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 Author Thread: Don't be to quick to toss 'em to the curb
 HereN916
Joined: 3/28/2007
Msg: 43 (view)
 
Don't be to quick to toss 'em to the curb
Posted: 6/22/2012 9:12:38 AM
This addresses Message #13's comment......"But at my age, no one looks..."


Ok, so I had to see what age you were talking about, and let me just say, "hush".
 HereN916
Joined: 3/28/2007
Msg: 13 (view)
 
Heart Sick
Posted: 4/28/2012 2:44:27 AM
"...that what I was missing was the FANTASY of what I thought I had instead of what I ACTUALLY had."

Perfect....and actually quite true.

OP, the right man is out there patiently waiting to meet you and I'd say it's a safe bet that he isn't supporting any adult deadbeat children.

You're doing great and I wish you much happiness (I'd wish him less, but I have enough bad Karma! )
 HereN916
Joined: 3/28/2007
Msg: 21 (view)
 
Irretrievably broken...
Posted: 4/28/2012 2:21:35 AM
OP, I don't believe there is any greater loss, than what you have experienced and there are no words to make it any better. I am so, so, very sorry and wish there was something I could do to help you. You will be in my thoughts and prayers.
 heren916
Joined: 3/28/2007
Msg: 188 (view)
 
could you live without your tv
Posted: 1/2/2011 5:55:06 PM
yes and did so for two and a half years........
 heren916
Joined: 3/28/2007
Msg: 30 (view)
 
Is common courtesy extinct?
Posted: 12/16/2010 7:37:00 PM
It's not a matter of expecting something in return, it's called MANNERS, geezus...
 heren916
Joined: 3/28/2007
Msg: 28 (view)
 
The loss of a Father and friend
Posted: 11/26/2010 7:51:15 PM
my heartfelt sympathy for your loss
 heren916
Joined: 3/28/2007
Msg: 325 (view)
 
HELP ME - GIRLFRIEND HAS BEEN WITH TOO MANY MEN??
Posted: 11/25/2010 12:18:46 PM
let her go so she can meet someone who isn't so insecure because you aren't going to be able to handle the thought of her possibly having a better lover than you. And because of that you will make her pay emotionally and she will end up walking on eggshells. Then the next relationship you become involved in, don't ask. Other than possible helath issues, it isn't any of your business. There is no magic number that is going to be the right answer and what is up with the counting anyway? Geezus.....
 heren916
Joined: 3/28/2007
Msg: 22 (view)
 
Do the dead great the dying?
Posted: 11/10/2010 4:41:45 AM
Plursty, I experience the same from my sister, mother and now from my best friend who passed away New Year's Day. I get specific signs from each. I could tell you a story and provide the picture of what I believe my mom sent to me, to let me know she is still around, just not in the physical sense.

For those that don't believe in haunted houses and/or ghosts, shadows, spirits, I can tell you those things do exist. I know, as I and my two kids lived in a haunted house for three years and each of us saw the ghosts/spirits/shadows. And each of us saw them at different times. I was in my 30's, didn't drink or do drugs and was not suffering from dementia and saw these two spirits or ghosts both in the day and night. They do exist and if not, then my kids and I, were sharing the same hallucination!
 heren916
Joined: 3/28/2007
Msg: 47 (view)
 
Why be just/fair/good/etc ?
Posted: 11/4/2010 2:20:29 AM
conscience anyone?

The faculty, power, or inward principle which decides as
to the character of one's own actions, purposes, and
affections, warning against and condemning that which is
wrong, and approving and prompting to that which is right;
the moral faculty passing judgment on one's self; the
moral sense.
 heren916
Joined: 3/28/2007
Msg: 732 (view)
 
What has gotten you concerned with Politics?
Posted: 11/1/2010 9:10:57 PM
Daniel Griswold is director of the Center for Trade Policy Studies at the Cato Institute.......part of an article he wrote....


Lost Opportunities for Americans

Cuban families are not the only victims of the embargo. Many of the dollars Cubans could earn from U.S. tourists would come back to the United States to buy American products, especially farm goods.

In 2000, Congress approved a modest opening of the embargo. The Trade Sanctions Reform and Export Enhancement Act of 2000 allows cash-only sales to Cuba of U.S. farm products and medical supplies. The results of this opening have been quite amazing. Since 2000, total sales of farm products to Cuba have increased from virtually zero to $380 million last year. From dead last in U.S. farm export markets, Cuba ranked 25th last year out of 228 countries in total purchases of U.S. farm products. Cuba is now the fifth largest export market in Latin America for U.S. farm exports. American farmers sold more to Cuba last year than to Brazil. Our leading exports to Cuba are meat and poultry, rice, wheat, corn, and soybeans.

The American Farm Bureau estimates that Cuba could eventually become a $1 billion agricultural export market for products of U.S. farmers and ranchers. The embargo stifles another $250 million in potential annual exports of fertilizer, herbicides, pesticides and tractors. According to a study by the U.S. International Trade Commission, the embargo costs American firms a total of $700 million to $1.2 billion per year. Farmers in Texas and neighboring states are among the biggest potential winners. One study by Texas A&M University estimated that Texas ranks fifth among states in potential farm exports to Cuba, with rice, poultry, beef and fertilizer the top exports.

Compounding our Failures

Despite the success of our farm exports, U.S. policy toward Cuba has if anything been sliding backwards. In 1996, Congress mistakenly raised the embargo to a new level with passage of the Cuban Liberty and Democratic Solidarity Act. Known as the Helms-Burton act, it threatens to punish foreign-based companies that allegedly engage in the "wrongful trafficking in property confiscated by the Castro regime." The law is legally flawed because it allows U.S. courts to rule on actions of parties who were not U.S. citizens and were not in the United States when the alleged offense took place. As a foreign-policy tool, the law perversely punishes, not the Castro regime itself, but some of our closest commercial allies such as Canada and the European Union.

Double Standard on Sanctions

Economic sanctions rarely work. Trade and investment sanctions against Burma, Iran, and North Korea have failed to change the behavior of any of those oppressive regimes; sanctions have only deepened the deprivation of the very people we are trying to help. Our research at the Cato Institute confirms that trade and globalization till the soil for democracy. Nations open to trade are more likely to be democracies where human rights are respected. Trade and the development it creates give people tools of communication-cell phones, satellite TV, fax machines, the Internet-that tend to undermine oppressive authority. Trade not only increases the flow of goods and services but also of people and ideas. Development also creates a larger middle class that is usually the backbone of democracy.

President Bush seems to understand this powerful connection between trade and democracy when he talks about China or the Middle East. In a speech on trade early in his first term, the president noted that trade was about more than raising incomes. "Trade creates the habits of freedom," the president said, and those habits begin "to create the expectations of democracy and demands for better democratic institutions. Societies that open to commerce across their borders are more open to democracy within their borders. And for those of us who care about values and believe in values--not just American values, but universal values that promote human dignity--trade is a good way to do that."

The president has rightly opposed efforts in Congress to impose trade sanctions against China because of its poor human rights record. In sheer numbers, the Chinese government has jailed and killed far more political and religious dissenters than has the Cuban government. And China is arguably more of a national security concern today than Castro's pathetic little workers' paradise. Yet China has become our third largest trading partner while we maintain a blanket embargo on commercial relations with Cuba. President Bush understands that economic engagement with China offers the best hope for encouraging human rights and political reforms in that country, yet he has failed to apply that same, sound thinking to Cuba.

In fact, the Venezuelan government of Hugo Chavez is doing more to undermine America's national interest today than either Cuba or China. Chavez shares Castro's hatred for democratic capitalism, but unlike Castro he has the resources and money to spread his influence in the hemisphere. Chavez is not only bankrolling Cuba with discounted oil but he is also supporting anti-Americans movements in Nicaragua and other countries in our neighborhood. Yet we buy billions of dollars of oil a year from Venezuela's state oil company, we allow huge Venezuelan investments in our own energy sector, and Americans--last time I checked--can travel freely to Venezuela. The one big difference between Venezuela and Cuba is that we don't have half a million politically active Venezuelan exiles living in a swing state like Ohio.

This is not an argument for an embargo against Venezuela, but for greater coherence in U.S. foreign policy. In a world still inhabited by a number of unfriendly and oppressive regimes, there is simply nothing special about Cuba that warrants the drastic option of a total embargo.

Cuban-American Politics

For all those reasons, pressure has been building in Congress for a new policy toward Cuba. In the past five years, the House and occasionally the Senate have voted to lift the travel ban to Cuba, and also to lift the cap on remittances and even to lift the embargo altogether. Yet each time efforts in Congress to ease the embargo have been thwarted by the administration and the Republican leadership. Support for the embargo certainly does not come from the general American public, but from a group of Cuban-American activists concentrated in southern Florida. By a fluke of the electoral college, Republican presidents feel obligated to please this small special interest at the expense of our broader national interest.

It's ironic that many of those very same Cuban-Americans who support the embargo also routinely and massively violate the spirit if not the letter of the law. Each year, Cuban Americans send hundreds of millions in hard-dollar remittances to their friends and families back in Cuba. Another 100,000 or so Cuban Americans actually visit their homeland each year. These are supposed to be so-called "emergency" visits, although a disproportionate number of the emergencies for some strange reason occur around the Christmas holiday. In the name of politics, Cuban American leaders want to restrict the freedom of other Americans to visit
Cuba while retaining that freedom for themselves.

Expanding Our Influence in Cuba

Instead of the embargo, Congress and the administration should take concrete steps to expand America's economic and political influence in Cuba. First, the travel ban should be lifted. According to U.S. law, citizens can travel more or less freely to such "axis of evil" countries as Iran and North Korea. But if Americans want to visit Cuba legally, they need to be a former president or some other well-connected VIP or a Cuban American.

Yes, more American dollars would end up in the coffers of the Cuban government, but dollars would also go to private Cuban citizens. Philip Peters, a former State Department official in the Reagan administration and expert on Cuba, argues that American tourists would boost the earnings of Cubans who rent rooms, drive taxis, sell art, and operate restaurants in their homes. Those dollars would then find their way to the hundreds of freely priced farmer's markets, to carpenters, repairmen, tutors, food venders, and other entrepreneurs.

Second, restrictions on remittances should be lifted. Like tourism, expanded remittances would fuel the private sector, encourage Cuba's modest economic reforms, and promote independence from the government.

Third, American farmers and medical suppliers should be allowed to sell their products to Cuba with financing arranged by private commercial lenders, not just for cash as current law permits. Most international trade is financed by temporary credit, and private banks, not taxpayers, would bear the risk. I oppose subsidizing exports to Cuba through agencies such as the Export-Import Bank, but I also oppose banning the use of private commercial credit.

Finally, the Helms-Burton law should be allowed to expire. The law, like every other aspect of the embargo, has failed to achieve its stated objectives and has, in fact, undermined American influence in Cuba and alienated our allies.

Lifting or modifying the embargo would not be a victory for Fidel Castro or his oppressive regime. It would be an overdue acknowledgement that the four-and-a-half decade embargo has failed, and that commercial engagement is the best way to encourage more open societies abroad. The U.S. government can and should continue to criticize the Cuban government's abuse of human rights in the U.N. and elsewhere, while allowing expanding trade and tourism to undermine Castro's authority from below.

We should apply the president's sound reasoning on trade in general to our policy toward Cuba. The most powerful force for change in Cuba will not be more sanctions, but more daily interaction with free people bearing dollars and new ideas.

How many decades does the U.S. government need to bang its head against a wall before it changes a failed policy?
 heren916
Joined: 3/28/2007
Msg: 20 (view)
 
Getting ignored..
Posted: 10/4/2010 7:12:44 PM
laughing at .....txredbull's answer >>>>...... [/ Yeh, what to do next. Email her/call her and tell her you met two hot coeds and after some rather rank conversations, one thing led to another and the next thing you know, it ended in an orgy. Your getting together again this weekend and you've never been happier in your life so your breaking up with her. Believe it or not, thats your best chance with her at this point.]
 heren916
Joined: 3/28/2007
Msg: 47 (view)
 
Giving a girl flowers before a date
Posted: 9/19/2010 12:13:09 AM
I've had flowers given to me on a first date, and I didn't look at it as being desperate, or a bribe, etc. In fact, I considered it to be very thoughtful and rather classy and I enjoyed them very much.
 heren916
Joined: 3/28/2007
Msg: 44 (view)
 
Psychics - your views?
Posted: 8/24/2010 11:20:07 AM
Hi OP,

I believe. I have gone to an astrologer off and on since 1982. I can tell you she has been right I would say about 96% of the time. Giving me exact dates I would see someone I hadn't spoken to in over a year. Problems my stepdaughter would encounter during the birth of her second child. Telling me about about my father's death and it should have never happened and the fault lying with the hospital, yet I had never said a word about my father going in for surgery or that he was even in the hospital. Those are just a few incidents I can think of at the moment.

Does it dictate how I live my life, ......no. Do I believe what horoscopes say in the magazines and newspapers........no. What I do believe, is that each of us has abilities or capabilities we aren't aware of and/or that some of us are more intune than others. I also believe in haunted houses as I lived in one for 3 years and can tell you I saw a UFO, experienced what I can only call a miracle and know without a doubt that angels watch over us.

The majority of us believe in God or a higher power, yet we have never seen.
 heren916
Joined: 3/28/2007
Msg: 10 (view)
 
Why Must People Lie?
Posted: 8/22/2010 10:25:15 AM
OP, I'm with you - - I don't get it either.
 heren916
Joined: 3/28/2007
Msg: 39 (view)
 
The Ignored War
Posted: 7/10/2010 1:52:29 AM
Excellent post !
 heren916
Joined: 3/28/2007
Msg: 53 (view)
 
how do you do homeless?
Posted: 7/10/2010 1:33:44 AM
Hi OP,

Look at the Landlord/Tenant Laws, as I believe I read - that even in your situation/relationship - he can't just throw you out - you have rights and if you go to the courthouse (at least here in Calif) there is an office where people assist tenants with proper paperwork to fight evictions. You could also call your local Legal Aide Office For Low Income, and they could advise you

Hope things improve for you very soon!
 heren916
Joined: 3/28/2007
Msg: 32 (view)
 
the temporary breakup. does it ever work?
Posted: 7/1/2010 11:09:50 AM
My initial thought is "No" but I too believe in, "Never Say Never".

I know, my answer is of no help, but I do like your thought of "Heart Crazy Glue" and wish you the best.
 heren916
Joined: 3/28/2007
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Coach me, please: What do I do when I meet ex-BF & his GF?
Posted: 7/1/2010 10:59:40 AM
Hi OP,

You don't need to learn "how to act classy", you already have class and brains to go with it.

Just say hi and keep on moving. Personally, I think they deserve each other and as much as it hurts, this actually was a blessing in disguise. You sound like an exceptional woman and there is someone out there far better, just waiting to meet you. Sending you best wishes
 heren916
Joined: 3/28/2007
Msg: 28 (view)
 
Is this world going nuts?
Posted: 6/27/2010 4:11:47 AM
Hi OP,

I did a search to see what women are thinking when they choose to write/visit/marry a convicted criminal and here is one person's thoughts/story:

We have journals from Inmatez wife and an Inmate, so I thought I'd put me out there since this experience has really emphasized there is strength in numbers. I feel like (I REMOVED NAME) is a perfect avenue because of the quiet dignity that permeates its atmosphere. Having a loved one in prison, turns your life "upside down" as my baby says. He is right. I had no idea that it was going to be so difficult.

My story is a little different because I met my lnmate after he was incarcerated. So why would I willingly allow my life to be turned upside down by a convicted felon who is currently in prison for five more years? After knowing him for almost 2 years, he has asked me to marry him. My answer has been a delayed yes. Many people think women like me have low self esteem.

I REMOVED THE WEBSITE NAME THAT HAS THIS REPORT:
This report describes the characteristics of women who love and marry men in prison. It's not pretty. As for me, I am 2 classes away from a Masters degree and I strive to become the best me I can be. I am proud of me and I have put one child through college without the help of a mate. My family thinks I slink below me. They refer to inmates as those "prisoners", and believe their solitary time in prison enables them to become masterminds and expert manipulators of womens' hearts and purses. I believe I was clotheslined!

I can not actually believe that I have fallen in love with an inmate! It's bad enough to date some of these so called men out here. Is it real love? Time will tell, but what this man gives me is worth the risks of possibly failing and/or finding out if this is the real thing. True Love, anywhere, is hard to find and even harder to keep. I am hoping that this journaling will help me and others like me to work through this kind of trial and come out stronger. Let me tell you a little bit how I got here.

Several years ago, a family friend went into prison for a weapons charge. Our correspondence was mixed up during his transfer and one of my letters went to another inmate with the same name. By the time I straightened it out, my address had been passed around several times and waiting. By the time my address got to the fourth strange inmate, I lost it! I wrote this man the most sarcastic letter and told him I was going to take him to school on the short bus. "Tell me why do you think a woman would want to have a relationship with a prisoner? You can't do nothing for me!" Which made him blow a gasket because many inmates who are in prison are illiterate, or attended some form of special education classes. He apparently went to the dayroom telling them about the female canine that spoke to him like he was less than a human. Intrigued, my man overheard him and asked if he could write me. it took me six months to return a letter, yet he kept on writing and finally got my attention. So we became friends, and later a romance grew.

Now that my love for this man is growing, I have learned so much about me. He says he repeats things to me because I have a tendency to gloss over things. Then he states he puts things on my plate in small bite sized pieces so that I can understand the gravity of what he is asking me to do, and that is love him unconditionally. Like an idiot, I thought what was happening was so exciting at first. Little by little, I am recognizing the emotional turmoil that having a loved one in prison brings to your everyday life. This is not easy or for the faint hearted as one woman told me. Running to your mailbox becomes a major focal point in your life. You worry and have many fretful nights. You truly begin to understand what this is going to cost you. Is it worth it? It feels like I have met my soulmate! So again, only time and will tell. I want to take my time and find the right path for this relationship. Our growth as individuals must accompany our growth as a couple. Can a woman truly find love in a stranger who is incarcerated? I am willing to take a risk and find out since this man has made me feel closer to him that I have to any other man in my life. We all know in and out, you can be lonely in a crowd full of family members and strangers.

Today, my 30 year old niece had a stroke. She is not married and has no children. Thank God, she survived. Life is precious and there is power in using the choice to pursue true happiness no matter what others think. You never know how long you may have. So I deserve to pursue, share, and express unconditional love and find pleasure in doing so. We all do. As I share my journey with you, I open myself up and welcome any comments you have concerning this plight, good or bad. I am committed to do me whatever may come. You also help me and others by sharing your stories too. They are a great source of comfort. What do you think?

I call myself An Inmate's Wo-Man? Because for the first time in my life, I feel like I am this man's, my mate's rib. He's my best friend. We are one. Without him, I feel like a part of me is missing. Having no control over this, leaves you with a sick feeling. Sometimes. Knowing God has blessed you drives you everyday! Without him, I'd be one lonely soul in a crowd of friends and family.
**********************************************
My thought remains the same as before I read this, which is, I still don't understand.
I hate being judgmental, but I think these women and there are men too, need
 heren916
Joined: 3/28/2007
Msg: 118 (view)
 
Would you date someone who had paranormal expiriences?
Posted: 5/7/2010 11:30:00 PM
Sure I would - we could compare stories. I lived in a haunted house for 2 1/2 yrs and had 3 experiences re: UFO's.
 HEREN916
Joined: 3/28/2007
Msg: 111 (view)
 
Being falsely accused of cheating...How did it make you feel?
Posted: 5/1/2010 8:41:40 PM
I was accused of having an affair because he thought I was gone too long grocery shopping. I finally got tired of defending myself and told him, yup, aisle 11 frozen food section cause we're just so damn hot.......
 HEREN916
Joined: 3/28/2007
Msg: 30 (view)
 
Weaksauce break up speeches
Posted: 3/27/2010 12:35:00 PM
dumped because "you're too nice" .....he said and I thought: "well, how dare I be nice" and that would be enough to send anyone running for the hills......
 HEREN916
Joined: 3/28/2007
Msg: 54 (view)
 
Quote a line
Posted: 3/27/2010 12:14:52 PM
Houston, we have a problem...........Apollo 13

It's a 106 miles to Chicago, we've got a full tank of gas, half a packet of cigarettes, it's dark and we're wearing sunglasses, hit it !..........A Briefcase Full of Blues
 HEREN916
Joined: 3/28/2007
Msg: 80 (view)
 
THINGS I FIND FUNNY
Posted: 3/27/2010 11:54:09 AM
I know my sense of humor is odd and I'm probably the only one amused by this, but here goes: during a football game when I hear the ref make a call of "Unnecessary Roughness. I laugh everytime I hear it and think to myself, what the hell, c'mon look at these guys, what are they about 6'6 300lbs crying about being hit too hard??? Makes me think of being a kid and running home and telling mom that big kid down the street was picking on me.........they need to call it something else and don't ask me what, I don't have any suggestions, it's just one of many things I find humorous.
 heren916
Joined: 3/28/2007
Msg: 26 (view)
 
confused
Posted: 3/24/2010 10:01:36 PM
Sorry OP,

I think almost all of us have been lied to by someone we trusted. It hurts.....a lot! But what is the alternative? To never trust? I'm sorry you were hurt but happy to see that you've grabbed your fishing pole again. There are some very decent, honest, and just all around good guys out there. There is a bright side and that is at least you found out what type of person he is before the relationship progressed further!
 heren916
Joined: 3/28/2007
Msg: 25 (view)
 
confused
Posted: 3/24/2010 9:51:11 PM
The past tense for TRAVEL is spelled "traveled" in the US, while "travelled" is a mainly British variant.

The dual variant applies to other -el verbs such as "canceled" / "cancelled" except that for "cancel", the double-L version is more frequently used.
 heren916
Joined: 3/28/2007
Msg: 16 (view)
 
In love with my best friend
Posted: 3/24/2010 9:37:56 PM
Hi OP,

Message #12, "Alooo's" makes the most sense to me.

Don't pay attention to those that think your post spells drama with a capital "D". No one forces them to read the relationship forums and if they are sick and tired of certain posts, perhaps they should be reading the posts in the poetry or cooking forums.

I hope it turns out well for you, best of luck!
 heren916
Joined: 3/28/2007
Msg: 4 (view)
 
The world according to Susan
Posted: 3/9/2010 5:14:27 AM
it's like she is testing the water(s)..........and she doesn't know what she really wants. And you're right....what do you do. You did the best thing you could do for yourself. The only other choice you had,would hurt even more. Maybe at some point in the future, your paths will cross again and the timing will be right. Ya never know........
Wishing you the best.
 heren916
Joined: 3/28/2007
Msg: 8 (view)
 
just lost my love
Posted: 3/7/2010 12:37:26 PM
OP, I wish I had words to make you feel better. Time helps, I'm so sorry.
 heren916
Joined: 3/28/2007
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is it wrong to hate?
Posted: 3/7/2010 12:25:56 PM
I agree with Erricsix, (mssge 14)......hating only keeps yourself a prisoner. Sorry you are hurting
 heren916
Joined: 3/28/2007
Msg: 89 (view)
 
no valentine gift or card on purpose??or mistake??
Posted: 2/17/2010 11:34:55 PM
I think it was mean spirited. He could have picked flowers in his yard which would have taken 5-10 minutes and why tell you the day before? It almost sounds as if he is getting back at you for something. Hope next Valentine's Day will be a happy one for you.
 heren916
Joined: 3/28/2007
Msg: 38 (view)
 
She does not want to be around my kids.
Posted: 2/17/2010 1:02:09 PM
Do you have a neon flashing sign on your forehead that says, "Kick me, now kick me harder"?

You and your kids are a package deal and the only money I would give to this leech is "go away forever" money and it would be well spent.

You were barely out of a relationship and vulnerable (I'm guessing) and she took advantage of you from the get-go. Quit allowing her to walk all over you and treating your kids as though they were non-existent!
 heren916
Joined: 3/28/2007
Msg: 6 (view)
 
verbal abuse
Posted: 8/3/2009 1:41:17 PM
Wow, where to start.... In my opinion you definitely have a right to be upset! It sounds as though she has some mental/emotional issues and if that is the case, she is not going to get better without help. Meaning professional help. Is it possible she takes drugs? and I don't mean prescription. This is so much easier said than done, but you don't need this emotional rollercoaster. There is so much here I could spout off about, but to keep it short, unless she gets some help I dont see your relationship mending and/or improving. That's just my take on the situation and I hope things work out for you as you seem like one of the good guys.
 heren916
Joined: 3/28/2007
Msg: 22 (view)
 
Open–mouth-insert-foot syndrome.
Posted: 8/2/2009 6:19:30 PM
I'm happy to report that duct tape now comes in colors..........
 heren916
Joined: 3/28/2007
Msg: 80 (view)
 
Roses or chocolates?
Posted: 8/2/2009 6:10:55 PM
White or yellow roses would be great! (I don't care about the color of rose/meaning )
 heren916
Joined: 3/28/2007
Msg: 163 (view)
 
Men, Does It Disturb You If...
Posted: 8/2/2009 5:56:16 PM
Ummm men that wear white cotton socks with black shoes or dark dress shoes......
dirty and long finger and toenails...
clearing their throat and spitting ........wherever......inside,.....outside ........yuck that is nasty.....
 heren916
Joined: 3/28/2007
Msg: 108 (view)
 
Could being psychic affect your relationship?
Posted: 8/2/2009 5:43:06 PM
I'm not psychic, but I seem to instantly tune into other's feelings, I mean way before it would be obvious, anyway, it makes me uncomfortable at times or in certain situations.
 heren916
Joined: 3/28/2007
Msg: 387 (view)
 
How important is chivalry in an relationship to you?
Posted: 8/2/2009 5:25:02 PM
It's important to me and in my opinion, says a lot about the man.
 heren916
Joined: 3/28/2007
Msg: 2 (view)
 
a one way ticket to hell ...
Posted: 7/25/2009 11:33:47 PM
lol, that was pretty good - thanks for sharing ...
 heren916
Joined: 3/28/2007
Msg: 10 (view)
 
loving old pets
Posted: 7/25/2009 4:46:10 PM
OP, I meant to say also, I love what you do for your horse. Very creative and loving and would make a wonderful picture for a calendar in a vet's office!
 heren916
Joined: 3/28/2007
Msg: 9 (view)
 
loving old pets
Posted: 7/25/2009 4:43:28 PM
I would take Ewok, my pekingese, to Mcdonalds with me. She absolutely loved to go and I would get my Big Mac and they would give her a dog biscuit in a little paper bag like fries come in. I had her for 18 years. She was my love and best friend.
 heren916
Joined: 3/28/2007
Msg: 111 (view)
 
Just For Fun - Top 3 What Not To Do On A 1st Date
Posted: 7/18/2009 1:38:10 AM
1. Burp loudly and think that is a good thing and not excuse yourself.

2. Flirt with the waitress or any other woman that walks by our table.

3. Ask me how long has it been since I've had sex.

 heren916
Joined: 3/28/2007
Msg: 89 (view)
 
She WON'T DEFINE US...... how much MORE time should I give her?
Posted: 7/17/2009 1:17:05 AM
I believe you treat people the way you would like to be treated. So, give her a taste of her own medicine. Don't answer her text messages or if you do, tell her you got tired of waiting around for her to decide who she wants to hang out with and made other plans.

Then go do something you enjoy or join other friends who appreciate your company.

Quit being her puppet She is self centered, selfish, inconsiderate, rude and immature. Is that really someone you want to have a relationship with?
 heren916
Joined: 3/28/2007
Msg: 15 (view)
 
Political opinions/religious issues and how they effect dating
Posted: 7/16/2009 2:04:12 AM
It's possible, look at Maria Shriver and Arnold Swartzenegger....
 heren916
Joined: 3/28/2007
Msg: 21 (view)
 
Question regarding pedophiles and the law
Posted: 7/11/2009 12:11:26 PM
Thank you all for your input. I still shake my head in disbelief.
 heren916
Joined: 3/28/2007
Msg: 54 (view)
 
She WON'T DEFINE US...... how much MORE time should I give her?
Posted: 7/11/2009 4:56:00 AM
Whew!........I don't know about you, but I'm tired. This is like here we go round the Mulberry bush but the only one getting nowhere fast, ....is you.

Should a new relationship be this confusing and hard?
 heren916
Joined: 3/28/2007
Msg: 66 (view)
 
what have you learned from previous relationships about choosing a partner?
Posted: 7/7/2009 2:27:13 PM
Kbodley, you said it too well!
 heren916
Joined: 3/28/2007
Msg: 135 (view)
 
Get rid of new Puppy or Else...
Posted: 7/7/2009 2:10:14 PM
This is too easy........a dog's love is unconditional.
 heren916
Joined: 3/28/2007
Msg: 10 (view)
 
Question regarding pedophiles and the law
Posted: 7/6/2009 9:39:23 PM
Skoochie, I agree that other offenders receive longer sentences than child molesters, which I do not understand. I can't think of a more heinous crime and I would be interested in hearing a lawyer's answer, thank you.
 heren916
Joined: 3/28/2007
Msg: 1 (view)
 
Question regarding pedophiles and the law
Posted: 7/6/2009 5:07:39 PM
Correct me if I'm wrong, but from what I have read and heard, it is my understanding that a pedophile cannot be rehabilitated. IF that is true, and a convicted pedophile receives a less than "Life In Prison" sentence, (i.e., 5-10-20 years) why do we release them?

Given the nature of the crime, it isn't like a bank robber recommitting the same offense. This is releasing a person that we know will hurt/sexually abuse/kill an innocent child, and the only question is when.
 
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