under "ask a guy" lol 17 is young and not what I want but all of the bitter female posters here are cracking me up.

keng71

Joined: 3/27/2007

Msg: 88 (view)

do men in their 20's and 30's prefer 17 year old girls better than older women? Posted: 3/7/2008 3:12:00 PM
Where be the 17 year old cutie pies!?! Just kidding, really that is just an exaggeration and it makes you sound bitter. I prefer Miss Eyre =)

keng71

Joined: 3/27/2007

Msg: 360 (view)

Why do men stare at womens boobs & think we don't notice ??? Posted: 3/7/2008 3:10:21 PM
I also stare at moles, pimples and other stand out features on people. If a guy walked around with his member hanging out I might find myself looking at that too. Human nature baby.

keng71

Joined: 3/27/2007

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Does the number of members favoritelist a profile appear on matter? Posted: 3/7/2008 3:07:52 PM
There is no wink function on this site. So if a guy wants you to know he is interested he might add you. Another reason might be he is looking around and wants to come back to you. I don't even look at favorites or roses.

keng71

Joined: 3/27/2007

Msg: 82 (view)

The Aussie girls guide for you to make it write (wordplay ppl!) Posted: 3/7/2008 3:04:36 PM
DO ME! I don't mind not being first. ;-)

keng71

Joined: 3/27/2007

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Please review! Posted: 3/7/2008 7:27:57 AM
I really like this profile. You put some of your personality into it and it shows. I think you will get plenty of response.

keng71

Joined: 3/27/2007

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What's up with the no emails but lots of views Posted: 3/7/2008 7:22:42 AM
I like it I would not change a thing.

keng71

Joined: 3/27/2007

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An honest review of my profile from a man please! Posted: 3/7/2008 7:17:35 AM
Looking good! Awesome name by the way. Maybe get clearer photos but you will be fine.

keng71

Joined: 3/27/2007

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Ready or not ? ... profile review requested Posted: 3/7/2008 7:11:41 AM
Great profile very fun to read and I love that you mention "The Big Lebowski" you get extra points for that. I would however put up more photos perhaps something from vacation because that one shot is a little formal.

keng71

Joined: 3/27/2007

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I'm not getting any bites on my fishing line Posted: 3/7/2008 7:05:30 AM
don't be afraid to strip yourself psychologically naked...that turns women on and encourages them to do the same LOL! Best forum quote ever! How many bodies are buried in your cellar man? Just kidding!

keng71

Joined: 3/27/2007

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I'm not getting any bites on my fishing line Posted: 3/7/2008 7:02:15 AM
Dude! Very damn funny profile and I like it! but I can see the "Prefer Not To Say" being an issue and yes it did crack me up that it is in your interests as well. When I see "Prefer Not To Say" I tend to think there is something to hide. I think it would be fun to have a beer with you but if you were a woman I would probably want to run from the "Prefer Not To Say"

keng71

Joined: 3/27/2007

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Is it me ? Posted: 3/7/2008 6:54:14 AM
Write a little more about you, things you like maybe explain why you have two pictures of lawn furniture in your profile and put up more natural photos. The first one is not bad but the second looks like something bad just happened or something.

keng71

Joined: 3/27/2007

Msg: 108 (view)

Putting out on the first date. Posted: 3/7/2008 3:12:12 AM
She didn't fart at dinner? Pffft Next!

keng71

Joined: 3/27/2007

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What does it mean when a guy tells you to take time for yourself Posted: 3/7/2008 2:53:21 AM
I think it's a little bit of both. I was in a relationship where we spend every day of the weekend together and it became way too much. I did not have time to do my own things on the weekend without the kids like clean the crib or hang with my posse. You dig?

keng71

Joined: 3/27/2007

Msg: 49 (view)

Sex alternatives.... Posted: 3/7/2008 2:33:02 AM
Yeah it's all about the quality. Walmart style sex just will not get the job done ;)

keng71

Joined: 3/27/2007

Msg: 177 (view)

men and oral sex... Posted: 3/6/2008 9:48:55 AM
awww be quiet and put my rooster in that talking hole! Best thread ever!

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