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 Author Thread: life in onterio
 agreatfriend2
Joined: 2/6/2005
Msg: 19 (view)
 
life in onterio
Posted: 5/26/2007 4:33:53 PM
^^^^^ ...now thats funny.....
 agreatfriend2
Joined: 2/6/2005
Msg: 22 (view)
 
The dance
Posted: 4/13/2007 12:03:25 PM
I gotta go with STAIRWAY TO HEAVEN too...last dance at every hight school dance I went to as well.....and, indeed, at the grade 8 Bunny Hop last week before being sent home from school for Spring Break the tradition lived on....some things never change...
 agreatfriend2
Joined: 2/6/2005
Msg: 15 (view)
 
Convenient Stores Selling Alcohol?
Posted: 4/8/2007 5:30:09 AM
I would love to see the Ontario Government give up their monopoly on the selling of alcohol....and allow competition to bring the prices to their correct level. I resent the ridiculous prices charged for wine and spirits. Doesn't it bother you that Canadian products are significantly cheaper in the States than in Ontario?? I can buy a nice French Beaujolais in Boston for 1/2 or less what it costs in a liquor store here. And dont get me going about the $13 Seagrams 750 ml bottles of vodka.
I know that allowing convenience stores to sell alcohol is not akin to allowing a free market...as the government would be the only supplier and set the prices..but perhaps its a first step. Under the current system, I would think it might just prove to be a hassle for convenience stores (dealing with the government, having to police the age of purchasers, having to have over 18 sales staff, increased security issues, etc) unless their is plenty of profit in it for them.
 agreatfriend2
Joined: 2/6/2005
Msg: 94 (view)
 
Anyone else feel like giving up on Ross because of being unsuccessful?
Posted: 4/6/2007 7:18:52 AM
Ross...I agree with those who suggest that your profile does not invite women to want to give you a chance...it truly suggest that perhaps you are at a place in your life when you should be working on YOU....not looking for someone to fulfil your needs...ie: no profession, living at parents home, social anxiety....YIKES..you need to address your own issues and create the YOU that would attact someone wonderful into your life...
 agreatfriend2
Joined: 2/6/2005
Msg: 21 (view)
 
Dumped mid date!!
Posted: 3/20/2007 9:19:21 AM
Lets face it--you were not really into him anyways---he was just "ok" and "not particularly attractive", you noted that he "complained", then you state that " "I liked him OK" (who wants to be just OK??), you didnt like how he responded to another person..then you got up and left because of his lack of social graces.......
hummmm...I say you dumped him...why are you seeking approval for your actions--and even worse, why would you want to go back for more?
 agreatfriend2
Joined: 2/6/2005
Msg: 23 (view)
 
We bring out the worst in eachother.. end it?
Posted: 3/19/2007 4:52:10 AM
As a very young woman, with a child and working on a university degree...all I can say is think long and hard about what you would like your world to look like, take your time finding the person who contributes to its creation and shoot for the stars. Your choises determine how the future will be. You can create any kind of life you want--so please dont setlle for the glass thats half full. A100% guy is out there looking for you!!!
Plus, its not great role modeling to have the constant good/bad relationship scenario being demonstrated to any child...strong romantic attachment does not necessarily equal a great life partner.
 agreatfriend2
Joined: 2/6/2005
Msg: 11 (view)
 
Am I being on put on eternal hold?
Posted: 3/13/2007 10:48:26 AM
If I am understanding your post correctly, you have had 2 dates, and between the first and second meeting she told you she enjoyed your company but was not rushing into a committed bond and expected both of you to continue dating others. Whats the problem with that?
Played/commitment phobia/tested/let down easy...In my opinion, nobody should even be thinking about that stuff after only a couple of dates. Certainly, after a period of time (months), you might want to explore what her vision of the future might be, and share yours.
If you are panicing already that you might loose her, I suspect she might be giving you this heads-up because she senses that you might be a little possessive, smothering or overly eager to rush or control things. I admire her candid honesty.
If she is the girl for you, it will work out.
Or perhaps she is meant just to be a wonderful friend.
Either way, its a win if you relax, stay in the moment, and enjoy your times together.
 agreatfriend2
Joined: 2/6/2005
Msg: 18 (view)
 
First Meetings: Inappropriate or Appropriate
Posted: 3/11/2007 5:30:58 PM
Totally inappropriate...not someone I would even consider getting to know after that stunt. My best friends would never call me at midnight to invite me out---I would never date someone bold enough to think I would have a first meet under these circumstances. Lighten Up??? Ahhh NOPE...but he needs to grow up.
RED FLAGS are flying high.... I concur with your decision to make him history!
 agreatfriend2
Joined: 2/6/2005
Msg: 24 (view)
 
The best advice you ever took......
Posted: 3/11/2007 9:26:52 AM
A male friend who had seen the ongoing struggle I was enduring to try to make a LT relationship work once said to me "it shouldnt really be this difficult"...so simple a statement but it started me thinking that possibly there never would be a light at the end of the tunnel in the roller-coaster ride of the relationship.
Four years later, I am happy to report that I left the guy, spent a couple of years reinventing my life, and am not enjoying an amazingly peaceful, non-dramatic, nurturing relationship and its truly wonderful!! Phew---it really shouldnt be that difficult!!
 agreatfriend2
Joined: 2/6/2005
Msg: 9 (view)
 
Did she show her true colors?
Posted: 3/11/2007 9:08:38 AM
I am very surprised that, having know this gal for 6 years as a friend, that you would not have some insight into her regarding this type of behavior.
Having said this, its a good wake up call to only give gifts when they are given without any expectation. When you choose to do/give something as a gift to anyone, I think it should be unconditional (or its really not a gift).
Sadly, perhaps she was not worthy of your indulgences. Forget about it, and move on!!
 agreatfriend2
Joined: 2/6/2005
Msg: 373 (view)
 
Diversity Video That Includes a Same-Sex Couple Enrages Third-Graders' Parents
Posted: 3/9/2007 9:34:13 AM
I have seen the film--it is extremely tastefully done and does not "promote" one style of family structure over another. It features children discussing their family, be it with adopted siblings, living with grandma, having two moms, or moving between mom and dads residences due to divorce. It was awesome. lets face it--this is the real world.
As an elementary teacher, I would consider incorporating this film into a unit about diveristy.
 agreatfriend2
Joined: 2/6/2005
Msg: 85 (view)
 
Child Discipline-Parents Of Today
Posted: 3/8/2007 10:01:18 AM
Patch....I think he likes to play the devils advocate....or this topic has touched a nerve from his own world...either way, its good to hear all perspectives...
Your insights, on the other hand, are heart wrenching.
 agreatfriend2
Joined: 2/6/2005
Msg: 80 (view)
 
Child Discipline-Parents Of Today
Posted: 3/8/2007 9:41:14 AM
Obviously, every parenting style may employ many strategies to illicit co-operation and happy co-existence within the family and society at large. Frequently these are replicated through generations (as is abuse, non-coincidently).
I wonder how many posters received corporal punishment as a child. Was it delivered fairly and without anger? Was the intent to "hurt" you because they were so mad, or "help" you learn obedience? Did you fear or respect the parent?
I for one was never spanked, but my older brother did once get the back of a brush on his bottom. We had strayed from home to a place we knew we were not allowed to go (an abandoned barn) and my mom was frantic with worry. I think my mom cried more than we did during the punishment.
 agreatfriend2
Joined: 2/6/2005
Msg: 74 (view)
 
Child Discipline-Parents Of Today
Posted: 3/8/2007 9:13:26 AM
“Come here”! She then walks over to the little boy and strikes the little boy three times hard, across the head. She is no average size person. One of her strikes would definitely hurt someone. The little boy began to cry. She then said to him. “Don’t do that again you little f_ _ k” “ Come here you little piece of sh_t”. She tells him to sit down on the floor and to shut the f_ _ k up!” “Don’t do that again or else it will be the end of you”


OMG--Major- Please dont tell me that you can believe that this disgusting scene was a unique, one time only instance---sorry...actions and words speak loudly..most people would never in a million years speak and act like this--and it certainly would not occur out of the blue in public unless they felt entitled to doing such....are you arguing for temporary insanity perhaps? Bad Hair day??? WHATEVER...I would be extremely suspect of the past and future behavior of anyone who treats others in this extreme way...

Discipline and abuse are two different things, and the OP, upon reflection, acted appropriately to alert authorities. Kudo's to him.
 agreatfriend2
Joined: 2/6/2005
Msg: 59 (view)
 
Child Discipline-Parents Of Today
Posted: 3/8/2007 7:24:41 AM
my question then because there seems to be such a wide range of what people generalize as abuse, was for the people that have posted in these forums to state there definitions for abuse, and why, generalization like best interest of the child, abuse, happy warm loving family life, are all different for each of us.


This is exactly the essence of the threat--that the OP was startled and distraught by what he had observed, and sought a advice/feedback/confirmation that his instinct to report was justified. We seek knowledge in many places--some might talk to a priest, a friend, a CAS hotline or a dating website.
While I have never had to report, I think most people would seriously think about it prior to acting, especially if they were very close to the situation. I have been very close to a person who was accused of abuse of his own children at the end of a very long, unpleasant divorce, and I saw the pain it caused this broken family. However, if I ever suspect that one of the beautiful children in my classroom is suffering because of a parents inability to adequately provide, I would not hesitate. Lets face it, not everyone is a good parent; indeed there are alot of parents who could use a serious wake up call. Anyone can birth a baby--not everyone can provide the ongoing love, nurture and support that our society deems that EVERY CHILD DESERVES (and yes, there is a wide variation on what this looks like in each family situation--but I think most people would view the OP's scenario as extremely suspect). Albeit an imperfect world, CAS has the resources to help the family become stronger, or failing that, protect the child.
 agreatfriend2
Joined: 2/6/2005
Msg: 3 (view)
 
~ STOP! ~
Posted: 3/8/2007 6:43:21 AM
HaHa...I lived on the northshore coast of Massachusettes for a couple of years and I swear that STOP signs actually were read as YIELD signs---even the cops rolled around the corners. The strategy is to make eye contact with the oncoming, and it seems the onus is on them to do the polite thing and make way for you to merge in. Since returning to Ontario, I have had to retrain myself to make a complete stop.
 agreatfriend2
Joined: 2/6/2005
Msg: 57 (view)
 
Child Discipline-Parents Of Today
Posted: 3/8/2007 6:19:41 AM
As a new accredited elementary teacher, I received training at college and while assuming my professional role, MUST report suspicions of abuse. The reporter must disclose the basis for their suspicions, whether it be a childs irregular behaviors, lack of food/clean clothing, physical wounds or something a child shares with you or another. The reporter uses THEIR JUDGEMENT to make the call, but is required to call even if they are not sure of the existence of abuse--only that they suspect something is not right.
Mayor.......Any Childrens Aid Society website can define the parameters of abuse as defined in Ontario today... however there is an onus on people to use their own ethics, morality, experiences and range of socially acceptable behaviors as meters of how children should or should not be treated.

 agreatfriend2
Joined: 2/6/2005
Msg: 54 (view)
 
Child Discipline-Parents Of Today
Posted: 3/8/2007 6:05:43 AM
^^^ exactly.

While "the system" might be far from perfect, it is better to ere in this instance and place an adult in the position of having to prove their integrity than to have a child suffer when there exists support to help the family become healthier and able to nurture and raise a healthy well adjusted child.
 agreatfriend2
Joined: 2/6/2005
Msg: 51 (view)
 
Child Discipline-Parents Of Today
Posted: 3/8/2007 5:45:17 AM
Next thing the little boy had stopped at the door to look outside. He just stood there gazing at the cars go by, not really moving at all. Next thing I hear the mother yell out at the little boy “ Get away from there!” “Come here”! She then walks over to the little boy and strikes the little boy three times hard, across the head. She is no average size person. One of her strikes would definitely hurt someone. The little boy began to cry. She then said to him. “Don’t do that again you little f_ _ k” “ Come here you little piece of sh_t”. She tells him to sit down on the floor and to shut the f_ _ k up!” “Don’t do that again or else it will be the end of you” “Promise!”

She proceeds to deal with the teller. At this point I am standing there in disgust and my blood is just boiling to the point that I have to go over and confront the mother. She tells the teller how sick and tired she is of the child. She then turns around and mumbles to the child to go get his teddy bear and to go sit in the chair and to stay put. She then mumbles to him “Some days I feel like gathering all your stuff and getting rid of you”. “Put you on the side of the road” “For f_ _ks sake”


Sorry diggy03...but I think that any person who harbours and expresses these sentiments about the child they are caring for (as a parent/caregiver/teacher/relative/friend) ANYTIME is not, in my opinion acting in a responsible way. Demeaning comments, foul language, threats to abandon, and slaps around the head (whether open or closed fisted, a totally unacceptable method of punishment by anyones standard I would hope) are NOT acceptable ways to treat anyone--let alone a 3-4 year old. This was a public event--not behind closed doors--doesnt that alone send shivers up your back and raise major red flags??
Would you consider a boss stable if that happened to you? Would you condone similar behaviour with your child who was in daycare? Parenting is perhaps the world's toughest job, but, in my opinion, with the facts provided, anger managment and parenting classes are the least this woman should be required to complete.
 agreatfriend2
Joined: 2/6/2005
Msg: 26 (view)
 
Child Discipline-Parents Of Today
Posted: 3/5/2007 3:06:01 PM
Jeeze .lisa...violence is such scary stuff, but I for one am thankful that people like you and the OP step up and act and do the RIGHT THING instead of choosing not to get involved. My first boyfriend had scars on his back from beatings from his father with the buckle end of a belt--It was so shocking a concept to me, a very well-to-do seemingly happy healthy family---and I can assure you that sweet boy could never have done anything worthy of that punishment---indeed no child ever can. Thank you for being braver than my boyfriends mother every was. I am glad some other bystanders stepped in to help too. You role modelled good citizenship today for many others.
 agreatfriend2
Joined: 2/6/2005
Msg: 19 (view)
 
Child Discipline-Parents Of Today
Posted: 3/5/2007 2:22:09 PM
Mayor...blatant abuse of children and animals (those who cannot defend themselves) tends to enrage people. We are not talking about a lynching, we are of a common belief that everone has the responsibility to report suspected child abuse, and the authorities will investigate and decide if the report justifies action on behalf of the child.
If the OP details his observations accurately, it strongly suggests to many of us that this incident warrents investigation, as both physical (slapping the head) and emotional (threatening to abandon, degrading comments) abuse apparently occured.

Also...how would you feel if you found out that the woman was the childs paid care-giver, or grandmother.......or if it was your child in that situation...or it was you as a child...
 agreatfriend2
Joined: 2/6/2005
Msg: 11 (view)
 
Child Discipline-Parents Of Today
Posted: 3/5/2007 11:50:40 AM
HORRIFIC!! Thank you for taking action to protect this child. Lord knows how many more she has at home suffering similar abuse.
 agreatfriend2
Joined: 2/6/2005
Msg: 31 (view)
 
Muslim girl ejected from tournament for wearing hijab
Posted: 2/27/2007 9:39:19 AM
what concerns me more are the REMOVAL of main stays. for example: the removal of the lord's prayer from schools. to school boards i would say: introduce prayers from the cultures of your students (would this take longer each morning - yes, but so what!) don't remove the prayer i grew up saying because another person grew up saying something else. simply allow that prayer to be observed.


As a elementary teacher, I strongly believe that religious instruction should be performed at home before the child comes to school. Religious instruction is not part of the public school curriculum. I would not be comfortable leading prayers in religions of which I do not partake or have intimate familiarity with. I see value in aknowledging and promoting tolerance/awareness of all religions, but I like the non-denominational flavour of public education which currently exists.
 agreatfriend2
Joined: 2/6/2005
Msg: 21 (view)
 
Muslim girl ejected from tournament for wearing hijab
Posted: 2/27/2007 9:12:08 AM
I believe that rules are written for a reason in childrens sport. Safety should take priority.
The fact that one of the referee's was a Muslin is irrelevant (but will no doubt squelch some discrimination arguements).
The fact is that every religions set rules for how to live a sprirtual life---clothing, food, actions, etc...
So, should we not share jelly beans in a classroom because some have religious dietary restrictions which forbid eating them (because of the gelatin). No, but we try to offer choices.
The rules were in place, the childs family was aware of the rules, and they chose to sign up for this particular sport.
Sadly, the child was let down by her parents in this case who were uninformed or assumed that the rules would be ignored.
 agreatfriend2
Joined: 2/6/2005
Msg: 14 (view)
 
~ I'm Proud of you!!! ~
Posted: 2/27/2007 8:36:58 AM
post #9 ^^^ I agree Leeanne, but I also see a place for accepting that our parents are humans too, and come fully equipped with their shortcomings. As adults, we must use the wisdom we have acquired to realize that sometimes it is not really about us when they are overly critical or lacking of praise when it is obviously warrented. It is an echo of something missing in their own soul. I cannot heal that perhaps, but I can work to diminish its affect on me. And, I can use it as a lesson as to how I should treat others, especially the children that I come into contact with.
 agreatfriend2
Joined: 2/6/2005
Msg: 8 (view)
 
~ I'm Proud of you!!! ~
Posted: 2/27/2007 7:47:54 AM
Leeanne...interesting post...and very relevant to me. My mother is my (and my brother--equal opportunity in our family) greatest (?) critic--and it's an ongoing source of frustration and very much a source of emotional distance in our relationship. Take your pick, it could be my choice of job, food, men, lifestyle, or her personal favorite, my hair. Regardless of the joys and accomplishments in my life, she sadly often chooses to comment on something negative. For instance, last year when I completed teachers college at age 48, her response when seeing my marks was "to not let it go to my head". WTF?? I know her generation may have been different (dont spoil the child), and she had similar unsupportive treatment as a child, but this is an educated woman who was a public health nurse, and taught parenting classes???!! Lately, I have tried to address the issue with her, and tried to explain how her "comments" while perhaps well meaning, come across as criticism and scolding. I have asked her to support me with positives, or keep it to herself.

As children, we need parents to respect our individual gifts and to be our greatest cheer leaders. As adults, we need parents to respect our choices and revel in our successes alongside us.
 agreatfriend2
Joined: 2/6/2005
Msg: 130 (view)
 
Anyone Ever Dated A TRUE Narcissist?
Posted: 2/27/2007 6:46:03 AM
yes sunfun16...I also found that he was always looking for people to reassure him how special he was..(resented me if I failed to be adequately supportive/ empathetic) ....and problems were always the faults/shortcomings of others..and as an extremely intelligent person, he was able to create the most amazing arguements to justify his theories. It was very exhasting to keep up with it all!!!
 agreatfriend2
Joined: 2/6/2005
Msg: 126 (view)
 
Anyone Ever Dated A TRUE Narcissist?
Posted: 2/27/2007 6:33:18 AM
Yes, I dated someone with Narcisistic tendancies for several years. As the poster in message #7 stated:



one of the things that attracted me about him was what I thought was his creativity/individuality/inventive manner, it became apparent after a few months that these traits were manipulations and when challenged about his thoughts,plan,ideals he became enraged and was unable to cope with someone trying to change his script as he saw it.

Unfortunately, I reasoned that his unbalanced philosophy on life was the result of being reduced to a part time parent of 4 young children which he was very attached to, a very long, nasty divorce and significant financial stresses.

After 6 years, I (yeah--finally) came to clearly understand that the world revolved around his needs alone--he could not put himself in other people shoes to feel true empathy...and that his good deeds always were motivated by fulfilling his own sence of self first and altruism a distant second. This type of person cannot grasp the concept of equality in a partnership, as their "script for life" is so dedicated to meeting/defending their right be and nurture themselves. It was terribly difficult for me to observe this unheathy reality in his relationships with his kids. Even in court-ordered councelling with them, he expected 6-12 year olds to change to accomodate him on his terms (and as time went on, he lost interest in spending time with them as that did not happen). Very sad, really. He is a good man in so many ways, but so unhealthy in others.
 agreatfriend2
Joined: 2/6/2005
Msg: 11 (view)
 
Moving to another house
Posted: 2/26/2007 10:35:37 AM
(takes a deep breath)...Burford, Burlington, Oakville, Rockwood, Georgetown, Rockport, Mass., East Chatham, NY., Gloucester, Mass., East Chatham NY., Hamilton, Ont----and it looks like a temporary move to Cobourg might be in the near future...PHEWWW...I enjoy change (can you tell?)
 agreatfriend2
Joined: 2/6/2005
Msg: 21 (view)
 
Jumping in with both feet
Posted: 2/24/2007 2:49:39 PM
Sometimes one casual walk in the park with a really nice guy can turn into another, and another and another..and before you know it...its just so easy and natural and wonderful that you cant imagine not having him in your life.....
 agreatfriend2
Joined: 2/6/2005
Msg: 113 (view)
 
I don't like your dogs, we can't talk....ever heard it?
Posted: 2/23/2007 4:13:03 AM

They are both well mannered and love to be around people. Wouldn't harm a fly, one is afraid of cats, the scary looking one lol.. The mix is afraid of men and lays down and does some little growl.


They both love people, but one is afraid of men and does little growls? Hummm....
 agreatfriend2
Joined: 2/6/2005
Msg: 111 (view)
 
I don't like your dogs, we can't talk....ever heard it?
Posted: 2/23/2007 3:55:46 AM
No disrespect to those who are very responsible pit bull owners...but I find it interesting how many of you say that Pit Bull and related breeds must be in the "right hands"....unfortunately, joe public (and public safety legislation) is not able to discriminate between the exceptional dog owner and the "isnt that a cute puppy" dog owner---both love their pet and claim it to be a wonderful gentle member of their household (another trait of the breed)....until they decide to enforce their territory or define their alpha positiion with another dog (or worse)...

The propensity of these breeds to do serious harm when they do snap (and yes, any breed of dog can respond aggressively-its an instictive element) is the issue--- its the extreme nature of attacks that are cause for alarm (especially when they pack up).

I agree with many posters that those who choose Pit Bulls as pets are making a certain social statement in many instances..and can expect a percentage of people to feel uncomfortable with the image that is projected.
 agreatfriend2
Joined: 2/6/2005
Msg: 7 (view)
 
can happy and unhappy people be together?
Posted: 2/22/2007 11:42:10 AM
Been there-done that...never want to wear that T-shirt again......

I am naturally positive, optomistic and happy with my lot in life...but being in a long term committed relationship with someone who swings into depressed, negative thinking on a regular basis does not work---after one gets weary of being the loving supportive understanding part of the partnership (usually a very one-sided focus with a giver and a taker), it sucks you into the abyss.

I was very attracted to my current relationship (found him 5 months ago on POF) because, despite his own trials and tribulations, he exudes optomism and is very emotionally balanced. There is an amazing sense of peace and a freedom from stress when one shares an equality when two people share a common personality. Significant differences are difficult to say the least.
 agreatfriend2
Joined: 2/6/2005
Msg: 91 (view)
 
I don't like your dogs, we can't talk....ever heard it?
Posted: 2/21/2007 6:42:32 PM
Lyinggame:
You are obviously very emotional about this topic...please check your facts however as YOUR ignorance is shining through (as well as your rudeness).




You know what; roughly 2 - 4 kids are killed a year by one of the four pit bull breeds in North America. The same number are killed by other Large breeds. HOWEVER, more kids (200 +) land up in the hospital with threatening wounds inflicted by LABRADOR RETRIEVERS and GOLDEN RETRIEVERS and GERMAN SHEPHERDS. Statistically; The labrador retriever is much more dangerous by number value than the pitbull breeds combined.


According to statistics collected in USA and Canada for deaths and maimings due to dog attacks between 1982 and 2006 (which reports every breed and cross breeds involved), Pit Bulls, Roti, Presa Canarios and their mixes were involved in 74% of attacks and 64% of deaths. (google: Clifton Study or Dog Bite Law)

OP: Unfortunately, people judge one another on the basis of many things...including the animals they possess...
 agreatfriend2
Joined: 2/6/2005
Msg: 86 (view)
 
I don't like your dogs, we can't talk....ever heard it?
Posted: 2/21/2007 4:52:07 PM
lyinggame:

I am sorry if my knowledge and opinion is offensive to you ..however I think you need to check your facts with regards to the origin of the Pit Bull breed and the breeds of dogs which are considered analogous in the UK and USA Kennel Clubs.




So, you get your dog put down for showing agression; SO when your child beats the shit out of another kid, you are going to put him/her down as well? I sure the hell hope so because if not, you are very ignorant. A dog is a living being and they ONLY attack for reason. They are scared; They are protecting themself; They feel threatened;l Someone hurt them.


With regards to ^^^^ this silly comment..I can assure you that I will not be euthanizing any children in the future. However, the Pit Bulls that escaped their enclosure and nearly killed a 4 year old child playing in a public park in my city last fall met another fate.

Back on topic...OP...obviously the gal was not a match for you...you have a pic of your dogs in your profile..that should prevent repeat performances of Pit Bull phobics in the future...good luck!!
 agreatfriend2
Joined: 2/6/2005
Msg: 82 (view)
 
I don't like your dogs, we can't talk....ever heard it?
Posted: 2/21/2007 5:31:03 AM
Pitt bulls make me nervous, to be sure..they must be neutered and muzzled in the city where I live in Ontario. There have been several instances of EXTREME attacks recently despite these laws.

While I am sure there are many examples of wonderfully friendly copmpanion pitt bulls..the reality IS that they were bred for a purpose, and that prediliction remains in their genetic makeup--they are fighting dogs. Many municipalities/provinces in Canada have recognized the extreme nature of their violent acts (verses that of other dog bite incidents) and have aggressive ban/controls in place to ensure public safety.

Pit bull dogs were originally bred in England for bull baiting, a barbaric public spectacle where the dogs would maul a bull to death. In the 1800’s, pit bulls were imported to North America for the same purpose, but were eventually used in lucrative dog fighting rings.

It would be interesting to study why certain people are attracted to specific breeds of dogs..humans have domesticated the wolf into so many breeds for various purposes...I think some see their pets as a social statement!

PS: I love a great family dog...adopted a cute Am. Eskie from the SPCA last summer--but if he ever showed any evidence of aggression towards people, I would have him put down. Pets should enhance our life, not create safety risks.
 agreatfriend2
Joined: 2/6/2005
Msg: 31 (view)
 
how long it usually takes to get a fish here?
Posted: 2/16/2007 3:59:55 AM
Patience is definitely a virtue when it comes to Plenty of Fish. I suggest you take in some of the coffee get-togethers, meet as many fellows as you can in a no pressure, no fuss situation, and keep a positive attitude.

I read your profile..and I happen to think it is great. I believe there are plenty of men who are seeking someone wonderful to marry- why not scare away those who are not up for the journey!! You appear to know who you are and what you want--I think that is refreshing! It will not frighten men who are of a similar mind!! Focus on quality over quantity!!

I do agree, however, with those who suggest you remove the restriction of "dating" as most would agree that many who are interested in dating are seeking that to mature into a permanent relationship. Like you, I clearly stated the type of life I was hoping to create with a partner...and low and behold..after more than a year...somebody wonderful appeared on the horizon...good luck!!
 agreatfriend2
Joined: 2/6/2005
Msg: 40 (view)
 
Is oral sex cheating?
Posted: 2/15/2007 5:17:47 PM
OP.....you state that:
I have been in situations where the guy received and it was a pleasurable thing
and go on to say:
by the way, I am single and NOT looking for a boyfriend........so no sex, no cheating for me, it is only a question!
^^^^hey..you set the stage....and asked the questions..
Obviously, you wanted everyone to calmly agree that it was morally and ethically OK. Surprise!! Most people really want to find a loving exclusive partner!!

In my opinion, cheating is not akin to casual consentual sex between two unattached adults.....but if its the married/commited guy who is telling you that he isn't getting oral from his wife....or your partner telling you he needs a bit "more" outside the bed you share...forget about it!!!!!!!.
 agreatfriend2
Joined: 2/6/2005
Msg: 10 (view)
 
Is oral sex cheating?
Posted: 2/15/2007 1:30:32 PM
It seems to me that you are exploring your own parameters of sexuality--why do you care what other people think is cheating (indeed, the word cheating suggests that it's wrong).

Everyone defines for themselves (although society/religion does tend to influence our standards of behaviour) what is acceptable/normal/moral within their own lives and relationships. As long as you are open and truthful and don't hurt those you interact with...and you are both/all consenting adults...live your life as you see fit.

In my world, however, I value loving, commited monogamy.
 agreatfriend2
Joined: 2/6/2005
Msg: 7 (view)
 
Is oral sex cheating?
Posted: 2/15/2007 1:13:39 PM
Just ask Bill Clinton....

On second thought...
crazeegyrl.......lets put it this way...would you consider it cheating if your husband or exclusive boyfriend was providing oral pleasure to another gal?? Or receiving it from a "friend"..IN my opionion, anything you wouldnt do right in front of your partner is inappropriate when you are in a committed relationship
 agreatfriend2
Joined: 2/6/2005
Msg: 21 (view)
 
Inside the heart or good looking?
Posted: 2/14/2007 5:09:05 AM
I have never cared much about classic good looks when it came to my selection of men--and I never was attracted to "pretty" boys...I tend to find that my partners become increasingly attractive to me as my bond to them developes...as their true beauty is revealed... (or conversely..less attractive when their true colours show through)..

However, we do need to be honest---beauty and sex appeal has huge appeal, or the likes of Anna Nicole Smilth and Paris Hilton would never capture our attention. Eye candy has its merits--but not in terms of seeking a life partner...

Happy Valentines everyone!! (especially my GORGEOUS fishie)
 agreatfriend2
Joined: 2/6/2005
Msg: 8 (view)
 
Childrens Aid and protecting our children
Posted: 2/13/2007 2:02:29 PM
Thank you, Brashanic, for caring. While I not familiar with how the CAS system works (or doesn't), I believe you are correct in continuing your vigilance in protecting the child from the potential of more emotional and/or physical abuse. Push for supervised visitation for sure!!! Does the child not have a social worker/legal advisor assigned to her to protect her rights? Keep making noise on her behalf!!
Good luck..the world is made better by angels like you.
 agreatfriend2
Joined: 2/6/2005
Msg: 5 (view)
 
The Cure for Cancer?
Posted: 2/2/2007 7:08:00 AM
I mean 40 yrs ago we did not have as many deaths as we do now. Advancements in medicine has created sickness as well as cured some. We were healthier 40 yrs ago then we are now.


I disagree with this ^^^ statement (and much of the opinion of shy gal40 with regards to health care in North America which she has posted) ..while I aknowledge that profit/funding is a force in research and in providing health services to the public, I believe that we have amazing technology, access to dedicated and skilled professionals in a relatively timely fashion, and are on the cutting edge of medical research and innovation.

I am not sure how one might argue that medical advances have cause sickness---perhaps more accurate or specific diagnosis and perhaps more agressive treatments..but healthier 40 years ago?? We are living longer, and enjoying better quality lives--my mom is almost 85, still travels all over the world and leads a very active life.

Tarzans Jane---I am also excited by the prospect that the root of cancer may be soon pinpointed...and am optomistic that, like the 20th century discoveries of vaccines for Diphtheria, Pertussis, Tuberculosis, Tetanus, Yellow Fever, Polio, Measles, and Hepatitis, one day the mortality rate from Cancer will be minimalized or eliminated.
 agreatfriend2
Joined: 2/6/2005
Msg: 29 (view)
 
Divorced Dads on a Budget
Posted: 2/1/2007 4:35:30 AM
The Art Gallery in Hamilton offers free admission the 1st Friday of each month (yup--tomorrow night)...
The Royal Botanical Gardens has regular events that are not terribly expensive--exhibits (the Glass one currently showing is a bit strange), seasonal jazz nights etc..(although the restaurant in the RBG is somewhat pricey).
My fish and I had our first couple of "meets" at the Bayfront Park in Hamilton which has a nice looping walk about a km long....then we went to the Williams Coffee Pub at the other end of the harbour for dessert and coffee. It was a really great way to get to know someone without the pressure of a big expensive night out.
 agreatfriend2
Joined: 2/6/2005
Msg: 13 (view)
 
Terrible Two's moment
Posted: 1/2/2007 1:42:19 PM

... still waiting for the bowl to drain ...

...I do believe you will need to flush one last time to empty the toilet and tank of water....
 agreatfriend2
Joined: 2/6/2005
Msg: 75 (view)
 
Saddam is dead
Posted: 12/31/2006 8:37:40 AM
I agree that Saddam was a deranged, hateful despot. However, I do not believe the cause of humanity is forwarded by the death penalty.
The death penalty is predicated on the idea that the primary goal of justice is revenge- although judicial systems are supposed to be emotionless. It inherently knocks down the wall between civility and barbarity, which, ironically, is why the laws of the land exist...to define (& suppress) those behaviors which are deemed socially unacceptable. I will never believe that societies do themselves any favors when they answer vile and inhuman acts by committing those acts in kind.

The Dalai Lama suggests that:
"The death penalty fulfills a preventive function, but it is also very clearly a form of revenge. It is an especially severe form of punishment because it is so final. The human life is ended and the executed person is deprived of the opportunity to change, to restore the harm done or compensate for it. Before advocating execution we should consider whether criminals are intrinsically negative and harmful people or whether they will remain perpetually in the same state of mind in which they committed their crime or not. The answer, I believe, is definitely not. However horrible the act they have committed, I believe that everyone has the potential to improve and correct themselves. Therefore, I am optimistic that it remains possible to deter criminal activity, and prevent such harmful consequences of such acts in society, without having to resort to the death penalty."

Or perhaps you prefer:
Matthew 5:38-39: "Ye have heard that it hath been said, An eye for an eye, and a tooth for a tooth: But I say unto you, That ye resist not evil: but whosoever shall smite thee on thy right cheek, turn to him the other also."
 agreatfriend2
Joined: 2/6/2005
Msg: 51 (view)
 
At 12:00 midnight
Posted: 12/30/2006 5:01:47 PM
Champagne probably, which I will spill reaching up on my tiptoes to kiss my fabulous fishie.
 agreatfriend2
Joined: 2/6/2005
Msg: 4 (view)
 
Babysitting for 4 days... I think I need some help!!!
Posted: 12/30/2006 4:43:08 PM
You are a saint for agreeing to stay with the four of them when they are that young, My ex had 4 little ones, and I can assure you that you are in for the ride of your life. Load up on kiddie movies, craft supplies, and story books, and kid friendly food...and try to beg some friends into helping you out. Good Luck!! Those parents are going to owe you big time!!
 agreatfriend2
Joined: 2/6/2005
Msg: 60 (view)
 
Saddam is dead
Posted: 12/30/2006 3:06:05 PM
I feel rather sick about it all. I just cant reconcile that killing people can ever advance the human condition...even when its called punishment.
 agreatfriend2
Joined: 2/6/2005
Msg: 4 (view)
 
New Years Eve with kids
Posted: 12/29/2006 9:06:29 AM
FIRST NIGHT Celebrations. Its a great way to demonstrate to kids that people of all ages can get together, and have a great time and not get drunk.
 
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