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FullLifeWithKids

Joined: 4/10/2007

Msg: 57 (view)

Getting Over Girlfriends Past Posted: 9/26/2008 9:15:17 AM
I like your answer.

FullLifeWithKids

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* dont plan to change for no man on here * Posted: 9/10/2008 5:52:10 AM
I'd venture to say that more men try to change women than the other way around. It is just that men whine more. It is just expected of us to change, where if we try to change you we are evil controling Bthes.

FullLifeWithKids

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Why is animal euthenasia ok, but human isn't? Posted: 9/9/2008 11:27:49 PM
We like animals. Too much of how we look at bad things is about blaming the victim. Cause if it is their fault we are safe in our own world. If the victim is allowed to suffer, it is penance for their sin, crime, weakness whatever we find fault with. We do not feel the need to do this with animals. So an animal we kindly put out of its misery.

FullLifeWithKids

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Date thought I was taking advantage of him by asking him to get me a pack of gum Posted: 8/9/2008 9:18:13 PM
Don't fret. Just be thankfull you are not pursuing him. If you had offered money he woulda been offended too. I have offended many guys by paying my own way. It is just them. Cj

FullLifeWithKids

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Crossdressing; tell up front, or wait? Another bad experience. Posted: 8/6/2008 8:44:26 PM
Tell it up front but casual. Unfortunately I was too trusting with my ex when he told me. Statistically cross dressers are non violent, heterosexual and overall ok people. He was the exception. He made choices that hurt me, and more importantly my son. I got away and moved on. Now I am afraid I am gun shy. If someone is very open I would be more comfortable, but if it came out as a bomb, I would be looking for the other shoe to drop. You need to practice being comfortable talking about it, and the more comfortable you are the more comfortable your date will be. You might try to break the Ice about it with a movie. Mrs. Doubtfire, Tootsie etc... I admit it took me several years to be able to watch Mrs. Doubtfire, but when I finally did I enjoyed it. Good luck to you. Cj

FullLifeWithKids

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CAN WOMEN BE HAPPY WITH SOME ONE THATS GONE Posted: 6/29/2008 6:34:03 PM
Depends, Some more independant women would prefer it. To have the plusses of a relationship, without the day to day drama. But if you are looking for a needy clingy girlfriend it would never work out.

FullLifeWithKids

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What is Going On These days With MEN??? Posted: 6/13/2008 5:49:02 AM
You don't have much experience then. I have been ordered to wear a short skirt, be ready for sex, bring the dinner and this was on the first date. Yes he is still waiting for me to show. But some men want an unpaid prostitute to show up and perform.

FullLifeWithKids

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If you're independant, why R U here? Posted: 6/10/2008 6:14:30 PM
So would you be comefortable with someone taking over your life telling you what to do, say or wear. Being independant is a way of saying you are a grown up and have your own life. Too many men want little girls to dominate, or control. By putting independant in the profile is a way of trying to let them know to move on.

FullLifeWithKids

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Did Sex and the City ruin dating? Posted: 5/25/2008 11:12:53 PM
So did Baywatch give men their unrealistic fantasy's about women? Or was it another show that taught them to look for sexually talented virgins? As well as tiny women with big boobs.

FullLifeWithKids

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90 day and counting..... Posted: 5/8/2008 9:20:09 PM
I am a welfare case worker so I use the same 30 day rule. The person has 30 days to submit verifications for ongoing eligiblity. They can sometimes meet the criteria for benefits in this time. But I find that the 30 days is generally my limit. I give people the opportunity to be themselves during this time with relatively supended judgement.

FullLifeWithKids

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would you date someone that has abandoned their kids? Posted: 5/1/2008 6:08:45 AM
I agree. It is one thing when parents share joint custody and are still in their lives. But when a man talks about his kids being with their mom. In another state and he doesn't "get" to see them. I walk away. Cause I would move to where the were and continue the relationship. But then I am lucky enough to have both my kids with me full time. I don't get support from the absent parents, financial or otherwise. But I have the better end of the deal. The children. THats my other pet peeve, is people complaining about the child support. THey are your kids support them with or without the help of the other parent.

FullLifeWithKids

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Does accepting an expensive dinner from a man obligates a woman to have sex with him? Posted: 4/13/2008 2:24:34 PM
I got a better one than that. I was supposed to meet him at work, bring dinner, wear sexy clothes and put out. He is still waiting for me to show I guess. Having no clue why I stood him up...

FullLifeWithKids

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Dating multiple women (women please reply) Posted: 4/7/2008 6:54:50 PM
Great, so many guys try to say they want instant commitment. And then want it just from you. Or just do the Cling on thing. A commitment needs to be an agreed upon thing not assumed. As long as you are not lying to get laid, Ie the "I Love You" thing. What you are talking about is on the right track.

FullLifeWithKids

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why to date a geek? Posted: 4/2/2008 8:35:10 PM
And number 1 Geeks are not afraid of smart women. The tv show should not be beauty and the geek, but rather inteligent women (Who can also be geeks) and normal man/stud muffin/player. But no one would believe it...

FullLifeWithKids

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Agoraphobia Posted: 3/28/2008 6:30:31 PM
Work on your issues is always a good sugestion. But for the meeting try to find a quiet comfortable place for your to meet. I am sure there are support groups for Agoraphobics as well that would have sugestions for good places where you live.

FullLifeWithKids

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A woman who has sent polite rejection notes. Posted: 3/24/2008 6:21:33 AM
That is it. Cause some guys get downright rude if you say you are not, or are no longer interested. I used to think my friend was mean just to stop writing and not tell them why. But now depending on the reason I have learned to do the same. And guys do it too.

FullLifeWithKids

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Energy costs rising --> people will have to partner up more for efficiency sake...agree or disagree? Posted: 3/23/2008 4:43:22 PM
I asked ford to make men years ago, so they came with warantees. But I guess they could not do it.

FullLifeWithKids

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Is it justified.. Posted: 3/16/2008 11:08:56 AM
No, You either like the person or don't. Expecting him or her to change is setting yourself up for failure. You will be mad at them for not living up to your ideal. And they will be mad at you for trying to change them.

FullLifeWithKids

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Expain the phrase My children are my top priority? Posted: 2/8/2008 6:11:00 PM
We put it in the profile so the person is not suprised. I was told by a man if I did not learn to let the loved ones in my life come in second I should get bateries. And I took his advise.

FullLifeWithKids

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Dont give in to the sex girls Posted: 1/13/2008 7:32:59 AM
I liked what you said. I appoligize for the responses you got...

FullLifeWithKids

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Do you think there should be laws against people who trick you into sexual encounters! Posted: 1/4/2008 8:51:51 AM
You beleived what you wanted to believe. Love is an action over time. Flowery word are usually lies... Get used to it. If your chastity means that much. Keap them closed untill after that walk down the isle. I know that is an old fashioned concept. But if having good sex because you were lied to bothers you you might try it. Other than that go with my philosophy was it good while it lasted?

FullLifeWithKids

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Divorced people stating they are 'widowed'because their ex spouse has died, Posted: 1/3/2008 5:31:05 PM
If my ex were to die I would feel the sadness. I can not take that from someone. I might not call myself a widow, but I could see how someome could. As long as you did not help the person in their passing to the next life (compasionate assistance not being the case) I would not have a problem if someone who still loved their ex but the mariage did not work calling themselves a widow.

FullLifeWithKids

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lie about baby Posted: 11/24/2007 11:18:36 AM
If she let you sign Birth certificate and put your name on it. The child is legally yours, it has been too long for her to change her mind. Birth certificates now require declaration of paternity for the dad to go on the certificate. Contact Fathers for Equal rights, they are much cheaper and more honest than an attorney. And they know what they are doing. They helped me a lot, they are a group of guys that have been there done that with about anything you can be going through and that helps. An attorney will be after your money, and tell you nothing can be done. And yes I am a women, the group does not discriminate. Look them up online and see how close you are to a group. They would be worth a drive

FullLifeWithKids

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Boyfriends in prison Posted: 11/22/2007 8:35:41 PM
Would you wait with the same loyalty to a boy serving his country instead of serving time. He chose the activity that took him away from you. I would take that as a choice to be away from you and move on...

FullLifeWithKids

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How to deal with an unreliable woman? Posted: 11/22/2007 8:30:17 PM
Ok, You are not ready to date seriously. And she is just a child. You need to look at girls your own age, cause she is doing exactly what she should at 19. Having fun and with an active social life. If you want to pursue it treat her like a butterfly. Enjoy the time you have with her, but hold her palm open. If you are where she is meant to be she will stay. If not enjoy the time you have with her.

FullLifeWithKids

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He is friends with many of the women he has had sex with. I don't get it. Posted: 11/22/2007 10:14:30 AM
Ok Two points 1.He can have sex and the women feels good enough about it to still like him. 2. He is able to carry a conversation and continue a friendship with someone that he liked well enough to go to bed with. Would you prefer he hate every women he slept with and in turn will hate you? Is that what you would want? I have had both types of men and beleive me the ones who are friends afterwards are much better. And the ones who tell you they hate the ex lovers are just as likely to be caught in your bed with one of them... Judge a man by 2 things 1. How he treats his mother, and 2. How he treats the ex's. Cause if he hates them both. You will be just another women for him to tell the next girl he hates.

FullLifeWithKids

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What's the longest online relationship you've had? Posted: 11/18/2007 6:58:38 AM
10 years. But then he was my ol truck. Damn I miss him. He was strong and dependable. Always there when I needed him. We went every where together. I wish I could find another love like that.

FullLifeWithKids

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why is every women I meet married Posted: 11/16/2007 5:55:25 PM
Well, let me guess, You picked them up in a bar, just like their husbands did. Ever try a library, bookstore, museaum..? When I was in the military the guys kept going for the party girls then were surprised when they played around. Me I was the quiet one, who did not chase, run around or be out all night drinking. I was there to serve my country and do my job. Amazingly the guys who were complaining just like you would not give me the time of day. Maybe you should change how you are looking, and maybe keep your eye out for the quiet ones. Who just might want to have a good time, but won't run around on you if a relationship is on the table. As far as this being a new thing, remember the sayings from world war one. I can't repeat it on here. But it had something to do with counting the number of children and the years you have been gone. Infidelity is not a new invention, nor one that only women play.

FullLifeWithKids

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how do I get a woman to get past me not having a drivers liscence? Posted: 11/15/2007 8:41:06 PM
Take your time. While the car thing would not bother me so much. The dui would be an issue. A lot is in the way you bring it up. We all have our past, but women generally want someone stable who will be there. Take blame for your past don't blame others, and credit for how far you have come. Do you participate in AA. Maybe other members would have suggestions. And yes if there is not one but 2 dui's AA or NA wichever the case may be is a good Idea.

FullLifeWithKids

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Middle School to offer Birth Control to 11 Year Olds Posted: 10/21/2007 12:25:33 PM
I say all children of procreation age should be given birth control to be removed upon demonstration of 1. desire to have it removed, 2. established period of self sufficiency. And I do not meen mariage or welfare. I meen working. Yes this is boys and girls. I work at the welfare office and see the generational thing. Many young girls see pregnancy as an option to support themselves by receiving aid. I have both a son and a daughter and am equally concerned about them having one or two mistakes alter their lives forever. They use the term indescretion of youth for a reason... Hell Bush was older than me when he had his indescretion behind the wheel of a car.

FullLifeWithKids

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Pets in Bed Posted: 10/16/2007 5:25:10 AM
I agree with the package deal. Relationships come and go. But a canine is forever. But then I live in a zoo with pets dogs, cats, squirel, horses and goat. So if someone wants me they would know where they stand. Maybe when I was younger it would have been different. But I have been single for 9 years and am set in my ways. Yes there are times when who ever warms my feet changes and times that the bed is too full in winter and I want more room. But I could not imagine life without them. They are like the children. Only they do not talk back as much.

FullLifeWithKids

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Now that I am on my own (re: monogamy) Posted: 10/12/2007 6:28:41 AM
From what I see it is common of married folk. Where I work I have been single for nine years. And I do not get out as often as the maried women. I am like why are you maried? But who am I to say, maybe that is how they manage to stay maried. I like my own time too much that I could not imagine sharing it with more than one person.

FullLifeWithKids

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Why is this illegal? In relation to Sen. Craig. Posted: 9/9/2007 7:27:02 AM
I get the sense that you like having sex in restrooms. Personally that would not be a turn on, but if that is your pleasure. Do it in your own home or hotel. I do not want to hear it or have a child come in and be exposed to it. I aggree with his punishment. Its not like we (as a society) put him to death or flogged him. Or any other severe punishment. And if he did nothing wrong. Why plead guilty?

FullLifeWithKids

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What's wrong with women these days? Posted: 8/14/2007 7:44:54 PM
Well, From experience, "Hi I liked your writing, and want to know more about you", is just that. It is not a declaration of undying love. And I love you on third chat or sooner says three things, 1. You are a G D Lier. 2. You think it will get you in the girls panties, 3. You are currently or should be in a controled environment due to mental health issues. Just the point of veiw of a woman who drops men when they use L word when chatting.

FullLifeWithKids

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Your suggestions please Posted: 7/29/2007 5:37:58 PM
Try fathers for equal rights. They can help with custody. Try to separate her leaving you from the kids, they are separate issues. Yes she left you as a parent all I can say is. Get over it. Be the better man and be what your kids need one of two parents who love and care for them. Your anger does not help the kids. And it is up to you to make any transistions as easy for them as possible. Even if she gets custody, smile hug your kids and make it clear you love them.

FullLifeWithKids

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US justice system, it's out of control... Posted: 7/25/2007 6:41:26 PM
I agree, That is why my daughter is in Karate. If those boys touched her and could walk into court I would paddle her behind. I like the Iraquis system a girl is issued a stileto on her 13 bd to take care of problems, and there is Zero repeat offences. But poor little boys complain when girls take care of problems like this these days, so the legal system is the option left to us.

FullLifeWithKids

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Were they maried? Posted: 7/22/2007 7:47:09 PM
Sorry as a woman I see nothing wrong with having plenty of condoms. If we don't have them, the guy thinks that is an excuse not to use them. Unless he can say that he has only been with one woman in his life, he has no right to judge. I had a date that constantly talked about loose women and morality etc. I finally got fed up enough that I pointed to the bar where I said, "I will pick up my entertainment for the night, I would not want to corrupt your morality." If looks could kill. Truthfully I went home alone, but I am sure in his mind I had lots of mind blowing sex. I say if a man is like that let him be, hand held devices are much safer.

FullLifeWithKids

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since when does no reply equal racist? Posted: 7/20/2007 7:29:38 AM
Me like, That sounds like something I would say. I know in the military that line was used when a woman refused to date a black guy. Me i would say I am an equal oportuninty B and leave it at that.

FullLifeWithKids

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i can believe everyone has been ditching me because i don't have a picture .... Posted: 7/4/2007 8:32:39 AM
Well it may not be looks. I always wonder if there is no pic is this a maried guy who does not want anyone to recognize him and tell his wife. After one of the men on this site met both me and a friend from work. And had the balls to lie when we were at the bar together and both talked to him on the cell phone. Might I add he did not have the ovum to come in and meet us both in person. Neither of us wanted a LTR just say hey and have a beer. I also think he has a wife as well. Just another perspective.

FullLifeWithKids

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WTF is up with women using being safeonline as an excuse to play games? Posted: 7/4/2007 7:42:11 AM
I I can tell from your use of profanity BS and wtf. I would not feel safe meeting you. Angry cause some wont meet you on your timetable indicates trouble. I know from this site that too many men exchange 2 emails say they want a good and faithfull lady then want to jump in the sack or use words like love. Sorry anyone jumping so quickly has something to hide. Yes men are at a dis advantage online cause we can look back at past emails and cat them in a lie much easier than trying to remember everything said in person. My sugestion take your time, get to know the girl online, be truthful, stop the profanity, use a different picture the eyes on this one look wrong for some reason. Then let her take the lead. You will get an invite to meet much sooner.

FullLifeWithKids

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Murphree TX exonerated every guy caught by CATCH A PREDATOR Posted: 7/1/2007 9:41:06 PM
Well I have yet to see bush catch anyone. On tape or not.

FullLifeWithKids

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Murphree TX exonerated every guy caught by CATCH A PREDATOR Posted: 7/1/2007 9:39:50 PM
Way to go. Sorry they could not catch an "Inocent" man. and I already have 1/2 of my daughters body guards. Pitbul A is Kido, have not found B. yet but with A we may not Need B. Cause she takes care of problems on her own. How would those creeps have liked meeting up with a predator of another kind.

FullLifeWithKids

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I never thought of HER doing what she did Posted: 6/23/2007 3:30:17 PM
if you were the 50ish "Ugly Man" would you think the same of her. Why does a woman need to check her sex life in with you.

FullLifeWithKids

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At what age do you draw the line? Posted: 4/16/2007 9:11:44 PM
10 years each way makes it simple. Much more than that and there are too many differences and it can cause problems.

FullLifeWithKids

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Men with tattoo's Posted: 4/15/2007 6:51:06 PM
Ditto. Some men can carry tatoos, but kinda like bicicle shorts, very few. One or two that mean something is wonderful. But sleaved for the hell of it, un cool.

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