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metalvixxn

Joined: 4/4/2007

Msg: 28 (view)

Here's my situation Posted: 11/23/2009 1:10:42 PM
Are you SURE that his girlfriend knew he was just separated? It really sounds like she didn't know anything about you... Sure he SAID he didn't tell her he was getting back with you to save her from hurt... but really, it sounds more like she didn't know in the first place, therefore telling her would REALLY flip her out! I agree with the others, need some couples counciling.

metalvixxn

Joined: 4/4/2007

Msg: 64 (view)

Would you cheat on SO for alot of money? Posted: 11/23/2009 12:45:37 PM
What does she do?? You're really making her out to sound like some kind of escort...

metalvixxn

Joined: 4/4/2007

Msg: 11 (view)

Here's my situation Posted: 11/23/2009 12:39:33 PM
That's great that you two rediscovered why you fell in love back in August... Uh, but really??? Because he went back to his girlfriend after that!!! You begged him to come back and there he was with the other woman. Did you know that he was with her? You best believe if he was with her he was sleeping with her. Whether you knew he was with her or not is beside the point I guess because you were trying to work things out therefore he CHEATED on you. Whenever people say "I know for a fact" but don't have the facts to back it up are full of it. Don't you find it odd or hurtful that he wouldn't tell his girlfriend why he left her? That in itself should have told you he was planning on getting back with her... DUH! 10 yrs is a long time I suppose, but I would never take a man back that did this to me. I guess you could give him one more chance if you truly feel this is the first time he's messed up this badly... but after that you're silly to take him back.

metalvixxn

Joined: 4/4/2007

Msg: 9 (view)

met my 1st psycho ( might belong in the humor section)(Long read) Posted: 11/21/2009 9:36:50 PM
msg 7 ^^^^that's kinda sad. Hmm, yeah I woulda thought date #2 shoulda been cut short...

metalvixxn

Joined: 4/4/2007

Msg: 12 (view)

A Matter of Trust Posted: 11/21/2009 9:27:35 PM
ARe you kidding? SO you ate the dinner... did her mother eat the dinner? It was all semantics. Ack, be glad its done.

metalvixxn

Joined: 4/4/2007

Msg: 20 (view)

I am heartbroken, women, please tell me what u think Posted: 11/21/2009 9:24:50 PM
Sorry you're hurting. My first thought was she felt extremely guilty for having you spend the night when her kids were there. Yeah you left early so they didn't know, but the fact was she still had you sleep over and I'm guesing have sex while her kids who just met you slept under the same roof. Then you said this: her standards as a woman morally were extremely high Hmmm, either they really aren't since she let you sleep over, or that statement is correct and she felt having you sleep over betrayed her morals and she's mad at herself. Maybe she was hoping you would say no to the request. Maybe if you would have said no she would have seen you as someone who can be around her kids. Who knows, it's all what ifs. Dating her while she was still married was probably cutting it a bit close too. That may have made her feel guilty too. When relationships start off so strong and so "I Love you-esque" so soon, they are likey to die out just as quick as they started.

metalvixxn

Joined: 4/4/2007

Msg: 11 (view)

What do I make of this? Posted: 11/21/2009 9:13:52 PM
I'm betting you will never meet this girl. Anyone who says they love someone and wants to marry them before meeting has issues. They live in a fantasy world and actually meeting someone in the flesh will burst that bubble. Seriously, you will never meet this girl. Move on before you waste any more time.

metalvixxn

Joined: 4/4/2007

Msg: 10 (view)

Interpret a text message Posted: 11/21/2009 7:31:38 PM
In person that phrase would probably be followed by a playful slap on the arm or push on the shoulder...

metalvixxn

Joined: 4/4/2007

Msg: 12 (view)

cant love or trust and feel like am losing my girl and myself Posted: 11/20/2009 9:05:51 PM
pregnant to another guy but am still happy about that i find it hard to trust her or even feel happy can you see what you're saying?! first you say you're happy with her being pregnant by another man and in the very same sentence you are saying you aren't! My guess is you AREN'T happy but you're saying you are because you think you should be okay with it. she doesnt do anything wrong but she tends to look at other guys and admits to doing it when am with her .... Again, another contradiction. If she wasn't doing anything wrong she'd have nothing to admit to and you'd have nothing to be upset about. Look, you're 20! It would be difficult enough for you to deal with having your own baby, let alone somene elses! It may seem mean and cruel, but you really need to get out of this. This isn't your responsibility. You can't even have been with her long enough to truly love her unconditionally. It's obvious she doesn't really love you if she disrespects you the way she does. She's taking advantage of you and you really need to break away.

metalvixxn

Joined: 4/4/2007

Msg: 26 (view)

My date plans dates with short notice ! Posted: 11/20/2009 8:18:20 PM
You want him to secure plans for the weekend on a Monday? That's a little far in advance. You may as well confirm next week's date while on your date the week before! You say you came on strong/showed more interest and you still are showig more interest without even realizing it! It seems like he's all you're thinking about, like you plan your whole week around him! By texting him and then texting again saying when you're available is showing you care way yo much about someone why may just be mildly interested in you. I feel a bit of clinginess coming from you - and if I can feel it in a post, I'm sure he can damn well feel it. In any case, once you stop obsessing over plans with him and lead your own life, he might come around. Guys tend to like women who have their own lives and who don't let their lives revolve around their "boyfriends".

metalvixxn

Joined: 4/4/2007

Msg: 25 (view)

Must be doing something wrong Posted: 11/20/2009 1:05:36 PM
YOU need to decide what YOU want. To hang out or to date? Hang outs don't involve kissing or cuddling. When a guy tries that it's sleazy and disrespectful. You say you want to start as friends - so don't try and kiss on the first date. You are too full of yourself (for no reason that I can see...) and think you know it all. You "KNOW" these girls are comfortable around you - apparently they aren't!!! Why don't you try taking them out? Oh wait, you're too lazy and selfish to spend a dime on a date. You want kissing and cuddling but don't feel the need to make the girl feel special. You don't listen either. Read what these people have said and think about it. You're not that great. You don't know everything. Girls are not that into you. Look inside yourself and see what YOU can change. Really, what's the common denominator here??? YOU!!!!! DUHHHHHH. Ugh, guys like you really just need a good slap to knock some humility and sense into them. P.S. I would take out anything that has to do with you thinking you're intelligent in your profile. Your writing completely contradicts those statements.

metalvixxn

Joined: 4/4/2007

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Strike 23! Not Even a Ball Posted: 11/9/2009 4:39:17 PM
Yeah, I just viewed your profile, means nothing. Don't take that seriously. Your main pic looks odd so I bet people click it out of curiosity.

metalvixxn

Joined: 4/4/2007

Msg: 22 (view)

My friend and I love the same girl Posted: 11/9/2009 6:21:39 AM
I call dibs on every person on this website! Now what are you all going to do? Seriously OP, it doesn't sound like you respect your friend's behavior very much, so why be friends? Stand up to him. Go after what you want.

metalvixxn

Joined: 4/4/2007

Msg: 15 (view)

how soon to meet his friends? Posted: 11/8/2009 5:44:49 PM
Every situation is different. I met my current boyfriend's family 3 days into it. And I mean his ENTIRE family plus every friend in town. Depends on how comfortable you feel.

metalvixxn

Joined: 4/4/2007

Msg: 89 (view)

A Plugged up Toilet, so she packed up and left?! Should I let it go? Posted: 11/8/2009 5:42:18 PM
Even though everyone in this thread has said it, I need to say it too... CHANGE YOUR LOCKS! What do you miss? I mean really? This woman doesn't deserve you! You have chikdren to worry about. All that money you've p*ssed away on her could have been used on them. Where is she living? Seriously, this woman has some nerve. She's never going to change so PLEASE change your locks and forget her!

metalvixxn

Joined: 4/4/2007

Msg: 83 (view)

The Love of My Life is Gone Forever Posted: 11/8/2009 4:14:23 PM
Yes, please seek help. I completely agree with message 80. Read that post again, she has great advice. No one in worth physically hurting yourself over.

metalvixxn

Joined: 4/4/2007

Msg: 73 (view)

The Love of My Life is Gone Forever Posted: 11/7/2009 8:38:20 PM
And yet, after everything I described, does it make sense to ANYONE here that she would lose all love for me over this? Yes. YES, it makes total sense. It doesn't make sense that she married you, but then I read how you put up a front for her until you were sure you had her. HORRIBLE! You seem lazy, selfish, delusional and demanding. She is done with you. She's DONE. Damn, I'm done with you and I only read your thread... Asking for the ring back was a total slap in the face and you were basically telling her you didn't want to work it out. Period. A guy asks for my ring back when we're fighting and you better believe he'll get it back - Will he ever get me back? Never. She's not crazy and you're friends are LYING to you when they say you did nothing wrong. Would it have been so horrible to lay in bed with her until she fell asleep? Did you ever consider her feelings even once? Sure you tried to quit smoking and go to the gym... but that was too littlw too late. You wonder why she was so distant and stayed out late - she probably couldn't stand to be in the same house with someone so cold who'd rather play a video game then cuddle with her. Ok, I guess I have been mean enough. I think you just need a total wake up call. Her leaving you didn't do it so I don't know what will. P.S I just read your profile and it's totally contradicting everything you wrote here. You did everything for her?? You're polite? You admitted here tha you're quite the opposite! Ugh, I wish posts still showed up on profiles.

metalvixxn

Joined: 4/4/2007

Msg: 15 (view)

Careers that Drain Your Energy Posted: 11/3/2009 6:11:27 AM
My boyfriend's job takes him away for weeks, sometimes months at a time and when he is away he is literally working 24/7. When he comes home he is completely drained. The last time he came in he wasn't himself; he was so worn out and stressed. It was terrible. I think there are some careers people get into that don't leave any room for a girlfriend or family. I think my boyfriend's is one of them...

metalvixxn

Joined: 4/4/2007

Msg: 11 (view)

What does she want? Posted: 11/2/2009 4:36:03 PM
Please, there's a woman at my job who I suppose you could call a secretary... Anyway, she tells anyone who walks through the door her life story. EVERYONE. Some people are just like that. I'm sure this woman doesn't "want" anything.

metalvixxn

Joined: 4/4/2007

Msg: 9 (view)

Two for one...I'm back with a busted heart. Posted: 10/30/2009 10:03:38 PM
If you were just along or the ride, why so pissy? 75 bucks isn't much like someone stated above. Hell, when my boyfriend comes out with me and my girlfriends he spends 3x that amount in one sitting. Get over it.

metalvixxn

Joined: 4/4/2007

Msg: 13 (view)

My personal opinion Posted: 10/30/2009 10:53:51 AM
So you have her email address? Why not just email her instead of going through the social networking sites?

metalvixxn

Joined: 4/4/2007

Msg: 11 (view)

She doesn't wish to be seen in public with me.. Posted: 10/28/2009 7:36:47 PM
Well that's crazy, you're a very good looking man. It's pretty clear she is hiding something. I think she's afraid she'll be seen by someone she knows who will tell her bf/husband. Or, maybe she's a lesbian

metalvixxn

Joined: 4/4/2007

Msg: 22 (view)

Astounded by the amt of perverts on here... Posted: 10/27/2009 4:17:34 PM
I get them, A LOT. From what I hear from some guys, the women are just as bad. Maybe it's where I'm from. Maybe it's because I'm not looking so guys figure they have nothing to lose. Who knows. But I must say, I thought you ladies who have never received a filthy email were joking!

metalvixxn

Joined: 4/4/2007

Msg: 27 (view)

you just know Posted: 10/27/2009 10:41:17 AM
I wish there was a way to "just know". I thought I "knew" a few times. Apparently I was wrong...

metalvixxn

Joined: 4/4/2007

Msg: 26 (view)

Is different taste in music enough for you to kill the second date? Posted: 10/27/2009 10:40:06 AM
It's a deal breaker for me. I find music has a lot to do with someone's personality. If we don't like the same type of music - (or at the very least tolerate each other's taste) I've found we don't get along in other aspects of life.

metalvixxn

Joined: 4/4/2007

Msg: 20 (view)

Strange... some behavior I don't understand Posted: 10/27/2009 8:01:26 AM
It's not that I'm not looking for anything serious - obviously I feel like anybody I date might end up being my next long term relationship. But I don't think I can tell whether this is the case after one date, or even four so I like to keep my options open. I just feel like it's bad for all parties for me personally to put all my eggs in one basket at a time. But thanks for the insight ladies - honesty is the best policy, I think Um, duh. Maybe she didn't want to waste her time. Smart girl.

metalvixxn

Joined: 4/4/2007

Msg: 61 (view)

Tear Jerker Movies Posted: 10/12/2009 9:07:51 PM
P.S. I Love You Just when I think I'm done with the tears, they start all over again!

metalvixxn

Joined: 4/4/2007

Msg: 17 (view)

Chemistry and Feelings versus just a piece of @ss. I don't get it. Posted: 10/11/2009 10:55:15 PM
Dude, I hate being the one to pull up your posting history or comment on your profile, but come on... you are not officially divorced and are fighting for custody of your kids. Don't you think screwing around with multiple women should be the last thing on your mind? You want full custody of your kids? Maybe you should stop screwing around with random, nasty women. I hope if you do get custody you won't be bringing these women around. Of course this girl picked the hot guy because A- He's hot and B- he's probably really single. And this also goes for your other thread about the chick turing you down after she gave you a BJ - You're not available to these wome, maybe that's PART of the reason they won't commit to you!

metalvixxn

Joined: 4/4/2007

Msg: 25 (view)

Dating a 27 yo girl for several months but she won't have sex Posted: 10/11/2009 9:09:15 PM
You're probably not getting her off multiple times like you think you are. If you were, she'd probably be more than happy to reciprocate. Does she ever say anything about not getting you off? I doubt she even cares. Besides, you're here for dating, why do you care? Maybe she knows that.

metalvixxn

Joined: 4/4/2007

Msg: 15 (view)

What is this girl thinking? Posted: 10/11/2009 7:34:53 PM
I wouldn't flip if a day or two or even gasp three days go by without contact. Some people have lives, doesn't mean they aren't interested - esp. so early on.

metalvixxn

Joined: 4/4/2007

Msg: 11 (view)

What is the best way to say you arent interested? Posted: 10/11/2009 7:06:30 PM
You know he only said that to save face! For the most part I send a thanks but no thanks or ask them to re-read my profile. Most are nice about it but a LOT write back and say mean and nasty things. Pretty soon you'll stop feeling bad, believe me.

metalvixxn

Joined: 4/4/2007

Msg: 197 (view)

The girl I was seeing, wont talk to me after the party at her house, any advice? Posted: 10/11/2009 6:51:45 PM
Hey, throw the money and cars my way! and your rationale on how it wasn't your fault... By your theory the only people who can get in trouble for drunk driving would be peope who drink in their own house and go out driving. Oh wait, then wouldn't the establishment that sold the alcohol take the blame per your "law"? Do you REALLY think that if you would have gotten into an accident/pulled over/killed someone you would have gotten off scott free?? You say you're taking responsibility and then in the next breath you blame your girlfriend! Man you are mental.

metalvixxn

Joined: 4/4/2007

Msg: 7 (view)

omg!!!!!!!!!! I get in trouble for the littlest things!!! :( Posted: 10/10/2009 11:09:48 PM
See, I just don't get it. What makes guys put up with drama like this? I feel like if I ever acted so selfish and childless I'd never get a guy to stick with me! But time and time again I read how girls (and guys) are so drama filled and break up over the drop of a hat yet their significant other wants them back. Geeze, I must be from another planet, I'd never put up with that.

metalvixxn

Joined: 4/4/2007

Msg: 18 (view)

Went on a double date with my ex husband last night. Crazy? Posted: 10/10/2009 11:03:45 PM
At first I thought you went on a date with another guy and your ex and his g/f... but then... You went on a date with your ex-husband? Unless you are trying to reconcile, I DO think that's absolutely nuts. Even nuttier than the first scenerio. You will never heal if you go on "dates" with him. Yes, forgiving someone is very healthy, but dating them when they are your ex for good reason is not. What did your therapist say about that? If both of you are serious about working it out, good. If not, why would you want to rub salt in your wounds? I could see if you were totally over him and were friends, but you're not... good luck.

metalvixxn

Joined: 4/4/2007

Msg: 5 (view)

Love related Q- is this normal? lol Posted: 10/10/2009 10:53:36 PM
I'm assuming he has seen a picture of you? I think it's sweet. The first night I met my boyfriend he told me how beautiful he thought I was. (Didn't meet him online, just met him when I was out one night like the old fashioned way) Anyway, I'll always remember how he said "You're so pretty. How is it possible that you're sooo pretty?" on our second date. It wasn't cheesy or a come on or anything. He still tells me how pretty he thinks I am, some guys are just complimentary. I think compliments should start early on. I mean, there's a difference between a sincere compliment and someone complimenting you to get in your pants. You haven't met the guy yet so I'd take it as him being sweet and interested.

metalvixxn

Joined: 4/4/2007

Msg: 5 (view)

1st Timer gives me her life story Posted: 10/10/2009 10:41:12 PM
I'd be very weary of meeting someone who poured out their guts in a first email. She sounds like a loon. And you're meeting her for coffee? You must be very bored, lonely, crave drama or are just as looney.

metalvixxn

Joined: 4/4/2007

Msg: 42 (view)

What is with the insults?!?! Posted: 10/10/2009 9:15:45 PM
Heh, just got another from a guy who typed in all caps and couldn't form a sentence. He asked me if I wanted to get together and blah blah. All I said was no thanks and he shot back "YOU WOULD HAVE A BETTER CHANCE ON ROCK OF LOVE" . Not quite sure what that means, but I blocked him. See what happens when we politely reject someone? If he would have bothered to read my profile he wouldn't have risked rejection in the first place. Man this place makes me happy to have found someone!

metalvixxn

Joined: 4/4/2007

Msg: 16 (view)

I don't know why I even bother............. Posted: 10/10/2009 1:45:35 PM
My God, it's been so long and you've only seen her a handful of times and now she is dating someone else... I would have said maybe there's hope, thinking perhaps she lived a plane ride away... but an HOUR? She's not into you like that and I think you are taking her signals the wrong way. I think it would be best to move on, hell, she has a boyfriend! HellO!

metalvixxn

Joined: 4/4/2007

Msg: 20 (view)

She looks at me and cries.... Posted: 10/10/2009 1:35:09 PM
That would suck to be so ugly that a woman looks at you and cries! TROLL.

metalvixxn

Joined: 4/4/2007

Msg: 17 (view)

What is with the insults?!?! Posted: 10/10/2009 12:30:37 PM
Thats what guys tend to do when they're rejected, call women fat. I just got an unsolicited email yesterday from an older dude telling me I needed to get over myself, I'm not all that. Never had any contact w/him before, yet he felt the need to email me that. Yeah, some guys on here are just awesome!

metalvixxn

Joined: 4/4/2007

Msg: 5 (view)

Men wearing jewelry Posted: 10/9/2009 11:24:53 PM
Kind of a pointless thread to some Exactly! Sorry, I had to. I like when a guy wears jewelry. Not huge fake chains or anything, but a simple silver chain or a nice ring.

metalvixxn

Joined: 4/4/2007

Msg: 14 (view)

Let me tell you about a boy and a girl. Posted: 10/9/2009 10:15:40 PM
Boy writes really awful stories. Boy needs to move on and stop being such a "boy".

metalvixxn

Joined: 4/4/2007

Msg: 8 (view)

Intresting course of actions Posted: 10/9/2009 10:08:27 PM
Wait, you were with the first girl for a month? Are they still all friends? Ahhh who cares really.

metalvixxn

Joined: 4/4/2007

Msg: 79 (view)

The soft blow off, how do you handle it? Posted: 10/9/2009 9:11:08 AM
Glad you said what you did and her response was bullshit!!! Hmm, she's visiting 2 kids on opposite sides of the state... sounds like she will have a lot of free time to talk during her travels! What better way to pass the time driving then to chat with someone new? If she has time to get on here and respond to emails, she has the time to give out her number and talk to someone. If she needs a whole month before she can even TALK to someone, she should have hid her profile. Patience would have paid in spades? Please! I dislike this woman and I don't even know her.

metalvixxn

Joined: 4/4/2007

Msg: 18 (view)

Smarts - Good, Bad, Turnoff? Posted: 10/8/2009 3:43:22 PM
Of course women like those things. What women do not like are the date ideas you mention in your profile. Are you KIDDING me?! Hahahaha. I think someone needs to knock you off the pedestal you put yourself on.

metalvixxn

Joined: 4/4/2007

Msg: 15 (view)

Friends with benefits Posted: 10/8/2009 3:17:05 PM
Just because YOU think you should be friends doesn't mean she thinks you should be - or has to be. If someone doesn't want to be your friend, forget it.

metalvixxn

Joined: 4/4/2007

Msg: 9 (view)

Do i stick with it for the kids Posted: 10/8/2009 10:49:51 AM
Next time you decide you just want to have a baby w/someone (like its no big deal) maybe you should try a little thing called marriage first and see if that works out.

metalvixxn

Joined: 4/4/2007

Msg: 90 (view)

The girl I was seeing, wont talk to me after the party at her house, any advice? Posted: 10/7/2009 7:48:18 PM
Ok, so you made a mistake and you wanna talk it through. If you portray yourself anything like the way you do responding to these posts, perhaps THATS why she doesn't want to see you. You act like a jacka$$ at her party making her play babysitter and now it seems like you don't want to take responsibility for your own actions. Someone was worse than you, so what??? You seem more concerned about your good white shirt and your hat rather than her apartment and belongings that you trashed. You posted the thread, you should have been prepared for the negative remarks. Most people don't look positively upon those who drink so much so fast and then act like an a$$. You said we don't know how/who you are, but your responses speak volumes.

metalvixxn

Joined: 4/4/2007

Msg: 82 (view)

She's Too Into You! Posted: 10/7/2009 7:36:11 AM
Hmm, I don't know... Even if someone was obnoxiously into you, planning the wedding on the second date - if you felt the same way, that obviously wouldn't be too much. I think it's only when we don't share the same level of interest that we feel someone is "too into" us. I'm crazy about my boyfriend and if he called me 7 times a day I wouldn't have a problem with it. I wouldn't think he was "too" into me. However, if it was someone I just felt "ehh" about, more than one call a day would probably have me throwing up the he's too into me (Although I've never used that) when really, I just wasn't into him even a little. People have given example of people who are "too into" them - calling a few times and leaving long messages and then calling back or texting... that's true, but yet if you were into them, those calls would never happen because you'd make time to answer or get back to them ASAP... I don't think I am conveying my point but it's early and I've barely had any coffee...

metalvixxn

Joined: 4/4/2007

Msg: 17 (view)

How Soon Into Dating Do you Delete Your Profile? Posted: 10/6/2009 9:54:29 PM
I agree with message 15. No need to delete, just let people know you're not looking... it works! I went from about 20 emails a day to maybe a few a week. I'm addicted to these forums!

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