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 windwalker72
Joined: 3/21/2012
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Ladies, please review
Posted: 12/31/2012 8:53:32 AM
Would appreciate any feedback, constructive criticism or comments please because I'm not getting much interest here. I'm not sure if I've written enough or said the right things (especially my last paragraph). It's a bit difficult because my life is in a state of transition right now but I don't want to miss out on any suitable girls who might be out there.

Thanks in advance. x
 windwalker72
Joined: 3/21/2012
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Do you think that partners should ask for medical proof, before enteing into
Posted: 6/30/2012 12:24:58 AM
What do you clasify as a mental illness? Most people will have some mental illness to some degree at least once in their lives. It may be a bit of mild depression or full blown schizophrenia. Where do you draw the line?

What if your partner had a clear mental health record, you married them based on that and then you yourself developed an illness. Would you think it was reasonable for them to divorce you? In sickness and in health, etc.
 windwalker72
Joined: 3/21/2012
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Why the hate for Video Games?
Posted: 6/20/2012 1:02:52 PM
I'm a luddite and for me video games will never be on the same level as cinema, theatre or music. I don't care how many copies of Call of Duty 4 sold in the first 24 hours. But I am still partial to an occassional game of Jet Set Willy (in moderation like all good things).

Yes, the world changes but it can change after I'm dead and buried. Only another 50 years or so :)
 windwalker72
Joined: 3/21/2012
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English men
Posted: 6/20/2012 12:54:42 PM
So you've dated a handful of men in this country, they didn't work out and so you're going to blame all Englishmen for your failures? Have you any idea how ridiculous that sounds?

Personally I don't think you're attractive at all. Either physically or as a person. So don't worry - I would rather stab forks into my eyes than ask you on a date. I have to draw the line somewhere.

I'm proud to be an Englishman.
 windwalker72
Joined: 3/21/2012
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Expain the phrase My children are my top priority?
Posted: 6/1/2012 9:15:28 AM
I have two nephews and they're yours for £5 (no questions asked)
 windwalker72
Joined: 3/21/2012
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Sharing interests
Posted: 5/27/2012 1:41:27 AM
How important is it to share your partner's interests. If, for example, they were into a sport that you had never taken any interest in, would you make the effort to watch it with them and show enthusiasm (even if you have to fake it)? Or do you think it can be more healthy for couples to have some differences and be honest about what they do/don't like even at the risk of disappointing their other half?
 windwalker72
Joined: 3/21/2012
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Why do some men talk about their sexual conquests with women?
Posted: 5/26/2012 2:08:24 AM
They're not gentlemen :(
 windwalker72
Joined: 3/21/2012
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THEY SAY YOU'LL FIND 'THE ONE' WHEN YOUR NOT LOOKING...DO YOU THINK THAT'S TRUE?
Posted: 5/26/2012 1:04:01 AM
It may be true but looking doesn't do any harm.
 windwalker72
Joined: 3/21/2012
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Fellow men, have you felt this way also??
Posted: 5/22/2012 12:58:18 PM
I sometimes think being a dad might be cool. I could teach them cricket and why they shouldn't wear white socks with a suit. But then my two bratty nephews come to visit and I think maybe I should get a vasectomy!
 windwalker72
Joined: 3/21/2012
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ENGAGEMENT QUESTIONS..
Posted: 5/22/2012 3:07:31 AM
Well, at leat you've waited three months. My friend has been with her new guy six weeks and they're getting married next April because she thinks he is 'The One'. She hasn't even got the divorce from her last husband yet. I'm just waiting for her to call me in floods of tears because it all went wrong. So I'm going to give you the advice that I wish I could give her if I thought she would listen:

SLOW DOWN!!!! Getting married is a serious life-long committment and should not be entered into hastily or recklessly (and I'm aware how old-fashioned that makes me sound). You wouldn't want to buy a house and then find out it's next door to a nuclear waste dump, would you?
 windwalker72
Joined: 3/21/2012
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Friend in relationship jealous of me
Posted: 5/4/2012 4:41:15 AM
Okay, I briefly saw her last night. Not long enough for a proper talk but enough to see that she's lost weight. It could just be coincidence but she mentioned something on facebook a couple of weeks ago about having had bulimia when she was last friends with this new guy. I didn't think too much of it until now. I also saw her say that she'd been smoking which she's never done in all the years I've known her. I'm willing to bet money that he does though.

It's sad to see her like this and it adds weight to my thinking that she has some serious insecurity issues. But I can't interfere and I have my own life.
 windwalker72
Joined: 3/21/2012
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Passion versus reasoning when choosing a partner
Posted: 5/4/2012 2:28:49 AM
Blind passion is for 14 year olds who read books about misunderstood vampires. I've seen too many couples who think that life is a Hollywood movie with themselves as the main protagonists until they get a bite of the reality sandwich and then they get cold feet (a cold feet sandwich).

There is always a place for passion in a healthy relationship but it shouldn't be at the expense of everything else.
 windwalker72
Joined: 3/21/2012
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Action girls
Posted: 5/3/2012 12:34:54 AM
Wow! Did I kick a hornet's nest? I only said that I would rather watch a DVD than bungee jump into a volcano. And the alternative to being an action girl/action man is not being a couch potato, it's being able to enjoy friendships, relationships and the simple pleasures in life without trying to prove how 'extreme' you are by breaking your neck.
 windwalker72
Joined: 3/21/2012
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Action girls
Posted: 5/2/2012 2:22:40 AM
Is it just me or are there an awful lot of action girls out there. It seems they're all out travelling the world, backpacking to Maccu Piccu (sp?), hang-gliding over Niagra Falls or snowboarding in the Alps. I'm sure some of them really are doing it but all of them? Personally it doesn't impress me much. I'd rather have my girl next to me on the sofa, watching a DVD with a bottle of wine than off on yet another spelunking tour of South America (see, I know the terminology now).
 windwalker72
Joined: 3/21/2012
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Is marriage necessary or a fading institution
Posted: 5/2/2012 2:15:43 AM
I would like to get married. Not because I'm religious at all (I'm not) but because I'm a traditionalist. I don't like the way the modern world feels it has to do away with anything old. My parents are married, my grandparents were married and my great-grandparents were married and nobody ever got divorced. If it's good enough for them then I don't see why it shouldn't be good enough for me.
 windwalker72
Joined: 3/21/2012
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The Other Woman
Posted: 5/2/2012 12:35:31 AM
Is there any chance that if he left his wife he could get custody of the daughter based on the wife's illness?
 windwalker72
Joined: 3/21/2012
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wanting what you can't have
Posted: 5/1/2012 9:21:57 AM
I want to be a millionaire. I could achieve this by holding up a bank at gunpoint. Doesn't mean I should though.
 windwalker72
Joined: 3/21/2012
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wanting what you can't have
Posted: 5/1/2012 3:00:28 AM
I've been reading this thread with interest because it might explain a few things about my friend's new relationship. She and her 'new guy' (TM) were friends 10 years ago when she was married. The friend got jealous of her marriage so left and cut off contact. He wanted what he couldn't have. Now she's getting divorced he's back and they're together. But I'm wondering whether now he's got what he couldn't have before, will he still want her when the initial honeymoon period has worn off?
 windwalker72
Joined: 3/21/2012
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Adults living at home with Mom and Dad
Posted: 4/30/2012 1:37:57 AM
In the interests of honesty I should confess that I am in this situation myself. It is purely for reasons of economy (I am between jobs at the moment) and far from ideal. I contribute half of my income to the household and do all my own laundry and shopping as well as my share of cooking and chores.

Personally I'm not even sure if I should be on here at all. I would much rather get myself sorted out with a job and my own place before I started looking for a relationship but all my friends insist that I should 'get out there' and that the right girl for me won't mind. Well, what's the worst that can happen?
 windwalker72
Joined: 3/21/2012
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i am confused by men!
Posted: 4/30/2012 1:01:04 AM
I would just hang out as friends, take things slowly and let nature take its course. Formal dating might be more usual but not all relationships have to start that way. Good luck.
 windwalker72
Joined: 3/21/2012
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Should I get my own apartment?
Posted: 4/30/2012 12:29:24 AM
If you can afford to move out then you should, even if it means money is tight and you have to make sacrifices it will be a small price to pay for having your independence and being master of your own life.
 windwalker72
Joined: 3/21/2012
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Adults living at home with Mom and Dad
Posted: 4/29/2012 3:21:20 AM
I think it all depends on circumstances. In this economic climate where job security and income cannot be guaranteed it is often cheaper and more practical to live with mum and dad for a while. If they are needed to look after the parents or if they are contributing to the household then I can sympathise. What is not acceptable is when they have the means to be independant but are simply mooching because they're too idle to make their own way.
 windwalker72
Joined: 3/21/2012
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Should I be worried and is it ok to be worried?
Posted: 4/29/2012 12:23:13 AM
I had the same thing about 10 years ago. I was in the early stages of dating a girl in another town and she would go incommunicado for days at a time. I would worry like hell but it turned out she was just massively hung over from a weekend's binge drinking. In the end I decided that she wasn't worth it and walked away. If they can't be bothered to let you know where they are then they don't care that much about you or anyone else except themselves. Sorry :(
 windwalker72
Joined: 3/21/2012
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Nude pix of Ex-girlfriends; question for men and women
Posted: 4/28/2012 1:14:00 PM
The creep has no respect for women. Kick him in the balls and run like hell!
 windwalker72
Joined: 3/21/2012
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What makes the relationship for you?
Posted: 4/28/2012 12:21:16 PM
For me a relationship means absolute trust. It's about always putting the other person and their needs first and, in return, they put you first. When one person starts to put themself first then it won't work.
 windwalker72
Joined: 3/21/2012
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Friend in relationship jealous of me
Posted: 4/28/2012 10:48:06 AM
I think she understands that I'm not a great fan of the new boyfriend but I never liked her second husband either and it turned out that I was right about him. I can't belive it's only two months today that her last husband walked out. A lot has changed.
 windwalker72
Joined: 3/21/2012
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Advice from the ladies please
Posted: 4/28/2012 8:55:37 AM
Okay, made a few changes now but not finished. Think of it as a work in progress and tell me if I am going in the right direction now?
 windwalker72
Joined: 3/21/2012
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Separated, but not divorced
Posted: 4/28/2012 6:33:32 AM
I once dated a woman who was still technically married but seperated. It didn't end well. I should take a step back and not take things any further between you until she has tied up some of her lose ends and got her decree absolute. You can't build a new relationship on unsafe foundations.
 windwalker72
Joined: 3/21/2012
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The nicest thing a partner can do to treat you
Posted: 4/28/2012 6:00:30 AM
I don't like to ask for much but a city break in Vienna for my birthday would be nice :)
 windwalker72
Joined: 3/21/2012
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Friend in relationship jealous of me
Posted: 4/27/2012 8:21:58 AM
We're still trying to sort out a time to meet up and discuss everything but both our schedules are quite busy until after the bank holiday (two weeks). She still says that everything with new b/f feels totally right and he's already moving some of his stuff into her house, but she admits that the only other person who has had problems with it is her dad(!) I think she understands that I'm not happy with it but I don't think she fully appreciates why.

I don't know what to think. But we've been here before and its still early days. I guess it's a case of wait and see and be there for her.
 windwalker72
Joined: 3/21/2012
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Advice from the ladies please
Posted: 4/27/2012 6:52:10 AM
Hope you can take a look at my profile and tell me if there's anything I'm doing wrong.

A few notes for Americans: Blue Peter is a long-running children's show in the UK which gives badges to children who write in and ownership of a Blue Peter badge is quite coveted. The MCC is the Marylebone Cricket Club - the headquaters of world cricket and the waiting list for membership is several years. Yes, I really did spend some time playing American football and ghost hunting. The Open University enables people to study for a degree part-time from home. Mudlarking was once practiced by small boys who would salvage scrap from the mudbanks of the River Thames at low tide.

Thank you.
 windwalker72
Joined: 3/21/2012
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pelase rate n tell me how my profile looks to you!!!
Posted: 4/27/2012 6:40:29 AM
I would suggest some interests that other people can join in with. "Reading" and "playing the wii" tend to be solitary pursuits. "Spending time being alone" makes it sound like you would rather not have anyone with you. I'm sure that's not true but it might put some men off.

Hope that helps.
 windwalker72
Joined: 3/21/2012
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Long distance broke my heart, never again.
Posted: 4/27/2012 6:17:33 AM
I once had a thing with a girl on the US west coast. I'm in the UK so that's about 8000 miles. For about four months we swapped emails every day (pages and pages), phone calls, hand written letters, drawings, Christmas presents, etc. She was already planning a trip across the pond and we agreed to spend a few days together in London. I knew she was in the process of getting divorced but I didn't mind. Then, as soon as she got her decree absolute, she got cold feet and called it off.

We still stay in touch but I have absolutely no feelings for her any more.
 windwalker72
Joined: 3/21/2012
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how to greet on a first date
Posted: 4/27/2012 6:01:35 AM
BTW, I prefer to save hugs for the end of the date. If it's going well then at some point during I might hold her hand and give a slight squeeze.
 windwalker72
Joined: 3/21/2012
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how to greet on a first date
Posted: 4/27/2012 5:58:17 AM
I usually walk up when I see her and say "Hi, you're looking nice/lovely" then maybe put my hand on her arm for a quick kiss on the cheek. A handshake feels too formal, like meeting a new work colleague. Smile and be a gentleman.
 windwalker72
Joined: 3/21/2012
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Why dont guys like girls who like football?
Posted: 4/27/2012 12:54:23 AM
If you're talking about soccer then I hate that. If you mean American football then I'm indifferent (one of my friends is a big New York Giants fan though). I'm more of a rugby and cricket guy :)
 windwalker72
Joined: 3/21/2012
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Friend in relationship jealous of me
Posted: 4/26/2012 12:11:17 PM
Lotustemple: We've always been close ever since we first knew each other even though we were both in relationships at the time. We were always able to talk to each other about stuff that we wouldn't be able to talk about with other people. Eventually we became more like brother and sister. Sometimes her ex-husband didn't have time to go to the supermarket with her so I would go and push the trolley. I'm sure a lot of people saw us and assumed that we were a couple (especially seeing the ring on her finger) but it just made us laugh. I don't know if I would want to ask her out if she were single again though - I know her too well.

Jac: I think she knows that but thinks she has to show how strong she is and afraid to admit that things are not as 100% fantastic as she likes to make out. She was talking about taking the rest of this year off from relationships so she could focus on herself and 'tie up loose ends' in her life. I think that was the best idea she could have had but as soon as the b/f came back into her life all that went out of the window.

Thanks again for the help :)
 windwalker72
Joined: 3/21/2012
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Big ego or Self-esteem?
Posted: 4/26/2012 11:36:32 AM
In this economic climate you have to ask yourself: can you really afford to be unemployed (and get a bad reference)?
 windwalker72
Joined: 3/21/2012
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having sex in the same room or car or wherever where there are other people that are or are not havi
Posted: 4/26/2012 11:34:21 AM
I don't even like doing it when there are other people in the same house. It just feels disrespectful. Unless it's a hotel and then that's okay.
 windwalker72
Joined: 3/21/2012
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Sleeping naked
Posted: 4/26/2012 11:28:51 AM
If it's warm enough and it's my own bed then yes, but never in someone else's house.
 windwalker72
Joined: 3/21/2012
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Big ego or Self-esteem?
Posted: 4/26/2012 11:26:15 AM
Bosses are all like that. If you don't feel able to bite your lip and keep your ego in check then go self employed.
 windwalker72
Joined: 3/21/2012
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Friend in relationship jealous of me
Posted: 4/25/2012 12:31:30 PM
Thanks for the input everyone.

Palejewel, yes every new boyfriend is always The One, her soulmate and true love. Despite everything she always has a naive and rose-tinted view of love. You would think she would know better by now but I suppose you have to admire her for not becoming cynical like most would.

Jac, you hit the nail on the head there. I think she really is seeking attention to cover for very poor self-esteem. She tries to put on a public fascade of being super confident and in control but I've known some of her boyfriends treat her like shit because they can convince her that she's so worthless and pathetic that she doesn't deserve any better. I think she might be in danger of ruining yet another relationship if she can't overcome that. But I can't honestly say I'm as happy with my situation as she seems to think. I suppose the grass is always greener on the other side.

Walcimer, she knew this guy 10 years ago but he left because he was jealous of her then husband. She always had a crush on him but they lost contact until three weeks ago when a mutual friend told him she was getting divorced. I suspect that she's trying to relive that more 'innocent' time in her life.

Thanks again.
 windwalker72
Joined: 3/21/2012
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Friend in relationship jealous of me
Posted: 4/25/2012 12:57:53 AM
Okay, so my best female friend just got a new boyfriend a few weeks ago. She's insanely nauseatingly happy with him but the other day she sent me a text to say she was jealous of me because she thinks I'm "holding out for my one true love" whereas she has dated quite a few men in the eight years I've known her. I don't know where she got that idea from but she makes it sound like I'm single entirely by choice which is not true. Then she said she utterly hates herself for having so many boyfriends which seems to me a very sad thing for someone who has just found their 'true love' to say.

This seems very unusual and worrying behaviour to me. Thoughts and advice please.
 
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