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bluedew

Joined: 4/10/2007

Msg: 25 (view)

~ Signs of abuse! ~ Posted: 9/7/2007 5:11:37 AM
Been down that road and telling someone to just up and leave, not always so simple. Some abusers won't let the spouse just up and leave so easily, they get stalked, peace bonds, nothing but paper and getting one not always so easy. You have to have witnesses and calls into the police. My ex threatened to shoot me and my daughter, 6 mths later he applies for a gun licence and got one, this after the police were called twice to the apt. for his violent behaviour by the neighbours. Did they do anyhting, no, had me leave the apt. so he could sleep off his drunk. I reported the licence request tho and he was finally arrested, but I was told I didn't have to appear in court and he got off with a warning. I had moved away but he wouldn't leave me alone at work and the boss couldn't do anyhting about it because I work in a public place. Abusive situations are easy to get away from when there are no children, but once kids are involved, try getting a sitter for 3am and is willing to work shifts. You better have an understanding boss to help you get through it or be able to find another job if you have one. Finding a place to go can be tricky if you have no family or job. I've known somewomen who have to be in hiding, can't have a phone and mail goes to a post box in another town. Everyday they live in fear of being found. I've met some abusers, they come across as really nice guys to everyone else, but behind closed doors comes a closed fist. They tell all their friends how much they love their significant other, they would do anything for them, but add liquer and hide a camera in the home. See how they treat their spouse then when no one is looking. The abused comes off looking like it must have been their fault because all the abusers friends won't believe such a nice person could be that way. How many times have you read in the paper what nice people the neighbours were after they've been found dead?

bluedew

Joined: 4/10/2007

Msg: 26 (view)

Advice please on installing laminate floors Posted: 9/5/2007 10:36:04 AM
Took bits and pieces of everyones advice. Stipped all the old parquette off to see what the foundation was like. Good base floors, some were concrete. Good thing I did that, different type of underpadding required for concrete base. Got all the good underpadding, made sure all nails were pounded down and no loose floor boards. Used the nails as suggetested as guide lines, borrowed a good mitre saw and now my floors look great. They are so nice they look like real hardwood. Thank-you everyone for your help and advice!

bluedew

Joined: 4/10/2007

Msg: 21 (view)

People and their choices in paint colours Posted: 8/5/2007 5:01:39 AM
Painting, isn't it fun? Filling in 32 little tack holes around one window and then a whole bunch more in the ceiling. The worst place I moved into, every room a different colour of something light, remove the boarder paper to fine another colour of something dark. I love blue, find it very soothing for a bedroom, and all white trim. I lucked out in my new place, all the colours are soft and cover over easily. My present place when I moved in all the rooms were a different shade of purple, not a nice shade, all grey undertones. I found it depressing and dark. Even the kitchen was purple. The hall was a flat moss green, made the whole place dark.

bluedew

Joined: 4/10/2007

Msg: 19 (view)

Advice please on installing laminate floors Posted: 8/5/2007 4:46:40 AM
Thanks for the tip on the blade. All the parquette has been removed, baseboards gone, I'll see about getting that blade today, thanks for that tip. All rooms will be painted today and floors will be done tomorrow. I got the do it yourself kit and I think your right about those shims, awful short, so tacking the finishing nails down first looks like a good idea, should make the job go faster. I had someone who offered to help me with the putting down of the floors, but that never happenned. Another frind of mine came through, hence between my daughter and my friend, the parquette is gone. At this point I'm ready to swallow my pride and take any offer of help and assistance. I need a new roof as well, so I've been working all the o/t I can get to hire a contractor for that job. IIf painting gets done quickly I may attempt doing the floors late today. Updates as I get er done.

bluedew

Joined: 4/10/2007

Msg: 47 (view)

Prisoner in one's own home Posted: 7/26/2007 10:52:43 PM
The lady asked for advice, not to be attacked, what a bunch! Have a network in place where you call each other at a set time in the day and if it would make you feel better ask a firend if either they can come stay with you or if you can stay with them. Get motion sensor lights if possible and here's a good trick, tape dogs barking. Anyone comes close to the house turn on the tape or disc. This should scare off a person. Get a cell phone, pay as you go if you can, and have 911 on speed dial. Keep it with you at all times.

bluedew

Joined: 4/10/2007

Msg: 13 (view)

Advice please on installing laminate floors Posted: 7/26/2007 10:41:49 PM
All advice greatly appreciated and I'll let you know how it goes. My project starts next weekend and I'll let you know how it turns out, wish me luck, thanks about the doorjambs, totoally forgot about those headaches. Just the one room that the parquette is lifting, the other looks good. Going to an internet site to look, you come here and find it, I'm not that savvy when it comes to surffing the net. The advice is appreciated, but my patience is not that good at the moment when it comes to figuring out that. I undersatnd it does come with instructions which I plan to read, but advice from people who have done it, much better for quik tips. I still haven't won the lottery, so, Mike Holmes is out, darn. Strawberry daquiries and observing would be a nice idea, I'll save the drinks for when I'm done. My boss forgets I do like to come home once in awhile and he keeps me at work much longer I might as well forget the floors , buy a trailer and park it at work, hence my being a little cranky, lack of sleep.

bluedew

Joined: 4/10/2007

Msg: 5 (view)

Advice please on installing laminate floors Posted: 7/22/2007 7:26:37 AM
I have a good drill,no intention of using a hand saw. I wants my cuts to be nice and clean. Buying the right saw for a majority of wood projects is really what I need. There's 700sq ft of floor to do, by the time it's done, it'll be cheaper to own a saw rather than rent one. We know what I'll be doing over the next few weekends. Yes, I know to grab a few extra bundles just in case. Just looking for quik tips to help me along, which so far are greatfully appreciated.

bluedew

Joined: 4/10/2007

Msg: 3 (view)

Advice please on installing laminate floors Posted: 7/22/2007 6:46:13 AM
Thank-you very much, great advice on the finishing nails, I would have never thought of that!

bluedew

Joined: 4/10/2007

Msg: 2 (view)

Your Word Posted: 7/22/2007 6:11:32 AM
I think at some point we're all guilty of this. Good intentions, but family, work and other obligations can get in the way at times. On the other hand giving someone a time and place and not showing knowing you have no intentions of doing so, that is just plain wrong. Being true to myself, going to the gym, I was, but kinda hard when putting in 40 hrs of o/t a week. When things slow down I'll get back on track again. Why at this time, no promises, staff shortages at work, well, home needs to be taken care of first and right now, only one day a week to do that.

bluedew

Joined: 4/10/2007

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Advice please on installing laminate floors Posted: 7/22/2007 6:02:22 AM
My problem, parquette floors now exists, most of the rooms the parquette is fine, but in one room the parquette is lifted and falling apart. My question is - do I have to remove all the parquette from that room or can someone tell me how to fill in the gaps. My next question, dremmel has a hand saw, is this good enough to cut the laminate or what better saw should I use to cut the flooring with. Any other advice to install the floors would be greatfully appreciated. other than hire a contractor unless your offering to pay the workers. Thank-you!

bluedew

Joined: 4/10/2007

Msg: 135 (view)

Graduate to Summer Bash Oshawa LeSkratch June 23, 2007 man what a blast Posted: 6/24/2007 3:32:34 AM
I missed the party due to being over worked. See you all at breakfast.

bluedew

Joined: 4/10/2007

Msg: 48 (view)

Alternative physical activities Posted: 6/21/2007 3:25:44 PM
Alternative exercise, ok, works for me... Swimming, stretching out in the park, camping, late night walks on the beach....

bluedew

Joined: 4/10/2007

Msg: 6 (view)

Police pull off another big one Posted: 6/19/2007 12:08:04 AM
Thank-you to all those involved, what I like to refer to as the gaurdian angels of the net!

bluedew

Joined: 4/10/2007

Msg: 2 (view)

Flirting in your Relationship Posted: 6/19/2007 12:05:51 AM
Out of all fairness to the ladies, he should make it clear he's married. People like to joke around and I wouldn't take it seriously. He should tone it down tho if the ladies are getting mixed signals. I joke around but made it very clear I do not date my co-workers or married men.

bluedew

Joined: 4/10/2007

Msg: 180 (view)

Why dont women like long haired guys.....or are there any?? Posted: 6/17/2007 5:24:09 AM
Talk about sterotyping, so does that make all bald guys white supremists? I like long hair on men as long as it's clean and well taken care of. I wonder if it's the era in which we are brought up in? Long hair on men use to be the norm. Powdered wigs in court on the judge and the lawyers are the first thing that comes to mind.

bluedew

Joined: 4/10/2007

Msg: 2 (view)

Happy Father's Day Posted: 6/17/2007 5:18:10 AM
Happy Fathers Day to all POF Dads! Hope your day is wonderful, relaxing and joyous!

bluedew

Joined: 4/10/2007

Msg: 8 (view)

~ Hooking up friends! ~ Posted: 6/17/2007 3:55:16 AM
Leanne, forward your g/f's profile to him and his to theirs and see if they can hook up on their own. Ask and get permission first tho. Just tell your lady friends you know him, he seems very nice and would they be interested. This way your not going to be blamed if something doesn't work out.

bluedew

Joined: 4/10/2007

Msg: 53 (view)

What behaviors are you looking for on a date at this point? Posted: 6/17/2007 3:40:22 AM
I still wear long skirts and dresses, I like them, cool in the summer and warm in the winter. I dated someone who took no consideration, a hot day, runs into the store grabs himself a cold drink and doesn't even ask if I would care for something. Ok then. Went to meet his friends for an outing, introduced me and dissappeared. Good thing I'm friendly. I like to be treated with common cortesy and respect. I do the same, and if I just start dating someone who can't be that way right off how are they going to treat me as the relationship continues?

bluedew

Joined: 4/10/2007

Msg: 258 (view)

POF Summer BBQ's for All to Enjoy July 14th Posted: 6/17/2007 3:12:26 AM
I'll check to see what your missing and bring that along. Was a short visit last time, not this time.

bluedew

Joined: 4/10/2007

Msg: 170 (view)

Ladies....would you wear a t-shirt, flip-flops, and shorts 1st time meeting someone? Posted: 6/13/2007 2:19:16 PM
Only if we meet at camping parties.

bluedew

Joined: 4/10/2007

Msg: 69 (view)

women always marking their territory. What the hell is that about? Posted: 6/13/2007 2:18:06 PM
I'ma regular visitor, you don't have a spare toothbrush, they give them away at the dentist, a disposable razor and a spare housecoat, guess what, you will now. Everything else comes home with me.

bluedew

Joined: 4/10/2007

Msg: 9 (view)

~ BRAVO TO COPS!!!!!! ~ Posted: 6/13/2007 1:17:42 PM
I'm glad something is being done. Unfortunelty the people are so afarid they won't speak up. The witnesses need protecting from telling on these gangs. Sticter gun laws are'nt going to solve the problem. We need stricter punishment. Jail should be jail, not TV, pizza, steak, work out areas. Options should be schooling, re-hab programs and work. They should farm their own food and livestock, never mind luxeries, make them earn their own way. They break the law they should work for the privelage of being behind bars, earn their keep.

bluedew

Joined: 4/10/2007

Msg: 18 (view)

~ Rippin' Sod! ~ Posted: 6/12/2007 3:13:54 PM
Ice wine, Leanne?? Need some help with that project? Joking, been there done that and make sure you put plastic sheeting under your stone to keep the grass from growing back.

bluedew

Joined: 4/10/2007

Msg: 72 (view)

Graduate to Summer Bash Oshawa LeSkratch June 23, 2007 Posted: 6/12/2007 3:11:02 PM
Depends whose on the door, my experience. Can anyone tell me where to get glow sticks? LOLLL!!!!

bluedew

Joined: 4/10/2007

Msg: 30 (view)

Why do the emails suddenly stop? Posted: 6/10/2007 10:31:23 PM
The conversation just dries up, nothing more to say, gone out of town, hydro out, internet cut off, comp. quit, car accident, family trouble, health problems. There could be a thousand reasons, they have'nt ask to meet maybe they just lost interest.

bluedew

Joined: 4/10/2007

Msg: 47 (view)

What Women Want From Men Posted: 6/10/2007 11:02:21 AM
I think you got it Sherlock!

bluedew

Joined: 4/10/2007

Msg: 6 (view)

I swear this is done on purpose lol Posted: 6/10/2007 10:58:56 AM
I don't know if this is a design flaw, but there's one spot in the floor at LeScratch I trip on every time. I thought it was me, so I made a mental note of it, not me! There's a hole or a dent in the floor by the pool tables. Just that one spot.

bluedew

Joined: 4/10/2007

Msg: 66 (view)

Graduate to Summer Bash Oshawa LeSkratch June 23, 2007 Posted: 6/10/2007 7:42:37 AM
Can't wait to meet up with some of my friends.

bluedew

Joined: 4/10/2007

Msg: 76 (view)

How do you know if you have met the one? Posted: 6/10/2007 3:31:57 AM
Knowing you've met the one person, they feel the same about you. When long term goals are similar, when your lives can be meshed together, not consumed by each other.

bluedew

Joined: 4/10/2007

Msg: 21 (view)

I FOUND HIM Posted: 6/9/2007 12:10:26 PM
Congratulations and may I wish you both a lifetime of happiness. To all others who've found their haapiness, my best to you as well.

bluedew

Joined: 4/10/2007

Msg: 30 (view)

Have you ever thought how many single, lonely people there out there! Posted: 6/8/2007 5:35:03 PM
Here's a thought, the internet, thousands of people to choose from, you get an ideal person in your head, you look for the perfect picture, the perfect profile and your still looking for better. How about reading the profile, invite someone you may like to a get together, one of the parties or coffee meets, no pressure, just to meet. Go for interests instead of looks, see what comes up. Be more open minded. Mingle with people. Hook up with the one you communicate best with.

bluedew

Joined: 4/10/2007

Msg: 50 (view)

What is a bad boy... Posted: 6/8/2007 5:26:53 PM
Waht are they looking for, the look and not the type would be my guess.

bluedew

Joined: 4/10/2007

Msg: 11 (view)

Food..... Posted: 6/8/2007 5:19:51 PM
mow mow mow arent the best song lyrics, but i hear ya. Therapy ???? Omelet made with****ail shrimp and low fat cream cheese and asparagas spears. Pre chop onions and mushrooms, keep in a sealed container and use it in tuna with miracle whip or salmon with a dash of mustard and a slice of whole wheat bread.

bluedew

Joined: 4/10/2007

Msg: 30 (view)

Is chivalry dead Posted: 6/8/2007 2:19:00 PM
Being one of the abused, I can honestly say chivalry is not dead. Neither is the horse! Having had the pleasure to meet some of these men who are more than chivalrous keeps my faith in men alive. Working with men who can be abusive and having my knights in shining armour come to my aid. Knowing the difference between a real man who'll stand up for you and one who is too much a coward to do so.

bluedew

Joined: 4/10/2007

Msg: 81 (view)

Paris Hilton going to JAIL ?!?!?! Posted: 6/8/2007 1:52:09 PM
Lisa is always happy what's your point? All I can say is, about time celebs had to own up their mistakes!

bluedew

Joined: 4/10/2007

Msg: 6 (view)

Has Your Self Esteem changed since You are now Single? Posted: 6/8/2007 1:29:12 PM
Yes, it's improved. I feel like a person again. Gained back my self respect, self confidence, stop hiding under huge baggy clothes trying to hide myself. Abuse, know all about it and a big hug to all those who've been there. For those who don't know, think of trying to climb into yourself, of carrying around a load of bricks on your shoulders. No where to go, no where to hide, constant battle to try and keep the peace. Your ashamed, there's no help sometimes because of the kids. No room at the shelters, you work, but because of your hrs, no sitters available, or your on a waiting list, you can't just leave, you have to sneak away. Unless he hits you, forget the cops, even if, if there's no where to go, what's going to happen when he gets out of jail? I sleep at night, how delightful. I live without fear, bonus. Took some time, but it's ok to go visit friends, go to a party, go away for a weekend and just live in peace. Knowing it's ok to have your own opinion. Reclaiming yourself as a person, priceless!

bluedew

Joined: 4/10/2007

Msg: 74 (view)

Can you be too picky? Posted: 6/8/2007 1:13:57 PM
I'm glad I was, how else would I have found my best friend.

bluedew

Joined: 4/10/2007

Msg: 58 (view)

Why Do Guys Wear So Much Cologne? Posted: 6/3/2007 10:38:53 PM
I have someone that comes to my work that wears so much it makes my eyes water. I'm hoping one of the guys will tell him to tone it down. I made a little comment under my breath and he asked what?, I have to be polite, so I just said it's nothing. But he came back again the next day, oh my eyes, nice cologne, just way over done.

bluedew

Joined: 4/10/2007

Msg: 36 (view)

How is the rose working for us old farts? Posted: 6/3/2007 11:14:30 AM
I haven't recieved one, guess I'm not an old fart yet. LOL!!!

bluedew

Joined: 4/10/2007

Msg: 59 (view)

Are there any decent men out there??????? Posted: 6/3/2007 4:13:01 AM
There are a lot of decent men and women here, and I've had the pleasure of meeting them, have them as my friends and met someone special who is decent. I think the problem is everyone has an ideal of the perfect partner. They look at the pics, skim the profiles and they don't think outside the box. A lot of people complain about their mail being unread and deleted, maybe you should respond after reading that persons profile, send them a note, and you just might be surprised how well you can communicate with someone.

bluedew

Joined: 4/10/2007

Msg: 36 (view)

Would you give up your side of the bed? Posted: 6/3/2007 3:54:10 AM
Only if one side of the bed is not up against a wall.

bluedew

Joined: 4/10/2007

Msg: 143 (view)

Does anyone like being alone better? Can you take or leave having a relationship? Posted: 6/3/2007 3:45:59 AM
The thought of my cat using my dead body as a snack, that just creeps me out. I'll make sure I have a friends network after that thought.

bluedew

Joined: 4/10/2007

Msg: 64 (view)

You Look Fabulous......for your age (argghhhh) Posted: 6/2/2007 5:09:10 AM
I just say thank-you, take it as the compliment it is meant to be. As for the young guys, keeps my mind sharp thinking of a smart reply.

bluedew

Joined: 4/10/2007

Msg: 14 (view)

SENIORS DISCOUNT Posted: 6/2/2007 4:58:41 AM
I'm always looking at the fliers, what"s on sale this week at the grocery, have points cards to save on stuf, the trick being there, get it on sale on double points days, save to the max points and then get it free. I haven't paid for perfume in 3 yrs. You have to be wise about point collecting, this is a trick for you to buy exclusively at their store for the rewards. Discounts at 50 do not make me feel old, just another way to save money. I want to travel, like those discounts. The fun is just about to begin.

bluedew

Joined: 4/10/2007

Msg: 46 (view)

Do you women regard sex with a man as a form of commitment? Posted: 6/2/2007 4:51:35 AM
Thank-you, you said what I would like to and so much better stated.

bluedew

Joined: 4/10/2007

Msg: 48 (view)

Are there any decent men out there??????? Posted: 6/2/2007 4:31:59 AM
A decent guy, you can take him at his word, take it to the bank and it won't bounce. When he says no longer single, you agree, and he means it. He communicates with you, talks over problems, without harsh criticism, swearing, or hitting. He doesn't cheat, he calls off the relationship in a kind way, then he goes looking. He's honest.

bluedew

Joined: 4/10/2007

Msg: 33 (view)

Do you women regard sex with a man as a form of commitment? Posted: 6/1/2007 5:55:14 PM
He's trying hard here to apologize, so let's give him a break. He had his rant and by now must be feeling under attack. Back to the subject at hand, for that time I'm dating a man, yes, I would expect sex with me to be exclusive. Personally, I would be insulted if a man was having sex with someone else as well. I wouldn't insult my partner that way. Break it off first, geezz!

bluedew

Joined: 4/10/2007

Msg: 34 (view)

How can so many women be able to anaylize a man after reading a profile Posted: 6/1/2007 5:32:44 PM
cdn guy, you are so funny, the mail is going to come pouring in now.. Your not judged by what you say, but how you say it. Fire off a negative profile and your going to attract negative mail. I'm funnier than my profile and know exactly what I want, oh, I think I said that in my profile somewhere.

bluedew

Joined: 4/10/2007

Msg: 7 (view)

SENIORS DISCOUNT Posted: 6/1/2007 4:58:48 PM
Some hotels give discounts satrting at 50, yippee!! A lot of youngsters have no tact, went out with respect for your elders. We were never allowed to call adults by their firts name, it was always Mr. , Mrs. or Miss. I introduce my daughter to an adult now and it's oh, it's ok, my first name is. I like seniors discounts, but not entitled yet.

bluedew

Joined: 4/10/2007

Msg: 33 (view)

Growing Older - Stretching the truth more often? Posted: 6/1/2007 4:52:51 PM
Too much like work, you have to remember what b/s you told to who. Like these profiles that list interests, you ask, and the reply is did that many years ago, if you lost interest how can you list it as an interest now? I call that stretching the truth, by about 20 yrs.

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