You know what? i had this convo w/my girlfriend the other night...i just find it so disrespectful in this day and age for a single woman to be asked to invite some guy to her home to cook a meal together?? No!! first off that is just a invitation to get someone in bed. and that is A DEALBREAKER..next thing you know they want a massage or some bs...plus, when you take someone out in public you get that chance to know them well, their likes and dislikes etc..

If she has made her point abundantly clear that she doesn't want more than friendship, this would be a bad idea and come across like you aren't respecting her feelings.

Time to say, "Next!" Move on and let her go.

I just recently started reading these forums and the lack of social skills seems to be rather surprising.

Guys: First date.. you pay. Simple.

Girls: Making an offer to pay (on the first date) does not show that you are considerate. It shows that you don't want to be obligated and is generally an insult. After the first date, you can offer to go dutch if you like. Oh, and by the way, asking for a box to take home the leftovers is just plain tacky on a first date.

I guess my problem comes in when I look at the men out there and realize how few of them are available to me and my future... it kinda sucks.

You don't have any idea of what I "believe" because I've never specifically stated what I believed. You're making assumptions.

I probably won't seriously object to your beliefs about an alien spaghetti monster being interested in designing life on earth UNTIL you write a book claiming that no such thing exists, then turn around and say that it's possible. You know, like Dawkins did.

Heyyyy, whose the one propositioning the existence of an alien spaghetti monster now?
And not just any old spaghetti monster, but one with an interest in the propagation of life on earth!
And the Dawkins mantra is that Creationism is a pseudo-science? What kind of "science" is this?

One word of advice: at the next Dawkins lecture, don't drink the coolaid, and if he has a secretary named Applewhite who wants to show you a spaceship, just walk away quietly.

"Even more jaw-droppingly, Dawkins told me that, rather than believing in God, he was more receptive to the theory that life on earth had indeed been created by a governing intelligence – but one which had resided on another planet. Leave aside the question of where that extra-terrestrial intelligence had itself come from, is it not remarkable that the arch-apostle of reason finds the concept of God more unlikely as an explanation of the universe than the existence and plenipotentiary power of extra-terrestrial little green men?"

Nooo, of course not. People who don't believe in such things always qualify their assessment of such ridiculous ideas with the phrase, "intriguing possibility".

What came across very clearly though, was Dawkins admitting that Intelligent Design is possible, but only if ALIENS did it. Apparently he's not opposed to I.D. after all, he's just opposed to God doing it. lol.

It is NOT an instinct to eat. Eating is the resulting behavior from the drive of hunger. If it were an instinct you would NOT be able to stop yourself from eating. You would have no control over your motor skills. Your hand would grab the food and carry it to your mouth - whether you wanted it to or not. Gandhi showed (as just one example) that humans can deny themselves food in the face of sever hunger.

That in itself makes it not an instinct but a drive. The drive of hunger. Humans can literally starve themselves to death, if they chose.

I don't believe a true instinct can be denied - meaning the animal that is displaying the behavior doesn't have the choice to reject or abstain from said behavior.

But whatever you do, by all means, DON'T hit on them.

i tink u need to read properly.

OP, you're not a very good writer.