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astrosky

Joined: 2/6/2005

Msg: 140 (view)

It's not your profile, it's.... Posted: 2/24/2006 10:16:09 PM
Hey, I've been begged for more of that belt...oh, that's another thread too. Often the truth comes rushing out my mouth without being tempered by the estrogen in my system. Example: tool comes running up to me insisting I empty my bank account for some trivial purchase they desperately want. What generally comes out my mouth is "Well, if you got a damn job you wouldn't need to ask me for money"! (insert "pow, right in the kisser" icon here) Ralph Kramden is a fine example of a tool! In fact, old episodes of the Honeymooners will plainly show you just how a tool operates. I have often found myself cast in the roll of Alice; rolling my eyes as I try to insert logic where there is none, pointing out the flaws in crazy ego-driven schemes, etc. Ralph's anger at Alice's zingers is typical tool reaction (and you can bet IRL it goes past the threat stage - it was certainly implied and common enough with that generation). Did Ralph fear Alice? Yes, because she spoke the truth he did not want to hear. Shouting "I'll prove you wrong!" he went right on being a tool, then came crawling back in shame so she could kiss his boo-boos and he could tell her "Baby, you're the greatest". Other well-known tools would include Fred Flintstone, Homer Simpson, and the dad on Family Guy. And of course the most classic tool of all - Tim Taylor of Tool Time fame! All insist they are nice guys and depend on their spouses to keep their act together. Many of the tools on POF are desperately seeking the yin to their yang, the level-headed, organized, intelligent, often sharp-tongued woman who will help them bumble through life. Strangely, there are few women who consider this their dream match; the Marge Simpsons and Wilma Flintones of the world have usually divorced one tool already and are not in a big hurry to find another. Oh! Not to be sexist - if you want to see a female tool look no further than Peg Bundy of Married with Children.

astrosky

Joined: 2/6/2005

Msg: 138 (view)

It's not your profile, it's.... Posted: 2/24/2006 12:18:03 PM
Ah, yes, I am guilty of laying the truth upon many and therefore I am avoided and feared on general principles. The sin of telling it like it is incites many tools to anger of the violent sort (those who prefer to end arguments with their fists). At this point they gain my fear but not my respect, as I discovered a long time ago that my mouth causes me bruises and often the bruises are a reward for being right.

astrosky

Joined: 2/6/2005

Msg: 26 (view)

how has getting the last word in affected your relationships? Posted: 2/24/2006 12:02:06 PM
@jasmine - I like that! What causes me grief in relationships is I have a great memory; so my last word usually involves remembering something they said in the past that totally contradicts their current stand. This pi$$es them off to the point they won't speak to me at all for a while.

astrosky

Joined: 2/6/2005

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It's not your profile, it's.... Posted: 2/24/2006 11:02:06 AM
^^^ I think he's talking in a biblical sense or fear of a parent who uses a belt occasionally. <---- Often feared, rarely respected.

astrosky

Joined: 2/6/2005

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Here's a questions for the Women. Posted: 2/23/2006 10:02:44 AM
Hey, many people are guilty of that, not just women! I hate it when guys root endlessly through their pockets for exact change instead of just breaking a damn dollar! Me, I've got the money ready. I've already wasted enough time in line behind everybody else that didn't.

astrosky

Joined: 2/6/2005

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his house his rules? Posted: 2/23/2006 9:45:07 AM
Looks like you've made yourself pretty dependent on him, so I guess it goes with the territory. When you are ready to get your own place, then you can live by your own rules.

astrosky

Joined: 2/6/2005

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anne rice books Posted: 2/22/2006 11:09:34 PM
You know, Mummy was a very good book and it is a shame she never followed it up...although she may have decided she's beaten the immortality theme into the ground with her other series. But yes, it is hard to decide whether to pick up a new book when she offers it...because I agree that there are times when she ignores her editors and does what she pleases, with very mixed results.

astrosky

Joined: 2/6/2005

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It's not your profile, it's.... Posted: 2/22/2006 10:50:41 PM
@kookyburd Ok, I'll take a feeble stab at your questions... How to know if someone's a tool - 1). They are absolutely clueless about how boring they are, because its all about them. An example would be your typical couch potato, who never wants to do anything but watch the tube. If you tell them you're getting bored and restless, they consider it your problem, and refuse to change anything, or think they're doing you a MAJOR favor to shake themselves out of their rut once a year to leave the house with you. 2). Nothing is ever their fault. Everybody is out to make them miserable. Life is so unfair. They want sympathy and comfort, but they're really lousy at giving any back. 3). They waver between unreasonably high self esteem (example, they gave you an orgasm so they are a smug, gloating sex god) and unreasonably low self esteem (see #2), so that they slightest criticism sends them into a self-pity spiral. Those are all I can think of for now... Warning signs - 1). See above characteristics. 2). Any complaints on your part will be met with overreaction because they are scared you are asking them to change (and they know they won't), so they see it as a sign you'll be leaving them soon. They quickly get bitter and angry and start lumping you in with all the other rotten members of your sex. They don't stop to think you may have a good point. Even days later they are defensive, moody and angry at you (and are trying to train you not to do it again). 3). They think YOU are lucky to have THEM, even though they are often contributing very little to the relationship. What should you do - 1). Pick your battles. Do you really want him to change, and is it worth trying to convince him? 2). Explain calmly and logically what you feel is lacking in your relationship. Try to avoid saying anything that sounds blaming or accusing. Example, point out that you want to have more fun together, and mention some of the things you would like to do; instead of a statement such as "You never take me anywhere". 3). See if there are things he feels are missing as well. Sometimes you never know until you ask. 4). If it becomes obvious he feels everything is fine, and he doesn't want to (and won't) change a thing, its time to start exploring your options. Disclaimer - tools come in both genders. Compromise is a two-way street, and upon communication you may find your SO finds you to be a tool as well. Therefore, don't ask for change unless you are willing to do some changing too.

astrosky

Joined: 2/6/2005

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do you feel you will meet better quality and more honest people on a paid dating site? Posted: 2/22/2006 9:54:43 PM
I see the same local faces here I saw on the pay sites. The only difference is some of them have more than one profile here.

astrosky

Joined: 2/6/2005

Msg: 369 (view)

New Fish, Please Read Posted: 2/22/2006 12:12:12 PM
Has anyone NOT started a thread asking what the opposite sex wants? If you haven't, something must be wrong with you! I mean, the obvious answer is everyone wants the best looking, sexiest, healthiest, richest, smartest, most fun person they can find to live happily ever after with; who has no baggage and no bad habits. Problem is, there are absolutely NONE of these people on line (why would there be?). So you must ask that question to see who out there has lowered their standards enough to want something else (i.e. possibly you). It is always helpful in your opening post to state that you have all the sterling qualities mentioned above (we know you're lying) but nobody seems to want you (we know that's the truth). Be sure to mention that you're a nice person (probably a lie) and that you're ready to turn into a not-so-nice person if that's what it takes to get a date. Threats like this always work and at least 10 people will be willing to date you to save you from the fate of becoming not-so-nice. However, you must refuse to date them because they don't meet your standards. Then they can start a thread complaining that you didn't want them, and the cycle can continue till the end of time.

astrosky

Joined: 2/6/2005

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anne rice books Posted: 2/21/2006 10:12:40 PM
She was offended that I called it porn? OK, if I ever see her again, I'll say "write more idealized bondage scenarios so we can get off on your lovely prose"...will that be a more sensitive way to put it? Geeze, porn is porn, story line or not. So tell me, did she put any bondage scenes in Christ the Lord? Just curious...

astrosky

Joined: 2/6/2005

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The Mind Is the Primary Sexual Organ Posted: 2/21/2006 9:11:51 AM
Hey, this sounds like it might be the married doctor that's getting sued by two ex-gf, he told them he was married to them in a past life and wants to repair the karma in this life.

astrosky

Joined: 2/6/2005

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He or she is not the one so why hold on for so long? Posted: 2/20/2006 10:13:12 PM
One of my coworkers has been "engaged" to the same guy for 8 years, yet they never set a wedding date, nor do they live together, nor does she even have an engagement ring. Some people are weird...

astrosky

Joined: 2/6/2005

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Wearing Baseball Caps Backwards:Is it Still In Style? Posted: 2/19/2006 10:09:55 PM
^^^ OMG, that's so sad I'm gonna bust into tears. (mainly because I realized they're allowed to breed)

astrosky

Joined: 2/6/2005

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Wearing Baseball Caps Backwards:Is it Still In Style? Posted: 2/19/2006 10:00:30 PM
^^^ OK, now try in front of the mirror wearing a fedora and saying "play it again sam". Bet ya feel suave now! PS - the Fonz was too cool for hats...you have to wear a leather jacket to pretend you're the Fonz.

astrosky

Joined: 2/6/2005

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have all the girls gone crazy? Posted: 2/19/2006 9:47:20 PM
Two types of women - One type is great to have fun with, the other type is great to spend your life with. This means you want to spend your life "not" having fun? Do you really buy into the old tired thought that if a woman enjoys sex she's not fit to marry? I would like to think there is a third type of woman - one who is both great to have fun with AND spend your life with.

astrosky

Joined: 2/6/2005

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Wearing Baseball Caps Backwards:Is it Still In Style? Posted: 2/19/2006 8:35:53 PM
Ugh, baseball caps are so common and cliche it doesn't matter how you wear them, it is not a fashion statement, it just means you are one of the herd. I say - bring back the fedora if you want to be different, look good and get noticed!

astrosky

Joined: 2/6/2005

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If you love something, set it free,,,,,,, Posted: 2/19/2006 7:48:45 PM
I believe the other half of the statement goes "if it doesn't come back, hunt it down and kill it!" Uh, yeah, I have exs popping back into my life periodically. Rather bittersweet when that happens...I remember why I loved them right along with remembering why I can't stand to be around them.

astrosky

Joined: 2/6/2005

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One year POF anniversary... Posted: 2/19/2006 7:42:12 PM
Veteran's party brought to you by Trojan and Wendy's. Other appropriate sponsors might include Miss Clairol and Viagra Prozac and your local breast augmentation clinic The he-man-women-hater's-club and the Feminazis-rule group And Sergeant Pepper's Lonely Hearts Club Band! Obviously spending a year on POF has taken its toll on me...

astrosky

Joined: 2/6/2005

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Life of the Party, would you want to be with them? Posted: 2/19/2006 7:31:21 PM
Extroverts are happier with other extroverts, and introverts with other introverts, IMHO. Otherwise they will drive each other nuts when they can't agree on what a "good time" is.

astrosky

Joined: 2/6/2005

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Why Nice Guys are actually Not So Nice Guys. Posted: 2/19/2006 7:18:25 PM
Really nice people don't go around talking about how nice they are. Exactly! Just like honest people don't have to tell everyone they meet how honest they are; non-players don't need to assure everyone they don't play, etc. Protesting too much is often a sign that the opposite is true.

astrosky

Joined: 2/6/2005

Msg: 29 (view)

Why not accept emails from married people? Posted: 2/19/2006 6:14:30 PM
^^^ You are assuming the men in my community read these forums (less than 1% do). Many cheaters who are ambitious enough to fill out their profile (in Gulfport and the surrounding area), flat admit they don't get any from their wives and are looking for sex. They're not going to change their entire profile to send me an email; moreover they don't feel there's anything wrong with their behavior and have no shame about it. Do a search in my area when you get bored and see for yourself.

astrosky

Joined: 2/6/2005

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Why not accept emails from married people? Posted: 2/19/2006 3:09:20 PM
If all the OP wants is "conversation" he can find it in abundance in the forums. Most people's time is limited, so why should they waste it in private email conversations with married people when they are here to date singles? I block married people for a reason - too many married men in my area want me to help them cheat. There is 50% less garbage in my inbox with married men blocked. If they have something to say to me, they can say it in the forums.

astrosky

Joined: 2/6/2005

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where oh where... Posted: 2/19/2006 2:47:21 PM
"Nice" guy/girl, and "good" guy/girl...are two of the most overused terms on POF. If you want to be both "nice" and "good", spare us your whining!

astrosky

Joined: 2/6/2005

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It's not your profile, it's.... Posted: 2/18/2006 4:07:41 PM
@dansdog - PREACH it brotha! Hallelujia! Amen!

astrosky

Joined: 2/6/2005

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It's not your profile, it's.... Posted: 2/17/2006 10:54:34 AM
My dad always said "the truth hurts, don't it?" Not sure where he was coming from though, he was doing half the women in town....maybe it hurt him he couldn't get the other half.

astrosky

Joined: 2/6/2005

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Why bother with a detailed profile? Posted: 2/17/2006 9:11:35 AM
It comes with the territory...if you have a profile online you are destined to get mail that makes you say "why me"? Still, a detailed profile is a better thing than a vague one, as it will attract thinking people who are seriously looking for a compatible match. A vague profile will only attract the trolls.

astrosky

Joined: 2/6/2005

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It's not your profile, it's.... Posted: 2/16/2006 10:42:47 PM
It's all good, I think mason's hammers are one of the most useful tools there are.

astrosky

Joined: 2/6/2005

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It's not your profile, it's.... Posted: 2/16/2006 10:32:12 PM
I'm sure someone will find it ironic and obnoxiously arrogant for me to say this but... It boils down to conceit. The conceit to think that YOU should not be rejected. Conceit to think that with one half-a$$ed attempt at an email you will get a hottie interested in you that would never give you the time of day IRL. Conceit that nothing on your profile could possibly be a deal-breaker to anyone. When conceit is run up against the cold brick wall of reality, anger ensues. Self-righteous anger that anything would mess up your little dream of what a great person you are. Kicking and screaming, a tantrum ensues. Do-gooders come forth to comfort and placate, because nobody wants to be pragmatic and admit that you win a few, you lose a few. Give the whiner a cookie, a beer, a mercy fawk. Reward the tantrum because the poor soul has been hurt enough, and shouldn't life be rainbows and sunshine for us all? Turn the whiner into a winner and you symbolically do the same with all your own failures. But despite blowing so much sunshine up his a$$ that he will glow in the dark for a week, he's still never, ever going to get to date outside his own species. Despite the glow coming out of his anal passage, the only thing he will choose to learn from this is whining gets rewarded in these forums. Being justified by strangers is what he will have to settle for instead of a real, live date, because heaven forbid anyone should lower their standards for dating! We ALL agree that it is better to be alone than with some yucky thing you don't want. And our delusions of our own grandeur will keep us picky and lonely and "only here for the forums"! Until some day either the truth dawns, or our fantasy lover by some miracle sends us an email. At which point we'll pick apart their profile and decide they're not quite what we're looking for anyhow. Tools&Fools-R-Us.

astrosky

Joined: 2/6/2005

Msg: 281 (view)

Make up some good thread titles for trolling Posted: 2/16/2006 11:44:23 AM
Send me your used undies and I will cast a spell to find your true love (women only please). When I shave the hair grows back - what am I doing wrong? The zits on her back spell out "soulmate" - is this a sign from God? I get an erection whenever I see her - is she using voodoo? If she swallows does it mean she likes me? Anyone else have a passion for yellow snow?

astrosky

Joined: 2/6/2005

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Make up some good thread titles for trolling Posted: 2/16/2006 11:09:49 AM
I must be a virgin because Daddy says incest don't count Are women with hairy chins unattractive to you? My boyfriend won't let me use the strap on anymore Help! His spunk tastes like chocolate and I'm getting lockjaw! Pedophiles deserve a chance at love He insists I wax my a$$hole - should I dump him? Just because my kids come first doesn't mean YOU won't get off eventually She beat me in a tobacco spitting contest and now I can't get it up Best hickeys you ever gave or got Somebody come do my wife so I can leave her without guilt Should I tell him he ate me out right after I had sex with his best friend? He loved the taste!

astrosky

Joined: 2/6/2005

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The comedy in your inbox Posted: 2/16/2006 9:50:20 AM
OK, who gets mail that leaves you bemused, snickering, or ROTFL? My chuckle of the day - He says he'll meet me for coffee any time. I name a time and place. He comes back with it might not work out because he might be in the hospital by then because he has an infected hair in his knee. Perhaps I should ask all future suitors if they are also plagued with this seriously disabling problem - although I truly feel he is hiding a bigger disability - lack of cojones!

astrosky

Joined: 2/6/2005

Msg: 354 (view)

New Fish, Please Read Posted: 2/15/2006 10:16:57 PM
OMG shore that's a dastardly idea! Did that really happen to you?

astrosky

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what if i just statred asking women to marry Posted: 2/14/2006 10:35:54 PM
^^^^ Go for it! She's a keeper! That's the best philosophy I've ever heard, not believing in sex before divorce!

astrosky

Joined: 2/6/2005

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Music To Die By... Posted: 2/14/2006 10:31:00 PM
Don't Fear the Reaper by Blue Oyster Cult Don't Pay the Ferryman till he gets you to the other side (by ?? some group in the 80's)

astrosky

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what if i just statred asking women to marry Posted: 2/14/2006 10:25:56 PM
WOW, the OP needs to get a grip, or go to sit in on a few divorce courts. That might work, considering all the women walking out the door will be single.

astrosky

Joined: 2/6/2005

Msg: 131 (view)

Whats the one thing you hate to hear on a date... Posted: 2/14/2006 12:08:03 PM
Hearing about all his mother's health problems on a first date is always big fun! Especially if he says "she has female problems so I'm sure you know what its like". No, and I don't want to!

astrosky

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Men posing with cars Posted: 2/14/2006 12:02:40 PM
I dig cars, and I keep hoping to see a guy posing with a car I really like. Its the ones posing with rusty, dented '87 Mustangs bragging in their profiles about how rare and cool their ride is that make me shake my head.

astrosky

Joined: 2/6/2005

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lost my perspective! help! Posted: 2/14/2006 10:59:56 AM
The forums do have a way of skewing a person's perspectives and making you lose focus. You come to this site looking for romance and find yourself forgetting all about it. You become sidetracked by all the diversions. You find yourself involved in arguments with members of the same sex and forget you really aren't here to worry about their opinions as you are heterosexual. You also find yourself arguing with members of the opposite sex that you would never date anyway. You become amused by the humor threads and come here to laugh. You get hooked on finding validation by agreements to your posts. You become fascinated by certain POF "personalities" and diligently seek out their posts because you can't wait to see what they will say next. You see more and more posts by people who are "only here for the forums" who have no interest in dating, and you start to become one of them whether you realize it or not. You make your profile into a joke to show you don't take this seriously. You're more interested in getting compliments on your funky profile than attracting anyone interested in dating you. You get emails but find them boring compared to what is going on in the forums. One day you realize its been a pretty long time since you've done a search for locals or checked out your weekly matches. And you realize that what you were looking for is not here...but you're having fun anyway. The only problem is, it sucks up huge chunks of your time that could be spent pursuing your original goal...romance.

astrosky

Joined: 2/6/2005

Msg: 351 (view)

New Fish, Please Read Posted: 2/14/2006 9:09:53 AM
It is always good to demonstrate your ability to communicate when you initiate contact with a new interest. One fine example of this is to email someone asking them to tell you something that is not in their profile, then proceed to copy and paste your own. This shows you are ready to bare your soul to them. Never ask specific questions, just a vague "tell me about yourself" always leads to intense communication on a deep level. When asked specific questions, be sure to ignore them, and just copy and paste your profile, where the question is not answered. This stokes the fires of romance by making them ever more determined to get an answer. Ask them questions that are clearly answered in their profile. Be sure to copy and paste your own to show that you are only capable of reading what they email directly to you. The less a person has in common with you, the more you will have to talk about. Therefore, the people to target first are the ones that have no common interests. The people at the top of your list should be people who specifically state they want nothing to do with someone of your ethnicity, marital status, age, political views, lifestyle, and habits. This will lead to intense interest on their part, as a good debate is always fun. If their responses become increasingly colder and shorter, show your growing enthusiasm by telling them their last email really turned you on and you can't wait to meet them. This will show that you are really paying attention to what is going on between you. When they quit responding to you altogether it is a sign that they are overcome with passion for you. This means they are ready for you to send them your phone number, even if you have already done so. In fact, it is always a good practice to put your phone number in every email; since you are saying so little on line, obviously you will be great fun to talk to on the phone. The more times they see your number, the deeper it will sink into their subconscious, and they will automatically dial it whenever they have a phone in their hand.

astrosky

Joined: 2/6/2005

Msg: 39 (view)

Was Dating in the 80's, 70's, and 60's easier then? Posted: 2/13/2006 9:57:02 PM
^^^^ Confuse decades for degrees and he might make sense....

astrosky

Joined: 2/6/2005

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Jack Black is the sexiest Celebrity of all Posted: 2/12/2006 8:10:09 PM
Actually, he grosses me out so much I can barely stand to watch anything with him in it. So you are definitely welcome to him and his unibrow.

astrosky

Joined: 2/6/2005

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It's not your profile, it's.... Posted: 2/11/2006 9:46:34 PM
ironic and obnoxiously arrogant, all wrapped into one Oh, this is why I love the forums so much, I find people here who truly understand me!

astrosky

Joined: 2/6/2005

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It's not your profile, it's.... Posted: 2/10/2006 10:08:08 PM
<----letting hair down just for MsAnn! The freaking happy helmet is off! OT - And in order to get that happy helmet back on me, its going to take a BIG tool, with no whining allowed!

astrosky

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It's not your profile, it's.... Posted: 2/10/2006 9:57:42 PM
Maybe I'm just missing your point. @twilight-twin - As long as you take my posts absolutely seriously, I reckon you'll miss a lot of my points. You could consider, however, that if what I said doesn't apply to you, perhaps it was not to you (or about you) that I was speaking, hence your understanding of my point is...pointless.

astrosky

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It's not your profile, it's.... Posted: 2/10/2006 11:51:57 AM
The answer to whiners can be found on bumper stickers throughout the land - "Jesus loves you, everyone else thinks you're an a$$hole". Sorry, the screaming b-itch in my soul forced me to post that, now I am full of subliminal guilt. I must now put on my happy helmet and go do good deeds to compensate. "Happy, happy, joy, joy..." @fools - Baby, you know I'd date you in a heartbeat, but you live so far away...

astrosky

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It's not your profile, it's.... Posted: 2/10/2006 11:19:39 AM
As long as there are do-gooding sympathy mongers who will respond to the whiners and blow sunshine up their hineys, they will continue to whine. The aforementioned folk are trying to prove they are "nice" and "positive" because they are in denial about the screaming little b-itch that lurks in their soul, and feel guilty for the evil thoughts that pop into their head, so they do penance by blowing sunshine and therefore unload their subliminal guilt for wanting to choke the shite out of these whiners. And they are easy to spot because they always tell the sugary sweet little lie "I'd date you but you're too far away"! Cowardly scum!

astrosky

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Insult?? Misunderstanding?? Trying?? Posted: 2/10/2006 11:08:57 AM
Well gee, with a handle like "mind reader" it seems like you could read between the lines...he wants booty. He hopes you're into meeting strangers in hotel rooms for sex. He hopes you're submissive enough to say "yes sir, and what should I be wearing to please you?"

astrosky

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Why Do You Perpetuate Your Miserable Existence? Posted: 2/10/2006 10:59:45 AM
An apology won't do the trick - anybody got a memory wipe device? Cleans out all the yucky baggage and starts each day with innocence and optimism like a baby...

astrosky

Joined: 2/6/2005

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It's not your profile, it's.... Posted: 2/10/2006 10:19:46 AM
^^^^ Oooh, that's dangerous. Once I mentioned in the forums that some people are just fugly and can't see the truth...and I got bashed bigtime for being shallow and judgemental, and lectured on how somebody woud find them attractive no matter how fugly they are. OT - before the net, in the days of small town living, people automatically got paired off for the purposes of breeding with whoever was available in their general age range. One's parents/society pressured them to marry regardless of sexual attraction, personality, etc. etc.; feeling it was best to "settle them down" ASAP. Therefore, these types kept breeding and producing more undesirable people (fugly, boring, stupid, etc.). Today, they are getting shoved to the bottom of the pool, where perhaps they belong. Since everyone has such high standards (from watching too much TV, IMHO), they feel entitled to love with extremely attractive people, without ever looking in the mirror and realizing that were it the other way around, they would never date someone like themselves. They become extremely bitter because of what "everyone else" has instead of looking at what they are offering, which is usually jack shit. Bottom line - no matter how fugly, boring, and stupid you are, you will rarely want to "settle" for someone equally fugly, boring, and stupid. Your mama told you how special you were, and by gosh, you're gonna cling to that, regardless of all the reality check opportunities that come your way. "Accept me for who I am or kiss my patoot!" is the battle cry for online dating. Basically that is stating you feel you are perfect and are unwilling to strive to be worthy of love. So do not whine about the lack of acceptance. Do not indulge in self inspection. Do not ponder cause and effect. Chant the Stewart Smalley mantra "I'm good enough, I'm smart enough, and doggone it, people like me". No matter how many people tell you otherwise! What do they know? Be a fortress unto yourself and your misguided self-esteem! Everyone is "missing out" on the wonderful opportunity to sit around in filth watching TV with you and getting fat - that's what real americans are supposed to do - aren't they stupid to pass you up?

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