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Beaming

Joined: 3/28/2007

Msg: 71 (view)

Skin-to-skin contact and the benefit of human touch Posted: 2/28/2008 2:57:24 PM
These posts are putting me in such a mood. AND making me cry. I don't remember having a desire to touch and be touched, and I suspect that's b/c my natural inclinations were warped after being molested for years as a child. I did always want to be a toucher, though, and I raised my girls to be. They were always hugged and touched, so they thought nothing of hugging people, and were always quick to grab a hand or offer a soothing touch. I'm proud of that. I worked with teenagers for several years in the past and I learned to allow myself to be touched and to touch the kids. Teenagers are natural touchers for the most part, and will run up to you and give you a big hug every time you run into them. They helped me break down some touch barriers. They needed to be hugged themselves A LOT! Teenagers can be so unloveable sometimes. In the past year, since I began dating, I've tried to get comfortable allowing men to touch me. Not in a sexual way necessarily, but just as human beings, and it's taken some work. Once I get to know someone and trust him, I'm fine, although I'm always very aware of where I'm being touched. A friend said I'm sensory deprived. And I am. I NEED the touch of another human being but I'm still very uncomfortable when I get it. I find it easier to touch than to be touched, but, if I'll touch, then it seems only fair (and I'm all about fair) to allow him to touch me. Yeah, I know. Messed up! Do I need to be touched? Yes. Do I want it? Yes. Will I provide it in return? Yes.

Beaming

Joined: 3/28/2007

Msg: 89 (view)

Can you be too wet? Posted: 2/2/2008 8:34:29 AM
Y'all, try this. Pay close attention here. If there's too much, get a towel or a cloth and, write this down, y'all....... Wipe it off! Voila! Problem solved.

Beaming

Joined: 3/28/2007

Msg: 94 (view)

Big girls ridin'?!? Posted: 2/2/2008 8:28:19 AM
Honey, please. Think about anatomy. How are you gonna cut off his air supply by sitting on his crotch? I know he thinks with that head a lot of the time but he never, ever breathes from there!!!!!

Beaming

Joined: 3/28/2007

Msg: 1 (view)

I need... Posted: 1/31/2008 2:34:39 PM
I was given a remarkable ability to instinctively know what others need, and I'm always willing to provide for those needs if I can. Tonight at a scene where a 15-year-old ended his life, I did what I usually do, and that's take care of the patient and then check on those I work with. I noticed who needed a hug, a kind word, a pat on the back, a hug. Made sure everyone was okay. Offered to talk or listen. I hugged one. Looked into her eyes and made sure she was okay. Him, too. And then I was alone. Yes, my partner asked if I was okay. I said, "Yes." And I was, and I am. But, gosh, what I'd give to have someone hold me, even if just for a few minutes. My needs are so few. I learned to live without needing to be touched in the past, but released those floodgates last year. And now that I don't find what I need, I can't remember how to shut everything off. I've been touched and held a few times since I allowed those feelings to surface last year, and I crave it now. I NEED to talk. To touch. To make love. To love and to be loved. My feelings in the field are parallel with my feelings as a woman. They're all tied up together in my femininity, my humanness. I NEED someone to look me in the eyes and touch a part of me that desperately needs to be touched. I need to be held tonight. To be listened to. I'd love to cry in someone's arms. I'd love someone to care how I feel. How do I find my way back? I feel like a lost child. I came flying out the gates as soon as they were opened and I didn't pay attention to the road I went down. I left no trail as I wandered, seeking someone to love me. I'm lost, and I can't find my way back to the safe place where I didn't need anyone else. I envy the fireman who speaks into the radio, giving his location, and someone comes for him. Or the officer who cues his radio when he can't speak and assistance is sent. There's no radio for me to cue, no location to give, and no light at the end of the tunnel. I'm alone.

Beaming

Joined: 3/28/2007

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Cummed and orgasmed Posted: 1/14/2008 8:24:02 AM
Vagina is a medical term, Tim.

Beaming

Joined: 3/28/2007

Msg: 1 (view)

My Work, My Man Posted: 1/13/2008 11:32:32 AM
As I drive home, the tears begin. I'm not even sure why I'm crying, although I could give a hundred reasons. I let them come, knowing they'll cleanse me and allow me to see things clearly again. For a while. Look at the speed limit sign and hit the brake. It's 4 in the morning. Cops have nothing else to do but get drunk drivers off the street and give out tickets for speeding at this time of the night. Make the final turn onto my street. Check my eyes in the mirror and wipe away the tears. Pull into the driveway, shut off the engine and retrieve my things. Sniff. Take a deep breath. Down the sidewalk. Unlock the door and walk in, locking it behind me. Tiptoe through the house quietly without turning on a light so as not to disturb him. Him. Where I need to be. Safe in his arms. The house is cold and I feel a chill as I undress at the foot of the bed. With the nightlight on, I can visualize the silhouette of his body snug under the cover. He's been sleeping for hours. He doesn't stir, and I hear his rhythmic breathing as I remove my clothes and slip into bed beside him. I give my body a moment to warm up and then move toward him, my fingertips lightly touching his warm skin. Snuggling up next to him, he makes a noise, acknowledging my presence, and his hand finds mine on his tummy as I press myself close and kiss his shoulder. "I'm home, safe and sound again, Baby." "Mmmmm...anything interesting?" "Mmmmhhhhmmm, but I'll tell you tomorrow. Sleep." His body relaxes as he falls into sleep again. I hold him as I try to shut off the reminders of the events of the evening. Close my eyes and try to sleep. It won't come. Instead, my mind rushes back to the highway and my heart feels the pain I've ignored. My eyes begin to leak again, dripping down onto his back. He squeezes my hand and lets me cry. Sob. Til I'm done. Then he quietly turns onto his back and pulls me to him, stroking my hair as if I'm a child. I AM a child. My feelings displayed for all to see, even though he's the only one who can see them. Or hear them. He holds me gently and I can hear his voice through his chest as I blubber my pain into words only partially understood. "She was so beautiful." "I held her hand." "The blood." "I know she has a mama and daddy who are devastated. I can't help." "She could be mine." "It makes me cry to see it, over and over." "And it makes me mad." "I'm scared." "I'll never know." And, finally, "Just hold me." As the tears slow, my senses are awakened by the scent of him, awakening my deepest needs, desires and fears. I need to make love to him. To feel something. Our bodies coming together. Our essence. I push myself up to kiss him, my lips trailing his, my tongue slipping into his mouth, exploring. He is receptive, as I know he will be. Holding me against him with one hand and the other finding my breast as I groan with pleasure as he caresses it gently. My hands tops his and squeezes. I have to feel! The message is clear and he pulls me to him, his lips roughly sucking my nipple, making me cry out in pain/pleasure. I can’t separate the feelings for now but I don’t need to with him. I need to feel both, and he allows me to feel what I feel, need what I need, and to share both with him. On my terms. As I can. Never a rush. He knows I’ll share what I can when I can. IF I can. His big hands move all over my body and it feels hot where he touches me. His hand slides up my leg while I cover his face and neck with hot, steamy kisses, my nipples teased by his chest hair, and my hands squeezing his biceps, stroking his chest, grasping his face between my hands. I feel myself being lifted onto him and, as he releases me, our eyes meet as I slide down on him, and the passion burns between us. Words aren’t necessary. Our bodies speak for us and mine screams out with everything I’ve felt the last 12hours. His hand takes mine and guides us to the sensation of him and me, together. His hair. The hardness of him disappearing inside me. The softness of my lips. The wetness. Our fingers searching, finding the hidden place that brings all my feelings and emotions out, that allows me to truly let go of everything inside and share it with him. I lean back to feel him deeper inside me and his hands travel up to my nipples again, finding, touching, squeezing, making me moan, and, as he pulls me forward by placing his hands on my shoulders, I look in his eyes and know that it’s safe for me to let him see me, experience me, know me. I can let the tide of emotions that are inside me spill over onto and into him. He can and will accept them. And still care. And still want me. He WANTS me to share me with him, and I’m safe in his arms with him inside me. The tears start, unleashing everything I’ve kept hidden. Looking into his eyes as the tears slide down my cheeks and onto his face as his lips grasp onto my nipple with an animalistic roar deep in his throat. Sucking with such intensity it makes me grit my teeth while I hold his head and refuse to let him stop. Crying. Feeling the pain of watching someone slide closer and closer to death. And I can’t save her. Nothing is good enough. I’ve done my best. Given all I have. The tears. The grief. Him inside me, sliding in and out. Sucking my nipples. His fingers find my sweet spot and rub in unison to his in and out motion. We cum together, not just sexually but emotionally and spiritually—we are one—with a huge gasp and tears and a final sob, finally collapsing into each other's arms. Our tears intermingle. I cried for her and for me. He cried for me. He knows me intimately. Knows my heart and my head. Embraces all that I am, as a woman and a human being. And accepts me. We rest. I can finally sleep, no longer chased by the memories. His arms surround me like a baby. And I’m safe.

Beaming

Joined: 3/28/2007

Msg: 84 (view)

Long nails....turn on? Posted: 12/30/2007 10:42:34 PM
I have what one poster calls "professionally feminine" nails and I love them. I try to keep my nails manicured and polished with a color I can see in the semi-dark b/c I like to caress and touch and stroke my partner and I love to watch my hands do all those things. You know what I mean.

Beaming

Joined: 3/28/2007

Msg: 28 (view)

What age does female sexual urge die down? Posted: 12/27/2007 10:36:02 AM
I think it depends on the woman, her life experiences, her physical condition, and how she feels about herself. For me, I was married twice, then was celibate for 22 years. I had very little desire during those years, and I was careful not to encourage desire b/c I didn't want to have to struggle with that. Once the kids were gone, though, I allowed those feelings to be re-awakened, and now my desire is fully engulfed. We'll see how long this holds out. I feel like I'm 15, not 51.

Beaming

Joined: 3/28/2007

Msg: 1 (view)

Getting Dressed... Erotica (Didn't note this earlier. Sorry!) Posted: 12/25/2007 8:20:38 PM
I haven't been dating long and I was really hoping I'd have a special friend by Christmas this year. I don't. Surely I will have found someone by next Christmas, doncha think? And if I do, one thing I am looking forward is going to a Christmas party.....WITH A DATE!!!!! And this is how it'll go: I want to have the afternoon to get myself ready. Pamper myself with a fresh haircut, a massage, and getting my nails done in the afternoon. Then a long soothing bath with very light essential oils before picking out something I know I look good in to wear. I'll choose sexy fire engine red panties and a lacy bra, and smile as I slip into each piece, thinking about him taking it off later. When he arrives to pick me up, I'll be wearing just my bra and panties and my heels. I'll greet him at the door and pull him inside, shutting it with my other hand. Press myself against him with a welcoming kiss. He'll have that smell of the cold outdoors but it doesn't cover up the man scent that turns me on. The smells, the feeling of him touching my naked skin-my back, my tummy, my thighs-and his hands in my hair as he kisses me overwhelm my senses, and I want to please him. I drop to my knees and carelessly leave lipstick traces on his fly as I seek out the object of my immediate affection. When I'm finished and he's satisfied, I'll put everything back as I found it, stand up and kiss his lips, mine fresh with his taste. He'll press me against the wall, still kissing me, as his hand slides into my panties, finding my pleasure center. His insistent touch takes only minutes to bring me to orgasm and I tear my lips from his to allow my moans to escape. I rest against him briefly before he whispers in my ear, "Need some help getting dressed?" Grateful for the offer, I'll bring him into my bedroom where he'll be more than helpful! I've never gotten dressed by candlelight, and preparing for a Christmas party would be perfect for my first time. My man would make sure my breasts are positioned nicely in my bra, adjusting and caressing as he sees fit. He can pick out a clean pair of panties since the others are a little damp, and put them on me. I'll slide into the crotchless panties he's holding out in front of me and caress his face as he gently pulls them up and assures a smooth fit, pulling me to him and squeezing my bottom. Moving behind me, he'll slip my dress over my head, easing it over my breasts and into place. I'll feel his fingertips slowly caressing my back from the zipper up to my neck where he'll grab a handful of hair and pull my head around to find his lips searching for mine. Hands wandering all over me, squeezing, caressing, probing, then gently pressing me onto my back on my bed, the glow from the candles silhouetting his shape as he caresses my legs, pausing to remove my heels and kiss my toes. Hands sliding up my legs as he leads the way with his kisses, gently and oh, so s-l-o-w-l-y licking and nibbling his way to the center of my sexual being. Writhing in anticipation by the time I finally feel the pressure of his tongue tickling and then methodically licking me, I explode as the spasms of sheer joy shoot throughout my body while he holds me tight and refuses to let me slip away, insisting the explosions continue until I'm sated. Such a thoughtful man, he'll give me a few minutes to recover while choosing my jewelry for the evening. Slipping my shoes on, he pulls me to my feet and then pushes my hair out of the way so he can get my ear rings on. I shiver at his touch, standing before him. Known intimately and completely by him. His. And his for the taking. He'll turn me around to face the mirror and I'll shiver yet again when he fastens my necklace at the nape of my neck. When he's finished, he looks into my eyes in the mirror and gently wraps his strong arms around me. I feel his arousal at my back. "You're ready," he whispers. "Oh, YES! Yes, I am!" Pause... "Oh, you mean I'm ready for the party! Yes. Let's go."

Beaming

Joined: 3/28/2007

Msg: 41 (view)

Can u climax while on anti-depressants? Posted: 12/25/2007 7:09:18 PM
Some people can't, SweetMom. It's a known side effect for many. If one causes this unfortunate side effect, speak to your doc and see if you can try another one. Just b/c one caused it doesn't mean they all will. Good luck to you, Dear.

Beaming

Joined: 3/28/2007

Msg: 67 (view)

Why do women date mutiple guys at once? Posted: 12/25/2007 7:03:08 PM
B/c I'm "older" and my time on this earth is limited. I didn't date for a long time b/c I was raising my kids and, now that I can, I've gotta go back to square one and figure out what I want and need in a man. So I don't wanna try to date just one person and spend two months figuring out I don't like him or he doesn't like me or we're just not compatible. I wanna date several and spend time with each one and get to know each one well enough to decide if I want more than just a casual dating relationship. See?

Beaming

Joined: 3/28/2007

Msg: 1 (view)

Getting Dressed... Posted: 12/25/2007 6:41:29 PM
I haven't been dating long and I was really hoping I'd have a special friend by Christmas this year. I don't. Surely I will have found someone by next Christmas, doncha think? And if I do, one thing I am looking forward is going to a Christmas party.....WITH A DATE!!!!! And this is how it'll go: I want to have the afternoon to get myself ready. Pamper myself with a fresh haircut, a massage, and getting my nails done in the afternoon. Then a long soothing bath with very light essential oils before picking out something I know I look good in to wear. I'll choose sexy fire engine red panties and a lacy bra, and smile as I slip into each piece, thinking about him taking it off later. When he arrives to pick me up, I'll be wearing just my bra and panties and my heels. I'll greet him at the door and pull him inside, shutting it with my other hand. Press myself against him with a welcoming kiss. He'll have that smell of the cold outdoors but it doesn't cover up the man scent that turns me on. The smells, the feeling of him touching my naked skin-my back, my tummy, my thighs-and his hands in my hair as he kisses me overwhelm my senses, and I want to please him. I drop to my knees and carelessly leave lipstick traces on his fly as I seek out the object of my immediate affection. When I'm finished and he's satisfied, I'll put everything back as I found it, stand up and kiss his lips, mine fresh with his taste. He'll press me against the wall, still kissing me, as his hand slides into my panties, finding my pleasure center. His insistent touch takes only minutes to bring me to orgasm and I tear my lips from his to allow my moans to escape. I rest against him briefly before he whispers in my ear, "Need some help getting dressed?" Grateful for the offer, I'll bring him into my bedroom where he'll be more than helpful! I've never gotten dressed by candlelight, and preparing for a Christmas party would be perfect for my first time. My man would make sure my breasts are positioned nicely in my bra, adjusting and caressing as he sees fit. He can pick out a clean pair of panties since the others are a little damp, and put them on me. I'll slide into the crotchless panties he's holding out in front of me and caress his face as he gently pulls them up and assures a smooth fit, pulling me to him and squeezing my bottom. Moving behind me, he'll slip my dress over my head, easing it over my breasts and into place. I'll feel his fingertips slowly caressing my back from the zipper up to my neck where he'll grab a handful of hair and pull my head around to find his lips searching for mine. Hands wandering all over me, squeezing, caressing, probing, then gently pressing me onto my back on my bed, the glow from the candles silhouetting his shape as he caresses my legs, pausing to remove my heels and kiss my toes. Hands sliding up my legs as he leads the way with his kisses, gently and oh, so s-l-o-w-l-y licking and nibbling his way to the center of my sexual being. Writhing in anticipation by the time I finally feel the pressure of his tongue tickling and then methodically licking me, I explode as the spasms of sheer joy shoot throughout my body while he holds me tight and refuses to let me slip away, insisting the explosions continue until I'm sated. Such a thoughtful man, he'll give me a few minutes to recover while choosing my jewelry for the evening. Slipping my shoes on, he pulls me to my feet and then pushes my hair out of the way so he can get my ear rings on. I shiver at his touch, standing before him. Known intimately and completely by him. His. And his for the taking. He'll turn me around to face the mirror and I'll shiver yet again when he fastens my necklace at the nape of my neck. When he's finished, he looks into my eyes in the mirror and gently wraps his strong arms around me. I feel his arousal at my back. "You're ready," he whispers. "Oh, YES! Yes, I am!" Pause... "Oh, you mean I'm ready for the party! Yes. Let's go."

Beaming

Joined: 3/28/2007

Msg: 19 (view)

Getting emotional Posted: 12/10/2007 6:44:13 PM
I've come close a time or two, but have very carefully avoided becoming too emotional at this point. However, being WITH a man, not necessarily sexually, makes me feel things I'm not used to feeling. I'm looking forward to the time when I can let all those feelings surface. You know, a hug made me emotional recently. Took all my will power to keep from releasing the feelings AND the tears.

Beaming

Joined: 3/28/2007

Msg: 57 (view)

No Sex Tonight Posted: 12/6/2007 11:55:16 PM
Yeah, I'd have to say so. Not ALL, of course, but the majority. And I've tried, in my analytical way, to figure out what the common denominator is so I can know what to expect, but I can't. I thought it was probably age, but the one guy who is not even close to running out of steam is my age, so there went that theory. It's not what kind of job they do b/c the more physical ones do not seem to have an advantage over the ones who are more sedentary. It's not their fitness level nor medications nor illnesses, I don't think, but I do think a bunch of men are definitely running out of gas. Not just for sex either. I can't tell ya how many times I've been turned down to meet at 9:15 p.m. during the week. I sometimes work two jobs and don't finish the last one til 9 so I'd offer to meet someone then since he wants to meet me "so bad". He can't, he says, b/c he'll be in bed. Geez. And I shoulda realized that would be a sign of things to come. Can't stay up past 9 p.m. Not for ANYTHING!!!! Not for a drink, a meeting, a party, or sex. What would I like to do about it? Fix 'em. Whatever that takes. Fix 'em.

Beaming

Joined: 3/28/2007

Msg: 20 (view)

If the person you're with is a better lover, does this increase your sex drive? Posted: 12/6/2007 8:21:27 PM
And my answer is.....yes and no. Yes, b/c I want more and more of that which fulfills me. And no b/c, even if he's not that great a lover, but he's willing to try to please me and to let us learn each other together, my sex drive will still be increased.

Beaming

Joined: 3/28/2007

Msg: 10 (view)

Getting used to his touch. Posted: 12/6/2007 8:15:03 PM
I'd never thought of it before, Merry0709, but you're exactly right. I like a certain "touch", too. As you said, it's not just that he touches me, but the way he touches me that makes me feel comfortable with him. It's how he interacts with me. If his touches seem protective toward me, encouraging to me, etc., then I, too, relax, just as Merry does. I don't think you're overly tactile or sensitive at all. And, Merry, isn't it fantastic when we find one whose touch is so "right" from the first time we meet??!!!

Beaming

Joined: 3/28/2007

Msg: 86 (view)

On swallowing Posted: 11/3/2007 10:38:50 AM
Both, I think. Having strong feelings for someone makes whatever you do more enjoyable, but it's also true that some guys taste better than others.

Beaming

Joined: 3/28/2007

Msg: 64 (view)

Ultimate Sex Partner Posted: 10/23/2007 8:07:40 PM
NewlySingle64, no, the ages listed on your profile are not general guidelines. Maybe they are to YOU but not to this website. If you choose ages, then no one outside those ages can contact you. You need to be a little more liberal, or just go wild and take your age parameters off and let ALL of us contact you.

Beaming

Joined: 3/28/2007

Msg: 84 (view)

Condoms. Who is responsible for bringing them? Posted: 10/23/2007 8:02:53 PM
The logical answer is whomever wishes to protect him/herself. I want to protect me, so I'll always make sure they're available. If I were a man, though, I'd never leave the house without one.

Beaming

Joined: 3/28/2007

Msg: 8 (view)

Masturbation at work and how often? Posted: 9/18/2007 10:36:41 AM
Not often. Just when I can't stand it anymore and HAVE to!!!!

Beaming

Joined: 3/28/2007

Msg: 45 (view)

Foreplay ideas ladies...im a novice at this. Posted: 8/6/2007 12:54:09 PM
Yes, VegetarianCoffeeLover, only 20. Imagine how awesome he'll be by about 40 or so. And I'll be dead by then. List just ain't fair, is it?

Beaming

Joined: 3/28/2007

Msg: 12 (view)

Female with TMJ Posted: 8/6/2007 12:46:53 PM
I have it and, while mine never hurts me, my jaw does make the most awful, loud, popping sound when I'm ...ahm... busy. Happens when I'm kissing, too. It's a little embarrassing, but not yet so distracting to my partners that anyone has wanted me to stop.

Beaming

Joined: 3/28/2007

Msg: 2 (view)

After the 2nd date... Posted: 8/6/2007 9:48:51 AM
I like to go to theirs but that's b/c I don't want my friends and neighbors to see a car in my driveway. And, yes, I'm all grown up and can do as I please but I hate all the questions.... Also, I like to sleep in other beds than my own. And don't read anything into this....

Beaming

Joined: 3/28/2007

Msg: 50 (view)

Is doggy style disrespectful to a girl Posted: 7/19/2007 2:15:08 PM
I have to say that, when I was married, I felt completely disrespected when my husband insisted on it. Now that time has passed and I see things from a new perspective, I feel differently about it. My husband was not interested in my sexual pleasure, so for him to want to please only himself and then to want to not even look at me when he did it...well, can you understand that I'd feel hurt and even humiliated? Recently my partner asked me about it and my first answer was "No, I don't like it." He accepted my answer and then talked about why he liked it. I could understand, and I immediately changed my mind and wanted to try it with him. Well, guess who likes it and does NOT feel humiliated in the least!! My point is that, if a woman says she's humiliated or hurt by any sexual act, maybe it'd be prudent to find out why. I'd think there's usually a reason.

Beaming

Joined: 3/28/2007

Msg: 49 (view)

Moaning Posted: 7/17/2007 11:28:30 AM
YES!!! YES!!! YES!!! Moaning, groaning, roaring, whatever. It lets me know you like it AND your voice turns me on!!!!

Beaming

Joined: 3/28/2007

Msg: 6 (view)

What would you do different with only 6 months to live? Posted: 7/16/2007 10:35:10 AM
Hmmmm...I thought about this carefully before I answered. I'd get all my legal papers in order, like a will, power of attorney, a DNR order, etc. and make sure my daughters fully understand that I don't want to be kept "alive" on machines. I'd quit my ambulance job and spend the evenings with my grandkids and family. I'd start a new journal on LiveJournal to document what's going on in mind these final months. I'd call or e-mail or write all my old friends and distant family and share some of my fondest memories with them and tell them how much I care about them and what they meant to me in my life. Since I've got six months in this scenario, I'd plan a trip to Maryland and ask him to plan one down here. I'd go into my profile on POF and delete a lot of my standards and must-haves, and I'd probably quickly meet everyone I talk to and think I'll like. If we did like each other and there was chemistry, we'd progress quickly to the next level as there'd be less reason to wait. I'd take more chances in everything I do. Drive faster, eat more forbidden food, speak without being spoken to, etc. I think that's all I'd do differently. That's a lot, isn't it?

Beaming

Joined: 3/28/2007

Msg: 27 (view)

Kissing, cuddling, hugging, intimacy Posted: 7/16/2007 9:11:43 AM
Shoot, that's not what I got from those words. I never thought I'd be used and thrown away b/c a man says he likes kissing, cuddling, hugging and intimacy. I think he's trying to tell me he's a feeling kinda guy. He's describing things that are generally attractive to women and he's hoping I'll like what he's saying. Doncha think?

Beaming

Joined: 3/28/2007

Msg: 365 (view)

How many times a day can you handle havin sex??!!! Posted: 7/12/2007 8:26:18 AM
I don't think I'd want one looooooonnnnnngggg lovemaking session, but lots, maybe 10-12 smaller sessions with different kinds, types and positions of sex.......Yeah, that's what I want.

Beaming

Joined: 3/28/2007

Msg: 52 (view)

HORNY at WORK Posted: 7/12/2007 8:22:24 AM
Cross my legs and wiggle the top one. Squeeze my thighs together. Go outside into the heat and try to forget. Go into the boss' office, lock the door and take care of the need.

Beaming

Joined: 3/28/2007

Msg: 37 (view)

What is the most times you have orgasmed in one session???? Posted: 7/12/2007 8:20:16 AM
Damn! He came and went again, and I forgot to count. Damn, damn, damn!!! Well, I'm sure this is very important information for this forum, so, Lover, you'll just have to come back so we can have more orgasms and I can count them.

Beaming

Joined: 3/28/2007

Msg: 281 (view)

Does sex get better with age Posted: 7/12/2007 8:15:22 AM
I'm thinking it probably does even though I'm kinda messed up in that area. I'm just now becoming sexually active after many years of celibacy. I do still have some of the same hang-ups I had when I was younger, although I like to think they don't play as big a role in my life as they did way back when. I've had counselling and I'm more mature in how I handle issues now. I hope. I really didn't care for sex much as a young woman but, as an older woman, I LOVE IT!!! I crave it. I want it! A lot!

Beaming

Joined: 3/28/2007

Msg: 191 (view)

Watching women masturbate? Posted: 7/11/2007 9:31:55 PM
My young lover's fantasy was to watch me masturbate. It took months for him to talk me into it. I finally agreed simply b/c he wanted it so much and never ceased asking. It was a little embarrassing at first, but he helped me get started by touching me and then replacing his hand with mine. By that time, I was quite aroused and then became even more so watching the look on his face as he watched me! It took me a while to cum but once I did, he was all over me, kissing me, licking my fingers, hugging me, thanking me for letting him watch. We've done that several times now and I think I enjoy it as much as he does. Would I want to watch him? Yeah, I think so, although I also think I wouldn't let him get finished without "assisting"....

Beaming

Joined: 3/28/2007

Msg: 17 (view)

Tie me up. Tie me down. What turns you on?? Posted: 7/10/2007 10:02:06 PM
My six: 1. I LOVE kissing, too, Tekellia. And what I really like is when we're JUST kissing. That's all. Nothing more is expected. I like rubbing his stubbly cheeks and holding his head while I kiss his lips, then back off a little bit and let him be the aggressor for a while. Kissing during sex is pretty awesome, too, and especially when he's inside me. I like to stop whatever we're doing from time to time and have some of those long, slow kisses that turn me to mush. Shoot, who am I kidding? I'd already BE mush! 2. The look in his eyes that says "I want you NOW!" Then he moves toward me, presses me up against the wall, his body grinding into mine. Hands fumbling for my buttons and zippers and he finally gives up and rips my blouse open... Who knew I'd like that. 3. Touch me. I don't care where. If you look in my eyes and I can see your desire for me, I want you to touch me. My hands, my face, anywhere and everywhere. Touch my skin. Hold me. Feel me. Caress me. Pull me to you. Let our bodies touch..... 4. When I'm about ready to cum and I'm searching for his hand to hold and he grasps my hand and holds it just like I want it to be held. Strong, but not too strong. Makes me cum even faster and I feel so... so... ?supported? sexually. Like we did this together. Oh, how bonding. 5. When he will lie back and let me touch, lick and suck him all I want to. As gently or as intensely as I wish. Or maybe both. Taking as long as I want to. Any way I want to. He doesn't have to do or say anything. I want to look at him and watch him and taste him.....until I'm sated. 6. Restraining me. I have no idea what's going to happen, where he'll touch or IF he'll touch me, what he'll say, how he'll kiss me, touch me, fondle me, slap my ass, etc. Ohhhh.... 7. Finding my g-spot. I'm absolutely worthless once he touches me. I'm pretty sure I lose consciousness to some extent b/c I can't remember the actual completion of the orgasm...ever. 8. Make me kiss you. Make me enjoy you. Make me look at you. Make me cum when you want me to. 9. I know. I KNOW! I said 6. Fine. I'll stop. But I'm thinking of some more ways that I can melt. Oh, like kiss my clavicle (collarbone). Nuzzle my ear. Hold himself with his hand and guide it into....wherever he wants it..... I'm stopping!!! It's hot in here.

Beaming

Joined: 3/28/2007

Msg: 16 (view)

Longest orgasm Posted: 7/9/2007 10:13:04 PM
I've thought about this long and hard (pun intended), and I don't know how long my longest orgasm was, but my lover has several timers so....I'll get back to ya.

Beaming

Joined: 3/28/2007

Msg: 57 (view)

Places you have masturbated. Posted: 7/8/2007 1:17:59 PM
You asked what got us going each time we felt like we "had" to get things taken care of at unusual places, Tall Carolina Girl. What got me going at work was a really HOT email from my then soon-to-be lover detailing some things we'd do during my upcoming trip. Whew!!!! At the traffic light, it was b/c I'd been IMing back and forth with a 29 y/o all afternoon and I guess the 5 months of foreplay had just gotten to be too much. I was on my way home, but I just didn't make it. Honestly, after the little episode at the red light, when I got home, I went straight in the door and to my bed where I satisfied myself again, then promptly fell asleep. No problem--I mean, I was exhausted--however, I was supposed to be changing clothes to go to work. I ended up being late for my shift and had to make up some story about why.....But I know the truth (It started when he said, "I pressed you up against the wall and kissed you long and hard as I grabbed your skirt.........") And at the airport, it was b/c my lover was flying in for a visit and I hadn't seen him in three months and I KNEW what was to come (cum?).....

Beaming

Joined: 3/28/2007

Msg: 62 (view)

Do women like seeing guys naked? Posted: 7/8/2007 1:06:47 PM
ZSUZS said: "I love seeing a guy naked in my bedroom making love to me:D" Me, too!!!! I wanna see that today!!!! No, no, no. Not YOU, ZSUZS. Me. I wanna see him making love to me in my bedroom.

Beaming

Joined: 3/28/2007

Msg: 118 (view)

Her sexual past.....ur business? Posted: 7/8/2007 12:38:00 PM
Assuming it's an exclusive relationship (b/c otherwise I don't think we owe each other any explanations unless we want to give them), the only part that pertains to him about my past sexual history and would therefore be any of his business would be anything that has made a difference in who I am sexually. For example, an abusive relationship, promiscuity, etc. Even then, I think he's entitled only to basic information and certainly not names and dates, etc.

Beaming

Joined: 3/28/2007

Msg: 54 (view)

Do women like seeing guys naked? Posted: 7/7/2007 10:33:54 AM
I like to see men with their shirts off sometimes, and I like to see my partner naked and am aroused by that, but would I become aroused if he sent me a naked photo of himself? I dunno.... Maybe he should send me one and I'll see. I'll let you know if (a) he does and (b) I do. I've heard for years that men are visual creatures and women are not and, while I can't compare the amounts of visual stimulation in myself vs. a man, I find that I'm visually stimulated. I like to look at my partner. I like to look at all of him, naked or dressed, and remember and imagine, etc. But would I become as aroused by the site of a naked male stranger as a man would a naked female stranger? No, I don't think so. B/c when I'm visually stimulated by a photo of my partner, what I'm seeing IS my partner, the whole package (not just his package), whereas a man would be seeing sexual body parts, I think. I don't believe I'd become aroused by seeing a naked man I don't know, even if he is very attractive. I would appreciate his body but probably not be aroused.

Beaming

Joined: 3/28/2007

Msg: 53 (view)

Places you have masterbated. Posted: 7/7/2007 3:25:25 AM
In my boss' office at work. Stopped at a traffic light. In the bathroom at the airport. No, it wasn't the thought of getting caught that made it better; it was that I needed to take care of the, ahhhmmm, shall we say, business at hand (pun intended) and couldn't wait.

Beaming

Joined: 3/28/2007

Msg: 59 (view)

What kind of perfume do you wear? Posted: 7/7/2007 3:09:53 AM
I wear Happy, Bonnie Bell Skin Musk, Pleasures and Sung, and I pretty much stick with those. Oh, when I work as an EMT and can't wear perfume, you can usually smell my Avon Skin So Soft Bath Oil. I love that stuff. It has a great, clean scent. And, as a bonus, the mosquitoes wont' bite me!!! I refuse to wear Escape which I think smells like a sink with rotting meat deep inside. That crap stinks, I tell ya!!!! I don't have a boyfriend or a husband. That's why I'm here!!!!! And I'd wear whatever he wanted me to wear. Well, except Escape. I just can't. It makes my stomach churn. Don't know.

Beaming

Joined: 3/28/2007

Msg: 243 (view)

Why is it when women are on top, it seems like men come almost immediately? Posted: 7/7/2007 2:35:50 AM
"How come whenever you are getting it on with your man and you are on top, it is like it only takes him 3 seconds and he is already cumming?" No, he's not! He's awesome. He's very patient while I shift and move and wiggle and squirm and he just calmly watches and lets me do whatever I want. I'm remembering now.......

Beaming

Joined: 3/28/2007

Msg: 36 (view)

Obligations, if you ask for it, arent you obligated to give too? Posted: 7/7/2007 2:28:41 AM
Obligations. Sex. Man, I hate to think my partner would feel there were things I'd be "obligated" to do sexually. Personally, I don't want my partner doing anything to or for me that he feels obligated to do. I want him to do only what he WANTS to do, and never to feel like he HAS to do anything for me. If I ask him for something, he can do as I ask if he wants to but can always decline, and I certainly don't want to feel like I have to do something for him simply b/c he did something for me. It's about us pleasing each other, isn't it? Not keeping score of who did what to whom.....

Beaming

Joined: 3/28/2007

Msg: 20 (view)

Anyone drive to work naked Posted: 7/7/2007 2:13:18 AM
I've never driven anywhere naked. I might be naked under a coat or something, but how do you get to and from the car naked??? Once I picked up my lover from the airport and handed him my panties, letting him know that I was naked under my short skirt. As we drove home, his hand regularly wandered over between my legs. Do you know how difficult it is to keep your vehicle in your own lane if your legs are flying all over the place, spasming in orgasm??!!!!! Hmmmm...... I can't remember exactly how many orgasms I had, but that trip is a memory I'll never, ever forget.

Beaming

Joined: 3/28/2007

Msg: 123 (view)

Pulling Hair Posted: 7/7/2007 2:04:24 AM
A year ago, my answer to the question, "Do you like rough sex?" woulda been a resounding, "Heck, NOOOOO!!!" When my lover described some things he'd like to do to me, I quickly made him understand that pleasure and pain weren't even in the realm of close in my mind. He said, "No problem. We won't do that." Then he went on to describe what he liked about it, again stating we'd not do it--he was just letting me know his perspective about it. Well, what he had to say intrigued me, and I've made sure we've done most of what he initially discussed. And may I say that I've loved everything we've done so far. Haven't had my hair pulled by him yet, but am looking forward to it. And a few other things. See, I saw this whole line of sexual play as humiliating and painful. It's not. Not either of those things. It's hot and it's exciting and it just about makes me scream and beg. It's passion, and that's all it is. Being an analytical sort, I try to analyze everything but I've found nothing more than passion with these acts. Can't wait to try 'em all.

Beaming

Joined: 3/28/2007

Msg: 15 (view)

Smell Posted: 7/4/2007 4:08:03 PM
Two comments: I heard recently that scent plays a big role in what attracts people to one another. People like the natural scent of their partner, or they're probably not gonna be partners very long. I DO like the natural scents of most men, but not all. I have male friends whose scents I really do not like. And I've noticed that I don't find them attractive either. I used to work in a medical office in an industrial part of town. I was never, ever offended by any of the men who came into the office and had been working in the hot summer sun all day long and therefore were quite sweaty, but I hated to anywhere near anyone who smelled bad b/c he hadn't bathed. That made me sick! Probably psychological, ya think? Maybe there's dirty sweat and clean sweat.

Beaming

Joined: 3/28/2007

Msg: 29 (view)

Thinking About Sex Posted: 7/4/2007 3:57:22 PM
Breaking it down.... When I wake up, I realize I'm naked and touch my soft skin. I think of sex and I want to do it. If I see something shaped like a penis, I think of his penis. If my arm brushes across my breast, I think of having my nipples sucked. If my mind is blank, I think of sex. Different positions, new ideas, having an orgasm, wondering if I'd like to do something I've heard or read about, performing oral sex on my partner, etc. So I guess my answer is...all of your choices. All aspects of sex. The desire. My partner. The act. And possible new acts! If I see

Beaming

Joined: 3/28/2007

Msg: 18 (view)

Talking to my girl makes her cum faster????? Posted: 7/4/2007 3:29:28 PM
Dude, ask HER what she wants you to talk about. We usually know. If she says she doesn't, then do the usual: Compliment her. Describe what you see. Tell her how you feel. Talk about her breasts, tummy, etc. Tell her what you're doing. You know.....

Beaming

Joined: 3/28/2007

Msg: 51 (view)

whats draws the line between addiction and constant want for sex?? Posted: 6/25/2007 9:29:57 PM
2hollow, I "crave" it, too. All day. Almost every day. I don't know if something's wrong with me or if I've just had my long-sleeping sexuality awakened. Whatever it is, I'm not doing anything to get myself "cured". I like it, even though I'm having a difficult time finding someone special with whom to share my desires. Tends to be hit and mostly miss with me. I'd think the difference between addiction and a "constant want for sex" is addiction is doing it all the time and constantly wanting it is just that--wanting it. I want it but it's been three months since I've had sex. I've thought about it and wanted it every day, all day long, but didn't act on my desires. If I were addicted, I would have.

Beaming

Joined: 3/28/2007

Msg: 25 (view)

Old sheets, baby oil and two bodies. Posted: 6/25/2007 9:22:45 PM
Oooohhh, LoneStarDaddy, yes, he IS in for a treat. I'm so excited I can hardly stand the wait!!!! And I do intend to surprise him with some fun stuff. Came up with a few ideas of my own, but would appreciate anyone else's ideas, too!!! After he leaves to return home and I have rested up, yes, I'll let you know how it went. I know I'll be "Beaming" from ear to ear! Beaming!

Beaming

Joined: 3/28/2007

Msg: 8 (view)

0 roses... Would you email them? Posted: 6/25/2007 2:07:22 AM
I don't pay any attention to those goofy roses OR the "gifts" we can purchase to send. It's just silly. Unless I get them. Then they're not quite as silly. I'll send a gift or a rose occasionally. Usually as a joke.

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