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 Author Thread: Bring it on!!! ... *smiles*
 esad
Joined: 4/8/2007
Msg: 9 (view)
 
Bring it on!!! ... *smiles*
Posted: 9/5/2009 8:14:26 PM
Don't do it Red ! Get out of the Pond and go back into The Light !
Sure, it's "just one Post " . But soon you will be spending 12 hours a day here
worrying about Band Camp, laughing at Yellow Spandex garbed Males
and fending off catty remarks from jealous women with pet Marsupials.

Remember the words of Prof. Dean Wurmer:
" Drunk , Stupid and Lazy is no way to go through Life"
If he had lived, he would have added " and fishing on POF" to his list .

If you don't wise up, I am afraid you will need to find a new Sponger
for POFA .
 esad
Joined: 4/8/2007
Msg: 8 (view)
 
Dating article i found
Posted: 2/9/2009 1:31:38 PM
From the article/blog.


Deep down this person does not want to date but she thinks she does and is therefore attracted to guys like me. Which brings us to reason number two as to why I find myself in these situations. I am Safe Guy amd Undateable Women love to date Safe Guy.


We did not have enough Nice Guy threads in the Forums, so now we can look
forward to "Safe Guy" threads?
Could they combine their whines into a hybrid "Nice Safe Guys" ?


.
 esad
Joined: 4/8/2007
Msg: 54 (view)
 
She revealed to me that she has been an escort for over a year
Posted: 2/9/2009 12:37:56 AM
At first I was shocked and disgusted but the more that I thought about it I couldn't really see any difference in what she does and a girl who picks up a stranger at a bar, except for the fact that my friend gets paid for it. The second girl however, wouldn't have the same stigma attached to her that my friend would if people found out about her profession.

Many here would be happy as long as SOME stigma is attached, after all both girls are engaging in sex and we just can’t have that kind of thing happening.

So that's my question... what do you all think is worse? Getting paid to have sex or just sleeping around and giving it away for free?


I hate these hypothetical questions. This one assumes that both behaviors are violations
of some universally held set of morals AND that they only involve other people.
It is to easy to sit in front of our keyboards judging others and Moralizing
Let’s make it more interesting. YOU have to pick one set of behavior that
the OP describes:

1) Become a person who “picks up strangers at a bar” and has sex with them.
OR
2) Quit your job and, for a year and a half, support yourself as an “escort”.

During this year and a half you MUST sleep with at least 234 “strangers”.
(Three “pay days” each week)
Repeat business is permitted for the escort, but the person who just
“Picks up strangers”, must wait at least 30 days before they can “do”
the same person again.
I was going to limit this to women, following the OPs example, but again, let’s
ratchet it up a notch. Guys can either answer the same question*, or
say which behavior they would prefer their wife/significant other/sister/Mother
should follow. ( pick just one, or go crazy and do all four!)
This is why you took Creative Writing in High School.
Ready.... set .....cast some stones!


* Should be fun to see if any men think they could get 234 women to sleep
with them in 18 months AND which guys think they could do it AND
get paid for it, yes ?
 esad
Joined: 4/8/2007
Msg: 44 (view)
 
Chemistry vs Attraction?
Posted: 2/7/2009 1:59:19 AM
Somebody pleazzzeee tell me the difference?

One word has 9 letters. The other has 10.
Both are used in different ways by different people, some of whom
KNOW exactly how everyone else uses them, especially the ones
who use them incorrectly and thus do not have any chemistry.

In the Websters Dictionary, POF Edition we have :
Chemistry, as an abstract concept, usually refers to a deep, ineffable feeling of
tenderly caring for another person demonstrated by a willingness to jump their
bones soon after meeting. Even this limited conception of Chemistry , however,
encompasses a wealth of different feelings, from the passionate desire and intimacy
of romantic love to the closeness of the gonads of a member of the opposite sex who
is still breathing* Chemistry in its various forms acts as a major facilitator of interpersonal relationships and, owing to its central psychological importance, is one of the most
common themes in the creative arts, such as Painting, Poems, and Pornography.

In the same Sacred Book we find:
Attraction : Certain aspects of what is sexually attractive to humans may differ amongst particular cultures, religious groups, Dating Site Lour, regions, Sorority or Clubs,
Time of Day, Time of Month, amount of alcohol consumed, source of 'Shrooms, or the need for
a date for an upcoming Family Wedding. These preferences come about as a result of a complex variety of genetic, psychological, and cultural factors. The sexual attraction of one person to another depends on both people as well as their Girlfriends or Posy who always have The Last Word.
See Chemistry

*For some, breathing is really not that serious of a requirement.


2)Is there any way around this, or is it just simply "over" at that point?

OP, it is not YOU, it is her. You just deserve better than her. She is sure you will find
someone nice soon. She really wants to be your friend. She has to baby-sit that night.
She is just not ready for the kind of relationship you are looking for. She knows she will
regret passing you up in a few months. If you call her again, she DOES have an older
( and larger ) brother who owns a gun. So no, it is not "just simply over", it is
much more "over" than that.
 esad
Joined: 4/8/2007
Msg: 17 (view)
 
we(50 somes) grew up influenced by the 60'(that realy lasted well into the 70's,culturaly)
Posted: 2/7/2009 1:06:22 AM

why do many of our relationship rules seem to be out of the 40's-50's? ie...women don't approach men, hold off on the sex (until marriage in many cases(!!!?)We're over 50, fer crying out loud! ) don't kiss on the first date,men don't respect women they can get in bed too soon(when is "too soon"?) Did our parents dating rules really work that well?


We grew up during the Space Race also, but not everyone went to the moon.
In the early 60s, Lenny Bruce predicted that all drugs would be legal by 1980.
Why ? Because every lawyer he knew smoked pot.
I do not recall any of my piers being upset with men who figured out
how to avoid going to Viet Nam. Now we insist our Politicians our age be
Veterans or explain why they aren't. ( Alabama National Guard ??)
We have always been rather good at hypocrisy, yes ?

Our Parents didn't have to deal with todays divorce rate or an STD
that kills. I don't think our "rules" are out of the 40s or 50s. Many of them
are inane, but they are uniquely our own, all 51,387 of them. Now,
if only we could all agree on half of them, no matter which half, would't
we be better off ?
 esad
Joined: 4/8/2007
Msg: 19 (view)
 
Is Dating in your 40’s more like the Spin the Bottle?
Posted: 2/7/2009 12:35:16 AM

Remember the days when you found that someone special and his or hers careers, goals, aspirations did not matter?

Yeah, what mattered was the type of car he drove, how tight her sweaters were, the sports he
lettered in, how late her curfew was, who he was dating, the rumors of how far she would go,
what drugs he had, ...... ya know...Important Stuff !

When you just enjoyed being with each other and the chemistry was right, or the sex was just good (Hmmm rethink that one), but you where just together. I am referring to dating in your teens and early 20’s, when you thought people in their 40’s was old: Ancient actually…LOL

Some still think folks in their 40s are Ancient, especially amusing are those people who are in their 50s. or 60s and think this way. Just check the age restrictions on many profiles here.

Why is it that when we get older we start adding all the garbage into the dating equation?
Does he or she have an education, job, how many kids and how old? Do we like all the same things?
What happened to opposites attract? How many divorces, lovers, are they strait or bi? Why are they
single, divorced or separated? Is there anyone out there that gets me?


We got Older, Wiser and most importantly, more Afraid. Nothing succeeds like failure aided by
“High Standards” when your goal is to only appear like you are trying . Does anyone else
sometimes wonder about those who rant about not “settling” ? Are they bragging to the rest
of us, or making excuses to explain their inability to take a chance due to a fear of failure ?

Ha I’d say most likely not….Do we in actuality make it harder on ourselves to date in our 40’s? Remember the days of passing him or her note reading “I like you! Do you like me?”

Try that now and you will get a thread started about you which will contain the words
“Player” and/or “Whore”, and those will be the NICE words.

In today’s world we wink at each other online hoping that we connect at least for the moment. We go out on that first online date hoping for the best prepared for the worst…..sometimes we are mildly surprised and find a nice fit, other times we are calling for the check thinking God get me out of here.
In summary I have come to one conclusion about dating in my 40’s, it goes back to the game of our
teens. Spin the bottle and hope like all hell that sucker lands on the person you want to kiss the
most…..To all of you in your 40’s like me still out there dating I salute you because we are all in the
same boat….or bottle…

I’ll wager most here would love to play Spin the Bottle again! Sure many of them would
insist that it be EXACTLY like it was when they last played, including the age of all
the other players, but not all . Who could pass up an excuse to interact
with some members of the opposite sex in a way that did not involve questions about who
pays what and when, the size of ones bank account, their “Number”, STDs, Jebus,
the number of cats one has waiting at home, Third Date Rules, Red Flags,
Evil Exs, Baggage, Extreme Sport Addiction, Starbucks, AA Meetings, or Yellow Spandex?
Figure out how to bring back some of that innocent flirtation (backed by peer pressure)
and folks would flock to it. Of course it would only last until someone started a web site
about it and included a Forum where folks could shoot it full of holes.
 esad
Joined: 4/8/2007
Msg: 61 (view)
 
Would you seek medical attention for an erection lasting more than 4 hours?
Posted: 2/6/2009 11:49:20 PM

Would you seek medical attention for an erection lasting more than 4 hours?


I am always amused at what some folks will do in the Forums to "Seek Attention" ,
whether it be medical or any other type.
 esad
Joined: 4/8/2007
Msg: 39 (view)
 
Awkward One Night Second Base
Posted: 2/6/2009 11:41:00 PM

I was just curious about peoples opinions on what could of happened, its not my area of expertise.

IMHO, You should see an increase in email received until this thread disappears from your History.
 esad
Joined: 4/8/2007
Msg: 21 (view)
 
We all have standards, but are we aware of what those standards actually mean?
Posted: 1/15/2009 9:29:57 AM
AHHHH A Nice Guy/Short Men/ BBW/ Younger Women thread, and this one has Statistics !
And of course, the OP says it is not a Nice Guy/Short Men/BBW/ Younger Woman thread,
so it can't be one, even if it is . It MUST be different. It has Stats!
I’m sure this will change many peoples minds:
“Gosh, if i only knew how few people there were out there like The One i want,
i would have changed my taste years ago !”

“ My Prince will never come because there are so few Crowned Heads left?
Why didn’t someone tell me this before ?”


That doesn't mean I am automatically attracted to fat unattractive people.

So OP, you are not attracted to unattractive people ? And you thought
you needed to type this ? No wait ....you said you were not
attracted to FAT unattractive people. Could you have typed this
because you ARE attracted to another type of unattractive people?
If so, care to tell us what kind of unattractive people you find attractive?
There is nothing subjective about this at all ! We ALL know what is attractive.
We ALL agree, yes ?

99.9 % of redundant statements are redundant.
 esad
Joined: 4/8/2007
Msg: 27 (view)
 
Do people ignore what is in profiles and take a chance anyways
Posted: 1/15/2009 9:12:32 AM
Done to Death ! ! ! !

Do people ignore what is in profiles and take a chance anyways
Please voice in. Are the people that do this just taking a chance to stick up interest in the other?

Yes they do OP. But you knew that.


Can anyone that does this chime in here please? It seems a good majority of us would like to know WHAT’S UP?


And risk being flayed alive here ? Don’t count on it.
This thread will simply offer folks a chance for others to rant on this “problem”.
Does pushing some “delete” buttons take more effort than it takes me to push mine ?
If your biggest problem on a free dating site involves to many Emails, or Emails
from people who ignore your profile, count yourself among the Lucky.

As for those “mass emails”. No, POF does not have that option like some email programs. But what
some do is simply cut and paste the same inane words into emails to dozens of folks. Women
get them all the time.

I am sorry to interrupt. Please go back to wondering why people try to meet other people
on a site designed to help people meet people.
 esad
Joined: 4/8/2007
Msg: 39 (view)
 
Is this normal or is my (female) friend a little out of control?
Posted: 1/15/2009 6:14:20 AM

So here's the question, should I talk with her about this or is it none of my business and I should bite my tongue?


She is your friend, yes ? You think she is making a mistake ( or MANY mistakes,
depending on how you look at things).
Could you please explain why you wouldn’t talk about it ?
I don’t have to agree if what she is doing is wrong or right to say “talk to her”, do I ?
This thread may turn into an argument about what she is doing and whether it is
right or wrong, but that does NOT answer the question, does it ?

She does not have to agree with you. You can not order her to change her ways.
Be diplomatic. IF you lecture her you may piss her off.
But to continue to call yourself her friend, you have to talk to her.
Otherwise you are just an acquaintance.
 esad
Joined: 4/8/2007
Msg: 171 (view)
 
A serious sexual question for men and women
Posted: 1/15/2009 5:39:23 AM
Now, I don't want this to turn into an abortion being murder thread.

How did that work out ?

?
.... I don't think abortions should be used as a form of birth control....
......BUT, I do have issue with someone using abortion as a form of birth control.

This is an interesting and oft repeated phrase here that i do not understand.
IF abortion is not a "form of birth control", what is it ?
I THINK i understand what some MAY mean when they say it, but i
doubt if all that have used it here agree what it means. And that is part of why
this thread is BS. Posters to often here do not agree on what the terms they
are using mean.

"Eight is bad, one is OK ...maybe two....OK OK 5, but that is my final offer...today...unless my cousin needs six! "
Now, agree or disagree with that 'quote', surely you can see why some might
have trouble understanding where and why that line is drawn. I will NOT call
anyone here a hypocrite. I do not think anyone here has proven anything
close to such a charge.
But i would ask everyone who has posted to TRY to understand the problems of
juggling conflicting concepts and then making such a position easy to
comprehend on such a limited place as these Forums.
Does Cognitive Dissidence mean anything to you ?

The Big Fish, i believe, has declared all Threads about the what happened on 9/11 to
be verboten. I am not sure exactly what logic was used to decide this, but i
suspect that Abortion could be added to the list .

What do others think........am I just being prudish or would other handle it better than I did?


I think that abortion is not an appropriate topic for lunch. I say this because so many
people can not talk about it without becoming very emotional due to their very strongly
held views, both Pro and Con. I also think it is not an appropriate topic for these Forums
for the same reason. So many people have decided exactly how they feel and have no
patience for conflicting views. We all have been bombarded by idiots who “know”
what is right or wrong and who choose to try to shove their opinion down our
throats to the point that many simply choose to tune all debate out. The cute
tried and tested “Proofs” for both sides are often repeated by people who
have no understanding of what they mean, but are sure they are foolproof
because some Cultural Spokesperson said it on the radio, from a Pulpit,
or on a Forum. When was the last time ANY of us have found a person
over 18 who was truly “undecided” on this topic. Before you raise your hand,
are you sure they were truly undecided or where they simply pretending to
be so to avoid an argument ?
A perfectly "Normal" lunch talk can turn heated with no warning simply because
of how strongly some feel about the topic, yes ?
Your question OP offers us two choices:

am I just being prudish or would other handle it better than I did?

One choice does not have anything to do with the other, does it ?
I suspect there are other Choices.
 esad
Joined: 4/8/2007
Msg: 3 (view)
 
How to Dominate?
Posted: 1/15/2009 3:52:35 AM
This is 2009. All of these questions, and more, can be found with
Google. Opinions may vary, but isn't that the way with just about
every sexual topic?
Your "extreme" is someone elses Vanilla.
 esad
Joined: 4/8/2007
Msg: 21 (view)
 
A Long Time Coming...
Posted: 1/14/2009 3:59:30 PM
David Crosby called OP. He wants the title of this thread back.
Perhaps he would let you use “Almost Cut My Hair” instead.
 esad
Joined: 4/8/2007
Msg: 103 (view)
 
Women Peeing In The Men's Room
Posted: 1/14/2009 3:19:02 AM
Isn't it great that we all can take the time to sit around and discuss, as friends, World Pees ?
Random Thoughts :

No one has mentioned Senator Wide-Stance. How do guys feel about that "issue" ?
Would you rather share the Mens Room with a Woman or a couple of Gay Guys
on the hunt ?

WAAAAAAY back in High School i was involved in a discussion on this Important Topic.
On of my friends described what was involved in her average trip to the Head,
involving rearranging clothes, hunting for paper, and other Great Mysteries we men
knew nothing about. She then asked us what we did besides unzip, stand and piss.
She also compared the space needed for a sit-down toilet vs a urinal or the old
stand around the big ceramic circle and piss devices that were often found in Mens Rooms.
We compared notes on the number of facilities and the number of people who could be
“served” in a given amount of time in a number of public places. Bottom line:
The women had every reason to be cranky. ( Pissed off ?) Of course this was back
in the 70's. I am sure things have changed by now,

I am also amused that guys are willing to sit in a strip club and pay money to have strippers
do what they object to having a woman do if she should have to use a Mens Room.

Would a Flasher object to a woman invading his space ?

Women MIGHT be more inclined to object to a man walking into a Womans Room
due to the number of men who commit rape versus the number of Female Rapists

What SHOULD a woman do when she has to go and the line is to long ?
I did not notice that many fans on the Water Sports thread. Would guys have them just
piss where they stand ? I can see the threads starting up now: “ I spent $203 for concert
tickets and the bltch ruined the evening by pissing in our seats. She KNEW i wouldn’t
try to get into her pants after she did that! She did it just to ruin my night!"

By the way, the men down at the end of the bar want to buy you a beer or
12, Ma'am. Nothing like a little diuretic between friends, yes ?

There is a difference between "Equal Rights" and "Identical Plumbing". The ERA was not
going to take away mens ability to piss in a dark ally...or a well lit one. Nor was it going to
fit every woman with a catheter. We are built differently...Thank God.

Why does it seem that the woman who find nothing wrong with this have a sense of humor
and many of those who are against it do not? ( It could just be me)

Where are the Pervs who like to use hidden cams or cell phone cams for "crotch shots"?
Why aren't they defending their position on this Important Issue ?
 esad
Joined: 4/8/2007
Msg: 17 (view)
 
Is there anything more overrated when it comes to sex than Blow jobs?
Posted: 1/14/2009 2:02:00 AM
Am I the only one that feels this way?

For the sake of the rest of "Man"-kind, i hope so OP.

OP I am sorry you feel this way, but did you really have to start this
thread and risk ruining things for the rest of us ?

( " You want me to do what ? Oh, I don't think so.
That cute guy on POF said those are "overrated". Let's rent
'Sex And The City or 'Moma Mia' instead")

OP, withdraw this thread. Declare it to be a joke. Claim your cousin
guessed your password and wrote it while pretending to be you.
I represent a group of men who are worried. If you would be
willing to do one or all of those things, we would be willing
to make sure your POF Membership Dues are paid for you for as
long as you wish to be here.

Think about it. We'll be in touch.
 esad
Joined: 4/8/2007
Msg: 32 (view)
 
Girl your dating screwing another guy what would you do?
Posted: 1/14/2009 12:04:05 AM
exactly my point, we have went on at least 6 dates and we have had the exclusive talk,
but i cant get a straight answer from her regarding it


So you WANT to be "exclusive", but she has not said yes. I want a winning Lottery Ticket,
and i have spoken to the State about it, but they haven't given me a "straight answer"
regarding it. Am I rich ?


. i gave her a pair of tires for her car because hers were bald, i am willing to give her the shirt off my own back. I guess i am just too caring towards people thus me getting walked on.


Oh yeah, that is your problem. You are just to "caring". While working on that personality
flaw, you might also think about becoming less presumptuous and possessive.
This is just a guess but, she may not think of you the same way you think of her.
" I bought you tires. You owe me loyalty!" Did she see the chains that were attached to this
gift of tires? Were they mentioned in the warranty ? You may be willing to give her the shirt
off your back, but that does not mean she wants it. As someone above me mentioned, you are
beginning to sound like a "Nice Guy", and in case you are wondering, there is nothing
nice about that term.

Learn to slow down OP. She probably went to the bar without you because you are driving
her crazy. ( or driving her to drink...same difference) If you have accused her of
"cheating" on you, it is probably to late for the two of you, but there are other women out there
and you can blow it with them also, unless you change your behavior.
 esad
Joined: 4/8/2007
Msg: 7 (view)
 
Girl your dating screwing another guy what would you do?
Posted: 1/13/2009 6:24:45 PM

She told me that she was at the bar with her cousin, so it leads me to believe that she lied to me and screwed this guy on new years eve. I am pretty livid that she would do something like this since she says she likes me and see's a future with me. Honestly I don't know what to do


You sure do jump a mean conclusion OP.
Is there more to your story than assuming deep meanings to banter on
My Space that could just be light-hearted flirting ?
How do you go from “she went to a bar with a cousin” to
"She slept with this guy on New Years Eve ?"

I have no idea what she did, but neither do you
Jealousy can screw with your Life in a big way OP.
Get over it and/or get over her.
But even if she is no longer in your life, you might want to
work on the inclination to being jealous. Life is to short
to look for ways to be unhappy.
 esad
Joined: 4/8/2007
Msg: 44 (view)
 
Boyfriend did something bad in his past..29 years later..forgive?
Posted: 1/13/2009 5:11:25 PM
OP: Back away from your PC and look for a Social Worker....TODAY.
This is a nice friendly date site filled with well meaning but
unqualified people. You need a wee bit more than what anyone can
expect to get from the Forums. Don't put it off. Don't quote the Forums
in any kind of "talk" with anyone in your Family. Google Social Service
agencies in your area and go to them..... tomorrow at the latest.
 esad
Joined: 4/8/2007
Msg: 25 (view)
 
Would you be offended it....
Posted: 1/13/2009 3:57:14 PM
So for example...Jane goes to put a move on Tom...Tom says "sorry...I'd like for you to get tested before we take it to this step


In your example OP, most of us would assume Tom is just making excuses. He is probably
Gay or married or has a small penis or is a Religious Zealot. Red Flag, Red Flag !
Jane should go out and find herself a Real Man.

OK...sorry... I have been away from the Forums for a bit and have not had a chance to
give out my quota of inane advice. I feel better now.
OP, was she at least polite when she ask you ?
The ones to worry about are the ones who flinch at the idea of testing.
 esad
Joined: 4/8/2007
Msg: 51 (view)
 
Semen & Vaginal Secretions And The Way They Taste
Posted: 1/13/2009 3:39:13 PM
They taste like chicken
 esad
Joined: 4/8/2007
Msg: 92 (view)
 
Ever been asked,Why aren't you married?
Posted: 1/13/2009 11:57:48 AM
My standard answers are :

1) I got time off for Good Behavior .
2) I don't have any more room in the back yard.
3) Have you seen what they charge for Quicklime today ?
4) I like women.
 esad
Joined: 4/8/2007
Msg: 73 (view)
 
Have all the really older guys given up?
Posted: 1/12/2009 10:56:51 PM
Have all the really older guys given up?

Some have, and as proven by some of the posts here, some women have also
(to one in particular, i would like to say 'Thank You' for giving up AND
for your posts on this thread which should serve to warn any male who
might be tempted to approach you).
BUT....not everyone, not every "really older guy" has.

I remember having to explain to my Father after he became a Widower
that statistically, he was a Catch. In his 70s, he had not dated since he met my Mother
at age 15. He was in relatively good health, had a decent pension, owned his own home
and looked a good decade younger than he was. He also had no idea that women were
hitting on him. His Social Skills for dating had Atrophied, but he DID figure it out.

More Anecdotal Evidence involves one of my Aunts. She took in a border after
being widowed in her 60s. After living together for a few years she married her border
and spent 20+ years with him.
Sooooooo... it happens. There ARE men who have not given up.
But, if you wish to be alone, it is not a problem. All you have to do is write and speak
about "Old Coots", and make sure to be as disparaging as possible about their habits,
looks, and how they can not compare to your memories of your younger EX 30 years ago.
Trust me, men will stay away from you if you do enough of this.

Good Luck OP.
 esad
Joined: 4/8/2007
Msg: 13 (view)
 
Sex with Tall women
Posted: 1/12/2009 9:58:50 PM
In the Grand Scheme of things, who gives a rats @ss ?
It is only fair that this thread survives so that those who have
posted their limit on Short Guy Threads, or on Shallow Women
Threads can have a place to type, but for me it is a non-issue.

I assume there are advantages and disadvantages to all heights.
I say “assume” because i have never slept with a woman under
five foot or over six foot, but the night is still young......

There are so many other factors that are more important TO ME.
And that IS the secret to all forms of “Nice Guy” threads. No matter
what your protest or question, there will be people who agree and
disagree with your position. ( or inability to get into certain positions)


I just could not believe how different the experience was.


Yeah, funny how that works out. People ARE different. Even
the Farlow Identical Twins back in High School liked different
flavors in massage oils. It was ever so difficult to choose between
Tart Cherry and Bodacious Blueberry. Life is so Hard and Unfair!
 esad
Joined: 4/8/2007
Msg: 34 (view)
 
One night stand...any chance he'll call?
Posted: 1/12/2009 9:39:32 PM
Yes ! Sure ! Maybe ! No Way!
I think that trying to figure out what the other person is thinking
after a One Night Stand is worse than doing the same thing during
a First Date: On a First Date there is more mystery, or more
Potential Romantic Mystery, then after you have bumped uglies, yes ?

What Are They Thinking :
?“ Oh my god, i slept with THAT?”
“ I will never never never mix Scotch with ‘Shrooms and wedding cake again!”
“ What was her/his name ?”
“ Does she/he do this with every lawyer she/he meets at a wedding?”
“What if she/he regrets what we did ? I better just talk about
'doing lunch' soon and hope she/he doesn’t tell ________.”
“Please Lord, let me get out of here before she/he wakes up
and recognizes me from our last Family Reunion”
“ Should i point out that the Tux he was wearing would look
GREAT next June at Our Wedding ?”
“ Welp, there goes my 30 day chip at Sex Addicts Anonymous”
"I'd LIKE to call her/him, but they look worried. I better go"
"I wish it had been her/his sister......"

So what does this mean ? Simple:
Get off the PC and call him. If he pretends to not know
who you are or what you are talking about, you'll have your answer.
If you sit and ask strangers on a date site, you will never know.
Good Luck.
 esad
Joined: 4/8/2007
Msg: 11 (view)
 
Semen & Vaginal Secretions And The Way They Taste
Posted: 1/10/2009 11:36:20 PM
I can see it now.....
Government Studies run by Food and Drug or would HHS be better ...CDC?
Commercials in Personal Columns that mirror the new Burger King "Whopper Virgin" adds.
"Taste Great--- Less Filling" bar fights
C0c* VS P**sy fights like the old Coke VS Pepsi adds.

OP, if enough people just answered "YES!" to your question, would you agree to end this ?
 esad
Joined: 4/8/2007
Msg: 30 (view)
 
Why is Viagra considered Taboo?
Posted: 1/10/2009 11:14:03 PM
to lifestyle issues such as poor diet, lack of exercise, smoking, excess drinking etc. which causes obesity, high blood pressure, diabetes, cholesterol problems.

But I doubt if anyone here can deny that obesity, high blood pressure, cholesterol, diabetes, ED and
unhealthy lifestyles are not linked. If you deny this, you are in denial.


Point of Order:

I would like to make a small point. There are two major types of Diabetes. Type Two
is SOMETIMES caused by poor diet and excess weight. Type One is NOT. In Type One
a persons pancreas has stopped working... period. No amount of medication, lifestyle change,
or Magic Herbs will ever change that. ( Stem Cell Research might come up with a cure).
Type One used to be called Juvenile Diabetes, but the name was deceptive. My Father
was a diagnosed as Juvenile Diabetic at the age of 45. You see the problem with the name.
There are other differences both in symptoms and in treatment. I won’t bore you with
all of those. The one worth mentioning, again, involves the fact that NOTHING he did
caused his problem nor could any amount of Lifestyle Changes make it go away.

So to all of the Medical Experts who like to post here, if you are going to share your
extensive knowledge, try to get it right. Be specific.
 esad
Joined: 4/8/2007
Msg: 11 (view)
 
what is wrong with my emotions
Posted: 1/10/2009 10:23:28 PM
Not a damn thing.
You might worry if this goes on and on for years, but at 90 days, I would be more worried
if you felt little or nothing.
 esad
Joined: 4/8/2007
Msg: 94 (view)
 
Getting even or holding a grudge... which would you do?
Posted: 1/10/2009 8:26:10 PM
being raised as a male in our society, I was taught to fight fair and never kick someone when they're down. We men may get angry and even violent in the heat of a moment (just like any woman might) but most men won't get you fired from your job, destroy your personal things or cut off your genitals.
Revenge is for the weak.



Everyone fights with the weapons they have at their disposal, yes ?
I may be over-interpreting this post, but it seems to me that it could
be re-stated as “ I have superior physical strength, so i just kick
ass and call it a day. Everyone should fight this way because it
gives me and my type the edge”
And that is the problem. Not everyone is willing to be on the
losing side of a battle just because someones “rules” define
them as the weaker opponent.
Being the looser in this kind of “fair fight” couldn’t cause
a person to hold a grudge, could it? This problem doesn’t
only occur in a “fair fight” based on physical superiority.
He could afford the better Lawyer. She had “friends in high
places”. He had no proof of what he saw. She had a gun.
The fight ends and the looser withdraws to consider the
OPs question of getting even or holding a grudge.

Revenge is for the weak ? I don’t think so.
Revenge is for the determined. I don’t wish to
advocate for revenge or grudge, just to suggest that
people might be better off understanding that just because
they think a problem is “solved” , doesn’t necessarily
mean the battle is over. Calling your opponent “weak”
can add to their desire or need to try again, perhaps under
new “rules” that make them the victor.

Being a magnanimous victor or a repentant villain will
end more plots to get even or grudge holdings than any philosophical quote.

But that is for you Normal People. My ancestors came from Sicily.
We do things differently.
 esad
Joined: 4/8/2007
Msg: 18 (view)
 
Never neverland
Posted: 1/9/2009 7:04:03 PM
At the risk of appearing to have “SUCKER” tattooed on my forehead, the
answer to your question OP is “nothing”.
I think of myself as “older and wiser”, or at the very least half of that cliche,
but i don’t want to hold the actions of myself or folks i was involved with against
someone or something new in my life.

There is a fine line between learning from your past and fixating on it, yes ?
 esad
Joined: 4/8/2007
Msg: 31 (view)
 
Getting even or holding a grudge... which would you do?
Posted: 1/9/2009 6:09:04 PM

and you have the option of doing something truly evil to get even with the person, or holding a grudge for a long time.


Why choose ? Why not do BOTH ?
“Truly evil” is such a subjective term, yes ?
G.W. referred to them as Terrorists. They thought of themselves as Patriots.
You say Tomato. I say plant closely related to Nightshade.
Some see laughter. Others may view it as taking joy in others misfortune
Everyone appreciates a day off, a wee bit of assistance, even Karma.

And if some go overboard, what’s the harm ?
Read-Delete is just one description for behavior that is far older than the Internet.
 esad
Joined: 4/8/2007
Msg: 15 (view)
 
Is it OK to say that I still love my ex?
Posted: 1/9/2009 3:18:52 PM
OP, i love my dog also, and she has been dead for years.
I loved my Parents, despite the 18 years of guerilla warfare that was my childhood.
I love the Buffalo Springfield and they haven’t been around since 1968.
I would not feel compelled to mention ANY of those things to a new
mate/date, unless asked. There are those who will tell you that it speaks
well of your mental health and how well adjusted you seem to be.
Some will take it to mean that you are capable of having a Long Term
Relationship. There just isn’t much room to fault you for this. BUT .....


Seriously, I've had some women tell me that it's an opening to get back with her..
I get the feeling that women want me to hate her because their past relationships sucked.


Those two quotes make me wonder how much time you spend talking about this topic.
It also make me wonder about your timing.
Yes, you are “Wonderful”, but perhaps the women who are telling you the things
mentioned above are trying to tell you to quit talking about the past. No one wants
to hear about how great the person they are possibly replacing.

Let’s twist this a bit OP. You are basking in the after glow of the first sexual
experience with a new woman. You are thrilled. She seems equally so. As you
pass a Winston back and fourth between you, she glances at you and says:
“ Gee, that was Great! By the way, my EX was wonderful also. Even though
we got divorced, i have to give him credit for being an animal in the sack!
He could make my toes curl just by _____________. The neighbors
used to call and beg us to sound proof our bedroom. Aren’t I well adjusted
for telling you this ?”

If women are telling you that you seem to still be in love, involved, or
infatuated with your EX, take the hint. Either get back with her, or
pick a new topic. “How ‘bout them Mets?” works for some.
 esad
Joined: 4/8/2007
Msg: 18 (view)
 
need advice
Posted: 1/9/2009 3:14:33 AM

and I have reason to believe that she is developing a romantic interest in me.


You are presuming an awful lot, aren't you ?
You might just want to wait until you find out if your "reason" is correct.
Then you might want to hear what she wants.
99% of this "problem" is in your head.
 esad
Joined: 4/8/2007
Msg: 44 (view)
 
words as bait
Posted: 1/9/2009 3:06:54 AM

I am saying that if a guy with a really short, vague, stereotypical .....


Did we really need another "Size is Important" thread ?
 esad
Joined: 4/8/2007
Msg: 18 (view)
 
What does your SO do that really pisses you off?
Posted: 1/9/2009 2:56:36 AM

My girlfriend bites her nails, a lot. And then complains that she bites her nails. My nails in comparison look like they've been manicured and buffed to high sheen next to hers. Every time she does my wires get crossed and i just want to hurt her.


Ahhhh look at the bright side OP.
At least she didn't join a Dating Site.
 esad
Joined: 4/8/2007
Msg: 31 (view)
 
Would you let someone you met on POF read all your messages to other people?
Posted: 1/9/2009 2:40:21 AM
Do you think if you met someone on POF and started dating them, then they asked you if they could read all the messages and correspondances you've had with members of the opposite sex, would you let them read it?


The emails on POF do disappear after 30 days OP.
But that really doesn't answer your question, does it ?
Instead of wasting time on this kind of argument with a partner,
i invested in a large supply of Sodium Pentathol and learned Hypnosis.
Trust but Verify, yes ?
And i am a little worried water-boarding may no longer
be as acceptable after January 20th as it has been the last 8 years.
 esad
Joined: 4/8/2007
Msg: 21 (view)
 
How can you tell you are over someone?
Posted: 1/9/2009 2:22:32 AM
When you stop creating threads asking about whether you should let him move in with you.
 esad
Joined: 4/8/2007
Msg: 18 (view)
 
Desperate Men
Posted: 1/9/2009 2:04:37 AM

didn't ever call me but would show up at my house for pleasure

~Double-Deck Pinochle ?~

But now his life is in the toilet and he thinks I will let him stay here sometimes.


Quit playing Tom Bodell. Turn out the light, and hang flip on the "No Vacancy" sign.
 esad
Joined: 4/8/2007
Msg: 37 (view)
 
Still online?
Posted: 1/9/2009 1:48:00 AM
OK...for the Reading and or Math impaired :



I met a guy in person 2 weeks ago after talking to him for several weeks on POF.


Let's break this down.
She met a guy TWO WEEKS ago AFTER TALKING WITH HIM FOR SEVERAL WEEKS ON POF

She joined POF on the 31st of December, 2008. She started this thread on Jan. 6th, 2009.
That would be 7 days after she joined.

Several Weeks of talking on POF + A Meeting Two Weeks after that = how many days ?
Let's say 36 days. Is 36 greater than 7 ?
If so, Several Weeks + Two Weeks + This Thread = Troll.
 esad
Joined: 4/8/2007
Msg: 15 (view)
 
After how many dates should one bring up the topic of anal sex?
Posted: 1/7/2009 3:21:27 AM

that will go nowhere in the end.


Sad isn't it OP? How many dates do we all have that just don't go THERE.

 esad
Joined: 4/8/2007
Msg: 20 (view)
 
Old Fashion Dating
Posted: 1/6/2009 11:21:29 PM

and I feel it is God choice if it becomes more


Can't get any more "Old Fashion" than that, can you ?
Look around the Garden of Eden OP. I am sure there is
a guy there somewhere. But stay away from the serpents
and their fruit stands this time, OK ?

OP YOU get to choose who and how you date, just like
everyone else, including men. You are not happy becasue
you haven't found someone. If you were Male this would be
a "Nice Guy Thread". Have patience.
 esad
Joined: 4/8/2007
Msg: 4 (view)
 
DO YOU THINK MUSIC,MOVIES AND TELIVISIONS ARE REASON RELATIONSHIPS GO WRONG?
Posted: 1/6/2009 11:11:37 PM

STOP LETTING HOLLYWOOD AND MUSIC VIDEOS DICTATE YOUR LOVE LIFE

OP....slow down. Before you pick on Hollywood, don’t forget a few other factors.
Of course it is someones fault. It is ALWAYS someones fault. But make sure you
gripe about the right person/group. Here are a few you may have missed:

1) The Internet! Those damn porn sites, personal contact sites, Date sites, are all
destroying our Dating Life!
2) Loss of Family Valuses : If only folks would go to Church like they used to they would be happy
just like they used to be
3) The Womens Movement: They want to be just like men ! They are destroying our Happy
Marriages! They want a Penis, but not in a good way.
4) The Fashion Industry: What is wrong with a woman cooking in a simple dress and pearls
like Donna Reed used to do ? What happened to dresses that fell to cover an ankle?
Is there something wrong with a Burka?
5) Big Oil : If we all settled down we would date less. If we dated less we would drive less !
6) Satellite Radio: They want us to have soooo many choices ! How can we hope to choose a Mate
when we can not decide what to listen to ?
7) Liberals: Those damn pointy-headed folks think women should be able to have a choice in who
they are with. Fathers should arrange marriages based on a Dowery.
8) Conservatives: They put Sarah Palin on the ticket! How can guys be happy with The Girl Next
Door when they have that to look at on TV ? Isn’t shooting stuff hot ?
9) Homosexuality: “ I kissed a girl and i liked it” was a hit! Now women get to choose
among both men and women suitors ? That will just make their simple little heads hurt.
10) Ourselves: Oh, wait .....that won’t do. If we don’t scape-goat others, we have to accept
responsibility for our own lives. That won’t be any fun.

 esad
Joined: 4/8/2007
Msg: 20 (view)
 
Question about a call I got
Posted: 1/6/2009 10:35:53 PM

Last Thanksgiving break, I got a phone call from the wife of a very good friend of mine, one whom I would never betray. While her husband was away, his wife called me up and asked me if I wanted to meet her downtown for drinks.


OH MY GOD ! That Harlot ! A drink ? In a public place ?
Was she breathing heavy on the call ? Did she ask you what you
were wearing ? Did she suggest Yellow Spandex ?
How long has she lusted after you ? At BBQs at her home,
does she always serve you the biggest sausage?


OP, none of us have a clue. All we can do is deal with the few details
you choose to give us. I am amused that you suspect there was some
deep meaning to her request. I wonder if you are the one who has
sex on their mind, but i would never accuse you of that here.
That would be jumping to a conclusion with insufficient data
and we never do that sort of thing on POF, right OP ??

By the way OP, what are you doing after you sign off here ?
 esad
Joined: 4/8/2007
Msg: 25 (view)
 
Still online?
Posted: 1/6/2009 9:26:51 PM
I am confused :

sj1081
Joined: 12/31/2008
Msg: 1
Still online?
Posted: 1/6/2009 10:37:21 AM
First of all, I'm new to online dating so please be patient with me!
I met a guy in person 2 weeks ago after talking to him for several weeks on POF.


What's wrong with this picture ?

EDIT to below ( HI FFS!) : OK , but what about the "several weeks on POF" part ?
Those damn Time Warps make my head hurt!
 esad
Joined: 4/8/2007
Msg: 18 (view)
 
Reconstruction of male organs
Posted: 1/5/2009 5:05:57 AM

Well esad, hate to bust your bubble, but the surgery is available.


Burst away ! Please.
Care to supply us all with a web site with more info ?
How about a name for the procedure that could be googled ?
( I doubt if they went for the old stand-by Addadicktome)
I started doing research on the topic due to other threads here.
I also went through the BS of asking a client, who is an MD,
about this and had to go through the "Honest Doc! It's not for
me OR a "friend". I am asking because of an on-line discussion "
For some strange reason, i don't think she believed me .
I am aware of experimental procedures that have all been
"less than satisfactory", and often result in complete lack of function,
but you know 4 guys (!) who have had it done, tell us about it.

So if there is something out there that my MD friend didn't know about
OR that i could not find on the Web, i would like to know.
The Cleveland Clinic just did a Face Transplant late last year
New things happen all the time in Medicine.
Help out your fellow POF members* get to the front of that line .

Your second post claimed:


I guess the main reason I ask this, is that it seems perfectly normal for a woman to be willing to change, enhance, enlarge, lift, tuck, or whatever for "their" SO. But very few men would be willing to do it for them. Why is that?

This implies that you are asking your questions as if the procedure was something
that guys were not “willing to do”. This sort of excludes things that were designed or
developed and only used for burn victims, Transsexual, owners of a Micropenis
(a medical term, not my idea) correction of retractile a penis or a buried Penis,
etc etc, yes ?.
If the procedure is not readily available for John Q Public, simply
because their "loved one" asked them to do it, the answer to your question
is simply because they can not. As the Magic 8 Ball would say, "Ask Later When
More Information is Available"

Try this site if you think i am full of shlt.
http://www.mayoclinic.com/health/penis/MC00026
But again, if you have some new information, i would love to hear it.

(*No pun intended)
 esad
Joined: 4/8/2007
Msg: 23 (view)
 
What do you guys think about this movie Religulous?
Posted: 1/5/2009 12:54:43 AM

I'm not saying that religious beliefs and practices aroung the world are perfect, but when you consider that so many people across the entire world derive peace, hope, and strength from their spiritual beliefs, why mock that? In the very least, do you think its disrespectful to those represented in the movie?


And let's not forget about the millions who have been killed "across the entire world" throughout history because their neighbor decided that their "spiritual beliefs" demanded it.

The movie calls into question the hypocrisy of some who claim to hold "spiritual beliefs".
I would think that those who are Religious would welcome someone shining a light
on those type of folks. ANY belief system that insists it can not be questioned or
criticized or simply examined by outsiders makes me wonder what is being hidden,
"At the very least".
 esad
Joined: 4/8/2007
Msg: 21 (view)
 
One difficult situation.
Posted: 1/5/2009 12:19:25 AM
No.

Messages this short may not be posted


Umm....ok...
Hell No !
 esad
Joined: 4/8/2007
Msg: 12 (view)
 
Reconstruction of male organs
Posted: 1/4/2009 11:44:36 PM
If the love of your life walked up to you and said " I love you, but if your penis was three inches longer, I would enjoy sex with you more." Would you look into having a penile implant? Would you even consider it?


Ahhhhhh Bullshlt!
1) It would not require anyones "love of their life". If such a surgery/ method existed, men
would be lining up for it. I do not care how big guys may be, there are those
who could not stand the idea that there was someone bigger.
"I know Doc. It is hard tucking it into my shoes now, but i understand there
are guys wrapping it around their thighs with holsters! Can't you make it just
a little larger ? I am only asking for three more feet!'
This post will be a great chance for men to write " Not Me! I am happy
with my 27 inches!", but they were going to be doing that before my post, yes ?

2) The surgery does NOT exist. There are those that take body fat to add girth,
and some hysterically funny "herbal" concoctions that advertise on late night
TV. One has some pretty horrible results. (the fat can slip, pool, or rot).
The other is only for the gullible. ( Sorry "Smiling Bob"!)

Think of the problems Viagra caused to the Insurance Companies. What
kind of Hell would guys lining up to get their penis "let out" for "medical
reasons", of course, cause? Have you read ANYTHING about this ? Don't you
suspect it might be mentioned in the news if it did exist ? We might have a
whole new meaning to the phrase "Million Man March" as guys headed to
distant Medical Clinics. ( can't go to someplace local and have folks
find out they were not "Natural"." Yeah Baby! I was born 38 inches!" )

Oh well.... the rest of this thread should be amusing. Penis Size threads always are.
 esad
Joined: 4/8/2007
Msg: 6 (view)
 
No Sex on the First Date-Dealbreaker?
Posted: 1/4/2009 11:19:34 PM

I make it VERY clear in both my POF profile and when meeting a guy from outside that I don't have sex with a guy in the beginning and they STILL try!!!
WTF IS UP WITH THAT?!?!?! I don't get it.


Have you read many profiles here where a woman states:
" I like to have sex on a First Date and/or "in the beginning"!" ?
If so, i have missed them. (could you email them to me...please?*)

There are some men, no... MANY men, who will always "try".
Why not ? What is the worse thing that can happen ? The woman
says "no", which puts them in the same place that they were in before
they "tried". And, here is the News Flash, some women, despite their claims
otherwise, will give in.
Yes, i know, these guys might risk never seeing certain women again
if they push sex. Do you suspect some of the men simply don't care?
If all a guy wants is sex, and i understand there might be a few guys out
there like this ( SHOCK!), then this pattern is going to keep on happening.
Good Luck OP, and in 51 more posts, this thread will disappear from your
History and you'll have to start it all over again.....but it still won't make a difference.

* I was just kidding. Please, don't send me email.
 esad
Joined: 4/8/2007
Msg: 31 (view)
 
IS THIS NORMAL FOR MEN?
Posted: 1/4/2009 11:01:11 PM
HE WOULD PLAY WITH HIS NIPPLES NOT MINE


All i could think of as i read this was that old line many of us were
told as children when we refused to eat our Vegetables:
" There are children starving in ( insert a Third World Country here) who
would love to eat those Vegetables! ! ! "
So OP, next time you are in bed with your friend, simply tell him :
" There are sex starved Men on POF who would LOVE to play with these Nipples of mine!"

If that doesn't work, buy some clothes pins and a pair of handcuffs.
 
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